#sexist stereotypes

[burningtheroots]

"Not like other girls" vs. "not all men" — patriarchal division

We all know the popular "not like other girls" (or "not like other women", respectively) trope.

I‘ve been thinking about it a lot recently and what really annoys me is that society teaches young girls and women that girlhood and womanhood are inherently "bad" and hence not being like other girls and women is "good" and "desirable".

While many people believe that it stems from the girls and women themselves, I‘d like to emphasize the impact of growing up in a deeply patriarchal, misogynistic society and system which ultimately influences the steps we take.

The world we live in is built on female oppression, exploitation, rivalry and division. By ensuring that girls and women believe in what the patriarchy teaches us, men ensure their power and authority as we‘re busy trying to "fit in" and prove that we‘re the "good girls/women". Girls and women are conditioned to look down on other girls and women and aspire to be different — to be validated by men that they‘re not this flawed image of girlhood and womanhood.

Once we have internalized these misogynistic beliefs, we start to make our lives revolve around them and also spread them further. That‘s a common technique used by oppressors — divide and conquer.

Now we have lots of girls and women who desperately want to be different from other girls and women, who want to be as close as possible to whatever gets them men‘s approval and highlights that they‘re actually good instead of "flawed" like the rest.

Girls and women are always either "too human" or "not human enough". Whether it‘s looks, interests, personality etc.. We‘re trained to make entire lifestyle choices based on other people’s men’s perception. We‘re forced to balance between idealized womanhood and demonized womanhood.

The solution we’re presented? Putting other girls and women down to "prove" ourselves.

And it‘s not like there aren’t any tools for this, in fact, the patriarchy provides them abundantly.

The beauty & diet industry strive to divide us.

Fun activities which are still "gendered" to this day strive to divide us.

The media, social platforms and advertisements strive to divide us.

Sexualization and objectification strive to divide us.

Relationships with men strive to divide us.

Even when men commit atrocities, they divide girls and women, not men.

On the contrary, men and boys are taught to be united. Not in a coddly way, perhaps, but in a way that gurantees solidarity and immunity when needed.

"Not like other boys/men!" isn‘t a thing, instead, we got "not all men!", a.k.a. "I‘m like other men and because I‘m not bad, they aren’t, either!".

Whilst men are more prone to violence and deliberately inflict emotional and physical pain on others on a much larger scale than women, boys and men aren’t taught that it‘s desirable to be different from other boys and men. Rather, they‘re taught that it‘s good, desirable and admirable.

Instead of aspiring to be different — to be better — their focus is on defending men as a whole and excusing or justifying their misbehavior, whereas we‘re told that we must hold each other accountable for the tiniest missteps, especially when they involve men.

Girls and women are taught that their existence (& humanity) in itself is flawed, undesirable and needs to be strictly regulated, judged and altered.

Boys and men are taught that their existence (& humanity) in itself is self-evident, desirable and worthwhile.

That‘s why I put female solidarity and sisterhood above all else.

That‘s why I proudly say that YES, I am like other girls and women. We aren’t a monolith, we‘re individually unique, and yet we share the experience of being female, and we‘re united in our mere existence as women, and we don’t need to put other women and girls above or beneath us, or allow us to be alienated from one another.

#radfem #radblr #women deserve better #radical feminism #feminism #radfems do touch #radfems do interact #radfems please touch #womens rights #sex based rights #not like other girls #not all men #fuck the patriarchy #sexist stereotypes #womanhood #gender critical #female solidarity #sisterhood #divide and conquer #internalized misogyny #womens voices #women won't wheesht

[coochiequeens]

Learning “how to girl” is always this shit. It’s never dreading the holidays because you’re going to be expected to do the work of getting the house ready or food prep while your brother and male cousins get told exactly what time to arrive so dinner is ready just when they walk in. 

Please reblog with your least favorite part of being a woman.

#Reddit #MtF #learning how to girl #Sexist stereotypes

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

Or that innate sexual attraction is a "genital fetish," while a girl who likes Legos and bike riding is a boy.

#Colin Wright #biological sex #gametes #womanhood #manhood #stereotypes #gender stereotypes #regressive stereotypes #sexist stereotypes #human reproduction #human biology #queer theory #gender ideology #gender identity #religion is a mental illness

[haggishlyhagging]

Media critic Jennifer L. Pozner has spent thousands of hours and an immense amount of patience watching both cable news and reality television, and understands better than the average person how alike they've become. "We treat stories that we would have never treated as journalism twenty years ago like headline news," she muses. And we treat reality TV the same way. More relevant to feminism, however, is how the reality genre has harnessed the belief in a postfeminist world and, in doing so, reframed retrograde gender dynamics as expressions of freedom and empowerment. Far more than any backlash could have predicted, the feminist rhetoric of individuality, opportunity, autonomy, and choice has been co-opted by a consumer media that has very non-ulterior motives for presenting women as willingly sexualized, hyperfeminine ciphers.

In Pozner's 2010 book Reality Bites Back: The Troubling Truth About Guilty-Pleasure Television, she asserts that one of the most jarring features of reality TV is the way it urges its female participants—and often, the women and girls who watch them—toward narrower and narrower definitions of beauty, self-worth, and success, as well as a truncated sense of what kind of life is possible and desirable, all while encouraging them to see other women only in terms of competition and comparison. But "reality" functions as a magic shield against accusations of racist and sexist cliché and regressive storylines: producer and participants alike will reason that if you put twenty-five women in a room with a man they barely know, of course the evening will end with the women sobbing, yelling, yanking each other's hair extensions out, calling each other sluts, and drunkenly slurring, "We're meant to be together" to floor lamps. Reality TV is part of an ongoing narrative of postfeminism that, like Wonderbra billboards once did, assures women that feminism has granted them the power and the freedom to be whatever they want to be. And if what they want to be just so happens to conform to a smorgasbord of insecure, catty, vapid, and villainous stereotypes that even Walt Disney's frozen head would reject as too cartoonish, who's to say that's not empowering?

Let's take The Bachelor because, since it's one of the highest-rated network shows for more than a decade, we kind of have to. Since its debut in 2002, ABC's reality flagship has drawn in advertisers' favorite cash-cow demographic, women 18-34, by the millions, and has served as a barometer of how young, heterosexual, and mostly white women are encouraged to alter their ambitions, personalities, and behaviors to compete in the dating market. The show, mused media critic Susan J. Douglas when it premiered, "offers highly normative female ‘types’ into which most women allegedly fall ... urged to place themselves on a post-feminist scale of femininity to determine how far they have to go to please men without losing all shreds of their own identity and dignity. In the process, young women calibrate, for better and for worse, what kind of female traits are most likely to ensure success in a male-dominated world." For twenty seasons, the series has confirmed centuries' worth of entrenched beliefs about what women want (marriage, money, the knowledge that they've beaten out masses of other women for the a man they barely know), and what men seek (a thin, deferential woman who's only as ambitious as she needs to be to bag a husband).

-Andi Zeisler, We Were Feminists Once

#andi zeisler #reality tv #postfeminism #american culture #sexist stereotypes

[crazyalien87]

gendie mfs will be like "transgender is not about sexist stereotypes, women can be masculine!" and then spout this shit. wtf. why do you see gncness in women as a sign of not being women? fucking sexist misogynists.

What about a woman wearing a suit implies she's not a woman? Can you possibly answer that in a non-sexist way?

Why can't women wear suits? Or serve in suits? What about a suit makes one no longer and adult female human? Or even an adult human who wants to be female/identifies as one?

[ID: a tumblr comment by bisexual-bop-it:

"girl (gender neutral) we KNOW. We knew as soon as we saw you in that suit and every time I ever saw you since you were in that suit. That suit screams "nonbinary person serving cunt". We knew then and we know now."]

#wtf #so done with this shit #someone told me like yesterday or today on another social media that gender shit aint about stereotypes #well obviously some gendies fucking disagree #tw sexism #tw misogyny #tw gncphobia #tw gncmisia #tra sexism #tra misogyny #tra receipts #trans ideology #gender ideology #sexist stereotypes #gnc

[bitea-sweetea-roseytocin]

Opinions Wanted!

Is the "Women are obsessed with shoes and shopping" thing slightly 1950s-1980s sexism?

#poll #tumblr polls #sexism #sexism poll #I think it is and I could write an essay on it #stereotypes #sexist stereotypes

[sickofthis666]

Female Lead and Male Lead in media: *are supposed to be a power couple*

Me, having some hopes since this isnt an Hollywood production: Looks nic-

Female Lead: *is naive, inexperimented, has been sheltered from the world most if not all of her life, has no family or friends so can only rely on the ML, is conventionally attractive aka skinny, wears make up and revealing clothes (tighs/chest/stomach) even for battle (wears heels and/or doesnt tie her hair up to fight). Is caring and sweet. Has half the power of ML. Supposed to be powerful but somehow only end up in need of rescue by the ML.

Male Lead: arrogant, stubborn, even an asshole, is rich and powerful, can rely on friends and family. Possessive or jealous. Brutal. Stronger than FL so he has to save her but he doesnt need her.

When it comes to killing, FL is always the one advocating for mercy.

Me: No thanks, not what i was looking for

To me a true power couple recognize each other as equal. They fight together. They save each the other as much as the other does. Their strentgh and powers are at the same level.

#men vs women #radical feminism #representation of women in media #women in media #women in fictions #misogyny #sexist clichés #sexism #sexist stereotypes

[nero-neptune]

idk how much stock i put into those "gen z is more conservative than past generations" think-pieces from a few years back. but it's very possible for a person: to believe that climate change is a problem, to support (or be part of) the LGBT community, to believe in universal healthcare and social services, to support religious tolerance, to fight for expanded housing and labor rights, etc etc etc, and still, like, unabashedly hate women on a level you wouldn't believe existed

#like you really can't underestimate how far someone's hate can go for a specific group of people #while also believing in otherwise 'progressive' values idk #maybe i'm being a pessimist about these things #this is related to the last post i reblogged but now it's just on my mind #i understand that polls show (at least in the us) that gen z votes more blue than past generations and that's commendable #but you can walk and chew gum yknow. you can believe in progressive stuff while also being a massive sexist #and idk if these 'woowoo ~~trendy~~ sexism stereotypes but 'alternative and rebellious' bc i'm owning it' shit is uh. helping. #especially when you're too young to discern what is and is not 'ironic' or a 'joke' and you take it at face value #certain stuff is formative bc you're exposed to it young. and then BAM. it shapes how you see the world for a Very long time #sexism #rambles

[dimdiamond]

Ok we all know that Chilchuck's type is blondes but if you take this design as his wife (it hasn't been confirmed but it would make sense)

and if you ship him with Senshi

then you end up with some very funny but interesting thoughts about his tastes.

#I AM THE ONLY ONE WHO SEES THE SIMILARITIES #chilchuck is literally the sexist stereotype of wanting blondes for hook up and brunettes for commitment #this tag is for a joke ok #BUT LOOK AT HIM #chilchuck looks at black curly hair and goes yep i am gonna get attached to you #and regarding colour palettes and such i find this combination more appealing to my eyes #dungeon meshi #chilsi

[engagemythrusters]

Once again, I am begging people to start questioning the actions of Star Wars writers and executives.

Why is the “greedy, resource hogger” character a fat, disabled man?

Why is the Black man the “violent terrorist whose impacts are useless except to harm others?”

Why are the main characters whitewashed?

Why is the autistic man killed after his disability was finally acknowledged?

Why does the woman die of no reason other than apparent sadness?

Why?

#take a second and think. #you all know damn well why #you just do not want to acknowledge how fucked up this all is #Star Wars #‘it could have been any character!’ but it wasn’t. #‘​it’s coincidence!’ then it’s still bad. those writers have never questioned their ableist sexist and racist worldviews #and thus further stereotype and harmful notions by never once fixing their biases #‘it’s not that deep.’ yes it is. #just because it doesn’t fucking affect YOU doesn’t mean it doesn’t affect me. or others. #take five seconds to wonder who this shit hurts. #and if after that you find you don’t care? block me. saves me the hassle of dealing with your sorry ass.

[justanisabelakinnie]

You. I’d like to shake your hand. You understand. You GET it. You are my new favorite person!

#i love the last part especially because now that i think about it they’re right it IS peak white feminism #saying that the dark-skinned indigenous woman being portrayed as beautiful and feminine is vapid and basic is just so so wrong like #let indigenous girls have this character and stop telling them that their femininity is bad or stereotypical #it’s funny how whenever we get a black or brown girl who gets to be portrayed as feminine and attractive WHITE women always want to say #‘but isn’t that so boring and sexist and stereotypical’ TO YOU #for woc being feminine is inherently subversive and unique #and that’s that on that #isabela madrigal #isabela my beloved #isabela is best girl #luisa madrigal #encanto #my post

[holly-natnicole]

Percy: "Mum...?"

Sally: "What's wrong, Sweetie?"

Percy: Me. "Nevermind..."

Sally: walks closer to her biological child then stops, standing in front of the 13-year-old with the adult's arms spread.

Sally: "Is it okay if I hug you, Percy?"

Percy: throws her arms around her mother, who returns the embrace then their cuddle ends a moment later.

Sally: places her hands on her kid's shoulders "You know that you can tell me anything, right?"

Percy: "...If I had been born a girl, what would you have named me?"

Sally: confused "A girl?"

Percy: steps backwards a few times, her mum's hands falling off the teen's shoulders "Nevermind."

Sally: "Percy, if you had been a girl instead of a boy, I would have named you Psyche. There was a Greek princess long ago. She endured despite all the hardships and found happiness, much like Perseus did."

Percy: frowns Nancy and other bullies would've called me Psycho for sure.

Sally: "Percy, what's on your mind?"

Percy: "It's nothing, Mum."

Percy: goes into her bedroom.

Percy a week later: "Mum, I'm a girl."

Sally (who had done research after what to her had been a strange conversation with her "son"): "Thank you, Percy, for trusting me. Do you want to change your name?"

Percy: "Wait, that's it? You believe me?"

Sally: holds her arms wide.

Percy: hugs her mum who returns the embrace.

Sally: "You're my daughter. Of course I trust you to tell me the truth."

Percy: silently cries against her mum's upper chest.

Sally: "Do you want to keep Percy as your name or choose a new one?"

Percy: "Both. I wanna replace Perseus with something that's pretty and can easily be shortened to Percy."

Sally: "How about Persephone?"

Percy: "Wasn't she kidnapped?"

Sally: "...Maybe not Persephone. But you didn't seem to like the name Psyche last week."

Percy: "Mum, do you know any other names?"

Sally: "There is Percilla. It's from the Latin word priscus, meaning venerable."

Percy: grins "Perfect!! Thank you, Mum!!"

#to be clear; there's NOTHING wrong with being transgender #but percy has some internalised transphobia since society's gender stereotypes were supported by gabe with scorn for anyone non-conforming #gabe was transphobic & sexist #pjo au #pjo #alternate multiverse #pjo books #pjo book series #pjo series #pjo tv series #pjo tv show #percy jackson and the olympians (2023) #percy jackson and the olympians (2005) #percy jackon and the olympians #percy jackson franchise #percy jackson #percilla “percy” jackson #trans percy jackson #female percy jackson #female #greek demigod #genderbent percy jackson #genderbent #genderbend #genderbending #trans headcanon #headcanon #headcanons #pjo headcanons #pjo headcanon

[theindescribable1]

someone just said "Real men don't cook. Women do all the cooking for them."

...Uhh... Should I turn off Anon asks? That was sexist...

What the hell-

That is a completely false stereotype. All humans no matter what the gender should know how to provide food for themselves. If you believe that women should basically be a man's slave to do all the cooking and cleaning, that ain't right. A man should be able to provide for themselves just the same as a woman can provide for herself. Just because you are a male who can cook does not mean you aren't a "real" man. Women can't be expected to tend to their partners every need.

There is nothing wrong with providing a sustainable meal for yourself no matter what gender!

Sexist stuff is so dumb...

Yeah turn off Anon asks.

#I've put up with stuff like this before. #Don't be sexist #Theres no point. #Don't put women into a cooking cleaning stereotype #Don't put men into the stereotype either #Uhgg... #People...

[crazyalien87]

the "gender ideology" goldmine

wow. I didn't read the whole thing, but basically, this "compcis masterdoc" says that gender = gender roles, thus woman = feminine & man = masculinine. wtf. on the one hand, that is incredibly sexist. on the other hand, this was clearly with good intentions (it doesn't say that gnc people have to have dysphoria or be uncomfortable with their body or transition), & only as a reaction to sexist society. the underlying message seems to be "anyone should be allowed to be as masculine &/or feminine as they want." that's a very good message.

however, they have it backward. conservative sexist people say "women are female & female people morally should be feminine, thus women should be feminine also" (& vice versa for men). however, the writer of this thinks that conservatives are saying "women are feminine, & female people morally should be feminine, thus female people should be women". this is incorrect, however, it is a reasonable response to growing up in a society that is just drenched in gender roles. I mean what can u expect after always hearing shit like "women have to wear dresses & makeup & be housewives & sensistive &... & men have to wear pants ^ cologne & be breadwinners & strong & stoic &..."...? after a while, I can see how it would sound like "women are this", not "women should be this".

fundamentally, they agree with gender critical people in that people should be allowed to be gender-nonconforming. however, they rather find comfort in these roles, rather than wanting to abolish them altogether. they just want to pick their own category.

however, I do not think we should define trans people as this. it is confusing. as I have said, woman & man are sex-based words. we already have words for gnc people, such as tomboy, femboy, crossdresser...it would make more sense for trans to mean someone who wants to change their sex, such as transsexual. this is why some people want to use words such as transsexual, transsex, & transX (nonbinary transsex) instead of transgender. wanting to change one's physical body (often due to dysphoria) is very different from being gnc, though they may be intertwined for some people. it is confusing to combine the two. this "masterdoc" combines signs of bejng gnc or repssing being gnc, with signs of gender dysphoria, even tho these are quite different things

#commentary #gender #gender roles #sexist stereotypes #sex roles #sexism #misogyny #sexist society #we live in a society #feminism #gender ideology #transgender ideology #radfem #gender critical

[hylialeia]

anyone else think it's kind of insane that the Netflix Avatar decided to add scenes of the genocide of the air nomads but simultaneously thought one of the main characters being sexist was "a bit iffy" and should be cut. like did they learn media literacy from someone yelling at them on twitter

#'we want to appeal to adults and show more of the darker aspects of the show and give them more weight' #okay understandable with the change in rating. worth thoughtfully exploring. #'but we can't have a GOOD character be SEXIST. also women being emotional is a stereotype so our female lead can't get mad' #get me out of hereeeee #like I feel like this is what happens when writers think random people's tweets/tiktoks are all equal in terms of critique #netflix atla #atla

[wellnoe]

i am obsessed w thinking about o5 butch lesbian cyclops now. bobby. her friendship w warren. *waves hand at everything w jean*

#hank is there too ig #this is NOT me being a hank hater i just don’t know that there’s anything super interesting to say abt hank in this context #other than like. silver age hank being a weird misogynist of the females are so irrational compared to me variety in the silver age #which like. i am not necessarily of the opinion that needs to be gendered in that way. yk #like. not to make this abt hank in the tags #but there’s something in the way his own focus on his intellect and books focus on emphasizing his intellect make him seem like. #awful at times. the stereotypes of what a rational intellect looks like. #which does kind of lead into the awfulness he gets into later ig? #anyway my original point is idk that i want to commit to hank being uniquely sexist bc everyone just kind of is at base level in the silver #age #w.me