#positive experience

[mejomonster]

I'm comparing xuanji and tantai jin right now in how they handle their "innocence" about romance (just cause they don't feel emotion generally)

Xuanji: completely oblivious, WOULD grab sifengs boner while dropping in on him naked in a bath and DOES NOT care. He's her great friend! And he's fun to make blush! Will also be the first to kiss HIM. Again, she's not really sure why or that it means EONS to sifeng emotionally. But she is glad to be with her friend and it seems fun uvu

(Xuanji later will go onto top her babe but that's later, I'm talking the early parts when she isn't feeling things much)

Tantai jin: I am SCANDALIZED you would touch me. I know you're my WIFE but as my wife you tried to sleep with me to lock me into marriage and I was disgusted by how fucked up and cruel you were so I put you to sleep. Do NOT strip me, don't even look me up and down. I don't have lust or any particular romantic feelings for you, it's not like I'm abashed of sex as I AM an adult who got married and know the fucked up palace shit of behind closed doors. BUT I am repulsed by the idea of being near you, especially naked and sharing that experience with YOU agh, so I Am going to continously insist on Being chaste. Maybe one day I'll want to rail someone, like you said when I feel "love" for someone or whatever maybe... but lmao not your awful ass

Also tantai jin, seeing a demon kiss qingyu: huh... evil powers cool I should eat her. It'd be nice if I could eat humans for power too. Huh... that kind of looks enjoyable? Maybe I'll try making out with someone I don't dislike. (Thinks about his wife who feeds him and would die for him, but there's baggage so he just moves on)

A few eps later: actually... like... would it be Too Fucked up? If I just... DID make out with my evil Wife who wants to kill me? I mean... a kiss is a kiss if it feels nice does it matter if we kill each other later? What if she sat on my lap! What if... I was held in her arms... <3 (no! Focus! She'll betray me! We can only have sex if she's my prisoner or something so she doesn't stab me or sell me out while we're naked!)

#love and redemption #till the end of the moon #tteotm #lb #xuanji #tantai jin #i just. 1 I LOVE how xuanji is actually the forward one unashamed and unworried about physical stuff #while sifeng is the blushing virgin concerned with propriety and feelings and STEPS etc. but love is SERIOUS in his sect #2 i LOVE how tantai jin has same vague Starting Setting as xuanji #but tantai jin IS socially aware of sex and romance enough to know he does NOT want #his evil bitch of a wife who whips him to ever try getting intimate with him #xuanji is both more innocent and naive in that she doesnt KNOW what it means #but also way more like I WOULD BE UP FOR RIDING SIFENG. SOUNDS FUN #and sifengs like NO babe STOP you shpuldnt unless youre in love and married!!! NO DONT RIDE HIM INSTEAD DONT #JUST APPROACH STRANGERS YOU DONT KNOW IF THEYRE NIDE #like if xuanji knew what sex was and had fun doing it shed have done it all the time asap #and she DID do it once she knew what it was lol #meanwhile tantai jin knows what it is but his life is so fucked up he cant imagine it being a #positive experience #(great i made myself sad :c) #anyway i love xuanji

[there-will-be-a-way]

Every Saturday and Sunday I go to the clinic to do an alcohol test - because being controlled is the only thing that keeps me sober (this plan was my idea, yes, I got praised for this by the staff 🙌🏻). So today when I went there, I asked to have a talk and confessed that I relapsed. I'm proud that I was honest. Even prouder that I stopped the relapse. I didn't continue drinking today - I genuinely didn't want to which is new.

The nurse thanked me for my honesty and offered that next time I can come over before I relapse and stay the night. Not sure if I'll manage to do that but I can try and it's good to have this option.

#personal posts #took my prn meds and staying in my roommates room #took my sleep meds early and now I'm about to watch a movie and call it a day #this morning I went to the gas station to buy beer for my roomie (cause it would have been a dick move to drink his beer without buying him #new booze #and I didn't buy any alc for myself (!!!!)) #very glad my responsible parts came out to handle the situation #they have Skills™️ #the older I get the more I realize that honesty is one of the most important traits you can have #I used to be so dishonest for real #but I'm making 'no lying' a rule #tomorrow when I go to the clinic for ergotherapy I'll likely have to write a behavior analysis (my beloved) smd that's it #no one got mad at me #positive experience #and I have therapy tomorrow too #it's gonna be a long day #*avoided staying in

[duality-disability]

@postmanic u havin fun my friend?

#laughing my ass off imagining u poking us and going 'boop' repeatedly #positive experience #<3

[hugplease]

I don't even know what to say but omg /pos

So I went to a gay club the night before last and this really cool person came up to me and we started talking then exchanged numbers before ze left

And then like today we're talking about like our disabilities and coping mechanisms and they just mention agere ???!!!?!??!!! Like casually !!?

And I'm like "omg so actually I regress too" and zeir like "oh cool" and that was it !!!?????!?

It was so casual and calm and like idk I never expected to ever meet someone else who regresses !!!

Then we started talking about dnd and kinda forgot about agere because adhd

Idk what to say just needed to talk about it

Will definitely be going back to the club

#im kinda stunned #i could have a agere friend !!???! #literally gonna buy zem crayons we're hanging out friday #positive experience #positive agere #agere #sfw agere #age regression #sfw agedre #sfw interaction only #agere blog #strangesoriginals

[catsinacottage]

went to the gynecologist for the first time yesterday and received my very first Pap smear! The nurse and doctor were so friendly and professional, genuinely one of the easiest and stress free doctors appointments I’ve ever had in my life

The exam itself was completely painless and the doctor let me know exactly what she was going to do before doing and let me know what to expect. I’m sure I’m not alone in expecting the worst when it came to the pelvic exam due to how it’s talked about in media but really it was completely fine! It was less uncomfortable than getting my blood pressure taken.

#doctors visit #gynocologist #pap smear #first time at gynocologist #positive experience #health

[thatonetransguyincanada]

Had 2 really positive LGBTQIA2s+ experiences today at work.

(Context: I work in retail, am out at work, and wear pride and he/him pronoun pins on my apron)

The first experience happened before my lunch. A mother and her son (about elementary school years old) were buying some stuff and I noticed the son was wearing a rainbow Pride shirt. I thought it was cool to see a kid as young as he was wearing something like that so I told him “Nice Shirt.” Just to be casual. The boy thanked me and the mother said, “everyone in his school got one.” And the boy nodded and added, “Its important!” And I wanted to cry. Instead I just smiled, nodded, and said, “Yes it is. Its very important.” And bid them a good rest of their day.

The second experience was right as we were closing. An older man was buying a few things and just as I rang up the first item, he said he wanted to ask me something. It took him about 20 or so seconds but he managed to get out, “I dont want to offend you, but me and my son were in a little while back and we were just confused. Are you a boy or a girl?” He was kinda stuttering but was genuinely asking and I was a little caught off guard but all to happy to reply, “Im a boy. I was born a girl but Im transitioning into a boy.” The man nodded and said something I dont quite remember but it was along the lines of, “Oh okay. Stuff like that isnt taught or talked about at all and so we just dont really know anything about that.” And I smiled and told him I was all to happy to tell him about being Trans and explain stuff cause I love talking about the community. The man nodded again and almost shyly asked what exactly ‘Transitioning’ was and if it was mental, physical, or both. I once again happily explained my own experiences (briefly cause didnt want to go into personal details) and the man nodded again. Our conversation kinda came to an end because I had to finish ringing his stuff through and we were closing, but Im so happy I was able to help, for lack of a better word, enlighten someone about the awesome queer community and it just made my night.

#lgbt #LGBTQAI #LgBTQIA2S #queer #queer experience #retail worker #retail #positive experience #positivity #good feeling #helping people #sharing info with others #trans #trans community #trans man #candian #canada

[queer-ecopunk]

So, I'm trans. And several years ago, I was at my great grandfather's funeral. 17, newly on T, barely out to anyone other than my close friends and family. And I'm standing there at the refreshment's table, surrounded by strangers and members of my family's church, when George walks up to me.

This man is ancient, bent like a finger and frail. Tufts of white hair surround his wrinkled face. Like always, he's wearing thick glasses, massive hearing aids, and his veteran's hat. George was my first introduction to the concept of war, when he told me as a child why he was missing two fingers on his hand. He's been a fixture at church since I can remember. I've only ever seen him at there or in uniform at parades, the rest of his time spent in a nursing home somewhere. He picks up a deviled egg and says, in his quiet voice,

"You know, before your grandfather died, he told me that now he had 3 grandsons."

I'm frozen in place. I don't know what to say to that, if I should say anything at all. This is not a conversation I expected to have, especially not with this man. But he continues.

"I didn't know what he meant! So he explained it to me."

And I can imagine it. My great grandfather, uninformed and opinionated but supportive, explaining to his friend the news he barely understood himself over after-service coffee and cookies. His eldest grandchild was now a boy.

"And, you know, I didn't know what to think."

Here, George looks me up and down. This 90-something year old war veteran, who knew me mostly as the little girl playing in the church kitchen with his wife, processing what my great grandfather had really meant. It feels like a long pause, even thought it probably passed in a second.

"But you look good. So, eh!"

And then he smiled, shrugged, and walked away without another word. If I was fine, if I was happier, then that's all that mattered.

George passed away this week, at the age of 99. This memory has been bouncing around in my head for a while, but I wasn't sure if or how I should share it. It was a conversation that meant very little, but also meant the world. It was scary, and funny, and the moment when I realized that sometimes the people you least expect will accept you. Sometimes, even if they don't fully understand, even if they barely know you, someone will choose to support you. And that will always matter.

#experiences #mine #trans positivity #community #queer

[solidwater05]

Apparently this needs to be said so

Forgetting things is morally neutral! Memory issues are morally neutral!

You're not a bad person if you...

forget things quickly

forget people

can't remember entire stages of your life

can't remember important things

can remember some things very well and forget other things all the time

can't remember things (or anything!) about your interests

forget to eat, sleep, go to the bathroom, etc

forget to reply to texts

remember things and immediately forget them again

can't remember birthdays, events, etc

frequently answer 'I forgot' to questions

can't retain new information

forget things you used to know

only remember things when it's too late

have vague, distorted and/or unreliable memories

depend on others to know how an event you were in played out

have other symptoms that are worsened by memory issues and vice versa

... and anything else I might have missed!

#muted #memory issues #adhd #actually adhd #dissociative amnesia #amnesia #memory loss #dissociative identity disorder #what other things cause memory issues #ptsd #i can't think of anything else #reminder #positivity #neurodivergent #neurodivergent positivity #memory problems #ice speaks #i tried to include as many experiences as i could think of #but out of everything i tagged i only have adhd so i probably missed a lot of stuff #so feel free to add your own experiences! #brought to you by... uh ironically i can't remember what prompted me to write this #something my mom said. i don't remember what it was tho

[howdoesone]

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#all-inclusive buffet #clean-up #discreet containers #discretion #evidence #honesty #inconspicuous eating #policy #positive experience #resort #Resort staff #restaurant alternatives #small snacks #sneaking food #stealing #timing

[compassionatecarewahomecare]

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#Healthful Living #Life Satisfaction #Positive Experience

[severalowls]

Its absolutely no coincidence that the people being sent baseless sexual assault accusations against predstrogen have, from what I've seen, been young transmascs.

The terfs behind the harassment campaign are so brazenly trying to prey on anybody they reckon might have any transmisogynist tendencies and are trying to use that to sow discord in the trans community. They see transmasculine people as potential avenues for recruitment (and eventual detransition) and it's extremely fucking important that the people being sent these anons do not fall headfirst for the bait. They want you to go 'uh oh, guess trans women are sex pests after all' and that to stick with you and fester, and turn that seed of prejudice into the continued harm of transfem people.

If you want to be a meaningful ally to transfem people right now you have to be vigilant for this shit, and correct it where you see it. If you think being used as an angle of recruitment by bigoted harassment is gross, imagine how it would feel to be the damn focus of the harassment.

#like my own experience in transmasc-heavy spaces has been positive! #but for every ten cool friends theres one guy who gets all weird the moment i speak in voice chat #that one guy is who is being 'stay safe :)' annoned right now.

[pickled-flowers]

Sex positivity is also about not calling Ace people prude and using virgin as an insult 👍 hope that helps

#sex positivity is also respecting sex lives that dont look like yours #or lack thereof #and insulting people by saying they dont fuck make you sound stupid <3 #im sorry i just cant take people who use their sex lives as a flex seriously its just not my thing! #like yea having lots of kinky sex is cool but not having sex and not being interested by sex is also cool #one is not better than the other the human experience is just very varied and diverse #its normal you wont understand everyone your brain isnt even made to comprehend how many human there are in the world #but we should all have spaces to navigate our sex lives as we wish even if that means interacting with sex as a subject as little as possibl

[duality-disability]

i had a esophagual motility test today; and while I definetely do not recommend it. The nurse was very nice and gave us encouragement for our next neurologist to actually be useful and help us.

Especially with ruling out MS, just generally finding the cause of our issues.

We talked a lot during the motility test bc it kept us distracted, and learning that a lot of our issues line up with how MS first presented in the nurse's case is both.. helpful and, worrisome.

i just wanna know what's goin on man.

#chronic illness #disability #physical disability #chronic pain #chronic fatigue #chronically ill #positive experience #i really loved this nurse bc she was amazing and very insightful #but doubly wanting to redo our MRIs for the same reason

[stressingplant]

On my way home, I saw a woman lead a group of children down the street with one of those ropes made by colorful pieces of cloth tied together, and behind them there was another lady pushing a stroller, and they were all smiling and I heard the children laughing through my headphones while I was listening to butch 4 butch and I just. It was magical, I think. Bless happenstance, and bless that group of kids and their caregivers. I hope they have the greatest time whatever they're doing.

#positivity posting #positive experience #bad things are happening #but not everything or everyone is bad

[petricorah]

Having icons on the dashboard increases community. I don't take the time to read every username, but with a quick glance, I know who posted something. It means I can associate what they posted with them. Otherwise it's just Stuff. (It's also fun to see the icons. It's a unique personalization that makes people happy, and their prominence makes tumblr unique.) It doesn't take up space. Why take that away?

it's honestly alarming that they're making this shift to depersonalize and disintegrate community.

part of me feels like this is the progression they want:

can't tell who posts -> don't care who posts -> no connection to who is on your dash -> FYP/algorithm

and it's horrible that they seem to be taking such a beloved website and sending it in these directions. probably overreacting but it's sad and frustrating to watch it go

anyway. it's a good reminder to reblog the posts you love, because that's how the website can keep functioning like it does

#i know it's silly to be annoyed about these things but i feel like it takes away such a big part of the experience and how this website #works and connects you with people #otherwise it's just positing in a void #like i understand why they made the dashboard look like twitter but idk what this is #notart #reglob

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

#not a shitpost #serious post #ask to tag #tw trauma #cptsd #c-ptsd #and if so we should TALK about it #because it means there are a whole group of survivors out there whose mental health regularly worsens during holidays #like i know i am most certainly not the only person who feels an undefined Dread hanging over christmas/my birthday/july 4 etc #bc too many shitty things happened during those times and now my brain is hypervigilant bc traditionally these are the Danger Times #and this seems like it would be particularly common for survivors of abusive/dysfunctional households (aka most people with c-ptsd) #because holidays/vacations typically mean 1) the whole family is together/being forced to interact #2) and undergoing external stressors e.g. travel/relatives aka 'outsiders' visiting/routines & coping mechanisms being interrupted etc #3) there is social pressure for this to be a Fun Family Bonding Experience which only highlights the cracks in the foundation #and exposes the common Everything Is Fine/We Are A Happy Family lie #4) the cognitive dissonance of feeling tired/anxious/stressed/afraid during a time when you are 'supposed' to be Making Good Memories #and then everyone is angry/tired/anxious/triggered and things boil over and something or someone goes Very Wrong #weird that i'm posting this in october when halloween is...sort of the ONLY holiday i have only good and happy feelings towards #i got lucky there #also i have positive feelings towards Labor Day but that's for socialist reasons