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fredwkong · 3 months

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Himbo Maker: Misha

Misha was an Egirl: a European Guy In Real Life. He would do his makeup, put on fake eyelashes, a wig, and a pair of pink headphones with kitty cat ears, and stream video games online. He loved to troll new viewers by spending an hour or so doing a breathy, feminine voice, and then suddenly hit them with his natural Baltic baritone. The way the chat went crazy made it worth it every time.

The whole game was helped by how petit and curvy Misha had always been. Even in his twenties, he still had a soft, almost girlish body and stood at most of other guys’ sternums. Too bad he wasn’t a trans girl, or at least a gay boy, he sometimes thought, looking at his body in the mirror. Gay guys were supposed to go for little guys who looked like him.

One evening, Misha was just starting his stream when some user started acting really weird in chat. He had a username that almost seemed familiar to Misha, but the guy he was thinking of had always been polite and given insightful comments on Misha’s gaming. This guy’s messages were full of typos, and he couldn’t seem to stop talking about his muscles.

Misha was just about to ban the guy when an alert sounded: Misha’s charming, girly laugh, which indicated a user had just donated a hefty sum. Of course, it was this annoying brodude.

“Uh,” said Misha, almost forgetting to put on his femmy voice, “He says, “Bro, this guy liek wants to chat wiht u on stream.” And there’s a link in the donation.”

Clicking the link, Misha found himself looking at a chat website he’d never seen before. “Hold on, let me share my screen,” he simpered, sharing the chat window. Somehow, his usual screen name was already in the bar. It must have populated from his stream.

Mish-kittycat: Like, heyoooo! You okay with being on stream with me? (✿◠‿◠)

Himbo_mkr: No way, bruh! I love meeting new bros. Like, hi stream!

Misha was a bit offended that this chat partner would refer to him as a “bro.” But stream chat seemed interested, so he thought it could be worth a few minutes to humour the donater. It had been a fair amount of money.

Mish-kittycat: What do you want to talk about UwU

Himbo_mkr: Bro, you know that all I ever talk about are my sick gains and going out with guys, lmao

Okay, so this was a troll. They probably wanted to get Misha banned for lewdness or something. Still, at least it was original that the troll character was a gay guy. He rolled his eyes at the stream and said, out loud in his girl voice, “Looks like someone got mad enough to pay to speak with all this.” He gestured down his slim body in tonight’s outfit, a stereotypical Japanese maid costume.

Himbo_mkr: Huhuhu, bro, you clicked on the link. Didn’t force you to do it.

Misha froze. Of course the troll was watching the stream. “Heh, I don’t let meatheaded bullies boss me around,” he chirped, trying to save face.

Himbo_mkr: You sure? You sure like it when your chat bosses you around, bro.

Now this guy was just lying. Misha scowled, even though he knew the expression would make his foundation crack unattractively. “This is a really weird way to bully someone.” He looked at the stream chat, waiting for his subscribers to back him up.

But the character of the chat seemed to have changed. No, they had always been bossy, Misha suddenly remembered. They would tell Misha how to play his games all the time while he pretended to struggle. It was a key part of the dynamic of his channel that chat bossed him around, and right now they were telling him to go back to chatting with this guy. One guy even messaged, “No more talking, kitty. You’re only allowed to write in the chat.” Misha gave the camera a plaintive look, but listened. He always listened to his chat.

Mish-kittycat: So maybe you’re right about that one thing, but coming in here being rude is totally uncool (งᓀ‸ᓂ)ง

Himbo_mkr: Bro, I think we got off on the wrong foot. I was just tryna compliment you on your sick bis, dude.

Misha cocked his head, confused. He was the opposite of buff, that was why he was so good at dressing as a girl. But as he continued to think about it, he remembered all the hours he spent working on his arms. He kept a set of weights next to his bedroom door, and he did bicep curls to failure every time he went through the doorway. Yeah, his biceps were his pride and joy, and they were usually how he showed off his manliness when he revealed his deep voice and accent.

A tip came in. “Flex for us, kitty,” commanded the text-to-speech voice. With a smirk, Misha lifted up one of his arms, feeling it stretch the sleeve of his maid costume as the veins popped. Too bad the rest of his body hadn’t followed his arms and gotten bulky.

Himbo_mkr: We’re all waiting for you to drop your lifting routine, bro! You’ve been totally blowing up.

Misha blushed at the flattery. His physique wasn’t all that impressive. Sure, now that he thought about it, he had been really hitting the weights a lot and eating right. In fact, his room seemed to be full of lifting clothes and supplements as he looked around. But that was because some of his subscribers kept telling him to get to the gym and hit his macros. It had actually been really freeing to just let people pay to tell him what to do on his fitness journey. And it was paying off! Misha definitely couldn’t pass for a girl these days, which was why the channel had changed to be more about doing stuff in-game for the highest bidders.

The maid costume barely wrapped around Misha’s broad pecs, and the garters had torn when he’d tried to pull them up his thick thighs. Sure, it had been funny when the stream started and the chat had gotten Misha to show off his shoulder raises while dressed in a little maid skirt, but the polyester was really starting to chafe on his smooth muscles. It was a relief when a tip rolled in while Misha flexed and said “Kitty, wear comfy clothes.” The chat oooohed and aaaahed as Misha shucked the maid costume, showing off his bulky chest, and pulled on his favourite comfy shirt instead. Sure, it had some tears and stuff, but as a masculine guy, Misha wasn’t worried about dressing up fancy or anything.

The guy whose chat Misha was streaming had been quiet, so Misha hopped back over and sent another message.

Mish-kittyhunk: Thanks man! It’s all about trusting the process.

Himbo_mkr: I can tell that you trust people, bro! You’re like a puppy lmao.

Well, Misha thought, maybe he did like getting bossed around in chat, but it wasn’t like he trusted everyone blindly! Okay, well, maybe he did tend to stop to help people on the road and then lose his wallet a lot. They looked like they needed help! And maybe he did sometimes click on links that meant he needed to take his phone to the store for them to fix, but so did everyone else!

Looking at the chat, who were all laughing about Misha being a totally trusting puppy, Misha had to finally agree. That was why one of his subscribers had gotten him this headset with floppy dog ears on it, after all.

Mish-puphunk: Haha, you got me, dude! That’s why I clicked on this link, too XD

Himbo_mkr: It’s okay, bro. Lots of gay hunks are pretty dumb, it just adds to that himbo appeal.

This time this guy was definitely making stuff up. Misha was totally straight, he just didn’t do well with girls. Well, that and being a submissive hunk online mostly attracted a gay male fanbase. And, well, now that he thought about it, when was the last time Misha had really thought about a girl? Like, maybe if it was a domme? But no, even then, Misha would really prefer a guy to be involved at some point. This guy was probably right, Misha was gay.

It was super hard to think. There was a reason that Misha preferred to let chat do the thinking for him. Even before he realised how much he loved to listen when men told him what to do, Misha had never been much of a deep thinker. That was why most of the stuff in his room was gym gear, gaming stuff, or whatever his subscribers bought for him. Lately, they had been really loving when Misha wore even less clothes and showed off more of his growing body, and Misha was happy to oblige as long as they kept telling him what to do!

Mish-puphunk: Lol I guess you’re right! I just wanna give sirs what they want

Himbo_mkr: Bro, I totally get why you love pup play so much. You just love being obedient and dumb and empty lmao. You, like, pretty much live in your mask these days.

A pup mask…Misha was pretty sure one of his subscribers had sent him one of those once, but it had been really confusing to put on and he’d only worn it once. No, wait, that wasn’t right. Misha was such a ditz! He’d loved the experience of putting on the pup mask and letting himself be a dumb pup for his chat. And chat had loved sending in tips to give him commands like “sit,” “roll over,” and “stick a tail in your hole.”

It had been so popular that the subscribers had told Misha to make it a weekly thing, then a biweekly thing, and by now it had pretty much become what Misha did during his streams. While chatting with this guy had been fun, Misha really wanted to get on with the stream and mask up. He opened his mouth to tell the viewers that, but then remembered that he had been ordered not to talk. Too bad, chat would only hear his deep, resonant voice if they ordered him to bark after he put on his mask.

Mish-puphunk: Okay dude, I gotta go be a good dumb pup now.

Himbo_mkr: Got it, bruh! You got a bunch of hunky doms to please by being a good pup slut!

Chat cheered as Misha stopped streaming the chat window and winked at the camera. An especially hung dom who loved to tip had won the bid war last night to decide what Misha wore, so Misha fondled the straps of his leather harness as he got up to grab his mask. He wondered what his chat full of muscular, horny himbo doms would have him do today.

Misha slipped on the mask and let his mind go blank.

#male transformation #mental change #male tf #muscle tf #reality change #dumber tf #himbofication #himbo maker #pup tf #sub tf #all fwkong

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corpus-incorporated · 2 years

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People not part of certain groups stop joining in on in-jokes without permission challenge

#just remembered about a friend of mine who’s nb who sent me this video on a discord server #saying ‘I’m gonna hatecrime [name] with this’#and it was just this skit of this couple #one trans and once cis #where the cis guy was saying incredibly trans-fetishizing things to his trans boyfriend that we’re all #like oh my uwu little trans boy and his little boypussy etc #and it made me SO uncomfortable #so I said so and it was all fine but like #how did they think it was okay to send that to a trans man #while NOT being a trans man and not knowing that that kind of treatment kinda triggered tf out of some trauma #it was like #you’re NOT in on this joke if I don’t think it’s funny #and I’m kinda made uncomfortable that you think that it is #d3da5 hot take of the day

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fromtheseventhhell · 2 months

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I'm not sure how to get it into people's heads that Arya is a female character. She's not a boy, not nonbinary, trans, agender, or genderless. I don't intend this in a way to be negative or wanky, but her girlhood is imbedded within her character. The problem isn't that Arya stans are missing the point by overemphasizing her femininity and wanting her to be a barefoot tradwife baby making machine, but that we're stating it exists when the majority of fandom and the show itself have gone out of the way to minimize the relevancy of her gender. I'm fully convinced there are a lot of people who think Arya would be the exact same character had GRRM created her as a male character named Arry instead, perhaps they'd do a better job at acknowledging her importance.

What's most ironic to me is how these same fans will gush and coo over the sisters being more alike than we think, but only if it involves giving Arya's characteristics to Sansa. Well acktually, Sansa likes to ride horses just as much as Arya does! They're so alike uwu! But dare acknowledge that Arya has traits and aspects commonly associated to Sansa then not only does that get accusations of wanting Arya to become Sansa, but that it's solely about showing Sansa up and wanting her to grovel in Arya's shadow and superiority 🙄 Hypocrisy and projection showing itself.

Somewhat of an aside, but I recently saw a post on reddit complaining about the fact that all four of Daemon's children survived the Dance specifically focused on the fact that both Rhaena and Baela lived. According to the OP, one of them should've died and their post-war roles in the story should've been given to only one of them. Which at its core is really the main conflict between Sansa and Arya stans, no matter how much the Stansas want to cover their ears and play dumb. It's not about Arya stans projecting their sibling squabbles onto the two of them but simply the fact that it's not possible for two characters to fulfill the same role in the story, specifically when it involves two female characters. The existence of two Stark sisters is an inconvenience for the people who want the story to revolve around Sansa.

I have to believe there's some bubbles that they don't want to admit will burst if TWOW will ever be released and that's why they cling to the idea that Arya stans are the delusional ones. They have to believe that the parts of Sansa's seasons 5-8 storyline they like came from GRRM instead of D&D or else their Jonsa and QITN fantasies will fall apart. I have no idea how someone can watch the scene where Sansa tells Arya she couldn't survive what she had while Arya can only sputter out that she was training and believe 1) it makes sense for their book characters and 2) D&D didn't blatantly favor Sansa and Sophie over Arya and Maisie.

This ask came literally seconds after I drafted a post talking about this exact topic and it's so wild to me that we were both up thinking about Arya + her girlhood and wanting to discuss it 🥹

As for this ask, you really hit the nail on the head. Arya's gender is an essential aspect of her journey but fandom ignores that because they've decided that there's only one "right" way to exist as a female character. Arya's self-esteem issues stem from her being a non-conforming Lady in a misogynistic society, she has to disguise herself as a boy in part because of the threat of sexual violence, in Harrenhal she is assigned gender-specific tasks/labor, political matches are made without her knowledge/consent, she is threatened with sexual violence multiple times, and even her role within the FM is influenced by her gender. Her being non-conforming doesn't mean she's the complete antithesis of everything feminine. The obsession with propping up Sansa has ruined people's ability to perceive complex female characters, ironically including Sansa herself. They genuinely would've respected Arya more if she had died passively rather than fight for her life and you can't tell me that isn't misogyny.

That Reddit post is a great example of how people genuinely can't (or refuse to) comprehend the idea of two female characters occupying the same space. Cause you're right, that is the root of the issue. I think the only reason they bother with the fake "Stark sisters uwu" crap is because they've backed themselves into a faux-feminist corner and they don't want to look hypocritical for disliking Arya. So instead, they pretend to care all while rewriting her to serve as Sansa's prop. This is also why so many Queen!Sansa truthers are also anti-Dany + think that Sansa becoming Queen depends on Dany's downfall. They desperately cling to the show as canon, when D&D have openly admitted they changed the story because they favored Sansa/Sophie. They're fine with how show!Arya is written because to them, that's exactly how she should be; a subservient lapdog for Sansa. TWOW is definitely going to ruin that illusion, and one of the reasons I'm optimistic about it being released is getting to see fandom's reaction.

#ask #anon #arya stark #anti sansa stans #anti d&d #anti got #this fandom is bullshit but getting asks like this is why I'm never going to leave #cause I enjoy discussing Arya's character with people who just /get it/ more then I hate seeing delusional takes about her #I will continue to celebrate her character and call out nonsense for as long as I can #also the timing of this particular ask was just perfect *chef's kiss*#honestly I'd prefer that stansas just admit they don't like Arya instead of constantly downplaying her intelligence and trying to #gaslight Arya stans every time we make book accurate posts/theories #no we aren't delusional for thinking that Arya will be a leader lol and they don't really believe it either which is why so much #of their time is spent pilfering skills and plot relevance from Arya to boost their fanon Sansa theories

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ayeeyo1 · 1 month

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Lesbians subreddits

R/butchlesbian: I’m a demisexual boy boy non boy. I also consider my self a butch and a lesbian but since my neurons are fucked up, I need you all to give me validation. Because I changed, the meanings of words me has to change for me. I collect mental illness like Pokémon cards! Did I mention I was poly?

“Yes king butch is everything and everyone. Please show more pics of your skirt and earring”

R/ lesbianactually : (.)(.) 💋💄 everybody thinks lesbins are gross manly butches, look at me being hyperfeminine 😊” + 1k upvotes

Filled with straight passing women, maximum cleavage barely any masc representation, when it is it’s just skinny white women with medium haircuts and pants

R/actually lesbian: “hey all I’m a baby trans girl, my name is violet dudeerman manlymanson, I love being a lesbian”

Comments filled with men acting like lesbians “I think this sub is full of creepy cishet white men” - a creepy het Anglo-Saxon male wrote. “Stay safe kittens” another man reads it and chuckles. “I will sis Uwu” 30 years ago these dorks would have had a dead end job, a wife they despised and some kids. Now they rot in lesbians spaces and play pretend all day.

R/ latebloominglesbians: I live in the western world worked an affluent job but somehow I never knew what a lesbians was. I was married to a man for 15 years. I love my ex husband and will bring him up in every conversation 💕. I’m not traumatized about loving a man because I still do 😁. I haven’t learned the word “bisexual” yet.

R/ conservatives: “butch dyke here, yea I work driving trucks. My wife and I never did any lbg shit 🤠. Fuck sleepy joe! trump 2020 🇺🇸” she’s acc a dyke and indeed has a wife. Probably the only real lesbians on Reddit are the racist ones, she only mentions she is a lesbians before saying the most “I’m not like other gays” shit imaginable.

#radical feminism #lesbian

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autispec-hours · 1 year

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am i the only one who’s really fucking tired of people being like “ oh these are traits of autism in FEMALES ( and afab trans and nonbinary people i guess ) ”

first , i should not have to be a footnote or a last minute inclusion in my own community , especially given the high percentage of trans non-binary and otherwise lgbt people who are autistic as compared to allistics . do you know how absolutely dehumanizing it is to be forgotten all the time by the people you’re supposed to trust and connect with . and if you are remembered you’re invariably lumped in with your AGAB , even if those traits don’t actually fit you

second , these traits aren’t inherently gendered in the first place . it’s about the way you were raised . my cis brothers have a lot of ‘ female ’ autism traits , and me and my cis sisters have a lot of ‘ male ’ autism traits . these things are normal and relatively common . yes , there is a correlation between the way society raises girls and boys differently and the way we develop socially , but acting like that’s an absolute is disingenuous , imo

i understand the need to separate it into categories . that’s natural for all human brains . but as we’ve all said many times before , autism is a spectrum . it’s never going to be one to one , for anybody . and i’m really tired of people subtly reinventing functioning labels over and over again , on top of it being a very obvious way to reinvent the gender binary

cause it very much ends up being ‘ female ’ autism that directly correlates to the high-functioning label , and ‘ male ’ autism that correlates to the low-functioning label . “ oh , girls are good at masking ” “ girls will make eye contact ” “ girls are just so quirkycute none of their traits are negative unless they mask too much uwu ” ( and you know they’re including trans men and AFAB non-binary people in ‘ girls ’ )

i don’t know how to fix this . i don’t know what to do about it . i just know that there’s a reason most of my friends are both autistic AND genderqueer . because some of y’all cis autistics really like your gender roles , and it’s incredibly alienating

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our-transmasculine-experience · 4 months

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I hate the stereotype of transmasc people always being little uwu boys. I love transmasc people that are like that! But its not all of us. I listen to cavetown and have some of the other “traits” of that stereotype of trans boys, and i have traits of other stereotypes. And thats okay!! All transmasc people are beautiful <3

all transmasc people are wonderful and unique and aren’t all the same cookie cutter “crave violence” OR “femboy twink”. there is a middle ground, and while i love those on the ends of the spectrum, most of us fall somewhere in the middle. and i don’t see enough appreciation for those of us in the middle!

#transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #transmasc #trans #queer #ftm #trans guy #trans boy #trans man

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love-is-a-pearl · 2 months

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I just realized I can share some ideas I have for Pearl Scenarios that I don't plan to do anything with and that I would love to see as fics if anyone wants to take them

Dawn going to Pallet Town for the first time in her life. Perhaps planning to surprise Ash like she always do. But being extremely nervous to even knock on the door of the Ketchum residence.

Dawn giving Ash something because she realizes that out of the people that traveled with him, she is one of the few he doesn't have a gift to remember her. Optional: I like the idea of the gift being her bracelet! So Ash has to wear it and remember her at all times uwu

Trans girl Ash discovering her gender alongside Dawn, confessing at some point, all nervous because they're both girls and Dawn being like "I like girls too yknow?"

An AshDawnZoey fic where Dawn is a princess secretely dating her knight Ash. Keeps rejecting every proposal from male royalties but when shet meets Zoey in a ball or something and assumes she is a boy she is down to actually giving this one prince a chance. Once she discovers that Zoey is a girl and both still want to get together, the 3 of them get together to work on a plan so the 2 princesses can get married.

#|→ diving for pearls #pearlshipping #just a bunch of cute stuff that I just can't fit into my own fic series lmao #if anyone wants to take it and turn into fanfics ill love you forever

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redditreceipts · 4 months

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Thank you for collecting examples and receipts. It's shit work, but im glad someone is doing something in the face of all this madness.

thank you! 💕

but actually it's not really any work. people think that I scroll for hours through reddit until I find something to be mad about, but that's really not the case. I have one reddit account where I am subscribed to all of the major trans subreddits, and let's look how long it takes to find some weird-ass behaviour.

So I looked through r/egg_irl for 13:34 minutes and this is what I found:

a person who makes this super sexualised "gender euphoria" avatar of themselvses, once again proving that they are a man

"uwu if I am not my super hot gay male fantasy femboy twink that I masturbate to daily, I won't transition at all"

"transfem's" imagination of what a girls sleepover looks like:

"heyyy :3 I was actually an incel before I transitioned, but now I recognise that my vile misogyny and hatred for women was actually ✨gender envy✨ and totally fine! UwU"

"I wanted to wear a skirt when I was little, must mean that I am actually a girl because girl = skirts and boy = pants"

here we have the "femboy twink" again, also this guy looks like he is about 16 years old (yeah fetishisation of gay men let's go)

"hey I feel bad about not having gender dypshoria" (for some reason, as if gender dysphoria is not one of the most soul-crushing feelings to exist)

"ehm not having dysphoria is also a form of dysphoria so you're fine actually"

so yeah, that's just what I found in 13 minutes and 34 seconds. it's more tedious to screenshot that shit than to find it. it's literally so easy.

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trekmascing · 24 days

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sorry if this is ignorant or anything, but a genuine and innocent question, what is forced masculisation? a couple posts have popped up and I was just curious what it actually meant :)

It’s not ignorant to have to ask! Forced masculinization or Forcemasc is a response to a lot of traditional masculinity being heavily demonized while still being affirming to transmascs, it’s largely a way to turn things that historically have been a grey area for masculinity into a positive experience for a lot of trans men. For me, personally, I found that a lot of “UwU small bean” stuff made me very dysphoric and “othered” feeling. It celebrates a lot of traditional positive aspects of masculinity in a transmasc light and is also known as “boy hypno” or “masc hypno” in the same veins as longer established kinks like sissy hypno. It’s also important to fully note it is a kink so consent and participation are important, so if I met a trans guy who said he was an UwU small bean and was happy with, I would not then push my kink on him without consent. For me however, it helps a lot in coming to terms with and reveling in my masculinity. For me it crosses with “auto androphilia” which is having an attraction to my own masculinity and being able to celebrate that in myself and create my own little “motivational images” I’d like to see. I found Forcemasc stuff after having been out and socially transitioned and on T for a while, so for some people it’s a motivation to transition (hence the force aspect, as it can be the main thing to motivate people to take their first steps, but for me it’s a nice permission to revel in my masculinity and enjoy just being a (trans) man.

#forced masculinization #forcemasc #autoandrophile #autoandrophilia #ftm hypno #force masc #masc hypno #transmasc

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punkeropercyjackson · 7 days

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I think 'Jason Todd is a female fantasy' is very true but i haven't spoken on it 'til now because people always getting it wrong and straight up lie to boot.1.Jason has never been intended as appealing primarily to female fans within canon and no,Nick Nobles pinups don't count.The INTENTION with him is an edgy as all milfs of fuck vigilante and cut out og Rhato and he does a pretty good job at that and 2.He's also never been a horndog,a vice indulger,smooth as fuck,the perfect sensitive gentleman,an all powerful bamf or a fuckin' sugar daddy

Jason's a female fantasy-to me at least-because he's a goth punk asshole with anger issues and a physical inability to not run his mouth that're not him being a douchebag for no reason but a trauma response that's usually taken to a fair extent attitude wise instead of abuse,is a REAL ex-villain with a REAL redemption arc,respects women and disrepects men,is a classical literature and theater nerd and a non-pretentious gamer,has a complex relathionship to intimacy and vulnerability,cares about and is good to kids(even if not to extent the fandom thinks he does),used to be soft uwu sunshine boy who understood justice better than a lot of adults as a kid before he was murdered and ressurected,his canon favorite food NEAPOLITAN?????FUCKIN' DORK ASS LMAO,refuses to be rich again on principal after growing up poor,isn't a pissbaby about feminine shit AND his canon type is weirdgirls and the opposite of it for him is perfect preppy judgemental girls who want to fix him

Add an official autism diagnosis,trans man status and afrolatino heritage and he's literally the perfect man.I would add on that he's 6' and jacked(buff with some realistic fat)but my DC self-insert is a half kryptonian 7' babe who's even more built than him so i think you know where my intentions lie /lh

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olderthannetfic · 7 months

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https://www.tumblr.com/olderthannetfic/730572795212398592/what-is-up-with-all-the-trans-men-on-this-hellsite?source=share

As a trans man, I might have some insight into this one. I'm a lot older than the standard uwu sparkle anti, but I was in my mid twenties for the first wave of weirdness about trans boys on Tumblr about a decade ago, so I was just too old for it then, and I saw a lot of guys my age and a little younger get swept up in it.

OTNF rightly points out that young trans men are a particularily vulnerable demographic. This is part of it, but we're also a demographic that doesn't sit comfortably with our identites (gender identities or otherwise) and are told by everyone (on every side) that we are Doing It Wrong, that our existence harms others, and that we must be this specific way to be good people.

I'm sure you've seen the "trans men are better than real cis men" rhetoric. It's meant to be inclusive and to reassure us that we're not bad people just because of our gender, but it also denies us our entire gender identity.

So basically, you've got a bunch of young guys, most of whom were socialised like girls and learned to never be too assertive, many of whom are straight up suffering from dysphoria and stress, being told by people both within and outside of their communities that the are Wrong and Bad and Harmful just for existing. It makes sense that a lot of them would would find a movement based on moral posturing that will accept them if they perform correctly and will use their real name and pronouns. That's what Antis are; they say "use this vocabulary, send hate mail to that person, put these terms in your DNI, don't be caught reading that story", and, unlike other groups that police people's tastes and performance that hard, they're not overtly hostile to trans identities. So you can spout the right rhetoric, use the right tumblr icon, and they will actually accept you (on the surface, for a time, but we're talking about young and desperate people who aren't looking at the long game).

Helping them harass those badwrong horrible NOTP shippers or aces or middle aged women or some random artist who got caught drawing the wrong age gap or whoever is the fashionable target will prove that you aren't a horrible monster for being a man, you're moral and upright and correct.

And yes a lot of it is internalised misandry (that word has a lot of dumb baggage, but how else can I describe a boy who hates himself for being a boy?), or self-loathing born of dysphoria and just plain having to live in a world that's hostile to trans people.

Being an anti is a way out. It's a way to manufacture acceptence. And they're too young and too hurt to realise that that acceptance is as temporary and hostile as the people who accept them only if they pretend to be girls; the antis will turn on them the moment they start acting a little too manly or if they're caught liking the wrong ship.

(I've seen something similar happen to young cis queer guys and trans girls, too, but it isn't as pronounced since being raised as a boy means you probably already learned that standing up for yourself is ok sometimes)

I'm sure it also doesn't help that tumblr is absolutely full of BL/slash fandom. There's certainly plenty of gender diversity in these spaces, but it's inescapable that the majority of participants are women. So for a young, insecure guy trying to assert that he is a guy, it's easy to fall prey to "Waaaah, I need to reclaim my hobby for me!" gatekeepy nonsense.

Sure, it's going to be turned on nbs even harder than on cis women and will be used to misgender other trans men in the end and misogyny isn't cool anyway, but that's not what your average traumatized young fool is thinking when they first join up. They're thinking "I hurt."

TBH, though, probably the largest component is that all of us—all of us—have a mental image of a default human for a given context. It's rarely a trans man. And so anything a trans man does stands out and is A Thing Trans Men Do.

This is true even if you are trans. It is true even if you are not a transphobic dickhead. Unlearning the 'why girls are bad at math' xkcd strip is extraordinarily hard because recognizing patterns and having mental defaults is just how human brains work.

There are shittons of cis women who become antis, but they're just not notable in the same way.

Are trans men more vulnerable to becoming antis? It's possible, and the reasons you outlined above are likely why. I think it's an interesting question to discuss if we are specifically discussing why the trans men who do become antis do so.

But we don't actually have any hard facts to support that they are more prone to it than anybody else. My guess would be that vulnerable people are more likely to become antis, so any cis woman with a strong source of vulnerability like a shittastic home life is similarly vulnerable to a young trans man with no support network, but who knows.

Maybe only 5% of trans men on tumblr are antis and 50% of cis women. Maybe it's 90% of trans men and 20% of cis women. Maybe it's 1% and 1% and they're just all very loud.

We have no data. We just don't know.

And we will never be able to trust our own brains on this until trans vs. cis is such a nonissue that we don't even notice it.

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