#male bashing

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

Look at the young men around you. Today – right now – the biggest threat to his life is suicide.

Tomorrow the biggest threat to his life is suicide, again.

And the next day, and the next, and the day after that.

Suicide is the single greatest risk to young men’s lives; all day, every day, until he’s about 50.

If that doesn’t wake you up to the true male experience, and how we’ve failed to support men and boys, then I don’t know what will.

So what do we do about it?

How do we save our men and boys?

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More here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/11paotk/suicide_is_the_leading_cause_of_death_in_men_from/

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"Male privilege" is when the thing that is most likely to kill you is you. And you're still told the whole world is setup for your benefit.

#The Tin Men #male privilege #male suicide #suicide #toxic masculinity #loneliness #purpose #life purpose #demonization #demonization of men #male bashing #religion is a mental illness

[lejacquelope]

One has to wonder if a young man is an outright fool for wanting to date in this day and age. Look at what's awaiting you.

#feminism #misandry #men #women #dating #male bashing #Youtube

[ink-ami]

Get yourself someone that warms up around you like Neuvillette warms up when melusines are involded.

#this is not bashing on wriothesley #he would have reacted the same with any human #my type is male milfs #neuvillette #genshin impact #gi #genshin fanart #fontaine #neuvilette genshin #comic #shitty comic #shitpost #my art #ink-ami's art

[danu2203]

#MALE BASHING

[littlefeltsparrow]

There’s a problem with the way Sarah J Maas depicts physical abuse/intimidation in ACOTAR

The fact that Tamlin’s physical abuse of Feyre being communicated through a magical/emotional outburst is problematic in the sense that it undercuts the reason why abuse happens. Incorporating magical concepts into a portrayal of domestic violence muddles the issue at hand and makes the abuse an accidental consequence of involuntary magical impulses as opposed to a deliberate tactic of intimidation and control. This issue is exacerbated by the fact that Feyre too, experiences an uncontrollable magical/emotional outburst during the High Lords meeting due to Beron’s provocative remarks. To be clear, I don’t view Tamlin as detestable or as an irredeemable abuser, but the text very much does. What I want to comment on is the problematic framing of Tamlin’s actions that are meant to characterize him as an abusive partner to Feyre.

So, I’m going to compare and contrast a scene from ACOMAF with a scene from ACOWAR, both of which depict magical outbursts that are brought on by intense emotional stress or rage.

ACOMAF

Here, Feyre objects to Tamlin’s protective measures he had enacted earlier. She expresses how suffocated she feels and how she wishes that she had the breathing room to cope with her new reality and that Tamlin’s actions are making her suffer. Furthermore, Feyre introduces her doubt in their engagement and expresses her reservations. Tamlin then goes blank, reacting explosively with his power blowing the room into splinters.

This is a good first step towards characterizing Tamlin as an abusive partner (despite the leaps it took to get there) But, where it goes wrong is the emphasis the text puts on Tamlin's blank expression and subsequent magical response. He loses control momentarily, but the issue about this portrayal is that abuse is not "losing control" or accidental, it is a conscious decision made by the abuser. But here, Maas makes it seem as though Tamlin really was not in control, that the heightened emotions made him react that way.

It gives Tamlin an out and consequently undercuts the message Maas is trying to communicate. Bringing magic into the scene takes away Tamlin's agency and removes a portion of his culpability in harming Feyre.

This scene should not have been Tamlin simply losing control of his temper, if Maas wanted to enhance her abuse narrative, she should have taken Tamlin’s temper and had him weaponize it. Intimidation is a possibility, one that would work towards making Feyre feel scared about voicing ver true feelings on their relationship. But Maas doesn’t go all the way, she doesn’t lean into that interpretation and instead plays it straight.

This is also undercut by Tamlin's second magical outburst in ACOWAR. Feyre intentionally provoking him does nothing for Maas's abuse narrative and actively undermines it by strengthening the idea that Tamlin's destructive outbursts really were caused by overwhelming emotions. Once again, it gives Tamlin a way out and dilutes the message.

The notion of an involuntary magical outburst is applied again in ACOWAR

Beron’s inflammatory remarks provoke an immediate reaction from Feyre, she goes blank so to speak, and can no longer focus due to the intensity of her emotions. This manifests in a fiery outburst that throws the meeting into disarray and injures the Lady of Autumn accidentally.

She’s so angry that she can’t think straight or logically, and it manifests in an attack. Though this isn't exactly the same, Feyre's "blinding fury" is so powerful that it cannot be restrained and ends up harming an innocent party. This moment strengthens the case for magic manifesting strong emotions as external attacks, characterizing it to some extent as involuntary.

Ultimately, the magical element removes the agency of the individuals in question. It frames their violence not as a conscious act designed to inspire fear, but as a genuinely accidental reaction to intense emotions. This is why the "Tamlin is an evil abuser" narrative is so weak. Because it dilutes the severity of the violence and makes it seem as though these kinds of emotional outbursts are an element of possessing magical powers. It gestures at a larger issue of Maas picking and choosing when and where she wants to apply real-world standards to her characters' morality. It makes events less believable and hypocritical, making allowances for certain characters, but condemning others without adequate narrative set-up.

This is why Maas is fundamentally incapable of recognizing the abusive dynamic she constructs with Feysand. It is a combination of double standards, authorial bias and a misunderstanding of how abuse manifests.

#sjm critical #Even when Maas hates a male character and bashes him constantly she still offers him a shred of plausible deniability due to the magic syst #I just think that Maas does a terrible job of writing a coherent abuse narrative #Acowar #acomaf #acotar #anti sjm #acomaf critical #tamlin #feyre archeron #anti rhysand #anti inner circle #acotar meta #acotar critical #anti sarah j maas #not a Tamlin hater

[ssa-atlas-alvez]

heyyy i have a silly little idea!

What if male!reader was the oldest Winchester brother and was dating Aaron Hotchner? idk just a silly little idea i had, Love your writing and make sure to drink lots of water!

Okay so I kind of took this and ran with it, I hope you don't mind aha

Also, reader's like 14 years older than Dean, so in my head he's John's kid from another relationship and is 7 years old when John and Mary get married (based on this timeline I found).

(I might come back to this and do another part at some point aha)

Warnings: John bashing, homophobia mentions

"Hey, you guys want to meet a friend of mine?" You asked, looking at your brothers. Sam nodded, Dean merely shrugged.

"Sure, whatever," He mumbled as he stood up. You held back a sigh, trying to remind yourself that he was just going through a rough patch at the minute. Normally, he took moving from place to place in his stride, but he was struggling this time. You couldn't help but think that perhaps he had connected with someone in Mississippi during the month and a half you were all there. Besides, he was only ten, so it was bound to affect him a lot - despite how much he pretends it doesn't.

Now, you had been in Virginia for the last three months (apparently it was riddled with monsters). You met him your first day here, he had asked for your number with a charm that made your knees weak - so you gave it to him. Despite the charges for texting, you did so every day.

Sam turned to you, "Are they a special friend, (Y/N)?" He asks quietly, unsure if you're going to be offended by the question.

"Yeah, he is Sammy,"

Sam grinned, "Like a special, special friend?"

You huffed a quiet laugh, "Yeah, kid, a special special friend,"

Sam nodded, satisfied with your answer.

"How old is he exactly?" Dean asked as he folded his arms.

"He's 28,"

"28?!" Dean's eyes widen, "Dude, he's so much older than you!"

"It's four years Dean, chill." You rolled your eyes slightly.

"I think it's cool," Sam chimed as he walked up to the pair of you.

"Thank you, Sam." You said, "But we need to keep this between us, okay? Dad can't find out, alright?"

"Why?" Sam asked, looking up at you. You sighed, crouching down to his height. He was only six, he didn't quite know everything that you guys did just yet. Or at least understand it to a full extent. He also didn't understand your dad's... beliefs, let's say, to a full extent either.

"Dad, he... he won't agree with it," You explained gently.

"Why?" Sam asked again.

"He's homofonic." Dean said confidently.

"Homophobic," You correctly gently.

"What does that mean?"

"Well, it's when someone doesn't like that a man and a man or a woman and a woman get together,"

"Like boyfriend and boyfriend?" Sam asked and you nodded, "That's allowed? I thought it was only boyfriends and girlfriends allowed,"

"Well, it was illegal for a long time," You explained, "But it's getting better,"

"Are you allowed to get married to another boy now?"

"Only in a few states," You said.

"Is that why you don't really tell people?"

"Yeah, that's why I don't tell people," You said, "That's why I haven't told dad,"

"Okay," Sam nodded, excepting this once more, "Is your special special friend your boyfriend?"

"Yeah, yeah he is," You said, smiling softly, Sam beamed up at you.

"Really?!"

You nodded, "Yep,"

"That's so cool am I gonna have another big brother?!"

You chuckled softly, ruffling his hair, "Maybe, Sammy, you'll have to ask him,"

"What's his name?"

"Aaron,"

"What's his job?"

"He works for the FBI," You said after a moment's hesitation.

"Are you serious?"

"Dean, I don't wanna hear it,"

"But he's a fed, (Y/N)!" Dean exclaims, following you through the motel hall.

"And?" You ask, raising an eyebrow.

"Seriously?" Dean shakes his head, "Dad'll go mental if he finds out."

"Exactly. If." There's a beat, "Besides, I'm a grown ass man, Dean."

"He's not gonna be happy when he finds out about this." He huffs, folding his arms.

"He's not going to find out about this, you hear me?" You said, "I already told you, no one tells dad, do I make myself clear?"

"Who died and made you king?" Dean snaps.

"Dean, I don't wanna fucking hear it, okay?" You reply, "I'm an adult. You're a kid. Now, get in the car,"

"I don't understand why dad gave you the impala." Dean huffed as he sat in the front seat.

"How about this, when you're old enough to drive, you can drive it and I'll let you have it, yeah?"

"Really?!" You watch as Dean's face light up and you nod.

"Yeah," You smiled slightly, "Now, come on, let's go."

Sam looked at you and gave a small shrug before getting in the car.

It was a short drive to Aaron's apartment, Sam had asked questions the entire way about Aaron and your relationship (ever the curious mind), Dean had pretended not to care (but secretly did). And, soon enough, you parked the Impala and all piled out.

Aaron, as promised, met you outside, smiling. "Hey," He stepped closer to you but made no move to kiss you.

You smiled back, "Hey." Dean coughed loudly, "Oh, right, this is Sam and this is Dean."

Aaron turns to them, "I've heard a lot about you two, you're brother's very proud of you."

"Really?" Sam grinned.

"Of course kid," You ruffled his hair. "Come on, let's go inside."

When you were all inside, Aaron shut the door gently before kissing your cheek. "I missed you,"

"It's been a whole two days,"

"Two days too many," He said softly, Dean cleared his throat.

"Can you not in front of us?" Dean asked, "It's a bit gross,"

You blushed slightly, closing your eyes for a moment before turning to your brothers, "Sorry, go sit on the couch and watch tv or something," You said. Dean nodded, making his way to the couch, but Sam stayed. "What's up?"

"I have some questions," He said gently, looking up at you.

You share a smile with Aaron before you both nod, "Sure," You said - all sitting down at the small table, "What's on your mind, kid?"

"Um, so you're boyfriends?"

"Yep,"

"Is that dangerous?" Sam asked, gnawing at the skin of his bottom lip.

"What do you mean?" You asked gently.

"Well it used to be not allowed so people must have been against it. You won't get hurt for it, will you?"

Your heart melted, seeing the concern on your younger brother's face and you shook your head, "I'll be okay," You reassured, "I'm your big brother, I'll always be okay,"

"But Dean said on the way here that there's some people who are really really against it,"

You closed your eyes, making a note to yourself to talk to Dean about that later. "Yes that can happen sometimes, but I'm not going to let that happen to me, okay?"

"Promise?"

"I promise,"

"Okay, good." With this, he turned to Aaron, "Are you going to be my older brother too?"

#aaron hotchner #criminal minds fanfiction #supernatural fanfiction #dean winchester #sam winchester #(y/n) winchester #john winchester #aaron hotchner x y/n winchester #aaron hotchner x male reader #aaron hotchner x reader #male reader #reader #big brother reader #young sam and dean winchester #john winchester bashing #homophobia mentions

[turtleblogatlast]

If you dont mind me asking, on which season of 2012 tmnt are you at?

It’s been a while since I’ve been able to sit down and watch but I’m pretty sure I’m at some point in season 2? So still a long way to go but admittedly I’ve already been spoiled on more than one thing haha. I like the characters a lot though, they’re very prickly and react to things a lot more realistically than I thought they would.

#non au ask #dunno who my favorite is honestly they’re all great #at the moment I think 2012 Donnie may be my fav? simply bc he is very cringefail and it makes me laugh bless his heart #but my fav keeps being juggled around tbh #I’m also a hardened April defender like I may be early on but I’ve heard of what happens later and I still think she’s great 😤 #the woes of liking fictional female characters #that have the gall of having flaws like their male counterparts #ngl I’ve had a soft spot for 2012 for a while bc I kept seeing fics try and bash it? and I never understood why #and getting into the series and hearing everyone’s justifications for bashing it…still don’t get it! #maybe I’m more forgiving to media than I should be but oh well I’m enjoying it and these teenagers are good kids

[minimallyminnie]

No because I made a character to be shipped with a character in a game and I click on Male Reader x [Character] and the first thing I see is Fem Reader x [Character]! And it’s not even funny. I’m not bashing female reader, just don’t tag the goddamn wrong tag if it’s only her. This goes the other way too, if it’s only male don’t put x female.

IF IT’S ONLY FEM, DON’T PUT X MALE READER TOO. GENDERNEUTRAL IS OK FOR FEM, MALE, OR ANY OTHER GENDER BECAUSE ITS YOUR CHOICE BUT IM TIRED OF SEEING WRONG TAGS WHEN ITS ONLY FEMALE READER WHEN IM LOOKING FOR MALE READER.

#minniemoots #mindlessclow #x reader #ramble #bashing #x female reader #x male reader #x gender neutral reader #gn reader #fem reader #male reader #twisted wonderland x reader #twisted wonderland x male reader #ffs

[dawnsiren]

I just finished episode 8 of The Power and I have to say I love the choice the show made to have Viktor’s death at Tatiana’s hands not come by means of EOD as I’m sure most of us were expecting (especially after Solongo gave it to her) but instead by being beaten over the head repeatedly with a…. Rather phallic shaped piece of decor. Like. Not only was it a bit of a surprise for the audience, it also says so much about so many things. It shows that Tatiana could have saved herself all along. She had that capability the whole time. And I’m not saying that in a victim blaming way. It’s more…. She didn’t need this magical sci-fi biological weapon to escape the situation she was in. This isn’t something that’s only possible in a fictional world. And while her escape came in a very final and legally inadvisable way, it’s just something that can be so deeply personal, one of those things that just… is rooted so deeply in the collective consciousness of womanhood. That pain and fury at how you’re treated by men in power that builds up over time until it bursts out in one way or another. I can only hope some other woman in Tatiana’s position out there somewhere sees that scene and realizes she has that same capacity to take her life back, whether that means divorce/leaving in whatever fashion, pursuing legal action, or, yes, maybe even Tatiana’s method, though for legal reasons I can’t advise beating your abuser to death with a whatever-the-heck-it-was.

I just really loved that scene. And am incredibly impressed by Tatiana’s acting abilities after the fact, although I do feel for Solongo because…. Yikes

#Also I didn’t want to write this in the main post but…. The way it becomes increasingly clear that as she moves towards him #That it isn’t just about Vadim anymore. The way her voice gets more emotional each time she asks what Vadim ever did to him #And you could just tell in the last few that she really meant “what did *I* ever do?” #The way Viktor isn’t feeling threatened by her despite how she’s coming at him with a statue(?) and even after she breaks his nose with it #His only response is confusion and anger. He underestimated her until the very end because she was a woman #And then she killed him with a dick-shaped object; basically bashing his skull in with his own concept of male superiority #The way the whole time she’s doing it the camera is on her face and not on him; because this scene isn’t /about/ him #It’s about her. Her growth. Her freedom. #The Power #the power spoilers #The power amazon #tatiana moskalev

[c1gs4ftersex]

sick of this bullshit.

#i can feel my dysphoria getting worse #about to start throwing hands #bashing my head against the wall #male y/n #x male reader

[lejacquelope]

Women now say they don't need men.

Too bad we can't fucking replace them with something better. :P

(Now watch the feminists lose their hypocritical shit over a joke.)

#feminism #misandry #men #women #male bashing #women say they don't need men #the view #Youtube

[lord-radish]

imagine thinking that trans men are inherently bad or evil or predatory on the basis of gendered privilege and societal power structures. cringe

#transmasc discourse #like the idea that trans men gain male privilege and kick down the ladder to beat on the queer community is astonishingly stupid at best #the idea that transphobia or queerphobia as a whole doesn't affect them because they're Assimilating With The Oppressors is like #man fucking what is up with people yknow #gender essentialism is fucked up and it's the same force that's beaten down on bi ace and transfem people #the fact that this has turned into 'trans rights but only for the women' by some dumb-fuck shitstains is awful #no. trans rights for all. #like let me explain what I mean here: trans men aren't seen as men by transphobes #it's not 'oh you're a fella? crack a cold beer and let's bash some gays'. passing as a man has just as much risk to it as passing as a woman #because a man who will attack a trans woman as someone who is not a woman will most likely attack a trans man he does not see as a man #with the same violence he might level against a cis woman #that's just on the masc side. i can't speak for any violence against trans men by cis women but I can see how cis women discredit trans men #by claiming them as Lost Lesbians and Sisters In Arms who've been lost due to the Trans Agenda #like people shit on bi people because they have 'passing privilege'. but we know that bi people face homophobia #and other issues about their orientation. the idea that trans men get their Boys Will Be Boys card is to focus on a tiny selection #that *potentially* has the power to he a shithead - like a queerphobic asexual person or a malicious bi person #and paint an entire group of diverse people as literally the worst interpretation you can imagine about them #like consider that you have your own issues and/or biases in regards to people you like and want to hang out with #and stop calling entire groups of people invaders and oppressors whose entire goal is to upend the community #and turn the power of queer people against them #i understand how it feels to feel powerless and to have somewhere where you feel supported and safe #but if you're going to see pain and hate in every group who shares your experience but gives you an ick for whatever reason #there's a solid chance that the Righteous Crusade against them is - in fact - your own personal dislike wielding a modicum of power #that essentially functions the same way that hetero- and cis-normative standards and people have rejected you. #it is essentially you becoming the bully. and just like bi and ace and transfem people before I won't stand for it #trans men are my people.

[vilsoo]

male jjk “fans” on twitter are so fucking weird and annoying and this applies to every male shounen fanbase out there 🙃 just a cesspool of incels that love hating on women that genuinely enjoy the series

#( ♥︎ ) — messy talk. #discourse kinda #everyday i love being a misandrist <33 #im always always gonna be pro women idc #but thats not the point here #male shounen fans should all burn #the shipping isnt even a major issue in the jjk fandom #idk why theyre so fixated on hating ppl (majority jjk fans who are women) #because they ship satosugu even tho its canon #and even having a problem with thirsting over gojo or toji??? #i understand that some mfs do say some out of pocket shit about the men in jjk #but at the end of the day you still bash women 🤷🏻‍♀️ #all the males in the jjk fandom have is no media literacy #i’d rather be in a room full of jjk fangirls who talk abt gojos asshole 24/7 on twitter than a single power scaling anime dudebro #you mfs wouldn’t even LAST on jjk tumblr #like we’re much more worse ngl

[aptericia]

while I'm thinking about it bc of that last reblog...

I love you Octopath but would it kill you to be normal about fatness? Do you really have to have the most prominent fat characters (Giff, La'mani, and Mother) not only be chapter bosses but also among the most selfish and un-nuanced of them? And the one fat character who isn't evil (Pom) is obsessed with food? Really?

#man I'm really bashing this game today #shall we add its comparatively-reasonable-but-still-questionable treatment of female characters? #let's see... the protagonists are split evenly between male and female (no one outside the gender binary ofc). However... #I don't feel like tallying every named character but the (human) chapter bosses are split 15 male/7 female #(15/8 if you include the endgame bosses) #and that's only the ones you fight. There are virtually no other female antagonists besides those but there are plenty of male ones #fortunately the game is reasonable about lgbtq+ folk seeing as everyone in the entire game is aro (according to me anyway) #ramblings #8path2 #fatphobia

[olivers-cocoapuffs]

“I want more content of the girls” okay. Make the content you want to see

#“The black sisters aren’t as fleshed out as the brothers are” #Because majority of content creators are trans mascs who prefer male characters to validate themselves #“Lily not raising Harry is shitty” #Then write a story where she does. Go on. #I literally am some guy that’s been given access to devices #I don’t have a degree in anything #Make the content you want to see and stop bashing people for doing it for themselves #I’m including making people feel guilty about enjoying characters that HAPPEN to be male instead of ones that HAPPEN to be female #the marauders

[mimble-sparklepudding]

Humble Outfit.

Humble wasn't at all sure about the armour gifted to him by the Viis, even though they assured him that, as an honoured ally of Ronka, the Emperor would definitely have wanted him to have it.

However, he was far too polite to refuse them, even if he was tempted to ask if it was actually supposed to have all those bits missing, or if it was just designed for a warrior of significantly more modest proportions.

Still, he comforted himself with the thought that at least Amh Araeng was practically uninhabited, so nobody was going to be around to stare at him once he left The Crystarium. Hopefully...

#humble soapstone #ffxiv #warrior of bashful #ffxiv oc #ff14 ffxiv #final fantasy xiv #roegadyn #ffxiv roegadyn #male roegadyn