#like sincerely GET FUCKED

[weepynymph]

i know i shouldn't have done it i knew this would happen but i clicked on the official atla youtube channel's 'rating avatar ships' video and ten seconds in my blood was boiling at how they talk about zutara as if its some kind of deviant unhealthy ship that only young girls ship before they 'grow up' and realise how 'toxic' it is

#like sincerely GET FUCKED #i cannot with how biased the channel is to kat@ang like i get it thats your canon ship but the way they dunk on zutara is so wrong #oof anyway needed to get that off my chest #zutara #only one of the women there said she shipped zutara and you'd think she'd suggested murdering puppies or something #the shock from everyone was a bit much #and then she proceeded to try and justify it by saying she only used to ship them before she got older and saw the light 🙄

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[gjdraws]

I love your kakagai art! I kinda miss it already

op I have news for u

#kakagai #naruto #hatake kakashi #maito gai #like theyre my forever ship alright #also sincerely hope u see this the ask is like a week old #sketches #LMAO FUCKED UP HIS HAND but thats what u get for altering compos after

[zend-pixie]

you guys ever think about how Emma was so elated to see Paul during "inevitable" that she didn't notice his heart wasn't beating. cause i think about that a lot

#tgwdlm #paul matthews #emma perkins #starkid #hatchetfield #paulkins #the guy who didn't like musicals #like she was right up against his chest #sure she didn't get a whole lot of time to notice or pay attention to that but #usually chest warmth and a slight hum is the FIRST thing u notice when hugging someone that's taller than you (sincerely - a 5'3 little guy #which means she was so happy to see him it didnt get to hit her that he was fucking dead #pixie talks #wow been a while since i made my own post good evening everypony

[imminent-danger-came]

A "MK is Related to the Underworld Somehow. Probably." List With Commentary (And I Consider it Evidence for EAMK)

(1x08 Skeleton Key)

(LIKE CAN I PLEASE HAVE AN EXPLANATION FOR THIS SCENE. CAN I PLEASE HAVE AN EXPLANATION??? WHAT. WHY. WHY WOULD YOU EVEN GIVE HIM THE KEY IN THE FIRST PLACE.)

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(1x08 Skeleton Key)

(Idiot boy putting the skeleton key in his ear.)

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(2x03 Pig Pong Panic)

(MK + Bones. Never a good sign)

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(2x05 Minor Scale)

(Is this perhaps just LBD trying to take control of MK? Maybe. Is it also really weird how her powers interact with MK in general? For sure!)

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(2x06 Game on)

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(2x07 Shadow Play)

(Number one: The Lady Bone Demon wasn't here to provoke this, number two: MK using "blue vision" to see his friend's fate inside the lantern is equally strange!)

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(2x09 72 Transformations)

(Again, could very well be LBD trying to take control of MK here—however, it doesn't seem like she's trying to do much of anything to MK in this scene, as she's focused on spider queen. So it weirds me out and goes into this post!)

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(3x03 Smartie Kid)

(So, if the stuff in s2 was LBD affecting MK then I get it. BUT THEN WHY HAVE MORE BLUE EYES IN S3 AFTER LBD HAS ALREADY "TAKEN" MK'S POWERS AND THE STAFF. Genuinely want to know what this was meant to imply.)

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(3x12 The Corrupted King)

(LBD HAS ALREADY POSSESSED WUKONG HERE. Wukong and the Mech alone was spreading her too thin. She certainly wasn't attempting to posses MK here—so what was happening?)

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(4x01 Familiar Tales)

(The scroll ink touches MK not once, but twice this episode and it doesn't ensnare MK. The scroll touches Monkey King once and this is what happens to him: )

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(4x02 Familiar Tales)

(The scroll's ink emanates from MK, which I thought was crazy at first BUT IT THEN HAPPENS AGAIN IN 4x11)

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(4x03 The Great Tang Man)

(Soooo we see a vision of an all inked up MK, then we see the stone cracking, then we see a shot of the curse from 4x02, and THEN MK turns Tang Sanzang's golden power blue, a color associated with both LBD and the underworld in general. HM.)

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(4x06 Show Me the Monster)

(There's no hair flip so it's not MK, so it would make me think that this is an ink version of SWK next to the stone. It's weird so I'm including it!)

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(4x06 Show Me the Monster)

(So. Ink blotting out the sun, something MK/SWK are often associated with, and then pouring out of the cracked stone, which we just learned MK was born from. And then the curse takes MK's form. I'm tripping over my own conspiracy board here.)

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MK: "You're not my friend—you're NOT me!" Curse MK: "Sure I am! I'm your best friend, well, closest at least! I know more about you than you'll even admit—to yourself, or to others."

(4x07 Pitiful Creatures)

(The curse claiming it's a part of MK is weird! The curse looking like MK in it's most weakened state is also weird! It's all weird!)

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(4x08 The Brotherhood)

(Absolutely no reason for a weird teal smudge to be there, and yet)

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(4x11 A Lifetime of Mistakes)

(BOOM. SCROLL EMANATING FROM MK AGAIN.)

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(4x11 A Lifetime of Mistakes)

(The broken memories flickering in the scroll are very similar to the way MK flickers in and out of monkey form: )

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(4x13 Rip and Tear)

(Scroll ink touches MK again and he does not become imprisoned inside it again. The scroll at the very least has no affect on the boy)

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And I think for now that wraps up this post!

#sincerely think MK is related to the underworld/is some sort of fucked up memory based creature #''Now I will undo the memories of this world'' hmm. Will you LBD? AND IF MK WAS YOUR ORIGINAL POWER SOURCE—I'M JUST SAYING #getting this post out before the tdp s5 trailer which I know will ruin me #Look I know the red string is strong here. But that's okay. #Sometimes you just gotta throw shit at a wall and see what sticks. #Let's play the game of ''am I noticing purposeful details'' or ''am I just overthinking it'' #The game I play everyday #BUT. This would all play into eamk (eldritch abomination MK) let me tell you #And now he's like. A weird power soup with both SWK's powers and whatever other powers from the underworld/scroll #lmk #lmk MK #lego monkie kid #monkie kid #lmk theory #eamk theory

[dewhander]

ive come to terms with the fact that it’ll be very unlikely for me to ever finish these so take them…faux paper craft my beloved

#star wars original trilogy #im sorry i really was not fucking with the other two movies i only like a new hope #theyre young adults theyre dumb i love that #luke gets weird in the next two movies like i sincerely believe he’d be a very bad commander. #luke skywalker #han solo #leia organa #star wars a new hope #art tag #star wars tag

[entropy-sea-system]

I wish there would actually be more alloaro characters.. and non sam aro, and neu aro, aromid, aroqueer, just aro, etc.

#Im going to explode if another creator claims a character is aromantic then you know just decides the only way #that can be is if the character was aroace #like thats not the only way to be aro.. give us aro rep that doesnt hinge entirely on asexuality this is frankly disappointing #aro #aromantic #non ace aro #arospec #aspec #sincerely an alloaro who wants some actual fucking rep #it gets a little tiring seeing the aroaces and alloaces get so much rep while we have like scraps of rep...

[andromeda3116]

people actually went on about how game of thrones made it socially acceptable to be a fantasy nerd, as though the lord of the rings movies hadn't been released less than a decade earlier and left far greater cultural ripples and i am just

got may have made the adults feel better about liking fantasy, but lotr got into the kids' heads when they (we) were just young and impressionable enough to be absolutely transported and emotionally rewritten by don't you leave him, samwise gamgee and my brother, my captain, my king and and rohan will answer

lotr was rewriting entire generations' brain chemistry long before asoiaf and so obviously it's not fair to compare any post-lotr fantasy novel to it, and each book series was trying to do different things within their own spheres and so that also is not a fair comparison, but in terms of the cultural impact of the adaptations that came out within a decade of each other, saying that it was game of thrones that made fantasy mainstream is baffling

game of thrones could only run because the lord of the rings movies laid the path, and i will die on this hill

#lotr #lord of the rings #lord of the rings movies #i started this post because ''may it be'' came up on my playlist but now i think i'm going to start my nth rewatch of the trilogy #there is a lot to discuss about it re: comparison to the books but it's like... #for all the changes they made - good and bad and neutral - everyone involved in making the films *loved* the source material #they all *wanted* to do justice to it and believed in it and it shows #i think of some posts i've seen about how frustrating this modern push towards tongue-in-cheek irony over sincerity #so afraid to be corny or cheesy that you have to tack a joke onto every real emotional moment #like no fuck that #give me sam hauling frodo onto his shoulders saying ''i can't carry it for you but i can carry you'' #give me aragorn gently kissing boromir's forehead as he dies #give me merry and pippin throwing themselves at the uruk hai to distract them from frodo #give me theoden's grand speeches and gandalf's pained expression when frodo says he'll carry the ring #tbh i think that sincerity is a large part of *why* it has such staying power even now #because it is a story you are meant to get deeply emotionally invested in and not hold yourself a little ironically apart from #it isn't meant to sell merch it's meant to bring you to middle-earth and capture your heart and make you believe that the war can be won #with love and loyalty and hope and fellowship and fidelity and integrity and just... just refusing to give in to despair #it is earnest. it is unafraid to be melodramatic or corny because it believes in the story it's telling. #and so it imprinted onto a whole generation growing up right at the cusp of a barrage of apocalypses #anyway. i have Feelings about these movies and their impact and how that mirrors and enhances the books' own impact

[latenight-ramen]

I want Shoko to be a real one and do what that old lady of the sand village did in naruto where she revived gaara in exchange for her life

#jjk #jujutsu kaisen #gojo #gojo satoru #listen I like shoko #but I don’t care at this point #she’s all alone now anyway like what is she there for just to suffer? #don’t even get me started with Yuji that poor poor boy #fuck you gege #sincerely and wholeheartedly #I might actually write a fix it fic about this #jjk 236 #jjk spoilers

[dimonds456]

Mike is back at it again Being The Fucking Worst so here's a reminder that any and all interpretations of the BATIM cast, but especially ones that lean more into minority representation, ARE valid and should be loved and appreciated. With BATIM now officially being an all-white, straight, cis cast, there are no rules. Go absolutely wild.

Fuck you Mike.

#batim #bendy and the ink machine #dreams come to life #dctl #jacob i havent seen your official design yet but i sincerely hope they didnt change you too #and you're still canon to me. i'm making sure you get a spot in the Rewrite now just to spite Mike #fuck you mike for like everything #dimond speaks

[psychopomping]

ok I'm catching up and i know i wondered why sklonda was upset but i get it now in scene. for her her son seems to be taking so much weight why doesn't it seem like his friends ! why is he always carrying stuff for everyone else why is he focusing on the wins of everyone not reaching for his own accolades you know??

#does this fucking make sense #but like #i get her #a moment of doubt is all you need #esp since riz is so sincerely and truly himself #so like it would be easy to take advantage #d20 #fantasy high #fhjy #sklonda gukgak #riz gukgak #basically i get her i get her worry and she does love his friends because omg friends and they're sweet #but as a mom u will always worry about your child #also ily riz it's so true though #carrying the weight of everything!!! #share some of that with your friends #echo chamber

[mousemarner]

I know at the end of the day we’re all gay people watching the homoerotic psychosexual repression movie and I GET why people are complaining that Felix and Oliver never kiss and that there’s apparently deleted scene footage of them kissing, but like. There is a REASON that moment was deleted there’s a reason that’s not in the film because it is like CENTRAL to the thesis of saltburn that they can NEVER consummate whatever the fuck is happening between them. Felix is like the one person Oliver CAN’T consume and it drives him CRAZY like. There’s a reason That Moment is their last moment before. You know.

#I sincerely believe if they had kissed the movie would be lesser for it #now that said I did yell out loud ‘I NEED THEM TO FUCK NASTY’ no less than four times while watching #like I GET it I do. I do. #but I think it is the stronger choice that they Can’t resolve their tension ever #in my life #saltburn spoilers

[footballshowrot]

right side of my neck

#illness👍 #uhhhhhhm.................☝️right side of his neck.........oh goddddddddddddddddddddddd #[making sincere royjamie edits] right. someone get the bolt gun #certainly is a Choice to have him nestle his face into the same side of roys neck😐........... #me:🥴(<-guy who slept from 9 to 12 last night. woke up. pirated the episode. watched it at like 3am and has been awake SINCE.) #its the afternoon now. these fucking guys DERAILED ME.............😄👍 #okay......be free edit........fly away.......... #royjamie #roy kent #jamie tartt #royjamie edit #jamie tartt edit #roy kent edit #my edit #rot riffing

[sendmyresignation]

i do think the recent my chem music journalism Discourse (in the traditional dialog sense.) is interesting bc this kind of weird defensiveness regarding mcr is something ive seen like since the reunion and in pieces about the "emo revival" where writers spend sooo much time offering themselves up to the altar of cringe or say shit like "well the pandemics made us all nostalgic for being 14 again" (smthing i actually read like sorry to you but i never want to be 14 again) and i think it truly boils down to people not taking my chem or any of this era like. seriously. as like intentional art. even by fans. it's so bizarre. like my chem were melodramic with a purpose not just something teenagers identified with and i have no idea why that keeps getting lost even during this recent period of like. sentimentality for the genre.

#obv by fans i mean like. ppl writing articles lmao i think we all are appreciative of mcrs clarity of purpose #like these bands. tbs and the used and paramore and panic and etc etc were all speaking to real emotion #and to see that get disregarded in this reevaluation for some yearning for better easier years when i could be more myself shit... #makes me feel crazy. like lets not pretend this subculture (which with emo is sooo fucking complicated a q in and of itself) is perfect #but to completely miss the point??? the sincerity????? esp in a time that was sorely needed both within music and societially. jesus. #my posts

[fantasticalleigh]

🖤🖤🖤🖤Another one for The Education of a Lady 🖤🖤🖤🖤

used this Pin as a reference

#fantasticalleigh's art #fantasticalleighs art #dramione #dramione art #dramione fanart #dark dramione #draco malfoy #hermione granger #artists on tumblr #illustrators on tumblr #shoutout to that one shithead who once left a review on this fic saying my art is terrible and that i shouldn't bother sharing it #guess what bitch: the point is to keep doing it in order to get better that's how it works #i was proud of my work at the time just like i'm proud of this one now #i sincerely hope you don't go talking to other artists that way bc not everyone is going to be able to take a comment like that well #so fuck you and sorry for my followers who see this in the tags and go wtf? #but that's actually one of the comments that have really bothered me and i do actually think about it a lot #so whoever that anon was: i've gotten better (not that i need to prove it to anyone) #and i hope you go suck a wet fart out of your own asshole before you comment some shit like that ever again

[bonefall]

I know you're keeping Clear Sky as an antagonist (and he's very compelling as one in your rewrite), but I'm curious: if you absolutely had to give him a redemption arc, how would you go about it? (Besides not fridging his sister and wives, of course.)

If I was forced to give Clear Sky a redemption arc I'd slip a femur right out of my legmeat and beat someone to death with it

I'd never write a redemption arc for him, ever. It would be a completely different character.

Clear Sky's redemption arc is not even an idea worth considering; This an extremely consistent abusive family member who drives the entire plot, a predator who will leverage the love people have for him, whose defining characteristic is that he dresses up his megalomania as "Just Trying to Protect Everyone"

And I'd give that up?! for what?

I'd rewrite the whole plot, JUST like how the writers did with TWO born evil foreigner villains so their story wouldn't get boring, so I could prove the he could be a good boy if he wanted to? WHY?

It's doing the same thing the Erins do, totally uninterested in the story of his victims to write yet another plot centered around the pain of an abusive man.

Elder Bones is disappointed in you if you even think about it, actually. I am holding the femurbone in my hand as we speak. I'm gonna GETCHA

#Bone Babble #Clear Sky can be redeemed in my wine cellar. if he'd like to come down to take a look #And I am sorry but like. I've never seen it done well. ever #When other people attempt it #I have never enjoyed an AU or an analysis post exploring some possibility for an alternate redemption arc #And I have seen a *LOT* of them #Every single one has played into legitimizing his Oh So Sincere Pain And Regret #HELL no!!! #NO he fucking doesn't!! EVERYTHING revolves around power to this character! #Any moments of sincere reflection or remorse get shoved down in the pursuit of more power and respect #He is incapable of sitting with his shame and that's INTERESTING #How he's a complete weasel who will find a way to twist the words of authority telling him to Cut It Out into something that benefits him #How the emotions people feel when interacting with him is either Guilt or Fanatic Affection #He's a horrible and toxic person!! The kind of person you're VERY lucky to get away from #So I've never actually seen anyone do it in a way that works. #And I'm not entirely convinced it exists. Anything is possible but no. Not in my house