#leave what you don’t

[circus-clown-calvary]

I give in. I give up. I’m writing an Aaron centric fic thing at some point. This midget has worked his way into my brain and we won’t leave an now I need to write him getting better and mending relationships and being happy and maybe breaking a bone or two in the process cuz even though it’s healed it healed wrong and sometimes you have to break it again to set it right

And it’s going to heavily feature Allison because I love her too and think if they can get over themselves a little bit they would be good friends. And I’m tired of the divid between monsters and the upperclassmen in this fandom because even though that’s a fun dynamic that shit was being fixed. The dived was filled and being fixed at the end stop undoing all the work neil put in smh

#aftg #all for the game #the foxhole court #the raven king #the kings men #aaron minyard #aaron minyard love of my life #andrew minyard #neil josten #allison reynolds #as soon as I get my thoughts down it’s over for you bitches #we need to stop pretending Aaron isn’t capable #he was top 10 durring highschool #he has the second highest gpa and grades out of all the foxes (only second to Kevin) #both him and Allison are fucking great players and they are good at what they do and what they do matters and strop forgetting them #I WILL be pulling from the extra content #but I’m gonna treat it like a grab bag for this #take what you want #leave what you don’t #because that was also written so long ago and things have changed #and i want them to be happy #honk talks

[frogfriend-247]

Crushing on a friend and don’t know what to do? Here’s some pointers! Take what works for you and leave the rest :)

Identify your feelings. Take some time to think about how you feel about them, even if you’re sure it’s romantic. How do you define romantic love? How do you identify when it happens to you? Lots of people identify romance by intensity, but this can lead one askew as platonic love can be intense. Note: some people are unable to or find it really difficult to identify and label their emotions, or they don’t like labels, and that’s valid.

Importance of the friend in your life. How close are you with this friend? What unique things do you get from their friendship? When you think about your future, what are they doing? What do you like about the friend? What do you not like? What are you conflicted about?

What you want to change. If you’re considering asking them out, take some time to consider what it is specifically that you want to change about the relationship. There are a lot of societal ideas of what a relationship “should” be like — but the truth is, it’s not all or nothing. The only people who get to dictate the relationship are the people in the relationship. Identify what you are looking for in a relationship. Examples: Do you want more physical contact? Do you want hand holding and hugging? Do you want kissing and sex? Do you want marriage and kids? Do you want cohabitation and pets? Do you want a new label and long-term commitment? Be as honest and specific with yourself as you can.

Other person’s feelings. I encourage you NOT to spend a lot of time speculating about how they feel about you. It’s impossible to know for sure what’s going on in someone’s head, and humans are actually terrible at identifying flirting (at least according to the studies I’ve seen). What I’m suggesting here is to consider what kind of feelings you want the other person to have for you. “Romantic” is a broad, subjective term, and not everyone experiences that kind of (or any kind of) love in the same way. Is it important to you that they label their emotions as romantic? What specific emotions and sentiments are important to you? Trust, care, commitment, etc. Note: It’s not inherently important that the feelings “match.” If it’s important to you, that’s perfectly valid — just keep in mind that not everything has to line up perfectly in order to be happy and healthy. As far as I’m concerned, labels are meant to be descriptive, not prescriptive.

Communication. This is vital to any kind of relationship. If the communication is bad, then the relationship — whether it changes to romantic or stays platonic — will not be healthy and happy. Talk to the friend about it if possible and discuss how you can best make both parties comfortable in your relationship.

Support system. Make sure, if possible, that you have friends/family/pets/etc. who can act as a support system. It is always possible for something to go wrong, because there is a whole ass other human being involved! You can’t control the actions of others, so if you decide to have the conversation, make sure that there will be people to help you get back on your feet should anything go too poorly. That being said!! try not to let your fear stop you from initiating the conversation if you want to have it! If the reactions of others are the only real mystery factor remaining, then there’s no real use in backing out: If the unpredictable reactions of others were a reason to back out, you would never do anything ever! Do keep in mind your safety however. Don’t shy away from conflict, but if you have reason to fear for your *safety,* that’s a whole different matter, and you should handle it with caution.

My philosophy is that relationships are extremely personal to the individuals in them and are better viewed as a buffet, where you and the other person/people can pick and choose what you want, than as a regular restaurant, where you have to pick from a list of acceptable options.

I hope this was helpful! I have some experience helping friends through situations like this and I’ve been on the other end of this — the friend whose friend was crushing on them — so I think my perspective could be useful, but I have no idea if I worded and formatted it clearly enough.

I wish you all well! And good luck :)

-Your friendly neighborhood aro

#I’m aroace and in a relationship #my partner and I were friends for years beforehand #their feelings are romantic and mine aren’t #our feelings don’t match #but they don’t need to #relationship advice #relationship anarchy #use the labels you like #romantic love #platonic love #queerplatonic love #labels are not mandatory #love #communication #i’m aroace #take what you want #leave what you don’t #the vast complexity and varience inherent to human connection

[nubs-mbee]

People have been sharing these threads on twitter and I figured they’d be helpful for some of you on tumblr as well! (Specifically for US)

#I’d also recommend leaving out your name but DO say what neighborhood you live in #so they don’t know you’re calling multiple days #but they do know you’re in their district map

[astearisms]

but it ain’t called love without a little tragedy 🍁

#my art #a love letter to betty and simon #getting to explore simon’s journey post AT finale and the nuances of his relationship with Betty has been an experience #I don’t know what’s next but we can only hope closure for them #that betty maybe learns to put herself first after putting every ounce of herself in simon #or that simon learns to let go? or both of them do #assuming we do see Betty again #i am preparing to say farewell to the series once again after the finale #thank you adventure time crew #fionna and cake #fionna and cake spoilers #simon petrikov #betty grof #petrigrof #adventure time #I forgot to mention #this animation was inspired by ‘autumn leaves’ by yves montand #but a cover of it #I was listening to the song because I wanted to learn it on an instrument #it’s a melancholy song about autumn and lost love #and as I heard the lyrics of course I instantly thought of these guys #and then I started drawing #inspiration had a strong grip on me #thank you for reading #and your support #I hope you guys have had as much fun with this show as I have #I’m grateful for it

[edandstede]

rip to anyone thinking the show has nothing left to give like did you not listen to djenks when he said he has a 3 series arc in mind, did you not see ed gazing at stede during lucius and pete’s wedding because that man wants to put a ring on it so bad, were you not there when zheng very loudly said she wants to find ricky and kill him for what he did, do you think they can just slaughter a dozen british and escape by the skin of their teeth and that be the end of it? there is still a giant fucking looming threat to the pirates and it will absolutely extend to ed and stede’s ramshackle inn whether they think they’ve truly retired or not (not to mention the new conflicts they’ll face trying to get this new venture up and running, that will be a sitcom in of itself). anyway revenge is still on the water and i don’t just mean the ship and i cannot wait to see how it all goes down. praying we actually get to.

#ofmd spoilers #like come the fuck on #we still have so much juicy story left #i swear some of you watch a show entirely through your own skewed fandom lenses #and then don’t leave any room for the show to be its own thing outside of that #are we even watching the same thing at this point #or do you just see what you wanna see #ANYWAY #ofmd #ofmd meta #quill to paper

[swedenis-h]

If there was no me.. (X)

#AMC I SEE WHAT YOURE DOING AND I HATE YOU #(following the plot points of the book) #anyways… claudi my dearest…. #don’t leave… please… #art #fanart #digital art #fan art #my art #iwtv #iwtv amc #interview with the vampire #amc’s interview with the vampire #interview with the vampire amc #claudia iwtv #louis de pointe du lac

[cockroachmotherfucker10]

Being fat, actually fat, with an eating disorder is fucking hell.

People assume you have BED, and if you actually do have BED people are so gross about it. If you have a restricting disorder people get concerned when you start eating more. People get concerned if you start to like yourself. People love to see you fucking miserable, and will completely ignore your misery in the same breath. It makes them feel good. They benefit at your expense through weight stigma.

So many physicians prescribe disordered eating to us. ED specialists in many places won’t even consider how EDs affect us. Our own community uses our bodies as inspiration to hurt themselves. Because nothing could be worse than looking like us, right? How are you supposed to love yourself when so many people actively don’t want you to?

To the fat person reading who needs to hear this, I give a shit if you recover. I give a shit that you are hurting. So many people don’t notice, so many don’t give a fuck, but I do. You deserve better. I want you to eat even if it means you gain weight. I want you to be happy in your body as it is. I want you to feel loved, I want you to feel seen.

If you are fat with BED, I see you. There is so much stigma and it is not your fault. Your weight isn’t “your fault”, you are sick. It’s not a moral failing. You deserve compassion, and the extent to which people project their own issues onto you is awful. You deserve to be comfortable in your skin, and your body is wonderful.

If you are fat with purging tendencies, or with restricting ones I see you too. We get praised for hurting ourselves, or no one notices. I see you. I’m sorry.

I wish so badly the world were more compassionate to you, but if no one else gives a shit, I do. Fight for recovery for me, even though I know that journey can be so, so lonely when you aren’t thin.

To those of you who have recovered, to those of you that may. You are worth it. You may be fat for the rest of your life, and that’s okay. It’s wonderful, your body is wonderful, and I see you and I’m proud of you. Sadly I know many of us recover alone, but I hope you know you aren’t. I’m rooting for you.

#take what resonates and leave what doesn’t babes #you can add onto it but don’t clown #skinny Ppl i’d apreciate if you reblogged this too #mod cass #ed tw #ed recovery #fat positivity #fat liberation #haes #health at every size #eating disorder #pro ana #actually ed #pro mia #meanspo #bonespo #og post #pro anna #bulimia #mental health #actually fat activism #fat activism #fatspo #atypical anorexia

[chawliekin]

and if I said that dennis’ insistence on being the breadwinner/provider despite literally being a pampered princess who dgaf about traditional roles of masculinity in every other regard (aside from ego) is because his mom only stayed with/chose frank for his wealth and dennis is highly aware that he’s difficult to love and unable to show his emotions openly so he has to be contributing something to the relationship materially in order to feel like he’s worth staying for… and mac grew up with parents who were extremely ambivalent to him and eachother so he has to overcompensate by proving his worth at every given moment and seeking praise/validation from people (and religious icons) who will never demonstrate the same amount of dedication to him but he has no idea how else to desperately keep himself close to those he loves other than by eroding himself into something they’ll approve of… dear god they’re both exactly what the other needs — someone who can’t and won’t leave them even if they try — and they don’t even see it…

#dennis thinks he’s losing his edge and mac thinks he’s perfect anyway #mac feels like no one in his life has ever needed him enough to stay but dennis can’t stay away #IM ILLLLLL about these men from the world’s stupidest sitcom #sorry if this got a little freudian I don’t LITERALLY mean it in the sense that mac/dennis are seeking something that reminds them of their #parents (gross) (although pretty character accurate to the SINNED system) #but rather that our childhoods teach us what we should expect and look out for in life #and it never really leaves us #this all stemmed from me contemplating MADMTTS and how it would’ve made way more sense for mac (high energy adhd) to be out in the world #and dennis (bpd anger issues) to be indoors free from the triggers of the world #but they INSISTED on mac being housewife dennis being breadwinner #same as their little battle over supposed roles/dynamics as hugh honey/vic vinegar/brian lefevre etc #you are two queer men why on earth do you care about sticking to heterosexual gender roles #but it was never about the gender roles it was about what they self-assign their value to… #mac and dennis #mac mcdonald #dennis reynolds #iasip #it’s always sunny in philadelphia #its always sunny #macdennis #macden

[little-pondhead]

The Curse Of Hope

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Danny is in another universe. He had a reason, but he doesn’t remember anymore. He can only stare, horrified and disgusted, at the sickest city spirit he’s ever seen. Shivering and swaying with every step, core exposed, and ectoplasm leaking from wounds that are decades old. A ratty blanket was thrown over their shoulders, barely hiding the spirit’s pale grey skin and protruding black bones.

The spirit didn’t even sense him until he reached out to touch its wispy shoulders. The spirit flinched, clutching at the dozens of trinkets hanging from their neck and tucking in on themselves like they were expecting a blow.

“Oh, shit,” He swore, floating back a few feet, hands in the air, to show he meant no harm. “I’m sorry. I promise, I’m not here to steal from you.” The spirit shivered again and rolled a pearl necklace in between their fingers. A nervous habit. “Uh, I like that pocket watch? It’s very nice.”

That got their attention. They peeked at Danny, and he saw that more tattered cloth was covering their eyes, blending in with the stringy hair that reached the ground. Their blanket fluttered weakly, revealing hundreds of thousands of tiny marks etched into their skin. Scars, really. Scars that wrote out curse after curse onto the spirit’s very being. They burned with evil intent, and even reached inside the spirit’s body and wrapped around their core.

Occasionally, blinding specks of color raced across their body, temporarily erasing the writing, but it always returned quickly. He watched, a little detached, as one particular line rewrote itself across their rough forearm, drawing fresh ectoplasm like someone was writing it with a thin knife.

“Are you…alright?” Danny stuttered. A stupid question.

The spirit cocked its head. He couldn’t see their eyes, but he felt their burning gaze as they pondered the question.

“The pain of others becomes mine own.” They rasped. “The lights of the city dim as rotten wealth clogs mine veins. Magicks long forgotten have eaten mine skins, pulled mine cloak, and darkened mine skies. Helios has refused to grace mine doorstep, and the seasons of the Earth have revoked their kindness.”

Danny held his breath. It felt like he was the one with the exposed core, not the spirit.

The spirit shivered once more. “Tell mine soul, little lamb. How could this Forsaken City know peace, when it was long since ripped from mine hands?”

Shit, he needed Frostbite. And maybe Clockwork. Now.

-Or-

Danny meets the spirit of Gotham City. The villains and rogues that have plagued the city for decades are literal curses that are taking quite the toll on Gotham, and honestly, Danny isn’t sure how much longer they can hold out. The heroes seem to be doing some help, and are probably the reason Gotham made it this far, but the poor city needs help from the Realms if they want to get better.

Luckily, Danny can provide that help.

But only if he could get Gotham to leave their city behind. Because recovery is going to take a very long time.

#dpxdc #pondhead blurbs #Gotham is very lanky and tall and had dozens of necklaces around their neck #the necklaces are just cords filled with lost things the citizens have lost over the years #like bits of glass or wedding rings or hag stones made from a destroyed gargoyle #actually I have a weird picture of Gotham in my head I might draw it #it’s giving Bloodborne to me but idgaf #basically Danny meets Gotham and is trying to convince them to go with him for medical help because what the fuck #those curses are the equivalent of leaving hundreds of leeches stuck to your body for ten years #Danny is BEGGING Gotham to come with him #there’s potential for angst but if you want crack then Danny probably replaces Gotham #I think there’s already a similar fic where he becomes the new spirit of Gotham but I haven’t read all of that #anyways the Batfam are like #invasive animals that are actually helping the ecosystem recover from an even WORSE invasive species #but they aren’t supernatural heroes and they don’t understand that the issue is deeper #I’m calling this the Curse of Hope because Danny is offering hope to Gotham #but Gotham is just so tired and sick and hurt that they don’t want to risk it #they think Danny is another curse come to plague them #should he just straight up adopt the city at this point? #idk it probably depends on how it’s written #sad course is to let Gotham die. happy ending is where they are treated and returned #crack ending probably has Danny adopting the city and introducing them to his own city spirit Amity Park #oh shit is that a new ship #guys please I can’t keep doing this #Gotham City x Amity Park #how the fuck do you come up with a name for that #Burger Joints? #Wet Pavement? #bro idk I’m putting this down before I make something I might regret #low key wanna write this but like. I have so much to do

[tsuchinokoroyale]

Happy new years… let’s stay hydrated together ✨

#I didn’t end up going to the rave just stayed in with my buddies and had KFC (( Korean fried chicken )) and laughed til we cried so #it was still a wonderful start to the new year 💞🥰💞 #but the fwb wanted pics of my potential rave look so I figured eh I brought the stuff anyways #and now I’m imagining locking eyes with a stranger on the warm and writhing dance floor #the beat thumps and shakes and rattles the air in our breath as the spotlights dance in the reflections of our held gaze #he pushes his way through the crowd with a singular stare and a wicked smile on his face #I smile and turn my back on him arching myself so he knows I am giving what he’s looking for #I take careful steps through the revelry toward the edge where the crowd thins out #I prop myself up on an available stool in a lonely corner of the club as he closes the distance between us #“now I wonder why you dragged me all the way here” he utters in a playful growl “trying to get far away from the crowd?” #I smile and I nod. “obviously. can’t really do what I want with you out there” #his eyes perk up and his smile gives away the desire building inside him. “yeah? why don’t you show me then.” #“I thought you’d never ask” I smirk. I reach down into my pants and pull out my phone #“so this one is blue. he’s the oldest but he’s sooooo sweet. and that’s Eva. my only girl she’s sassy but she loves swea-” he leaves #whaddahell I say demurely whimpering even… whaddahell… #gpoy

[minty364]

DPXDC Prompt #94

Danny falls through a portal to the DC world from a natural portal that opened up while he was in mid fight with Skulker a fight that began at Vlads where the creep put a collar on Danny that kept him in ghost form, Vlad thought he’d force Danny to reveal his secret to his parents by taking away his human form. Looking around he’s in a dark city with dark smog colored skies. Unfortunately he’s stuck here as the portal closed leaving him trapped. He tried to find help but no one can see him in his ghost form. He starts tailing the vigilantes of this world and eventually follows one onto this space station through this tube (possessing inanimate objects sure comes in handy). He wasn’t expecting for the random British guy in a trench coat to see him.

#dp x dc prompt #dp x dc #dc x dp #danny fenton #danny phantom #writing prompt #poor danny #What if no one could see Danny like deadman #Danny is stuck in ghost form #Constantine has a headache especially from the ghost king that has apparently been tailing Batman for a week #ghost king danny #Batman had a feeling he was being tailed but it’s hard to prove when nothing is amiss #my asks are open #More Minty lore? Sure! #Honestly no one in my family knows I love Danny Phantom so I only own a glitch in time #It’s still my favorite show from the 2000s but at this point that probably has more to do with the phandom #I’d also like to reveal my DP inspired world soon but I have no clue how to go about it #Should I start a new blog? Or should I just post it here? This blog is meant for everything but I don’t want to bog it down #So that’s my rant take it or leave it but you can’t unread it!! Thanks for reading have a great day!

[runningwithscizzorz]

I feel a deep sense of anger and grief for Palestine. I’m angry at God, at the world powers donating to those who are killing civilians, angry at people looking away and encouraging you to worry about yourself when people can’t even walk down their streets without being attacked. I’m angry that my friend donated, only for it to be stolen and taken by the soldiers abusing Palestine. I’m angry that I can’t do much of anything but tell you to at least CARE about the people being bombed and slaughtered. Please, if you can’t do anything please just CARE about these people and listen to their stories. Hold them in your hearts at the very least. Don’t pretend they don’t exist or just brush it off as “its been going on for centuries, there’s no point in stopping it.” I want to do more, I want to make people care and love those who need it, rather than continue spreading anger and hate.

These are real people I’ve drawn. Keep the people of Palestine in your heart at the very least please.

#two of my best friends had to run away from their homes because they were Muslim #it was too dangerous for them to stay #but in leaving they also had to leave behind large parts of their families #they tell me about their friends and loved ones that have died and how empty they feel to it #that they also feel a deep sense of hopelessness and guilt at not being able to help #I have a friend now who teaches me about the qur’an and how it talks about having peace and not being afraid in times like these #so please DONT BE AFRAID TO SAY SOMETHING #Please talk about this with your friends #please educate yourself on what’s happening #please please please just CARE about the people of Palestine #even if it’s scary and even if it hurts you #do it for those who don’t have a choice to be afraid or hurt #free palestine #palestine

[fizzytoo]

simblr mutuals i think you guys should indulge in more games (lovingly)

#*fizzyspeaks #i mean this in a way like post other games or talk about other games. i'd love to hear your opinion on them or just plain ramble about why #you enjoy it or not #obv you can run your blog however you want. i'd love it regardless #edit: i mentioned this in a most clarifying what i meant - #-but this post was made really with my mutuals in mind. i didn’t expect this to leave my sphere #i enjoy seeing my mutuals talk about other games they enjoy #this wasn’t supposed to come off as a “simmers arent real gamers” take. i don’t mean that

[comradekatara]

can i be real with you guys for a second. do i have permission to speak my truth without being flayed alive. just for a moment. the way many of you talk about zuka makes me think you guys don’t actually enjoy their relationship. people will be like “oh i love how it’s grumpy x sunshine because zuko is a little grouchy grouch and sokka is funny and flirty and bubbly” and i’m just like……. in what world?????????? i don’t think you guys ship zuck actually i think you guys just wish you could ship zukang without being perceived as weird for age gap reasons. but in no world is zucchini a ship wherein sokka is emotionally uplifting zuko thru the power of love and friendship. they’re literally both suicidal freaks. and yet people love making them not only as boring as possible, but also giving sokka a personality transplant (aang’s personality, to be specific) because they hate the source material or they just see conventionally attractive teenage boys and black out or who knows what. but it’s okay you guys can just ship zukang if that’s really what you want out of their dynamic. i won’t judge

#hot takes #it’s not a bad ship in theory but ever since 2020 ppl have been so intent on reducing it and editorializing it and like #i don’t know those guys. those boys genuinely are strangers to me #it was only good back when gay people hadn’t been invented yet #and 7 people total on this earth actually understood it #but i kind of miss back when everyone was like ‘what a cute bromance’ #bc even if they weren’t being explicitly gay about it they DID Understand the nature of their dynamic #and now it’s like ‘well of course theyre gay’ but they don’t actually interrogate that further #and it’s awful. #literally ruining a freak4freak relationship it’s truly criminal #if u want grumpy sunshine (ugh) just ship zukang no one is stopping you #but that is NOT what’s going on with sokka at ALL #leave him ALONE!!!!!!

[thatsbelievable]

#What to do if You Fake Cry to Get Them to Leave But When You Peek You See They Haven’t Left Yet #tips #tricks #life hacks #helpful hints #advice #please don’t hit anyone over the head with a house #unless your name is Dorothy Gale #and even then it was kind of a crummy thing to do #but everything worked out I guess

[jethroq]

#other methods may include hotkinfing and fucking yourself with THC lube (technically boofing I guess) #and idk hotboxing a tend with leaves on hot rocks I don’t know what some of you get up to #bong includes anything with a water reservoir that’s not a dab rig #pipe includes anything you just get the smoke directly #that includes anything from glass pieces to hollowed out carrots