#learning how to tag people help

[vacanteros]

@chihirolovebot Phys and @nexuswrites thief in Dr:S. They’re having a little beach day with ice cream :3 pretty fun to think on what my phys and thief would wear to swim and their ice cream. Personally I love strawberry and Vanilla 💞 (chocolate is okay..) but yeah :33

#oc #danganronpa oc #fanart #oc design #beach day #danganronpa self insert #danganronpa summer camp #learning how to tag people help

[fatedroses]

He laid at the brink of death once more, staring at the face of despair. He remembered the path that led him to this purgatory, and with a smile could only ask:

"Shall we be friends?"

#ffxiv #digital art #concept #zenos yae galvus #endsinger #endwalker spoilers #adventurer zenos #eurydice #is just the tag im going to use for the post endwalker endsinger stuff I'll draw #alisaie lives in zenos' head rent free- #but for a man with no fear i find the potential idea of him reaching out to a weakened endsinger both sweet and kinda funny #“oh hey she was right- im not alone here- lets see if I can actually do better” <- the beginning of adventurer zenos #part of Adventurer!Zenos motivation is finding examples of happiness he sees and finds himself to tell her whenever he visits the ultimatum #the eternal question: did he adopt the bird or did the bird adopt him #Also thus begins Zenos having to dig through his own recollection on how to help people- i.e emulating the WoL lol #and endsinger having to deal with reading his mind only to probably get very random thoughts/static and only occasionally something helpful #she very quickly learns that nihility bounces off this man like a ball #he is simply immune

[lord-squiggletits]

Thinking about IDW Optimus again and the fandom's aversion to even acknowledging he exists bc he's a cop or whatever and like. Most of the time people literally just replace him in fic with some white bread knockoff archivist/librarian, not even bothering to keep in IDW OP's personality (which just bolsters my theory that the problem isn't him being a cop the problem is that he's too multifaceted but I digress).

And it's annoying because you could totally write IDW Optimus as not a cop while still keeping his canon personality. You just have to realize that the reason IDW OP became a cop in the first place is because his formative experiences when he was young shaped him to basically have two priorities: 1. To help people and 2. To do it by being on the ground actively doing something about the bad things happening to people.

IDW OP would not be a fucking librarian or archivist because even though those are noble pursuits that can help people and change the world, and Optimus is educated/smart enough for the profession, he wouldn't be satisfied just teaching people or spreading information about activism or social-historical studies or whatever. He's a mech of action: he needs to be doing things right now, in front of him, to people he sees/interacts with in his own eyes, improving society with concrete actions rather than indirect action or abstract inspiration.

So basically the alternate job ideas I can think of for IDW Optimus are something like being a firefighter (or any first responder really) or even whatever the equivalent would be to international charity organizations, those ones that send volunteers across the world to do stuff like build housing/infrastructure or distribute food or whatnot. I mean I can't imagine that the equivalents to these things would be exactly the same in IDW Cybertron, so you'd have to get a little creative with it, but these are just some ideas of jobs that would fit IDW Optimus' personality while still filling the niche of "not a cop" for people who are just that opposed to it.

Though I think the revulsion against coptimus is annoying in general tbh because IDW is already a continuity that rejects the idea of easily defined good/evil people or groups. It feels like people really want Optimus to be a good person in a very sanitized and academically approved way, so he has to be nice and squeaky clean but also like, a perfect leftist who knows theory and holds the most progressive opinions on every single issue....

There is no room for the idea that good people join bad institutions, there's no room for the idea that the reason people think cops are good guys who help people is bc of the government propaganda everything is saturated with. Hell there's even later issues of the Optimus Prime series by John Barber where Optimus like, MULTIPLE FUCKING TIMES, is shown in flashbacks grappling with the fact that he as a cop/Zeta's regime that he works for might not actually be improving society like they say they are, and dealing with the fact that he feels more like a lesser evil compared to the Decepticons (perhaps not "lesser" at all).

It's like there's this idea in fandom of like, fictional media and opinions on media having to strictly adhere to progressive ideals at all times. So people just go "cops bad, this character is a cop, therefore they suck" without being willing to engage with the idea of like. IDW OP is born wanting to fight injustice and protect people -> a good way to protect people is to fight the people who are hurting them and committing crimes -> surely following the law is a reliable moral code to guide him in this -> becomes a cop because he's been indoctrinated into a society (much like our own) where he was told that the state/the law exist to protect the people and being a cop means you get to fight bad guys that hurt people. There's really so many interesting concepts there that could be (and CANONICALLY IS) explored about how good, well-intentioned people can be led to harmful actions simply because they have been fed the idea that the things they're doing are good/helpful/noble. Which is especially important for a character like Optimus, I think, who has a cultural icon status as The Irrefutable and Perfect Good, so it's really important actually to use IDW Optimus as an example of how even the most noble people you know have held problematic beliefs or done bad things at some point in their life. You know, because no one is born perfect and ideologically pure, and in fact society is constructed in exactly a manner to make people drink the kool-aid and believe that the systems designed to hurt them/others are just a normal, if flawed, society.

I mean the writing in IDW literally has Optimus deal directly and indirectly with the harm he's done as a cop and how people don't/didn't trust him because of that. I don't know what the fuck else this fandom wants if the source material literally saying "OP realizes that cops suck and he hurt people and earned their disdain by doing the things he did" doesn't stop them from going EW cop bastard sucks and is the worst Optimus. Like the narrative barely stops short of outright saying ACAB and Optimus himself would agree with this sentiment.

At that point, the collective fandom beef with IDW OP isn't because he's a cop and the narrative didn't do enough to condemn that. The problem is literally just that people don't read and don't care

TLDR: Consider the fact that good people can do bad things sometimes especially when living from birth in a corrupt society that thoroughly disguises its vices/oppressive structures as completely normal parts of existence

#squiggposting #idw op love #like honestly just admit that you havent actually read his parts of the story #or that in a continuity of moral grayness you insist OP must be the one person who's perfectly good #bc idk Optimus is supposed to be good and perfect bc nostalgia/marketing/mythology says he should be #also i feel like theres evidence here of a very juvenile mindset of like #to be good a person has to have all the right beliefs and say it in all the right ways #which is the mindset only extremely insular or inexperienced ppl could possibly have lmao #heartbreaking i know but IRL there are very few people who are and always have been progressive and perfect #there are ppl within progressive mvmts that have unaddressed harmful beliefs outside of their Chosen Issue #there are people who wouldnt ID as progressive at all but are still good ppl who act well towards others #like if youve actually interacted with ppl IRL you understand that if you reject everyone who isnt Perfectly Progressive #youll have few if any allies and possibly alienate ppl who would help/ARE HELPING #like idk do you know how many ppl i personally know who i think have some bigoted/problematic beliefs #but im still friends or collaborators w them bc i understand that theyre still good ppl learning and growing #like. learn to understand that 'goodness' doesnt always look like a walking leftist textbook please i'm begging #and in fact sometimes stories. esp adult and mature ones. will present you w problematic ppl #and you have to like. grapple with their flaws and explore the tension between intention and consequences #a bit of a philosophy tangent rather than anything TF related which is why i kept it to the tags

[redbootsindoriath]

Fëanorian Week 2023, Day 7: Fëanor and Nerdanel

You can see I gave up on the barely-there draping and went for full clothes in this one, mostly because Nerdanel would require more of it to get past Tumblr guidelines and I didn’t want to deal with all that.

And yes, I know the pose is almost identical to that Gwindor-and-Finduilas drawing I did that one time.  I’m not very creative when it comes to romantic stuff in drawings so we just have to take what we can get.

So...yeah, that’s the end of Fëanorian Week.  No more updates and excuses and explanations!  Huzzah!  I shall now disappear again for an undetermined length of time.

#feanorianweek #fëanor #nerdanel #the man the myth the legends #three shinies #my trash #people sometimes fall in love i guess #lovers to enemies #/end classification tags #i'm still trying to learn how to draw girls #the internet isn't very helpful either because half of them would say her waist here is too thick and the other half would say the opposite #but! i feel like i'm learning! #nerdanel was harder to draw than aoratay though because aoratay had muscles #and like #i can do muscles #but just a slender and smooth arm? #how do? #cannot. #the end.

[resident-gay-bitch]

little rich boy sirius who gets disowned and can barely survive without his expensive brands and the basic human need to eat at least once a day meeting the entirely too generous james potter who just falls for the vanity and sincerity of the reformed rich boy and decides that once sirius stops caring about brands and status and rich boy things and just cares about what matters in life he decides to spoil his boyfriend to pieces because he’s secretly sitting on a fucking fortune

#idk i just think it’s funny #like james would find sirius when he’s struggling with money because he’s so bad at saving and prioritising his spendings because he’s never #had too before and so james would teach him how to do all that stuff and emotionally support sirius through it all and sirius just falls in #love with this beautiful guy who’s just so generous and who teaches him so many things and finds value in kindness and sincerity and #compassion and all that jazz and james falls in love with sirius helplessly because he might be stuck up and vein and kind of selfish and #is stuck up and cares all too much about status but he’s trying so hard to be better and he finds empathy because sirius got kicked out for #the worst reasons because he’s always been the black sheep of his highly cultist christian family or whatver and he’s also outwardly queer #and james decides that he wants to give sirius everything and loves the way he looks in expensive makeup and designer faux fur coats and #heels and divine jewellery and all that jazz but makes sirius sell it all and learn what it means to be human and not rely on money and #status and brands and stuff and sirius learns what it’s like to be decent and in touch with humanity and only then does james take sirius on #a surprise luxury holiday for his birthday or something and then just buys him thousands of dollars worth of all these glamorous looking #things and sirius is like omg what the fuck jamie and then he just becomes sirius’ sugar daddy because he can’t help himself but they’re #also in love and much better people because of it and when sirius buys things now it’s not because of brands or because they have big price #tags like he used too. he now buys things with james’ credit card he keeps in his own wallet because he thinks he’ll feel pretty in them or #because he thinks james will loose it if he sees sirius walking around in it or if he sees a really cute toaster that sends him into a #frenzy that has him spending all way too much on an impromptu kitchen renovation but james doesn’t care because as long as his boyfriend is #happy and actually paying attention to the price of things and calculating the best value and taking james’ opinion as well and just being #happy and safe and accepted in his new home and family here with his jamie #please i think they’d be so cute ugh!!! #prongsfoot #bambibelle #drabble #fic idea #marauders #james potter #sirius black #jay talks

[yayforocs]

👉👈 so @silverskye13 i saw this and..............

had to make an aron helsmet!!!!!! this was really hecking fun to think about actually like what she'd be like n design (which. is a poke at the rp server she was from actually) and also made me sit down and think more on my other minecraft ocs i have sittin around and why they ended up getting redesigns lkdsfh BUT YEAH i!!!!!!!! aron!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#what do i. tag this as. sdklfjslk #i mean ig since it's like??? she's a concept from it i should??? #redstone and skulk #aron #a lotta the stuff aron goes through in her character arc in the rps has to do with like. she has her stuff that she's comfortable doing #and stuff that she's not #and after trying and trying and trying to go outside her comfort zone and help ppl around her in a Better Way #feels like she's just not good at it and should give up and go back to what she was doing before #-only to find out through A Lot Of Events that no she actually was learning even tho she didn't realize it and she was getting better #and she was actually helping #and also. it was. kind of impossible for her to go back anyway. jlsdf. #sO i thought her helsmet would be more of the 'stick with what i know and don't leave that' kinda thing!!! #leaning into her minecraft roots; she was originally a redstoner/demolitionist (i mean she's still a demo but) #so her helsmet would- if following that idea- be Really Hecking Good at redstone #but only stick to redstone bc No I'm Not Trying Anything Else #also aron had a lot of problems trusting people she shouldn't and it really bit her back so there's that aspect too!!! #...also is it just me or does this pic feel very Camish like i don't know what it is about the style bc i tried smth different #and when i finished i looked at it and went 'huh. this looks like camish drew it.' #I WILL ALSO!! make more!! of my other minecrafters!!! i just underestimated how much thought i would be putting into making helsmets sdlkfj #but they are bouncing around in my brain!!! and i will draw them once i can get them to stay still long enough to realize what they are!!!

[randomfaeriedragon]

Recently been very obsessed with @weepinglilvessel's Rainworld Eclipse AU, so motivation struck and I drew fanart of Lunar Moon!

Sorry if the images are kind of fuzzy! Decal script by @ikayblythe again, its really pretty :D

Variations w/o the shadows under the cut!

And for my peace of mind, ones with purely the Red Overlay Layer Removed:

Fanarting is fun and this AU is absolutely amazing, please go check the creator out!

#rw eclipse au #rw looks to the moon #rw lttm #rw fanart #rain world fanart #I called the images above the cut “dramatic” and I think it suits them well #the inter-character relationships between these robots seized my brain and refused to let go please send help #I had to screenshot the full images (weird program only allows 3 image saves a day) so that definitely didn't help with their quality- #I also enjoyed trying to do highlights and shadows here #though the shadows might not have been very accurate to the main light source (Moon's eye) #plus i discovered I don't know how to draw cloth #still pretty new to art but I'm testing stuff out and learning with what I have :) #I might redesign my profile picture soon but I'm not sure #anyways hello to the people who somehow see this last tag

[aldiwali]

CH 362: EBB TIDE

Miss Goldenweek's Operation: Meet Baroque Works Vol. 4 - "Let's Go To Prison!!"

#opgraphics #one piece #opcoloring #miss goldenweek #miss valentine #miss goldenweek’s operation: ‘meet baroque works’ #<- check that tag for the rest of the series thus far #ch 362 #gem #mr. 5 #mr 5 #mikita #it’s been more than a year since my last proper post and im coming back w this #didn’t rly like the right one but hopefully it helps for people w vision issues? tbf i didn’t like either of them that much #i think ive seen it enough that my eyes are just. tired of it #marianne #i think i dislike it a lot more than i would’ve in the past bc i took a class on uh. still life drawing #and learned a lot abt how if the light logic fails at all it ruins the whole comprehension of a scene #unfortunately i really had to guess where the candle was in relation to everyone else

[matthoopergay]

horsie become real

AUTISM BLAST 🦄🌈⚡️🦈🦈

#never learned how to reliably draw people in a way i liked<3 so u guys get horsie instead hope this helps!!!! #been drawing these things since i was like 5 i guess u coukd say i’m an expert 😎😎😎😎 #mains tags srry<3 (lie) #jaws 1975 #matt hooper #martin brody #quint #sam quint #brody #hooper #jaws #art #sharkspeak #i donot know why quint became so desaturated… brody and hooper are approx the right colors??? #i do NOT understand how shadows work btw that’s why they’re fucked<3 #NO I didnt realize how fucked up I made hoopers glasses and then come back and replace his picture with a version with better glasses #hours after originally posting and after several reblogs meaning my mistakes will always exist. Why wpuld u say that

[bumblingbabooshka]

Workforce B7 Au

B'Elanna and Seven start living together out of concern for B'Elanna living by herself so far along in her pregnancy (B'Elanna initially takes this as an insult, that Seven doesn't think she's a good mother because Seven does not phrase her concerns well but she is genuinely concerned about B'Elanna and her child.) They both mutually agree that if they find a romantic partner they'll just live separately again but as the months wear on they realize they've become more and more attatched to each other, their feelings taking a romantic turn which frightens them both. B'Elanna still goes to that diner place Tom works at and considers them friends. He eventually asks her out and B'Elanna, thinking that she's probably being a burden to Seven and confused by her feelings towards the other woman, accepts though she doesn't have romantic feelings for Tom. Seven is upset by this though she knows she shouldn't be so she tries not to express it but eventually they have an argument which ends in them both admitting that they like each other romantically. They hesitantly kiss, hold hands, ask if they want to really commit to this...yes. The answer is yes. Then strange men in a ship tell them they're members of an organization called Starfleet or whatever?? Then they're taken to sickbay and their old memories return. This leads to both of them having private freak outs about the fact that they felt so strongly attracted to each other and so...happy, with one another when all of the more complicating aspects of their relationship weren't an issue. This is a double edged sword for B'Elanna specifically because without all the history between them she truly didn't feel any attraction towards Tom and if she's being honest with herself - when was the last time she did...? Dun dun dun! You know this episode ends with B'Elanna staring out a window or something, wondering about what she should do...what it all means....

#B'Elanna #Seven of Nine #B7 #B'Elanna Torres #Seven of Nine: (trying to be helpful) -something condescending- #B'Elanna: ?????? #<- It's that on loop for awhile until they learn to communicate better and Seven actually DOES try to understand B'Elanna #She doesn't know about being borg so she just thinks she has a lot of trouble with talking to people and B'Elanna's like 'hey it's not like #I'm a whiz at it' (That's very clear to me.) Hey! Oh - you're joking? (...Half joking.) Well it wasn't half bad then~ #<- the start of their good times era where they become much closer #B'Elanna post this memory regain able to remember how nice it was to be with Seven which directly contrasts her relationship with Tom which #mainly makes her anxious and self conscious...remembering the long talks with Seven whenthey were supposed to be sleeping...remembering #Seven coming home with like ten different baby things because she read that they were the best on the market #B'Elanna 'joking' that she's just being crazy...typical her! when she's upset and Seven telling her that she isn't crazy - she #trusts that there's a REASON B'Elanna. Tell her what it is. (pause) please tell her what it is. #a month later B'Elanna 'jokes' that she's just being crazy...typical her! to Tom and Tom smiles and says he kinda signed up for crazy when #they got married didn't he? <- B'Elanna's heart breaks a little bit but she smiles thinly and laughs without vigor #st voyager #st voyager art #bea art tag

[marinetteplztakeabreak]

Hey guys, saw people complaining about felix trying to kiss ladybug without her consent in season 3 and it’s so fine to be uncomfy with it, that was kind of the point, but just wanted to give a little more context bc a lot of people havent seen the episode since it aired like four years ago???

the reason felix tried to kiss ladybug without her consent is he was desperate to get his own amok from hawkmoth,,,, and the only strategy he could come up with was “pickpocket some kinda bargaining chip” (same strategy he used in risk except he implemented it way better that time by knowing how to act respectful and non suspicious)

so he tried to get ladybugs earrings,,,, which he KNEW hawkmoth wanted,,,,,, and he could not beat ladybug in a fight and adrien had something going on with ladybug and its hard to pickpocket earrings,,,,,, so he made a stupid dumb attempt to kiss her to take her earrings that probably wouldnt have worked even if they had kissed,,,, he did not back away when she said “no” because thats not how thievery works,,, like,,,, he was trying to get close enough to pickpocket or mug her,,,, which is Where the issues stem from,,,,

and then he got punched in the face which he Did deserve dont get me wrong, ladybug was so incredible and iconic for that moment heck yeah

however he was not weird about consent to be creepy or whatever,,,, he was just trying to get his amok back and it made him do very dumb and bad things!! This is still bad its just a different Kind of bad with different solutions!!

and his arc is about recognizing that other people are people too,,, not just npcs that he needs to fight to survive,,, and also about realizing that his actions have consequences. Also that being nice to people and learning to listen and respect boundaries is actually helpful and good. This is in fact a very good lesson to teach children. Thank u

#miraculous ladybug #ml felix #ml meta #i guess #i have no idea what to tag this as #anyway his arc is sooooooo everything to me #incredibly important to me to see characters learn that #being mean doesnt help anyone #and that even if youre scared #that trying to learn how to find people you can feel safe with #trying to make connections and whatnot #and trying to BE trustworthy and be a good person #in ways you can #its like #its so freaking important ugh im gonna sob #ml spoilers #ml s5 spoilers

[mikoran]

him

#will byers #TUMBLR FUCKED THE QUALITY UP AGAIN DAMNIT #send help #anyway gonna hate this tomorrow love that for me #byler #pspspspsps trying to lure bylers to my blog #you guys love him too its fine he can be in the tag #its kinda funny how much my art style changed after joining the st fandom #it was much more of an anime style but that stopped working once i drew real people #im having fun with this one tho #and im learning more face anatomy #win win for me #i love his side profile #i have so many byler wips thatll never be finished because drawing two people interacting is outside my skillset whoops #my art

[doctorwhoisadhd]

can people be normal about personality disorders and DID and stuff please im a teacher i want to know what to do to help a student with this.

#ari opinion hour #teaching tag #like shut the fuck up about how mucb people with NPD love lying and shit No. Give me the actual facts. #in an unbiased and not-overly-vitriolic way. #i dont wanna be That Guy that doesnt get it!!! #just in general all the ones that are fuckin demonized its just. Unhelpful. #and i worry that like #reading it will make me biased and treat students with them unfairly :( #anyway if anyone knows any sources about any typically demonized disorder that are actually helpful i would appreciate that cause im going #to have students at some point with all of them and i dont wanna be That Asshole who doesnt know jack shit i want them to learn and from #experience you cant do that if you have to be constantly on your guard all the time!!!

[gintamajustaway]

The fandom has gotten really dark since you left.. certain shippers are really aggressive about their ships to the point of bullying. I kno you’ve dealt with stuff like that in the past and you handled it all so well I remember reading some anon asks.. any tips n’tricks?

OOF, WHELP -- not sure I'll be much help given that I have no idea what state the fandom is in. All I can really say is that you're going to find aggressive shippers no matter what fandom you're in. My method to dealing with people like that was to just block them and add them to my blacklist. The only times I ever engaged with them was if they came at me directly (which rarely happened -- the more aggressive they are, the more cowardly they were when it came to confrontation) or if they put a callout post about me directly in the main fandom tag. I always clapped back at those people just because like lol if you've got a problem with my fics or my decision to delete them all, okay cool, I don't care, but doing stuff like putting a long-winded complaint post in the main tag is so childish and stupid.

The best advice I think I can give for this is to just not care LOL I sure as hell never did and still don't. Never will! Shipping is supposed to be fun and the people who actively try and take that fun away from others are struggling with issues outside of fandom, but shipping is their outlet so that's where their aggression manifests. Happy people don't care about drama over fictional characters, so go be a happy person! Utilize that block option and live your best life!

#anon #for real you will find this in every fandom #I've been too involved in my own stuff to get involved with any other fandoms after this one #but if you'd like an example of a fandom that went absolutely feral in terms of bullying #lookup what happened to the Voltron fandom #I wasn't even active in it and I heard so much stuff about it #sending voice actors death threats #sending food laced with nails and poisons #lying about trauma to get people to donate to a gofundme #stealing thousands and thousands of dollars for zines #the bloodshed between Shiro/Keith and Keith/Lance #it was all so incredibly stupid #for the love of god be a happy person #indulge yourself in what you enjoy #ignore everything else #even if you try to be nice to everyone like I did you will still experience haters #it happens and no biggie #do your best and learn your lessons then move on #HOPE THIS HELPS #sorry for all the tags #I forgot how much I enjoyed just whispering gently down here

[rose022]

all i can hope is that i can help people and make them a little happier. thats it. thats all i want all my life. only priority.

#rose rambles #mecore #i can tag my own posts shush #but ywah i just hope ill be a good teacher that helps people ans kids #some people really need the care that i am so willing to give #i only wish i could learn how better to deal with some situations

[fishnchip3011]

everytime i actually open up sdv to play i get flashbanged with sebastian's white ass sprites because i always forget not everyone sees him as wasian💔 my current hc for him is half chinese (liable to change... but ik for sure he's half asian) but he is Not bilingual he can't rly speak or write the other language he can only understand it when listening but even then he's not very fluent LOL this is just turning into a sebastian hc post might as well go full out. to me sebastian Does have relationship experience but has been thru shitty ones in the past which is part of the reason why he's so pessimistic & brooding </3 and he'd hook up with ppl in zuzu city for a night for a while but it just made him feel shittier so he's stopped since ☝️ also people make him out to be way cooler than he actually is like yea sure he's kinda cool but he's also a Massive Loser especially when he tells you how he hates "seasonal fads" like pumpkin spice and that one line about the potluck soup where he's like "Why ruin the potluck? Hmm... I guess some people feel liberated when the rigid structures of society break down a little. Maybe I'm weird.” WHO ASKED😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 his ass also can NOT cook he can make spaghetti but it's mid. he probably has low ass stamina and yeah he's tall and lanky (rn i see him as around 5'9-5'10) but you could snap him in half over your knee. when he's in an actually healthy relationship he gets really flustered over certain romantic gestures cuz he's not used to feeling valued or being considered someone's #1. he picks up on little things and does acts of service but i also think he can be really callous and insensitive at times because while he can be pretty perceptive he is also Very Emotionally Stunted. he unlearns lots of unhealthy behaviors & mindsets with the help of his partner & family & friends ^__^

#i almost popped a vein trying not to mention rowan in all of this so this post is more. consumable i guess #but rowan to me is soooooo perfect for him to me because rowan's whole thing is empathy and warmth #where it's a strength but also a weakness for him because he's also a chronic people pleaser and a doormat #out of the need he feels to make people feel valued which is a good thing but not when its to the point of self negligence #rowan gives rly good advice but overburdens himself cuz he feels responsible for ppl&doesnt give himself the same treatment he gives others #when he's with sebastian he helps him feel valued and sebastian learns to trust people more and not to immediately assume the worst of ppl #and seb is sooooooo perfect for rowan bc seb is vocal about what he dislikes and when hes not happy w something/one #and is good at setting boundaries whereas rowan is Not. he helps rowan learn how to say no to ppl and be more assertive #& think abt his own feelings more! they both help e/o vocalize their feelings #for rowan its vocalizing his opinions more and valuing himself more & for seb its vocalizing more for the sake of better communication #w other ppl so he can establish better trust & relations w ppl. and stop being so closed off/unapproachable LOL #their differences match up well but it also leads to arguments/tension cuz seb doesnt communicate and resorts to avoidance #and rowan is too pliant sometimes to the point where it hurts not just himself but the ppl around him including seb #also fun fact rowan is the type to cry when he gets really angry/upset & when seb resorts to avoidance instead of reassurance #(which is what rowan wants) rowan sometimes ends up catastrophizing & also bottles up his emotions similarly to seb #they always reconcile in the end tho even if it takes a while </3 they r both learning ok!!!!!!!! #not perfect to the point where they dont argue bc thats Impossible but they suit each other well. they r good for each other qwq #eon babbles #stardew valley #farmer rowan #<- i talk about him in tags. hehehe