don’t mind me just sobbing over seeing myself on the top blogs section
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Love how this evolved from “lol what if Mikey vaped” to “Oh no withdrawal and trauma don’t mix” to “Mikey villain arc cause withdrawal trauma and hallucinations”
Yeahhhhh it really did evolve lol
BUT YALL LIKE IT SO THATS ALL THAT MATTERA YEH!
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Kinda scared of posting my miles x tiana headcannon
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“[…]Victarion Greyjoy, Arianne Martell, Areo Hotah, Jon Connington, Aeron Damphair. They will all have chapters, and the things they do and say will impact the story and the major characters[…]”
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I was wondering if u ended up writing/posting the trans!will fic u posted abt? It sounds cool!
Oh gosh thank you so much! I haven’t because I was convinced there was no interest and nobody would read it, but clearly I was wrong! I have like. Four WIPs rn I think? But this one is at the top of the list for next time I have writer’s block and decide the best way to fix it is start something new.
The blood moon cometh 😈😈
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i call this my “frumpy futch goes to the mall for the first time in 3 years” look
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I wanna start a thing where, if people feel down or sad. They can just DM me and I'll praise them relentlessly!
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omg omg - Demeter singing the "I believe it is Old Deuteronomy"
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my sister has informed me that my eurotrash playlist is used in her sorority house regularly. i don't know if i should be deeply honoured or profoundly ashamed
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It’s my party and I get to control the music (rereading comments left on my fan fics)
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ten years ago you were so scared of such different things, but you survived them anyway. the same goes for five years ago and two years ago. everything that has ever felt like a hurdle, you’ve passed through. so be afraid, identify your fears, and then allow yourself to remember that in just a little while, this will be another thing that you have overcome.
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I write more pesis tonight???
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
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its so crazy that for the last 5 years a small but annoyingly vocal online group has been acting like mob movies of all things are pretentious and inaccessible cinema. yeah the godfather is kinda slow but these are movies about criminals who shoot people
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