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dopaminerjic · 2 years

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transphobic cis gay people, have you ever considered: taking all the things you claim are evidence that "trans rights activism” is actually a “cult” or whatever the fuck, and replacing “transphobe” and all related words with “homophobe”. and seeing if it still sounds so unreasonable all of a sudden. these people will give examples of how supposedly deranged the stupid gendies are like “omg1!!1!! i just reblogged from a terf omg omg i will delete immediately i hate those people theyre scum i dont support them at all” ok well if someone actually said those exact words thats a little over the top yes but. do you not also think you would be upset and in a rush to clarify your intentions if you found you had accidentally reblogged from someone who openly preaches that gay people are disgusting immoral scum and advocates for anti-gay laws. do you not think it would at least be normal and reasonable behavior for you to delete the post and express displeasure that you unwittingly associated with such a person. or if you saw someone else who wasnt gay reblogging such a post, do you not think you as a gay person might want to tell the other guy, hey, nothing against you but that person is actually violently homophobic and id feel more comfortable if you deleted the post. do you not think that would be reasonable behaviour and not evidence that you are trying to drag people into your gay cult

because, i can guarantee you that there are plenty of people out there who would see this behaviour as being exactly that and frankly the part that astounds me is the part where entire open and proud members of the gay community will turn round and do the exact same to the trans community as is done to them, without even the slightest hint of awareness. the fact that these people will accuse trans people of being homophobic for.. checks notes.. being transgender, while also advocating for literal conversion therapy. the fact that these people will go on and on until theyre blue in the face about how being gender nonconforming is good and to be celebrated until, god forbid, that gender nonconformity extends to using different pronouns or wanting your body to look a certain way or saying fuck this, i dont want anything to do with the gender i was assigned at birth, i hate it and i dont consider it part of my identity

then all of a sudden these people love bio & gender essentialism and dictating peoples identities and lives more than the christian conservatives, and its not like im not aware of just how hypocritical people can be but. fucking man. y’all really just looked at the system that oppresses you and somehow came to the conclusion that the only way to talk about that oppression is to fucking lick the system’s boot and enforce the same way of viewing the world that is the thing being used to hurt you in the first place. and somehow trans people are the ones being sexist and homophobic for just trying to live our lives?? while dealing with the exact same sexism and homophobia that cis women and cis gays do on top of the transphobia and yet the same people we have so many struggles in common with us will turn round and paint trans people as the oppressors. as if fuelled by some sort of stockholm syndrome towards the cisheteronormative (not to fucking mention intersexist and racist and probably more im not thinking of right now!) construct of sex & gender that is hurting all of us, while also pushing the exact same rhetoric towards us that the conservatives use on them and this has gone far beyond what i originally had in mind and is probably just a bunch of disjointed rambling but god am i tired. im so fucking tired

you wonder why we want nothing to do with you, not even in the form of an accidentally reblogged tumblr post? you wonder why, all the anger, all the violent words? you wonder why we hate you, even sometimes more than the misogynists and the homophobes?

we never expected the misogynists and the homophobes to be on our side. we never looked at them and saw people who should be allies, friends, siblings; who should care about us and stand up for us, or at the very minimum be able to sympathise with our plight. the misogynists and the homophobes and all those others may come at us for all theyre worth but at least they never betrayed us

you betrayed us

whether you can see it or not, you betrayed us

#certified andy original #ok to rb #having. a normal moment here. like im ok just needed to get some things off my chest i guess damn #transphobia #homophobia #negative

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endcant · 3 years

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i used to be very active in the cottagecore realm in 2018. im not alone in this, but i had my cottagecore blog before the word “cottagecore” was coined, and thus before it was presupposed that the lifestyle and aesthetic being posted about had anything in particular to do with cottages. a lot of the relevant posts found their way to me through other tags— dirtcore, plantcore, grandmacore, solarpunk, diy, etc— or just through the sheer natural popularity of the posts that ended up defining the cottagecore style

over the time between like 2016-2018, i had been pivoting away from my 90s/arcade themed aesthetic that i had fostered since like 2013 or something, because the colorful carpets and cheap plastic toys and bubblegum dispenser candies and slimes were beginning to be presumed to be part of something called “kidcore”, and kidcore was having a problem

the issue at hand for kidcore (and stim tumblr as well) was that ageplay and other controversial/triggering kink accounts were openly interacting with and advertising themselves on posts that were either meant for kids and age regressors, or themed around the original poster’s own childhood. as a result, kidcore/age regression and ageplay/kink were getting weirdly and uncomfortably conflated. it was a huge issue that i found really offputting, so i just bailed from the use of that visual language in general

the way that many, many kidcore and stim bloggers responded to these kinds of issues was to diligently put a DNI banner at the bottom of every single post, no matter how unsightly or combative that seemed. at the time, i thought that this was kind of a hopeless exercise. i thought that kidcore as an aesthetic would never really manage to extricate its content and reputation from that offputting area of kink tumblr, but it seems like i was wrong. through just like the sheer saturation of in-post DNI banners, it seemed to work. kidcore was more safe for kids and age regressors to blog and reblog about without getting weird fucked up interactions, and people seemed to be under less scrutiny for having a kidcore blog at all because it was no longer uncomfortably conflated with kink to that degree

the thing i admire most about this is that so many kidcore and stim bloggers decided all on their own that they wanted make it clear who their blog was and wasnt a safe space for. more of them could have decided to ignore the issue, more of them could have said that naysayers “just dont get it”, and more of them could have decided that they didnt mind added traffic, no matter who it came from. but these posters were uncomfortable with the issue, so they made that discomfort known at every opportunity.

this sort of stands in contrast to how most cottagecore bloggers ive seen have responded to the realization that cottagecore was growing to be popular with ecofascists and weird patriarchal tradcath & colonialist bloggers, esp since like 2019 or so. some bloggers sacrificed the simple aesthetic by adding DNI banners, but compared to the DNI saturation of kidcore bloggers, these were few and far between. also, weirdly, most of those banners also pertained to the kink-related boundaries that kidcore and stim bloggers had to set, and generally said little about politics except sometimes that terfs were unwelcome. anecdotally, i dont personally recall ever seeing a banner that said something like “dont interact if youre an ecofascist or christian nationalist!” or anything like that underneath any of the crafty and pastoral cottagecore imagery that ive encountered over the years.

the most common response that i saw from cottagecore bloggers to all the criticism and suspicion in 2019-2020 was every cottagecore blogger going on the defensive— “the accusations of cottagecore bloggers being right-wing or colonialist are false and not worth our time. anybody who spent any time in our community would know that plenty of us are leftist or poc!!” — for roughly one or two posts, and then never responding to the criticism again unless it came to their askbox specifically.

in short, the message a lot of cottagecore bloggers sent with their posts was not “ecofascists are unwelcome here,” but instead “critics who point out the ecofascist issue are unwelcome here.” and ecofascists and their ilk kept reblogging the same mushrooms and lace curtains and transparent homemade pie pngs as everybody else, unperturbed. there was no concerted effort to make it clear at every fucking turn that fascists were unwelcome

i ended up just drifting away from the cottagecore tag family over the course of 2019 to focus my gardening/naturalist/diy energies more directly on leftist environmentalism rather than aesthetic. since then, ive been thinking about the difference between cottagecore and the previous tumblr aesthetic i unintentionally joined and intentionally abandoned, kidcore. i have watched the response of both groups to these kinds of issues from a short distance, and i feel like kidcore posters better rose to the challenge of community infiltration by parties with harmful views and intentions. less kidcore bloggers have their DNIs directly in their posts nowadays from what ive seen, but the popular DNI banner phase of the kidcore world seemed to be essential and effective in establishing who the tag was and wasn’t meant for. no effort like this has been widespread on cottagecore tumblr, particularly among popular cottagecore posters, and so the reputational damage and the failure to exclude literal fascists from the main bulk of the aesthetic’s ecosystem continues to persist.

i guess overall the stories of these aesthetics (as i witnessed them) are just an interesting anecdotal comparison of how tolerating individuals that make vulnerable/marginalized members of a community feel threatened lead to that community becoming de-facto dominated (or assumed to be dominated) by those who are making others feel threatened, as vulnerable/marginalized members leave and additional vulnerable/marginalized people are deterred from ever joining. whereas proactively stating boundaries again and again and again leads to the creation of a better safe space, as well as a culture of awareness about the issues at hand

#mine #aesthetic #long post

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panfox-chan · 3 years

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We need to talk about homophobic people

OK listen i think its important especially for the people who r apart of the LGBT community to address this. Dont be scared of homophobic people. there stupid and jealous because we are different and unique. And they can't have the same feelings of uniqueness like we do. I have way to much of my friends including myself at school getting picked on by homophobic people and i had enough. dont let those kind of people drag u down. i also read in tumblr yes tumblr a long time ago i read that there were way to much homophobic comments on here and i just want to put a stop on that also. if you agree with me pls follow me and reblog this so we can address the issue even more. another thing, all u homophobic people STOP PICKING ON US WE ARE HUMANS JUST LIKE U AND WE HAVE ALL THE SAME EQUAL RIGHTS AND ALL THE SAME EQUAL LOVE THAT GOD HAS FOR US JUST LIKE YOU GUYS. and yes i am a pansexual christian and i believe god loves everyone no matter what they are. if u like this pls follow me and reblog this so we can address this issue and stop homophobia.

#stop homophobia #lgbtq #panfox #lgbtq rights

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scottspack · 4 years

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my wife @got2ghost tagged me to talk about my 10 favorite ships and why!

yall know i LOVE to talk so lessgo!!!!

KIRK/SPOCK - Star Trek: I know this is a very unpopular opinion with some of my mutuals (I apologize Phoenix and Amy) but as someone who grew up watching TOS with my grandma and next gen with my parents, AOS, which came out when I was 13, was MY Star Trek. It was cool and sleek and pine/quinto were hot and at 13 years old I was like This Is Mine Now and have loved it ever since even though I fully recognize what makes it hard to love for classic trekkies! THAT BEING SAID, the reason i love spirk so much (besides the TOS version and the history and love they have) is because AOS spirk was the first pairing that i ever read fic for that was BEAUTIFUL and MOVING and GUT WRENCHING! this was the pairing that made me realize that fic could even be good! that it could not only be good but be AMAZING! even though the AOS movies fumble the spirk bag over and over and over, the things that fic writers have done with these characters and the stories they’ve created around the differences in AOS made a huge impact on me as a young teen and they still have a huge space in my heart!!!!!!!

Sterek- Teen Wolf: there is absolutely a reason that this pairing got so popular so fast and it’s because their dynamic is genuinely so GOOD and funny and there’s so much to work with!!!! Jeff Davis If Not For The Laws Of This Land I Would Have Slaughtered you, etc, etc, BUT regardless of what was done to them in canon, shipping sterek in 2012-2014 was the most fun ive had online in my entire life and i’ll love sterek forever! on this i swear!!!!!! no homo deserves a nobel peace prize!!!!!!!!!

Ruth/Idgie - Fried Green Tomatoes: i think it was phoenix who reblogged something recently about how so much historical gay rep is tragic and sad and doesn’t focus on the reality that gay people have always existed and not every single one of them lived tragic and sad lives. THAT’S WHAT MAKES RUTH/IDGIE SO IMPORTANT TO ME!!!! the importance of historical gay love that was happy! and accepted by their community! and beautiful! and romantic! they fall in love and start a business and raise a child and live in a happy home together! in 1930s alabama! their dynamic in both the book and the movie is unbelievably sweet and hot and i want to cry just thinking about the TENDER LOVE AND CARE!!!!!!!!!!!

Mulder/Scully - The X Files: they’re my parents and i love them! the skeptic/believer dynamic at it’s absolute fucking best! you want to talk about blueprints? mulder/scully is the fucking blueprint. “scully, is this demonstration of boyish agility turning you on?”

Jack/Bitty - omgcp: everyone on tumblr had already moved on by the time i got into omgcp last november, so it feels like im the only one who cares about them anymore but AHHHHHHHHHH i love jack/bitty so much and jack zimmermann in particular (not surprising since spock and lan wangji are two of my other favorite characters, you can see a pattern here) ANYWAYS i think that they are such a fucking good pairing. bitty unconsciously bringing jack out of his shell and making him want to open up and be receptive to love and to be a braver person just by virtue of being apologetically bitty is SO SWEET!! I THINK ABOUT THEM ALL THE TIME!!!!!! read Something Like This by emmagrant01 on ao3!!!!

Destiel - Supernatural: i mean what the fuck do you want me to say. its a man in gay love with an angel. if you’ve followed me for any length of time you’ll know two things: im gay and i love the abstract idea of christian mythology. destiel ticks all of my stupid boxes! one of my fave pastimes is going on ao3 and sorting destiel fics oldest to newest and reading all the really good super early fics when no one knew where the show was going with their angel mythology so fic writers relied on the actual bible and took angels seriously and it was GREAT!

Nick/Jess - New Girl: they’re soulmates from SEASON. ONE. EPISODE. ONE. baybee!!!!!!!! aint nothing else to say!

Flint/Thomas - Black Sails: this is a ship i dont talk about THAT often but is extremely important to me for what it represents. ive written about 500 tag essays about how black sails is important for many reasons, one of which is that it’s a show that believes in gay joy and happy endings for gay people. the fact that flint spent a decade in mourning for thomas, burning down as much of the english empire as he could in retribution for how thomas was treated, killed all of the people who called him a monster for being in love, and then at the end of it all STILL got his happy ending? absolute catharsis. extremely close to my heart.

Larry - One Direction: [explanation redacted]

Wei Wuxian/Lan Wangji - The Untamed: new comers and heavy fucking hitters WANGXIAN!!!!!!!! there was no way in hell that i was ever NOT going to be fully in love with them once i started this show. not only are they ancient chinese kirk/spock, but everything else about their dynamic is just so fucking good!!!! childhood enemies to reluctant friends to shy crushes to soulmates in pursuit of justice and Doing The Right Thing to them against the world to one of them dies and the other wears white in mourning for 16 years to one of them is resurrected and the other knows its him immediately to a stronger connection than ever to once again them! against! the! world! to LOVERS to MARRIED to DOMESTIC BLISS AND RAISING THEIR CHILD TOGETHER. its..............a lot! and its so good!

this was super fun and im going to tag @wolfbuddy, @significationary, @curlytemple, and @nicolegendary (nicole i want to hear your essay on the gay alien cw show very badly) if you guys are interested in doing this!!!

#i consulted some very old tags on my blog to see if i was leaving any out #that i might still want to include #and i didnt find any that i wanted to include #but i was reminded how absolutely obsessed i was with the 100/bellarke back in the day #which should be obvious since i even changed my url for a while etc etc #but holy shit that show did me so wrong that ive really purged all memory of it from my brain #i could barely tell you the general plot of that show anymore #and SO much of my old otp tags and stuff were all about bellarke #thats what happens when you get straightbaited huh #the betrayal!

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dykespreads · 4 years

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think imma butch bi dyke. if ur fine with sharing, what were your experiences with dykehood as a bi woman? i honestly feel really nervous but contented w dyke as a whole, i dont wanna be considered lesphobic or whatever :(

well im going to be 100% transparent with you that regardless of your intentions you will be called a lesbophobe by some people, the nature of tumblr is to paint whoever you disagree with as your oppressor and a monster and you just have to deal with that. in irl spaces it matters significantly less and nobody (at least in my experience) will question your choices. it helped me a lot because i have a lot of irl friends that are bi or lesbian or trans so everyone is pretty understanding and not quite so “if you say something i disagree with you are cancelled forever and i will make sure i convince everyone that you’re a terf” which has happened to me over dyke discourse with online tumblr “friends” despite me obviously not being a terf, given that im trans and my gf is a trans woman. but on to the point, i have reblogged a ton of cited essays and resources on bi women’s history in lesbian spaces, our impact on those spaces, our historical right on butch/femme/dyke and our current right and usage of butch/femme/dyke so if that kind of proof reassures you i definitely recommend looking through my blog. tumblr search feature is super awful so i’m sorry it’s not more accessible but you should be able to search for key terms and find it. my personal experience with dykehood comes largely from comphet, living in racist christian south, and some homophobic experiences with past girlfriends. ive always known i’ve liked girls and ive spent a long LONG time flip flopping between lesbian and bi, and lo and behold my lived reality and the way people treat me when im with a girl literally does not change at all. that leaves me to believe that it doesn’t matter. whether i personally ID as bi or lesbian does not matter because my experiences won’t change. im still in a loving committed relationship with a girl and am visibly gay. ergo im a dyke. i won’t be ashamed about it. *and yes i am aware the dictionary definition of dyke as written by cishets says that it means lesbian. but gay marriage was also banned in the united states. does that mean that two bi women, who aren’t techincally gay men or lesbians, could marry? no stop being fucking stupid anti-wlw language has always revolved around lesbians that doesn’t mean bi women were just unfortunately caught in the cross fire. the sacred lesbian only experience doesn’t exist, unless its specifically “i identify as a lesbian”. all wlw are subject to comphet, corrective r*pe (though i may agree that it has different connotations among lesbians, i can personally say lesbians are not the only ones targeted for being “cured” of their attraction to women, and r*pe CERTAINLY does not feel better just because you hypothetically could like a man lmao get your fucking heads out of your asses), prejudice, feeling predatory, loving women, being gnc, having an estranged parent relationship, not feeling really like a true woman, confliction with gender roles, not loving men or wanting to be with men, having trauma, facing misogyny and homophobia, etc etc. literally name something and i will make a counter argument for it, because me or a bi woman i know has lived it. wlw have been going through this shit together since the dawn of time. and radical feminism and political lesbianism warped us. a lot of these arguments about bi women being available to men are misogynistic and extremely biphobic and literally ACTUAL terf rhetoric. terfs, especially terfs that are wlw, have something to gain from painting lesbians as this group that is being set in on all sides by men (and trans women), and that bi women are using their privilege by being close to men to push lesbians down, and are class traitors. tldr; people will hate you no matter what you do. bi women helped build the lesbian community before radical feminism, terfs, and political lesbianism drove bi women out of the lesbian community. we have much of a right to our terms as any other wlw and its ahistorical to say we don’t. also life is short if calling yourself a dyke connects you to your love of women nobody can tell you otherwise.

#rape #biphobia #homophobia #misogyny #i kinda went off lol #im just gonna copy paste this next time someone wants to say anything to me on this site

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ingu · 6 years

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a goodbye letter of sorts?

It feels a bit weird to be writing this but more than anything else this comes from a need for myself to sort out my complicated feelings when it comes to this website.

I've been an avid user of tumblr for a large percentage of my early adulthood, at least from 2011-12, and it's played a significant role in certain personal transformations and paradigm shifts that have taken place during that time. But at the end of the day the culture of this website is something I can't take anymore. For a long time now, this website has not been something that's improving my life or making me happy. In fact, it is more often than not a direct source of stress and anger, none of which are things I want in my life. And for my own mental health if not for my own sanity I am going to take an even bigger step back than I already have in the past year or two.

I think every user of this website senses this to some extent, but there are a few themes that repeat in every other post you see.

Smug self-righteousness - 'I'm a good person (and better than you) for xyz reasons'

Outright emotional manipulation (particularly through guilt tripping)

Moral condescension - you're wrong/bad/ignorant and let me educate you

While I am 100% aware I have fallen into these traps many times during my years on this website... being so constantly exposed to this is exhausting. And it's turning me into a type of person I don't want to be. More often than not, I feel like the only truly genuine thing I see in this website is anger and moral outrage. Browsing my dashboard feels like I'm reading through the warped mirror reflection of a Conservative Christian website. Instead of all sinners being condemned to hell it is all men/white people, instead of someone being written off for being queer it's someone written off for one (1) insensitive remark they made three or five years ago. There is this chilling echo of a basic black and white mentality and at the basis of it all there is this overwhelming sense of impotence. Building rage and anger and confusion that has been given no direction and no guidance, until the community has been made ripe for radfems and terfs and antis and has begun to devour ourselves instead of organising in any meaningful way to fight systemic injustice.

This is not an old critique of the website, but with my growing years being present here I am starting to more and more see the startling validity of it. Reblogging and signal boosting a post takes two seconds of effort and does no real good for anything but your own ego. Two lines of text saying x group is valid or y group is beautiful that took someone five seconds to type and you one second to reblog doesn't change anything about the way society is still against them. I get it. I'm valid. You're valid.

In some ways it's as though tumblr is a perfect microcosm of a popular critique you see nowadays of the new generation of 'woke' youths. And, among many other causes, reflects a direct consequence of the capitalism and social media's enroachment into social activism. So much of what you see on tumblr is this sort of moral performatism. Social change has become an individual responsibility, a personal brand and way of living, instead of an orgnaised movement against an entrenched and systemic tools of oppression. Why organise and hold corporations accountable for the environmental destruction and waste of energy when you can just spend five minutes less in the shower? Why commit time and enegy and money volunteering and donating to charities and social groups when you can pay a company $10 for a shirt you dont need because it has the word feminism on it? Why join with organisations trying to directly affect victim's lives when you can send anonymous hate mail telling someone they're bad for a story they wrote.

Dear this specific type of people I keep seeing on my dash. If you have to boost and measure your own self worth by how good of an ally or defender you are to X disadvantaged minority (that you're even a part of), then that's your prerogative. But understand that nothing is being helped but your own ego each time you attack others the way you do. Google the definition of confirmation bias. Google the definition of echo chamber. Take a look at your sources of information. Take a look at the people and communities you've surrounded yourself with, and ask yourself: Is this making your life better? Or is it just giving you more justification for being bitter, angry and jaded? More reason to revel in the righteous misery of being the victim instead of stepping forward and taking measures to protect and empower yourself?

Is this truly what you want to be?

If you truly care about making a difference in your cause, to protect or defend people being hurt by systemic threats, get off tumblr. There are resources and organisations outside of this website which you can contribute your energey to which will be much more rewarding and meaningful than what you're doing now.

And I think, at the end of the day, this is why I don't want to be part of this culture and environment anymore. Tumblr encourages a certain kind of behaviour in you. It encourages you to cultivate a certain part of yourself which is dangerous, an all or nothing mentality that helps no one at the end of the day. I don't want to spend so much time and energy being angry and frustrated with things I cannot affect when I can be actually living and enjoying my own life and doing things that might make a difference to these causes I care about. I am tired of my overinvestment in 'political correctness' that has made me unable to enjoy certain things without guilt. I am tired of being told what I should and shouldn’t like because of xyz ways a minority was represented badly. I am tired of my immediate focus on everything 'wrong' with any piece of media I consume instead of actually ruminating on the things I liked. I am sick of this overwhelming negativity which is dominating the way I live and the way I view and treat the people around me.

I really need to get off tumblr, is what I'm saying. So that's what I plan to do.

#mind mumblings

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queerloquial · 7 years

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every odd question~

How did you choose your name?

ive just always favored magpies, so the word ended up in two of my urls (this one, and my original, steam-powered-magpie) and eventually turned into what people call me

Do you have more physical dysphoria or more social dysphoria?

social, definitely. i really only experience discomfort with my body based on what people around me see when they look at me- they see certain traits and assume ‘this is a girl’, so sometimes i do what i can to change or hide those traitsWhat was the first time you suspected you were transgender?

trans, specifically- probably when i was 19/20 and learning more about being nonbinary and the various words i could use to identify myself

being not cis- i remember being as young as ¾/5 and thinking ‘i am not a girl at all >:(’

What is your favorite part of being transgender?

the first thing in my head was ‘i can pick my own name!’How did you come out? If you didn’t come out, why do you stay in the closet? Or what happened when you were outed?

im really only out here on tumblr (where i just edited my about page), and to my sister (who follows me & read my about every time i update it) and best friend (who i told in conversation somewhere, fairly casually)

im not out to anyone else irl because i live with and around a lot of people who are very against anyone who isnt a middle-class-or-higher white able-bodied neurotypical cis het conservative protestant christian

What are your experiences with binding or tucking?

ive never used a real binder- only sports bras a size or two smaller than i wear normally- but im strongly considering getting one when im more financially stableWhat (if any) steps do you want to take to medically transition?

ive thought vaguely about top surgery or starting t, but they dont appeal to me nearly as much as just binding and wearing guys clothesWhat labels have you used before you’ve settled on your current set?

i was a demigirl at one point, and used to go by she/her pronouns. now i only use those with people im not out toWhat do you do when you have to go to the bathroom in public?

i use the womens room by choice, its habit by this point and i do so love my routines. i did once have a gas station attendant accidentally unlock the mens room for me- i was wearing baggy clothing and had my hair up in my hat- and having them assume from a glance that i was not in fact a woman was very niceWould you ever go stealth, and if you are stealth, why do you choose to be stealth?

is that different from being closeted? if not, i do it because i dont feel particularly safe being properly outWhy do you use the pronouns you use?

they/them is a nice neutral set of pronouns that already fit neatly into common grammar

also im plural, so, bonus pointsWhat’s your biggest trans-related fear?

being known as trans by the people i currently live with/around & them reacting the way i think they wouldWhat do you wish cis people understood?

well that trans people are fucking human, for one. i cant tell you how many times my mom has heard about trans kids on the news and proceeded to talk about each one and call them “it”…

also that gender is not male/female, that presentation does not equal identity, that medically transitioning is not the only way to be trans or nonbinary/that not everyones medical transition is the same (some people take hormones, some get one surgery, some go all-out, some people dont want to medically transition at all)What do you do to validate yourself?

bind and put on my gayest flannel and my nice heavy boots and tuck my hair into the collar of my shirt. looking less obviously-feminine clears up a lotHow are you involved with the trans community, IRL or online?

i reblog trans/nb positivity posts and occasionally do gender-related dragon age headcanons, but thats about itWhat trans issue are you most passionate about?

uhhhhh being treated as human i guessHow do you feel your gender interacts with your race, disability, class, weight, etc. from the perspective of intersectionality?

i think there might be some effect from being poor and fat- something along the lines of ‘society at large doesnt see me as a real woman anyways/i cant perform femininity to the required degree so why not be genderless’. theres definitely pull from being neurodivergent; thats actually my Real Identity definition. ‘gendervague- gender or lack thereof influenced by mental illness’. i use agender for conveniences sake, but at the core, i feel like if i didnt have all the brain things that i do then i would have a genderDo you feel more masculine, feminine, or neither?

non-gender with left masculineHow did/do you manage waiting to transition?

with my current living and financial situation, waiting is kinda mandatory, so its just. thats life, theres no changing it without drastic action that i dont know if im comfortable taking right nowDo you interact with other trans people IRL?

to my knowledge, no, but they could be closeted or just not disclosing their gender to me

#tao kan #misc tag #endlessly screaming into the void #askbox meme reply #the exception to irl interaction is that currently im hanging out w my Very Not Cis datemate for a while #its only for a few weeks tho #:(

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