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Sunday Blessings Pouring On You

Image: Facebook User Here is our Sunday blessings to you today. Psalm 100:5 (ESV) For the Lord is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.

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#grace teaching #gracefulness #graces #happiness #sunday blessing

[ofmd-ann]

"Yeah, I know I don't" Act of Grace (S01E09) 📝

#but he will bc he loves you #stedes face in the last gif 🥺 #our flag means death #stede bonnet #ofmd #edward teach #ed teach #blackbonnet #gentlebeard #ofmd gifs #ofmdann edits #S01E09 #Act of grace

[celluloidbroomcloset]

I was thinking a bit more about Stede and consent, and especially consent to physically touch Ed (I've talked about this before, but whatever, I do what I want).

We don't see tons about Stede's childhood, but we do see his father grabbing him and reprimanding him for being weak, and other boys tying him up and throwing rocks at him. Given the time period, it's likely he was beaten in school and that he was beaten by his father. (Not an inevitability in the 18th century, but very likely, especially considering how his father is represented.)

A lot of the time he's physically touched by other men, it's either violent (being stabbed, having his shirt cut off, Izzy grabbing him, etc.) or he reacts with violence (when Doug grabs his shoulder from behind). Except with Ed. Ed touches him when he's lying in bed after being stabbed, to keep him from sitting up. He pats his shoulder and holds him up throughout most of "Discomfort," in part because Stede can only half walk, and hugs him after they've successfully evaded the Spanish. Throughout Season 1, Ed never once touches Stede aggressively (nor, for that matter, most of Season 2, headbutt notwithstanding).

I think that experience of being touched by another man without violent intent shapes Stede as much it shapes Ed. Stede would be accustomed to asking permission to touch anyone (just by virtue of his upbringing), and we see that he only just barely touches his wife. But with Ed, he has proof that physical touch from another man isn't naturally aggressive and isn't something he should cringe away from. And he allies that experience with consent - he consistently asks to touch Ed, either verbally or nonverbally, to be certain that his touch is welcome. I'd argue that comes from his experience (whether he's consciously aware of it) of being touched without his consent, always with an intent to dominate him or harm him.

Asking for consent means a lot to Stede, because he himself has never really been asked for it (we might even extend that to his sexual experiences, because certainly he didn't consent to be sold in marriage). It also means a lot to Ed, because he too is rarely touched without violence.

#ofmd #ofmd season 2 #ofmd season 1 #our flag means death #ofmd meta #stede bonnet #edward teach #ed teach #blackbonnet #gentlebeard #tw: abuse #tw: physical abuse #gif #also that act of grace gif gives me all the feels #once more i write something longer than i intended

[yonemurishiroku]

Thinking about Jason Grace who has never had a decent experience with romance.

His first contact with it was with his best friend and fellow praetor, one forged by Rome’s expectations but not his will.

His second experience - also the last - was a fake girlfriend given upon his manipulative step-mother’s ideas, who later turned out to be into girls. It also created a rift between him and his previous almost-girlfriend, who above all was his best friend.

And the only time he got to meet a god of love - the supposedly cute and sweet Cupid - was only to watch, in helplessness, the god brutally threaten his friend to come out as a payment for helping them save their world.

All of that - and he died before he got to know what love’s supposed to mean.

Why did love forsake you, Jason.

#jason grace #someone pls teach this kid what love is #yone rambling #pjo #hoo #toa #heroes of olympus #trials of apollo #riordanverse #piper mclean #jasper #percy jackson and the olympians #over analyzing

[lilsillustration]

No better way than to kill time on your commute to work by drawing characters from your fave childhood book, right?

#percy jackson #heroes of olympus #hazel levesque #reyna avila ramirez arellano #frank zhang #jason grace #piper mclean #leo valdez #annabeth chase #that isn’t dirt under my fingernails btw it’s black paint I was teaching an art class this day LMAO #rachel elizabeth dare

[winepresswrath]

sudden yearning for time travelling teen jiang fengmian lands at lotus pier fic that winds up being about a perfectly nice kid having a varying series of "oh no. i don't like that. that's a lot" reactions.

#i think in order for this to be satisfying i have to give grace and interiority to teenmian #i'm picturing an older teen like 18ish? maybe even early 20s? #big crush on csr he's already pretty sure isn't going to work out #but at least he'll always have wei-xiong #anyway this is my ploy to give jfm a chance at an ugly crying meltdown #he's trying so hard to be even keeled and like #maybe take this as an evil vision designed to teach him something #but somewhere in between my crush stole my man and then they died #my whole sect burned #my grown ass son who is older than me making the vibe sooooo weird #and my grandson! child of my dead???? daughter?????? #is just like yeah he never talks about you. no never never #and then wwx blows into town and idk somehow they all end up at dinner together and jfm politely calls lqr a punk ass bitch in front of lwj #because what???? context clues suggest lqr has the fucking nerve to not like wei xiong's baby after All That #only for adult son with the weird vibes #to imply only filial piety is keeping him from naming the real #punk ass bitch #anyway this ends with jfm crying because clearly he marries yuanyuan and she HATES HIM and then his own son ALSO HATES HIM #and would rather stupid Lan-er-gongzi #be his dad. #if you like lqr so much why don't you just join the lan sect then????? #and that's how jc learns he didn't get it all from his mama #jc didn't mean it he was stressed! this isn't his dad it's an a-ling sized kid. but it's still stressful

[mydairpercabeth]

RIP, Leo Valdez. You would have loved Cowboy Carter.

#Leo would absolutely be blasting YA YA rn #that album is so good #we can all agree Leo is Beyhive #pure Texas boy #he would be teaching the seven how to line dance to river dance and texas hold em #leo valdez #percy jackson #pjo #percy jackon and the olympians #percy jackson the lightning thief #pjo tv #percy series #heroes of olympus #the seven #hepheastus #annabeth chase #percabeth #annabeth would love the album too as a virginia girly #cowboy carter #beyonce #jason grace #piper mclean #nico di angelo #grover underwood

[dorywhynot]

And when I stopped looking for me // I was able to find you (Kae Tempest, "Grace")

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#ofmd #our flag means death #gentlebeard #co captains #stede bonnet #edward teach #blackbeard #act of grace #been wanting to draw this one for a long time #like ever since we got that split second cut of lifting the blindfold #like before we knew about the actual kiss #drawing #illustration #shop update

[biceratops7]

WAIT! WAIT A MINUTE HOLY SHIT-!

I can’t believe I didn’t IMMEDIATELY notice this while I was writing it but in a recent post I mentioned that Stede’s life is so incredibly depressing pre-canon because he’s essentially forced upon nearly everyone who’s supposed to be close to him.

He’s with Mary because of an arranged marriage, they almost definitely didn’t want to have children together, and his children didn’t ask to be born, nor can they truly grasp why he’s so distant. He’s not important to his family because they love eachother (although I’m sure they do, just not able to fully express it forced into this structure), he’s important because they’d supposedly be much worse off financially without his wealth. It’s the same with his father. He seems to hold little to no affection for Stede, but as a son Stede must carry on the Bonnet name, continue to ensure it’s associated with wealth and prestige.

I thought this was a weird line at first, but now I finally get it, and it’s fucking brilliant. Stede has no lack of being needed. He knows what it’s like to be relied on, he’s spent decades as the head of a family almost no one involved wanted, and now he manages a crew he clearly feels great love and responsibility for. A response like “of course I do” no matter how well meaning would’ve been inadvertently the worst thing to say because Stede has been hurt by the concept of obligation.

This is someone showing him he’s wanted and confirming that with words. Stede’s being told he’s worth these acts of love just by virtue of staying alive and being in Ed’s presence. It’s such a simple declaration… and it’s so terribly tragic that all he seems to hear is “you better make this worth my while.”

#our flag means death #ofmd #meta #my meta #analysis #act of grace #1x09 #Blackbeard #Edward teach #Stede bonnet #blackbonnet #gentlebeard

[bookshelfdreams]

There were two great posts about Izzy yesterday, and I would like to expand on and add my 2 ct to the things said in them a little. One, by @celluloidbroomcloset (with additions by several others), about how Izzy immediately falls back into old patterns of manipulative behaviour after his supposed redemption in 02x07, only this time with Stede as the focus of said behaviours instead of Ed. The other, by @batsarebetterthanpeople, about how Izzy's behaviour in 02x06 and onward is more akin to the development a homophobe coming around to a queer loved one, than an arc of queer self-discovery.

Izzy's story isn't about himself. I think this is the first, fundamental mistake people make when engaging with it. He's not a protagonist; he doesn't exist in the story for his own sake. So when ofmd asks "How to reform a toxic person? What does it look like and is it even possible?", the starting point isn't one of empathy with Izzy.

It's one of empathy with Ed. ofmd is asking these questions not because it wants to understand Izzy better. What it wants to explore is the possibility of Ed having the relationship with Izzy Ed wants. Whether Izzy can be brought around to understanding Ed's wants and needs, whether he can understand the hurt he caused him.

This is a fundamentally different approach to how these stories are usually told. Usually, we start out with the unspoken assumption that the toxic person is well-intentioned, good at heart, and whatever pain they caused our protagonist is more akin to a misunderstanding than deliberate harm. Yes, they may have have caused hurt, but if you just see things from their perspective, you'll understand that they only had your best interest in mind, and that will enable you to forgive them.

Obviously this can't not veer off into victim blaming. "The abuser had a good reason for what they did, and therefore, it's your own fault. Or at the very least not theirs."

ofmd fundamentally rejects this. It is very careful to never let the bullies and abusers have a valid point. Abusers are abusive because they get something out of it. To truly reform an abuser, they would have to be willing to build a life for themselves that is a lot less comfortable. Where they have to consider other's feelings, communicate and compromise, meet other people on equal footing, instead of putting themselves in a position of authority. It means letting go of patterns of behaviour that they have so far been quite successful with*.

And Izzy - tries. He is interesting because part of him clearly wants to leave the toxicity behind. He gets to see what positive relationships, human connection, being part of a community look like; he's offered an outstretched hand, and, after biting it a few times, tentatively starts to take it.

But he can't quite get there. The temptation to fall back into what he knows is too strong. celluloidbroomcloset's post linked above talks mainly about 02x07, so I'm not gonna repeat all that, but I'm going to add two little scenes from 02x06 that further cement this. In the beginning of the episode, Izzy finds Ed as he's standing on deck, watching the sea, and the conversation that plays out is a clear mirror to, almost repeat of the Frankfurter clouds scene from 01x04. Ed tries to share an observation with Izzy in an attempt to reach out to him ("Something's wrong. Feels like a storm's coming but I can't see it."), which Izzy, of course, immediately dismisses ("Or maybe you're just a mopey twat and there is no fucking storm").

The second scene is, when Izzy is the only one discouraging Ed from following Stede to his cabin after he kills Ned Lowe. Discouraging support, discouraging connection and emotional honesty; Izzy will continue to try to isolate Stede.

Now, I do not think this, or the things happening in 02x07, are put in there deliberately to show that Izzy has ulterior motives. Rather, they are an illustration of how deep these maladaptive patterns of behaviour go. Izzy isn't able to fully admit to himself the extend of the harm he caused and this is what prevents him from truly changing his behaviour - even when he has just experienced the benefits of a loving, supportive community!

All of this is the explanation to the answer the show gives to our starting question: Is it possible for Ed to have the relationship with Izzy that Ed wants? And the answer is: No. Just because growth is possible, doesn't mean it is enough. Doesn't mean anyone's entitled to forgiveness. Sometimes, the only compassionate thing to do, is to take yourself permanently out of the other person's life.

But Izzy did learn, and he did grow. It's just that the purpose of said growth wasn't to heal him; it was to enable him to understand the hurt he caused to Ed. That doesn't have to mean people like Izzy can never be reformed, it just means that this isn't a story about the reformation of a toxic person. It's the story of leaving this toxicity behind.

And this is why Izzy's heartfelt apology followed by his immediate death is a positive ending. It represents the conviction that no relationship is so broken it can't be mended, but also the assurance that no relationship is so important it can't be ended.

Ed gets to hear the things he needs to hear most - I am sorry, I was wrong, you didn't deserve this - and then Izzy disappears from his life, and with him, all the toxicity he represents.

They can part on good terms, but part they must. So Ed can go into the rest of his life, unburdened.

*read Lundy Bancroft's "Why does he do that", seriously. The whole thing is on archive.org.

#overall izzy is treated with so much more grace and kindness than the other toxic assholes on this show #because sometimes youre fond of them. right. you DO want to make it work its just not always possible #honestly i think some people just have a very hard time wrapping their head around the fact that izzy is just a narrative device #anyway! #our flag means death #izzy hands #edward teach #thoughts

[penguinreadcom]

Happiness Forever

Bible Study: How to Live a Life with Joy at Any Time Any Situation There are plenty small and big things matter to you a lot. When it matter to you, you pay attention to it, think about it, act on it, over thinking about it sometimes. Are you able to tell which one is worth for you to make an attention at which attitude ? The answer is simple: it matters to you in result of matter to others…

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#Bible study #Christ care #God&039;s protection #grace teaching #happiness forever

[theminecraftbee]

you know, there are a lot of posts about how transitioning as an adult is like going through puberty all over again. and I’m not medically transitioning (at least not yet, maybe one day), so I don’t know if I ever expected to exactly experience that. after all, my hormones are at normal adult levels for someone on birth control. but no, some of the stuff I experience does make me feel like a teenager awkwardly becoming an adult again, actually.

see, I’m attending a friend’s wedding, and I need new formalwear for it (protip: it is generally frowned upon to wear a wedding dress to someone else’s wedding, and that’s the last formalwear I purchased). and I just… really didn’t want to wear a dress, so I went to go get a suit. and I didn’t know how to get any of the required clothes for it and had to have a salesperson help me figure out how dress shirts work and nervously stood there while getting shown how to try stuff on and it really did feel like I was a lost teenager, despite being, you know, almost twenty-six.

but also: I own a three-piece suit now! it’s grey! it looks pretty good on me! I even got a blue tie with bees on it! so it was worth the temporary embarrassment of suddenly realizing I don’t know how men’s formalwear sizes work and, oh god, why are there so many variations of “white dress shirt” what does this mean.

and I figure as I very slowly work up the confidence to be out more irl there will be more and more moments like this, and I’ll lament the fact I didn’t do all this stuff as an actual teenager, but as weird and scary as it is, so far, it’s been worth it.

#also shoutout to the salesperson both at the suit store and the department store #they were VERY nice and reassuring and the woman at the department store wished me luck which was very sweet #I was. very obviously nervous social anxiety is a bitch #I kept being like ‘I’m so sorry I don’t know how this works’ but I never had anyone teach me so I must give myself grace #anyway more personal than I normally am on this blog but I’m excited and also figure someone out there probably relates #just. late milestones. thing I keep experiencing both because autism and because not cis #suddenly realizing ‘oh most people figure this one out as a teenager’ #milestones are bullshit anyway #anyway some stuff needs to come in and then be hemmed so no pictures yet but #suit……

[poison-into-positivity]

I’ve been thinking a LOT about “You really don’t have to do this” / “Yeah, I know I don’t”.

Because up until that point, when had anyone ever sacrificed anything for Stede? Let alone something so important as the entire image of Blackbeard? (It ended up being a necessary sacrifice for Ed, too, but neither of them knew that by this point.)

No wonder Stede was panicking — he’d never been shown love like that before. He didn’t know what to do with it.

#I said this in the tags of a gif set I reblogged a bit ago #but I wanted to make it its own post #because fuck!!!!!!!! #I could yap about act of grace / wygtya for HOURS #ofmd #our flag means death #stede bonnet #ed teach #blackbonnet #gentlebeard

[celluloidbroomcloset]

Never over Ed grasping at Stede like, “No, he’s mine. You can’t have him.”

#ofmd #our flag means death #ofmd season 1 #act of grace #edward teach #stede bonnet #gentlebeard #gif #rhys darby #taika waititi #blackbonnet

[teruel-a-witch]

steve is a ride-or-die husband in married for real

doesn't even ask why danny wants to kill someone, just who, and immediately assumes they will be doing it together, just like everything else.

all jokes aside about how deeply married they are, genuinely it's astounding how truly intertwined their lives are. 'your problems become my problems'. just like in a real marriage there's a certain entitlement towards each other's possessions, 'what's mine is yours and viceversa'.

steve drives danny's car and even danny slips and calls it 'our car'

danny calls steve's living room 'our living room'

'why is he mad at us?' 'must be your fault' aka they share enemies and grudges

steve helps himself to danny's wallet (basically pooled finances) but also drops exorbitant amounts of money on gifts to danny and grace

danny wanders into steve's house without knocking and helps himself to steve's fridge whenever he feels like it

not to mention how possessive he is over steve's kitchen and is indignant when he sees another man using what's his (because when he lived in a shitty apartment he basically used it whenever to learn to cook properly as by the end of s1 he's clearly cooked steve breakfast enough times that steve knows he hates his eggs)

'what are WE thinking, buddy'

co-parenting danny's kids together (steve even calls grace 'my girl' and worries about her being sent to a school that's gonna be a den of sin)

'if a guy was taking pictures like that of my daughter I'd kill him' 'me too'

when danny gets called away for work steve finishes charlie's bedroom by himself and then tells charlie danny did it just like a stay-at-home parent covering up for the busy parent

danny delegates activities he doesn't want to do (jogging, training, surfing) but steve would love to do to him so they are both contributing in raising grace. (meanwhile he hates that stan is paying for her tennis lessons, intruding on something danny willingly lets steve in on)

steve sees danny's retirement as their business, 'our retirement'

they go 50/50 on a restaurant which is danny's dream and steve is nothing if not a supportive husband

all the times danny stays at the house for weeks rent free (and sleeps in steve's bed while house-sitting and blames it on the dog) and moves in twice, second time permanently

dreams of shared future together, 'this is how I always thought it was gonna end, two guys sitting on the beach, watching sunsets'

they really are married in all but the legal sense. it's a mutually beneficial partnership where they are equals not in the sense that they literally contribute the same amount but they contribute what they can in accordance to their ability and compromise and fit together like a jigsaw puzzle. they even have an almost innate telepathy only characteristic of people that have been married for decades.

#mcdanno #actual married couple mcdanno #h50 parallels #h50 meta #myh50 #h50 #hawaii five 0 #h50 5x15 #steve mcgarrett #danny williams #all the times they use the royal we and share a brain cell #talk about teaching grace things when she's 30 #idk i just genuinely love how deeply connected they are #it really is an equal partnership #and a good marriage (not like danny and rachel's :p)

[piedpip3rrr]

Good evening valgrace nation

#Leo’s teaching jason how to play pokemon #yes I know demigods can’t use tech shut up #pjo #percy jackson #pjo hoo toa #jason grace #leo valdez #valgrace