#general advice

[vitaminseetarot]

Quick General Advice for Your Situation (PAC)

One thing I want to mention is that all three piles had earthy palette cards with something spicy on the back of each pile's deck. This could have been the influence of Moon in Taurus as the lunar nodes are beginning to switch over to Aries. I'm sending frustration with all three piles but also a lot of passion and motivation.

Pick which earthy palette color you prefer for some quick guidance.

(piles 1, 2, 3 - images from pexels.com)

Spring Grass: XV Devil, Page of Swords, III Empress (Back: 3 of Wands)

The energy you're building up is leading you to seek out or attract new opportunities to travel to places you haven't experienced before. I'm sensing a strong draw towards what's new at this time, so it could be literal travel or you're seeking out a new experience overall. This could be a radical change from what you're used to. If you feel you're not in any position to travel soon, this may still be your pile, so hang on! Don't feel stuck! I'm letting you know now that plans can change quickly and spawn out of nowhere just as quickly. Your advice is to be in a state of expansion and open mindedness. Although 3 of wands is Aries energy, you're being asked to step into more Sagittarian energy of enthusiasm for adventure and optimism for brighter times. There might be a long period of time where this traveling doesn't happen even when you finally get itchy for it. That's because you need to sit down and do some planning. Make an itinerary, even for a fake trip. Look up photos, have conversations with people about it. Get in the mindset for it. Yes, it's possible to experience the impossible. But you have to be in a state of preparedness for it. Get your basic needs in working order so that when the opportunity does arrive, you'll be more than ready for it, inside and out.

Pink Quartz: Hermit, XIII Death, XVIII Moon (Back: 5 of Wands)

Even though you feel motivated enough to move forward, there's still tiny threads trying to pull you back into overthinking things. It can feel like you're busy when in reality your plans go nowhere because they're dead on arrival. It's one thing to be sparked by an idea, it's another to put it to print without losing what made you want to do it to begin with. I'm seeing an image of somebody sitting hunched over at their bench, writing down one sentence on a sheet of paper before crumpling it and starting again. This isn't a healthy mentality as you're not giving you and your imagination a chance. Your advice to be kinder to yourself by giving your inner vision more space to breathe. Being in stillness and sitting back with a blank canvas is part of the creation process and is in the end more productive than deleting the first page of your book over and over again. You have all three cards as major arcana, so learning this lesson will prove to be monumental to your life's overall progress.

Stone Brown: IV Emperor, III Empress, 7 of Swords (Back: 7 of Wands)

I think this pile is definitely experienced when it comes to making big plans and carrying them through. It seems the one thing that motivates you most is the feeling of "this has to be done, whether or not I like it." You put on a strict poker face only to fall apart as soon as no one's looking. Please let me tell you, pile 3, that you do not always have to be strong for everyone else. It's beautiful for you to see yourself as an important part of what makes life work, that your skills and patience are needed and appreciated. But all the praise in the world won't make up for that hollow feeling of coming home and realizing that you have to be strong for yourself, too. Your advice is similar to pile 2. You need to greatly soften your approach. Allow other people to pick up the pace and help you every now and then. Especially if there are many moving parts and you get into "octopus mode" of needing to be involved in all the cogs of the wheel. It shouldn't always be equal work, going out and dealing with people, then dealing with yourself. When you need time for yourself, take the chance. Ground yourself through nurturing and soothing habits at home, something that lets you take off the "big boss" mask for a while.

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[merridelicious]

I’m moving into college in 3 weeks have you got any tips :0

yes!! quite a few actually. :) *for mutuals outside of the u.s., this advice is based on a U.S. American university experience, so some of it may not apply to you.

PLEASE SEND ASKS if you have specific questions, and I’ll either speak from my own experience or give information from other friends in university rn!!

packing:

You don’t need to bring ALL your stuff. (Really, it’s okay. Also, you have limited space.)

A quick Google search of “college packing list 2023” will yield many results. It’s up to you to decide what “essentials” are actually essential, but suffice it to say, think about the things you use on a daily basis and then think about what you don’t have at home that you’ll need in student housing.

Apartment or dorm, unless you’re really lucky—you’ll be sharing living space & appliances with other people. Yes, that includes showers. If you can get toiletries cheaper locally than in the location of your university, save yourself the time and money. Shower shoes are an absolute must, because those showers can get disgusting.

If you have a meal plan that lasts the entire year, you don’t really need to pack a bunch of food (or go grocery shopping a ton during the school year) but it can be nice to have dry goods & snacks on hand. (I keep rice, macaroni & cheese, crackers, & some type of dried fruit around, if nothing else. Whatever tastes strike your fancy, feel free to add/substitute.) If you’re cooking all your own food, you’re going to need at least a cooking pot, frying pan, spatula, dish sponges, and dish soap, as well as some resealable food storage containers and cheap cups and bowls (I got most of that at Target. They tend to have back-to-school sales and bowls & cups go for less than a dollar each.)

Laundry is going to be a pain in the ass, unless again, you luck out and have a washer and dryer in-unit. Ditto for dishes (unless your space comes with a dishwasher). Do yourself a favor & get a huge bin of Tide pods, pack of laundry sheets, & at least two paper towel rolls so you don’t have to run out every week to replenish cleaning supplies. (I personally despise having dish towels to wash, so if you don’t mind them take the paper towel advice with a grain of salt.)

My dorm was weird and had a sink in it. If you’re responsible for cleaning your own sink it will get nasty quickly. Either take turns with your roommate(s)/housemate(s), or figure out who the designated sink cleaner is.

friends/socializing:

Your first friend group in college will likely not be your last, nor will it last. This group is usually composed of people close in proximity to you aka convenience friends. You might realize three or four months in that these are not your people and you don’t like hanging out with them. This is perfectly normal and okay! You’ll find people who you do vibe with. I encourage you not to limit making friends to your specific university, although if you go to a small one like I do that can be tough.

Universities often have events with free stuff, including free food. Take advantage of these events if & when you can. They’re usually very laid back, and if you’re not in the mood to stick around, you can grab food and then dip.

Orientation events & icebreakers within your first week are to be expected. Try to remember a fun fact about yourself (which is what you usually get asked, along with your intended major, name, pronouns—sometimes, & hometown).

Your RA(s) aren’t cops, but they also aren’t your friends. They’re required to report sketchy shit that happens. My RAs had a rule that if they didn’t hear, see, or smell anything suspicious, it was like nothing happened, but try to get a feel for what yours look out for.

It is more than okay to need/want therapy. You’ve just gone through a massive change in your life and you did it mostly, if not all, by yourself. Your university counseling services (if applicable) are generally not the best place to go for therapy, though. This is especially true if you’re worried about your privacy. I don’t think I’ve heard of student discounts for therapy, but some therapists have this policy called sliding scale where you pay what you can. Find a person you can talk openly with and who is experienced with your mental health concerns/practices the right kind of therapy for you. (CBT, DBT, & EMDR are a few examples.)

dating, love, etc.

First and foremost, if this section doesn’t apply to you because you don’t participate or aren’t ready to in college, please feel free to skip!

If you’re still here, obviously I am not the expert on your love life—you are. That being said, without getting too personal, here are some things I’ve picked up through trial and error.

If you’re starting college, and haven’t yet dated anyone, it’s okay to feel behind. What isn’t okay is being patronized or taken advantage of for your lack of experience. I wish I could say it’s just common sense, but it’s crucial to figure out what your boundaries, limits, & standards are before getting into an intimate situation with somebody. (I myself learned this the hard way.)

simply put: It is okay to be picky! (Read that again.) Or not—what works for one person won’t work for everyone. Some people date & hook up just for fun, especially during college when a lot of changes are happening, and that suits them fine. Some people want stronger, longer connections, and that works for them. Some people focus on friends over partners and refrain from the entire dating & hookup scene. All are valid and healthy. (As long as you stay safe, sane, & consensual, and get tested.)

school stuff:

Please do yourself a favor and don’t schedule 8am classes five days a week. I don’t care if you could do it in high school—chances are you’re going to need to wake up way beforehand to get ready OR your roommate will do something ridiculous in the middle of the night that will wake you up. In this more than likely event, you won’t want to wake up and go straight to class. If you’re not a STEM major, this advice is easier than if you are (and if the first applies, my condolences and much love).

You need sleep no matter what—if that means midday naps, go for it. I don’t recommend skipping class to nap unless it’s an emergency though.

Re skipping class: some professors take attendance and your grade can suffer if you don’t attend. Aside from mental health days, skipping class for fun can be a slippery slope at some universities. (At some, Cs get degrees and grades don’t matter as much, especially if you aren’t looking to go down the postgrad path.)

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[theaawalker]

Character tropes are a writer's bread and butter, for better or worse. Because of this, it can be easy for your characters to be mistaken, copied, and boxed in with others. Especially in this industry, it's important to stand out. What’s the difference between a flat character and a well-rounded character? How do writers bring a character to life on the page? When it comes to character development, these are central questions—especially when it comes to using character tropes...

[ ~ a world that's waiting up for me ~ ]

What Are Character Tropes?

The word “trope” refers to a common motif or pattern in a work of art. In the context of fiction, character tropes refer to common attributes or even entire stock characters. The word trope comes from the Greek word 'tropos' meaning “to turn.” Originally it referred to rhetorical devices that a writer uses to develop an argument. Character tropes can be useful in fiction, but when overused, they can detract from a story.

Common Character Tropes

Every genre of storytelling has its own stable of common character types, and as a storyteller it’s worth being aware of them. Here are nine of the most common:

1. The chosen one:

The chosen one is a common fantasy trope. Their identity typically revolves around a task that’s been set aside for them, which they typically pursue without much hesitation or complication. Like Frodo Baggins, Luke Skywalker, and Harry Potter, the chosen one is often, conveniently, an orphan.

2. The damsel in distress:

One of the most common and pernicious types of female character tropes, the damsel in distress, whatever form she takes, is a passive figure who exists mostly as an object for the hero to save. Even versions of the character who turn out to be a little more plucky than expected (think Princess Fiona from Shrek or Princess Leia from Star Wars) have become their own subset of this creaky old trope.

3. The femme fatale:

A mysterious and seductive woman who uses her sex appeal to seduce and entrap her enemies, the femme fatale is a popular character trope in hardboiled mysteries. In many ways, the femme fatale is an updated version of supernatural witches or sorceresses. It’s no spoiler to say that she nearly always leads men to destruction. Sharon Stone, Uma Thurman, and Eartha Kitt are the queens of this trope. <3

4. The girl next door:

The small-town girl with a heart of gold is, in many ways the opposite of the femme fatale. A common film and TV trope, the girl next door is innocent, kind, and wholesome. In other words, she’s the embodiment of domestic femininity and typically a candidate for the male protagonist’s love interest. Take Mary Jane Watson for instance.

5. The mad scientist:

Going back to Dr. Frankenstein (or any number of sorcerer antecedents), the mad scientist is usually a villain, driven by an eccentric, antisocial personality and unrestrained hubris or a desire to play god. The mad scientist’s benign counterpart is the nerdy “absent-minded professor” who’s so engrossed by their work that they struggle to relate to “normal people.”

6. The trusty sidekick:

Like the damsel in distress, the trusty sidekick typically has no life outside their relationship to the main character and their quest. Whether the sidekick is a loyal companion, like Samwise in Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings, a faithful butler, or a chatty best friend—as in any number of romance novels—their main quality is that they have no story of their own.

7. The wise old man:

Sometimes an actual wizard, sometimes just an old guy who’s seen his share, the wise old man is a long-enduring stock figure who usually imparts some special wisdom to the protagonist. Dumbledore, Master Oogway, Gandalf, and Master Miyagi.

8. The dumb muscle:

Based on the idea that it’s impossible to be smart and fit at the same time, the dumb muscle is an exceedingly common minor character, especially in action and adventure stories. As a bad guy the dumb muscle is easily outsmarted or otherwise bested by the main character. X-Men's Juggernaut is a prime example.

9. The antihero:

Antiheroes are typically cynical loners with major personality flaws, often darkly appealing bad boys. Like normal heroes, the antihero still drives the story, but often to a more amoral place. Tony Soprano, Red Arrow, Emma Frost, and the grittier versions of Batman are all prime examples of modern antiheroes. These days, antiheroes are almost as common as idealized heroes.

5 Tips for Avoiding Character Tropes

Character tropes aren’t good or bad in and of themselves. In some types of fiction, especially epics, satires, and more plot-driven forms of fiction, the use of stock characters can be expected and even desirable. The problem is when writers lean so heavily on these tropes that they’re no longer telling an original story. This is the point where archetypal characters can bleed into stereotypes. In order to avoid (or at least complicate) character tropes, you’ll need to develop a richer sense of your characters. Here are a few tips:

1. Figure out what your characters really want.

One reason writers lean on stereotypes is because they don’t know their characters well enough. Instead of playing to type, spend some time figuring out what really motivates your characters. Are they driven by a need to belong? By a thirst for knowledge? By a desire to be recognized? These super-objectives may lead your characters to buck their outward roles in interesting ways.

2. Look for opportunities to subvert tropes.

If you find yourself drawn to certain tropes, look for ways to undermine them. While this sort of self-conscious style may not be right for every story, it can be especially compelling in the context of genres that traditionally rely on tropes: think fantasy novels, horror movies, love stories, westerns, and other popular genres.

3. Get to know your characters outside the story.

A common writing exercise is to develop backstories for your major characters. Imagine them in real life. Ask yourself questions about your characters, like: What was this person like in high school? What objects are on their nightstand? How do they get along with their families? While seemingly inconsequential, these questions can help you get a sense of the individuality of your characters, rather than just thinking of them as adhering to a common type.

4. Allow your characters’ personalities to change.

Again, there are types of stories where characters may remain static, but in general, it’s important for readers to feel like your character changes (or at least has the potential to change) over the course of the story. Remember, the change need not always be positive, but there should be some sense that the experience they’ve had has marked them in some way.

5. Avoid clichéd situations.

Sometimes the issue isn’t with the characters you’ve developed but the scenario in which you’ve placed them. If you’ve created a pair of star-crossed lovers who are meant to fall for one another at first sight, it’ll be hard not to make the situation feel hackneyed—no matter how well-drawn your lovers are. If you’re only thinking in terms of common plot tropes, it may be hard to get your characters out of them. If you’re working in a science fiction or fantasy setting, this is where worldbuilding might help you find more interesting angles to explore.

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[throwawaytumble]

Before sending asks, please consider the following: am I playing armchair psychology based on the little information I have? Am I making a witty one liner about a subject that may be serious to another? Is my intention to help or get attention? People's real lives are not your entertainment. Consider that before joining the conversation, thank you.

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[dedalvs]

Currently experiencing a bit of burnout with conlangs/linguistics in general and it made me wonder how often y'all experience it and what you do when it gets a little tiresome

I haven't gotten tired of it yet, but that may be because I always have a bunch of different projects going—and a bunch of other interests to occupy my time, as well. If you're working on one language and feel burned out, start another. You can always go back to the first one later. There's no timetable on any of this. It's not like baking, where you can't just decide you're bored of making a cake and come back a week later. Your languages will always be there for you, and there will always be something to work on. A language is never finished. No one can ever finish a language, because there's no such thing as a finished language. There's always more to write in it, more words to create, more expression to coin… A language is never incomplete or complete: It's only alive or dead—actively used or not actively used. As a consequence you can leave it at any time and come back to it at any time and pick right up where you left off—or start somewhere new entirely! There's no wrong way to do it!

So yeah, don't force yourself to do something if you're not into it. Just because you stop or the creativity leaves you doesn't mean it won't come back! Trust me on this. Sometimes we push ourselves because we feel like if we don't finish this thing right this second we will never, ever, ever have another creative idea for the rest of our entire lives. This is a lie. There's always one more. You may need to get away from what you're doing to find it, but it will come. With your art or your passion, it's never a bad idea to take a little break and do something totally different—productive or not—doesn't matter. It'll give you brain a chance to recharge and give it something new to chew on—and the new ideas you get from radically different input may surprise and delight you!

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[madara-fate]

Hello Maddie! Congratulations on your marriage and i wish you the very best for all of your endeavours in life.

In my couple years of knowing you, I've come to really respect you and look up to you as a person.

Since you have a decade more experience than me in life, and have gone through what phase I'm in, I'd like for you to share your advice on how to approach life in general.

What are some of the things/qualities/advice that you'd consider are most important for people to keep in mind?

You also seem to be a very confident person, so I wanted to ask how does one maintain the balance between humbleness and confidence and not become too cocky or overconfident?

I also believe confidence is very much dependent on external validation and positive reinforcement, so what if one does not get too much of it when they're doing something? Should they give up on it completely? Because otherwise they'd come off as unpleasant and cocky to other people.

How does one know if they're good at something in the first place? I mean friends and family will always say you're good at something or you look good, or you sing well etc.

Secondly, how does one cope with things that are completely out of their control? There are many people with genetic diseases/conditions which make them objectively worse than the average person.

It could also be that their financial circumstances prevent them from doing something. Should they ignore/overlook their flaws completely? Won't that make them seem obnoxious and overconfident?

How can one be mindful of their flaws and not let it affect them negatively and make them feel down? Feelings of envy, jealousy and frustration are bound to occur if one compares themselves with other people. But comparison is the only way to remain competitive and driven otherwise they'll become relaxed and idle and get left behind by most people.

Hey buddy, many thanks for the well wishes ^_^

What are some of the things/qualities/advice that you'd consider are most important for people to keep in mind?

Life doesn't end once you receive some bad news. Sleep on it, and think about how to move forward. Time heals all wounds.

When you're trying to improve on something, slow consistency is always better than making drastic changes for quick results, because more often than not, those changes won't be sustainable.

Doing something that you love for a living is great, but not necessary. As long as it's something that you can tolerate, that's good enough. If someone had a choice between doing something they love vs doing something they tolerate for 1.5x the money, I'd advise they don't be so quick to discard the latter.

This links to the previous point - a lot of the time, people say that money can't buy happiness because they think that's the "right" thing to say, but that's just idealistic. Money may not be able to bring happiness to someone who is already suffering from clinical depression, but for the regular person who struggles financially between pay checks, money can definitely buy happiness. Not just for what you can do for yourself, but also for how you can use it to help those who you love as well.

You also seem to be a very confident person, so I wanted to ask how does one maintain the balance between humbleness and confidence and not become too cocky or overconfident?

I'm confident only in what you see me talk about, because I know those topics very well. If I was in a conversation about a topic that I knew relatively little about, I'd keep my mouth shut and listen. Overconfidence stems from the overestimation of one's own skills and abilities, and in this case, it would be thinking you know more than you actually do. And even when some people know that their knowledge of the topic isn't that great, they'd still like to argue their point because they just want to be right. Avoiding this incessant need to always be right is key to maintaining that balance between humbleness and confidence, without crossing the threshold of arrogance. Listen, and learn, so that in the future, you'll be the one explaining the topic with all of the confidence, but none of the arrogance, because you were once in the position of ignorance.

I also believe confidence is very much dependent on external validation and positive reinforcement, so what if one does not get too much of it when they're doing something? Should they give up on it completely? Because otherwise they'd come off as unpleasant and cocky to other people.

Confidence can be built from external validation and positive reinforcement, but that's not the only way. If you know the benchmark for being "good" at something, and you meet that standard, confidence can be obtained in that manner as well. For instance, if only 20% of people were able to speed through a video game level in under 5 minutes, and you were also able to do so, you'd know you were in the top 20% of players for that level, regardless of whether you received any external positive feedback. That knowledge alone would give you a confidence boost.

How does one know if they're good at something in the first place? I mean friends and family will always say you're good at something or you look good, or you sing well etc.

My point above can also be applied here. Positive reinforcement from friends and family should only be supplementary motivators. What truly matters, is for you yourself to know how to gauge the threshold between good and average.

Secondly, how does one cope with things that are completely out of their control? There are many people with genetic diseases/conditions which make them objectively worse than the average person.

I always say to just not fuss about things that are out of your control, because there's literally no point in fussing about them. They're not gonna change, so don't waste your time. Focus your time on things which you can actually improve. You can't change your height, but you can change your physique. You can't change the fact that you have Tourette syndrome, but that doesn't stop you from being the life of the party and everyone loving you.

It could also be that their financial circumstances prevent them from doing something. Should they ignore/overlook their flaws completely? Won't that make them seem obnoxious and overconfident?

You should never ignore or overlook your flaws, not least because yes, that can have the potential to make you seem obnoxious. Your flaws and weaknesses should always be acknowledged so that they can be accounted for. Ignoring them doesn't mean they don't exist, and if they're not acknowledged, then those weaknesses will be very apparent in whatever it is that you're trying to do.

How can one be mindful of their flaws and not let it affect them negatively and make them feel down? Feelings of envy, jealousy and frustration are bound to occur if one compares themselves with other people. But comparison is the only way to remain competitive and driven otherwise they'll become relaxed and idle and get left behind by most people.

Everyone has flaws. You acknowledging that you have flaws is part of acknowledging your humanity. Sure, you may look at someone else and wish you could be as good as they are in a particular subject, but yet you don't even realise that someone is probably thinking the exact same thing about you. You also have talents that someone else heavily desires, that's just natural. But as you rightfully indicated, envy can often be a very good motivator for people to self improve.

#General advice

[beccasafan]

Just a casual reminder...ranting in posts and tags is not how feedback is collected. Submit! Actual! Feedback! That's what they monitor. That's what they create tickets from.

But don't just submit saying "I hate it f'ing change it back", that's not gonna be productive at all and is just gonna get deleted. Don't just bitch about "change ewww bad". Why is it not good? What specifically makes it hard to use? How can it be improved?

Remember that people use things differently, and what's obvious to you may not be obvious to someone else. That applies especially here, where people use Tumblr for wildly different experiences. Give!! Specific!! Details!! Pretend you're talking to a 5-yr old that knows nothing. They don't know what's on your screen or how big it is. Don't assume they know anything. Details and screenshots and specifics!

...which makes me think of this video hehe

If it helps, remember that there's a person on the other end of the support ticket. A dev too! "Be nice to the cashier!" "Be nice to service workers!" "Be nice to retail workers!" In a similar vein, "Be nice to the customer service rep reading this email!" hehe. Nobody wants a Karen bitching at them, whether it's on a retail store floor or their email inbox.

#general advice #that I think of anytime people bitch about change #meh #hate having to deal with website support #but if you are calm and give me details and even better screenshots?? #ohh boy you become my favorite

[diorsmuse]

Hi I don’t know why but I’m always making weird faces and acting weird do know how I can stop? I tried to stop but It hard

ugh i def relate and this is something i have unfortunately struggled with for years. i do have 3 prices of advice:

watch other ppls mannerisms. in movies, on social media and irl and copy them (to an extent lol).

genuinely practice having conversations with ppl. it doesn’t have to be anything huge, but its a great way to get less nervous, plus it is def a skill.

last but not least don't beat yourself up over your social skills and mannerisms. trust me as long you are going out and your polite to everyone you will improve.

resources:

general tips and advice in futher detail (some of the advice is quite harsh but it is still pretty helpful)

best books to improve your social skills

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[venusiangguk]

Pls maam I need the next part of tao, I’m in tears. We’ve been waiting for so long

i knoooowwww, im sorry 😫😫 i’m actually almost (ish?) finished but i have some bad news for the people… 🙇🏻‍♀️

i won the busan raffle !! which was very unexpected since i entered on a whim and did Not think there was any way in Hell that i would win another bts raffle again… so i am also very unprepared !!

therefore i will be working A LOT (even more than i already do 😭) to afford the potential impromptu trip across the world n will not have as much (if any) time to write </3

i’m still going to try my best to get it out as soon as possible and before the trip, though!! pls don’t hate me i’m sorry 🫡💗

#that being said #if anybody has any travel tips and/or recommendations for traveling to korea #like where to stay in seoul #things to do #tips for making getting around easier and less scary 😃 #general advice #… #feel free to let me know if u do not hate me too much and are not too mad !! #would be v appreciated <3 #did anybody else win ?? 🤯 #now i get ready to go to work for a few extra hours #farewell #🙋🏻‍♀️ #anon #ask #stellanswers <3 #tao jk

[official-saul-goodman]

PSA for people with aluminium pans

please do not cook acidic food in them because 1) the metal leeches into the food, this is toxic and makes the food taste metallic and 2) it leaves dents in the pans. do not store food in these pans either because the metal leeches into the food over time, immediately transfer into a storage dish after cooking.

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[fromneptune-withlove]

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[justsigneduptolookattags]

This isn't my typical type of post but this is something I feel needs to be said.

For anyone new to tumblr or new to blaze, here is some advice. DO NOT BLAZE PERSONAL ITEMS, POETRY OR VENTING. This places a dangerous spotlight on you and can be seen as immature and inappropriate!

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be scene and heard, I felt the same when I was younger, but this is a massive public space. You are making yourself a target and opening up to people who may see you as a irrational nuisance and will NOT sympathy with your feelings!

Blaze is like sharing your work with a large office, just because it's the same company doesn't mean everyone is understanding. Most people work different "branches" and like to stay in their own space, blaze is like an @ everyone email for tumblr users.

Say someone at the office @'s everyone a picture of a frog or friends meme or something, sure maybe it can be annoying to some but largely it's harmless. Say instead they email a long vent/poem about how they hate their life and desperately miss their ex-husband. That is a very different story, that is awkward, uncomfortable, and weird for most users! And some people will take to calling you out for it, or remembering you as "that one weirdo who vents about her ex husband" as that maybe all they ever know about you.

PLEASE UNDERSTAND TUMBLR IS A MASSIVE SPACE OF PEOPLE WHO KEEP TO THEMSELVES, AND PEOPLE WHO CAN BE HOSTILE VERY OFTEN. DO NOT MAKE YOURSELF VULNERABLE TO THOSE WHO COULDNT CARE LESS ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS!

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[theaawalker]

how do i brainstorm my book? I have soooo many ideas but i don't know how to organize them. Do you have any advice? 🙏

Thanks for your query!

Brainstorming ideas for your book is a huge, albeit first, stepping stone. Before I considered I might need to, well, actually plot my plots, my stories always tangled into nonsense or, worse, wound to a close without saying anything much. Why? Because my story brainstorming was off. I would come up with a vague idea and launch into writing; inevitably, the resulting stories lacked sense and depth.

[ ~ through the dark, through the door ~ ]

Although it’s tempting to skip to your favorite part of the process—the writing—you’ll get better results if you decide on a few key elements first. And considering the ease, and speed, with which I wrote my most recent short stories, I’m now convinced this 5-step method is a vital part of the process.

1. Genre

I seem to get into a pickle very quickly if I don’t choose a genre first, because as I write the endless possibilities of plot direction become overwhelming. Genre narrows your options, and that works in your favour.

Writers usually suggest you begin by writing in the genre you read most, and that’s good advice. Occasionally though, by choosing a genre we’re less well-versed in (assuming we read widely in other areas) we can end up bringing a fresh perspective. I don’t read a lot of horror-genre books, so when I wrote my short story Doll’s House, for example, it ended up having a romance-twist that works quite well.

2. Truth

Some people would refer to this step as “theme” but I don’t think that’s clear. Sure, you might be writing a story about a man who collects snails that’s really about the theme of love, but what is it precisely you want to say about the nature of love?

The truth you want to get across could be something detailed as how you think people should behave in an argument or expansive as what you believe happens after we die. It doesn’t matter; what’s important is your truth is something you believe will give the reader something to ponder beyond the action of your story.

Ordinarily, you’ll communicate this idea by the protagonist learning it at some point along their inner journey. In my short story Bitter Lemon, for example, the truth explored is that you don’t have to stay trapped in an unhappy situation: there’s always another way—but only if you’re brave enough to take it.

3. Character

If your protagonist is compelling, your readers will be interested in following their story; that holds true whether they’ve stayed home in a moth-eaten dressing gown for 5 years or they’re travelling the world, expensive leather suitcases in tow.

But what makes a character compelling? Complexity and inner turmoil catch the reader’s attention, because that’s something everyone can relate to.

You can obviously do a deep-dive into your characters by asking yourself everything from their favourite foods to their bedtime, but if you want to work quickly and still make them compelling, ask yourself these 3 questions:

What does your protagonist desire? (This is the thing they think they want or believe will make them happy.)

What are they afraid of? (I.e. what is standing in the way of them achieving their desire.)

What is their misbelief? (What about life or the world do they not yet understand.)

This last point should be the opposite of your truth and will give you the opportunity to explore it by taking your protagonist (or even antagonist) on a journey of self-discovery.

I’m currently writing a short story, for example, where the protagonist desires to be independent after the death of her husband but is afraid of facing the world without him. Her misbelief is that he was the “important one” and that’s she’s nothing without him, but through the story she’ll realise the truth was very far from what it always seemed.

4. Location

Always choose and research a location to anchor your plot ideas; it will literally ground your story.

When I wrote the short story Doll’s House, I spent a lot of time pondering the location: a pair of isolated cabins in remote Scottish woodland. I thought about what birds might be around, what the weather would be like, how cold it might be during the winter season, how the sky would look. Considering this before I started writing helped the story flow.

You could also find collecting images and research about your story location in on place, like for example Pinterest, helps spark inspiration.

5. Mood

Possibly the most delicious step of the process is deciding on a mood for your story. The quickest way to do this is to just pick a few words that you want to characterize the story’s vibe.

This will typically tie in with step 1, genre, but it’s also a chance to experiment. Your contemporary thriller could be tense, exciting and fast-paced but it could also be funny, romantic or heart-warming.

As with location, this is another great opportunity to make a mood board that expresses the feeling of your story. I often even scroll YouTube for an ambient soundtrack that captures my story’s mood.

Some people believe creativity should be unhampered by structure, but I’ve experienced the opposite. Structures like this 5-step brainstorming process provide a framework that helps our ideas flow and, more importantly, ensures they have depth.

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[aena-blue]

No one owes you anything - but you need to know your worth

No one owes you anything. It’s true. It’s never on anyone else to give to you what it is that you are worthy and deserving of. It is however on you to know your worth, to know what you deserve - and to not accept less than that. Everyone has free will and it’s up to every single one of us what we do with it.

So, no, no one owes you the truth (as an example), but if you deserve the truth (which you do!) you need to first - be honest yourself and secondly - don’t accept and entertain people who are dishonest with you. Do you see the difference? 

If someone owes something to you, the power is with them to decide to take action or create change towards it and you are left powerless, there is nothing you can do if they do not give it to you. All you’re left with is usually disappointment, frustration and a whole lot of resistance while you keep looking outside of yourself for your worth to be shown and proven to you (because god dammit, you know you’re worth it, so why don’t they show that?!)

But, if instead, it is up to you to first give yourself what you are deserving of, and leaving behind what doesn’t measure up, the power is completely with you. So dammit, you know your worth, and this person isn’t showing that to you? Then guess what, that person isn’t in alignment with your truth and your path. It is up to you if you are going to try and drag them along, or, if you’ll accept them for who they are and leave them where they’re standing. Because you will not stop and you will not give discounts on yourself to accommodate someone else’s cheap treatment of you.

Obviously this is where it can get hard, easier said than done and all of that, because this will often (almost always) mean leaving people and situations behind who gives you less than you are worthy and deserving of, because you can’t force them to change. But you can give these things to yourself. You always have the option to love, honour, and value yourself the highest and to treat people in this way and walk away from the people who do not give this in return. Deep down, you know, you always know when something does not feel right for you, your inner being is always calling you to your true path of happiness, joy and abundance and anything in opposition of this feels like crap. 

It can be hard. It can be ridiculously, agonising, heartbreakingly hard, I know. I usually leave out that part to focus on the positive, but I am working on my own truth, honesty and integrity and that is accepting both the light and shadow aspects of life. But I don’t want anyone to think that positive messages, encouraging messages, messages meant to inspire, don’t also have a shadow side, because everything does. Some can easily shift and create change, but for others it is a lot of work involved. So finally I just wanted to say that I know how hard it can be, and remember to never compare yourself and your journey to anyone else, for there is only one you and only one person that has had and is living your exact life experience. Just do your best to love and honour yourself each and every day as much as you can, and I’m sure you will find your way.

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~ Lady Blue 💙

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[sweetzscore]

Gentle reminder that you don’t have to hang out with someone just because they ask. If someone asks to go somewhere with you and you don’t have plans, you aren’t obligated to say yes. You are allowed to decline simply because you don’t want to. And it doesn’t mean you don’t like the person, or don’t enjoy spending time with them. You are allowed to take time for yourself. It doesn’t make you a bad person to not want a hang out all the time.

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[toadsworth]

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