#fuck aphobia

[archivomeow]

can we just all collectively agree that it is okay for aroace characters not to date or have sex if they clearly show no interest in it or repulsion?

can we respect that and not ship them?

or are yall too deep into amatonormativity…???

#this is so targeted #yelena belova in specific since the fandom cannot let her go just cause shes attractive like get a life #fuck amatonormativity #fuck aphobia #fuck aphobes #aspec #arospec #acespec #asexuality #aromanticism #asexual #ace #aromantic #aro #aroace #aro pride #ace pride #non partnering aro #sex repulsed #romance repulsed

[rosecrunchly]

if a person is biromantic and heterosexual, everyone says that its valid. but if your aromantic and heterosexual, aphobes say “youre not part of the LGBTQIA+!!” mf we are the a in the acronym

#saw some aphobes that pissed me off #aromantic #asexual #aroace #fuck aphobia

[ezrasageisajellyfish]

the joy of being aro/ace and calling ur friends babe and love platonically

#queer joy #fuck aphobia #aromantic #asexual #aro/ace pride

[orangesideirrational]

'are cishet aros queer'

are het trans people queer?

are cis gay people queer?

are cishet ace people queer?

the answer to all of these are yes, by the way.

#aromantic #fuck aphobes #fuck aphobia

[howtoshibainu123]

😊 became such a passive-agressive emoji for me like

"You're full of shit 😊"

"I hope you get shit for christmas 😊"

"If you ever want peace and quiet maybe touch grass 😊 instead of insisting that you know better than us even if you're not even part of the LGBTQIA+ comunity aphobic asshole 😊😊😊"

"😊🖕"

#my toughts #lgbtq community #lgbtq #aroace #aromantic #asexual #😊 #fuck aphobes #fuck aphobia #you belong here #❤️

[rachelillustrates]

Since there's so much aphobia going around today HAVE SOME ACE GNOMES YOU MOTHERFUCKERS 🖤🤍💜 ~ 💚🤍🖤

(I do not as yet have any aro Gnomes or aro fae pieces in general but HOO BOY do I wanna correct that right now.)

(Characters from my comic "Tock the Gnome.")

#fuck aphobia #queer solidarity #ace pride #faerie #gnomes #queer #asexuality #asexual #proud demisexual FUCKING @ ME #I may be having a lot of feelings about the bullshit in our community today but I AM so grateful always always for those of us who DO show #up for each other #dammit tumblr tag character limit whyyyyyyyyy

[irrelevant-iguanadon]

Condoms should be available in schools!!! Sex Education in schools should teach you how to masturbate safely!!!

Kinks are okay to have, yeah even the weird ones!!!

It's normal for teenagers to have sex with eachother!!! It's normal to not have sex as an adult!!

It's okay for certain topics to make you uncomfortable!!! It's okay for the same topics to be in media!!!

Ace people are allowed to have sex!!! They're also allowed to be completely grossed out by it!!!

Virginity is a fucking myth and don't let people tell you otherwise!!!

The lack of education and normalization around sex leads to the shitty stuff, guys!!!

#fuck purity culture #fuck acephobia #fuck aphobia #purity culture #aspec #rant

[most-dorkiest-hydrapple]

light yagami if you are out there please write down the names of every anti-LGBTQ person you know of in the death note.

#💮original.txt💮 #death note #tw death threats #<- I think? #fuck homophobia #fuck transphobes #fuck biphobia #fuck aphobia #fuck queerphobes

[silver-la-pixels]

I think the best explanation to give to aphobes that you are indeed ace/AroAce/aro is that they wouldn't bang or date someone outside their sexuality, and for you that everyone.

#Asexual #Aroace #Aro #Aromantic #Ace advice #Aroace tips #Fuck aphobia

[archivomeow]

yelena belova is aroace.

Yelena Belova is canonically aroace.

Lately people dismissing that has been getting on my nerves VERY much, so I’m making this post lol.

First the terminology:

Aromantic — an individual who doesn’t experience romantic attraction.

Asexual — an individual that doesn’t experience sexual attraction.

AroSpec — spectrum that includes different aromantic identities, from aros who don’t feel romantic attraction to those who do under certain circumstances or rarely.

AceSpec — spectrum that includes different asexual identities, from aces who don’t feel sexual attraction to those who do under certain circumstances or rarely.

So first thing i will put here is this;

This in my humble opinion should be enough of a proof, but apparently it is not.

First this part of an interview, the person speaking is a creator/co-creator of Yelena. She says she is most likely to identify as asexual than to follow Nat’s romantic path. Hinting at both aro & ace.

So in the comics Yelena shows no interest dating, as far as i am aware she has no romantic interest in the comics. She is repulsed by sex, she calls herself „nothing” referring to her sexual identity.

As much as many like to say she is a lesbian, she is not, how fucking stupid you sound, honestly. She says it herself, if I said I’m not a lesbian, would you question it? No? Then don’t question her, she says she is not a lesbian, she has no wlw storyline. Drop the fucking lesbian hc.

Some possible foreshadowing in the MCU

1. When she is talking with a widow and a former Ana (show: Hawkeye), there is a line said by the widow accompanying her: „…you and Natasha can be reunited again and live your sex in the city fantasy”.

^ Yelena leaves the room, as soon as the word „sex” is mentioned her face drops, then we have this scene where she’s looking at herself in the mirror.

2. When talking about kids and family (movie: Black Widow) she mentions she wants a dog.

3. When describing „fake story” of her life she made up because her birth certificate was burnt she says Natasha has a husband and talks about her parents, but mentions nothing about her husband or possible spouses or children. (movie: Black Widow)

4. Yelena tends to wear a lot of aro/ace flag colors.

green coat & purple lipstick (green = aro | purple = ace)

yellow & blue colors = aroace flag

Overall Yelena wears a lot of green and white and black together, aromantic flag colors.

^^ can you call that „over the top?” yeah sure… let me remind yall something else:

when enid wore this sweather yall went WILD.

but when Yelena is wearing aroace colors all the time it’s called „reaching”…?

I will continue this with even more, because while you can agree with me and say she is aroace, still there will be people who claim she is aroace, agree, but then this fucking argument comes into place:

„AROS CAN DATE”

„ACES CAN FUCK”

„QPRS EXIST”

Do you see what’s wrong with those sentences? Nothing.

There’s a „but” thoooo…

There is nothing wrong with those, but using those arguments to totally ignore her sexuality ship her and treat her like suddenly she is allo is not it.

Yelena has shown no interest in dating or sex, we can assume she is sex-repulsed as she has shows repulsion to sex and she is to me at least implied to be romance-repulsed.

And we’ve found the problem.

Sex Repulsed Aces are as you can imagine repulsed by sex. Romance Repulsed Aros are repulsed by romance… So how is someone repulsed by said things engaging in said interaction and is not repulsed by them???

I think it’s a great idea to write her into said situations to show she is repulsed and to show it’s okay, because her life, my life, the lives of other uninterested in such thing aro/ace, our lives don’t end here.

Using how some people navigate through their sexuality to justify this is wrong.

You wouldn’t write a lesbian with a man, because bi lesbians exist and she may be a bi lesbian, right?

^ just an fyi, that’s an example, the term bi-lesbian is extremely harmful to both bisexuals and lesbians. check out this for more.

The QPR dilemma is that you don’t understand what a QPR is… it’s not more than friends…it’s not in the middle, it’s out of the regular binary of relationships. Relationships I actually think are QPRs:

Friends with benefits — purely platonic, but you fuck.

Situationship — just friends that do romantic stuff together, unless you call it a romantic relationship, with the other person agreeing on that, it is not one.

QPRs are amazing and beautiful, but it’s not always about fucking and kissing and „acting like a couple” but being a QPR. It can be being friends and living together, not temporary. It can be being friends and co-parenting. It can be many things.

But as I said Yelena is repulsed, why would someone repulsed by sex/romance engage in said thing happily with no doubts, fears, negative feelings just because it’s a qpr, so it’s suddenly fine…?

This is for now all I have to say about this.

As an AroAce, who desires no romantic relationship or a sexual one please please please let us have this representation, for once in our fucking lives.

MORE OF MY POSTS ON YELENA BEING AROACE AND ARO/ACE LINKS LINKED HERE:

answering an anon-ask.

more talk about the comic panel.

harmful aro stereotypes.

shipping aroaces + yelena belova.

#yelena belova #florence pugh #aroace #aro #ace #asexual yelena belova #mcu yelena belova #yelena belova aroace #comic yelena belova #yelena belova fanfiction #yelena belova fanfic #yelena belova imagine #bishova #katelena #buckylena #yucky #bucky barnes x yelena belova #kate bishop x yelena belova #lesbian yelena belova #bisexual yelena belova #fuck aphobia #fuck aphobes #aromantic #asexual #aromantic rants #aromantic representation #aromantic positivity #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #asexual representation

[thatboredaroace]

Conservatives: these liberal snowflakes want equal rights! How dare they! It's a kill or be killed world out there! (Angry in bigot)

Conservatives seeing coloured lines in a public area:

#conservative slander #fuck homophobia #fuck transphobes #fuck aphobia #fuck queerphobes #seriously #imagine being queerphobic 🤣 #fuck conservatives

[rock-a-noodle]

The US Supreme Court is a massive fucking cunt.

#shut up kelly #venting a tad #okay more than a tad #okay to reblog #BUT SERIOUSLY #IT'S LEGAL TO DISCRIMINATE AGAINST PEOPLE DON'T THEY KNOW THAT LEADS TO HATECRIMES ARE THE CONSERVATIVES IN THE WHITE HOUSE STUPID CUNTS!? #FUCK REPUBLICANS ONLY CARE ABOUT THEMSELVES AND SHIT THAT ONLY APPLIES TO THEM FUCKING BASTARDS #THIS WILL INCREASE HATE CRIMES AND DEATHS LITERAL FUCKING GENOCIDE THESE LAWS ARE I HATE THIS COUNTRY #fuck homophobia #fuck transphobia #fuck aphobia #fuck enbyphobia #fuck you ron desantis #ron desantis can eat shit #so pissed off right now

[literalcyborg]

Everyone is all for sex positivity until aroallos want equality, huh?

Everyone is all for stopping the sexualization of women until they’re ace, hm?

Everyone is all for community and openness until cishet aces or aros want to be rightfully recognized as queer, right?

Stop the aphobic bullshit and take a step back. Look at your biases. Look at the language you use and realize how mean you’re being. Learn from your mistakes and become a kinder person.

I used to be aphobic. I didn’t understand how someone could feel little to no romantic attraction especially, and it was because I am very alloromantic. But that is exactly how homophobes look at the rest of the queer community. Since they don’t experience the attraction we do, the choose to believe it’s not real.

Just because you don’t fully understand what it’s like to be aspec doesn’t mean you should be hating aspec people. They are queer too. Fucking treat them as such.

#like come on #‘sex and romance are what makes us human!’ #*chucks a penguin at you* BEHOLD! A MAN!!! #aspec #aromantic #asexual #aphobes fuck off #aphobia #I’m not aspec myself but fuck you if you think I’m not gonna stand up for the aspec people I love

[currantlee]

The A in LGBTQAI+ does not stand for ally. Yeah, allies are cool and all, but the A isn’t for them. The A is for all lovely aros and aces who are just as queer as I am.

#Aphobes fuck off #Exclusionists fuck off #Aros welcome! #Aces welcome! #Aromantics and asexuals are queer #Yes; the cishet aros as well #LGBTQAI+ #Queer #Aromantic #Asexual #Aro #Ace #Aphobia #Exclusionism #Lesbian Lady here #Currantlee here

[redysetdare]

A character looks straight into the camera and says "I'm not interested in romance" and people will still say "No, it's not confirmed they're aromantic!!!" "They could change their mind!!!" "it's a challenge for them to overcome!!!" "They'll have character development that makes them fall in love"

It's like they are given the most blatant answer to a character romantic orientation and they actively ignore it. all the while all it takes is subtext for people to speak as if it is fact for a character to be any other sexuality.

#text #yes I'm calling out the hypocrisy within queer readings of a text and how often people dont see aromanticism as queer #and thus they will hear a blatant omission that a character is aromantic and still say it is not enough #mean while a character saying 'im not interested in the opposite gender' is rightfully taken as the character being queer #the queer community hates aspec characters because they don't match their perfect idea of sex sex relationships as being peak queerness #aphobia #aro #aromantic #aspec #aroace #im sorry but n oit isn't a difference of opinion if you blatantly ignore a character outright saying 'im not into this' #like y'all complain abt ppl turning gay ppl straight but will defend ppl erasing aro identities all the time #fandoms will throw a fit if you ship gay characters in straight relationships but ppl shit aro characters and we r told to shut up #im so fucking tired of this bs #I will keep complaining and keep calling this shit out #until it is drilled into ur skulls that you are being APHOBIC becaue WHAT? You want to REALLLLLY SHIP a character? #Because you'll die if you dont??? #fuck man just say you hate aspec ppl and move on #it's easier than dealing with your 'im not aphobic ur being unfair i supposed aspec people really' bs

[starredwrites]

i'm having thoughts about amatonormativity and why it sucks and they're long-winded and hard to properly express bc it's late at night but i wanted to share them so i summarized them with a meme

this realization brought to you by the realization that a lot of people who say acephobic shit without actively denying asexuality exists just mentally swapped "virgin" for "asexual" and carried on with their lives. this best evidenced by people being "accepting" of asexual women but ignoring/erasing asexual men.

#i'm either galaxy braining hard enough to write a grant proposal for this novel #or i'm wrong and i doubt i'm wrong tbh #sometimes being aroace in a traumatized way makes you like. realize things #ace #aro #acephobia #amatonormativity #arophobia #aphobia #there's. there's equally fucked up assumptions about aromantic ppl #but i am too tired to express them coherently i may do it in the morning in a rb #actually 3rd option. i am explaining it Really Badly