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unbidden-yidden · 5 months

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Me in the morning: putting on makeup is so time-consuming, is this even worth it?

Me during the day: yeah okay I actually love how I look with eyeliner and eyeshadow gives me another palette for fashion and color expression, I look hot, I'll keep doing this I think

Me having to actually remove the makeup before sleeping and it's already well past when I should sleep: I hate this, I'm never doing this again

Me the next morning: putting on makeup is so time-consuming, is this even worth it?

#femme problems

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fairy-switchblade · 5 months

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I’ve noticed over the years that other people will say things to me about my butch/femme dynamic, my identity as a femme, or even my partner that are just… passive aggressive at best, evil at worst.

Things like “omg, you’re into butches? I could never! wow!” “aw thats so brave of you” (???) “They are sooo lucky to have you” (I understand how usually this is meant well but contextually, this was clearly meant to imply they’re lucky to get a woman that looks like me at all) “ooof… why?” “The sex must be so good/bad/awful/great/weird/normal/kinky/boring”

And all I can hear is yet another dig at the butch lesbian community disguised as an inquisitive remark directed towards me. They imply that I’m sacrificing so much in order to be with my butch partner, that it must be so hard. They find it so difficult to imagine that I could genuinely find my partner attractive that they have to invent other reasons for my being with them. They find ways to imply I’m being abused. It’s always clearly a problem they have with butches- and it makes me wonder, would you ever say this to my partner?

Or have you somehow got the impression that you can say these things to me, in confidence? That you can safely vent your backwards opinions onto me, the slightly less threatening one? The feminine and therefore (according to you) more socially acceptable one? Did you think I would sympathise and be sweet? Like mommy?

Go fuck yourself, and get out of my partners way. I’m not explaining our happiness if it’s beyond your capacity to understand. Thanks.

#It’s vent o’clock #It’s holiday party season so there may be more of this than usual #Butch #femme #femme4butch #butch4femme #butchfemme #butch/femme #Femme problems

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honeylove · 4 months

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the urge to just quit my job and start an onlyfans gets stronger every day

#Femme problems #myposts

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junkdyke · 1 year

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men r incapable of taking a hint, bc no matter how obviously disinterested you are, they truly believe they are still getting somewhere

one guy guided me by the waist OUT of the moshpit (while i was still moshing???) another guy grabbed my arm to twist it around and look at my tattoos after telling me he "liked my vibe" and another dumb ass dude wrapped his arm around my neck with his hot, musty breath in my face, i think i just need to be more violent honestly

#personal #wlw #anti men #men try me even at gay bars #hate it HERE #ima start swinging #men stop TOUCHING ME HISSSS #femme problems

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sparklyslug · 2 years

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You know a fic concept has you REAL excited when you’re like “whelp guess I’m taking these press-on nails off when I get home I’m gonna type like the WIND”

#paging dr greenie it’s their fault also #femme problems #femme nerd problems #just problems okay I have problems #mop

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distinguishedtimetravelwinner · 1 year

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I just want sum :

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#lesbian #femme problems #me

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sueeeehay · 27 days

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Literally my life ever since I became single 🙄🙄🙄

#lgbtq #lesbian #single #queer #queer problems #lmao #femme problems #dom femme

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pinklavenderdoll · 2 months

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trans-androgyne · 3 months

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“Women and non-binary people” stop. Do you mean people with marginalized genders? Do you mean gender-oppressed people? Then say that. Stop refusing to recognize the very much gendered oppression of other trans people. There’s not some chasm of difference between how our oppressors treat a very masc non-binary person and a more binary trans man. I’m also non-binary and very much oppressed for my gender but because I’m transmasculine I could never feel comfortable in a space that marketed itself like that. Tell me what the real harm is of letting gender-oppressed mascs into spaces discussing gender oppression is. Because the consequence of not doing so is denying them space for their experiences just because of their gender identity. Do better.

#‘’but 🥺 we don’t want men in our spaces 🥺’’ why. these men are oppressed for their gender identity & expression.#‘’well some people have trauma around men’’ some people have trauma around women too. should we keep them out of queer spaces #‘’their appearance might make someone uncomfortable’’ are you also keeping out cis women butches and trans women who aren’t hyper femme #because if so your space has serious problems and you are the one making gender-oppressed people uncomfortable #so many trans women are wary of these spaces because they police perceived masculinity. so how abt stop doing that #transandrophobia #intracommunity issues tag #mine

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hippiedippieblondie · 1 year

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Anyone ever hang out with a friend a couple times and then find out a week later—from a mutual friend—that you guys are dating? This is why I need to stop paying for my friends’ coffee

#autism #dating #college life #queer #lgbtq #femme problems #coffee

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bambibells · 9 months

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pinkcarabiner · 6 months

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if your first instinct when you see a butch is to talk about how you want to "suck their dick" or "have them prey on you" when you don't know them/have prior consent to do so, that is plain fetishization. so many butches (esp. those who are butch4butch) talk about how they don't feel safe around femmes they don't know because how common this kind of behavior is. i see femmes brag about sending horny anons and messages to butches, then are confused and surprised when they don't receive sexual attention in return and are told to back off. the fact that some femmes think this is okay is absolutely sickening and disgusting.

also, this kind of fetishization is so often directed at trans butches (esp. transfem) and butches of color by cis white femmes. if butches acted this way towards femmes, they would be called creepy and predatory so quickly. think about why you're able to get away with it. it's so clear that so many "femmes" believe that sexual attraction to butches is what makes you a femme, it doesn't. loving butches as people and supporting our community are integral to the femme identity, not fetishization.

#so many femmes who rb these types of posts are the problem #i believe my butch friends when they tell me how people treat them

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hamoodmood · 1 year

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butterbottombitch · 1 year

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in lana’s name we pray, amen 🤍🐇🙏🏽

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pinklavenderdoll · 2 months

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