#feeling safe and secure

[i-am-a-fish]

I feel so complimented whenever I get a like on this site. that thing i posted, i made that. and you just approved of its existence. holy shit. do you realize how comforting that is? thank you

#not like bait please do NOT feel obligated to like this PLEASE I am just trying to say thank you #it makes me feel safe and secure in this unsure world

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

growing up with a perpetually anxious primary caregiver is such a mindfuck. that shit will rewire your nervous system

#not a shitpost #i get that parenthood and modern life in general is extremely anxiety inducing #and that anxiety is a common mental health issue and anxiety disorders exist and do not disqualify you from being a loving parent #but i am begging you PLEASE do not project your anxiety onto your kids #especially younger kids #your job is to make your kids feel safe and secure. that is a primary requirement #that doesn't mean you can't be anxious! #but just like being angry doesn't mean you're allowed to yell at your kids or slam doors or break things #being anxious doesn't mean you are allowed to surround your kids with your own fear and stress or teach them to share your anxieties #your job is to be a comforting nurturing parental figure. that means projecting comfort and love #even when it is hard! even when you are tired or angry or scared! #which is a damn hard job! and you won't get it right all the time! #but dammit babes you gotta TRY #kids deserve to feel safe and comfortable in their daily lives #you CANNOT be teaching them to expect catastrophe lurking around every corner

[yesfraudiller]

Things that make you feel safe and secure

Things that make you feel safe and secure

Nothing on this planet is as safe and secure anymore. Look what happened to 2020, with Covid and stuff?! Thinking that you are now safe and settled is such a great illusion. People come together and they divorce, start their own businesses and then they fail. Long lasting relationship is not that lasting anymore. That is the hard truth, but it is truth. I used to think, leaving my parents house,…

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#being safe and secure #being secure #feeling safe and secure #how to feel safe #how to feel secure

[puhpandas]

“My Dad doesn’t know Gregory doesn’t have a place to say. Gregory says not to tell him. He made me promise, even though he comes to our house when it’s thunderstorming and he needs shelter.

I don’t know what to tell my Dad when he asks about it.”

headcanon that Gregory goes to Cassie’s house all the time but doesn’t want her dad to know he’s homeless, but he also comes to their house in the middle of the night when there’s bad weather and only gives vague responses when cassie’s dad asks about it. great job being inconspicuous greg

#still sharing my sibling propaganda for gregory and cassie #they’re just bffs but maybe just maybe gregory feels at home in cassie’s house #and it’s one of the only places he feels safe #and it feels correct to cassie to have gregory there instead of out there #fnaf #fnaf fanart #five nights at freddy’s #five nights at freddy’s fanart #fnaf gregory #gregory fnaf #fnaf cassie #cassie fnaf #fnaf security breach #fnaf security breach fanart #fnaf ruin #ruin fnaf #ruin dlc #drawing tag #gregory #cassie #gregory and cassie #ruin

[caecia]

more pikapika time

#i should do a kurapika count in this sketchbook. it would literally be in the hundreds #kurapika #hunter x hunter #leopika #Yes the top right pic is him wearing all of leorio’s clothes because i’m soft for them #and um he feels safe and secure in leorio’s scent even if he won’t answer his phone calls

[the-yearning-astronaut]

I keep getting stuck in a loop, thinking about Murderbot staying aboard the Perihelion, with ART's crew -- who all know what it is. It's the first time it'll be on a ship as itself, not as equipment, or pretending to be something it's not. It won't be in hiding, either. Will it find an out-of-the-way corner to call its own? A closet or storage unit or something? Or will it continue to use the crew lounge, like it did when it was just ART and itself? Will the crew insist it take its own cabin in the crew quarters, since it's ostensibly part of the crew now? How will it react to that?

Murderbot didn't like having things until it had a chance to pick out its own clothes, and now it has clothing preferences and a security blanket favorite jacket and it doesn't mind wearing the Perihelion crew uniform despite the logo. It hasn't seemed to care much about its travel accommodations in the past, one way or another, though it's mentioned a few times now that it takes comfort in the way ART's medical tables are heated. (the parallel between ART keeping the medical table warm for Murderbot and Murderbot turning up its own core body temperature to provide comfort sure is Something)

I'm just thinking about Murderbot having a space to call its own. Not a cargo container or company cubicle but an actual room. And maybe it doesn't know what to do with it at first because it doesn't exactly need sleep or anything the way humans do... But still, it eventually finds itself with a second jacket. A pair of soft sweat pants with the Perihelion logo up the right leg. Its satchel hangs from the back of a desk chair. It might start collecting things that it finds interesting or aesthetically pleasing or that remind it of something or someone -- especially now that it knows, even if it won't acknowledge, that it has somewhere to keep them.

(maybe it's a place it could come to call home?)

#the murderbot diaries #murderbot diaries #Murderbot #secunit #reposting some things because i found out my posts were getting nerfed by my own privacy settings.... #anyway im a sucker for characters finding themselves a place to call home #and feeling safe and secure #for whatever reason #home

[skoulsons]

Thinking about winter and their physical affection and now literally none of these happen under happy circumstances.

#the second theyre together in their little father daughter unit #it’s immediate proximity and being comfortable with each other #and then it all crashes and burns five days after #but like!! enough that she holds the side of his face trying to figure out what to do to save him!!! #how she holds his hand during winter when it’s an especially bad day and she just wants him home!!!! #HOW HE FINDS HER AFTER DAVID AND IS SCARED AND SHES SCARED AND SHE PUSHES AGAINST HIM BECAUSE SHE THINKS HES ONE OF THEM #BUT THEN HE GRABS HER FACE AND HE SAYS HER NAME AND HE SAYS LOOK AT ME AND HIS HANDS ARE SO GENTLE #BUT SHE KEEPS PUSHING BUT THERES THAT FAMILIAR WARMTH AND FEEL AND SO SHE SEES HIM EYE TO EYE FINALLY #AND HE GUIDES HER TO HIS NECK TO THE FUZZY PART OF HIS COAT AND DOESNT LET GO OF HER FACE TIL SHES SAFE AND SECURE #AND HE WRAPS HIS ARMS AROUND HER BACK AND BEHIND HER NECK AND HERS GO OVER HIS SHOULDERS AND BEHIND HIS NECK #AND HOW SHES COMPLETELY ENCAPSULATED IN HIS EMBRACE BECAUSE SHES SO TINY AND FITS THERE SO WELL BECAUSE THEYRE PUZZLE PIECES #EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY #AND HOW HE’LL PULL HER AWAY AND HOLD HER FACE AND TELL HER HE’LL NEVER LEAVE HER AGAIN #the last of us hbo #tlou spoilers #joel miller #ellie williams #joel and ellie

[cringefaecompilation]

cannot stand it when i see posts saying orym could/can only ever have concrete conversations about himself and his feelings with either dorian or ashton or that they're the only people that would understand what he's going through. asides from the Women Just Don't Get It-ness of it all, like:

i rest my case

#🍃 #critical role #critrole #fearne calloway #orym of the air ashari #they are BESTIES they are FRIENDS they are THE MOMENT #and even besides that i understand that fearne and orym have not gone through the same stuff but like... #are you telling me fearne does not or could not understand loneliness in the same way orym has #fearne. the girl who was left alone with only the hope of her parents being alive/caring through postcards in a time-dilated strange world #the girl who panics whenever anything changes that could take away her friends #the girl who fears being locked away because it reminds her of that loneliness more than being locked up #the girl who tries her damnedest to ensure that everyone she loves is safe and secure from any threat and shatters when she has to hurt the #the girl so desperate for someone to love her and not leave her that when her supervillain dad was ranting at her she was kind of grateful #you're saying she cannot understand orym's own feelings of inadequacy if he cannot protect innocents or his loneliness in a crowd? on god? #i do think that ashton is a good friend to orym and he can relate to him on other levels #and that dorian would also be understanding if he knew #BUT FEARNE IS RIGHT THERE

[baby--charchar]

Baby Vaggie + Snack Time

So like I've said, I see Vaggie as being autistic and think that would factor into her regression. She has exactly 4 (...3) safe foods that she'll always agree to, including pupusas, rice, chicken nuggets from a specific brand, and water. She's also probably food aversive in her bigger headspace, but she may try to hide that more since she'd be masking. As a baby not needing to mask, she has no qualms about saying 'no' to unwanted food.

'Saying' may be a strong word. She's nonverbal in babyspace, so "chuck the plate at the wall and run away" is probably more accurate.

It worries Lucifer. Honestly. He worries over vitamins, he worries over protein and fiber, he worries over whether he made her enough food to keep her full. Charlie's always been such a little foodie. Even regressed, she loves trying new things! He's never really had a loved one like Vaggie to look after, and he's scared he's doing it wrong. He's certain he's neglecting her by not giving her enough.

So he sets off to try to find more foods to offer little Vaggie! Fruit? ...no. Oatmeal? Yuck. Mac and cheese? Never. She either won't come near him if he's holding something for her to try, or she rips the plate out of his hands and slams it on the ground, making a huge disgusting mess. Not once does she bring herself to try anything.

He means well. He just wants to avoid upset tummies for her. But it's stressing her the fuck out. Every time she slips into babyspace, he wants to get her to try something new. But no!!! She hates all the foods!!! It gets to the point where Baby Vaggie starts throwing tantrums whenever she starts feeling hungry, just anticipating a fight.

Well no, see, NOW Lucifer fucked up. Now she won't even eat her safe foods if he's the one who makes it because she can't trust him. He feels just horrible.

Eventually he and Vaggie need to have a talk when she's not regressed, with Charlie mediating. With a really thorough explanation on sensory issues, plus some tough love, they're able to convince Lucifer that backing off with the food thing is how he can support Vaggie best. Not by forcing it.

He completely stops trying to force the food issue. He understands why it was harmful for Vaggie. But secretly...he doesn't actually feel BETTER. He's still so scared that Vaggie's not getting enough and that he's making her sick by underfeeding her. He thinks he just can't win as her caregiver. But he LISTENS to her and stops. And that matters the most to Vaggie.

One day, by chance, Baby Vaggie toddles over to the kitchen counter and starts messing around. Lucifer is so wrapped up in what he's doing that he doesn't notice her at first.

She found an apple pie. Cooled thankfully, so it won't burn her. But a big, beautiful baked pie he made to surprise Charlie later.

He looks over and there's Vaggie just having the time of her life destroying it. She loves the smell and the *SQUISH* of squeezing it in between her little fingers. He starts to react but...just gives up. It's too damn late to stop her. He sighs, feeling defeated.

But her laugh is pretty contagious. The goof ball's smeared pie everywhere. Across the counter, in her hair, on her pajamas. Kid's just a walking disaster and is having too much fun to realize it. He can't stay mad at her. In fact, he comes over to join in. He draws little pictures and scribbles in the muck with her, and makes silly "SMASH! SMASH! SMASH!" noises when he crushes the sliced apples on the counter. Vaggie cackles from all the energy.

Vaggie goes to wipe the drool off her lips with the back of her hand, and Lucifer notices she's smeared a big glop of syrup across her face. Across her mouth. Her little pink tongue just barely pokes out of her mouth in curiosity. Lucifer pauses and holds his breath.

She cringes and spits on the floor. Yuck.

But...the baby's tried it...! The baby tried some new food! Lucifer is delighted!

"OH you little sunshine! You little duckie, I'm so proud, you're so brave!" He goes on cooing at her until she's just sick of it. But! His babyest baby girl did a thing! Tried a new thing! On her own terms and in her own time! It's just one tiny little thing but it means the world to him because she means the world to him!

He starts brainstorming more food they can play with. More smearing! More sensory! More messes! More fun! Get his baby all the fun!!!

Charlie comes home and nearly faints at the sight of the kitchen, which is absolutely trashed. They're both walking disasters.

#hazbin hotel age regression #hazbin hotel agere #cg!lucifer #little!vaggie #charlie morningstar #hazbin hotel #lucifer morningstar #vaggie #autistic agere #sfw agere #moral of the story: dont force us autistics just make us feel safe and secure and ya never know #maybe well feel safe enough to try something new with you

[radioroxx]

i think everyday about. how, as a robot, freddy fazbear would experience emotions differently from people. and how, as a robot, his whole perspective on the three star family situation would be wild. like… you’re programmed to be an entertainer, a dancer, a singer, etc., until suddenly youre not. he probably cant dance without a head- wouldnt have a reason to sing anymore (except maybe to his family. which is VERY cute to imagine). and its just… he’s not really freddy fazbear anymore, is he?

theres also a point to be made about, how robots feel. bc bc ai blah blah i wont go into it, his feelings arent going to be expressed or understood in the same way peoples’ are. theres going to be part of him that doesnt fully understand what its like to be part of their little family, to fully understand why and how he came to care sooo much about these two for taking him in.

i need to organize my freddy thoughts but. oooughhg. do you understand? please please pl

#fnaf #security breach #glamrock freddy #3 star fam #and i think thats probably why i. i dont like to this he went father mode immediately #like in sb to me it was more oooof. ok protocal says to keep this kid safe. and i will do that #ofc he CARES about gregory as much as he can. hes concerned for him #but those feelings dont become something SPECIAL until after he’s known ‘im for a while #when he understands what its like to be family…. and to have family for realsies…… and he decides yeah. these two <33 #ofc the glamrocks are his family. in a way. but yknow for sure faz ent made them say that jgkgn #sighhhhhhh #i love them soooooo much #i hope i havent posted these thoughts before. i have def talked avout this but it mightve been over discord i don’t remember #oh well. you get it again <3 #radio rambles

[xysidhequeen]

I know in your Red Knight AU, Jason when on the rampage in another realm, after finding out that Batman replace him with another Robin.

Did Danny manage to be there for him during that time?

He did! Danny was always there for Jason. He actually wanted to chase after Jason immediately, but luckily, the first thing he did was panic call Jazz, absolutely out of his mind. Jazz promptly told Danny to let Jason have some space for a little bit to process.

Which was for the best, really. Jason needed to not feel like he was trapped and that he could be angry. He never really got that before. But the most important thing is Danny came after him and brought him home. Jason needed to feel like he could be angry, but also, like his anger wouldn't mean he'd be punished or abandoned. It was a very delicate time for him, but Danny, Jazz, Sam, Tucker, and all our favorite ghosts made sure Jason knew he was very much wanted still. And that he was utterly irreplaceable.

Skulker handled this by breaking all of his weapons and suits overnight and saying he didn't know how to fix them. (Jason very much knew what he was doing, but the time spent on fixing things helped ground him)

Ember handled this by announcing that she couldn't possibly ever sing ever again unless her only other band member was there (Still very obvious, but music time with Ember usually devolved into very necessary crying time. A lot of ice cream was consumed)

Johnny and Kitty handled this by getting into a MASSIVE fight and refusing to speak to each other unless Jason mediated. (This actually was far less obvious, as the two tend to get into fights often. No one is actually certain if the fight was fake or not to this day, but they also haven't broken up once since and Jason is incredibly proud of that)

Fright Knight handled this by.... well, actually, he took the blunt approach and told Jason there was no one in any realm dead or alive he'd ever consider worthy to be his apprentice besides Jason. (This was highly effective as Frighty has always been bluntly honest with Jason. He didn't wholly believe it but it was a comfort. Frighty then beat his ass in a spar and he didn't think of much else)

Basically, everyone was there for Jason. Not just Danny. Jason was made to feel like his anger and hurt were valid, because they were. But he was also not just told, but shown how precious he was to every life he touched. He didn't get it, not at first and he struggled to really believe it.

It wasn't until later, after Danny opened up more about his own trauma and the effects it had on him that Jason actually began to somewhat understand more of what Jazz meant when she said Danny was getting better. He pieced more of the story together from the others to paint a better picture, and that's when it clicked for him. As much as he needed Danny, Danny had needed him just as much. (Clockwork may have had a hand in this as well, but whatever those two talked about, no one will ever know)

Also, as an aside, once everything calmed down, Danny was very pleased to learn the rebelling realm was now back under control and quite terrified of the Ghost King and his Knight. It saved him so much paperwork.

So yeah, this was a bit all over the place, but hopefully, it answers your question. Team Phantom and the ghosts are basically a very large family, and they might fight and bicker, but they seriously pull through and muster together if anyone is hurting. They're a bit clumsy sometimes with it, but the love they all feel is very obvious. I really, really wanted to give Jason a much more healthy origin story into becoming Red Hood than he got in canon. The poor boy went through enough. It was past time for him to get to heal.

Jason still has some hangups. His abandonment issues are still there, and his fear of rejection. But it's not as bad as it was, and because he'd been allowed to express his anger without being punished(or enabled, anger is a fine emotion to feel. But you should never let it consume you) for it, he figured out how to manage it.

He might still slip now, and then, he has trauma, and that won't go away. But Danny will never, ever let him fall. Neither will the rest of the weird little eclectic family they've built.

#zee answers #this is barely coherent because im at *checks watch* 25~27 hours no sleep? maybe? im loopy #sorry if this was insanity #just wanted to make it clear that Jason was never left to deal with anything alone #he always ALWAYS had support #a massive support system actually like you cannot possibly stay feeling bad when you have like 20 people determined to make you feel better #and i want to make it clear that Jason's anger was never seen as a bad thing to the group because its NOT #and how can you learn to manage an emotion youve never been allowed to properly express before? you cant #so Jason got to learn that too. and he learned the best ways for HIM to handle his anger between all the ghosts trying to help #this fic began because i just wanted fluff and nice things for Jason because I love him and he deserved so much better than canon ever gave #so of course Jason got support and love and everything he needed to feel secure and safe #this is at its bones a fluffy AU #dp x dc #danny phantom #dc x dp #dpxdc #dp x dc crossover #the king and his red knight #the king and his red knight au #tkahrk #tkahrk au #danny phantom crossover #halfa jason todd #Jason Todd #jason todd/danny phantom #jason todd x danny fenton #jason todd/danny fenton

[uncanny-tranny]

Healing can look and feel a lot like pain, so it's hard to imagine this being a good sign. However, I think feeling like it's getting worse can be a sign that you're healing and you're making progress.

I've been noticing in myself that I feel a whole lot worse ever since I actually... acknowledged I have a lot of healing to do and that I am unwell. I actually allowed myself to entertain the idea, and it's opened the floodgates to me finding out just how bad it got. I'm grateful in a way that I'm getting worse now because I have the ability to heal.

If it feels like it's gotten worse, maybe it could be because you're making your way out of the storm. It's going to be okay.

#mental health #mental health advocacy #recovery #i think getting worse is a sign that your brain is ready/you feel safe enough to BE worse #it can be more complex than that but this is my general opinion about it #i've noticed a lot more increased symptoms/seemingly new symptoms and while it's hard to discern why that is... #...i guess i just think it's okay to 'let' yourself be/become worse as you make progress toward recovery #because recovery is a process and not a destination #it's learning how to feel safe and secure and learning how to recognize yourself and your boundaries #it's learning how to apply those skills in your life to make it easier to navigate #it's a messy and human process that is so dependent on the individual and their needs and goals

[the-valiant-valkyrie]

hello everyone PLEASE think about the concept art for fabby's workshop with me please

#ieytd #the fabricator #i expect you to die #sorry i'm still losing my mind about this i've been thinking about this for several days straight thsi is tearing me UPP #its SO CUTE?? #yarns and threads with the little tomato needle holder #her little experiments with PRESUMABLY live (and poisoned) animals(?) inside #her grenegg chandelier #THE ZEECEE MUSIC BOX 💕💕💕 that- considering the key up above her desk- you were supposed to open yourself at one point #the fact that the zorb was going to be THE thing to shut off her security systems. do you feel safe having them protect you sweetheart? mm? #you should really check out the link it's so much fun it's really interesting #+ them talking about 'building the personality of the (currently unreleased) character THROUGH the decal of the room'. god. they SO knew. #i'm striving for a job i can love as much as she loves her's dude

[tinyfantasminha]

twst ch 7 spoilers

IDIA HAS A HENTAI FOLDER CONFIRMED ?????????????!!!1

#twst spoilers #ortho looked so horrified when mama shroud said she hacked into idia's pc #n then she said ''dont worry i never looked at the contents of the password-protected secret folder! dont tell your brother'' 😭 #THATS HIS ULTRA SECRET YAOI FOLDER!!!!!! #its so funny that he feels the need to protect it with a password as if his whole pc doesnt have a super security system in the first place #ALSO ITS KINDA POINTLESS SINCE HIS WHOLE FAMILY CAN HACK INTO IT 😭😭 his yaois arent safe

[toadlilyaus]

Incredibly self-indulgent quick sketch of the ot3 rare pair (trio?) that is Jean/ Neil/ Andrew; cause I feel like y'all ain't seeing the vision lol

If it ends up winning the poll maybe I'll get around to cleaning this up a bit and adding color and such, but for now this is all we get 😘🦊🦊🐦‍⬛🔑

#digital art #ao3 #all for the game #the foxhole court #fan art #drawing #aftg #aftg fanart #neil josten #andrew minyard #jean moreau #andrew x neil #andrew x jean #neil x jean #andrew x neil x jean #crack ship #rarepair #ot3 #Deals With Devils #sketch #consider the possibilities #i love andriel as much as the next guy #but imagine for me neil #who wants to experiment with their new found sexuality that he is still struggling to understand #and who feels safest when they have someone they trust their to watch their back #and who has said repetedly they feel safest in jeans arms (as well as under andrews watchful eyes) #and so in an attempt to make them feel safer/more secure/ (and to further explore their new and confusing feelings) he asks Jean to help him #and andrew who has already called jean 'interesting' after their one brief meeting and who just wants neil to feel good/safe #figures its fine as long as jean doesnt touch him and keeps neils hands busy too #but then finds themself looking 👀 at jean a bit too much during and starts crushing on him too.

[devi1sange1]

It’s sad that the Gwyn/Lightsinger theories get caught up in the ship war drama because it is one of the most solid theories I have seen come out of this fandom.

People are so quick to dismiss them because it makes them question the bonus chapter, which we can’t have for some reason. She glows when she sings, her voice is compared to light that beckons and draws listeners in, there have been now multiple instances of her drawing out people’s powers from them, people find themselves doing things for her and they don’t know why, like I can seriously go on and on. But people take everything Elriels say in bad faith and it’s so exhausting. “Lightsinger theories make no sense,” but have you even given them a chance?

Like even if Gwyn ends up with Az, she’ll be a lightsinger. Honestly, props to the Gwynriels that use it to their advantage because at least you’re listening and reading between the lines. You think that lightsingers, a name that sounds so similar to powers we’ve already seen, were mentioned for no reason? Powers that could be connected to the crossover/starborn/Daglan drama? Yeah sure…

You don’t want Gwyn to be some sexy siren that uses her powers for good? Could not be me.

#only tagging Elriel because this tag is my security blanket #yall make me feel safe and sane #elriel #pro elriel #save me from the sjm subreddits