#empowered multiples

[multiplicity-positivity]

Apologies if this comes off as ignorant but re: the empowered multiple movement driving a wedge between the nondisordered and disordered communities- isn't that a good thing though? Don't people want the nondisordered community to make their own spaces and leave the CDD community to thier healing?

*CDD - Complex Dissociative Disorder, referring to those with DID and OSDD-1

We don’t think so! We firmly believe that both separate and combined spaces are necessary for systems of all sorts. If there are no spaces where both disordered and nondisordered systems can come together to share their experiences, lift each other up, and learn from each other, it can cause resentment and misunderstanding to build between these two communities! That’s why shared spaces are so important, and why the empowered multiples movement is so dangerous! It sets up an “us vs. them” mindset that pits nondisordered systems against disordered systems while setting up a hierarchy with nondisordered “empowered” multiples on the top and all other systems at the bottom.

Of course, separate spaces are good! CDD systems deserve to have spaces focused on healing and growth surrounded by other survivors who understand. But there shouldn’t be exclusively CDD spaces and non-CDD spaces! We also need shared spaces (like this one!) where we can congregate to grow closer and support each other!

Those are our thoughts at least! ^^

🌸 Margo and 👻 Ghost

#empowered multiples #complex dissociative disorder #shared spaces

[askfordoodles]

Ok, but the way Fizzarolli was progressively and purposefully tearing his clown-outfit during his "I quit" song, symbolizing not only him shedding his public persona, but also him finally proudly declaring to the world that he is "imperfect" and done pretending.

#helluva boss #helluva boss spoilers #fizzarolli #🎵Here I am for all to see ~ when you're asking 'who is she?'🎵 #that performance was empowering in multiple ways

[wonder-worker]

“…The Anglo-Saxon era is often thought of as having been a golden age for women. Since the late eighteenth century, it has been a commonplace that women in England had better rights before the Norman Conquest than they did afterwards, and were held in higher esteem by society. Before 1066, said one eminent historian in the mid-twentieth century, men and women enjoyed ‘a rough and ready partnership’. As so often with golden ages, however, this picture rests on a selective reading of very limited and debatable evidence. One of its principal props is an account of German women written by the Roman historian Tacitus towards the end of the first century AD. These women, claimed Tacitus, were virtuous, frugal and chaste, and supported their sons and husbands by encouraging them to acts of valour. But this was simply a Roman praising ‘barbarian’ society in order to criticize his own. German women were portrayed as laudable because, unlike their Roman counterparts, they did not conduct adulterous affairs or waste their time at baths and theatres. The reality, unfortunately, seems to be that the status of women in first-century Germany and Anglo-Saxon England was no better than it was in later centuries.”

-Marc Morris, "Anglo-Saxons: The History of the Beginnings of England, 400-1066” / Pauline Stafford, "Women and the Norman Conquest"

Anglo-Saxon England has thus been a Golden Age variously of women's domestication, women's legal emancipation, women's education and women's sexual liberation. The length of a tradition which has changed so fundamentally over time is no guarantee of its veracity. A cursory view of a range of evidence from either side of the 1066 divide casts immediate doubt on the idea of a brutal Norman ending of the Golden Age. The raw statistics of Domesday, for example, suggest a different picture of England on the eve of the Norman arrival. No more than five per cent of the total hidage of land recorded was in the hands of women in 1066. Of that five per cent, 80-85% was in the hands of only eight women, almost all of them members of the families of the great earls, particularly of earl Godwine, or of the royal family. By the tenth and eleventh centuries women other than the queen are virtually absent from the witness lists of the royal charters, and thus apparently from the political significance such witness lists record.”

#anglo-saxons #anglo-saxon england #norman conquest #english history #gender tag #medieval #I don't necessarily agree with Stafford about Henry I #He did name his daughter Matilda his heir but it's not really as simplistic as she makes it seem #We know he remarried soon after his son's death to a young woman who he travelled extensively with her to try and conceive another son #It was only after 5 years when it became clear that he and his second queen weren't having kids that he nominated Matilda #And even then he never shared authority with her (including authority in her own dower lands that HE gave her) #Also as multiple historians have pointed out - while Matilda was his immediate heir it's highly likely that he hoped to live long enough #to directly transfer the kingdom to his eldest grandson #Even some of Matilda's own supporters seem to have viewed the situation in a similar manner - for example the Gesta Stephani states that #Robert of Gloucester viewed Henry Plantagenet as his grandfather's true heir #ie: many contemporaries probably unfortunately viewed Matilda as a 'transitional point' so to speak #So while I do think that Henry I should be remembered as someone who tried to pass the throne to his daughter #I don't really think the picture was as straightforward or as empowering (in a sense) as Stafford paints it as #The reality was much more complex and frustrating and typical of its times #And I do think it does Matilda a disfavour to overlook that

[moregraceful]

birdcage why is college so expensive. sorry this is weird ask i am going SICKO mode right now

my friend i wish i knew. i do not know what country you are coming to me from but here in the united states of hell, i feel only rage when i think about how university is free in some countries. like rn in graduate horror funhouse college, i just paid for a semester where the line items for cost were "credits" + "fees". tf am i paying for here. give me a line item breakdown. tell me exactly where my money is going so i feel empowered as a student!!

i am sorry you are in the thick of it, you have my greatest sympathies. if you have to take out federal student aid, my main recommendation is whenever you have to call their customer service line to get some nonsense bullshit sorted out, be really careful about what you dial bc one time i misdialed my student loan servicer by one number and ended up on the phone with a sex line call center. the psychic damage i took was immense. "hey handsome thank you for calling [name of the sex line call center i forgot what it was], are you touching yourself? would you like to be?" "this is not my federal student aid loan service customer help line......is it??" and it wasn't.

#no but you are so valid for being mad. go get that college degree and then tear down the system that made you pay for it #imho state and community colleges and trade schools should be 100% free and paid for by the government #and private colleges should be empowered to assist as many first gen students and low income students as possible #and my hottest take? every school - EVERY SCHOOL - should provide ample subsidized housing for at least 1/3-1/2 of all students #including designated subsidized and/or free housing for returning students and adult students with families of multiple kids #that's a rant for another day lmao #anyway i am so sorry you are in sicko mode!! stunt on those hoes #cage replies #anon

[divinesouldariax]

Once again I am wishing/hoping that Matt and Tal homebrewed a physical disability mechanic for Ashton

#im. SALTY #there are multiple examples in CR of a mental illness getting a mechanic #that actually has consequences #but the first explicitly physically disabled PC has no mechanic for it #ashton 'in pain constantly and has memory problems from a TBI' greymoore #i've mentioned this before but not been quite as angry abt it publicly #bc i wanted to keep giving them the benefit of the doubt #but it's been another dozen episodes and still nothing #let physically disabled characters be DISABLED #fuck!!!!! #'oh but martin they've been so busy! there hasn't been time to deal with ashton's stuff' #'and it would be so inconvenient to have their one strong medium sized character limited physically like that' #mm-hmm. chronic pain and memory issues arent...convenient #they aren't a fun storytelling device #or like...flavor #they cause problems for the person with them and for the people around them #i'm sure that ignoring that is empowering for some people #but not me. #even if it really is that like...ashton pushes through all the pain and doesnt let anybody see it #i really wish they'd start acknowledging that #and maybe they still will! #but i am reaching the point where my 'benefit of the doubt' is waning #still holding onto hope but...waning

[bluehairperson]

I've read your tags about Nadia and I thought "welcome to the club!" (😆) I have very mixed feelings about her route too, for (almost) the same reasons! It's a shame, I wish I could appreciate more but it felt too much like the devs were alleviating the wrong of her actions and making her a perfect dom girlboss 😔

OH MY GOD, RIGHT??? THANK YOU, UGH 😭😭

I absolutely hate how she gets glorified by the narrative and some fans as this perfect goddes while she's just as childish, arrogant and entitled like Valerius and Lucio are. Really obnoxious that those two get rightfully villanized by the game but that with Nadia we're getting tied to a chair and spoon fed the narrative that she has never done anything wrong in her life.

The canon tells us over and over again that's she's a disgustingly rich monarch that married a tyrant on purpose just to try and steal his land as some kind of pet project to prove herself in front of her family and to enflate her own ego, but the moment Lucio didn't let her monopolize everything she started to close herself in her rooms to take naps just like a child throwing tantrums?

AND when she wakes up she keeps blaming her husband and the courtiers for Vesuvia's downfall as if she didn't have any sort of responsability towards the people of the city she decided to rule. Like... yikes. Am I supposed to think she's a good leader or even just a nice person?

Again: all of this is fine, great even. I love flawed characters and shitty people, Lucio and Valerius are my absolute favorites. But I find really pathetic these double standards in the narrative. I'll say it: it feels performative, fake and tokenizing. Not that I would expect any less by Nix Hydra. Allow Nadia to be a fully fledged person with flaws and faults of her own, cowards.

I legit thought that her route would have been about her acknowledging her entitlement and neglet towards the city but appartenly the biggest conflict between her and MC was about her *checks notes* ... paranoia. ... ok. Paranoia that she was right to have anyway because Valerius was literally just around the corner ready to stab her in the back, so?? What was the point.

Awfully written route. She would have worked great as the morally grey character/kinda shitty person she is, but I guess the devs were too busy to pat themselves on the back to do that.

#I'M SORRY YOU REALLY HIT A SORE SPOT I'M SO MAD ABOUT THIS #as I said there are a lot of scenes in her route that made me super uncomfortable but the absolute worse was the one slightly before #the two endings when she has a fight with Lucio in front of us Val and the Hierophant in his realm #the way it was written and the way the devs MAKE the mc side blindly with Nadia it really reads as some kind of empowering scene #like an abuse survivor telling her abuser off or something like that #but that's not what's happening? at all?? #the devs said multiple times that lucio was never abusive to her he's just a shitty guy #and she was never a prisoner she could have left lucio and went back to phakra any time #the reason she didn't is probably because admitting she overestimated her own abilities hurted her ego + having to admit it to her family #so we get this awfully uncomfortable scene where this 40+ years old woman whines to her husband that she deserves the city he earned #in battle more than him for pretty much no reason apart the fact that she sucks slightly less than him #all of this while mc goes YAAAAAS MY MONARCH 😍😍😍 ACQUIRE MORE LAND 😍😍😍 TAKE WHAT IS RIGHTFULLY YOURS BECAUSE OF YOUR ROYAL BLOOD 🥰 #hashtag girlboss hashtag queen #like yikes I'm sorry but what the fuck is everyone smoking #are we reading the same fucking route #absolute womanchild why is no one calling her this #IF she had been treated like lucio and val have been in the narrative then I would have been womanchild (affectionate) but like this is #point blank annoying sorry but yikes #I love lucio and val so much because they suck and they are allowed to do so but nadia sucks just as bad as them and I'm supposed to just #praise her for it for some reason #can you like... learn how to write please #please allow minority characters to be 3dimensional people with flaws and faults instead of this crap #you're really not doing a favor to anyone hiding everything she is under a rug and hoping no one notices #also I truly couldn't care less about defending or debating any of this if you don't agree or got mad touch grass #long post #asks

[stephanidftba]

Went to the mall a few weeks ago, barely any actual food, there was an ice cream place and a feminist coffee place. Even Starbucks has left.

#food #polls #tumblr polls #the coffee place had multiple signs about how buying their coffee empowers women and they donate all profits to women #and help women get jobs and it was a bit much #good for you but your charity work shouldn't be so front-and-center that I can't find the menu

[what-even-is-sleep]

Oughh a good friend of mine from college is helping me figure out top surgery stuff and they’re sending helpful pictures like: themself from a side view with their own reduced tiddies

except the side-view picture is one of them and other folks right before a pole-dancing performance and I-

#smfh #mypost #THEY HAVE A GIRLFRIEND #I am thirsting over literally every person in this picture #thirsting in multiple ways bc: they are all v hot and empowered and baller asf #and: I want to know how to pole-dance so badly and am thirsting for the community and contact and fun outfits and exercise that that entails #I’m thirsting for community T-T

[sentanixiv]

Cannot emphasize enough the importance of independently verifying information and making your own assessment of a situation prior to getting on a soap box about it.

Brought to you by watching/reading a lot of strike misinformation circulating casting unions as The Big Greedybutts and then employers as The Big Scroogebutts.

Fact check, please.

#kichi speaks #for the record #i'm with the union #as in i support the union #but first i read: #multiple news sources #news releases from both sides #public interest commission reports #comparative reports #i'm not saying you need to break the library doing it #but please do more than read one article and take it as godsent truth #i'm not saying my stance is the ONLY RIGHT ONE #i'm saying that people should feel empowered read up and establish their own #maybe it'll align with others #maybe it'll align with mine #but i know i'll respect your opinion even more if i know you came up with it #instead of xeroxing it from xyz news source #or mr/ms mcjudgey's facebook post

[magentagalaxies]

idk why my brain decided folding laundry while listening to rollercoaster by bleachers at 11:26pm was the perfect conditions to finally process the fact that other girls is going to be finished in less than three weeks but im genuinely gonna lay motionless on the floor letting all these feelings wash over me rn????

#i'm just. no one will ever be able to comprehend how much this show truly means to me #even *i* can barely comprehend how much this show means to me #i keep trying to put it into words. the show itself is me trying to put that feeling into words #but it always sounds like hyperbole when i say other girls is the most important thing i have ever done and may ever do #most of my audience is only seeing the final 1% of what this project has been for me #and that's the part people should see bc it's the finished product #but also like. this is the same show i thought was going to genuinely kill me when i was eighteen #i worked on this for three years because every time i got close to completing it something took it away #and i realized it's more empowering to remake it on my own terms than give up on it even when it hurts #this show has seen me through my school almost being shut down. my first major depressive episode (and my whole recovery process!) #and that's not even to mention having to cut off multiple toxic friendships with the very first cast i had in 2020 #when i got into my dream school senior year all i felt was anxious because i thought other girls was never going to happen #and i thought that meant i would never make it as a comedian (don't ask me how that works depression makes you believe weird things) #and in the years since i've found my way at this school and realized my worth as a human being doesn't depend on other girls #and that other girls belongs to me and not the other way around #and i was able to take this source of shame. this perceived failure #and turn it into a production far bigger than i could've imagined back in 2019 #it gave me a chance to connect with a cast and crew full of some of the most incredible people i've ever met #and most importantly i'm able to make the show i wish i could've seen when i was young and alone #other girls is just a love letter to my younger self. like even though i know you can't hear me i just want to tell you you'll be okay #anyway side note i'm gonna get to talk to paul bellini again tomorrow #SPECIFICALLY because he said he wanted to talk to me before other girls is out bc he thinks it's really cool and wants to hear more #and he asked me to send him the video as soon as it's up #so year other girls is honestly the wildest ride i've ever been on. going from crying in my room at 3 a.m. over hating the ending #to chatting about the production in less than 3 weeks with one of my comedy heroes #nothing is ever going to top this

[theorderofthetriad]

pulled an all nighter, drank a bunch of coffee, and got into an argument on the internet so my anxiety levels are higher than my stoner ass rn.

#santagno #actually it was multiple internet arguments #the one argument i got on here on timblar #and the multiple arguments i got into on reddit w/ dudes who were freaking out over she-hulk twerking #bunch a fucking nonsense from this one guy about how it's against empowering women to have two women twerk #and then when i pointed out that. no. it is not a contradiction against women empowerment to have women do things he thinks is sexy #he suddenly tried to claim that what he was REALLY complaining about was how unfaithful this adaption was to she-hulk's character #to which i actually got real big mad and brought up the butchering of hawkeye's character #and the ass hasn't responded since

[lesbalisious]

Beauty Industry Die Challenge

#if I have to hear the words natural powerful unique empowering slay girlboss outta the mouth of one more airbrushed girlie who couldn’t #even exist like that in real life for one second I’m gonna fucking looooooosssseee ittttttttttt #slay girl queen boss. I don’t think anyone should wanna look like that #if u have to pay money for it I don’t want it actually … #if I have to do more than one thing for a job I wont #multiple step skin care routine ??? eat shit #I will wash my face w one cleanser in the shower and moisturise If You’re Lucky ??!?? #beauty product adverts will be like ‘do this to Be Yorself !!’ #you don’t know me bitch #I am a depressed dyke who can’t look in the mirror… I will look like a grimy little shell of a man and that’s who I am #idk man … I just think everyone who profits off someone’s appearance should catch small pox

[amongie]

i think part of reclaiming the word queer should include the people who are uncomfortable with or straight up triggered by being called queer. there is no solidarity in being referred to as queer alongside other people when no matter how hard i try i cannot associate that word with myself.

#this is not me saying stop using queer stop identifying as queer #this is me saying remember the people who still get called queer as a slur every day #remember the gay kids whos parents call lgbt people filthy queers and remember their struggles #remember the adults who grew up being called queer with spittle in their face and cannot call themself that #you have a right to reclaim it but reclamation requires consent from all parties so please be mindful like #it is only empowering if everyone in the room is onboard. otherwise you are still othering someone or multiple people

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

the thing about working in childcare these days is that I'm blown away by how open minded and genuinely curious these kids are. there are multiple openly queer kids, who are aware of the intricacy of the queer community and the multi-faceted nature of queer identity.

none of that was around 10 or 20 years ago. queerness wasn't even necessarily taboo during my childhood experiences, it just,,, wasn't taught or talked about, even from one child to another. I just didn't know it was a thing. but these little kids know about intersectionality!!!

and then when I was in high school, kids used 'gay' as an insult, but these kids at my job don't even blink differently when I told them the little queer flag pin on my messenger bag was the aroace flag. some of them ask what it means, because perhaps they've only heard of gay lesbian and trans. (and they've heard of gay lesbian and trans!!!!) I explain my flag and what it means, and it makes sense to them. that would have been alien for me as a ten year old.

some of these little lesbian girls and aroace and bisexual boys, the pan, poly, demigirl and nonbinary little ten year olds are the best friends that little me needed.

it's refreshing and heartwarming to see that the young ones of today are the kind of people this world needs.

PROTECT QUEER KIDS!!!! EMPOWER QUEER KIDS!!!!

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #queer #pan #poly #bi #bisexual #nonbinary #aro #ace #lesbian #gay #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #lgbtq pride #lgbtqiap+ #lilith has the microphone

[duckprintspress]

AHHHH BOOKS OF OURS HAVE BEEN ADDED TO THE QUEER LIBERATION LIBRARY ( @queerliblib ) I AM SO EXCITED.

If you don't know what the QLL is this is a great chance to find out!! They're an online library of hand-curated queer e-books with really awesome range (non-fiction! fiction! many genres and disciplines!), and they keep growing! Anyone in the US can become a member FOR FREE. From their webpage: Queer Liberation Library (QLL) is fighting to build a vibrant, flourishing queer future by connecting LGBTQ+ people with literature, information, and resources that celebrate the unique and empowering diversity of our community.

They're also a non-profit 501(c)3 organization, and completely funded by donations (we donate a pittance monthly, I wish we could do more).

I HIGHLY recommend you go to their webpage here to find out more, and you can follow their tumblr (tagged above) too!

And if you didn't know - all our published anthologies to-date are available through multiple library apps, including Libby (if selected by the library) and Hoopla (should be available to all libraries with Hoopla subscriptions). So even if you aren't a member of QLL, you might want to check your local library e-book system to see if you can read our books. Titles potentially available at your library include our anthologies Add Magic to Taste, She Wears the Midnight Crown, He Bears the Cape of Stars, Aim For The Heart: Queer Fanworks Inspired by Alexandre Dumas's "The Three Musketeers" and And Seek (Not) to Alter Me: Queer Fanworks Inspired by Shakespeare's "Much Ado About Nothing," and our stand-alone titles To Drive the Hundred Miles by Alec J. Marsh and Many Drops Make a Stream by Adrian Harley. There's more on the way, too, so be on the lookout.

#queer liberation library #qll #duck prints press #about us

[ivesambrose]

𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟒 𝐌𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐬 🥂

1. 2. 3.

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𝓟𝓲𝓬𝓽𝓾𝓻𝓮 1

Your central theme is rising from the ashes. You're in the process of the most intense metamorphosis yet. A new dawn, a new day, a new life.

You'll feel empowered, passionate and obsessive about your pursuits. You'll allow the old skin to be ripped off of you and you'll no longer be scared to be you.

This year brings you connections, admires, collaborations, unions both in personal and proffesional life.

There's a certain duality in you that you haven't explored yet, but you will in the coming months.

You'll have good health for the most part compared to the previous year. Your family will be taken care of. The hope and assurance you may have lacked from them will come through. It will feel warm and refreshing. (Goes for chosen family too)

Romantically, you may be focused on your career or just living your life a lot. But someone might want to build a legacy or long term relationship with you.

If you're already coupled, the focus goes to building what you have and looking after domestic affairs and see things bloom.

Proffesionally, you will have your most successful and blessed year. Money shouldn't be a problem and even if it seems like it, your needs will always be met and you'll still have more.

Some of you might enjoy ghe fruits of your labour extensively. This goes for the ones who work solo or run their own business etc

Academically, you might feel a bit disinterested. Might move out from your home or change subjects. Take up something completely new. Might face your fears and push through but make it a point to follow your inner calling for the most part.

Themes centered around relationships and partnerships are significant this year as well opportunities coming out of the blue that call you to heed your intuition and step out of your comfort zone or limiting mindsets, that will inevitably lead to travel, progress and new experiences.

Make the best of this year, it'll feel like you're finally on the journey you've been preparing yourself for all this time.

𝓟𝓲𝓬𝓽𝓾𝓻𝓮 2

Your central theme is using your emotions as your guiding force, using it as fuel and not seeing it as weakness. Quieting your mind so you can listen to your instincts more. Healing from things you don't speak of, that you've felt have persistently held you back from your potential and finally taking the lead. You'll feel like the main character in your life finally, instead of seeing everything through the lens of a side character no one remembers.

You'll feel motivated to follow what makes your heart happy. You may be faced with choices a lot this year, a lot of this or that in several aspects of your life. Trust yourself to make the right decisions.

You'll be learning about your mind and body this year, so incase you go through ups and downs in your health you'll be able to manage it but also guide others too.

Romantically, you might as well get your happy ending. I see that you're mostly focused on the complete picture. Not bothered with what is going on in between too much. So you'll get what you're manifesting eitherway.

Proffesionally, a rebirth or evolution will take place. Something new that will grow overtime. You'll be driven about it. So success will be imminent.

Success in academics as well, feeling proud of your achievements.

Themes around revolution, personal development, healing generational trauma, humanitarism, technology as well being open to the unknown will also be prevalent this year.

Learn to make amends and embrace the breakthroughs this year has to offer you.

𝓟𝓲𝓬𝓽𝓾𝓻𝓮 3

Your central theme is related to wealth, inheritance, change of lifestyle, receiving help, building a legacy and feeling more secure. Some of you will see a success or change they did not see coming, it was hidden for the longest time.

Some of you may even be leaving poverty behind for a more financially secure life.

You'll find yourself blooming, physically especially. A glow up in your looks and quality of being is going to be imminent. Focus on health, beauty, food, routine etc as well. A lot of you will be experiencing vivid dreams, strange synchronicities etc too will be learning about esoteric subjects, occult or the subconscious mind a lot. You'll also be receiving success and recognition or you might be building your steps towards it that will eventually pay off in the long run.

You'll feel like this old self or image of you has died. You may even mourn it for some time but will feel more powerful, confident and self assured once you're past that.

Romantically, you'll be feeling desirable and might attract a lot of suitors. Your self concept will improve exponentially, so will your standards. So nothing less than what you want. Your intuition will be at all time high. Fear no one and nothing. Some of you might also be moving to a new house too or might end up owning something in your name.

Proffesionally, although you might deal with competition you won't be too worried. You know your skills, you'll have your resources, your work will speak for it self and you will stand out.

Friendship, community, discoveries and gains are also some of the themes surrounding you this year.

Let your imagination create for you. You'll soon realize there's so much power in allowing yourself to receive what you desire by simply being instead of doing too much.

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