#do not infantilize him

[cxanthos]

*ahem* For the love of GOD The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes is not a love story.

People who interpret it as one...why? Did we read the same story?

#coming back to this blog with some spice #even though this shouldn't be a controversial opinion #argue with a wall #seeing all these edits like 🥺 poor coryo lost his love #do not infantilize him #he is a villian #and i love him for it #and you can ship him and Lucy #im not hating on that #but when it comes to the canon material ... i just lose my mind a little #coriolanus snow #lucy gray baird #the ballad of songbirds and snakes #tbosbas #tbosas #thg #the hunger games #sam is losing their sanity

[soullessjack]

a collection or mood-board of sorts

#cal.txt #glitter text #animated text #shitpost #autistic characters #autism representation #jack kline #spn #autism #your fav is #ID: your autistic favs do fuck! me. I’m fucking them. die mad about it #image posting #image collection #autism memes #autism stuff #blorbo tag #your fav #every day I remember that jack is literally a grown ass romance-feeling sex-wanting autistic adult infantilized for his autistic traits #and then I die a little bit inside #but will that stop me from carnal posting ab him? absolutely fucking not. he’s pretty and I want him and that’s never gonna change #sexualizing autism is actually crucial to beating ableism im so serious

[castorfell]

Strawbaby

#dreamworks trolls #trolls holiday in harmony #tiny diamond #fanart #castorpng #my personal hc is that after tbt tiny leans more into being baby n indulging his dad dressing him up #eventually learns how to use his babyselfness to his advantage to pull of a load of baloney #cuz you KNOW guy the type of parent who just lets his kid do whatever esp if he looks adorable doing it #is it infantilization if he actually is an infant

[somewhereincairparavel]

Hazel and Jason's dynamic is SO fucking disappointing now that I'm binge reading the books again. It was so frosty and distant. Jason was literally just mistrusted and "not like what she expected him to be" in 90% of her Hoo POVS it's sad really. I really wish they would bonded properly. So much potential for friendship just down the drain.

Hazel's unwillingness to forgive Jason for suspecting Nico was genuinely pissing me off I'm sorry 😭 like I never thought I'd get mad at Hazel of all people bc she is literally a sweetie, but she's infantilized way too much in the fandom, so her flaws are easily overlooked, but like she literally went all volcano on Jason and held a grudge against him till House of Hades too? Like I get that she worried about her brother and stuff I'd be mad too. But it's the fact that she selectively forgave Leo SO quickly and never even yelled at him (even though he's the one who started the suspicion in the first place even jokingly called nico creepy and stuff behind his back not that I'm trying to fault him or anything I love him)

look I'm not saying it's all Leo's fault or anything, in my opinion, both Jason and Leo were right to suspect nico because of how back and forth nico went from both camps without saying a word and also pretended to not know percy and stuff. So it's realistically shady behaviour from their pov.

But Hazel gets all sweet and soft on Leo because of Sammy and forgives him in a heartbeat, tbh tho she never really directed her anger on Leo in the first place so there was nothing to forgive. But when Jason apologizes, she gets all cold and frosty like accepting his genuine apology is the hardest thing she has ever done?? Like?? Hazelnut I love you and all, but you just accused Jason of unfairly judging nico but you ironically unfairly judged Jason and went all sweetheart on Leo?? Contradiction much?? Either forgive both of them or don't forgive either of them? Why the bias?

Then in HoH she goes on a whole lot of yapping about how she doubts his capabilities as if she didnt just idolize him like 5 minutes ago RIGHT after he encouraged her that she was doing well and included her as a part of the team?? Idk, she was so petty with him and for what?. I just found it unfair that Jason considered hazel a friend but she didn't consider him one and just fully went all judgy mode on him for the rest of the series. she holds on an even bigger grudge than nico lol. she literally did anything but forgive him or give him a chance. so ooc.

Also, In TOA, I found out Hazel told Apollo that she talked to Jason's ghost after he died, to yell at him about how much his sacrifice had hurt Piper :/ like rlly? Out of all the things you could say to a person you idolized who made a lifechanging sacrifice, you guilt trip him for the sacrifice instead of gratitude? Ig she may have been raging out of grief or something but I honestly didn't like the way their dynamic ended. So incomplete. Just another reason of why I found fanon way better.

Hazel coming in terms with the fact that jason is a boy, and not a legend would've been sm better. since the seven basically signifies friendship and comfort. him being a boy with feelings is basically the whole point of his character, but it only gets acknowledged by nico and leo. hazel of all people would've understood jason's internal struggle, she has literally come back from the dead, if anyone knows about struggle, its her.

#I honestly hope y'all don't misunderstand this post as hazel slander or something. i love that pookie #but its time we acknowledge that she is flawed and is not an innocent bean who can do no wrong simply because she is infantilized #I am just super salty at how Jason had like no closeness to anyone but leo and nico #the amount of slandering this man had to endure from ppl. like the hazel raging at him was such an unnecessary addition. #Hazel and jason could've had a great heart to heart scene #pjo #pjo fandom #percy jackson #pjo hoo #jason grace #pjo hoo toa #pjo series #annabeth chase #piper mclean #leo valdez #hazel levesque #frank zhang

[fromtheseventhhell]

Zutaras are really the original self-insert, "we understand the story soooooo much better than everybody else" girlies and they just never moved on

#anti zutara #no offense to anyone who ships it and follows me but I'm so over the shipping wars of this show that aired almost 20 years ago 😭 #at some point you guys are gonna need to hang it up cause there's a sequel series and these people are married with children like... #we get it if you were Katara you would've chosen Zuko but guess what?! you aren't and need to stop projecting onto her #the pretending to care about Katara is what really gets me cause she's never even implied to have romantic feelings for him #or vice-versa + it ignores her anger towards him and how long it took her to forgive him + rightfully so #criticizing the writing for Kataang is one thing but turning around and shipping Zutara while doing so is crazy work #ship it if you want but please stop pretending it makes more sense when both Zuko and Katara have their own separate romances 😭 #love how people have to age Aang down + infantilize him and erase Mai to make it work but sure it's the better option #stop erasing Katara's arc and development just to claim that Aang brings her down when she's been a bad-ass since season 1 #reducing her arc to that ONE moment with Zuko and ignoring all of her other development just to prop up a ship is nasty #Katara isn't a reward for Aang and she sure as hell isn't one for Zuko stop belittling her like that #if y'all didn't watch ATLA when you were 12 and think Zuko was cute this ship wouldn't even exist #thinking about that post that said the writers /pandered to dudebros/ like we all weren't children the delusion is crazy sdfssdfsdfsd #also seeing AANG of all characters getting whacked for a ship...please get a life and stay away from him #antizutara

[1bringthesun]

so when dazai was in the hospital with that nurse, who’s the right one to blame?

(discussions of s/a, medical unprofessionally, and other bsd-typical things)

asking this question is wrong to begin with. there’s no, “ oh no, but who will we blame for the situation?” are you really still looking for someone to blame in bungou stray dogs, the series of grey morality?

well, i don’t blame you. so im making a post about it!

for convenience, i’m just going to assume they slept together because it makes the most sense, and is also generally what the fandom assumes when they try to point fingers at either two.

to better understand why people think a certain way, let’s break it down and approach this problem from two perspectives!

the nurse was in the wrong:

dazai had just gotten out of surgery for having a bullet wound and is still under the influence of anesthesia. she sees him using his phone and takes it from him. he’s handsome and willing to do things with her, so she sleeps with him, and when they’re done, she’s willing to give it back. not only that, but she has the audacity to ask again if they can do it “just once more.” it’s obvious she has zero care for him as a patient if she’s willing to sleep with someone fresh out of surgery, and also being under the influence, he’s not able to properly consent. regardless, she takes her chance to be with a handsome man, completely neglecting her job to care for his health as a nurse and breaking probably every single aspect of professionalism.

dazai was in the wrong:

an annoying woman is disregarding the gravity of his work and holding him, someone who’s important to the fate of the city, by normal hospital standards, when he’s been shot by a bullet before and knows his own body inhumanly well; another doctor even gave him permission, so who’s she to act like the boss of him? obviously, this bothers him, and he needs his phone, so he decides to take the quickest path to getting it back, and, spoiler alert: it isn’t recovery. he seduces her and puts her job at risk just so he’ll get his phone back, and when she becomes attached to him, he says yeah, sure, they can fool around again… if he feels like it.

they’re both in the wrong:

people blame her of sexually assaulting him, and also blame him of sexually assaulting her. they say he couldn’t have consented, she overly wasn’t interested in the beginning, she was meant to care for her patient, he’s a scumbag and a womanizer, etc.

but don’t you see? the fact that both of them have done awful things in these two panels…

…is the point.

dazai is an asshole for sleeping with a woman he doesn’t give a damn about just so she’ll do what he tells her to, and she’s totally insane for letting a patient who was just in surgery share physical intimacy with her.

she’s an awful nurse, and he’s a bitch! they both suck!!!! why only blame one of them for sucking?

from an outsider’s perspective, the nurse does seem to be more in the wrong. she was meant to be his caretaker for a while and completely neglected that, even going so far as to have relations with a patient still under the effects of drugs.

but… was he? he was speaking completely lucidly, and none of his thoughts or words or actions resembled someone under the influence in the slightest. he made a sour face at her when he realized he couldn’t just do whatever he wanted to do, and her attitude in the beginning was clearly appropriate for the situation. calling dazai a victim in this situation is wrong. he clearly took the initiative to change her position. is that not consent?

he manipulated her for access to a phone, and she used him as means of gratification, and both of that is wrong.

#bungou stray dogs #bsd #dazai #dazai osamu #nurse scene #dazai and the nurse #bsd analysis #morally grey characters #there’s no point in playing the blame game when they both did something inappropriate #also how come so many people headcanon him with tolerance to drugs and then say that he’s drugged when he’s convenient to victimize him? #people keep borderline infantilizing dazai. why? how? what? #did we read the same series????? #dazai is only a bad person when it’s convenient for their tastes #he was tooootally manipulated into doing that and taken advantage of.. yup #do you guys hear yourselves

[undeadvinyls]

havent made a comic in a looong while so i think theres no better way than to welcome a new hero with a comic! meet killing joke aka cedric, the medieval knight-jester cross hero 💕

under the cut theres his ref !!!

its actually a 2 month old doodle i digitalized, haha

#pvz: killing joke #pvz #pvz heroes #pvz comic #pvz oc #plants vs zombies #professor brainstorm #rustbolt #plants vs zombies heroes #phantoms art #i wanna do more comics with my heroes too. but more like off shots than compelling stories since im not continuing my comic #been also playing undertale a lot so like. he has so much papyrus energy #but PLEASE DO NOT INFANTILIZE HIM HE'S A GROWN ADULT AND JUST SEES THE WORLD THROUGH MEDIEVAL LENSES #grrr #also should have said this but rustbolts pose in the first 2 frames was referenced off sniper in meet the sniper short #and while i didnt use a ref uhh. pretend they r in jewel junction bye

[bangobeep]

elevator game..... :pensive:

#regretevator #lampert #if you'll be reblogging this please do not infantilize him or refer to him as anyone's son please and thank yuou :3 #my art [:

[nat20composure]

I love Astarion and also I cannot cope with all the fanart of him turning him into a twink. I don't mind not drawing him shredded or whatever but I feel like I keep watching everyone hit him with skinny magic and it makes me want to SCREAM please guys please

#not every effeminate queer man needs to be given the “twink body type” #quotations bc i think....it is stupid to associate body types with personalities #even if there are in story explanations for him being skinnier #I am just so so sick of people turning him into a shrimp #astarion #astarion meta #bg3 #I have chronic hater disease bc I want to consume fanart and fan content so bad #but it feels like every one on the internet is either infantilizing #or twinkifying #or de-aging him #AND I CANT DO IT PLEASE!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!!!

[lycanr0t]

i feel very frustrated about the trend of giving chil body hair bc if it was any other anime twink i would be thrilled its just that it seems to only be because people are SO afraid of him looking young they have to make him hairy to justify liking him in ships.

meanwhile it does directly go against canon (he literally is supposed to look like a child. this is integral to both his character and his race's lore as a whole and it makes no damn sense that he would be mistaken for a child if he has body hair i mean. cmon.)

and it's like. some men are hairless. some men look young. when youre a trans man in your 20s-30s its especially common to be mistaken for a teenager, even more so if you're not on t. and short. these traits do not make you less of a man or an adult. :/

#rot posts #listen its like. i just wish ppl werent doing it for the reasons they seem to be #you NEVER see tiny little men get body hair in fanart i should know ive been in multiple fandoms where i was the only 1 givin bitches hair #but it also sucks when its like. clearly from a place of discomfort and not wanting him to seem young #rather than actually loving body hair #for example where is laios with body hair. wheres kabru. mithrun. literally any other character #(senshi us a slight exception on account of semi canonically having hair) #it just feels like a performance for no one. ok yeah good job you made chil look like a hairy 30 year old #did you pay attention to how that totally disregards his story and how he canonically looks like a child and that IS an important aspect #half foots face infantilism to an extreme and his appearance is a part of this. the discrimination he faces is partially BECAUSE of looks! #so changing him to erase such a HUGE important aspect of his race's lore just bc ppl seem uncomfortable with him being young looking feels #idk the feeling. its frustrating to me #i just wish there was some self reflection here. i guess. some actual acknowledgement of his canon struggles #do you even like chil if you cant accept one of his core canonical traits... #whew anyways this is HUGELY a limited edition post bc im deleting it as soon as my husband reads it ❤️ #i hate drama i hate discourse so like always if you try to start shit i will ignore + block you soo fast dont try me

[impishtubist]

"Calling Remus out for not checking up on Harry means that you hate disabled poor people" okay ya weirdos🤣

#you're exempt from caring about your best friends and their child if you are disabled and poor i guess! #you're exempt from any wrongdoing apparently #i guess my chronically ill ass can do whatever i want without any consequence! #chaos night #but actually the infantilization of remus lupin is so infuriating #he can be disabled and poor AND still held accountable for his failures #it's called having SUBSTANCE to a character #it's called NUANCE #stop romanticizing and coddling him it's so WEIRD

[chainsawmascara]

You can tell who hasn't been through severe psychological and sexual abuse by whether or not they want to hug astarion after he kills cazador.

#bro #i would fucking murder the first person who tried to touch me #he's holding a fucking knife #are you insane #astarion #I'm v glad you haven't experienced that #but he's in a massive ptsd moment #and you would fucking die #i need you to understand that #and stop asking larian to hug him #so that survivors can see ourselves represented #and not infantilized by your need to hug sad vampire man #who is holding a KNIFE #and just MURDERED SOMEONE #and has a DEBUFF FROM TRAUMA #and almost MURDERED 7000 PEOPLE #you will not survive that hug #don't touch him do not touch his shoulder #the DON'T FUCKING TOUCH ME scream that would illicit #is so blatant #like #honey #stop #please stop

[soullessjack]

this isnt rlly a serious post more so than a thought I need to verbalize but like. there’s an INSANE difference between the fandom being like “hey what if jack was actually his age and got to be a little normal” vs y’all treating a grown ass man like he has to cover his ears when someone swears or sleep with a nightlight on because he’s afraid of the dark, and throwing the P word around to anyone who thinks he’s attractive. one of these things is not like the other.

#there’s a layer here about giving jack the childhood he specifically chose not to have #and ignoring his other choices because that’s just. idk a running theme with any character who struggles to have autonomy #but whatever idk #genuinely i think the past year or so that I’ve spent talking about this has burnt me out #either that or I’m just too fixated on VB to really care too much #like obviously I still care about it and wish more was done to help but it’s not really a warpath for me to walk currently #just. #I’m just tired dawg #it’s like talking to a deaf brick wall #please just do some research into infantilization I cannot keep having a one sided conversation with people who don’t care #spn #jack kline #baby jack #spn fandom #fandom critical #fandom ableism #tfw2.0 #not even just ableism it’s the whole mischaracterization woobified bullshit all over again #and the using baby jack as a prop for everyone else but I digress #jack: *chose not to be a child and hates being seen as one and is more than willing to get violent if he thinks he has to* #y’all for some fucking reason: he’s just a widdle baby he can’t handle the scary movie he needs his daddies to take care of him #I’ve already said all these things before #i am tired. so tired

[pinkeoni]

Okay, whatever you say, baby.

#‘like im a baby’ #says the baby doing baby things #/j #now im not trying to infantilize will or make invalidate his feelings #but also…. hes a baby 🥺 #you dont want me to think ur a baby with your big eyes and giant ghostbusters costume that covers your arms 🤨 #you’ll get your moment to prove yourself its okay baby #but also… its okay if you cant do things on your own #also whenever joyce called him baby she was right #will byers #stranger things #byler #<- target audience

[roobylavender]

a random thought but i really am very obsessed with how deeply committed bruce is to his love of people and to the extent that it’s a regular divide between him and talia. not that she is without love, no, hardly so, but love will never come before principle for her in the sense that the principle does stem from love, but from a selfless love, not a selfish one. and i use these two descriptors purely as a means of analyzing perspective, so selfless and selfish not necessarily as moral indicators as they are often used today but merely as expressions of whether you’re acting for the sake of others or for yourself. talia is someone repeatedly acting at expense to herself for the sake of others. she gives her child away, she ends her marriage, she doesn’t say a word about it again for years despite having the chance, she takes on a high level espionage mission without speaking a word to her ex-lover, maybe to protect herself, maybe to protect him. whether those were worthwhile decisions to take is certainly debatable, but she acts near strictly from a perspective of caring about others and the world first. bruce is comparatively a very selfish person. every victim an extension of his own trauma, every grief taken to heart, every desperation for companionship so heavily internalized that he ends up pushing people away bc at some point he can’t bear to take them down under with him in his sorrow. it’s funny that he tries to be the rational voice in a room bc up to a point he is, but he also cares too much about his own personal affairs to be that way consistently

and in light of all of that i am thinking about the conversations he and talia must have in that alternate universe where damian is normal and newly revealed to both of them as a concrete concept in their lives, for bruce as the son he never had and for talia as the son she gave away, come back to them by way of fate. why did you never tell me you didn’t actually miscarry. why did you never tell me you had a son and you gave him away. why did you pretend like it was over when it never was. why did you look me repeatedly in the eyes over the years like there wasn’t something more that was there. when you said you couldn’t talk about it before i boarded a plane back home i held my tongue. when you let yourself be beaten within an inch of your life bc your city was falling to pieces i held my tongue. when my father took the contingency plans you made and used them to turn your friends against you i held my tongue. when i worked for a man who would for all intents and purposes use the knowledge of my relationship with you against you i held my tongue

how can bruce, a person so wrapped up in his love for people, not understand the number of sacrifices that talia has had to make for his own sake. her repeated protection of him, of his sanity, of his sanctity, is simultaneously her greatest crime and her greatest benevolence to him. she carried that grief of loss for years and years bc of how important bruce is to her. and bruce loves her, loves damian, too much to even begin to understand what love means outside of the parameters of his own feelings for them. that is his dilemma writ large wrt people he loves. that he can’t see the extent of what they do for him, bc he loves them too much and doesn’t know how to get out of the sheer grief and possessiveness of it

#bruce wayne #talia al ghul #he’s like an asian mom kind of. but yeah like i think this is the one thing i am willing to cede to anti bruce people #albeit it makes me more obsessed with him rather than makes me hate him lmao #like idk i think it’s fascinating how like. inadvertently self obsessed he is #like i really don’t think he does it on purpose he’s simply. incredibly attached to the people he cares about #and that kind of messes everything else up bc it’s like #he does the mature thing. physically. he lets people leave and he doesn’t retaliate against their anger (ntt abuse begone) #he kinda sorta just sits with it. but that’s exactly the problem 😭 like bro. process. process.. #not everything is about you and how sad and pathetic and miserable you are of your own choice! #sometimes you have to think about what other people are doing for you! bc they love you and that’s love too! #you can’t infantilize the people in your life bc you care about them. you can’t rob them of their capacity to care for you in equal measure #personal essays

[cardentist]

nothing against this post or these people in particular but My Fucking God Does Nobody Know What Infantilization Means Anymore

twitter thinks onceler style sexymanification is infantilization now, that's how much we've let the term degrade into nothingness

"infantilization" is when something doesn't look the way it did in canon, "uwu softboy" is when a guy is there and I don't like it, I'm sick of this shit fr

#discourse #I Guess fsajdkljkladsf #I don't know if I should tag this for jeffy boy or not #I don't think people who want mr the killer content want to see this #but I don't think people who Don't want to see him jeff the killing would appreciate there Not being a tag #maybe I can just #jeff the killer tw #tw jeff the killer #unreality #blood #the joke's funny but watching the degradation of terms that people were already misusing has slowly evaporated my brain goo #who do you think is out here infantilizing jeff the killer