#creating a better self

[dark-wackademia]

You’re Not Lazy : How To Force Your Brain To Crave Doing Hard Things

#youtube #i never realized this is what ive been doing when i am working on myself. even in bad places i will actually still have these small habits #they are what always brings me back slowly but surely #if/then #habits #creating healthy habits #creating a better life #creating a better self #one step at a time #creating your dream life #manifesting your dreams #dream life #success #starts small #small steps #big results #successmindset #you got this! #i believe in you! #<3 #be kind to yourself #take time for yourself #self care #prioritize yourself #prioritizehealth

[agirlwithglam]

creating a new identity:

aka; how to build an alter ego / how to create the new you / creating your higher self / create a new version of yourself

this is a guide for people who want to change their life around, and most importantly, change themselves (because obvi to change your life, you must first change yourself first). oki lets get started!!

3 reasons why you want to change:

first of all name at least 3 reasons WHY you want to create a new identity. some reasons could include:

wanting to get better at school/ higher grades

becoming more social

more stronger

more disciplined

becoming better at something (ex a language, instrument)

if you don't have your 3 reasons on why you want to create a new you, then your desire is probably not strong enough and you won't be able to stay consistent in it.

create the new you:

give it a name! (you can do this at any point tbh so not really important atm)

choose and decide the aspects of your new identity: (how they think, act, behave, feel. what their hobbies are, their habits, what type of person they are, how they treat others and themselves, etc etc)

write down these aspects in your notes app, notion, blog, docs, (wherever you want to). you don't have to go in full detail but just write everything that you need for this new identity so that if you forget or need to be reminded, you can just check that.* *reminder that you can create more than 1 identity/ alter ego! so for example you may have one thats for workouts/ sports, one thats for studying, one thats for socialising, etc. this means that you don't necessarily need to write other hobbies for an alter ego that is made for working out. you just need to write whats important to that specific identity.

once you've done all this, theres nothing left but to just BECOME. stop over planning and procrastinating, step into the energy of this new version of yourself. channel the energy and enjoy your life!

tips:

take inspiration from people in real life! this can be celebrities, anyone you've met and admired, movie/ tv show characters (for me; rory gilmore, elle woods, gina linetti), book characters, etc. you don't have to create a new alter ego from scratch, you can just adopt energy of a person that has already been created/ exists.

a signature something. give this new identity a signature scent, outfit, accessory, etc. anything just to give it a bit of a touch/ cherry on top <3

Xoxo, Vanilla

#agirlwithglam🎀✨ #vanilla self improvement⭐️ #it girl tips💗💋 #self improvement #self development #becoming that girl #it girl energy #self love #girlboss #it girl #creating a new identity #how to create an alter ego #alter egos #being your higher self #creating your higher self #becoming better

[marisatomay]

i’m so sick of writers who proudly proclaim that they don’t read and directors and actors and other filmmakers who smugly say that they rarely watch movies or any artist who acts like an audience is stupid for connecting with their work like what the fuck is wrong with you that you hold such contempt such derision for the art that you have chosen to make the art that so many people dream of the opportunity to make the art that brings meaning and connection to people’s lives it’s unbelievably disrespectful to both your audience and the art-form and if you can’t muster basic respect for either your art-form or your audience then kindly fuck off and do something else

#i hate how rare it is to have an actor be like ‘yeah i just really love movies and going to the movies it’s the best i love what i do’ #to the point where when an actor or director IS like that people are like ‘wow what a freak…they’re faking it for attention’ like!! no!! #that’s what it’s SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE!! you WANT creators who are obsessed with their medium!!! #and what gets me about the people who don’t feel that way is the clear Pride they feel like they’re Better for not caring #that uk ya author adapting the odyssey and admitting that they’ve never read the odyssey or the iliad #that writer on twitter saying that telling writers to read is ableist #the russo brothers saying that the theatrical experience is elitist and auteurism should bow to the disney/netflix model #christain bale and any number of other actors who proudly announce that they don’t watch movies #sam levinson who talks about tv like it’s a long movie because he can’t hack it as a filmmaker like his dad but he doesn’t actually LIKE tv #like i get not wanting to consume your own work after it’s released unless it’s for research or self reflection purposes #but you do not exist or create in a vacuum and it’s SO disrespectful and arrogant to act like you do

[averlym]

fairest of the fair

#hi! im alive and back and etc. #six the musical #six the musical fanart #katherine howard #thinking of that post going 'i think eventually you become the person you needed most' and like maybe that's the thing with my art #this started out as a redraw and <improvement meme> i think i've finally reached the stage where i'm making the things that my younger self #aspired to create. like i can do this now! i've reached That level of technical skill! tiny me would be so proud. it's very gratifying #redraw from august this year actually. i've made a surprising amount of improvement HAHA maybe it was the adamandi stuff getting me #back into digital rendering. i think that obsession has quietly slipped away but yknow. one never truly leaves a fandom. just less intensit #also speaking of old fandoms! we're back with the six stuff haha. as of writing i'm in the midst of blog revamp- figuring out how to chill #multifandom status doesn't mean ditch all the old stuff ! but i do feel much freer and less stressed. i think hiatus has been good for me #notes on this piece particularly: redraw about cutting hair and thinking of the lyric above. also lowkey &j ref + pinterest poem excerpts #of female suffering. and maybe a dash of amanda heng let's walk inspo. this work is really just full of contradictions.. #1. the mirror and cutting hair as an act of self liberation 2. the & is part of the lyric but also a nod to &j (in another iteration it was #pink but the white looked better) and like. &j is really all !!! girl power!!! etc. and i was like hmmmm. also matching pink shiny aes #3. the frame as a cage; the mirror as a self reflection idea (ie. saville's propped insp) but also as a sign of vanity. 4. sparkly costume #and pretty pose- read one too many poems about women feeling like they have to be pretty even in their suffering. something i wanted to #explore. and also in 5. the show itself... all you wanna do is. despite all the dancing and pink and sparkly the content of the song is #darker. and even though it's a story of her suffering it's still presented as a shiny fun pop song and ajshdhfhfh ok... 6. the lyrics fall #outside the frame. sort of a caught inbetween. sort of a trapped in the narrative and yet #within the frame it's all. vaguely handwavy breaking free vibes. like i said contradictions? #7. cutting off the long ponytail vs the pull my hair lyric at the end. yeah #8. the blocked off & looks a bit like scissors. positioned to cut right at the neck #anyways yeah irl remains hectic! but if i get around to more doodles they'll appear here :)

[guest-1-2-3]

Yk what blows my mind is when i’m reading something amazing right, i am so immersed in the story the writing is beautiful it’s making me feel more emotions than i’ve ever felt in all my years of living and then the end notes are just like. “uhhh hope u enjoyed ig? haha” or “idek what this is lol” like sir ma’am my guy your writing is the most gorgeous thing i have ever read. i cried and i laughed and i screamed and i did that thing where you roll around in bed and giggle like a child at 3am. if it was the zombie apocalypse and i could only take one story with me as i fought to survive it would be yours. “what even is this lmao” a masterpiece. a fucking masterpiece is what it is

#kissing writers on the mouth mwah mwah #i guarantee you the things you write will make at least one person so genuinely happy #u don’t understand that 20k friends to lovers fic u wrote filmed me with JOY with HAPPINESS i felt free #the angst fic made me ugly cry and it was the most beautiful kind of pain because your writing was so powerful that for a moment it was rea #i had a shit day and your self indulgent little throwaway fluffy oneshot made me smile and i felt a little better about the world #writers i FUCKING LOVE YOU #i LOVE YOU and i LOVE WHAT YOU CREATE #ao3 #fanfic #fanfic things #fandom things #fanfic writer appreciation #writeblr #writers #writing #fanfiction #writers on tumblr

[wildflowercryptid]

thinking about kieran again... particularly about how i feel like he struggles with a weak sense of self and how him identifying so heavily with ogrepon, (or at least the version of ogrepon he originally knew,) probably helped him stabilize how he saw himself, only to have something he considered so core to his identity essentially ripped away from him. not only that, it was by someone he seemingly wanted to trust and open up to, (which i doubt he does very often.)

i definitely think that the way he's handling things is far from healthy, but i can get why he'd have such an intense reaction to losing something that was so important to him and basically being betrayed by someone he wanted to consider a friend.

#i'm saying this as someone who has also struggled my sense of self and used to use characters to help feel more of a person #basically what i'm is that kieran is autistic-coded as hell and i see bits of myself in him #they aren't the prettiest parts but being a teenager with undiagnosed mental illnesses was never meant to be beautiful #also kieran's autonomy constantly being undermined by the ppl around him is a big fuckin mood #oh and the toxic chain possession theories are making me go 🤔 #i can't wait to see how things turn out for him... #at the end of the day i just hope things end well and that florian & kieran can be friends again... #ideally they'd still have a friendly rivalry that helps both of them improve for the better (like may & wally) #pokemon #pkmn scarvio #rival kieran #chara : kieran hinoki #<- kiddo's got an mjverse surname now 😏 #(it's from the japanese cypress who's wood is used to create masks for noh theatre performances) #mj.txt #scarvio spoilers #sv dlc spoilers

[handweavers]

as a kid i didn't know that maaji and babaji aren't the words for grandmother and grandfather in punjabi, they mean mother and father but everyone in my family regardless of age or genetic distance calls them maaji and babaji, they are/were the matriarch and patriarch of the family extended to the entire clan, like even now long after both are gone they are maaji and babaji no one else is we all call our parents other names because those names belong to Them.. paintings of them hanging in the house, their belongings still kept in the home, the whole house a sort of informal shrine to them and their legacy (whatever that means) with the knowledge that they were complicated people but so deeply loved that even 10-30 years on no one can fill their shoes. it's so fascinating, i want to dissect us all

#larger than life pillars of memory #in my family the idea of calling anyone else maaji or babaji feels like a presumption of or declaration of power its so crazy #no one will go there. those names are theirs #my family doesnt let anything go especially grief it is held onto for decades... centuries... #a trait i inherited for better or worse #self mythologizing... creating overarching narratives of self importance.... a deep flaw we all share

[crazy-as-a-jaybird]

pole of shame 🥲

@ticklishsquish thanx for inspiring me meanie /lh

context under the cut

sfw interaction only pls

#too bad i was too busy avoiding arrows to take references i'm not extra good with backgrounds #how did i come to monster-hunting and robbing for fun i've always considered myself such a peaceful player #well you know i'm a corvid after all half a cutie half a slaughterer #tickle community #tickle stuff #tickling #sfw tickle community #sfw tickles #tickle art #my art #minesona #minecraft tickling #minecraft self insert #my pals #better not hang me upside down though it creates a harmful amount of blood pressure on smart jay heads 🥺

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

many times actually want use “severe autism” instead of “high support need autism” (HSN) because more accurate (since support need don’t describe autism symptom severity, at least not *only* but include many more) but use HSN instead because use severe mean many people automatic no listen and am tired have put in little disclaimer explain why am use severe autism and am tired people come attack….

sigh

#personal note: yes am high support (insert paragraph explain) but when talk about self autism do prefer severity & levels better but… #currently don’t have one because ~wait for updated assessment~ and when can actually get is still mystery #so create very awkward situation…. when want describe autism symptom specific #🍞.txt

[forestofsprites]

love when shows 'acquiesce' to their audience by providing canon queer side characters that will live for exactly 3 episodes and get character exploration akin to that of a piece of cardboard. dude, bisexuality 101 and gender identity 401 personified are stood behind you. your show has provided the characters. they've been here all along. you wrote them a decade ago. they're right there. i can see them. they're delicately woven into a complex narrative. baby talk to me

#dude it is okay if ur self insert turns out to be bisexual it's fine we'll get through it #'but i didn't write them that way' oh but my love.... you did. you really really did #thoughts #all this to say that cishets are soo convinced that those they write must likewise fit into their worldview or binaries #they will create the same complex understandings of gender and sexuality that exist in the world within their work #without realizing #fans will point and say- hey! that's a narrative! that's an allegory! that's me! that's us! because it IS #but the writer refutes the assertion. refutes the idea that such notions could exist naturally in the narrative #so they gift a one dimensional queer character. made as THEY see queer people #that doesn't engage with the same principles as their pre-existing characters #i could explain this better

[labyrynth]

ok so your first problem was assuming mdzs is a story where Good People are Rewarded and Bad People are Punished.

your second problem was assuming that MXTX—who goes out of her way to showcase unresolved, tragic, undeserved endings in all of her works—would ever write a story with such a shallow notion of “deserving.”

the only reason wangxian makes it out unscathed is because they’re literally the protagonists. authorial intent and plot armor ensure their happy ending. that’s it.

#mdzs talk #moi #i mean it also helps that neither wwx nor lwj give a rats ass about the rest of the cultivation world #wwx had already fucked off and lwj was basically doing that too #that man has never given a single shit about politics and maintaining good relationships #like what does it say about you if even jiang cheng is a better politician than you. #mister ‘don’t talk to me before i’ve had my coffee. or after. just don’t fucking talk to me.’ #but yeah wangxian is like oh we helped to create a massive power vacuum and destabilized the entire cultivation world? #ahaha no way!🤪 hey actually can this wait? my husband and i wanna go fuck in the bushes 🥰 #like. lwj that’s YOUR brother that just lost his most significant emotional support of the last decade. #wwx that’s YOUR pseudo nephew whose parental figure you just got killed. #that’s YOUR pseudo nephew who now has to become sect leader at like 15. #but nah they wanna go bang on the side of the road #god forbid they try to clean up some of the gigantic mess they helped to make #and nobody try to argue ‘well but jgy!!’ buh buh buh nothing. jgy cleaned up after himself. #neither wwx nor lwj had ANY personal stake in seeing jgy dead. lwj SHOULD have had a personal stake in keeping him alive actually. #i still think it’s super shitty and hypocritical of lwj to defend wwx so strongly and yet try so hard to condemn jgy in PRIVATE #both wwx and lwj really showed their asses at guanyin ngl. obviously huaisang did too. #like yeah it’s noble and righteous or whatever but like. righteousness was not why lwj defended wwx before. #wangxian stans being self-righteous and hypocritical? with classist double standards? with black and white mentality? #wow! who would have ever guessed?

[averlym]

litany of the martyrs (click for better resolution!)

#at some point i wanted to make an illustration for each character but in retrospect maybe each is multiple song-coded.. #drew the sketch for a quincy thing after a chat with a mutual reminded me this song existed dfsghjkl and then spent weeks rendering this #quincy cynthius martin #adamandi #i'm finally done with this! the saints especially were joys to paint and the halo a menace.... this has been the most ambitious one so far. #but it also took quite long because i only worked on it <engages with quincy> when mentally okay to deal with the themes. i'm not religious #but i do identify with the irrational(?ish) guilt + family legacy + academic achievement + disregard for self. also more complex thoughts #about love [but depsite quincent being a large part of quincy's character this piece deals with mostly the Rest of it. so another time..] #anyways! in the original sketch- the saints had heads bent towards quincy so the halo spikes pointed at him. but this worked better! halos #of the saints implying/creating one for quincy was a concept from the start though. in the show they don't touch him directly here but #differences in mediums i think- i don't have time in an image to craft a narrative so everything has to be happening. also artistic liberty #misc inspiration for this includes stained glass windows. i might have maybe misinterpreted the saint costume but i think i logic-ed it out #as the cloth part following a nun's habit w the hood. and then halo above. the material is also more transparent originally but i had. um. #too much fun painting fabric folds.. if you look closely you can see the basis of faces though behind the cloth; but only the vague shapes #because smth obscurity + inhumanness// cassian is the only one i gave a mouth though. that stems from melliot's post about the saints and #st cassian as spokesperson (<- did research teehee!) that's also how i found out which costume = which saint. speaking of which. #left to right: 'st lucy take my hand' // 'st lawrence give me strength' (presses quincy forward; but hand on shoulder connotates guidance) #/'st cassian help me smile' (quincy's mouth is btwn a grimace and a smile; tilts up at side. also no direct touch bc added insidiousness.) #//'st jude [...] i hope your causes burn' (jude's hand is in two places to show movement- nearing the flame and then snatching back; burnt) #other notes: at the midst of the flame the core is shaped like a human heart /the saints and their wax are all melting like the candle for #fun visual effect and also this way they are even less tangible <real>. perks of painting as a medium i guess. // also insp from icarus? #wax and burning imagery; looking at the halo and rays as parallel to sun that burns. too close to the sun; melting; hurting; hurtling // #candles at bottom are a nod to the frankly gorgeous set// also the entire composition kind of stems from the lyric <what use is a candle if #both ends aren't burning>; the two sides between the concepts of catholic guilt and academic perfection that spur quincy #the halo above (saints and guilt; litanyofthemartyrs) and the 'halo' below (academic papers; insp from choreo for perfect at school) #the papers were originally supposed to be more glowy. but i like the idea of it now being a reflection of how quincy's priorities shift #also of note is that <candle> in centre = quincy; w burning candle + aforementioned heart in flame -> most human; idea of love + passion #last thoughts: kneeling + hands close tgt = prayer //wax dripping onto the red As make an effect that looks like blood. because i like #hiding that within the adamandi pieces :OO continuity!! // i've run out of tags but yeah! had fun with this one! every so often i go a #little insane in making art and the final result astounds even me. ngl i'm quite proud of this one. pretty colours <3333

[yuri-for-businesswomen]

i need to consume something or my thoughts consume me

#all my therapist telling me she wont treat me until i go sober taught me is to lie to the therapist #and it made me question therapy altogether but all my friends swear by it #but now i already told everyone im going sober so i fucked myself 😑 #well i should learn how to be sober during the week so i can get back into fitness #i have to call the drug counsellor she referred me to and see what she says #something has to change for sure… but im starting to think some people just arent meant to be fully sober #a lot of people dont see through or dont care about the bullshit but i do #and the bullshit just doesnt stop #i just need to be on top of that and have more self discipline and thats what i need to learn #how to not give into my impulses… and then i can do recreational substance use or something instead of abusing them #personal #but at the end of the day its about emotional regulation and self discipline and creating a better life for myself #because when its not substances then its the tv or food or shopping like the general issue is my lack of impulse control #so i dont really see how sobriety will solve all that it will just make me wish i had substances to ease my mind

[trashcanwithsprinkles]

One of my ocs has been quietly vibing with your star foxes lore for a while, if we’re allowed to yoink lore headcanons I finally have an explanation for why he’s so funky. (Fox boy of ambiguous origin)

you've no idea how happy this ask makes me

#i have a couple of genshin ocs that i use for like............. thinking up fics if that makes any sense #daydreaming is probably a better descriptor but that sounds so embarrassing LMAO #like they're not genshinsonas or self-inserts they're like #npcs that i made up and that i put in little adventures and scenarios #mostly to explore other characters #like creating a fake genshin char (that's not a self-insert) and shipping them with an existing char to explore a different dynamic for the #like wondering what would it be like if like... diluc for example was shipped with a specific personality. but we don't have that in-game #so i just make up an npc to see how the dynamic would play out #i even have them designed and everything lmk if anyone wants to see that #anyway #so happy to learn there's a foxboy of ambiguous origin in the Expanded Genshin Fanroster #that takes lorebits from one of my fics lmao #thank you <3 <3 <3 <3 #ily and i probably love your foxboy as well

[hinamie]

me at any given point in time: i need to get better at art i need to get better at art i need to

#to b clear this isn't a grasp for validation or me thinking that i'm bad at art im not that self-deprecating #it's more like . th Drive . #there are so many styles i want to emulate so many ideas i don't think i can do justice #never enough it's never enough and sometimes it feels motivating other times it's soul crushing #that post where it's like 'u hate ur art because it looks like u made it' lives in my head #but at the same time i create with the hopes that i can prove it wrong #i want to make things i don't hate so i need to get better #hina.txt

[theprinceandthewitch]

TBH If you were to go back in time and tell me TOH was going to be the show that completely turns me off from consuming and analyzing stories, I would have called you crazy.

#I'm definitely in my ''I will not consume any piece of media unless it's from a person who can create good conflict and puts effort #into their storytelling instead of making their weird little self-indulgent fanfic shows'' #I honestly wouldn't be so annoyed if the fanbase was tolerable - but it isn't #because the pick me bisexuals keep letting the lgbtq+ biphobes run rampant instead of telling them to fuck off #see the thing is most of these clowns rlly do think the show would be better if Luz was a lesbian #but they won't overtly say it - what they'll do is make shit up abt Luz and Hunter and their dynamic #or they'll say some crazy stuff like: it's good Luz didn't end up with a boy to subvert expectations... as if bisexual media #needs to subvert those expectations CREATED BY STRAIGHT PEOPLE. As if straight people can relate to bisexual people... #Right because the bisexual girl getting with the bisexual boy is totally relatable and appealing to straight people... this is sarcasm btw