#body neutrality i love you !!

[icaruspendragon]

something the women in my family are absolutely flabbergasted by every time it comes up is the fact that i don’t own a scale.

“how do you know how much you weigh??” they cry.

“i don’t.” i simply respond.

“you look thinner, have you lost weight?” they ask at christmas.

“i dunno.” i say as i check on the turkey.

“you look bigger, have you gained weight?” they probe, as if my weight rests on their shoulders.

“i’m not sure, but it’s fine if i have.” i respond with a casualness they cannot comprehend.

“don’t you want to know if you’ve lost or gained?” they inquire over cups of coffee and a plate of untouched cookies.

“i do.” i take a sip. “which is why i don’t need to know.”

“we don’t understand.” they say.

“i’ll drive myself mad if i know. it’s been a question i’ve been looking for the answer to since i was in the seventh grade and my weight was the topic of conversation for the first time; the stretch marks on my calves puberty brought being questioned and condemned. and so i started weighing myself once a day. then twice a day. i gained weight as i grew and was told to stop. i got depressed when i was 16 and the weight i gained was more concerning than the scars on my thighs. the critiques turned to compliments during my first year of college when i’d started skipping meals and my body had to feed itself because i wouldn’t. everyday i stepped on the scale and smiled as i watched that number get smaller and smaller. hunger felt like victory. i started doing drugs that took away my appetite and then my strength. and started feeling guilt when my stomach felt full. and suddenly every time i looked in the mirror i hated what i saw. the more weight i lost, the better i was supposed to feel. each remark on another part of my body lost felt like a slap to the face. i was told i looked good but i knew i wasn’t good enough. and so i tried harder. and then i started to get dizzy when i stood. and i ignored it like i’d learned to ignore my hunger. and then one day at work i dropped like the weight that was never enough after i bending at the waist to grab a milk cap from the floor. and when the darkness faded, i was surrounded by panic as an ambulance was called. and then i was tested and prodded and poked because they thought something was wrong with my heart. and the problem persisted but they never found out why. but i’d known all along. and then i left home and its scale behind. and moved into a new home that was mine. so i bought plates and sheets and art for the walls. but i didn’t buy a scale. then every time i walked down an aisle i’d see the them and pause. and i’d think about the hunger i now kept at bay. and even though i didn’t know how much i weighed, i didn’t notice my body had changed. and i’d think about how i hadn’t been dizzy for months. and how i hadn’t fainted for longer. and then i’d keep on walking. and now most days i like how i look.”

“but don’t you want to be skinny?” comes their quiet response.

“i want to be myself in whatever body i have.”

they stare in disbelief. so i shrug my shoulders, and grab a cookie. and i smile at them as i swallow the first bite.

#trigger warning ed #tw disordered eating #body neutrality i love you !! #the women in my family cannot comprehend that i don’t diet anymore #and that i just eat what i want #and that im okay with the unknown #bc my body tried its hardest to be kind to me #even when i tried my hardest to be unkind to it #and now it’s time to pay it back #throw out your scales!! they’re bad for your mental health!!

[saturdaysky]

a little divine appreciation

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God Gale is endgame for Mayhew, and Mayhew couldn't be more pleased 😌

their mutual wizard disease brought them to some pretty low lows, but hey, ignore the tragedy, they're gods now! first order of business is a little worshiping at the altar 😏

Here's the sketch, which I also like:

Got majorly inspired by these lovely photos, one of which I used as a pose reference.

#mayhew #will have a different godly form once i settle on some details. and finish writing the fic about this #but may i just say i adore god gale? he's the worst version of himself and he'll never see it and i love that for him #plus i really love gods of volatile neutral traits like ambition that could amplify good and bad acts by turn #mayhew's portfolio is similar - curiosity. no way that could go wrong when paired with ambition! they're the questionable judgement duo #but mayhew's got an enormous heart so on the whole more good is put into the world than bad. ...usually. #can't take the wizard out of a wizard #anyway hi hello to all the god gale fans out there. there will be more fanart for sure #also can you tell I adore drawing body hair? i hope you can #my art #gale dekarios #gale of waterdeep #bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #gale x tav #gnome tav #gnomeposting #galehew

[luminarai]

& for a moment, when I’m dancing, I am free // prints, stickers, etc

made for darling @deresbabyh ♥

#my art #original art #ink art #artists on tumblr #dancing #body posititivity #body neutrality #joy #self love #friendship #wlw #inspired by this collection of photos of fat and queer people dancing that I found on ig somewhere #NOT inspired by matisse thank you v much #title by florence and the machine

[uncanny-tranny]

Shoutout to all the other adults who have acne or any other condition of the skin that you are expected to outgrow or "just deal with."

Adulthood isn't this magical time where everything just disappears, and the reality is that these skin conditions are largely genetic. It isn't your fault (nor your skin's fault) that you are an adult with different skin than other people. In fact, it's neutral (and even, dare I say, good!).

#positivity #body positivity #acne positivity #i have skin redness and acne still and it actually is a neutral thing at worst :3 #in fact it makes me feel better because it gives me the (false) notion that i am genetically more like him than anybody else :) #he has the same unique features i do :) #and it's helped me appreciate body moles and non-ski slope noses and boney features #as much as people like to pretend that body image is shallow (it can be) it's still not a moral failure to be insecure #we live in a society after all and it's inevitable that society's messaging can become like a malevolent growth in your brain #it's okay if you have a hard time with the reality that your features are neutral at WORST. it's hard to swallow that pill sometimes #but no matter what just know that you are lovable and you are loved. as you are too #do what you want forever dear reader #oh hey the 'him' that the tags didn't include is my dad! not some Mystery Guy lmaooo

[lylahammar]

I think the important thing about body neutrality and body positivity existing side by side is that body positivity is a big hurdle for people who are just starting to work on learning to love their bodies. When someone's at their lowest point, it's better to say "aim for just fine," and once they reach that level of neutrality where they can appreciate the functional ways their body is serving them, it's a lot more feasible to make the jump to seeing the visual beauty of it.

#just a random thought #I've had a lot of people in my life ask how to get started on learning to love themselves and their bodies #and this is always the advice I give them #just aim for being okay with your body not good not bad just fine #appreciate what your body is able to do for you #and what it's able to survive and function with #and then you'll naturally start to build a relationship there #it's kinda like becoming friends with someone before you jump to dating #you gotta get to know em first if you want it to be a serious relationship that you build over time #lyla's talking again #fat liberation #body positivity #body neutrality

[enbycrip]

Yup.

Don’t be shitty about physical features, and please be *very* careful when relating these to emotional and personal characteristics - I get these can be really communicative and powerful, esp relating to things like gender euphoria, but they do that because they relate to cultural concepts about patriarchy etc that can really easily trip other people’s bad places.

And yes. All dicks are perfectly good dicks. All tits are perfectly good tits. That doesn’t mean you can’t mod them or get rid of them if you want - personally I’d love to get rid of my tits, but that’s very unlikely ever to happen, so I do my best to live with them and try to appreciate them objectively. They’re a body part and they’re fine. Body neutrality is a wonderful thing.

#gender #body parts #body neutrality #body dysphoria #bodies are fine #you don’t need to love the one you’ve got to be okay with it #seriously body positivity when you’re chronically ill and disabled is more than I at least can handle currently #so body neutrality has been a fucking great tool for not scratching my skin off when it intersects with gender dysphoria

[mitamicah]

Not me brainstorming ideas for my post op tattoo (context) like I'd contact the tattoo artist tomorrow and not in a 1,5 year or more

This was where my inspiration took me today I guess :'D

#bold of me going for colour in most of these since none of my other things have colour x'D #after all this is only what ideas I have rn :'D #as mentioned I don't think I'll be able to get a chest tattoo for at least one year and a half #in half a year I've been promised to start appointments with a therapist again about the surgery #then if I'm lucky I'll get approved #and then there's a waitlist on at least a year last I heard #and then I need to heal a bit first #so when we arrive at that point in time who knows if I've better ideas #or if I've changed my mind #I hope to have käärijä in my life for years to come still #or at least feel the same sort of gratitude for him showing me how to love my body and/or feel neutral about it when dysphoria hits #look at me being chatty in the tags yet again #also - these are of course only concepts #I will probably have send the reference picture as well to the tattoo artist if I actually went to find one to do these tomorrow x'D #I hope you like them :3 #I really enjoy number 2 (top left) and 3 (mid) #jere pöyhönen #käärijä #cha cha cha #mine #my own art

[sketchncanto]

No more happily reunited Bruno. I want sad, lonely, isolated Bruno. ANGST ANGST ANGST!!! JK, love your work.

Y’know what? Y’all want angst?— FINE

#LOL I was being dramatic #these were really fun to do though #I’ve been pretty down lately so i figured now would be the best time to draw some angst lol #to answer that second question #yes i love angst but i don’t draw it that often unless im really in the mood to #it’s hard for me to draw grief and sorrow on a normal/neutral day #i have to be a little sad and angsty myself to really feel it y’know? #so #here’s the result! #im not an evil bruno stan #but im definitely an angsty bruno stan 🤌🏼 #i can’t see a universe where he’s evil #the source material is too pure LMAO have you seen his EYES #there’s not a single evil bone in that mans little string bean body #ask #my encanto fanart

[tundrakatiebean]

I had another modeling session today which was good. I legitimately enjoy doing this. I’m basically getting paid to meditate in the weird positions I sit in anyway and I don’t have to wear uncomfortable clothes because I’m naked.

Truly another one of those “if it paid a proper living wage you could find someone who really wanted to do it” situations

The teacher I worked with today was really cool and sounds like he’s going to fight the system directly to get more hours for me. So that’s nice. I dunno it’s just nice to be around art all the time. It makes me really happy to just sit like a little gremlin and listen to twelve people scratch charcoal on paper.

#I’m going again for the same class next Monday #I’ll take photos of the drawings they put up in the hall this time #I’m the only model they have atm so the entire drawing hallway #is just me. naked. #it’s kind of weird but kind of nice #good for body neutrality I think #or maybe even body positivity #me being fat makes cool shapes and shadows #anyway just needed a ramble #ok bye I love you #katie is rambling 2k23

[esspring]

Honestly, excluding looking in the mirror, I don't really think I can describe anyone I've ever seen as ugly, and that wouldn't change if I saw you.

#If you're in recovery I would recommend not looking at the reblogs since sometimes pr0 accounts reblog it #and if you found this from a pr0 blog just know that the disorder is not your friend and is not the key to happiness #and if you need help getting out of the disorder you can talk to people about it (irl and on here) #and if you really feel there is no one you can reach out to me #ed recovery #pro recovery #ana recovery #recovery #anorexia recovery #body posititivity #positivity #body positive #self healing #self care #self love #self reflection #self awareness #intuitive eating #body neutrality

[xhanisai]

fuck.

#delete later #just stumbled across the umpteenth image of a dead Palestinian child on my dash on twitter #and it was so graphic and gory and for a split second #her body was replaced with my little brother's in my mind #how can you look at that and then claim that Israel is justified in the atrocities they're committing???? #how can you claim to be neutral or be on Israel's side as they're blowing out the brains of all these innocent people???? #how can the UN and the governments worldwide look at this and say this is okay #???? #this has been happening to palestine for DECADES and DECADES #i am trying my best to both spread awareness and not spiral downwards mentally #because i have the privilege to sleep soundly in my bed and not see my own loved ones be constantly bombed and massacred for existing #if palestine isn't freed and wiped out permanently then there will never be justice in this world

[scourge-by-name]

Tried the Harvestella demo the other day and at first I was like "ehhh idk, seems alright I guess" and then Aria got introduced and I was like. oh. I will protect her with my life

oh and the doctor ?

well, not my type but she seems... fond.. of the mc :)

#harvestella #maybe tumblr has infected me #but #yuri everywhere you look #also I loved asking Dianthus if we could keep the horse as if they're our dad #I am not likely to buy the game because uhhh sixty bucks lol #if it's on pc I might pirate it who knows #cause the farming was fun enough and the story was surprisingly engaging #oh and yea I was playing the fem mc #I tried the nonbinary option and it legit still made you choose between a fem or masculine look and I was like #wow ok then #I get that nonbinary ppl can look fem or masc #but this is a vibeo game dude let me have my neutral body options too

[kinokoshoujoart]

note: “69” is the word “rock” written in goroawase (substitution of letters for homophonic numbers) so it’s not uncommon to see him called 69 by jp users…

“the young lady” = lumina. (the “he” saying interesting things is rock. the other “he” is an insertion…)

taelwoo = they wrote teilou and this got auto translated funny

i wanted to spotlight these posts by twitter user wl_mihaya who has consistently neat writings regarding wonderful life’s characters

somehow i read this as Wada and Matsuyama showed the writing team the reference sheet again like “Look at this irredeemable debauchee. This spoilt summer child, this pampered prodigal prince who has tasted not the bitterness of life. This libertine, this chaud lapin. Coasting on the coattails of his well-to-do family in his obnoxiously baggy clothes. Disgusting. Good-for-nothing worthless son. Into the Romance Scenarios with him.”

AnWL’s NPC to tumblrsexyman conversion pipeline scenario writing department: “ok got it boss🫡(ohhhhhh what a tragic little meow meow 🥺 are you guys even seeing this. isn’t he just the most heartachingly aware of how pathetic he is yet utterly determined to carry on this pretense of confidence. let’s secretly make him wet and pathetic and impossibly stupid and so very Adopted)”

#queue tea pie #this is canon to me now #this would genuinely explain everything about his character change between awl and anwl #it’s bizarre to remember that rock being stupid was added for anwl #in awl he was just shallow but anwl transformed him into the dumbass king we know and love #i’m always nervous every time i translate stuff myself because. idk what if i inject bias. what if someone asks why it isn’t exactly #i especially don’t want to inject bias into someone’s twitter post so instead i just . leave the machine translation alone because #in my head that’s the Neutral choice #it’s still so incredible to me that this characters name accidentally perfectly fit him #SOMEONE at marvelous decided to include a number of extremely unnecessary physical facts about rock so. it feels like they still wanted him #i’m still mad that i went snooping in the dialogue files hoping for answers about his past and instead found out how much the writers #pondered his sweaty hairless surfer twink body and needed all of it to be canon information #i will NOT be elaborating at this time you don’t need to be hit with each round of psychic damage rapidfire like i was #trickle down rockonomics. because i care #rock tumbling (sos)

[uncanny-tranny]

I love pre-op and no-op trans people and their bodies, and I wish we could accept and appreciate all types of trans bodies regardless of how they look. Pre-op and no-op trans bodies deserve to be seen. They aren't a curse, they aren't taboo, they aren't a secret. To be in the presence of such a person is the will of the divine

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #we as a society won't progress until we are normal about trans bodies that look different than is expected 👍 #if you can not stand the sight of a woman not tucking for example that says nothing about her. her body is neutral at *worst* #one small thing i wish people represented more was no-op and pre-op trans bodies #saw an artist depict loz link as being a no-op/pre-top surgery person and like. that's fucking awesome #i love when people casually do things like that. like they don't make it a big deal they just... depict it #anyway i want to see more kindness to pre-op/no-op people. i love us i love transsexualism i love love

[iamvecna]

He loves me, I swear 💕 @chaoticneutralhellfire 💍

#my chaotic demonic fiancé #💕 #*Dear Boy Joseph #i love you I love you I love you #body image #k9s.selfie #chaotic neutral best friend

[charliethemanticore]

Hi btw being trans does not automatically grant you supernatural understanding of all esoteric trans knowledge. You actually need to put effort into learning or put effort into keeping quiet about things that don't pertain to your specific experience

#my cishet brother has a better grasp of transgender theory than my transgender bisexual sister because he like... did some basic research #meanwhile my sister confidently told me 'oh youre nit trans youre neutral' the ither week and i almost slapped her #miss maam i am nonbinary and i have been out as some kind of trans for ten years i will politely ask you to shut up ONCE #also in no universe am i 'neutral' but even if i WAS by definition i would not be identifying wholly with my assigned sex #WHICH WOULD MAKE ME TRANSGENDER ANYWAY #apparently shes been portraying herself as the only trans in the family despite the fact that ive BEEN OUT FOR A DECADE #like ms maam when i came out you were TEN YEARS OLD. i taught you what transgender meant! i know for certain i taught you better #i DEFINITELY taught you better than to TELL PEOPLE WHAT THEY ARE #like okay i guess if youre not into research and history and you just wanna exist without having yo be an expert that is fine #but DO NOT present yourself as an expert. you are an expert in YOUR BODY and YOUR EXPERIENCES #like. shes got severe 'no one has ever done it like me. i am the weirdest girl at the party' syndrome #while also having the personality of an edgy piece of toast #i love her but i have. been very angry at her and i cant even say anything about it #like. baby girl you are a very generic case of autism and transgender and bisexuality. youre not the most random unique case #'how could you understand?!' meanwhile im sitting there wildly neuridivergent and transgender and i got eldest daughter/third parent trauma #like hmm yeah i wonder what id know about it. i wonder how i could possibly understand. i wonder how i could possibly offer relevant advice #i give up #shes a fucking edge lord and our mum feeds into it rather than being like 'some of your experiences are actually universal' #anyway rant over #my brother is an angel and i eould die for him. worlds best ally #he has never once misgendered me or made me feel weird about it. unlike some other siblings who demands i punch her if she gets it wrong #like... no? stop being weird about it youre making me more uncomfortable than using the wrong pronoun did #mums like that too 'oh i messed up hit me!' like no #how old are you? #grow up im not gonna hit you back why would hurting you make me feel better? does hurting people make you feel better? #cause that sounds like something you should see a licensed professional about. i dont care if its a therapist or a bartender #just do it away from me #rant #personal #delete later