#asexuality is not a phase

[aromantic-diaries]

The bisexual to aroace pipeline is pretty much having the right idea and coming to the wrong conclusion. Yeah buddy you're not straight and you're also not gay. No not like that though, the other way around

#aro #aromantic #arospec #ace #asexual #acespec #aroace #aspec #my bi phase was important okay. it had to happen

[redysetdare]

I'll never understand why people assume that something being a phase is a bad thing, especially when it comes to identity. because the thing is that our lives are made up of phases - they always have and always will. nothing, and i mean nothing, stay's completely the same forever. it's always changing ever so slightly - we are always changing ever so slightly.

We grew up in phases. We would grow up and maybe we liked robots as a kid but then as we grew up we instead decided dinosaurs were cooler - you didn't see people getting up in arms about how a kid liking something was just a phase and why that made their experience with that interest invalid.

We grow up choosing random jobs that we think would be cool as a kid but then as we get older we tend to choose something completely different - no one ever shut down those dream jobs for kids because it's understood that changing your mind isn't a bad thing. It's not bad to say "i want to be an astronaut" and then change that later. No one makes a big deal about "how do you know you actually want to be an astronaut, though?" because that's seen as a silly question to be asking.

it shouldn't be any different for identity. "How do you know you're aromantic?" how do you know you're straight? how do you know you won't change your mind later and realize something about yourself as you grow as a person?

sure, i'm aroace now. That may stay the same it may not. I'm a human being who grows and changes just like you are. Just like we all are. that's the whole point, isn't it? to grow and change?

So what if being aro or ace is a phase. The experience isn't any less valid. it still helped build me as a person. my life was richer because of it, even if it was temporary. I'd rather grow as a person and be happy than feel miserable because I forced myself into stagnation.

#text #marriage can also be a phase. attraction is a phase #you have probably had multiple partners in your life time. they all count as phases in your life too #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #only tagging these becuz its what i mostly see with this argument #anyone can reblog tho if this fits u

[spacebubblehomebase]

📻 Drawing in mostly my style is such a relief, I tell you. Honestly, I had no intention of shipping Alastor with anyone and I still sorta don't. If not for all of the adorable fanarts I kept bumping into, I wouldn't have even considered this. But now that I see it, "Queerplatonic Radioapple" would be SO funny. XD On a side note, Charlie may just be the safest kid in hell. Or endangered. Depending on how you see it. LOL. 🍎 -Bubbly💙

#spacebubblearts #my art #fanart #hazbin hotel #radioapple #doodles #lucifer morningstar #alastor #charlie morningstar #alastor x lucifer #lucifer x alastor #vivziepop #queerplatonic #asexual ship #cursed cat alastor #fallen angel #radio demon #emo phase charlie #baby charlie #these two were an unexpected but welcome pair for me #I'd like to clarify that I want them to get together the way I explained it to my little brother #together not as in kissing and what not but in the same room with tension #often murderous but it's still tension XD #representation #but I'm fine with people viewing otherwise. I'm not the internet police nor am I your mom. #please feel free to take this as you like! #accidental co-parenting rivals #I hope they get along like a house on fire ^v^ #That is they literally almost set the hotel on fire 0v0 but only stopped for Charlie's sake #they're such dads and I LOVE it. Surprise found family fluff is the BEST!!!

[mysticfemme]

recently I've been thinking about getting all dolled up and putting on my favourite outfit and going out to dinner with my butch, giving them little teases of the lingerie I'm wearing underneath every so often. we'd get home and they'd drag me up the stairs, dragging me over to the bed and sitting me down. hard packing, they'd pull out their dick and grab the back of my hair, messing up my makeup with gentle slaps, and smudging my lipstick with the head of their dick.

I'd suck them off until I'd left a red ring at the base of their cock, and mascara was smudged across my cheeks. they'd pull out and gently wipe away the makeup stains before pulling me up and turning me around, pushing my upper body onto the bed. after pushing my skirt up, their hand would drift up my inner thigh, the other gripping my hip.

I'd make sure to not wear underwear but not tell them, much to their surprise when their gaze falls to my trembling thighs and already dripping folds. knowing that they're smirking at this, revelling in how worked up I am already simply from sucking them off. they'd easily slip one finger in, feeling me clenching around them, already desperate for more.

needing to see my face, they'd pull out and flip me over, kissing me hard and fast at first and then slowing, melting into it. for the next few hours I'd be breathless and tear-streaked from being edged, begging and crying for any sort of relief but not knowing when or if my butch would decide to grant me that.

#oop okay super long post im not very good at these so i apologise but im just obsessed with this fantasy rn #theyre gonna see this later and be like O.O #ily honey <3 #living out my fantasies on tumblr because I'm going through a scared of sex phase cause of asexuality and bad things #wish i could give my gf something like this #so instead i wrote it because i knew he'd like it #mysticfemme's post #long post #butchxfemme #butch #femme

[justgotpunched]

What do you mean, you didnt do performative hypersexuality as a teen because of feelings of societal obligation and everyone else was having crushes and first kisses and wanting things like that so you felt you also had to, which ended with situations that made you so uncomfortable, but you accepted it and swallowed down the uneasiness because it was supposed to be the best thing ever

Yeah anyway my aroace experience send tweet and how to explain that to my friends

#aroace #ace #aro #asexuality #asexual #i talked with my friend and made a joke abt my hoe phase

[thatineffablewitch]

Reminder that I need to hear so hopefully other aros benefit too:

You can be aro and still enjoy consuming romantic content. You can be aromantic and still get immense joy from shipping characters. You can be aromatic and maybe want a relationship with romantic elements one day, or unsure exactly what you want, with no deep desire to date and figure it out immediately. It is a spectrum of little to no romantic attraction, and we are valid regardless of where we fall on that spectrum. You are not fake or a poser, you are just a human being using language to better understand and describe your experience. If aromantic is a term that resonates for you, that’s enough. You are valid.

#Read Ace Dad Advice’s new book I Am Ace today #Particularly the chapter on micro aggressions and dating while asexual #Even though it’s a book on asexuality #I realized a lot of the micro aggressions are the same #And they’re words I’ve been telling myself about being aro #“It’s just a phase” #“You’ll meet the right person” #“Maybe it’s just trauma” #Maybe I’ve been valid all along and every doubt I’ve repeatedly told myself is just my own internalized arophobia making me feel like shit #No more #fuck that #i am valid #aromantics are valid #I love being aromantic #And I love myself #Suck on that arophobia #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aro #aroace #aroace community #aromantic positivity #aromantic pride #aromantic spectrum #aromantic asexual #aspec #arophobia #Arophobia can piss right off #my post

[ninacarstairss]

isaac crying at tara’s party hurt me in so many different ways. he’s at this party full of people who are kissing or flirting, and there’s james who’s been making him laugh and feel good but then he kisses him and it feels all kind of wrong. it doesn’t feel like what he reads in his books. it doesn’t feel like butterflies and sparks, it feels like alarms going off and moths in your stomach. and it kills him because why doesn’t it work?? what is wrong with him? why can’t he feel what he reads in his books?? why does it seem so easy for everyone else?? and so he starts to cry because it’s all hitting him. he’s been immersed in romance his whole life, and now he realizes he can’t have it. he can’t feel it. i felt all his pain, all the loss that he felt because of whatever society made him believe he was losing. i felt the romance dream slip away as he cried. but then he gets to see the lambert piece and it looks like something he can recognize himself into. he gets to talk to someone who is aromantic and asexual and who has also struggled at first, but realized that romantic love isn’t everything that makes life worth living as the world always makes it out to be. and something clicks in isaac as he hears those two words. something that finally fits. and seeing the leaves appear around him, only him, felt like happiness. it felt like hope

#i am still not over the fact that i’ve heard the word aromantic on tv #alice thank you so much for giving us isaac’s storyline #there’s hardly any representation on tv and whatever we have is usually made to be a phase to outgrow or a problem to be fixed #i really needed this #healthy aro ace rep #as much as that scene where he cries hurts me all the damn time #heartstopper #heartstopper spoilers #heartstopper season 2 #heartstopper tv #isaac henderson #alice oseman #asexual #aromantic #aro ace

[coffiicorgii]

Happy ace awareness week!! :D have some ace (and aro) headcanons for some of my favorite Star Wars characters!

#art #my art #digital art #digital illustration #star wars jango fett #Jango fett #the mandalorian #mandalorian #commander Cody #star wars commander cody #din djarin #grogu #asexual #aromantic #aroace #star wars the clone wars #I HAVE MORE ACE HEADCANONS BTW #but if I drew all of them I’d actually die lol #I might do a few more tho :0c like Rex and Boba! #phase 2 helmets are a NIGHTMARE #can you tell it’s my first time drawing cody 😭

[paronymph]

they should create a new word for yearning specifically about aros and/or aces yearning because there is nothing that exists that comes close to expressing what we feel.

#aromantic #asexual #aromantic asexual #aroace #it's just. #i love my identity and all #but it's hard to survive in this allo world #without wanting and yearning something that apparently everyone else gets to feel #sometimes you just want to vent about the unfairness but all you can do is blog on tumblr dot com #romantic love sounds so special and magical and im aware it's probably not like that #but even the swooping crushes and honeymoon phases just sound unreal to me and i wish it wasnt like that #yes obv being aro/ace is a spectrum and many of us can feel romantic love #but this is for those like me who just. cant.

[yurious-george]

i dont even strictly identify as aro or ace i just believe in their beliefs

#im also going through a major asexual/aro phase rn #i'll probably start flirtin and fuckin again but thatll be a while

[the-meme-monarch]

would absolutely love if people would stop comparing food to sex. like does nothing else bring you joy

#SORRY ITS JUST GROSS TO ME GZBZBDHDHDHH?? #like can you not just enjoy food bc it tastes good?????? do you have to compare it to sex????????? do you??????? #anyway im asexual and any jackass trying to start shit like 'youre just a prude' will get hit with bricks #bc i am sick to fucking death of allos having no god damn boundaries or just thinking being aro/ace is just a phase kids go through #words from the monarch

[aromantic-diaries]

For a while those uquizzes where you pick a bunch of random famous men and the result says something about your taste in men were like all over my dash and multiple times my result was "you're a lesbian" and I'm not a lesbian but geez I get the message now, I'm not actually into men

#i thought i liked men at the time okay this was still during my bi phase #aro #aromantic #arospec #ace #asexual #acespec #aroace

[little-kib]

My ace ass is always getting my hopes up when a character expresses they don't want / aren't interested in sex, when I know full well it just means they're just sexually repressed and not asexual.

#asexual #asexuality #this is abt ofmd but i dont rlly want to main tag it bcuz i feel ppl will rake this the wrong way #like i know i shouldnt feel seldish for feeling this way but i doooo #and like. immature. #like ik that theres nothing wrong with wanting characters to be ace and/or be in relationships while being ace. #i guess it feels like im taking away from queer relationships by wanting them to be asexual #which is probably a product of asexuality being seen as not lgbt/immature/a phase or something like that

[petra-dot-png]

holy shit they named a day after Ace Copular

#petra's doodles #fanart tag #Ace Copular #gorillaz fanart #gorillaz #gorillaz phase 5 #ace ppg #ace gorillaz #power puff girls #ppg #asexual #ace awareness day #ace #idk lawl

[gently-decaying-flowers]

this is a How to Train Your Dragon appreciation post

#how to train your dragon #toothless #omg toothless #i should’ve known i was asexual #bigggg dragon phase #dragons <3

[xxinksxx]

I was told that I would eventually

-Like make up

-Would want to shave my legs (who wants to shave their legs it’s tedious AF - my parents legit tried to shame me into doing this too when I’d skip it for a while)

-Would eventually want a boyfriend/husband (HA)

-Would eventually want kids (I’ll carve out my uterus with a rusty spoon first)

-That because I’m “female” I gotta sit/act/behave a certain way (I’ll end you. I’m NB aF)

-Would eventually be forced to carry a purse out of necessity (Got fucking yelled at for this too - not just by family. It gives me hella dysphoria.)

-Would change my mind and could not say for sure that I would NEVER want to date

A mix of all this (and a few others) was told to me from the time I was 8 to the time I moved out of my parents house and bought my own. I’m 32 years old now and there ain’t a damn thing on this list that I like or want to do. If this is just a phase then it’s a life long phase and I’m here to ride this bitch till I fucking DIE. Don’t let anyone try to dictate to you how you live your personal life. If you like doing any and all these things coolio homie you do you. Slay it like damn royal. But if someone tries to tell you to live your life according to what they find acceptable tell them to fuck off. (short of being a racist bigot guys come on work with me)

This has been a PSA from your local Agendered Aromantic Asexual. Thanks for tuning in.

#aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aromantic asexual #agendered #no gender #queer gender #lgbtqia #lgbt #lgbt+ #lgbt* #saga #mogai #phase #just a phase #not a phase #fuck off #bering a girl #afab