#actively grieving

[strawburrycowpillowpet]

mob psycho today don’t talk to me

#in mourning #actively grieving #wearing black #mp100 #2k22

[pumpkster]

jumpscare

[ID: A cartoon drawing of Slimecicle and Juanaflippa, she's on Slime's arms as she has a blank stare at his shoulder, her body is loose as Slime has one hand on the top of her head (the other arm holding her by the side of her torso) he has a disturbed / scared / shocked expression, looking up, not at her, his brows furrowed, his pupils are unfocused. There's blood that has the color of a TV glitch, it's coming from Juana's head, and is on Slime's hand, that is holding her close to him. The TV glitch colours are on Juana's pupils as well. Juana has a human appareance, brown hair tied in 2 pigtails, she has glasses, a yellow t-shirt, a red shirt under, she has some dark green shoes, combining with a skirt of the same color, white baggy socks. She has red horns, wings and tail dragon-like. The background is black, a TV-static texture coming from Slime's head. There are 2 lines resembling their heart's pulse, first one is white, it's from Slime, its a quick one, going up and down, agitated, and the second is from Flippa, a pink line with no sign of life. The drawing is a reference to a painting called "Ivan the Terrible and his son Ivan". ]

#did you know that juana is my favorite egg #i had no planned drawing for the qsmp but im an active viewer #i see that guy going apeshit with his history of grieving his daughter and i have to do something #art tag #juanaflippa #slimecicle #off topic but an explanation for her human appareance i think i will apply the shapeshifter hc #the egg dragons once they hatch they mimic their close family (if she goes back to the dragon then she'll be a dragon) #im going insane #thanks to the @kotakill user on twt #THAT EDIT #hello im back to the tags to say this is the first ID i have written so i hope its okay #i will learn to put the descriptions in the ALT feature eventually i hope

[uncanny-tranny]

Hey, gentle recognition for the people who are taking care of themselves in "not aesthetically-pleasing" ways. To the people who have to do things they don't want to because they know they would suffer more if they didn't, to the people who have to brush their teeth with their fingers, to the people who have to use washcloths to bathe, to the people who need to punch pillows or scream into them to express their intense emotions, to anybody ashamed about the way they need to live and take care of themselves.

You are doing the very best you can with the hand you've been dealt. It's not easy, it's not pretty, but it sure as fuck takes so much to do these things. You are doing what is best for yourself, and I, for one, think you deserve to be proud of that. Self-care isn't easy. It isn't pretty, often, but it's something you shouldn't be ashamed of or hide away because it's deemed "grotesque" or "not really self-care (because self-care is pretty and non-threatening to 'normal peoples' senses)"

#mental health #mental health support #self care #like when i was still in school i would end up forcing myself to go because i knew i would feel worse if i hadn't... #...and i don't think people get how difficult that is. it isn't like you choose to be difficult when you struggle #and feeling ashamed about doing these things only makes the situation worse for them (the person struggling) #something i've just been thinking about #i hate this idea that self-care *only* looks like the 'healthy' person's treat days... #...like lighting candles around your bathtub and putting rose petals in the water... #...because that isn't the only aspect to taking care of yourself. sometimes it looks like forcing yourself to bathe and grieving... #...and using rough washcloths because you can't stand the feeling of your own skin and you can't stand how dirty you feel... #...and obviously i'm not saying that mentally ill people doing self-care is the only way it looks... #...but that it really doesn't help us when self-care is almost made into a 'non-threatening' activity that is pleasant and nice-looking #and of course the examples i used in this post were examples and aren't the end-all-be-all

[anachronistic-falsehood]

good god do not go on fucking twt rn, people are looking through past tommy and wilbur clips and speculating that tommy was abused as well (whether he was or not is not important right now, don't speculate about his personal life when he's not even online to correct anyone, for the love of god can we focus on shelby), or pushing phil, tommy, jack, charlie, quackity, etc. to say something asap as if they're not probably processing the fact that one of their very good friends has been an abusive piece of shit this entire time.

ALSO (this is not defending him this is just something i've seen that is pissing me off) i've seen people saying he was a creep for making a lot of friends who are much younger than him, like teenagers. but a) phil has made friends with these same people and no one is getting pissed at him, b) being friends with people who are younger than you (YES including in their teens while you are an adult) is not a morally terrible thing, you can be friends with people who are younger than you and not be a creep, c) CALLING HIM A "CLOSET PEDOPHILE" FOR BEFRIENDING YOUNGER MEN IS JUST TAKING EYES OFF OF SHELBY AND TRYING TO PUT IT ON THE YOUNGER MALE CCS YOU ENJOY. for the love of god stop focusing on the male streamers who haven't even had a chance to say something yet and focus on SUPPORTING SHELBY. THE VICTIM.

#wilbur situation #wilbur soot #domestic abuse #<<for filtering #this is. kind of a fucking rant i'm sorry this entire situation sucks absolute ass and i hate that i supported him for so long #it fucking sucks that one of my favourite ccs is a piece of shit and i am mourning the joy i got from watching his content #you're all allowed to grieve who you thought he was like i'm sure plenty of his friends are doing the same #oddly enough i don't feel as bad about this as i did the forever situation bc i was actively watching forever when his victim came forward #most i was doing with wilbur nowadays was listen to lovejoy whenever it came up on my playlists #but it still fucking sucks and i know there are plenty of people who were actively still fans of his #anyway. i'm tired

[shyshitter]

y’all look at these wips i found🥺🥺

#rip to all art requests i started and never finished #some of these are super old holy cow #from classic spnblr days #i miss her #also i am actively drawing something rn so hopefully ill post something else tonight or tomorrow :) #ive also been very sad and grieving so that might not happen who knows #wouldn’t be the first time ive promised and not delivered #spn #spn art #my art #supernatural art #supernatural #deancas art #dean winchester art #castiel art #destiel art #castiel #dean winchester #deancas #destiel #sam winchester art #rowena macleod #sam winchester #rowena Macleod art #samwena #sam x rowena

[trans-axolotl]

oh fuck this…campus ministry is inviting three IOF soldiers to speak at our university tomorrow. I cannot fucking believe they had the audacity to do this what the actual fuck. protest is already planned bc there is no way in hell we are letting that event happen smoothly but what the fuck.

#personal #three active duty IOF soldiers #there are so many students on campus who are grieving their family members MURDERED by the IOF rn. what the fuck #actually never been more mad at the admin here before #like already hated them for so many reasons #and this is just fucking cruel

[pendragora]

Losing my last irl long-time friendship was not on my 2024 bingo, but I guess now it is

#sometimes you just. cant do anything to make it work. no matter how healthy the friendship is #sometimes people just wont do things for you even if you communicate and you just. give them enough chances to then walk out #frank sinatra singing about love in my ears while i am actively hardbroken and grieving is my idea of coping #anyways :)) #lena exposed

[felucians]

"You're not doing enough for Palestine" is something I've gotten a lot on TikTok, and I've seen a lot to Arab/MENA (specifically Palestinian) creators.

Not all activism is loud, some is silent. Some are regular donations of aid, some are protesting without sharing you were there, some are wearing keffiyeh everyday in solidarity, some are supporting Palestinian local businesses, some are boycotting.

And if you're not doing all of those while being vocal and posting everyday, you're not doing enough either.

#both loud and silent activism are equally important #the best way to help palestine is to do all forms of activism!!!! #PS. I have donated aid - supported local Palestinian businesses - boycotted since October 2023 - and protested.despite not posting every day #even if you can't post everyday - you can do any of the other examples - it's all important & all has an impact #but this is mainly about not harassing Palestinians who are grieving their people and their homes #especially if you're not MENA - you have no right to police Palestinians on their activism about their genocide #free palestine #north african #mena #arab #middle eastern #palestine #stand with palestine #activism

[valoale]

Giving away a six-year-old German Shepherd to a good loving home

She just wiped her entire face into my fresh sheets after eating

#SHE WENT ON A FULL BELLY SLIDE TOO WHILST DOING THAT #it seems washing laundry is fully useless in this household at this point #she’s highly trained and titled and will make a sound active pet #shopping included #just as a disclaimer I’m not actually selling her I love her lmao #but now I wanna lie on the floor and grieve my fresh sheets I JUST CHANGED #dogs man #vee talks #Aino the dog #*shipping included my autocorrect wants to go on a spree it seems

[heyitsphoenixx]

learning Everything about credit by myself bc no one in my family cared enough to teach me or to set me up with anything as a jumping off point even when we were above the poverty line :)

#I love grieving not having an active parent who took the time to teach me how to be an adult #or even set me up w anything. credit or driving or how to study w my brain or get meds I needed #absolutely love being so thoroughly behind in life thank you sm to them 👍

[uncanny-tranny]

Something I realized (which was obvious to me subconsciously) is that... The family that vehemently didn't accept me when I first came out but now do accept me are still the same family that I am most unwilling to be open about things I feel protective over.

I remember that my dad reacted so poorly, not to my coming out, but to my transition specifically that my therapist was the one to ask if I wanted to put it on my file that I wanted nothing to ever be shared with him about my health after I broke down multiple times due to my anxiety that I would never transition. While there are and were protections for me, I was incredibly fearful at the time because I was a minor, and I was so worried that he would have prevented my transition that I couldn't have said for certain what (if any) lengths he would have gone to to prevent that.

He's grown a lot as a person, and made some commendable strides. But he didn't find out from me when I medically transitioned the second I turned eighteen, and I think that's among the things that truly made him realize the scope of the issue.

I'm not here to guilt trip parents, guardians, or other members responsible for the care of the children or teens or young adults in their care.... but this is a cautionary tale. You aren't saving the people in your care when you do this, you simply reinforce an idea that you will never care for them, never want them as they are, would rather them be shoved away.

When you give people reasons to be secretive, they will behave secretively. When you give people reasons to doubt their safety around you, they will become sneaky, defensive, and withdrawn. When you give people reasons to doubt that you value their life, they will believe that you don't care if they live or not.

#queer #lgbt #lgbtq #ally advice #transphobia #transphobia tw #i always feel the need to preface that i have a rebuilt relationship with my dad specifically... #...but that my experiences with them have served to me in many ways to illustrate... well... what NOT to do if you are in his situation #i do still grieve that my relationship with him looks very scarred and that it took a long time to get to where he is now #but i recognize that in many ways this is a product of the world and culture we live in and that he lived in #in a world he grew up gay was used as a slur. would i expect that trans people would be treated better? #and he was responsible for how he reacted but also... it's nuanced as to why he reacted so poorly #and i want people to AVOID being like he did if they EVER want a decent relationship with the other person #i want this to be a cautionary tale and that my ending is unique. not all of us are even ABLE to repair a relationship that was THAT broken #some of us die trying. some of us never get closure. some of us are in active danger because of those reactions #and that's the more common reality i have found. most other queer people have no-contact with families who pulled the shit my dad had... #...and that's - frankly - a good idea in 99.9% of cases. i will never judge someone for the way they go about dealing with that #i'm just emphasizing that i am unique in the sense that i was able to somewhat repair that

[yourfavepookiebear]

Hi, um. I just wanted to say that I currently won't be writing anything for now, because I'm grieving my bird's deaths. I'm sorry.

#self aware twisted wonderland #grieving #sorry #self aware twst #self aware fics #self aware malleus #im sorry #sentient twisted wonderland #yandere malleus #twisted wonderland #birds #grief #sorry but i prioritize real life before online activity #sad #😥

[birues]

Thinking about it (Hydaelyn yeets Hades to the life right after Zodiark dies AU)

#it's about 'fix your damn mess bitchboy' #it's about putting him into situations #it's about him having to face with the atrocities he's commited #it's about him having to face with what he did to tuana #it's about him playing an active part on saving the planet WITH tuana and eventually hyth #it's about him admitting he was wrong #it's about him finally grieving #also angst. a lot of angst #and everyone rightfully bullying the old man #endwalker spoilers #ffxiv

[invidiatechdemo]

"I didn't want to believe it either.

...He's the brother of a good friend."

#khdr #invidia hort art #kh hoder #kh vidar #khdr spoilers #screams cries explodes etc etc. you get the idea #hey did you ever notice that their outfits match by being asymmetrical on the same side #kingdom hearts dark road #something something (insert rambling about how both baldr and vidar (and vala vali) specifically as charas were actively grieving and how #vidar's Big Emote Moments are interacting w/ odin and only starts showing stuff post the 'never coming back' thing in agrabah. #also the. 'didn't think he'd turn on you' line <-implying he fully expected that baldr would strike him down without a thought. bottom text #in general my opinion is people should write more prequel stuff re: vidar and hoder's friendship and upperclassmen stuff in gen #invidiatech art

[ef-1]

I'M BROKEN, BUT I'M TRYING | MAY'23

#im broken but im trying indeed ‼️ #back by unpopular demand etc #ik i havent been as active but mommy is sick again 😍 #so ive just been avoiding social media bc im fatigued and it brings me no joy when im unwell #its unhealthy but everytime i have an ms relapse it feels like grieving. like im mourning the life i could have had if i was healthy #and im v good at snapping out of it but still. it leave a bad taste in its wake lol #anyway i cant really see any colours rn and i was going to be miserable about it but im just going 2 keep taking photos #amd praying they look okay lmao #index: rows #1. relatable fridge/pumps #2. two different dates with two different friends. one who dragged me out of bed and one who fell into bed with me. #apparently friends dont let friends be miserable. i love them alot. #3. flower growing by cigarette / da sky #photography series #oh + this is only partially may and partially chronological

[kazumasdiary]

sometimes i think about ryunosuke on the ship and i just. i feel so bad for him.

because he's trying to do the equivalent of studying for a law school entrance exam in forty days. and his best friend just died. he gets no time to mourn, no time to process any of that, because he needs that time to try and cram as much of english law into his head as he can. he can't afford to fail here- so he can't afford to think about it.

but the issue is that everything he does is a reminder. everything ryunosuke is doing on that ship is an act of grief, because he's doing it for kazuma, in order to take kazuma's place. he's surrounded by it, but again- he can't afford to stop. to do so would risk failure, and he needs the best chance he can get.

he's trying to shape himself to fill the hole his best friend left, but if he's going to do that then he can't acknowledge that he's lost something, too.

. . . and then he lands in england and immediately has three absolutely insane cases back to back. this man's life is a disaster

#dgs #meta #my meta #ryunosuke naruhodo #dgs spoilers #dgs2 spoilers #very minor spoilers for dgs2 but just in case #also: do not study like this it is NOT helpful and will probably be actively detrimental #take breaks! it helps your brain absorb the material! breaks are good! #but. uh. ryunosuke is grieving and he's. probably not making the world's most rational decisions here.