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palfriendpatine66 · 12 hours

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Fic Rec Friday - Smut Fics

I asked for your smuttiest fic recs and here is what you all delivered! This diverse fic list might help you find something new. Read the descriptions and then check the tags before reading. Be kind. Don’t yuck anyone’s yum. If you don’t like it keep on scrolling for something you do. I know we can do this. Enjoy! 💕

Your community sourced spank bank is as follows: please let me know if there is anything crazy in the formatting or links. Im doing my best!

Happy Wife, Happy Life - Squid_Ink: (Rexsoka) post o66, feat. heavily pregnant Ahsoka who is feeling down about how her body is changing, a feeling that is not helped by the scent of Rex's Togruta coworkers on him :3

Duchess, Degenerate, Disaster - Sendpseuds (Obi-Wan kenobi/Satine/Quinlan Vos) : Satine and Obi-Wan invite Quinlan to bed. A threesome from all three perspectives.

‘Com’Passion - wibzen: (Obi-Kenobi/Mace Windu/Anakin Skywalker) Anakin walks in on Obi-Wan and Mace Windu and is conflicted, to say the least. They help him through it.

Sell Your Body To The Night (Prostitute!Anakin AU) - Bittodeath: The whole series is one long fuck and kink fest. It includes Anakin/Cody, Anakin/Fives, Anakin/Wolfe, Anakin/Fox, Anakin/Obi-Wan, Anakin/Mace, Anakin/Quinlan

Spanking Skywalker - Maiaspen: Very obikin heavy fic but also feat. Anakin/Kit Fisto and Obi-Wan/Kit Fisto in which Kit Fisto takes it upon himself to discipline Obi-Wan’s petulant padawan

Help you to help me - you_idjits: (Referenced Quin/Anakin but only obikin action. Quin and Anakin report to the council after having taken part of a *fertility ritual* on a joint mission. Obi-Wan is definitely fine with that. Totally. So fine. It’s fine.

bound up with you - DreamingMoonlight: (obikin) Anakin asks Obi-Wan to try tying him up in bed

Fuck You Daddy - loquarocoeur; (Obikin) Anakin slips up during sex. Obi-Wan is a little shit. They fuck about it (daddy kink)

Lace Me Up, Hold Me Tight - lilredghost: (obikin) There's a little misunderstanding when Obi-Wan and Anakin are first back at the temple together, but it gets sorted out and ends up with a delicious bottom Obi-Wan in lingerie that Anakin has his way with.

Test Drive - sendpseuds (Obikin) Road head, the fic.

Serendipity - Darkwhisperings (Obikin) An accidental discovery on the holonet leads Anakin to a personal discovery about himself. And his Master. The rest, well, that's a happy accident. (breath play, praise kink, gentle dom obi-wan kenobi)

Comfort - skyl_tales : (Obikin) Omega Obi-Wan ends up nursing Anakin when he first came to him. What starts off innocent takes a turn as Anakin, an alpha, grows up (male lactation)

Lifting the fog - egeria: (obikin) By the early afternoon, Anakin knew he needed a release. A release he could not hope to find on his own. So, instead, he found Obi-Wan. or: sometimes, anakin needs his daddy (Known to convert readers to age play)

Cooking Lesson - rexismycopilot (Obikin) Anakin is a culinary student under Chef Kenobi. He finds out the hard way what happens when he doesn’t listen (non con, dubious consent, spanking)

he already acts the part of the baby, just give him the pacifier - GayCheerios: Obi-Wan and Anakin land on a strange planet, and they are all but required to try and live a life of Caregivers and Littles (age play/regression)

Obikin Kinktober 2023 - lemon_sprinkles Featuring 31 kinky one shots 🔥🔥🔥

Bath time Gwendolyn (storiesofchaos) (part of their Baby Bratty Padawan Anakin series) bath time, bratting to get fucked

Obikin Kaleidoscope | Prompted AUs - intermundia: 25 glorious chapters of prompt fills. So many different situations, all amazing! (Or anything by them. Highly recommend!)

We become the threads, intertwining - Gwendolyn (storiesofchaos): (Obikin) Or, in which Anakin knows pretending to be married to his Master and sleeping in the same bed is never destined to end well. Until it does

For Your Pleasure -himboskywalker: (Obikin) Undercover as slaver and slave,Obi-Wan and Anakin infiltrate a slaver's ring,only for Anakin's training and ability to take punishment to come into question.

Cross-Wired -himboskywalker; (Obikin) In the midst of battle Anakin's prosthesis takes damage and with no backup arm,it's a problem that needs immediate fixing.But crushed durasteel and fritzed wires equals all sorts of curious nerve responses while his master tries to disconnect the neural receptors.

Give them Blood - himboskywalker: (Obikin) In the midst of the Clone Wars Obi-Wan is bitten by an alien creature that forces him to live off human blood.During a campaign on Eadu it becomes a complication under blockade and Anakin is determined to not let his stubborn master starve.This has nothing to do with the way his stomach flips at the sight of Obi-Wan's sharpened fangs, not at all.

portrait of a female, blahzarry: (obikin)Ducking into a dingy movie theatre to hide from the enemy, Anakin and Obi-Wan get more than they bargained for

Mutually Assured Destruction - Darkwhispering & tideswept: (obikin)CEO Obi-Wan who is in a marriage of convenience with politician Satine, thinks he takes home sex worker Anakin.

Aggressive negotiations - rangarlothcat: (Obikin)Or, five times Obi-Wan makes use of Anakin's beauty in a negotiation, and one time someone turns the tables on him.

Learn your place, young one: Ragnarlothcat: (Obikin) Obi-Wan and his Padawan have just foiled an assassination attempt against Senator Amidala. Obi-Wan suspects they're about to be sent on separate missions and the very idea of it is eating him up inside, probably because he's worried Anakin will embarrass himself again. Probably that and no other reason.

The Size of the Fight in the Dog - tennessoui: (Obikin) The thing is, there's very little doubt in Anakin's mind that his master is just as in love with him as he is with his master. He just doesn't know if Obi-Wan is on the same page. But Anakin can seduce him. He's very desirable, everyone thinks so. And with the war buffeting them about around the galaxy, he can't take the risk of his master not knowing they're meant to be together. Not when one of them could die any day. Or worse, sleep with someone else.

Sordid Details Following jld_az (Not Star Wars) Chronicles of Amber

#fic rec friday #fic rec #star wars fic recs #smut fic #spicy fic #come get your smut here #Star Wars fan fiction

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vroom-vrooms · 2 months

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When my card declines at therapy so they show me little max (I can’t save him)

#max verstappen #I just read that ‘I needed it. I needed the discipline’#he was a kid #he was just a kid #he was a fucking kid #I can’t save him #formula 1 #f1 #formula one #idk if this has been done before #sorry if this has been done before lol

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scintillyyy · 1 month

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anyways, i definitely agree with the need for fandom to treat child characters as the children they are meant to be & be far more understanding of that which can be explained by their age, but it is also very interesting to me that this shift in mindset aligns almost completely with the diluted parenting influencer friendly version of. hm. explaining why the behavior is the way it is in a way that focuses on the incapability of children given their age whereas the science itself on that all of those explanations/reasoning for why behavior is the way it is is actually meant to be utilized and focused in on then working with the age-appropriate *capabilities* of the child in question.

like. okay, so. a Lot of the ideas behind understanding children's brains and working with the understanding of the child's brain come from dan siegel (a psychiatrist who focuses on the neuroscience of the development of the human brain through their life and the need to understanding how the human brain integrates as it ages to be able to understand the why of childhood behaviors and brain development to be able to manage them) and magda gerber (a child development expert who pioneered RIE & the idea of respecful care for the infant and young children by childhood educators, who janet lansbury, a former actress and educator has taken her tenets and since evolved into them into idea of respectful parenting and the push towards there are no bad kids, just infants, toddlers, and kids who experience normal, age appropriate behaviors). and these people's works are fascinating (even if i don't wholly & completely agree with any one philosophy myself) & are generally the go-to pop psychology when it comes to understanding why kids are the way they are. the things about "oh, x character is only y age and is reacting as a child would because they have the brain of a child & are still learning how the world works" absolutely comes from the base concepts of these people's work! and that's a very good thing! greater understanding of kids in fiction is my jam.

but, like. the pop psychology version of these ideas that are spread by parenting influencers & eli5 articles like a game of telephone until it hardly resembles the original spirit of the science is super rampant & is basically diluted down to mainly trying to tamp down personal *frustration* with the behavior in question by recognizing where it's coming from (ie/ they are a child and you have to recognize the limitations/incapabilites of the child to get rid of your personal upsetness about it) & an extreme focus on how *you* can manage *yourself* and *your reaction* to the behavior because they are selling something to you. the focus is on you having to manage the child's incapabilites.

however, that's not the spirit of the actual science they they were laying down. honestly the very work itself often does acknowledge & affirm parental frustration with challenging behaviors & and doesn't diminish the very real feelings behavior provokes. it's not about "well don't be frustrated because they're kids & kids are going to be kids" (after all, diminishing or ignoring your own feelings is exactly antithetical to what you're trying to teach them about not diminishing their own feelings), it's about "we know the behavior is frustrating so here's how you can use your kids' age level capabilities to reduce the frustrating behavior". the work is about parenting modeling behavior to teach kids how to exist in the world, yes, but it's most definitely not about how kids are incapable because of their age or what they can't do. the science itself is incredibly focused on what they *can* do and how you can model your behavior & teach them in a way they will be able to learn from! the entire point is recognizing their innate ability to learn, you just have to teach them in a way they're able to learn from! the point of recognizing the limitations of age/the current state of the child's brain development is not to dismiss the frustrating behavior as just to be expected for their age, it's so that you know how to connect with what they can understand and do to help manage the unwanted behavior. it's a small distinction, but it's there. to me.

#sorry i'm just thinking #like there's a lot of 'remember they're a child' !#and that's great but that's like. only a small part of what it's all actually about #idk.#anyways. you should actually read the whole brain child by dan siegel before you start using his ideas.#magda i got u and ur 'lack of discipline is not kindness it is neglect'#anyways i do think fandom does need to work on hey remember they're a child #but. idk the focus on the incapabilites 'they can't know or do this they're a child' is somewhat against what the point is #which is 'what can they do then & how do we work with that'

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another-art-studentt · 2 years

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at school library 10.20.22

just had my private lesson and chamber coaching. both went well. it's still morning as i'm trying to write an email to our chamber music professor. life is going well; i just really really need to practice more...

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hotgirlstiles · 1 year

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the way stiles’ character, at its core, is a very obsessive character where it’s both his weakness and strength .. his obsession with lydia, obsession with case files, the implication of obsession w/ anything dementia after his mother’s diagnosis, obsession w/ solving the motw to the point where he loses sleep over it..

even the implications of how much he’d obsessed over the hale fire case files to INSTANTLY recognize derek hale upon first meeting after TEN years of derek being gone like........ i don’t even know where i’m going with this but the way stiles is such an obsessive person that it absolutely consumes him......

#txt #when i finish ballerina au THEN you will all see.........#just read earlier 'the discipline required in ballet is obsessive' AND LORDDDDDDDDD #i was mostly thinking of ballerina au as silly but god. the way i NEED to write ballerina au #as also a char study for stiles #my godddddddd i will never ever fucking shut up about stiles character

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britneyshakespeare · 8 days

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i have been working with kids for four years and i had to write my first ever note just now about a seventh grade boy being inappropriate towards me. i don't know what the hell this could possibly lead to or what. he was trying to feel my legs repeatedly to the point where i had to stop sitting next to him (and i was subbing for his one-to-one para!!!). he's got high support needs. in that kind of job, you're supposed to sit next to them all day and look over their work.

the teacher whose classroom this was happening in could also tell something was wrong. the whole class was acting kinda crazy because it was the day before school vacation week and there was another class coming in to share projects. so like, he was swamped with keeping order already. but we were sitting two feet away from his podium at the front of the room. the kid was giving him and me a hard time when he wouldn't take out his chromebook as he was instructed. and then when he did take out his chromebook, he immediately, for some reason, places it on my lap. he had been ogling my legs the whole time. he puts his computer ON MY LAP. and i'm just like, stunned, because what the hell? can you not keep it on your own lap, for some reason? i don't even know what to say, i just hold it a little above my lap while i'm thinking why on earth would this be happening? he would NOT do this to his regular para if she were here, would he? this can't be normal.

and the teacher sees this and within a minute places a stool in front of the kid for him to put his laptop on. and i'm like. oh ok. yeah. he notices exactly what's happening and that that's not appropriate. and then when the other class comes in to share projects he tells me "miss b——, you don't actually have to sit next to c—— this whole period if you don't want to." and he grabs me a chair for me to go sit with the other paras in the back opposite corner of the room. like he KNEW. and thank you mr. d—— for recognizing that because i was just kind of shocked and didn't know if i was overreacting in my head to all of this.

when there's a point in the class where the kids are discussing stuff, i privately mention what's happened to the para who's sitting closest to me. and she says that the thing about him calling me pretty is something he's been known to do, but the fact that he kept trying to touch my legs is new behavior. and that's a completely different class of behavior. i was telling him NO, don't do that, and he kept doing it. and the fact that he was calling me pretty repeatedly, even when i was giving him instructions that he wasn't taking. and this is the second to last class before the end of the day, so she says she'll take a walk with him before learning center and talk to him about it, and i'm grateful for that. she does. the kid apologizes to me as soon as i come into learning center. but like. WHAT the hell.

i'm STILL like what the hell. this is unfathomable to me. the other adults who i told about this or who witnessed it were supportive of me. but. what to do??? i wrote a long note to his regular para about this, because i knew she was going to hear about it at least from the first para i told. the second para i told about it after school had a kind of... i'm not gonna say enabling reaction, but i suppose since it had already been "taken care of" (or at least, he had been spoken to and apologized) she didn't really have much to add in the way of discipline. i told her what happened after school and she was just like... a little bit, laughing? like oh, yup, that dog. she at the very least confirmed he KNEW what he was doing, that that was not an accident. she said to me "i had a feeling he was going to develop a crush on you" (me and these other paras were together for most of the beginning of the day too). but it's like. it's not about that.

i have worked with children for FOUR years. children have had crushes on me before; i'm quite unfazed by it. boys from the ages of 5-to-15 have told me i'm so pretty before and asked me to marry them. i've never had them feeling up my legs before. i've never had them making me physically uncomfortable. it's NOT about this seventh grader having a crush on the pretty substitute. he is NOT unusual for that, at all. but i've never had a boy of any age or education level repeatedly touching my knees and thighs. THAT is problem behavior!!!

because what if i wasn't assertive enough with him to tell him to stop? what if i was a girl his age? worse, what if i was an adult who encouraged this behavior? i don't come to the middle school to be a seductress. i had no intention in putting on a pair of tights and a skirt this morning of being viewed as an attractive object, especially not by a pubescent boy. what if i did though? what if his interpretation of me wasn't so incorrect and offensive? what if i let him keep touching me inappropriately and saying flirtatious things to me? me, an adult in my mid-twenties, towards a middle school boy?

in no world would that be ok. if i had been feeling up and overly-complimenting a CHILD at my place of work, holy shit would there be reports about me. so a child acting that way could never be ok either. if it'd be firable for me to be reciprocating that action, then that action should not be happening to me. ever. and that child should never repeat that action again to any other adult again.

like i am simply not there to be treated as an attractive young woman. i put on a skirt that shows too much knee and get paired with a boy, though, and that's apparently just a natural consequence. hooo-ly shit. like i don't know what to do. first of all, the more time passes since this has happened, the more i am just unable to stop thinking about it. i wasn't "hurt" or too emotional in the moment but i'm just still processing it and it gets worse. i'm just more and more disgusted.

i don't know what i expect to come out of this, or the email i sent to his regular para. like, am i gonna have to attend a fucking meeting? what is the precedent that this sets for him? WHY do i feel BAD for him about this? well, because he's a child, of course. a child who has done wrong he may not be able to understand. but he knows WHAT he did. he just doesn't know WHY it was wrong.

and i couldn't even say something to him that was like, "well, how would you like it if i was touching you like this?" because young boys do not understand how inappropriate it'd be. i'm sure this kid thought he was gonna get away with what he was doing at the very least. but probably not unlikely he (being a child with no concept of how wrong it'd be) thought he could get some sort of "positive" attention for treating me like this. either way he was simply doing what he wanted to do, with no perspective of how it would make me feel or that it could be classified as harassment. teenage boys think it'd be awesome if the older attractive woman would reciprocate their affections. they're wrong. i, as the older attractive woman of his affection, cannot be the one to convince him of that, though.

i don't know. i don't know. like it's just so not ok. but if i didn't tell another adult about this, he would've gotten away with it. he would probably do it again. and him being in trouble for it is not the same as him understanding that it was wrong. unless someone has a REAL talk with him about inappropriate attention and consent, it's not unlikely that he'll just repeat the behavior in a setting where he thinks he won't be caught or told on. THAT'S the problem. me, i could just never have to be this boy's para again. in my email, i didn't say that i would never be ok working with or around him ever again. he already knows i didn't like it and i'm not afraid to tell on him; as far as that lesson applies to me, individually, i think he's become too ashamed to repeat that.

i don't know. i don't know. i very much expressed that i, i guess, "forgave" him in the email that i wrote. i clarified that i was writing it for the sake of having it on the record. i think that could potentially be very important for the purposes of preventing further similar or escalating behavior from him in the future. i don't want him to be in trouble. i don't think i will be blamed for this, especially not with how promptly i acted, although i don't know to what extent this will be framed as me thinking i'm a "victim." i'm not... i don't feel victimized. i feel disgusted. i feel afraid for the sake of what could happen to or with him in the future, if he thinks behavior like his towards me today is ok.

i feel like if i end up having to further respond to this, this will be made about me. in a way it kind of was. is? in the moment it was happening, it was certainly about me. because i was the one this boy was giving all this unwanted attention to. but to make the consequences of this about me and to involve me any further, i also don't want. because i said what i said already, i don't care if a student has a crush on me. this isn't about me being the pretty substitute. i'm the pretty substitute all the time, to tons of people. that's not really something i've been concerned about up until now.

but do i have to reexplain my personal embarrassment? that i was wearing a skirt? that he was ogling my legs? really? what more do i have to gain from sharing that, other than having the adults at my place of work confirm or deny me in their heads as the pretty substitute? i don't know. perhaps that's REALLY overthinking it. but i don't want to be the substitute that caused a problem for this special ed kid. i don't wanna be the reason that he can't be around me anymore, the person people think of when they're monitoring how he's acting around girls and young women. i DON'T want to be the one people think of when they think of his past misbehavior. i'm NOT here for that.

that's just fucking humiliating. and in this being a thing that could follow him, i have to be ogled and touched over and over again in people's minds for this to be taken seriously. but for this to be swept under the rug would be even worse, no? i don't know. i hate this. the principal is a nice guy; i wouldn't be surprised if he and/or people from the special ed department reached out to me sympathetically about this. but i don't wanna be reached out to. i don't wanna have ppl i work with tell me "sorry that kid was just so attracted to you he couldn't help himself" like come on. if the kid himself doesn't change then i don't really care to remember this incident. and no one reaching out to me and saying they've talked to this kid will actually prove to me he understands. this is the kind of inappropriate behavior it takes years for people to understand why it was wrong, especially a child who has no idea. i mean come on.

#tales from diana #long post #sorry i should probably put this under a read more but it was just a long stream of consciousness #and idk. im tired. im so tired #do you wanna be known as the substitute teacher a kid kept touching inappropriately? probably not #thank god for the first para i told bc she took it really seriously seemingly. i mean idk what she told him in their conversation #not EXACTLY what she told him. she obviously said this was wrong and she reiterated in learning center again #that if that were her daughter she'd be through the roof and that she'd be telling his regular para #i mean of course i had to tell the regular para directly. i would rather it come from my mouth #i'm the one who has the most information of how and why it happened. i think other ppl telling it would just reduce it to #'he thought she was so pretty and he kept staring at and touching her legs cuz she wore a skirt' like come on #the indignity of that!#i already feel undignified enough.#and also thank god for the social studies teacher. the more im processing this the more im like thank god #i dont know him well. he had already been a nice dude to me before in my interactions w him #like as a sub you notice the people who are really affirming of the strange and irregular work you do #earlier this week i was subbing for the math teacher across the hall for instance and he came in before class started and said #that if anyone's giving me a hard time to just send them to him. bc that group can be a little rowdy/wild #my classroom discipline skills are not that bad where i felt the need to have someone more experienced defend me so to speak #like i know i look young and am assumed to be new. but with most classes. i can handle most misbehavior #i can put my foot down in a way kids normally respect. i know how to keep em on task #and for MOST of the day with this kid that's what i was doing. but if that social studies teacher hadn't done what he did #i might not feel so bold in just straight up walking away from that kid. after saying stop stop stop repeatedly #like he had his own job to do independent of me but i remember the gestures and like. i could cry. he KNEWWWW #that's just a very trustworthy person i feel. he didn't want me to suffer through that any longer #a lot of teachers (unfortunately) largely ignore the kids with paras and/or expect the paras to communicate to the kid exclusively #that teacher is not like that. he was willing to mind that boy while i escaped that situation. so so grateful to him

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immortalsins · 20 days

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the way im paying £9250 per year for my professors to screenshot a textbook, paste it onto slides, and read from the slides for an hour. then i buy the textbook for £4.44 on ebay and its much easier to learn from than any of my lectures

#i can literally just read it and learn. for 4 quid #biomed eng #sorry for ranting i don't go here anymore i'm just #sick of it #reallyy want to drop out i am so close to my limit #there's so little joy left from anything in the vast range of stuff i have to study right now #this textbook subject (physiology) included #when i get to build a circuit with my hands or do maths or something it's so nice. otherwise absolute shit #it has sucked the fun from an incredible field/discipline/career whatever and is now sucking the life out of me #😭😭😭 srry for the dramatics i need to listen to sle//ep t/oken RIGHt now

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swordfaery · 1 month

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anyway my favourite thing about dead men fanfiction is the wildly different characters we all write. like. not even the ones who have been dead for years and have so little actual characterisation but even the ones who were alive in canon were probably very different one hundred, two hundred, three hundred years ago. also theyre under characterised in fiction. also we are all just having fun

#guy who barely posts about skulduggery pleasant: so ive be rereading some of my old favourite dead men fanfiction #as well as my own dead men fanfiction #and damn if we arent all writing a bunch of different fucking guys. to be fair i have gone rogue bcos like. cant be fucked w canon #dont wanna write about war #heyo what if it was pre war and everyone was still. convinced their wouldnt be one #also i love the idea of skulduggery being. just super fucking irresponsible devil may care live laugh love sorta guy pre-war #spoilt. rich parents who dont care much about him. loads of magic tutors.#i mean think about the class implications of the dead men #skulduggery. an elemental. a difficult discipline that clearly requires a level of training and scholarli-ness #his NAME is skulduggery #you come across that name if your educated. if you read a lot #this is a man who has been afforded every privilege #and like. i think a lot of sorcerers are implied to be very upper class #or like. kinda rich and fancy about it #but obviously that wouldnt be the case for everyone bcos magic isnt just genetic right like some ppl just show up with it #and like even then #dexter vex #anton shudder #like as far as im aware these are just names ppl have #and slightly uncommonly used words #disciplines which are more emotional/physical #as opposed to 'learned'#i just think its interesting #i was gonna have my dead men all meet n be friends pre war #but tbh i think them meeting and not being friends is better #i think theres a sort of tragedy in them being as close as they were because of the war #and not having that post war or pre war #its actually really fucking sad but like. evidently they didnt hang out in the interim when most of em were still alive #or at least that much #im wondering if like. they needed a couple hundred years of like. detox bcos seeing each other just pulled them back into that mindset

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the-everqueen · 3 months

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i had the realization last week in therapy (round two: learn better coping mechanisms!) that my brain is basically an ACD. which means whenever it starts spiraling into "oh god no one can or should love me, oh god i'm going to die, oh god--" i need to stop accepting these thoughts as Irrefutable Truths and more like a dog chewing thru the drywall, i.e. Can We Redirect

#brain things #this brought to you by:#my brain obsessive chanting [redacted] at me #probably i need a hobby at night that isn't just reading and writing (things i also do for work)#bc like IMMEDIATELY once the sun goes down my brain goes fucking feral #all that training and discipline just OUT THE WINDOW #also it's way easier to think of my brain as an annoying dog than like. my inner child.#i appreciate what my previous therapist was trying to do but inner child work DOES make me feel embarrassed #like ew gross why is that stupid ass kid still kicking around???

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whattheskyknows · 8 months

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Any chance you could share that new writing method you mentioned in the tags? I’m so happy to see galaxy masquerade again, it’s so good!! and I’ve been stuck writers block on my own fic so I’m wondering if I could try anything else

I think it's called sprinting?? There's a bot on discord that allows you to set timers to help you work more efficiently. You don't need to use the bot to do it though, I've just been using my laptop's stopwatch lol. Basically I've been setting 15 minute or 30 minute timers and writing nonstop until the time is up. There's probably an actual name for this technique haha. I think this technique only works if you plan ahead first a little, personally I like to figure out what scene I'm gonna write or what progress I want to make. You do also need a bit of self discipline, like once you start the timer it's for the best if you just write for the full 15 minutes instead of writing and trying to fix mistakes. I'm a sucker for rewriting the same sentence over and over so this technique helps me to relax a little more and push the plot forward instead of focusing on the finer details.

Good luck with your writer's block!!! My advice is to just keep trying, even writing one sentence is better than no sentences. Once you get your writing groove back, you can then give that sentence a friend and then another one until your story/chapter is complete!!!

#I personally need more self discipline because whenever I write I also read at the same time #and I'm used to just writing one line then reading an entire chapter or something as a treat #OH YEAH TAKE BREAKS IN BETWEEN SPRINTS TOO #even if it is a little two minute one

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butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway · 1 year

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#sometimes I read things by people claiming certain types of expertise and I'm like #you clearly know enough about this that I don't think you're lying about your background #but also #given I have a similar background and half of what you're saying is some shite-ass fucking analysis of genuine field-truths #im gonna go ahead and assume you're actually pretty bad at this field #because i do more often then id like and its #exhausting #i really need just like. literally anyone to have some fucking respect for anth/soc at this point #yall other disciplines get fucking weird about how aggressively you hate us and reject our work

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angelsdean · 2 years

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ok because i’m not done talking abt this topic, i don’t think john ever lashes out or hits dean just because or just because he’s drunk and angry. no, it’s when he’s drunk / angry AND dean has /done something (perceived) as wrong/ and this is so important bc then....then it gets to be framed as discipline, as punishment, which is a crucial distinction for dean to make bc then he’s never the victim ! then it’s Not abuse ! he made a mistake and he’s being punished for it so it’s fine !

#and this of course benefits john bc then he gets to go on being the hero and father-god in dean’s eyes #like of course even if he did hurt dean without a reason dean would still think he deserved it just cuz that's how his brain works #but still. john knows better he knows when he's allowed to hurt when it'll get swept away under the guise of discipline #and hell. he probably believes he IS disciplining like that's the thing right? neither one of them thinks it's abuse #ok ok forreal i need to like. read some fluff after all this ajskfhsdfk #it's the new icon i swear it's making me insane w all these thoughts #dean studies #vic.txt

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scientia-rex · 2 months

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When I was in ninth grade I wanted to challenge what I saw as a very stupid dress code policy (not being allowed to wear spikes regardless of the size or sharpness of the spikes). My dad said to me, “What is your objective?”

He said it over and over. I contemplated that. I wanted to change an unfair dress code. What did I stand to gain? What did I stand to lose? If what I really wanted was to change the dress code, what would be my most effective potential approach? (He also gave me Discourses on the Fall of Rome by Titus Livius, Machiavelli’s magnum opus. Of course he’d already given me The Prince, Five Rings, and The Art of War.)

I ultimately printed out that phrase, coated it in Mod Podge, and clipped it to my bathroom mirror so I would look at it and think about it every day.

What is your objective?

Forget about how you feel. Ask yourself, what do you want to see happen? And then ask, how can you make it happen? Who needs to agree with you? Who has the power to implement this change? What are the points where you have leverage over them? If you use that leverage now, will you impair your ability to use it in the future? Getting what you want is about effectiveness. It is not about being an alpha or a sigma or whatever other bullshit the men’s right whiners are on about now. You won’t find any MRA talking points in Musashi, because they are not relevant.

I had no clear leverage on the dress code issue. My parents were not on the PTA; neither were any of my friend’s parents who liked me. The teachers did not care about this. Ultimately I just wore what I wanted, my patent leather collar from Hot Topic with large but flattened spikes, and I had guessed correctly—the teachers also did not care enough to discipline me.

I often see people on tumblr, mostly the very young, flail around in discourse. They don’t have an objective. They don’t know what they want to achieve, and they have never thought about strategizing and interpersonal effectiveness. No one can get everything they want by being an asshole. You must be able to work with other people, and that includes smiling when you hate them.

Read Machiavelli. Start with The Prince, but then move on to Discourses. Read Musashi’s Five Rings. Read The Art of War. They’re classics for a reason. They can’t cover all situations, but they can do more for how you think about strategizing than anything you’re getting in middle school and high school curricula.

Don’t vote third party unless you can tell me not only what your objective is but also why this action stands a meaningful chance of accomplishing it. Otherwise, back up and approach your strategy from a new angle. I don’t care how angry you are with Biden right now. He knows about it, and he is both trying to do something and not doing enough. I care about what will happen to millions of people if we have another Trump presidency. Look up Ross Perot, and learn from our past. Find your objective. If it is to stop the genocide in Palestine now, call your elected representatives now. They don’t care about emails; they care about phone calls, because they live in the past. I know this because I shadowed a lobbyist, because knowing how power works is critical to using it.

How do you think I have gotten two clinics to start including gender care in their planning?

Start small. Chip away. Keep working. Find your leverage; figure out how and when to effectively use it. Choose your battles, so that you can concentrate on the battle at hand instead of wasting your resources in many directions. Learn from the accumulated wisdom of people who spent their lives learning by doing, by making mistakes, by watching the mistakes of their enemies.

Don’t be a dickhead. Be smarter than I was at 14. Ask yourself: what is your objective?

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ckameley · 9 months

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Living in walking distance to a public library is top-tier

My idea of what makes a nice home has morphed the older I get compared to what I envisioned as a teen. Aside from my home and college dorms I have only lived 2 places and both have their pluses and minuses

My old apartment was in walking distance to some delicious restaurants and even work (I went without a parking pass for months until it got too cold that I opted to drive in), but being close to campus I dealt with the issues that come with living with college students

My current place is near a public library, public transportation, and the arts center so I can easily walk to those places and have an alternative when I need to commute to work. The downside is that it is a 20-30 minute based on traffic (which I now realize is miserable, especially since the roads/drivers are way more stressful to manage than in NC)

When I was younger, I thought I wanted a nice small house in the suburbs. Now, I want at least a nice 1 bedroom apartment with a nice view with good sunlight

It would be interesting to see what I desire 5 years from now

#this might get personal #I started this post bc an hour ago I went to the library to pick up a book I heard about on here #need to finish Song of Night #more like I need to START Song of Night #I want to read The Word for World is Forest now that I have a copy of it but I might save it for later #I have Dawn by Octavia Butler as well and I want to give it another go #I started it a year or so ago but I fell off cause I wasn't THAT invested but part of it might've been bc I was reading on my phone #I much prefer reading physical books #I also have another book I came across in the library that seems cool but it just hasn't been prioritized #how one juggles full-time work + feeding themselves + trying to make art + reading + social interactions + being physically active is wild #maybe I do need more discipline and structure to help carve out time for those pleasurable activities #my issue is that when I get engrossed in something I don't want to stop and then I forgo sleep/food to continue consuming content #I also feel inspired to write but that's a whole other activity that would require some degree of energy

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goldtippedfeathers · 4 months

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anti-binge guide:

~ read this list 20 times ~

count to 100 very slowly

talk on the phone with someone

clean up something gross (bye I never did this one to be honest, lmao. no thank yo)

go out on a walk

pour salt over craving food (also a popular one I never did. a bitch just didn’t like to waste salt or food like that. i say that while heavily relying on number 10 🤡)

make a list of triggers + avoid them // find low cal fibrous, filling alternatives

go outside and do 20 pushups + 100 jumping jacks (the jiggling was enough of an anti-binge lmao); bonus, do in front of a mirror (this is just cruel but also effective so idk yall, take your gander)

take a shot of ACV (LIGHT IT UPPPP lmao, pretend you’re clubbing but the vodka is vinegar and rather than feeling buzzed and happy, you’re miserable and desperate. but babes, we gotta romanticize this, so party it up anyways lmao)

sleep

c/s (wastes food, but worked wonders for me. just make sure you have at least a bite at the end, and rinse the mouth, but don’t brush to preserve that enamel)

listen to a podcast / read a book

watch something gory

write in your diary

th1nsp0

make a food planner for next week

calculate the deficit yoo’ll maintain for the week and the lbs progress if you don’t binge (it feels like a reward then, to refrain)

online window shop for clothes you want to fit in

dance / go on a run

take a shower/bath

do some self care. attend to those emotional needs rather than using food as an emotional crutch. sis is not your therapist.

chew on ice (i was never this desperate lmao)

plan a controlled metabolism day and work the foods you want to binge on now in that day to practice moderation and portion control while also reinforcing discipline

STOP if you have already started. you don’t have to continue. you’re okay. you still have control. stop now and prove it to yourself.

learn some biology (human anatomy, physiology, etc)

✨some affirmations✨:

~ repeat these to yourself for as long as it takes for the urge to binge to go away ~

food does not hold power over me

i don’t actually want this

*this food* actually really grosses me out

i don’t even like to eat

i’m going to put this away because i don’t need it and i listen to my needs

i am such an intuitive eater. i know when to stop eating naturally

its so easy for me to not eat

not eating is so easy

i take care of my emotional needs rather than numbing them away with food

food won’t make me feel better. self care will

i take care of myself.

i am committed to taking care of myself

i don’t even want to eat anymore.

i have no appetite. i never do

this food taste so gross and it lingers in the mouth. why would i want to eat something like that

i naturally crave fruits and vegetables.

i naturally eat healthy

i feel so much lighter and happier when i don’t eat

i feel better now that i said no to *this food*

i don’t really need food

i am actually really thirsty. i need water, not food

i am okay

i have control over myself and my body because i listen to it and take of it

i have discipline because i am naturally built for this

i am okay

i will be okay

this urge is not the end of the world. i don’t have to give in

just because i have a desire, that doesn’t compel me to fulfil it. i have more self control than that

i am okay.

i will be okay.

i am strong

i am okay

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