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frownyalfred · 1 year
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desperately trying to explain to straight men that gen fanfiction exists and there doesn’t need to be romance. it can just be a new side of plot/a what if scenario.
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zerodaryls · 6 months
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it's so funny (read: sad) that if bigoted fuckheads didn't insist i was a woman simply by virtue of my body at birth, i'd probably be chill with she/her pronouns in addition to he/they. if my mom didn't insist i was her daughter, i'd probably let her call me that, and we could still have a relationship.
i'm nonbinary and 'gendered' words are hypothetically meaningless, but because there are so many people who are more interested in telling me who i am rather than lovingly and curiously letting me express my own sense of self, those words carry trauma.
there's no reason a nonbinary person like myself can't be a son and a child and a daughter. there's no reason a nonbinary person like me can't go by he, they, and she.
'she' is not a slur. 'daughter' is not derogatory. 'beautiful' 'pretty' 'gorgeous' 'feminine' are not insults.
to the contrary, they're parts of language that express certain facets of a multi-faceted human existence, like mine.
and i have this sad, mournful feeling that if it weren't for unloving, condescending people, i'd probably be down to be called any of those things alongside my usual masculine/neutral terminology.
but i'd rather die than let anyone tell me what i have to be called.
#i try to reclaim 'feminine' words for myself in private#calling myself 'babygirl' when i need to chill out. or saying i feel pretty. or going 'she needs help' when i'm struggling lmao.#but there's still so much fucking trauma in those words from the people who've forced them on me#who've snarled in my face that GOD made me ONE THING and ONE THING ONLY and that's a WOMAN (stepdad)#who've guilted me for taking their precious perfect daughter away as if i'm fucking dead (mother)#who've mocked me and everyone like me as if we're not the experts on our own sense of self (general transphobic public)#like. i'm not a fucking man. i'm not a fucking woman. i'm nonbinary. gender is absurdity as a concept. i'm done with it.#but being called a man or a son or a guy or 'he' or WHATEVER in that vein is fine and dandy because i've never had anyone say#'that is all you can EVER be'. or worse: 'that is what GOD made you to be and you have a ROLE to fill'#(christianity pls die approximately yesterday thanku 💖)#so yeah. idk. ranting yet again about Cis Audacity.#the complete lack of empathy. the lack of curiosity even.#the condescending bullshit. the 'i understand you better than you do'. the fucking AUDACITY.#i am the expert on myself. i am the ONLY expert on myself. period. no contest. not a debate.#i understand myself better than anyone else is CAPABLE of understanding me.#i could call myself 'she' and understand that i meant it in a nonbinary way.#in fact i could even see myself letting other trans people call me feminine terms at some point in the future. when i've healed more.#but cis people? probably not. they can call me 'he' or 'they' or they can fuck off & never get to know me because they don't wanna know ME#/end rant#any terfs/bigots that try to touch this post will be swiftly blocked and quite possibly cursed. have the day you deserve <3
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starrrbakerrr · 9 months
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Portwells shipping Mack & Gina just proves that they never cared about Gina and EJ — especially Gina. They are Rinis that jumped ship because their favorite couple is 6 feet under (which they also refuse to accept), so Gina and EJ being together keeps Gina from Ricky. And now they are convinced that Gina is gonna leave Ricky for Mack, who is a guest character. All of Gina and Mack’s press photos are literally stills from the movie they’re filming and Portwell/Rinis are like “she’s so much happier with him” or “they have so much chemistry” when we haven’t even seen one scene between the two of them. How can they see all the photos of Rina released today, read Tim’s interview, and watch the clips of “Can I Have This Dance?” and the puppy song Ricky sings to Gina and claim Rina isn’t gonna be endgame? The level of delusion, pettiness, and implicit racism is astronomical. I’m starting to hate the argument that Portwell/Rinis are delusional and lack media literacy, they are truly just petty and jealous more than anything.
P.S. 99.9% of Rinis are weirdo Jolivias. I actually haven’t seen one that doesn’t romanticize Olivia and Joshua’s relationship and want them back together.
P.S.S. To Portwells/Rinis/Jolivias: Olivia/Nini isn’t coming back and she’s definitely not gonna come in and whisk Ricky away like you want. If it bothers you so much don’t. watch. the. show. I promise you won’t be missed.
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exhuastedpigeon · 23 days
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The best part of being back in a fandom with weekly episodes is the chaos and spec between episodes. I love seeing what everyone is thinking and then watching the episode and seeing what was right and what was completely wrong.
It isn't meant to be serious, it's meant to be fun.
The worst part about being in a fandom with weekly episodes is that people sometimes take spec and fan theories too seriously. They get these ideas in their head and then when the show does something different they get upset at the show and the person who came up with the theory.
If you're reading spec and getting so attached to it that you're upset at the show, stop. Spec is spec and most of the time it's wrong because we aren't working with all of the information that the writers are.
If you read spec and you get upset that it was wrong and feel mislead, you need to take a breath and maybe go outside. No one on tumblr dot com is saying they know what's coming next. We're all just fans theorizing (unless one of you is secretly the show runner and in that case please come talk to me I have so many questions).
Canon is always better than spec because it's canon. It's the writers and show runner (and actors) putting in all this work to make something for us. They know the general idea of what's coming in 5, 10, 15 episodes and we have no idea. They know the general plan for the next season. They have information that will never make it on screen.
No amount of watching the show and reading interviews will ever get us that level of knowledge because we aren't in the room. So let the spec and theories be what they're meant to be - a fun way to fill the time between episodes and engage with other fans.
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neopuppy · 9 months
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hi!! i’m genuinely curious, are you a dom jeno, sub jeno or switch jeno enthusiasts?? i haven’t been on tumblr since a long time so i’m not sure anymore😭😭
definitely not sub, not bc I dont like my submissive boys but I dont really see it. the vision is not visioning.
my personal preference based off what I like when I think about Jeno is more dominant, that is *my* preference for him specifically, not for everyone. I see him as more of a switch but I likes my Jeno how I likes him🫡
(im answering this way to make it clear that everyone’s ‘opinion’ on this when it comes any idol out there is YOUR preference. there is no argument to be had abt this, its just abt the way we envision them in our minds- not factual. I think people get rly stuck on the idea of something, and yk self righteous asf so they’re dead set on a very “ur wrong and in this essay I will explain why!” type of bullshit. same as the argument abt “THIS IDOL IS GAY! AND HERE I WILL RANT ABT WHY YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE YOUR Y/N FANTASIES ABT THEM—“
first off we dont know them at all, and this is just for funsies. we will more than likely never encounter any of these people irl outside of a fan/idol relationship etc etc. people do this with Renjun all the time for example, its not only discriminatory(bc omg petite n soooo~~ breedable) but why get mad that some girl in the middle of nowhere America has her little day dreams of a kpop idol falling in love with her or railing her in bed? like who cares.
thats my stance on all of this type of stuff. maybe he’s petite and breedable to many! BUT THATS MY DADDY AND NO ONE WILL SWAY HOW I FEEL ABT IT.)
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sygneth · 3 months
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I'm gonna fuckkknnn explode
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grapecaseschoices · 3 months
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there is always some clown that shows their ass about wyll on youtube. like no one wants your bad opinion on a positive video about wyll. no one wants your regurgitated bile that you yucked down from some other clown who has also never played his route or had him in their party or really spoken to him in camp, but wants to say The Reasoning Why Has Nothing To Do With His Blackness, I Just Don't Like Goody-Too-Shoes CharactersTM.
get out of here and misinterpret YOUR faves, not mine.
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thiefkingyall · 3 months
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I'm crying about the bees 🐝
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lunarlegend · 7 months
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you know, the more i think about it, the more it absolutely fucking infuriates me when NTs use the terms 'hyperfixation' and 'special interest', or confuse the two
as someone who is autistic and has ADHD, i get both, and they are nothing like each other
a hyperfixation is like an obsession to me, often short-lived, and usually lasts a couple weeks to a month. i get them with shows, games, etc., and they tend to rotate. i describe it as "going through phases" with the things i like, and they usually go dormant once i've become burnt out on whatever the thing is.
on the other hand, a special interest is peaceful, and it never goes away. it doesn't change, or "rotate". it's not a phase. and it's not exhausting; it doesn't end in burn out (it never ends at all!)
a special interest is like having an extra sense, that's the best way i can describe it. it becomes a natural scope through which i can view the world, and an essential aspect of how i function as a person. if i can't access it, i feel almost "dulled", like losing your sense of smell when you have a cold.
and unlike a hyperfixation, there is nothing stressful about having a special interest! thinking about it is as natural as breathing, or sleeping. do i know everything about it? yes. but it doesn't feel like i need to put any effort into it in order to achieve that. my brain just does it on its own.
going back to the senses thing, a special interest is essential to me as an autistic person because it's literally how i process everything. i use my special interest to help me deal with grief. i use it to help me pull myself out of depressive episodes. i use it to distract myself from my anxiety. and i use it to bring myself back down to earth when i get too overwhelmed. so, for all the happiness it provides me with, it's also an invaluable tool to help me process my emotions and handle anything difficult that comes up. it's so much more than just an "obsession".
i don't know where i'm really going with this, i guess i just thought about it too much and felt like venting. but if you're not neurodivergent, neither of these terms apply to you. and if you're NT and going to talk about them, make sure you actually know what the hell you're talking about.
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coffeewritesfiction · 2 years
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I don't really make it a secret that I dislike JKR. I don't talk about it much because I find it irrelevant to this blog, but I do. Even before her bigoted stances became public knowledge, I thought her books were overrated, and the creations of the fandom were better than the canon itself.
But now that we really understand her and her poor writing, the choices she made blow my mind in the worst way possible. Minor characters especially - it's like she went down a list of stereotypes in her head and just checked them off so she wouldn't have to think about it.
As a writer, I can't imagine doing that. Yes, writing is work, and yes she was writing for children - but that work is a blessing on the world, and children deserve the best we can give them, not the dredges of our creativity. I realize she is a Very Specific type of British bigot and that influences her entire body of work but. To be so closed-minded and sheltered as to not even try...
I can't imagine what was going on in her head.
I never want to become anything like that.
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marietheran · 2 months
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fairy vs walrus is the new vanilla extract (derogative) isn't it?
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heymacy · 2 months
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i'm telling y'all giffing shameless is the hardest thing in the world and idk how i did it for so many years. i have acquired the highest possible quality footage and certain (many) scenes STILL come out like absolute trash no matter what i do to them
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otomegamesandme · 5 months
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I know for the past like 5 years this has been an otome only blog, but what if I started to post the occasional content on shoujo/josei stuff as well-
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hello-mcflyyy · 11 months
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Trigger warning: Sexual Assault
As excited as I am to go to Denver FanExpo, I don't feel very good about the money that I've spent after hearing the way they've allowed Joseph to be treated by some of these "fans". And the way that they expected him to still fulfill every single photo op and autograph in Philly and go above and beyond and extend his hours so that people could buy more tickets. The fans are one thing, but the guests deserve basic human respect. They deserve to not be put into dangerous situations where they're not protected and nothing is done when someone violates them. My stomach hurts just thinking about how much he must hate the fandom now. He's a very kind hearted, sweet young man who just wants to make the fans happy. He's not there to be treated like an animal just because he's getting paid to be there. Just because these people bought tickets and feel entitled to do whatever they want to him.
I think it goes without saying, but please do better. Please show him respect. Please remember that he is a person. If I see or hear about anyone groping him or touching him inappropriately in Denver (or any of the other guests or fans there), I will not hesitate to call the police and report you for sexual assault.
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meulia · 4 months
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sometimes i watch a recent movie and i’m reminded how heathers (1988) could never be made today. not just due to the subject matter or dark humor, but because if it was released now we would have to see everything that was implied or told to us via exposition. veronica being a loser, somehow getting wrapped up with the heathers, participating in their bullying, slowly becoming disillusioned, the remingtion party sequence would be 20 minutes long, and heather chandler wouldn’t die until the movie was at least halfway over.
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monstrouscrew · 4 months
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probably the saddest fact about us liking this band is that the user i learnt about the band's existence from knows the human background and ID name of the first boy and, despite not outing him in their blog, perceives his music very differently because of it. all we can say is "thank you". it feels unfair, but what the heck is fair in this barely bearable world?
a few more days, and maybe I'll draw something again. too tired now.
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