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am-i-the-asshole-official · 9 months

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WIBTA if i contact my friend when he seems to be avoiding me?

i’ll try not to include extraneous details bc this could b a very long story. essentially, in december last year there was a situation where my friend (m 22) didnt do anything wrong, but i (x 21) had a lot of anxiety abt my life circumstances and unfairly snapped at him over text n accused him of not caring abt me. id talked to him a lot abt my stress and thought he was disregarding it and not caring abt my feelings, but more likely he just didnt remember or understand what i was going thru. after i snapped at him, i ignored his messages for a month bc i didnt want to face his potential anger, and then i finally got the guts up to send him a long apology. i explained my actions but said it wasnt an excuse for being rude. he seemed to accept my apology and said we could move on.

after that, we didnt rly talk. he didnt send me a message on my bday, which hes never forgotten before. hes always been great at remembering dates and hes told me he puts them in his calendar, so i thought it was on purpose, but anything couldve happened. i sent him a happy bday message on his bday, and a bit after that our friend group tried to organise to meet up for lunch. but everyone cancelled except for me n my friend. it was very awkward bc i didnt know if he was still upset at me. when we hung out it seemed like he was. he seemed to make some subtle digs abt the situation and left immediately after we’d finished eating. but i couldve just been misreading him due to being anxious, maybe he just picked up on my awkwardness n thought i was upset at him idk.

since then, our only contact has been when i left him a compliment on one of his social media posts, and he liked it and then liked one of my posts for the first time in ages. idk if thats a sign he wants to keep patching things up, or if it was an act of politeness but he doesnt want anything to do w me. we havent spoken in several months, i was leaving it for him to choose to approach me bc i didnt want to push anything if he wanted to b done w me. ive accepted that we’re not friends anymore, but if he wanted to be friends then i would.

WIBTA if i continue to do things like interact w his social media, or if i message to ask him where we stand, when it seems like hes sending clear messages that he doesnt want to continue the friendship? i know this is prob a “just communicate” issue, but i dont want to approach him if theres obvious signals im not fully picking up on, and he’d just be annoyed and awkward to have to formally end things

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

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petruchio · 1 year

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Caroline there is a boy I enjoy. Obviously, in hell about this.

We used to know each other really well, but hadn’t seen each other in years? I always regretted not staying friends with him. This summer we ran into each other at the botanical gardens and obviously that’s a sign.

So we’ve hung out a few times since and it’s gone well! (If you ask me we’ve always had chemistry and unresolved tension but I digress)

So idk what to do??? We don’t text often and we’re both busy with full and exciting lives, but we enjoy each other and I think this could be a thing!!

How do I be brave? I’m starting to care less about what could be, and what he might think, and more and more feeling comfortable unapologetically being myself. (I struggle with that sometimes!!)

So far we’ve been hanging out, but neither of us have called it a date?? Should I ask him on a date? What if I do and then the world explodes?

ooooh i FEEL this!! rekindling old feelings can be so complicated so i totally get why this might feel ~extra confusing~

regarding the date situation…. i feel like there’s a few directions you could go. i am all for just asking someone to hang if you want to see them, and i think if you want to go out with him on a date then DO IT! buuuuut for me, i usually just start by initiating some 1 on 1 hang outs as friends — so it’s not the pressure of a “date” but just an activity you do with just the other person, so you can assess how you’re feeling when you’re alone with them!! sometimes a vibe you think you’re getting in a group setting can totally vanish when you’re 1 on 1, and sometimes it totally solidifies what you’re feeling. when you’re friends already, you can just keep hanging out as friends and see what it blossoms into! it doesn’t have to be super calculated or anything — the best relationships often grow out of a really solid friendship.

buuuuut! if you’ve already been hanging 1 on 1 already and it’s still not progressing… that’s more tough!! i feel like my advice would be something trite and basic like “just talk to him about how you’re feeling!” but in reality if i was in your position i would probably just get drunk and be like DO YOU LIKE ME OR WHAT and it would either work and they’d fall in love with me or it would completely explode in my face and we’d never speak again. sooo yeah.

BUT that’s all to say that i do think if the boy isn’t going to push things further, you can totally do it yourself. (just maybe be more prepared than i would be LOL!) if it’s important to you, i actually think you should! but in any situation, if you’re going to be the brave one (which is an awesome person to be!!) i think it’s good to be prepared to hear an answer you might not want to hear. not that it’s *going* to happen, but just to be prepared for it, and know you’re going to be okay no matter what this boy thinks. and once you really know that, like REALLY know it, i think it’s a lot easier to be brave. the world won’t explode if he doesn’t like you back. you can just go hm okay i guess i misread those signals! and then move on and date someone even hotter. that’s all!

so i would say just keep doing what you’re doing! be yourself, be happy in your own skin, fall in love with the world and everyone in it. everything else will come. if this guy isn’t the one, there will be another person who will love you for exactly that. if you want to be brave, be brave! if you want to relax into a friendship, do that too! no choice you make is going to end the world. focus on being your best YOU, and everything else will fall into place <3

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supervillain-smut · 3 years

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Idk if you write for fallout characters, but can i request an SFW alphabet for nick valentine pls?

I usually don’t, but a friend of mine has really gotten to like Nicky, so here ya are!

A = Attractive (What do they find attractive about the other?) Nick's surprised you would want to date him at all, so as cheesy as it sounds, everything!

B = Baby (Do they want a family? Why/Why not?) He kind of can't, but he takes Shaun under his wing extremely swiftly, and is very protective of the kid. Should you adopt another child, he'd sweep them up too.

C = Cuddle (How do they cuddle?) He tends not to because of all his exposed endoskeleton and circuitry, but if you're super careful about it, yeah he likes the attention; he doesn't stop worrying though.

D = Dates (What are dates with them like?) Extremely romantic and pulls a lot of strings in Diamond City to make sure you're both spoiled but also in private.

E = Everything (You are my ____ (e.g. my life, my world…)) Partner. I know, I know, but the word means everything to him; he's never had a partner quite like you, in every meaning of the word; the cold cases, Eddie Winter, his heart. You've solved it all.

F = Feelings (When did they know they were in love?) He didn't, really. Not at first, but when he realized he had the same feelings he associated with his former love, in another life, now in this one? Flash, bam, alakazam.

G = Gentle (Are they gentle? If so, how?) With every move he makes! He has to mind his hand, that exposed spot by his neck, his jaw, everything! But in all seriousness, his words are so. Goddamn. Sweet. From a succesful lock pick, to the way you look at him, compliments abound.

H = Hands (How do they like to hold hands?) He doesn't. His good one, maybe, but he's always, always reluctant to hold your hand. He prefers to put his arm around you anyways.

I = Impression (What was their first impression?) Wow you were determined for the ones you love. All that, in this cruel new world, for your son, and later on for him? How can he not have crazy respect for that?

J = Jealousy (Do they get jealous?) Yes, but he's less likely to show it or talk about it, he'll just grumble and let buddy know when he's officially crossed the line.

K = Kiss (How do they kiss? Who initiated the first kiss?) You have to initiate the kiss, of course. Doesn't mean he hasn't been thinking about it, just that he's too scared to ruin a good thing over misread signals, but he quickly sweeps you into one of those classic romantic kisses. He can't help it, it's ingrained in him.

L = Love (Who says ‘I love you’ first?) He does! Right after that kiss.

M = Memory (What’s their favourite memory together?) All of them. Nick is slowly having to delete memories because he's running out of space, but he'll never touch any of the ones with you, no matter how small.

N = Nickel (Do they spoil? Do they buy the person they love everything?) Anything you want that seems reasonable he'll get you, but if you really, really want something, he'll break and get it for you. Depends on how bad you need/want it.

O = Orange (What colour reminds them of their other half?) Their favorite color, or whatever color they guessed was his favorite. If they said orange, he's suddenly seeing it around them more and more the more he thinks about it.

P = Pet names (What pet names do they use?) Nothing he already didn't call you, just more affectionately.

Q = Quaint (What is their favourite non-modern thing?) Power Noodles. He has no clue why, but Takahashis Power Noodles are his favorite snack, even if he doesn't need to eat.

R = Rainy Day (What do they like to do on a rainy day?) Sit inside and read. It's really that simple, so long as he gets to spend time with you.

S = Sad (How do they cheer themselves/others up?) He's more about dealing with emotions, so he likes to talk about it whenever you're ready and help solve it. If you don't feel like talking about it, he's happy to change the subject and focus on brighter things. "Sanctuary's coming along nicely!" "The commonwealth is really starting to heal!" "Pipers new collumn is really intuitive!"

T = Talking (What do they like to talk about?) Anything and everything, mostly pre-war though. He'll never want you to stop talking about life before the war.

U = Unencumbered (What helps them relax?) A seat and your presence, a nice engaging conversation and occasionally Diamond City Radio.

V = Vaunt (What do they like to show off? What are they proud of?) He's not much of a show off until you put him in front of a locked terminal. Then it's on, always turning to you with a proud smile on his face when he's in, or refusing to leave it alone until he is.

W = Wedding (When, how, where do they propose?) He doesn't need a ring or a big fancy wedding to call you his spouse, it just happens one day, but if you'd like to officially tie the knot, it's however you'd like it. He's just happy to be there in the position he is, on that day.

X = Xylophone (What’s their song?) Into Each Life Some Rain Must Fall, The Sunspots. He's been through a lot, and being a detective means he puts himself through even more.

Y = Yes (Do they ever think of getting married/proposing?)

(See W)

Z = Zebra (If they wanted a pet, what would they get?) Dogmeat's fine by him. God forbid you bring home a deathclaw.

#99 luftanons #fallout 4 #nick valentine

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alexsunmners · 7 years

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hey i saw u reblog the alex x reader au today and if you want to id love to see a sequel to that maybe w scott finding out or like a secret relationship or scott finding out about the secret relationship ;;)))) thanks in advance!!! ps i love ur writing and you you are a goddess among us

Alex Summers + best friend’s older brother au [refer to this drabble]

A/N: okay so like if i’m being realistic with myself the odds of me ever actually writing this out properly: slim to fucking none because this has been sitting in my inbox for months BUT I can provide you with the full out headcanons of how it all came to be in the first place. so. (hey @kurtwxgners @mvximoff @rax-writes @paperclipmac have some alex stuff) (sidenote: karley we should revisit this au sometime bc its a good one [eyes emoji])

nsfwish? almost? idk there’s like? heavy making out at the end? idk?

You’ve been best friends withScott since forever because your parents were friends so it just kind of happened

As a result of this, you’ve alsobeen around Alex since forever because you were always at the Summers house

You’ve also had a lowkey crush onAlex since you started to think boys maybe weren’t so gross after all

It stayed pretty lowkey, till thesummer before junior year, but you didn’t make a thing about it because 1) youfigured it would make shit weird and 2) you figured out that Alex was planningto go abroad for his senior year so why would you intentionally bring it upwhen he’s about to leave

Alex found an exchange to go onand did his senior year abroad and you went through junior year being Scott’sbest friend like nothing had changed because nothing really had changed and notseeing Alex for the year made your crush kind of hibernate

Then during the summer after hefinished high school and the one right before your senior year, he found a workplacement and worked the entire summer, earning money, and you see him likeonce or twice but mostly he’s living with a new friend Sean a town over

You don’t really see him againtill he’s home on his first break from college and damn he looks so much betterthan you remember him looking and your crush is definitely back in full fuckingforce

You don’t know it, but the firsttime he sees you when he’s back, he’s actually breathless, because you’re older,and more confident and so, so beautiful and he’s pretty sure he must’ve beenfucking blind or something, because there’s no way you weren’t gorgeous beforeif you’re this goddamn stunning now

Do you spend a lot more time atScott’s house now that Alex is back than you would otherwise? Maybe. You’repretty sure Scott doesn’t notice anything unusual though, and if he does, hedefinitely doesn’t know why

You drove over to the Summer’shouse one Friday night to go over some SAT stuff, and a torrential fuckingrainstorm comes while you’re there

Your mum calls you and tells youthat she really doesn’t want you driving in weather as bad as this, and she cancome and pick you up, or you can stay there if it’s alright with the Summers’

Of course you’d rather staythere, because then you won’t need to come back to pick up the car later, soyou tell her not to worry, you’ll stay over

Scott just nods when you tell himyou’re staying over and just reminds you where the extra sheets and pillows arefor the couch before tossing you an old shirt and a pair of sweatpants for youto sleep in

You give up on trying to godirectly to sleep at about 1am so you go to the kitchen to get a glass of wateror something and immediately regret your decision because Alex is in thekitchen in a thin, faded, fraying flannel shirt and sweat pants slungdangerously low on his hips, and his longish hair is yanked back in a messy bunand you feel like a fucking idiot because he looks like he’s just about to goto bed and just looking at him like this makes your knees weak

He sees you in one of his oldshirts (it used to be his, then it got passed on to Scott, who never wore it,so he basically still thinks of it as his shirt) and some sweats and no makeupand you’re not at all put together or tidy, but he’s positive you’ve neverlooked better, because if he doesn’t think too hard you look like you justclimbed out of his bed and the idea is more than a little dizzying

“oh, shit, hey Alex. I-thoughtthe kitchen was-” “empty? I mean it is the middle of the night, that’d be thereasonable assumption.” “Yeah. Well.” “Well.”

Neither of you is really sure howyou managed to get through the interaction unscathed, but by the end of it,you’re both sitting on the couch watching shitty national geographic re runsand laughing at Alex’s shittier jokes, and each time one of you gets up orleans forwards, or really shifts at all, you both gravitate almostunconsciously towards the other

You’re not quite sure just how ithappened, but you’re tucked neatly under his arm, leaning into his side, and you’retipping your head back, laughing at another one of his ridiculous puns, andsuddenly he’s kissing you, almost hesitantly, and his lips are soft and warmand you want more, but just asquickly as the kiss began, it’s over

“Shit, I’m so sorry-that was-Ishouldn’t’ve-” he stammers, and you’ve never seen him look so startled orunsure in your life, but you don’t want him to apologise, you want him to kissyou again, so you reach out to grab the front of his shirt and yank his lipsback to yours

Alex doesn’t need any moreencouragement than that, the arm round your shoulders tightening to pull you incloser to him, his mouth pressing against yours with more force than previously

One of your arms comes up to wraparound his neck as you shift closer still, and he pulls away again, breathinghard

“Are you sure you-I mean you’reScott’s best friend-we probably shouldn’t-” he tries again, but you’ve neverheard anyone sound less convincing in your life, so you just tilt your head tokiss along the sharp line of his jaw and the tempting column of his throat,feeling immensely satisfied when you feel the hitch in his breath as your lipsbrush softly over his pulse

“I’ll stop if you want me to,”You murmur, punctuating each word with a press of your mouth and he lets out alow, strained chuckle

“That’s not fighting fair and youknow it, beautiful,” he breathes, and the term of endearment makes your headspin, even as you wind your arms around his neck

“Good,” you whisper back before pullinghim in to kiss him again, one of your hands sliding into his hair, pushing thehair tie out and tangling in it as it falls out of the bun he had yanked itback into

You’re in his lap now, his armstightly around you, hands gripping your hips, keeping you so close you can feelhis heart thudding in his chest, and the kiss is hot and insistent and it makesyou a little giddy because yeah, you’ve kissed people before but it’s neverfelt like this and as his tongueslides against yours, you let out an involuntary gasp, your hand reflexivelytugging back on his hair and Alex actually moans into your mouth

“Fuck, babygirl, give a guy somewarning,” he groans, low and shuddering and muffled by your skin, and you canfeel him starting to get a hard on, and knowing he wants you is gratifying andscary and thrilling, and as he bites down lightly on you lower lip, youtentatively reach a hand down to palm him through his sweats

The moan he lets out iselectrifying, needy and wanting and this is starting to lead into unchartedterritory for you but you’ve never wanted anyone more than you want him

But then he pulls away from you alittle and you freeze up in panic and hurt and confusion, because you’re prettysure you weren’t misreading the signals, but you don’t say anything you justlook away, rubbing uncomfortably at your temples and doing your best not totear up, because you already feel stupid and you really don’t want to make moreof a fool of yourself than you already have

Suddenly, one of Alex’s hands isreaching out, cupping your cheek and gently forcing you to look at him. Heleans in and kisses you softly, his thumb brushing soothingly across yourcheekbone as he draws back, a small, reassuring smile on his lips

“I’m sorry, beautiful, I didn’tmean-” he starts, voice gentle. “It’s not that I don’t want to. I do, god I really do. But I-I like you. Have for a while. I want to do thisright. I don’t want to screw up,” he explains, and he sounds almost nervous,like he’s not sure whether this is something you want and he looks souncertain, so uncharacteristically vulnerable that you kiss him again, movingin to tuck yourself against his side once more, and you can feel the tension goout of his body as he kisses you back gently, his arm going around you again.

#alex summers #alex summers x reader #alex summers imagine #alex summers headcanons #havok #havok x reader #havok imagine #x men #x men imagine #my writing #headcanons #anon #answered

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datingadviceonreddit · 7 years

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I have a scenario I can't really make sense of and I was wondering if you can either tell me if I'm crazy or not?I was at a friends wedding the other week and was talking to a friend of the bride I've only met twice (once at the wedding and once at his apartment, I wasn't on a first name basis prior to the wedding, in fact we've never really talked at all before it).We were sitted next to one another at dinner by coincidence... She seemed nice, witty, not afraid to make jokes about both of us stuffing our faces when food arrived as we were both starving, didn't think much else of it other than she was nice and I was enjoying the situation.At the end of the night my friend had a bit too much to drink and I was sober being designated driver - I went to say bye to everyone I had spoken to that evening, including her...I said bye to her last unintentionally and wasn't expecting anything like a hug or whatever else - In my head, we didn't know each other barely at all so kinda just said "It was nice chatting again, maybe see you at something sometime" with a reply of "yeah at something" (or something along these lines...)... I was expecting to just part and that'd be that, but then...She then stepped forward around my side and leant forward, I totally froze and was like "wtf" in my head and she hesitated, I turned my head slightly and was still kinda like "wtf is going on" in shock. She ended up kissing my cheek after the hesitation pause... I was in a bit of shock at the time. I'm quite shy and recently (a few months ago) got out of a relationship and had my confidience rocked pretty hard, so I wasn't exactly in a frame of mind of making moves let alone thinking she thought anything of me...I didn't say anything about it nether did I. I was too shocked to really say much other than bye. I hardly even smiled... her friends were around us both and I was too in shock to even really react let alone think properly... I look back at it and I wish I did say something.I've spoken to some friends about it and most of them said things such as: "That's really weird... you should probably ask her out for drinks if you were attracted to her" - idk how to interpret her actions based on what happened though. I obviously have a tint over eyes being the one it happened to...A girl I enjoyed's company that I found attractive kissed my cheek and suddenly I'm infatuated with her... If it didn't happen (if she didn't kiss my cheek) I'd have not thought about her again probably because besides the pair getting married - we didn't know each other...I went home... I thought about it a lot... I was still in shock but I was happy on the inside... I was happy I had some form of affection shown to me even if it was from a practical stranger... I added her on Facebook and got accepted.Couple of days later I messaged her and didn't get a response for a few days, she responded and seemed nice and said she was "Glad I messaged her"... I then responded again and no reply for a few days...Had friends over for the weekend and spoke to them about this girl I couldn't stop thinking about and finally grew a pair and sent another message a few days after basically saying that since we're both busy (I'm at work almost every day of the week, I don't know about her scheduled life but it seems busy...), would she be up for going for a few drinks? (This message was sent on Monday)...I have yet to hear anything back... The message was read on Tuesday and it just kinda sits there... Kinda feel like I've been ghosted minus the unfriending/blocking parts?? My rose tinted glasses makes me want to believe she will reply... but my brain tells me she won't...The whole kiss on the cheek thing started this all... we're not french or a country that practices that with just anyone... most people here (in Scotland) kiss cheeks when they know each other really well... Perhaps it was my vulnerable state of mind (in terms of the opposite sex given not long ago I broke up with someone) that's causing this perseption?Did I read into things too much? via /r/dating_advice

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