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aroaceconfessions · 9 months

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so like,,, 2 or 3 months ago,,, I found out I was alterous thanks to me and my friend having a discussion abt whether or not I was in love with another friend of mine. bc each time they would keep telling me it's love,,, I always felt it was much more than that. sure,, I think abt her everyday,,, I want to be around her all the time,, see her everyday,, and do basic things like hug,, hold hands,, and MAYBE even kiss,, but I don't want to be in a romantic relationship with her. she's in fact in a relationship already. do I feel jealous abt it?? no,, but I can't help but to feel bad. bc she's in a 3 year online relationship that I'm sure she's happy and content with,, but here I am wanting things. in fact,,, im happy for her. now,, if we somehow got in a relationship,, I wouldn't mind it,,, but its not what I want. rather iffy abt labels as well as pda. bc I have a friend who I hold hands with a lot and stuff,,, but our relationship is purely sexual. I get rather uncomfortable when it comes to situations where I'm alone with a friend,, bc it feels like I date. which is why I prefer to be with a group of friends instead of one them. it's rlly annoying when ppl immediately assume I'm in a romantic relationship just bc I hang out with someone a lot or am touchy with them. I don't feel the need to be in a romantic relationship. I'm perfectly fine with the friemds I have. even so,, i still can't help but to want things from that one friend I have a mesh on. I am like,, 100% sure she sees me as purely platonic,,, which makes this even more frustrating. perhaps what I'm seeking is some form of a queerplatonic relationship,,, but idk if her partner would be fine with that at all. I'm thinking of telling her abt my mesh on her at some point,, I but i can't help but wonder if it's worth it :((

Submitted June 19, 2023

#aromantic #aro #arospec #aspec #qpp #qpr #queer platonic relationship #queer platonic partner #friends #friendship

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duckymcdoorknob · 2 years

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so i don’t really like labels but i know i’m somewhere on the asexual spectrum, probably most like demisexual, but anyway so that kinda scares me when it comes to dating (i’m a literal adult 😭 but so inexperienced & anxious anyway…)

which hq boy (s) do you think would totally be okay with a s/o who isn’t interested in sex like at all or at least no time soon?

Oh word HEY ME TOO BESTAY!!

YOU ARE NOT DIFFERENT OR WEIRD WHATSOEVER I NEED YOU TO UNDERSTAND THAT!!

Tbh, I think all of them would respect the boundary. But these are just the ones I think would respect it the most!

𝐶ℎ𝑖𝑘𝑎𝑟𝑎 𝐸𝑛𝑛𝑜𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑡𝑎

Starting off my list is one of my favorite boys.

Ennoshita is a very quiet, and very humble person. He’s passionate, loving, caring and cheerful.

I think that Chikara is ace himself.

He just… doesn’t get the big whoop about it.

So he would 100% be okaythrilled with the fact that his s/o isn’t interested in sex.

The best part? His mom knows. So when his s/o comes over to his house, his mom will let him close the door as much as they want.

Because she knows that the two of them won’t even try to do anything.

“Hey mom, (s/o’s name)‘s staying the night. We’ll probably keep the door shut because the hallway is super creepy at night.”

“Sure honey. If you two want anything, you know where to find me. I can order dinner too.”

Up in his room, him and his s/o would just vibe together, to each their own. His s/o’s head resting on his waist as they lay in between his legs.

He will reach down to kinda run his fingers thru their hair at some point.

𝑀𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑠𝑢𝑘𝑒 𝑌𝑎𝑘𝑢

Yaku gives me big Demi vibes.

He radiates that one clip of the couple on the bed and their friend bursts in and is like “I knew it!! You two are having sex!!”

And he’d just reply with, “Really? I wish you’d’ve told me. I would’ve put my book down.”

Like yes, he’s a teenage boy so sometimes shit happens and he feels things.

But most of the time?

Zero libido. No sexual attraction to anyone.

Like ennoshita, I don’t think Yaku really gets the point of it.

So, the day his s/o admits they don’t want to have sex.

“Okay. Cool.”

Instead? He’s a sucker for laying his head in his s/o’s lap. Bc 9/10 of the time, they play with his hair or kinda just massage his scalp.

And he is SO WEAK for that shit.

𝑇𝑎𝑘𝑎ℎ𝑖𝑟𝑜 𝐻𝑎𝑛𝑎𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑖

(I KNOW THIS GIF ISNT FOCUSED ON MAKKI BUT PLSSS)

Makki is kinda just null about it because he has his own ideals to follow.

Like yeah, he’s constantly surrounded by other boys talking abt sex n stuff.

However, precious boy, is wholly devoted to saving himself until he’s married.

So the day his s/o tells him that they aren’t interested in sex, he’s relieved.

“I’m saving myself for when we get married, so this isn’t an issue.”

When w e get married, pls.

He does like a little bit of physical touch. Maybe like hugs from behind and having his hair played with.

Other than that? He’s more of a PDA deliverer than a PDA wanter.

𝑇𝑎𝑑𝑎𝑠ℎ𝑖 𝑌𝑎𝑚𝑎𝑔𝑢𝑐ℎ𝑖

Another ace, might I add HEAVILY ace, icon.

I don’t think Tadashi would even consider sex with an s/o.

When it comes up in conversation, he just pushes it off.

I think that he would come out at the same time his s/o does.

“Uhm, sweetheart I uh… gotta tell you something…”

“Oh! Me too!”

“I’m a-“

“-sexual”

*cue Spider-Man finger gun meme*

He wouldn’t even care. He’d be so happy that they are ace too.

“I didn’t want you to think of me any different, o-or have to find someone who could satisfy you.”

The only “sexual” thing in Tadashi’s mind is loving the shit out of his s/o to the point of uncomfortable clinginess.

Tadashi LOVES having his hair played with. 100000% it soothes him right to sleep usually.

He loves to just cuddle with his s/o. Being close to them is enough for him.

—————♡︎✞♡︎✞♡︎✞♡︎✞♡︎✞♡︎✞♡︎✞♡︎✞♡︎✞♡︎—————

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vancilocs · 3 years

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Is kabal and zephi on the table 👀 just dont answer what doesnt apply aaand colm and naomi?

they have a Thing going on

Who's the one who's reckless and always getting into trouble while the other gotta pull em out

They both think the other is the reckless one! But not getting in trouble, just being careless. Kabal would always like to make sure Zephi gets home safe and Zephi makes Kabal promise he drives safely

Colm doesn't think there's anything reckless about Naomi going into the forest during new moon, his mom disagrees

Who's the one to send the other "I love my gf/bf" memes

Kabal sends memes appreciating rude and powerful women who kick him in the nuts

If they had phones, Naomi more

Who's the one who listens to a music genre the other doesn't like and how does the other react

Kabal is dad rock 100% and that's his playlist when on roadtrips, Zephi is welcome to suggest other songs or even make her own roadtrip playlist if she wants to, but please don't be rude abt his taste in music

They'd both listen to folk rock sampled with mushroom growth sounds and throat singing

How one spoils the other more and do they ever get competitive to show the other more love

Not really? Zephi spoils Kabal by letting him stay at her place for a night or two, he spoils her by giving her flowers sometimes

Colm spoils Naomi by giving her extra affection, Naomi spoils Colm by letting him be by himself sometimes (but makes sure solitude doesn't drive him into a worse headspace)

How many years did it take to get married or was it just not for them

They haven't even discussed being serious yet, marriage isn't a big thing for either so like. It's whatever

Weddings and marriage aren't really a big thing in the clan, people just end up together and move in together and have kids without there necessarily being a ceremony (more like just a bonfire party). They just... became an item.

Are their friends/family supportive

Yeah... mostly. Mehara is fine with Zephi, Hafza is happy for her dad, Gabriel is pleased Zephi might have found someone fun. Herah is still very dubious but also doesn't want to interfere too much, Zephi is a grown woman who can do her own decisions

Very much so, Mahran is so happy to see Colm happy and she also very much likes Naomi. Myra couldn't be more pleased, Kaede is glad and Koldun doesn't really care but he's not very close with Colm in the first place

How does one comfort the other when the other is in distress/having a panic attack/crying

Naomi has to be careful because if she spooks Colm when he's agitated he will teleport by accident and she doesn't want him dropping himself off the rooftop again. Just speak to him calmly, give him his own space, reassure him he's safe and at home. If he allows, hold his hand or hug him. If Naomi's crying or otherwise distressed Colm will just hug her and pet her hair until she's okay.

Which one dissociates

Colm mainly

Which one stares at the other's booty like "damn" and how does the other react when catching them

Both honestly and neither really minds? Kabal will just ask if Zephi likes what she sees

Neither much, sometimes it's fun to walk past and give the other's butt a pat just to hear them giggle

When they live together what kinda place do they live in? What does their home look like?

More like what does Zephi's place look like, Kabal is practically homeless lmao

Cozy and warm, not too small so it fits their kids later on as well, decorated with dried plants and wreaths and branches etc., a bit messy sometimes but it's very much a home and a very comforting place

What do their dates look like

Grabbing fast food or going to a diner after work at like midnight or 2am, maybe going to a bar for a couple, Kabal being invited to Zephi's place, he brings flowers and gets tied to a chair

Go for a long forest walk, maybe take some food along and have a picnic on a cliff or something, enjoy calm nature, have a snuggle, kiss a little, avoid werewolves,

How does each act when getting drunk

Kabal gets louder and more jovial, careful not to trip all over his long-ass legs

Naomi gets a little giggly and very talkative, will talk your ear off about the stars and bones and how you can see the future if you do this this and this under the full moon. Colm starts sobbing inconsolably

Which one rolls over in the morning to wake up the other one just to kiss them

Could be a delicate way for Zephi to say you need to leave my apartment

Naomi, but after letting Colm sleep for a while

Have they saved each other's lives before

Nope

Nah

Does one have an interest the other thinks is weird but wants to listen to it regardless

Zephi has to introduce Kabal into BDSM delicately so he realizes it's a bit more than just handcuffs

Colm might not quite get Naomi's psychic tendencies but he knows it's important to her and people haven't always believed her about it, so he will listen to whatever she has to say

Which one uses cropped hentai as reaction images

I don't think Kabal even crops it

Does one of them kinkshame the other

Kabal will let Zephi know of his limits but he never shames her

Naomi has no kinks, Colm is ace

Is one of them self-conscious about their body? If so how does the other comfort them

I don't know if either, Zephi is shy but fine about her body in general

Colm has the scar on his belly from that time his dad stabbed him he's uncomfortable about, Naomi just doesn't acknowledge it. He's not super comfortable being undressed anyways so just let him keep his clothes on and he's alright

What song do they listen to while going on a joyride

Kabal has a whole playlist of dad rock and synths for his hours-long drives

What kinda joyrides do they go on? Relaxing ones or wild ones?

Relaxing for Kabal at least, excitement for Zephi when he moves on the highway and speeds up

Do people ever get annoyed of their PDA

Herah gets annoyed at Kabal for breathing but otherwise not really? They don't really show it anyways

Never, it's just cute.

Would they live in the city or the country

It's whatever for Kabal. He'd be going on a long ride nowhere anyways

They live a bit outside the village proper, more quiet which they prefer

Are either of them mentally ill, if so how do they help one another cope

I don't think so? Zephi is just shy.

Colm is a mess of PTSD and general anxiety, Naomi is just weird otherwise but she's very quiet, calming and comforting so if Colm wants to talk she's always available to listen and if he wants to be alone she'll make sure he's fed/warm/dry at least

Does one have a spot on them where they would melt when the other kisses them there

Inner thighs, neck almost behind the ear, throat when his head is bent back for Kabal

Naomi lives for cheek and forehead kisses (and kisses on the mouth), Colm likes kisses on his head

Do they dance together

They could hit a club, sure. Kabal is not super good at it, but passable

Hum a song and sway together at home, if real happy maybe even do a little dance at a bonfire party

Do they sing together

I could see them (or at least Kabal) belting out a tune in the kitchen or something when there's a good song on the radio

Sometimes, one starts humming and the other one joins

Which one is better at cooking than the other and makes most the dinners

Zephi is probably better, Kabal sustains himself on fast food mainly

They both kinda suck. Colm can grill a pheasant on a firepit but that's about it, and Naomi can chop up a cucumber and put some leaves on top. Mahran teaches them how to make the basic casserole before they starve

Are they a reckless couple or safe

Bordering on reckless?

Very safe

What be they kinks and do they try each other's kinks

Kabal isn't aversed to milfs and femdom but Zephi had him topped (hee hee) with bondage. The rougher stuff he will need to be eased into but he's always open for new experiences

Their kinks are Love and Care and Pants On Hugging

What would be their Valentine's gifts be to each other

A bouquet, some candy and a pack of condoms from Kabal

If they knew what it was, a good dinner and flowers.

Do they get into fights often? If so, what do they fight over and how do they make up?

They're not really in a serious enough relationship to have fights

They don't fight

Which one's top, bottom, verse

Both verses, but when Zephi tops she tops hard

What kinda sex they be having

If Kabal gets to pick, just... regular with a touch of rough. If Zephi gets to pick, he's screaming for mercy by the end

If Colm's ace ass is even in the mood it's lights off shirts on missionary

Who would fight in honor for the other if someone would insult them

Kabal would get mad if someone insulted Zephi, he wouldn't immediately throw hands but he'd be very vocal like hey, apologize to the lady

Don't get Colm angry the guy knows blood magics he doesn't have full control over

Do they want kids

Naaaaah. Kabal has a grown up daughter whom he adores and who's the light of his life, but he doesn't want more nor does Zephi

Yeah and they have a couple!

#colm is a very sensitive boy.#long oc thing #but like if herah hears zephi complain about kabal even once she will call a hitman

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risquefanfics457 · 3 years

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Heya! Can I please get a Crusader matchup? I’m 5’7 and have short brown hair and blue-grey eyes I’m also pretty curvy and a heterosexual female. My personality is very stubborn and independent I don’t like new people and it takes a lot to gain my trust but, when it’s me and my friends I’m really extroverted and hyper however I usually chill out quick I am extremely aggressive to people and have gotten into plenty of fights im more on the protective side when it comes to my friends. I really love animals and want to open a wildlife refuge when I’m older. I’m also really into music and love singing and I’m pretty athletic (I took taekwondo tennis and soccer so I’m strong boi) I’m pretty shy when it comes to affection I prefer it to be private and if it is in public it’s maybe a kiss on the cheek or holding hands that’s about it however I’m private I’m pretty much down for cuddles,kisses,hugs,whatever honesty it takes a second for me to initiate tho as I get flustered pretty easy however besides the blush you can’t really tell. I HAVE RESTING BITCH FACE SYNDROME bro people tell me why are you so pissed off and I’m like what I’m fine and they go oh ya look like your plotting a murder but okay. I have anxiety and depression even though I put on a confident and happy extrovert personality I’m honestly sitting there like “ahhh I’m so awkward,do they hate me,what if I offend them,did I do something,why did they look at me like that,am I mistake,did I fuck up” and when the day ends I lock myself away and just cry because I’m not normal (GOD THAT GOT DEPRESSING QUICK CHILE ANYWAYS) ummmm yeah that’s abt me ig I’d prefer a crusader matchup (not oldseph tho I love him but- I’d be uncomfortable reading a romantic thing abt him) acK I’m sorry if this is any trouble for you

No problem at all! I’ve been pretty bored during quarantine, and I love writing for jjba characters.

I match you with...

JOTARO!

I really felt this one, but this feels perfect. He needs a person like you.

He gets aggressive too, not to worry. he understands perfectly well, he’d like to think he could get along with people, but he gets that he doesn’t really. If you can talk, that’s good, if you don’t want to, it’s okay. He can speak his mind. It’s more important to him for you to feel comfortable. Also p.s. This man lives for curves. He finds it super attractive. It looks like you are mature, and Jotaro likes his partner to not be childish and careless, plus it also shows some kind of maternal nature. He likes that you like animals too, he loves sea life and finds it fascinating. He likes how comforting animals can be. Music is cool too, he doesn’t have much of an opinion on it though. But his mother used to sing to him British, Italian and American lullabies so he loves it if you would sing for him. It makes him feel safe and secure, like he is in his mother’s embrace. Athletic is good to, if you can keep yourself fit it mean he has less to worry about. Jotaro is not a PDA in public, he might indulge in some in private but anything out of a quick peck, it’s a no. He doesn’t blush easily, he’s good at hiding emotions, well, around girls he doesn't like, but that’s changed a bit. If he sees you turning red, expect him to pull back his hat and say that classic catchphrase. Resting bitch face? Look at him. Like he doesn't have one too. He is going to be there as much as he can for anxiety and depression, he really, really understands. He’s been through a lot. He’ll pull you into his side and wrap his jacket around you. It’s pretty warm and soft in there. It can make you feel really safe, especially since it’s Jotaro, no person would hurt you here. If you feel awkward or like you did something wrong, be honest with him, he is very intelligent but has a hard time reading emotions. He wants to help, just tell him when and how he can.

#jjba jotaro #jotaro #jotaro x reader #jojo x reader #jotaro kujo #jotaro headcanons #jotaro imagine #jjba x reader #jjba imagines #jjba headcanons #jojo stardust crusaders #jojo no kimyō na bōken #Matchup

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gingus-arts · 4 years

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i did this >:) i also wrote a mini informal essay [read: i rambled] to explain my choices in depth and i will post that here because the character limit on instagram will not let me ;;;

also here is it in photos if that's easier 2 read (i,, spent all this time editing them for insta—)

here’s the text version-

“ okay so i'm gonna explain my choices bc i like talkin bout shit :D

0. their heights r just based on what the wiki said and their ages (and sexualities) r just my headcannons based on what i feel suits them, + a bit of what i've seem in the fandom

1. big spoon v. little spoon – i think kai would default to big spoon just bc shin is smaller than him & kai is protective but i don't think kai would mind being the little spoon at all, however his hair gets in shin's face when shin's the big spoon djshjfd. generally i don't think they'd spoon that much just because shin would be pretty hesitant to do something as overtly vulnerable and romantic as cuddling but kai likes that kind of stuff so shin would compromise occasionally u//u and as they're together longer he'd get more okay with it

2. lends clothes v. borrows clothes – i just think shin would steal kai's clothes and kai would let it happen. he finds it endearing (at least,, until he runs out of clothes ajdksj) [oh ya also i think they'd be roommates so that's how he'd steal his clothes u.u] shin probably would deny he was doing it if kai brought it up but it's very obvious

3. doesn't use pet names v. uses pet names – i just think shin would feel awkward using pet names shdjsj and in general show affection more with his actions than words, but i think kai would be okay with the occasional "darling" and "my love," esp if it gets a reaction out of shin

4. introverted v. extroverted – they r just both introverted 😔😔 i think they'd both like their alone time a lot (esp shin). i do think kai would like hanging out with other ppl a lot but find it somewhat draining to function in normal social situations for too long. u could say the same about shin but to a lesser degree, and it's a bit different since it's more about shin having a mask up in public & less abt being alert and not used 2 it like kai

5. affection thru words v. affection thru actions – i just think they'd both be really awkward when it comes to voicing their affections aaa, especially shin, just bc of the vulnerability it requires,, i think shin would try very hard not to make himself vulnerable after having that shit relationship he did w/ midori (ik it didn't specify what their relationship was or what midori was like but i have my hc's ajdjs)

6. confesses first v. waits for confession – i don't think shin would believe that kai likes him, even if it was really obvious that he did, without some very obvious sign. like he'd suspect it but keep denying it and not want to ask bc he might get turned down— i think kai would b a little less likely to get caught up in that because he'd be okay with shin turning him down (like,, not "okay with" per se but he'd understand why because he doesn't think he'd be much of a partner or friend in general 😭😭 so he'd force himself to be okay with it for the sake of not being "selfish") also i think kai would want to get The Feelings over with whereas shin would b like Repress Repress Repress Repre

7. screams about bugs v. squashes bugs w/ shoe – i think shin would b That Brand of afraid of bugs where u just avoid them or leave the room if they're there but scream if they come too close. kai's not afraid but i think he'd let the bugs live sometimes instead of just killing them

8. drives the car v. can't drive lol – i just think kai'd be good at driving since he's very meticulous and attentive, tho i just don't think he'd have too much experience. shin, on the other hand, has experience but is Not meticulous or particularly attentive sjfhdjdj

9. can't cook for shit v. cooks dinner – kai's placement is pretty self explanatory DJSHJF i just think he'd like cooking for shin and he also hates seeing shin drown himself in noodle cups & other store bought things when he could have An Actual Meal. shin,, has barely ever cooked so he's just Not Good At It At All

10. dislikes pda v. loves pda – i think shin would hate pda since he would even be uncomfortable with private affection to some degree (esp in the start of their relationship) because Vulnerability and blah blah blah but kai likes a little bit of it, like h*lding h*nds and occasional kisses on cheeks, and shin can live with that (even tho he does get flustered by it)

11. overprotective v. chill going – kai was (is?) legit sara's protector i think he'd have a hard time giving up the solid sense of protectiveness he feels for the people he cares about, especially when he's quite capable in protecting them. generally i think shin would b pretty chill but protective in the sense that kai can be his own worst enemy sometimes. small things like (subtly, bc he wouldn't want kai to know what he's doing) checking that kai's eating & sleeping enough, making sure no one's taking advantage of kai's tendency(? idk if that's the right word) to take care of others. generally this kind of stuff probably wouldn't be a problem but i think if kai was in a bad state he may fall into it. idk if that even counts as protectiveness tho 😔😔

12. has more relationship experience v. has NO relationship experience – THEY BOTH WOULD HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP EXPERIENCE (except shin w/ sou but that's really unhealthy so it like barely counts sjfjs) and i'd wager that they have,, little relationship experience in general. like, including friendships and stuff. i think that's neat in this case bc they're on the same level in that sense and can learn to communicate healthily and other relationship stuffs alongside each other u//u 👉🏼👈🏼 i feel like mishima would help them out in that regard a lot lol. it'd be fun if joe and sara did too 🥺

13. HORNY LEVEL – i,, i'm not sure if this needs an explanation but— i don't think shin would be too horny and kai wouldn't want to bother his partner with him being horny so he'd just deal w/ it. like his wants have just been stifled by being groomed to be used, if that makes sense

14. AWKWARDNESS LEVEL – soo if this was in general i would've put both of their awkwardness levels lower but i assume this is in the context of relationship awkwardness so YES i think they'd both be pretty awkward around romantic stuff. just not understanding what to do and how to do it and stuff sjhfdfh

15. JEALOUSY LEVEL – okay so, kai and shin are two different flavours of insecure. shin is the type where when he feels inadequate he'd get jealous or bitter / upset, and when kai feels inadequate he'd accept that he's not good enough and shy away, n he'd probably feel pretty sad about it if his inadequacy was prolonged. so, if shin thinks that kai's hanging out with others more than him and seems to be happier with them, he's going to get really jealous (and mayhaps,, kinda feel like shit about it since he knows he shouldn't be jealous or upset bc kai is happy) and maybe a little distant or passive aggressive consequently. kai would just be like "aw shin's making friends :>" and if he starts to feel insecure about how much time or how shin acts around others compared 2 him, he'd internalize it and be like "well yeah i suck so this was bound to happen. Anyway i am going to make eggs benedict and cry now" “

#kaishin #yttd #kimi ga shine #your turn to die #yttd shin #yttd kai #yttd sou #yttd spoilers #your turn to die shin #your turn to die kai #yttd kaishin #some1 pls tell me how this became my favourite ship

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babycracker · 3 years

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💖 for the jumbo asks, for all your detectives! (Very interested to see your response for tanner👀)

honestly at this stage it's almost like you're sending asks JUST to call him out lol.

💖 - Has your OC ever been in love, be it romantic or platonic or otherwise? Who with and did they ever express their feelings or keep it private? How long did these feelings persist / do they still feel this way?

answers under the cut!!

jordan platonically, yes. she doesn't get along with everyone but when she finds someone she really clicks with, friends for life. she expresses it i guess just through her loyalty and the way that she'll literally bend over backwards to make things easier for her friends if she can. adams the first time she's been in love romantically though, so it's all new territory for her. she very much keeps it private with him, but when they’re alone she’s all over him.

maya she fell hard for bobby and expressed it any way she could think of, went out of her way to make life easier for him even if it meant that she made her life harder in the process. if i’m being honest she probably still holds some kind of feelings for bobby even now. she knows for sure that he’s no good for her and i don’t think she’d ever make the decision to go back to him even if felix wasn’t in the picture, but she still finds it a difficult to stick to her guns sometimes when it comes to him. when she loves someone she’s out and loud abt it and doesn’t care who finds out. not to the point of pda - that makes her kind of uncomfortable, but she takes every chance she can get to gush about felix. you know? her boyfriend, felix?

tanner i'm gonna say no, not until morgan and farah. he didn't really have any friends growing up and didn't get his first girlfriend till he was 19. he was bullied quite badly in school and it was kinda him and his sister against the world. he's def fallen for farah though (platonically) and it's obv af lol. she gets away with doing and saying a lot of stuff that no one else can, and she tends to be able to call him out on his bs more than anyone else without him getting mad. and he’s just kind of soft and cute with her in a way that he isn’t with anyone else, and he doesn’t mind being that way in front of people. i’ve said it before, but he’s in deep for morgan (not platonically) as well, but it’s a bit less obvious just because he’s trying to keep it under wraps because he doesn’t want to risk her finding out and possibly feeling the same. i think if he got over his bs though and let himself feel the way he feels and be ok with her finding out, he’d be pretty openly affectionate. until she told him to stop being a pussy because, morgan lol.

zoe she’s a ball of affection and she doesn’t care about who sees her showing it. which is probably why she’s such a good match for... nate, sigh. but. does she love nate? she’s not sure. she definitely has some strong feelings, but she definitely has some strong feelings for adam too. nate probably suits her idea of what a relationship should look like a lot more than adam does though. she fell hard and fast for bobby, but it disappeared just as quickly as it appeared. she’s had a few boyfriends between bobby and nate and she was convinced that she loved every one of them. until she wasn’t. so, who can say for sure if what she feels for nate is actual love or not? and who’s to say that what she feels for adam is love or not?

nicole nope. lol. she doesn’t do feelings, she doesn’t do relationships of any kind, she doesn’t do outwards displays of affection. she’s the only one of my detectives who isn’t an ex of bobby’s. she’s never had a serious boyfriend, a one night stand here and there when she was younger but that was it. now this on and off thing she has with mason is just that; an undefined and never to be mentioned thing. she refuses to put a name to it and she refuses to consider even for a second that there might be feelings involved. she’s very focused on her work and her own life and having her own space, she insists that there’s no room for anyone or anything else, including friendships. who knows what she’d be like if she ever fell in love, i think she’d be very confused and awkward and wouldn’t know how to act at all.

jumbo ask game (still accepting!)

#ask kat #oc asks #jordan mills #maya puri #tanner drake #zoe webster #nicole locke

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transrightsjimin · 3 years

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big question, is the q word something that most of the community avoids or is it just wrong for cishet people to use? I'm not cis and not het and I've always used the word to identify myself. similarly, i have many many lgbt friends and we all use it about ourselves/each other and also to title the community in general. it proves to be easier to say than a string of letters. i guess i just don't know if we're behind the times or is it just dependent on the person?

i rly can’t speak for what most of the community wants or doesnt bc that’s hard to measure. it’s in general just difficult to speak of one true global LGBT community, considering LGBT was never intended as a solid group with rigid identities, but moreso referring to a coalition of different marginalized groups that sought to fight for equal rights. the labels and discourses surrounding it only make sense in “western“ or colonial cisheteronormative societies in which a gender binary is the norm. i tend to use lgbt for ease, but i wanted to emphasize here that there is not one universal understanding of / equal amount of relevance across cultures to the term LGBT. i understand that ppl prefer a different word for personal use for reasons such as this.

that aside, i’m afraid the trend is heading towards the q slur being used as umbrella term, or on the other hand, to use a long acronym despite not all groups in additions unanimously agreeing with being included, nor being faced with similar degrees of stigma and violence. ive seen both of these trends start to show years ago on tumblr and by now it has reached outside it and it’s rly tiresome bc other perspectives aren’t considered as much, and it allows in people w power over others who reinforce prejudice and make spaces unsafe, e.g. with asexuals joining GSAs in the US and pushing for PDA being banned in the groups bc it makes them uncomfortable.

i’ve been told by some dutch people that the q slur somehow isn’t considered a slur to ppl here bc it got introduced through academia while gay was introduced here as insult. but idk what to think of that, considering i don’t like the loose use of the q slur in academia (to the point where it’s used to refer to inanimate objects and random shit) nd i have not been introduced to it this way but knew it as a slur first and foremost.

and of course the ppl i spoke to who like the term and use it so liberally didn’t consider other views when they only engaged w other ppl who id more as q***r. and i’m just kinda iffy w local groups w the word in the name anyway since my impression thus far has been that these groups pose having less common genders or sexualities (and often include things tht are not oppressed in the same way tht being lgbt is, and invite in cishets) in itself as a very radical thing, even more than different labels, and i just cringe at that bc it says nothing abt politics at this point.

if anything it’s downright insulting to call everyone the slur despite being asked for years and years by others to not to do it. i dont think you followed me for a long time bc otherwise it wouldn’t be so shocking to you to come across the criticism. people keep asking again and again to not call them the q slur, nor refer to a community as a whole this way. i know ppl on tumblr have 0 reading comprehension but i get really tired of people responding in defense, as if personally attacked, time and again, “should i not call myself this then?? are you saying i’m not valid??“ (i cant see the word valid anymore since like 7 years ago, but thats another topic).

and like no, people simply ask to not be called this by strangers or have whole communities be called a slur. you can reclaim words that might’ve been used against you, but that nor the fact that it’s been reclaimed by more people over the past few years doesn’t make it not a slur anymore suddenly.

like just say LGBT for others, if it deems relevant to the context, and stop referring to strangers or a community at large with a slur that’s used against people to this day.

#asks #anon #i really dreaded answering this #bc i know im turning annoyed bc ive read nd had these convos years ago #and i know how ppl on tumblr are and too many never let go of their 'all labels r vald' era #instead of grow up and realize its not abt a vague use of w/e validity means #but abt the real life world consequences people face for being trans and/or being attracted to the same gender #such as issues of homelessness nd conversion therapy nd hate crimes nd violent policies etc etc #q slur //#transphobia //#homophobia //#i cant give short replies ever so pls dont ask me deep questions too often i rly suck at that

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ilovebigdoinks69-blog · 6 years

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Before I begin, I ask of you to NOT witchhunt Lance/kins/yega/perfect/whatever username he has now, do anything to him that will hurt him, cause him to hurt himself or drive him off of any social media platform. I genuinely hate callout culture and the such, but I felt like this was needed to be done. He IS a human person with feelings and of course has rights to be on whatever social medias he wants to be on.

Although Lance is an abusive person, I do not want the purpose of this post to practically stoop down to his level. My intentions for this is to bring light to his behavior and hopefully help people not fall into his trap.

For some context: I met Lance on Vent. For those who don’t know, Vent is a social media platform to basically… vent. Possibly the worse place to ever meet someone in my own personal opinion, but that doesn’t matter.

Anyway, we met in the Dangan Ronpa Kin group. I was shitposting and then posted a canon call bc hey why not make new friends. Essentially Lance commented, we became mutuals and everything unfolds there.

We talked for a bit on discord. He brung up the topic of his now ex-boyfriend, Tord. At first I disliked Tord due to the fact that he was abusive towards Lance. And this fact is true. However, from my knowledge Tord has never excused his actions has told me personally he still regrets them. Tord has also said he’s working on changing his behavior and he definitely is.

Lance himself on the other hand was just as bad. He has told me that Lance has constantly berated him for certain things he cannot help, has brushed off Tord’s feelings, get unreasonably angry towards him, ect ect. Basically everything you shouldn’t do in a relationship.

Here are some links to back up my statement:

https://imgur.com/a/gQ2sO (Lance getting jealous of tords abuser)

https://imgur.com/a/fDrPM (more of lance being nasty)

https://imgur.com/a/ZCMdy (Tord’s friend givin him comfort abt the situation)

https://imgur.com/a/UegAC (Lance sending one of his qpps to deadname and call tord a whore)

https://imgur.com/a/9RYTc (other various things lance has done to make tord uncomfortable n such)

There is another callout post for Lance made by Tord’s qpp that can be read here. It provides more proof of Lance’s behavior as well as some other things.

While Tord is currently trying to fix his behavior and actions, Lance on the other hand is not. I’m friends with one of his other exes, whom I will be calling H. H and I are pretty close friends and when I mentioned that I was dating Lance, they warned me of some of his actions. I was already sketchy of Lance from the first time we met. When I ranted to H about Lance, they said he hasn’t changed from when they dated. I dont remember exactly when they did, but it was possibly a few months ago. Most likely early in the year. Aside from that, that was their only testimony.

Tord has also mentioned to me that when they were in a call, Lance told him that he found no reason to change his actions/behavior and “that’s the way he just is.”

Another thing Tord has mentioned to me is that Lance dates people for very shallow reasons. In his case, it was only because he thought Tord was attractive. And as for my case, it was only because I’m kin with Kiibo. I recall this one time Lance mentioning that he loses friends quickly and I honestly understand why now lol. He treats people like garbage if they are not up to his expectations and either he drops them like flies, or the other party stands their ground.

As for my accounts; I did like Lance in a romantic sense for some time, albeit short. I’m avoiding using the term “love” since now that I think back on it, it wasn’t exactly love. Just a crush I happened to act on impulsively. Continuing on from when we first met, I mentioned to Lance that we can discuss memories. Lance replied with (his exact words. Not mine) “i dont do memories im gonna cry hhh.” Of course not everyone who is kin gets memories and I respect that.

Kin memories are not the main point of this though. Lance said this to lure me in to “be his kiibo.” I already knew this from the beginning and decided to play along. I’m a very analytical person and have a very strong intuition. Im not saying this to toot my own horn, but to back up on how I knew his intentions. I do not have screenshots of this anymore since I deleted the post from our first falling out (which i will get into in a bit.)

Moving on, all of this led to the events I stated earlier. On December 3rd of 2017, I started to talk to Tord. Initially my aim was to tell Tord to leave Lance alone since he made him uncomfortable. I told Lance that I wouldn’t be able to talk much since I was heading over to my cousin’s birthday party. I also mentioned that I would try to make the time to talk to him, but that never happened. Lance said it was fine but then proceeded to make vagues about me and then threatened suicide. The posts can be viewed here: https://imgur.com/a/QR6O9

Imgur messed up the caption for the last img but basically what went down was that I was already thinking of breaking things off with Lance. I was talking to Tord about this, as again my first initial plan was to get him to leave Lance alone but due to me thinking of breaking up, our conversation turned into the things Lance has done while he and Tord were together. Reading what I was sent made me feel revolted and gave me even more motivation to break things off with Lance. I wrote a message explaining why we (Lance and I) were better off not being together the night previous, much thanks to H’s help. The prewritten message can be read here: https://imgur.com/a/EFORS

Tord has also told me that Lance fakes suicide a lot. I wasnt worried about this to begin with since I used to know someone who used to pull similar bs as Lance did.

At this point, Lance blocked me on Vent and that was it. At first I was fine. However due to past experiences I got extremely paranoid that Lance was saying things behind my back, namedropping and all that fun stuff. I was pretty much having very bad panic attacks and HAD to at least end things on the right foot.

I asked Tord if I can talk to him. I don’t have any screenshots of this but Lance complied and we sorted things out. We were quite for a few days but things kicked back up again. Everything was fine until I believe yesterday (12/10/17). I was having a very bad mental health day and so was doing things to keep me from slipping. I was also very busy that day so I kept on forgetting to reply to people. Proof of this is here: https://imgur.com/a/k4dqr. For more added context, I made a small pda post about how much I loved my friends and that was about it. He was pretty much trying to coax me to say that I was ignoring him in that one bit, but I really wasn’t.

Today, 12/11/17, was the day we decided to cut things off for good.

The conversation is here as long as some other guilt trippy shenanigans: https://imgur.com/a/qHwwx

This was our final conversation: https://imgur.com/VPm7oKc

Him saying that I lead him on is kind of bs. I truly did like him. Funny enough he himself lead other people on but that’s none of my business 🐸☕

Anyway, thank you so much for reading! I would appreciate if you spread this around

Also, Lance if you’re readin this, my offer still stands lmao. Change yourself first and then come talk to me.

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shrubforhire · 4 years

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Hey all the flirty asks

ugh ive reblogged so many ask memes without u bitches finding them

also come off anon you fucking coward

flirty asks

1: are you single? yea 2: do you like anyone right now? ehhhhhh 3: how do you act when you have a crush? hhh honestly i dont know. sometimes i just like heavy avoid them, but sometimes i’ll tag along to things just to hangout w them 4: which gender(s) are you into? weeman for sure, & not a day goes by where im certain how i feel about men yeehaw the world is awful 5: how long do you need to know someone before you can develop feelings for them? any time span lmao usually after like at least a couple weeks til i actually realize it, but its been like months at a time in the past 6: are you usually the first one to make a move? dear god no, my first kiss was the only time ive made the first move bc im an insecure coward and a bottom 7: how could someone make you swoon? literally anything,,, when ppl do music stuff i am especially weak bc its just,, so sweet and lovely when someone plays music or sings and music is so special i could go off forever i love music 8: what’s something romantic you wish someone would do for you? love me without changing their mind a couple weeks later yeet 9: do you like pda? ,,,,,,,,,,,,,yes 10: do you get flustered when someone is flirting with you? almost exclusively,, i cant even take a normal compliment well so when ppl flirt with me i combust 11: favorite pet names?

something abt babe,, mayb its just cuz this girl i liked in hs said it to me in this really,, specific way and then i fell in love with her

12: how do you show affection? usually its more in my voice & inflection and stuff, i get kinda nervous abt touching ppl cause i dont want them to be uncomfortable so usually i just kinda open up my body language & i like speaking tenderly 13: would you consider being with multiple people romantically? i would worry abt being insecure that ppl dont like me as much, i would try it, but i dont think it would work bc im just not there yet 14: do you like playing footsies? i rly havent tried it but i kinda wanna see what its like 15: what are your favorite things to do with your tongue? i genuinely have no idea what this is asking so im gonna give an unsexy answer lmao, i like resting my tongue between my teeth sometimes bc its quirky ;P 16: do you like being kissed (and if so, where)? yea!! ive only ever been kissed like around the face & it was alright but itd be cool to try other places 17: what songs get you in the mood? hahaha,,,,, i have a whole playlist for that but uuuuhhhhhhh lately ive been feeling war! by zach callison

18: favorite massage technique? WELL i actually took cosmetology for a semester in hs so let me tell u, some nice effleurage on the forearm complimented with petrissage all down the forearm and into the palm is very nice bc no one realizes how tense their hands and arms get from being alive each day. I used to give my friends massages all the time in hs & it was rly fun 19: which spots are your sensitive spots? literally everywhere. idk why im like this but someone can just absentmindedly grab my arm and my whole body recoils lmao, like especially my inner arm area is rly sensitive for no reason 20: do you prefer when people are rough or gentle with you? both but switching between them rapidly 21: do you like to take charge or do you like being handled? i feel like theres a universe where i could take charge but id much rather be handled 22: what’s your favorite flirty move? i like,, do not have one lmao,, i guess sitting around and staring into their eyes hoping theyll read my mind,,,,,, yeah gotta work on that 23: describe a time you won someone over with flirting i dont think this has happened?? at least not to my knowledge. the fact that ive ever been involved with anyone is a fucking mystery since i act like such a fucking bottom all the time 24: describe a time someone won you over with flirting every single time? idk i fall in love with anyone whos even remotely nice to me so, its not hard? 25: vague about someone you like romantically or platonically absolutely not

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anastasiana · 4 years

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yang cantik

hooked to iflix ombak rindu starring the exotic izara aishah and one of my fav hero remy ishak n realised one thing. izara does not have great complexion. her skin isnt smooth and she has bumps here n there.

however, she still looks so beautiful. so i guess what grizzly said is true aft all, if u are beautiful u will still be beautiful even with zits all or wrinkles or sunburnt. tapi tu kalau cantik. kalau yg tak cantik, buat apa pun tak berapa nak cantik kan? so kenalah bergantung kepada kecantikan dalaman. lol.

anw, missing grizzly a lil bit. mcm kelakar takde someone to fight with. and maybe an adult i can hug. it’s crazy how it’s true when u are deprived of sth when u are younger, u seek tt something when ure older. due to lack of intimacy between my family members n i, now i will always kiss or hug my kids, or simply hold their hands to say tt i love them. same goes to grizzly but the guy is not a pda person so u will never see it happen. hurhur.

reminded me of another incident tt happened many yrs back in which i came home late n made mom cry. i was so guilty when i saw her crying tt i apologised n hugged her n didnt wanna let go but i could sense she was uncomfortable. or another incident when i saw how close my friends were with their mom and wanted tt for myself. i only hug my mom during raya as an annual thing. now i sometimes get to hold her hands as she struggle to walk. when i gave birth she hugged me too. so i can count how many times my mom and i have hugged in my life. im sure she hugged me thru my infant years and im happy those days happened. i wish sometimes i know her well enough to understand why our relationship is as such. il just blame it on the age difference? but looking at my elder bro n sis too, dont see much difference in their relationship. in fact sometimes i think mom talk to me more than she talks to them.

i dont want my kids to feel what i felt before and altho i sometimes wonder how it would be like if mom and i often hug each other or be closer and ppl will say u will regret when u dont hug ur mother enuf when she is alive, il just be content with how it is and feel tt feeling by watching my mom now huggin my lil ones.

wonder what happened in this entry. i was walking abt izara aishah for god’s sake?! kenapa emoo.

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adickktedtoyou · 7 years

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hihi i miss you you should answer all multiples of 2 !!

geez u go hard. short answers 4 u.

2: Do you ever get “good morning” texts from anyone?

nope

4 - answered

6: You’re drunk and lost walking down the road; who is with you?

probably eliza, maybe tori as well. I don’t really get drunk after the night i threw up like 10 times tho.

8- answered

10: What are you listening to?

the whooshing noise of my overheating laptop.

12: Do you like hickeys?

idrk but i think im leaning no?

14- answered

16- answered

18: When was the last time you talked to one of your best friends?

everyday bc shes my roommate

20: What was your last thought before you went to bed last night?

‘ugh i have to wake up at 8.’

22: Do you believe what goes around comes around?

yep absolutely.

24: Is there someone you wish you could fix things with?

yea...

26: What colour is the shirt you are wearing?

sweatshirt: dark blue. im not wearing a shirt atm.

28: Is anyone ignoring you right now?

if they are they should ignore me louder because im not getTING THE MEMO.

30: Would it be hard seeing someone else kiss the last person you kissed?

i think im over it at this point, but maybe

32: Are you mad at anyone?

im always at least a little irritated with at least one person so i’ll say: yes but only a little.

34: How old will the last person you kissed be on his/her next birthday?

20? 21? around my age.

36- answered

38: Are you keeping anything from your best friend(s) now?

not intentionally but im not good at keeping track of these things so maybe

40: Have you ever regretted kissing someone?

i dont wanna lie so im gonna oPT OUT.

42- answered

44: If you had to get a piercing (not ears), what would you get?

asuhaurthe tbh earrings hurt a lot and i had a lot of trouble w infection so they ended up closing up so im scared of piercings but septum.

46: Do you regret anything?

yes? is there anyone who doesnt? can they teach me how to live my life?

48: Did you ever lose a best friend?

yep still kinda salty

50: Why aren’t you pursuing the person you like?

bc im a fuckin baby but also like idk if i acTUALLY LIKE them strongly enough like i dont know them that well itsmore like a hmm maybe i could like you.

52: Do you still talk with the person you LAST kissed?

nope. such is my life.

54: Did you get any compliments today?

nope. such is my life.

56: Do you own anything from other countries?

yes! my mom is belgian so like. i have tons of random shit from europe.

58: Where have you lived most of your life?

the -not always so- good ol’ USA

60: Have you ever played Spin the Bottle?

neuuuu

62: Who do you text the most?

hmm christine, eliza, tori, marisa, or noemi. tho its not text its fb message. actual texting would be francine probably.

64: What’s preventing your current boyfriend/girlfriend from going back to their ex?

their lack of existing on the material plane.

66: Is the last person you kissed younger than you?

nah.

68: Are you happy with where you live?

yes! at home home and school home. tho my home town has like nOTHING in it despite it being HUGE and dense. like its all residential or restaurants and its boring. its p close to a lot of cool stuff though so thats nice.

70: Are you a monogamous person or do you believe in open-ended relationships?

monogamous i feel like jealousy is basically inevitable.

72: What do you most like about making out?

idk its just good >__

74: When you kiss someone for the first time, is it usually you who initiates it or the other?

“usually” is tough when theres little data to go off of but no im not the initiating type.

76: Who was the last person you talked to last night before you went to bed?

actual speaking: eliza; texting/fb/snapchat: uhh shirley? maybe?

78: Had sex with someone you didn’t know their name?

nope... the whole ace thing kinda keeps me away from that.

80: Would you get involved with someone if they had a child already?

at this point in my life absolutely not, but later in life I dont think id have a problem with it.

82: Do you tell a lot of people when you have a crush?

not a lot but im incapable of keeping it to myself.

84: Last time you slow danced with someone?

fuckin highschool tho im not mad slow dancing is uncomfortable.

86: How can I win your heart?

show me u love me and go on adventures with me. thats all i want. give me shiny things and be like “i saw this while i was walkin outside and it reminded me of you” it can be a dead leaf and ill still love it and you.

88: What were you doing last night at 12 AM?

ermm. watching gossip girl maybe? or perusing tumblr?

90: Have you ever gotten back in touch with an old flame after a time of more than 3 months of no communication?

nopee

92- answered

94: Name four things that you wish you had!

a dog

faster metabolism

ambition

extraverted friends

96: Have you ever kissed 2 people in one day?

98: Ever meet anyone you met on Tumblr?

no :’c people i dont kno irl dont talk to me really (except miki like twice and its so appreciated

100: Anybody on Tumblr that you’d go on a date with?

id go on a friend date w anyone who will go on an adventure with me ok i need adventures.

102: Are you too shy to ask someone out?

yes but i feel like this is implying that i want to ask someone out. i dont.

104: Is it cute when a boy/girl calls you babe?

“babe” feels kinda greasy so no.

106: Do you flirt a lot?

i.. dont think so?? i dont try to? but i do try to come across as a cute person does that count as flirting?

108: Have you kissed more than 5 people since the start of 2012?

nuu

110: If you could kiss anyone who would it be?

ANYONE? oh geez this is so stressful hmm what abt maybe minghao hes age appropriate and cute and i love him

112: Does someone like you currently?

if they do they should likE ME LOUDER bc i don’t kno about it but would like to.

114: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

well i think a serious relationship would be better but like i suCK at those so like flings i guess idk.

116: Are you happier single or in a relationship?

single i think its just easier when you dont gotta worry about how you think that guy over there is cute as hell or you and some guy are growing closer and your so gonna be all jealous and like ugh i hate pda bc it annoys me so like i cant do it bc i know im being annoying ugh being in a relationship is just a lot of avoidable concerns

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