#ourdeathisnotyourproperty

[taeminscoconuthead]

You know what, this makes so much sense.

Whenever people send those nasty messages, it seems as if they’re not actual Shawols and instead trolls trying to harass us.

I have a screenshot of an account who has harassed me in my art blog and as you could see, they don’t even look like a Shawol at all. (I could be wrong, but they tend to look exactly the same — also I didn’t save the message since it was very triggering)

Which makes me wonder, why are they ONLY doing this to Shawols and not other fandoms? I don’t see them doing the same with TechnoBlade, XXXTentacion or even Michael Jackson. I could name someone who has also commit suicide but NEVER gets treated like this. Etica. I’ve heard NOTHING from them and apparently he doesn’t get treated well by his fans. Never did I see a post telling them it’s “disrespectful to a deadman” but when Shawols try to celebrate his life that works for us, then all of a sudden we’re doing a bad thing.

I feel like this also plays on with the whole “terrorising K-pop fans because I’m edgy” trope. Yet, that doesn’t give you the excuse to harass someone who just want to grief in their own terms.

If they are a K-pop fan and they’re saying shit like that then, how would it make you feel if you bias passed away and then everyone treated you like shit because you’re expected to mourn and then pretend they never existed in the first place.

What if a member of Loona passes away and you’re not even allowed to say your favourite quote from them without people harassing you to “stop talking about her?”

What if a member of Stray Kids passes away and you have to pretend he never existed just to gain the approval of people around you.

What if a member of Enhypen passes away and there are people spamming his funeral pictures and clips that you can’t even go onto YouTube or Google anymore without it being shown to you.

What if a member of BTS passes away and you can’t even celebrate his life because “oh, you’re disrespecting the dead.”

What if a TXT member passes away and you have to constantly check every single person just to make sure they are comfortable to talk about him.

You could apply any group to this, and would you still like it? But oh, you was just telling people, right? No. You go up to them when they are vulnerable and start to harass them. For what?

Sorry, that was a vent here…

No, you’re totally right. It seems as if the messages are an attack on K-pop fans which makes sense due to the fact that people love to make fun of them for their music taste. This has especially been happening since the early days of when K-pop went worldwide and it has became this “alternative pop world.” I think it’s also the fact that since he’s the first idol that has killed himself, people use that to harass and terrorise others that may be otherwise trying to cope with no longer seeing their idols on vlive anymore and even music without them. You don’t see people doing the same to Sulli or Goo Hara. It’s only Jonghyun that gets this treatment.

People need to start being considerate and stop thinking that they have the rights to control how people grief and cope. Regardless if it’s a Shawol or not, they should really keep to themselves and focus on what coping mechanisms works for them. And if they’re not a Shawol and they’re harassing people for coping with death, they should be ashamed of themselves for terrorising them just because they do something that you don’t like that you’re otherwise not even a part of. They need to really shut the fuck up and know their place. They are NOT a Shawol mourning over the death of Jonghyun by referring to him as “dead man” and mentally harassing other grieving Shawols in their vulnerable state because they think they’re doing something “right” or they’re the “hero” in their story when really they’re making it so much harder for those people that they become traumatised and may need to go to therapy because of those people.

I’m not going to let that comment on hyunjin gf’s blog slide. The fact that they have the audacity to harass someone who is MENTALLY not in a good place by gatekeeping other ways to cope with FUCKING DEATH because they expect us to not treat him like he ever existed. For most people, that’s not how they cope, and it’s such a fucking unhealthy coping mechanism for most people since it could cause depression. Some people can do that whilst most can’t, and they need to understand that this is a thing that they can’t gatekeep for their own sake.

If any of these dumbasses decides to challenge me, I’ll screenshot their ask and I’ll report them to Tumblr because this terrorisation of K-pop fans needs to end. I would even bring them to the wall of shame so they can’t take back their words.

If you guys had gone through something like this, please note that you’re not alone and you don’t need to change how you cope with Dec 18th for anyone. You are allowed to grief, mourn and cope in your own terms. Remember, this is YOUR experiences and not others so YOU figure out what works for YOU and don’t cater to what those stupid delusional idiots like them say because most likely, they aren’t even Shawols themselves or even if they are, they cope with death differently than you and you don’t have to copy them just because they told you so. Please look after yourselves and make sure that you guys are putting yourselves first since mental health was the thing that killed Jonghyun, and he wouldn’t want you to be next in line.

#mentions dec 18th #vent #ourdeathisnotyourproperty #shawol #shawols #shinee #jonghyun #taemin #onew #key #minho #kim jonghyun #lee jinki #kim kibum #choi minho #lee taemin #please boost #boost #kpop #shinee jjong #jjong #shinee jonghyun #jonghyun shinee #coping mechanism #online harassment #cyber bullying #you are not alone #online bullying #online bullies #online trolls

[jjongolese]

made a video about it

#cw dec 18th #cw necrophilic content #nospace #kpop #shinee #jonghyun #rant #Youtube #ourdeathisnotyourproperty

[minatahoto]

To the people who participated in harassing a teenage boy for simply making christmas imagines on nospace, a TALKING app, about a k-pop idol who he's grieving over, shame on you. every single one of you should be ashamed of yourselves.

#shinee #kpop #jonghyun #kim jonghyun #ourdeathisnotyourproperty #nospace #boost

[dubulgeandtaebooty]

nospace is a terrible app since they’re ran by creators who supports nfts. also, the users harassed and called an 18 year old shawol a necrophile just because he made christmas imagines in a YAPPING app-

#ourdeathisnotyourproperty #nospace #shinee #jonghyun #kpop

[theokimurakk]

(CW // Death, April 19th, rant)

Because of recent news, I decided that I needed to REMIND people so we don’t make the same mistakes again.

1. If the funeral video of Moonbin gets released, DO NOT spread it around. You can make edits, just DON’T add any footage of the funeral to them. IF YOUR EDITS INVOLVES HIS DEATH, PLEASE ADD A TRIGGER WARNING TO YOUR POST!

2. PLEASE DON’T MAKE DISGUSTING POSTS OR HARASSING AROHAS WITH MESSAGES! You know what I’m talking about, quit that shit.

3. STOP POLICING HOW PEOPLE GRIEVE! IF THEY WANT TO BELIEVE MOONBIN IS AN ANGEL THEN SO BE IT! Beliefs has got nothing to do with what the deceased believes in. It’s a coping mechanism for the people who are grieving.

4. If their coping mechanism(s) isn’t exactly how you want people to cope, then ignore or block them because we should know by now that everyone grieves in their own ways.

5. CAN YOU STOP MAKING THOSE STUPID “the industry has failed them” WITHOUT ANY TRIGGER WARNINGS?

6. SAME WITH POSTS! ADD A TRIGGER WARNING TO YOUR POSTS SO PEOPLE CAN BLOCK OUT POSTS LIKE THIS! (because I want to protect other people, the trigger word will be April 19th and not Moonbin so you can continue to view your Moonbin posts as normal)

7. STOP BEING A HYPOCRITE WHEN YOU SAY THAT YOU’RE ALL FOR MENTAL HEALTH WHEN YOU SHIT ON MOONBIN AND THEN DRAG OTHER IDOLS INTO IT!

8. JUST- DON’T BE A FUCKING DICK! LIKE IMAGINE IF THAT WAS YOUR OWN BIAS!

(I might need to spam a bit because this needs to get through every single chronically online people’s thick heads! If you had went through any harassment, you can message me personally or choose to speak out whilst using the hashtag #ourdeathisnotyourproperty where you can speak out about being mistreated. Also, if you’re struggling with a lot of shit, I have some numbers you can call. You can call samaritians from 116 123 or you can message shout at 85258. There are other numbers from around the world, make sure you call them or someone you love or trust. I just don’t want the next generation of K-pop fans to go through this.)

Now get out there and make bunch of videos on how cute he is so more people can know him the way we want him to be remembered before it’s too late!

#april 19th #suicide tw #ourdeathisnotyourproperty #serious post #kpop #astro #moonbin #mental health #cyber bullying #harassment #online harassment #rant #vent #depression #astro aroha #aroha

[jonghyuns-husband]

(CW // Dec 18th, suicide, victims of harassment, violence, mental health talk)

Since I want to spread this hashtag more, I would like to talk about the Shawols that I lost over the years and bring their voices up.

Clem was a friend I met on Wattpad back in 2015 when I was 11 and she was 14. She was one of the closest and the first online friend I’ve ever had. She loved to make SHINee stories for fun and she also helped me to write better. She was an amazing writer who took great passion for her work as well as her being a big advocate for the LGBTQ+ community according to her sister who came out as lesbian a year before we met.

Unfortunately, Clem was bullied at her college and her workplace, including on her online accounts. This would occur about 1-2 month after the death has been announced. On the 15th of December 2018, 3 days after Jonghyun’s first anniversary, she couldn’t take it anymore and took her own life. She was 17.

Sam was a girl in the secondary school who was 2 years older than me. I remembered talking to her once and that was it. She also really loved Jonghyun and Onew and was a BIG fan of the group.

One day, she stopped coming to class. There was a rumour going around saying that Sam took her own life after being hate bombed for posting about Jonghyun positively to cope with the pain. The last time she was in class, a guy mentioned his passing without warning which triggered the girl to stand up and leave. Ever since then, she was never seen again. The guy thought that it was his fault, but it turned out that she was going through a lot recently and couldn’t take it anymore. If it was true, then she died on the 9th of January 2018 aged 16 years old.

Ayami was a close friend of mine since Year 1. Interesting fact, she was actually born in Japan and then came to the UK when she was only 4. That summer, she enrolled in my school where we met on the first day. She didn’t speak much English, but luckily I knew a bit of Japanese so we were able to have a connection together. She was a sweet girl that would look out of anyone who looked like that needed help. She even loved to cook and wanted to start her own sweet shop one day where she would make sweet treats such as cakes, cupcakes, brownies, cookies, etc. Fun fact, my blog @yutassweetshop is actually based on her childhood dream and yes NCT bias was also Yuta! It’s a sweet (no pun intended) tribute to the one I called noona, and yes I’ll never stop calling her that until the day I die. Never mind, she’ll still be my noona anyways.

Although yes she had been harassed around his passing when we went to school together, there were other stuff in her life that really pulled the trigger on her head. I could make a separate post talking about Ayami and what she had went through so you would know, but to keep it simple, her father did some horrible things to her as a kid that when she found out, she took her own life out of fear. She was 14.

The reason why I mentioned her was the fact that Jonghyun’s passing was one of the chain of events she had to go through in her life, and you never truly know what someone has gone through already. Even though she didn’t die over it, that still doesn’t make it ok regardless. It’s still an awful thing to do to someone who is grieving by acting like they are complete strangers and treating them like they had never once seen the man before.

Those 3 girls didn’t took their lives because they were obsessive fans, they died because they were HARASSED to suicide. I know a friend’s friend who was also a blinger that took her own life and her family thought it was because she was sad over the passing of Jonghyun. That wasn’t what happened. She was beaten up at school and was told to kill herself ever since she came back from the Christmas holidays. She ended up doing so in her room and she was so close to celebrating her 16th birthday. It was the same as Jonghyun’s. She took her own life 2 days before at age 15.

There were some people in my cousins’ lives that killed themselves too, but I don’t know them very much, but all of them will be missed. Any Shawols that I’ve missed, please leave their names below and tell me one thing you loved about them. You can even talk about their favourite song or albums.

This tormenting K-Pop fans thing needs to stop. I don’t care if you think teenage girls screaming about their BTS biases are cringe, this needs to end. It’s not funny anymore and it’s claiming lives. I could of lost my friend that I met last year just because of the dumb messages of them saying that he was disrespecting a “deadman.” It just seems so tone deaf that really, they’re actually doing the disrespecting and not him.

This is already a difficult month for all of us and I just beg, PLEASE DO NOT HARASS ANY SHAWOLS. Not just in this month where it’s his anniversary, but WHOLE FUCKING YEAR. Please treat us like human beings and stop making us change for someone who barely even knows about the guy until the news broke and now you want to be the fucking hero when you’re not.

Why don’t you do all of us a favour and just fuck off. I’m sure most of us would want that now. This is why some Shawols like me haven’t yet stopped grieving because of how badly people treated us over the years. It has been 5 years, instead of telling us to “let him rest in peace”, how about you let us “grief in peace.”

It’s like what they say, “don’t give his family condolences if you aren’t going to respect his fans.”

Never mind, I did.

Rest in peace to Clem, Sam, Ayami and everyone else who took their lives due to these kinds of people either in real life or online. Rest in peace to the main guy himself, Kim Jonghyun. Thank you so much for taking care of those lost souls for us. Trust me, this was never your fault. Don’t ever blame yourself for any of this. Disgusting pricks like them (the people who harasses Shawols) has always existed since the beginning of time.

Please don’t cry because of the Shawols that went your route but be happy since you made their dreams come true. 

#serious post #ourdeathisnotyourproperty #cw // vent #cw // dec 18th #cw // death #cw // suicide mention #kpop #shinee #5hinee #shinee is five #shawol #shawols #depression #mental health #mental health crisis #suicide awareness #online harassment #bullying #workplace harassment #school bullying #vent #trolls #online trolls #serious #harassers dni #online trolls dni

[taeminspussylips]

Since we’re nearly coming to the anniversary, I beg any new Shawols, ot4 stans, non Shawols, non K-pop fans, antis, whatever to NOT harass any Shawols for literally speaking about Jonghyun. If you don’t like him being mentioned, just ignore them.

It’s 2022. Keep the whole “dead man” in 2018. It’s just as disrespectful as you calling them out for being “disrespectful.” Let them be a fan just like anyone else. It’s not your place to speak.

#dec 18th warning #ourdeathisnotyourproperty

[jizzlingkey]

honestly i’m not surprised, but that doesn’t mean it should be normalised

#ourdeathisnotyourproperty #nospace

[taeminscheesetouch]

come on guys, we need to blow up #ourdeathisnotyourproperty in all platforms to show how unfair shawols get treated.

#ourdeathisnotyourproperty

[rensneko]

some people in this world really do make me feel sick

#ourdeathisnotyourproperty #nospace

[lucaskiyoshi]

I love how this is the pfp for the hashtag lol

#ourdeathisnotyourproperty #shinee

[taeminscoconuthead]

Hey so I made a script for a video and I want you to read to see if it’s good!

—

Imagine you was just minding your own business one random day, when you suddenly get a notification on your phone that Stray Kids’s Leader Bang Chan has past away at age 25. You’d feel devastated, alongside with all of his fans. Your bias just passed away and there’s nothing you could do about it. You’re seeing all the other K-pop fans with biases that are still alive and yet, yours are dead — never to wake up from his slumber again. You’d be grieving over what you would conceive as your loved one, since all you did was looked him until his very last breath.

Now, Stray Kids had to continue as 7. It would be a difficult number to grasp, but that’s the reality. There’s no more Bang Chan, and Woojin ain’t going to fill out this void — nor would he even be enough to take his place anyways. It’s already a hard thing to deal with, not seeing your bias in group photos anymore or even hearing him in songs. I want to ask you a simple question, does that feel nice to you?

But wait, here’s the catch.

Imagine now you just want to chat with people about the funny things Chan has done such as the infamous “you know what else is big” quote just for you to be stopped and be said “please don’t mention him.” What you said wasn’t even that disrespectful, you just wanted to say something that makes you smile, a harmless quote that has always made others feel good after a bad day.

Now you’re on YouTube. You just want to cleanse that horrible interaction by finding some funny clips of him, just to find his funeral videos being bombed to your face. It’s even unescapable — Tiktok, Instagram, Twitter and even Google Images. Speaking of Google Images, you can’t even search Chan’s name up without his death being plastered everywhere you go — even if you manage to find an innocent video would be enough to find the grieving comments sharing their RIPs to the late idol. Trust me, it isn’t just that post, but it’s nearly every single post that involves Chan in it.

Few months later, you had finally stopped crying for a day and decided to be more positive to continue this streak, so you go on social media and post something that you loved about Bang Chan — just for you to get harassing messages telling you to take down this post because “it’s disrespecting a dead man” and “how you should let him rest in peace.”

Now let me tell you again, does that feel nice to you? Me either, but this is what Jonghyun stans have to deal with every single day. We’re constantly harassed whilst having to go through the trauma process of losing our bias. We’re continually told not to do this or that and it’s giving us headaches.

Now let me tell you something, when will this end? Instead of telling us to let him rest in peace for literally making an appreciation post, when will you allow us to finally have our rest to mourn in our own way. This process isn’t as easy as you think, and people harassing us is making it even harder. That’s why we still have blingers that are still in recovery and haven’t yet gotten over it. Especially with the way he left this earth, you should especially be sensitive to us Shawols since maybe even some of them would think that it was their fault that he was dead.

Let this video be a reminder of the things that Shawols have to go through all the time and please be more gentle to those that are still healing.

Ayyy this is actually good and it also pictures how most of us feel. I like it, I think you should keep this as a script! (Btw I’m putting it as vent so it can separate from the other posts)

#mentions dec 18th #vent #ourdeathisnotyourproperty

[jjongolese]

this is my first petition, and i’m pretty hopeful that people may see it and reply- (i’m sorry if i’m not too literate — english is not my strong suit)

(cw // content mentions dec 18th, mentions of suicide and cyber bullying)

#kpop #shinee #jonghyun #kim jonghyun #shawol #shawols #ourdeathisnotyourproperty #bling bling #bling bling is jonghyun #jjong #kim jjong #shinee jonghyun #jonghyun shinee #petition #cyber bullying #online bullying #online harassment #online hate #targeted harassment #discrimination #grief #kpop fan #kpop fans #kpop stan #kpop stans #kpop boys #kpop boy group #2nd gen kpop #kpop 2nd gen #2000s

[naegashutyoassup]

CW // Update on that post

I can’t believe I managed to gather more people for this hashtag… I never thought this many people would speak on their experiences but look at us now.

Also I’m so sorry for each and every one of you. You guys really didn’t deserve to be treated like that. I really didn’t know it was quite common that it even happened to people outside of social media.

I hope I could be a great advocate for all of y’all so everyone could get heard. Also, this many people wanting to do #milkforjonghyun is RIDICULOUS. I was worried that it would be seen as disrespectful by everyone, but you guys seem to be on with the tradition. It’s like you guys still have that youthful, unfiltered Shawol-selves inside of you that was waiting to come out when it was the time.

Also if you want any updates or a nice community to be around, you should go to my friend’s blog @taeminscoconuthead and yes this is where he announces any updates and protests (if we ever do any.)

Thank you guys for telling your stories and I hope every single one of you are doing well knowing that you could help someone else currently going through it.

— 🥋

#ourdeathisnotyourproperty #mydeathisnotyourproperty #milkforjonghyun #kpop #k pop #2nd gen kpop #2nd gen #gen 2 kpop #gen 2 #shinee #5hinee #shawol #shawols #jonghyun #kim jonghyun #jjong #jjongie #bling bling #blinger #blingers #cyber bullying #online abuse #online harassment #verbal bullying #online protest #protest #speaking up #advocate #serious post #response post

[k-hoto]

You guys, check this post out!

#please boost for our shawols brothers and siblings #content warnings // #dec 18th #cyber bullying #suicide #death #// tags #shinee #jonghyun #onew #key #minho #taemin #shawol #shawols #ourdeathisnotyourproperty

[theokimurakk]

“If you are a token shawol that is harassing Shawols or justifying the harassment that shawols would get simply for talking about Jonghyun, kindly throw away your shawol card.

In fact, I would take your card, burn it into ashes, throw it into water so it could create mud, send them to prison inmates for them to eat and to digest, take their shit and send them to the farms so they could reject the offer to use shit to make compost and throw that shit away because nobody needs it at all.

I don't care if you had been a Shawol, or even a Blinger (Jonghyun stan) for 1, 5, 10 years or even since their debut. don't care if you ever made a Tumblr page where you fangirled over Jonghyun's body at age 15. I do not care if you had been to Jonghyun's concert and you were the one who caught his shirt. I don't care if you got the chance to talk to him personally and he hugged you.

The fact that you had the audacity to harass other Shawols or justify people calling Jonghyun a d3adman is a fucking disappoint not only to Shawols, but the people who you're claiming to "protect." You being able to move on from his death doesn't make you any better than anyone else, or gives you the rights to be the grieving police for all those who are affected. In fact, it makes you look selfish and a narcissist.

The world doesn't revolve around you, everyone is trying to live after this possibly traumatic event for some of them and they kept being retraumatised because of the people who harass them, and especially to those who they thought was one of their own, which turned out to be a disgusting, disgraceful of a human being, a token shawol.

And all this for what? Attention? Greed? Or probably because you NEVER liked SHINee in the first place.

SHINee would be disgusted seeing people like you — especially Jonghyun. With the way you won't keep him out of your mouth, I'm pretty sure that the very person that you claim to be "protecting" would think that you're a pathetic human being that just wants to hurt others for their own satisfaction, and maybe to please other people that we have no business connecting with.

Don't ever use the word Shawol in your life. EVER.”

— Quote by @jjongolese

#ourdeathisnotyourproperty #he asked me to repost it since apparently he’s being shadowbanned #kpop #shinee #jonghyun #shawol #shawols #token shawols #token shawol #tokenization #tokenwol #tokenwols #reblog #repost #ok to rb #ok 2 rb #ok to reblog #ok to repost #tag the op