#or my sister. or my mom & grandma.

[deer-with-a-stick]

The more time I spend explaining Tolkien lore to my brother the more I realize that Tolkien was just batshit insane

#yes the world is flat and a globe at the same time #and yes if you go off the edge you fall into the void with Satan 1.0 (assuming the Straight Road doesn't just railroad you) #he calls Valinor “The place under some trees where everyone smokes weed” and honestly I wish they would do that instead #bilbo and frodo bring weed to valinor quick #i tried to explain the miriel-finwe situation and he's so confused #“so they died and they were all sad even though they didn't have to stay dead?? but she couldn't come back because he remarried??” #“but then he dies and says 'yo ill stay dead instead' and she's find now??” #does the big God just keep making elf and human souls or do they just. appear #i told him about Gil-Galad Son of Plothole #he is quickly realizing that yes #the valar are a bit incompetent #its fine #elrond's dad is a star his mom is a bird and his great great grandma is an angel #my sister gave up two seconds in despite sparking this by asking me about elf lore #apparently she actually just wants to know about legolas but not legolas' father because of the hobbit movies #let me rant about feanorian politics it'll be interesting i promise #shut up about your elf backflips you wanna hear about nirnaeth arnoediad and the kinslayings #tolkien #lotr #lord of the rings #silmarillion #the silm #is this a shitpost? idk #he's batshit insane but the world is great i love it #we still don't know where hobbits come from #they appeared one day #like potatoes #i had one tidbit of legolas lore and that was #the guy showed up several years late in a homemade boat with a dwarf #incomprehensible screaming

[altschmerzes]

Gav, do you have anymore wriggle up on dry land holiday thoughts to share? I've been thinking non stop about the snippets you posted, the idea of the holiday season being a bit of a jolt to Jamie's standing in his new family unit in his own mind is haunting me

oh yeah i think about this sorta thing ALLLLLL THE TIME it's like... i haven't thought too much about holidays in particular but things like that being a jolt to jamie's standing in his new family unit in his own mind is a great way to put it. it's deeply destabilizing for him every time he encounters something like that, something that makes him think about it and ask himself those questions directly - who am i to them, what is my place here, how long will it last, how much can i take, how much say do i get, etc.

and a BIG one in there is uncle's day, actually, speaking of holidays :) bc i'm keeping that part from season 3 though it's obviously a little different.

this is from when i was talking to another friend (thanks to @jamietxrtt this time, another prominent and beloved enabler of me generally and this au in particular) about the way that like. roy has a hard time with referring to james as jamie's dad when he's thinking about the man at all, because in his mind, that's ted now, and that's something ted earned. (and it's a little bit roy, too. there's a whole like- he's not Jamie's Dad the way that ted is but he very much is Jamie's Parent, and the distinction is a little odd and difficult to articulate but it's very similar to how he feels about phoebe, he's not her dad but he is her parent, etc. but it's still like...... when he thinks about what a father, what a dad ought to be, he feels that inside himself more than he could ever give it to james.)

which led to like. phoebe is the one who articulates this better and before anyone else can, and that's part of the uncle's day thing, which happens when jamie is seventeen and has been living with ted (and has had a room at roy's) for going on a year. when phoebe and sarah are arranging it, phoebe insists jamie has to come, because “he’s your uncle roy too” and jamie is like :? he is not.

and she sighs and rolls her eyes like little kids do when they think you’re being dense, and she’s like noooo i don’t mean he’s your UNCLE but he’s your UNCLE ROY just like he’s my uncle AND he’s my uncle roy and jamie is like. you’re gonna have to explain this one to me in a lot more words half pint.

and she sighs again and goes well. some kids at my school have a mummy and a daddy or two mummies or two daddies or just a mummy or just a daddy or one of my friends has a mummy and a parent - she pronounces this very deliberately - which is cool. AND my friend cecily has THREE mums and a dad because HER parents got DIVORCED and then they both got married again so she has FOUR parents which is NOT FAIR. anyways. i don’t have a mummy and a daddy or any of that. i have a mummy and an uncle roy. he isn’t my daddy but he’s my uncle roy, get it? and jamie nods bc he thinks he actually does get it yes.

and she goes okay. so you’ve got a daddy. that’s coach ted. but you’ve also got uncle roy. because he’s not your daddy and he’s not your uncle but he’s your uncle roy. get it?

and jamie, who is just about on the verge of tears now, nods again because yeah. He Gets It Now.

#gav gab #gav answers #fic: wriggle up on dry land #writing liveblog #boy there is some STUFF in here with jamie and sarah and phoebe that makes me insane to think about #this fic is about how jamie ends up with this enormous family that loves him dearly and two parents who are trying their hardest #to be the best they can for him. BUT. #jamie's coming out of this also with a baby brother and a baby sister. do not forget this. #and i have some scenes with jamie + henry and jamie + phoebe that're gonna kill #(me at least) #long post #listen when i say 'my parents' i am referring to my mother and grandmother usually #so i am like #really head over heels for the family things that theyve done with roy #and that i am expanding on #sometimes you have someone who is serving as a parent for you #but they are not your Mom Or Dad Or Parent Directly #yknow? #sometimes your parents are your mom and grandma. sometimes theyre your mom and uncle.

[opens-up-4-nobody]

...

#so my mom's wake thing was today and that was a lot. not in an emotional sense but in a im standing here talking for 3hrs #to ppl i dont kno or barely kno. ya kno? but it was good bc so many ppl showed up to talk abt her #so many people. my mom made a huge impact on the school system. so many ppl relied on her. she encouraged at least 2 ppl to get their #master. for one person to specilize in helping the dyslexic after her experience advocating for 3 dyslexic daughters. she wrote and was #awarded a 10000 dollar grant for special needs and intervention curriculum. which will affect so many lives. #everyone loved her. she's gonna get a track meet named after her and a scholarship created in her honor. #she was an amazing person and she affected a lot of lives and im glad she was my mom. and she raised at least one jem in my littlest #sister who is so sweet and is a great teacher. god but there was some weird stuff too. were pretty sure her old boss was in love with her. #and there were some weird comments abt her being a strong woman or this woman doing so much and its like hm y do i detect a note of sexism #y not say she was an amazing person? y the surprise? weird comments about how pretty i looked. which yes i looked great lol. my funeral fit #was cute. we did bright colors bc it was a celebration not a dower event. and im sure it was ment well but it was a lil weird. and then #everyone was telling my grandma what a great job she did raising my mom and like god fuck off she didn't do jack. my mom was great despite #her terrible mother. ugh. but altogether it was good that everyone was able to express their love for her. it was def a day that was for #them mostly. i mean partly for us but mostly for them. none of us even cried. ay but we have 2 more parties in her honor #bc everyone loved her so much we have to do one in her hometown too. plus a personal friends get together. ugh. im so tired #i wish i wasnt the most awkward. eye contact avoidant person in the room but like ya kno. what can ya do? #unrelated

[sanyu-thewitch05]

Major TWST Chapter 7 Spoilers!!

So we all know Queen Leah is Aurora’s mom AND Silver’s mom.

But y’all that literally means our sweet 17 year old Silver is Aurora’s long lost brother that never had to experience a sister. He got a brotherly experience with Malleus and Sebek. What I’m more worried is one day someone does a DNA test(possibly Aurora’s children or descendants) and his name pops up. Or someone recognizes Silver’s face because of how similar it is to Aurora’s or Leah’s(I mean come on, we can usually tell when people are related that closely just by looking at them) Like I Can imagine it now. Also fair warning, this gets pretty sad.

🌹: *Aurora is impossibly old, hair gray* Older brother, is that you? You look just like mom said you did? I see the years have caught up to you with your hair.

🗡️: Umm? I’m not that old-

🌹: Momma used to tell me stories all about you once I woke up from that curse. HOO boy those times were wild. I wish you got to meet my father, but what’s done is done. Probably should catch back up with the princesses some time later. Anyway, we should meet up sometime and catch up on the years.

Aurora sits on a bench next to Silver.

Aurora’s descendants: I’m so sorry! My grandma/great grandma is getting old and possibly senile. Hopefully she didn’t bother you too much.

🌹: I did no such thing! I was just catching up with my older brother here!

Aurora descendants: Grandma/Great Grandma, you know he’s-

🗡️: No, it’s fine. Really. I would love to catch up someday too.

Aurora and her descendants walk back to whatever castle or home they came from. Aurora’s dreamy blue eyes linger in Silver’s mind.

#I sort of relate to this because my maternal grandma had three different fathers for my mom her sister and her brother #so I have at least three sets of half cousins I don’t know about or know what they look like #so it ponders in the back of my head there’s more family somewhere in the world and I’ve just been walking by them all this time #twisted wonderland #twst wonderland #twst silver #twst chapter 7 spoilers #twst chapter 7 #also I assume silvers dad died in the war and Leah remarried to Aurora’s father(the one with black hair) #so they’re really like half siblings but they’re still siblings

[rongzhi]

hi! i hope you dont mind me asking, but in some of the hanfu douyins sometimes women have red markings on their faces, do you know what theyre called? theyre very pretty! but why don't any men wear it tho?

The red markings are a type of makeup called 花钿/huadian. It was worn historically by Chinese women (as a makeup trend basically).

This was not a trend for men historically so you typically do not see it worn by men unless it’s in art or TV (especially the wuxia/xianxia fantasy genre). In those cases, usually the huadian signifies that they are an immortal being (deity or demon).

The only other time boys would have a huadian would be when they’re babies/children. It’s fairly popular to draw a red dot on the forehead of both little boys and girls, usually for auspicious occasions… First day of school, a pre-school/kindergarten teacher might give each student a red dot, for example, or you might get a red dot to take New Years photos… or for school recitals. It depends on where you’re from, I guess, because it might be more of a folk tradition.

#text #answered ask #huadian #花钿 #idk how prevalent the child huadian treatment is but my mom used to draw it on with lipstick for me and my sister #and one summer when i got dumped at a daycare near my grandma’s place the teacher gave us each a red dot

[sneeb-canons]

Thank you all for 200 followers!! Shocked that so many of y'all are here but glad to see so many share fun ideas & headcanons bout the same goofy lil guys :}

Not much I can add in. But! If you all have any winter-y/holiday/whatever headcanons, go on & send em in! Just for funsies :D

#idk how else to word it but like. ideas that are like December based basically #or even like January based since that's next as well #but anyway. Thank you all for being here! this is very fun to do & im glad so many of you like it too #not a headcanon #speaking of January [& also the end of December] There's a lotta stuff goin on for me then so if im late to anything that is why! #christmas & new years of course but for some reason half my family decided to have birthdays in these 2 months #I have my moms bday. My own. My grandmas. My sisters. My Dads. My aunts. #there's like 6-7 birthdays all within the span of like. 3 weeks #plus a whole bunch of other family stuff #so please forgive me if i miss a day or time

[starryeyedsuccubus]

happy mothers day to all mommies of human and fur babies ❀꫶᳜᳝ᰭ✿⃨

#my.txt #my post #happy mothers day #happy mothers day to moms of hoomans #happy mothers day to moms of fur bbs #happy mothers day to all♡ #happy mothers day to grandmas #happy mothers day to aunties with kids #happy mothers day to sisters with kids

[peachfruitcake]

Black and White, Rosemary Walten, 1974, Oil on Cotton Canvas Panel

#the walten files #twf #rosemary walten #jack walten #twf fanart #the walten files fanart #twf jack #twf rosemary #art #painting #oil painting #fanart #horror art #analogue horror #heh #:^) #this was very fun to do I’m #very glad to be oil painting comfortably again #finally out of my aunts house but now I’m sleeping on a mat on the floor again of my older sisters grandmas house #aka moms ex mil #could’ve finished this last night but cringe night beetle got into the garage I was working in and was buzzing and banging into things and #it was bugging me too much lol #hope everyone likes it!!!

[n4rval]

ough. toriel my beloved

#comics may or may not be coming #(they are i am drawing them) #why is it so difficult. not the process of drawing but something about choosing a canvas size and marking the panels makes my brain lag #okay kingdings is something that exists i guess but can we have a little old lady interaction. #need more content of wingdings actually being a part of that world and an important individual for the people around him #rather than just existing as a satellite to a handful of characters and straight up being barely acknowledged by others #specially considering he was the goddamn Royal Scientist the man genius himself #anyway toriel. their relationship would be funny #she may be perpetually confused by his mannerisms but shes immune to creepy (re: her own creepy ass children across universes) #woman always sees right through him and thinks hes the silliest thing #she knows how badly you want a family mr weirdo come now you can sit at the thanksgiving table #feels kind of bad her efforts cannot undo the debilitating loneliness he radiates however 😔 #but my favourite thing: will never Not kiss her hand #there are no romantic undertones it is just a gesture of reverence #will do it to your mom your grandma your sister. really any lady he feels he owes formal acknowledgement #and queen toriel is always owed formal acknowledgement #gugunghhuhguh. ily toriel cant wait to finally figure out how to draw you

[milkcryptid]

so i "accidentally" couldn't get plane tickets for the holidays. oh no... yeah, so sad... im so very sorry i only managed to get one for late january... yeah after the holidays, yeah after grandma's, father's and my birthdays, terrible news i know. I'll be spending them alone, no- no don't worry, I'll be fine...

#talking with father right now and grandma is already causing Situations™ #mom is losing hair with the stress #sister is hiding in her bedroom #aunties already wanna dip #and me? i just had a quiet dinner and now im about to get desert and read my beloved fics ⁠♡

[1989tv]

no bc love my family but jesus christ im so sick and tired of hearing from everyone how much i need to find someone and that if i were more outgoing i’d have more luck and that i shouldn’t be quiet and shy and this and that and omg im so tired

#it’s like. always out of nowhere too #like my mom my aunt my grandma my cousins my sister like jfc the only one who leaves me alone is my dad #its soooo tiring #like i know they mean well but week after week it’s so mf draining and i just start to feel bad about myself and like shit #i never bring it up either bc god forbid the shit id hear then #txt

[crowrelli]

.

#vent tw #death mention tw #okay I need to post this bc I’m. going to explode into a million shattered parts if I don’t #my grandmother on my moms side who lived with us my whole teen years. who I helped care for. passed last night before I could go visit her #and instead of IDK FUCKING CALLING ME TO TELL ME my estranged idiot sister just texts me basically ‘Oop she died 🤪’ #what the actual fuck #I deserve to hear from our mom? I deserve to hear like the rest of the fucking family? #my cousin did it right and said ‘call your mom’ but you just fucking take it on yourself?? how inconsiderate and conceited to take that away #how little do you see of me to not show basic fucking compassion?? #I will never not hold this with me every time I think of my grandmothers passing #I’m a fucking adult. I’ve lived on my own for 3 god damn years. and yet you can’t extend me the BASIC FUCKING RESPECT of letting me find out #the RIGHT WAY #I broke my no contact out of respect for my grandma. I promised to walk into a house I was fucking prisoner in half my life. #I looked past my pain and my trauma out of basic fucking human decency and she couldn’t wait a few hours to let the news reach me properly #and before I can even say my goodbyes she’s gone and this is how you tell me?? #she KNEW I was in contact with our mom again #she KNEW #I lived with grandma I HELPED TAKE CARE OF HER #I picked her off the floor when she fell I made her food when she was hungry I READ HER BOOKS WHEN HER HANDS SHOOKTOO BAD #I knew they were monsters but are you fucking kidding me?? this is so so low I’m in fucking shock #I thank my partner and their family every fucking day for teaching me what real love is #because after you live your whole life trying to love people who are only playing roles for the sake of appearance you can never go back to #the cold lifeless greyscale power plays they call unconditional love #god I just #I’m just so fucking tired

[lesbiansanemi]

Oh god. I have to see my family in three days

#if you guys start to see a spiraling mental breakdown starting on Christmas Eve #mind ya business #every time I see my siblings I just get more and more upset #and feel more and more bitter over my mother #it’s been 6 months since I last saw them #wonder how much has changed since then. wonder how much worse they are #also I’m worried my sister will bring her boyfriend to Christmas dinner #he’s like. fine I guess. the same kind of shitty as her but whatever #it was easier to ignore that I won’t ever be able to bring a partner when none of my siblings were old enough to do so #now that they ARE doing it. it makes it…. yeah #seeing my grandma interact with him and being happy and chatty #but knowing if I ever brought MY gf it would be a fucking disaster #unless I lied and said she was just a friend. which is shitty enough anyways #but wouldn’t even work my mom and aunt and sister would still make shitty snide comments when my grandparents weren’t around #ugh #I should stop thinking about this #I’m just making myself mad #kaz rambles

[bootyful-seventeen]

i am too mentally exhausted to even deal with this shit anymore with my mom and grandma and low key wish i'd go comatose for a few years to be left alone tbh

#had a clean up service come by to see the damage and give a quote on the estimate and my grandma wasnt having it #she got upset and started crying to them about she has only 1 daughter and is trying to help her and they're trying to tell her that keepin #all that junk isn't gonna be helping anyone especially my mom but she wasn't getting it and i said i'm not helping clean the junk that's #all around the house cuz i'm tired of it all and having to manage my emotions since i am for sure emtotionally stunted from my childhood #and have to deal with a schitzophrenic mom and an absent sister who's balls deep in denial while i'm struggling to find a job here #and my grandma always stressing me ot saying she's gonna kick me out isn't fucking helping here at all like she thinks it does #so when they left she spent all day sobbing on the phone how i'm a terrible granddaughter who wants to throw out good stuff #when i'm not gonna keep helping sell shit for my mom cuz my sister can do it as her family contribution since she did nothing since dad die #and the thing is i gave them all options on clearing shit out cuz i know this family by now and shit doesn't get tossed but it migrates #cuz i said months ago i can ask some friends if they could come down and help sort and declutter #grandma said no to that and said she'll kick me out if i do it and she didn't want to pay for my mom's shit to get moved into a storage uni #she leaves the clean up to my mom and i think the backyard got worse but she didn't call anyone to throw out the junk like she threatened t #so i call a fucking hoarders clean up service cuz that's what my family is on my mom's side at this point and the city will be called too #and she has this reaction cries all day and calls everyone to say i'm horrible and yells at me saying i'm the one killing her with stress #when she's already been doing that for months to herself when i'm just tired and possibly mildly depressed or something idk #i barely leave my room and don't go outside except to walk my dog but idk cuz my family's attittude was we don't go to doctors cuz #cuz they're for crazy people but of course it's gotta switch up for my mom and no one else and i'm just sick of it all #grandma doesn't accept free help and she won't accept help that i pay for myself with my money set aside for school so i'm done #unlike her when i say i'll do something i stick to it so i'm not doing shit anymore unless i can call a friend to help with this mess #it's gonna sound like such a horrible thing but i can't wait for my family to die so i can live in a clean home again and get help #like deep serious help cleaning and big time grief councelling cuz i barely had time to process my dad's death and being the one to find hi #and that was just this february like god i am going to need so much fucking therapy in my future it's almost rediculous #and probably say screw my mom's side and visit my dad's side a lot more since they seem to be the normal ones in this shit family tree #at least they're not stupid and leave junk everywhere where one neighbour getting sick of not being able to sit outside and enjoy their yar #without mountains of junk staring them right in the face and landing a notice from the city to clean up especially since #we have chainlink fences and at least 7 neighbours can see the backyard and everyone can see the front porch when passing by #i'm just tired of living in these suffocating households and even wanna file a report myself to kick them into gear #its horrible living like this and no one should live surrounded by junk and things they never use or even garbage

[frostysfrenzy]

Ok apologies if this is too weirdly personal but I'm curious now (again) cause I don't think I actually have and I almost find it weird. So...

#polls #i find mine especially odd cause the guy my mom was with before was close with her family. and i've met his sister several times #and grandma still gives mom updates on the guy and mom takes it to heart but i've legit never met the guy #but anyway. go for it tumblr

[lunarscaled]

Merry Christmas and happy holidays!! 🎄🎁

#* ooc. #* tbd. #i got a cute anya calander vinyl figure and some comfy pants #money has been really tight this year at our house esp since ive been having trouble getting a job #i know my mom was likely stressed and feeling upset bc she couldn't get everyone a ton of gifts #and its my familys first Christmas since my grandma on my dad's side has passed #and also my sisters first Christmas living with my mom and away from home #so overall today is kind of muddled feeling for me. #but i hope everyone else is feeling okay 💕