#my parents dont have a relationship i would want

[wayfayrr]

JRKWJFMKSKDKWDMKW HI HONEY!! Idk if the rquests are still open but if theyre not, just please ignore this one!!!

But something I would LOVE to see, is one thought that I had based on what @bokettochild said. Aryll having a crush on one of the boys!!!

At first I thought immediatly about ofc the Captain bc he is pretty and all, butbutbut reminind of me as a 10yo, I would find him pretty yes, but I would ABSOLUTELY GO FERAL over Hyrule and/or Four bc they were just my type, so I thought we could share this, me and her hihihihihi

So here's what I thought like, (Y/N) and Aryll talking about her little crush like a girls night (but the Reader dont really have to be a girl, is just for funsies!!) and Wind being all >:( maybe even a bit jealous that Aryll get to spend time alone with you hihihihihi

Just one thing!! If you end up wanting to do this idea, you can do it as a headcanons or a lil fic, whatever is better for you!!

I hope you have an amazing day darling!! You are amazing and I love everything you do hihihihihihi buh bay!!! 💚💚💚💚💚💚

I thought to do this as some little headcanons!! just to get myself back into the vibe of writing headcanons since it's been a little while <3

you're right though, she'd be the best to gossip with and have tea parties together - she's just a good little sister after all!!!

✦ gossiping with Aryll whenever you’re in winds time? She’s living for it, be it braiding her hair or showing her things you’ve been collecting over your journey. You pick her up some shells from wild’s time? Yeah you’re her parent now, that’s just how it works. 

✦ so for her to see you as a perfect role model (much to her brother's envy) it’s only natural that she’d see your partner in a similar light, after all if she wants to be like you then whoever you go for is who she’d go for right? just a harmless puppy crush on them <3

✦ so expect plenty of moments where she's pulling you aside to ask for advice about relationships, and if you ever try to go on a date then it's not a rare thing to spot her in the distance watching the both of you.

✦ while she tries to keep it more subtle at the start out of embarrassment for crushing on the guy you're dating, asking little none specific questions. but eventually it grows to outright asking how the two of you got together and such.

✦ dating four? She asks how you handle how he’s usually at the forge and what if you like sitting there with him, 

✦ Time? She’s asking what it’s like to be dating the hero of time (she’s grown up hearing legends of him, of course she’s going to be all over the chance to learn about him)

✦ Warriors - The pretty boy, the one who looks like the prince charming in all her books. No way is she NOT going to fawn over his handsome face.

✦ then hyrule? How could anyone not be in love with the fairy boy, when he’s able to make himself sickly sweet and appealing - it’s not like there’s any other reason he was so good at getting information from people. Not that he’d want to manipulate you of course, he just can’t help his natural charm. 

✦ if you're with legend then she's a little curious how you fell with his hard outer personality. Not that she thinks like that for long with the things that you can tell her about him. 

✦ And you’re right, wind is a fair bit jealous that his older sibling is having their focus away from him so often. Don’t get me wrong he’s so glad that the two of you are getting along but it wouldn’t be hard to include him more right? He looks at you like a kicked puppy until you let him join. He WILL gossip.

#this was a cute little set to write!!! #thank you for the idea love!!/p #Sorry it's on the shorter end though #linked universe x reader #link x reader #linked universe #loz x reader #the legend of zelda x reader #legend of zelda x reader #lu wind

[skunkes]

what they dont tell you about being incredibly introspective is that you'll think you're done making realizations and then you'll just make more realizations always all the time forever

#dude. guess who just found out the reason he's incapable of imagining himself in a good relationship #is bc he's never witnessed any growing up. #my parents dont have a relationship i would want #only one of my siblings is married and her husband sucks. other has never dated while ive been alive (im much younger) #+ my other sibling had. a strange relationship i wont mention details of but this was also like 5 yrs ago and he hasnt dated since #i have very few close friends and none of them dated as we grew up either #or even with some its like. i wldnt want your relationship lol... #the only Good relationships i see are online from ppl i follow. and then i cant trust em bc we only see the Good Parts #so like. do they even exist... i dont think so.... #if i wasnt starved for physical touch id consider throwing in the towel permanently #but idk maybe ill buy one of those pillows with the arms that wrap around you #and a few more **** and try and cope with it in kenland or al's farm forever #talkys #im still 100% serious about ppl who have good relationships being lucky bc i feel like #the chances of finding someone you mesh with and are attracted to and can communicate with. are so slim. #i can barely ever find someone meeting one of many requirements. i can barely make friends. etc

[wojtekaneko]

It was his brother's idea.

#jc is not mad hes just embarrassed #also he can be ace or aro or both for me #but visually hes literally a walking ace flag #mdzs #mo dao zu shi #the grandmaster of demonic cultivation #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #jiang cheng #jiang wanyin #wei wuxian #wei ying #mdzs fanart #aroace jc is so important to me you dont even know #i think its interesting when a character that has a responsibility to have a child and cant do so without forcing himself #like yes hes already shouldering a lot of responsibilities left by his parents #but also because of his parents i doubt he would want to be in an arranged marrige #so hes always looking for 'a perfect match' he could have a fullfiling and real relationship with #only for it not being possible for him in a first place #...sorry for so many tags i had thoughts #my stuff

[reigningmax]

not people getting mad at max for not publicly shaming or shit talking his dad?????

#my post #what the fuck do you want him to say #'my dad is a dick and shouldn't have said anything'????? #cause THAT would have gone down well sure. #'he should be critical of his dad' #its not his job to do that publicly to satisfy you :) #his trauma is not for us to judge how he deals with lmao #do i hate jos? yes. do i think just cause we do that max should too? no. and do i think people on tumblr get all high and mighty about #parental relationships? also yes #it is not YOUR dad is it? you want to tell your dad off publicly? go ahead #he doesnt have to do it just for publicity sake #you dont know what happens behind closed doors bro!!!

[llumimoon]

me pulling out a whiteboard: okay so here's how us sparrow apologists can still win-

#cal rambles #dndads spoilers #OK BUT SERIOUSLY THOUGH #at some point Hero's training stopped and they stopped going as hard on her right. #like she would NOT have the time to have a part time pizza job and a NASA internship and be a weeb and a gamer if that was not the case #and i genuinely believe at one point Sparrow realized this was not what she wanted and backed off #leading to the kiddads focusing more on finding a solution themselves instead of involving Hero #OKAY thats my thought process #also think Lark was the main one training her tbh #like Hero's relationship with her three parental figures are all strained #and im not saying what they did was RIGHT or that it makes up for it #but like. Somehow at some point Hero was set free of her duties and someone had to be the one to let her go #and I dont think its Lark 'gets really intense about killing the Doodler' Oak #ALSO SOMETHINGS UP WITH REBECCA

[bluesidedown]

....

#dating is so so scary so often for me #because when it comes right down to it i can hold every other relationship at a certain comfortable distance #that i cannot maintain with The Boy and still actually grow #realized tonight that the idea of having him spend time with my family and having to see and hear their reactions to him #scares me so much im pretty sure it makes me shake a little bit when i thimk about it #and the thing is it's not because it's him specifically. most of my important non familial relationships would make me feel this way #its just i dont HAVE to introduce my friends to my parents. it doesnt matter if they never get comfortable with my family. #i can compartmentalize there. #but i can't with The Boy #not permanently. not if i want him actually in my life long term #honestly please pray for me about this. it scares me SO much and idk how to change that

[birb--birb]

What kind of love are you?

Violet: Love as a Threshold

Your love does not ask for much. Your love does not take. Your love is free, and unquestioned, and here for wherever needs it. When you fall in love, it is as gentle as a breath in the night. It is quiet, and it is effortless. It is tender. If your love was a house, it would readily welcome all who come through. If your love was a hearth, it would warm the hands of whoever stopped by, whether for a day, a month, a year, or forever. When you fall for someone, it is without strings, without conditions, without need. You love for the sake of loving, for the sake of caring for those who need it. You love with a giver’s heart and a giver’s hands and are made so much stronger for it. Being loved by you is to always feel at home. Your love may not always be well-received by those unprepared to linger, but it is unforgettable all the same

The second I saw this answer for Violet I knew it was perfect. Their entire romance with Astarion was about patience. Waiting for him to realize that he's truly safe with them, that they doesn't expect anything from him, that he is in the lead here and they'll follow only when he's ready and okay. And waiting without judgement, Violet knows these things take time and they were more than willing to wait, to be there, to just sit and exist with him while he figures shit out. And when he truly let Violet in, I like to think it was like with a comforting sigh, the feeling of coming home, that feeling when all pressure is lifted and you can just *exist* without fear, without judgement.

Violet has seen violence and hatred and yet chooses to show up for those they love as a place of calm and stability, without judgement, without expectations. Violet's love is patient, it doesn't expect anything back but will give you everything just because we all deserve to feel warmth and safety. They feel so much warmth in their heart that they were able to help Astarion get to a place where he feels safe. I think even if they didn't fall in love or end up together, Violet would have still shown up for him in the same way. They know what suffering is like, they've gone through enough of it themselves and come out the other end alive. They know how much it hurts, but also how much easier it is with someone to lean on.

tagged by @cleric4vampire ty for enabling so many feelies about my bbys

Tagging: @justabiteofspite and @dragon--sage (I know yall were already tagged but doing so again for funzies cause I'd love to hear about your Tavs/Durges) and anyone who wants to join in, please do!!

#I kinda went off in the tags I'm so sorry (not really) #oc #Violet #Tav #astarion x tav #bg3 #I know this is about my astarion romance but I'm constantly thinking about violet and halsin also #how quiet and strong their love was #violet and halsins love would be like your parent tucking you into bed after you fell asleep on the couch watching late night tv #but they both knew a romantic relationship would be selfish #theres no way in hell violets monogamous dont get me wrong but they wanted and needed very different things #violet's warlock patron isnt like mizoura but they do have orders and a contract still #so i like to think they have this sadness of what could have been #but also joy for what they both have now especially after the epilogue party #the epilogue gave me so many feelies about them yall I cried #I remember going through Cazadors dungeon and just thinking about the absolute pain violet felt seeing how much astarion was suffering #they wanted to just protect him destroy everything burn it all down anything to make him stop hurting #but they knew he had to face this. and they didn't let him walk away from it #sometimes love is facing the hard things #sometimes its calling your sins by name #but the key is that patience again #you can't force someone to get over their trauma- recovery is not linear #and it doesn't make him any less worthy of love #boys got a lot to unlearn but violets not gonna push him away because of it #they're really fucking proud of him #and I know they're out there finding weirdo artifacts and exploring the shit outta faerun together #Astarion

[br1ghtestlight]

honestly a lot of those "protective partner" tropes/prompts/imagines just feel abusive and controlling to me. like the idea that another person is gonna TELL YOU what you're allowed to do and who you're allowed to see because they "know better" and get angry if you disobey them?? and they have anger issues and get pissed at your family or even YOU. like I know it's mostly for people in abusive situations or for people who haven't really been protected irl before but it feels so gross and uncomfortable. like even "I'm not ever gonna let anyone hurt you again" or making it seem like they're the ONLY trustworthy person. you should want to build a strong support system!!!!

loving someone means respecting them enough to Let them make their own decisions, even if maybe they aren't always the best ones

#also I have been abused and unprotected and abandoned before and it still feels very. eww to me #i dont LOVE how bob's relationship w/ linda's parents was handled in the airport episods but i really respect #that bob respected linda enough that he let her make her OWN decisions about her family and relationships instead of trying to control her #him starting shit w/ her parents and being overprotective of her would have made him weirdly unlikeable like just #there's a level of respect #and autonomy #I never want my zeke and tina fic to feel like one of them OWNS the other #txt

[justinefrischmanngf]

waiting for a call from him that might not come bc i know he’s busy but i hope it does ! going to ask him soon if he wants to see me the weekend i get back and it’s sweet to know that the answer is yes regardless of whether or not it’s possible !!!!

#i was so worried for so long that i would be in my first relationship and wondering when it would end bc first relationships dont tend #to be like. super long things and whatnot. #and i’m not saying i’m like. planning our wedding or anything. (he sent me a meme abt weddings this morning. hence the thoughts) #but i am saying that i feel weirdly secure in this and it’s scary to say it but it’s the new year and i am trying to be more open and #honest and affectionate !!!!!!!!! and really this is tumblr i can be as unhinged as i like #but like. idk. i am not saying this will last forever and i’m not even saying that he’s my boyfriend bc we havent had that discussion yet #but he HAS told his cousins about me and i HAVE told my parents about him which is a huge huge thing for me #and i am saying i want this. so much. and i am saying that maybe i can just trust it for awhile

[minamotoz]

i think it was like. a genuinely evil creative decision to have shawn hunter marry the gender swapped narrative equivalent to his dead neglectful father in girl meets world. like theres no way to go around it katy is explicitly to maya what chet was to shawn, that is purposefully set up by the writers so i dont understand why it was then decided for the two of them to end up together.

#girl meets world #boy meets world #shawn hunter #my thing with shaty outside of just the bizarre implications of having shawn marry a genderswapped version of his dad #is just that one image of cartman saying he uses any pronouns. He would not fucking do that #he wouldnt marry a woman hes barely known a year . he just wouldnt do that #u cant expect me to believe a character with such deeprooted issues with intimacy and attachment #and a very well known history of being incapable of comitting #would just get married to this one woman because he relates to her daughter and feels parental towards her #the shawn/maya dynamic js a whole other thing i just dont buy it at all. no chemistry in the slightest #but like. u really want me to accept that he wld just do that #the only way i can rationalize it in my head is if its another example of him chasing after what cory and topanga have #bc just like how cory attempted to emulate shawns romantic endeavors in childhood #in their late teens and well into adulthood shawn is just aimlessly chasing what corpanga have #that was his whole MO dating angela. he is always pining after this idea of being Like Cory and Topanga #helping push the idea that their relationship is Ideal and Perfect bc its become such a constsnt in his life #him rushing jnto a relationship with this woman he hasnt known all that long #Could just be a way to mimic the way cory and topanga also rushed into marriage #anyways sorry that all roads lead back to shory adjacent conspiracies #i just dont like shaty. Whoops

[suckishima]

rrrrrrrrr im so frustrated with my writing. its just been weeks of struggle and whyyyy. idk i think i need to rework or rethink what im going for with this one or something, its like i can feel the threads of the themes i wanna do are sooo close to tying together but it just isnt quite reaching yet and so it reads like a stilted bland mess but the more i stare at it the further away it feels aaah

i know it can get there i kNOW it can, the ending and like aha moment is so cleaaaar that i think its almost too solid and thats why my beginning feels so fucked—like i just keep asking myself 'well if hes gonna get there in chapter 5, whats stopping him from getting there now in chapter 2??' i tHOUGHT i had reasons but now that im there i just keep instinctually writing him to have the connecting/realization moment anyway and like. if that's how it is then what even IS the story??? i need a break

#leaving for my parents for christmas tomorrow and while its always a little lowkey stressful there esp during holidays #itll be nice to at least have a different stress than this one for a few days lmao #mandatory writing break coming at a good time ig #anyway a lot of the real problem is that a big reason i wanted to write this fic is bc i wanted to explore tsukkis mental space during #the ball boy arc bc i feel like its an interesting transitional time for him in terms of like being after his big moment but then #he slightly regresses in that post match bathroom scene until yamaguchi sets him straight and like. i love just how furudate is showing #that growth isnt linear and so i wanna explore how tsukki would feel during the camp (which he didnt seem stoked to go to) #and in contrast with hinata who couldnt go but weasels in anyway and like how does tsukki deal with #that intensity of stupidity and passion in regards to how he feels about his own relationship to volleyball now #like i dont think its a straight line from blocking ushijima -> admitting yeah sometimes volleyball is fun #i think theres some wavering in there and oooo i wanna explore it but FUCK its hard?? #why furudate why does tsukki deny extra practice the first night of rookie camp but accepts the second night?? #i know why he accepts night 2 im excited abt that. i'm big time struggling with pinpointing why he says no night 1 in a way #that doesnt come off like 1 hes fully regressing 2 like im having him say no purely bc thats how it is in canon so magical ~plot reasons~ #truthfully furudates reason is probably just 'was funny to have tsukki and kunimi say no in unison' and it isnt out of character for #tsukki to say no either but i also can feeeel it i can feeel the threads of a solid character developmental reason that will fit with #all the OTHER stuff im also trying to do lmao #i just need to piece it together in the right way in the right order and right emphasis #and its so cloooose rn but ugh it just feels wishwashy atm #and so. i struggle lmao #eesh anyway fun tag rant yay #heres to hoping not thinking about this for a week will help #x #....who wants to take bets on whether ill delete this later lol

[kn11ves]

world is cruel but my grandmother's dark brown skin is warm and shes old enough for her hair to be peppered grey and white and theres so much strength in her bones when she squeezes my hand when i sit on the edge of her bed and the skin of her palms is hard and smooth and i get to talk to her and hug her. so consider that

#you know the reason why i even chose pedrisco as a last name was because that was the last name of the side of her family that took her in #and protected her after her mother died and her father abandoned her #i wish she was younger and she could show me where she used to live at the ranch but sometimes she talks to me about stuff like that and #thats good too. i like her very much #i forgive her for inflicting childhood catholism on me maybe. sometimes #well anyways i think its funny my mother was CONVINCED she would haev a FREAK OUT over my piercing my face and she litearlly did not say a #single thing except when my aunt asked me if i was gonna get more and i was like well i want tooo but i know im not and my grandma from her #bed was like 💔dont get more and we were all laughing but yeah im probably not gonna get more #but that was all i told her my grandmother wasnt going to have a freak out but she didnt believe me well whatever i like my grandma she giv #me fruit and soup. forrrr meeeeeeee #i dont ever get to talk about good parent stories like other people but at least i have very healthy relationships with my grandma and all #cousins aunts/uncles so it definitely makes up for it

[code31-onthedancefloor]

i have a kind-of version of my own Ulixes backstory that is wedged halfway between middle class and working class. this is mostly just abt his family’s economic status and im still workshopping it but here is a summary anyway:

Ulixes' family, in the economic boon of Revachol a few decades prior, became comfortably middle class. They afforded the purchase of a pretty big house in the less-wealthy areas of East Revachol. This was entirely leveraged on the faith that industries the family's working men were established in did not fail. I imagine those business were stuff like architectural planning, plumbing - shit like that. The family had a bunch of kids, the house mortgage was paid off, the Bücher family Own that house now, blah blah blah. Of course, profitable revacholian industries eventually failed spectacularly and everyone went out of business and could barely find work. Their finances slipped from the Middlest of Middle class down to lower middle class at best, then right on the line of working class. No longer able to afford maintenance, parts of the family home slowly fell into a state of disrepair as the older generations aged out of the workforce and the new members just couldn't manage the upkeep of the place on top of struggling with job hunting, etc... I'm thinking Streetcar Named Desire-type backstory here. The family still hasn't sold the house, because it's basically the only thing they properly Own still. As for family dynamics... It's a lot of 'legacy' type bullshit that gets thrown around. Attempting to outdo each other with slightly higher-paying jobs, skipping meals to siphon away little piles of wealth that would barely pay rent in Jamrock for a month. Realistically, no one will ever rekindle the wealth of their families' yesteryear - all they have is an decaying husk of opulence, and a few pieces of jewelry to sell when there's another famine. Ulixes probably works part-time somewhere to afford to bunk outside the family home. Perhaps his father also regretted selling something whose funds he used to put Ulixes into further education. Something like parental expectation, 'sacrifice', and - in their minds - a last-ditch attempt at scrounging a 'respectable' middle class wage for the family, as they age. Something like sacrificing material heirlooms; sacrificing Ulixes to the free market in order to get put into a decent carehome. It's nothing but tragic.

#That Boy Has Complexes! #wrote this in like 10mins its a bit sloppy but eh #for this... what originally drew uli to inframaterialism is his disillusionment with his family #his relationship to his siblings is kind of... 'what are you doing here. arent you supposed to be studying or something?' #he isn't fuck the world/pissfaggot's level of poseur. at least in my brain lol #also i dont really want to touch on ulixes' parental/familial dysfunction in this too much #partially because i would need to read about that kind of thing first before i trust myself to write it from a place of truth #there are some details which might not add up but all i have in my mind rn is a big decaying house #with plenty of empty rooms. leaking pipes and broken floorboards everywhere #the haunting of hill house but more ex-Middle Class i guess afdgshfsgt #also i Know his last name isnt necessarily bücher. this is just for the sake of simplicity. fucking... mister books. #txt #ulixes bücher #echo maker #disco elysium

[capaldiera]

man idgaf about what treville and richelieu have going on (mostly nothing) (they dont like each other but they work together a lot bc of their jobs.) (i guess treville holding onto a sense of honour whilst working with the cardinal is interesting but like that's not. thats not really those two having something interesting going on). lets talk about the king and the cardinal man.

#the way the king sometimes resents the cardinal's influence but is so easily manipulated to feel lost without it. #the fact that he'll openly acknowledge the cardinal wants him to rule unfairly and play favourites. with a fond look on his face #''i will disband their whole regiment if that's what it takes to make you happy. only please don't leave me alone'' with tears in his eyes #all of which was exactly what the cardinal was going for and he just gets away with it! #the queen finds out he was trying to have her Killed and she says yeah fuck you obvi but i wont tell the king tho bc he loves you ? #i'm not saying any of this is like romantic to be clear lol. it's just very interesting #i mean i dont think it can probably be categorised really. but im definitely not calling it that #it is super interesting though the way the cardinal needs to undermine the queen and place himself closer to the king to succeed in his aim #it would be somewhat appropriate for sure to say its kind of a parent-child relationship in some ways but that's definitely not all of it #in terms of the way the king relies on him and his guidance. but again thats not all of it and he's not a child. or not actually a child. #and i could say this about any of the relationships between men on the show but of course Because they're both men that means the #Possibility of it being anything but fully platonic is not something he can acknowledge and for that reason whether it is or Not there's #still going to be a level of repression and denial that just complicates things. even though/if theres not truly anything to deny #meanwhile honestly i think the cardinal is personally being normal about it even tho he's a freak about a lot of other things #i mean idk that was my impression. i am sorta-watching through s1 again so maybe i'll develop my ideas on that #anyway #me.txt #musketeers posting

[barnbridges]

i think being autistic is like. i dont even have an attachment style. i dont even have attachments bro.

#um something under-represented is that #in my experience (and very theorized by actual physicians) most autistic people have an inferiority complex #that is innane simply to how. we are treated in this world #and how often we face rejection or being misunderstood or being generally different #and this severs greatly our ability to connect to people and how we form relationships #because you always um think there's innerly something wrong with you (and there is) and #i cannot i think define my attachments because i have such insane trust issues #i dont think anyone really cares about me or wants to be my friend or be close to me #i don't know how people think of themselves as my friends #because im such a lingering malignant figure #youre like but isnt this inner no bitch #usually i think my parents also hate me and everyone in my family hates me #i am very prone to um #my mother just pointed out that i seem sadder than usual and im like how do you KNOW #my rational brain knows my mother (as narcissistic and awful as she can be) loves me and has proven it to me time and time again #but my irrational brain is like she cannot possibly ever love me why would she love me #its um. i think literally all of us have this insecurity and instability thats just inherent #idk #which is also why i lose friends i think

[cosmicallyavg]

being a closeted queer person is always just saying “yeah idk im just not interested in dating” or “im not really looking for anyone rn” “i like being alone” and all of these other excuses and so everyone genuinely believes youre not interested in relationships and some of the stuff they say because of that just really hurts because its like... i Want those experiences but i cant talk about them in the same way as you. i cant risk saying something that i shouldnt. i cant make myself lie so i just say im not interested

#coworker today was talking about how she wants to have a boyfriend. that she misses the attention of it and everything #wants someone to care about her #and she goes #'youve never dated anyone so you dont know what youre missing out on' #like oh you have no idea how much i know im missing out #ive never dated bc im in a small conservative town and still live with my parents #and i cant date who i would want to #the people i want to date dont exist out here #if it werent for my circumstances i probably may have dated someone by this point in my life #you got to experience teenage love and i didnt #i can never have that back #its gone #believe me. i want to know what its like #and sure i would love to talk to you about it but #if i talked about love and relationships i would out myself #we might have similar ideas about love but we're picturing different genders here #the best i can do is stay neutral #but i cannot make myself lie and talk about boys #so i just have to act like i dont care about love #and so thats how people see me always #that i dont want a relationship and all this #which i mean #its not really a priority of mine i dont think? even in the grand scheme of things #but it would be nice #it would be so nice #anyways #long rant #will probably delete #whatever