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velvetvexations · 2 days

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thinking about the "gender affirming lateral misogyny" thing again and like. it's totally the way they do it too, like when i was growing up and still identified as a girl i always got way more abuse from girls and women than boys and men, and i always noticed the specific ways they were nasty to me were usually different, like oftentimes girls would add this air of pretending like they cared about me in some way to make what they were saying seem more legitimate and hurt more (and it worked!) and it seems like that's exactly what some of these women are doing when they say things like "these people don't care about you" while insulting you, like they're acting like it's for your sake when they actually just want to take you down a peg for acting different than they do and it's really transparent lmao

And they call me a crypto-TERF when I provide them all this free gender euphoria. Wild.

But I've also met more transfems who aren't like that, and am making friends with them, and it's nice, you know? Like I've said, most of my friends have usually been AFAB trans folk. Until last year I'd only ever known two AMAB trans people. Joining a particular server helped me meet a few more and now Tumblr is introducing me to yet more.

It was never that I purposefully selected for that. Like I would just join a server, like the main server I've hung out for the past several years, that had nothing to do with gender or general queerness at all, and I'm like, the only AMAB person among very many transmasc and non-binary AFAB folk, plus I think one woman who may or may not identify as cis, I should ask her.

It made me sad that people like me seemed so rare. But, also, it gave me this sense of how deeply unfair representation and platforming of transmascs are, because in my experience you simply can't throw a shoe without hitting one, but you'd never know that going just by what you see reflected out there.

If I am to any extent some kinna actual pickme, if we give that assessment any bare minimum respect it doesn't really deserve, it's because I've known so many great transmasc people who have treated me so kindly and constantly made me feel safe and supported with them. I've always felt honored to be accepted by them. And even now, like, just look at the support I get here! Why shouldn't I want to be picked by cool people, right? It's not about what they are, it's about who they are, and reciprocity.

#transmisogyny

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bbyobbyo · 1 day

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Everyone thinks Vernon is always at your place because you feed him. While you can agree it's mostly true, there might be more to it than meets the eye.

content: fluff, f2l, mentions of food

wc: 1.6k

notes: me taking a stab at writing lol. i also don't know how tumblr works. inspired by the fact that this man will eat everything in sight regardless if its someone else's food or not. i'd love to cook for him someday ❤

6pm on the dot. You don't even have to check to know who it is.

"Hey, Sol." You look up from the pot you've been stirring to greet your visitor who let himself in. Your apartment's passcode was practically muscle memory at this point.

"Hey, smells good in here," he comments while taking off his shoes, "I mean — it always does but you get it." You give him a little chuckle in response.

You hadn't been friends with Hansol for very long, but when a mutual friend decided to introduce you two to each other, you instantly hit it off. The whirlwind of a friend group you now shared was filled with strong personalities and quirks: Seungcheol was the self-proclaimed "dad" of the group but you'd swear he would whine and complained more than the rest of them combined. Seungkwan, the one who always had a sassy quip to share, but would be the first to cry at Disney movie nights. There was Jihoon, who showed his love exclusively with acts of service but is so tsundere he would rather die to admit he had any kind of emotions besides annoyance. Not to mention Soonyoung, who made it his mission to convince everyone that he was a tiger. No one knew how this bit started but everyone finds it entertaining nonetheless.

Amongst them all, Hansol was just a dude. A normal guy. As funny as it sounds, that's what made you two click so well. Not that he didn't have his own aspirations (and his own fair share of quirks!), but he had always been the sort of person that was along for the ride. Although a little bit clueless at times, you could tell his heart was in the right place.

"I brought dessert, by the way," He plops a plastic bag onto the kitchen counter, his cheekbones pushed all the way out in a smug grin, "hope you like it."

"Aww, Sol you didn't have to!" delight in your eyes as you wipe your freshly washed but still wet hands on your pants and scurry over to peek inside the bag. "Oh my god, this is that tiramisu from that bougie place, isn't it?! I heard the wait times were, like, over an hour. You're insane for this, thank you so much!" You're practically beaming as you put the dessert in refrigerator, promptly turning around to give him a hug. His hands automatically reach around your back as you bury your face into his chest. Man, he will never get tired of the way you smile at him over the smallest things.

"You're always feeding me, so it's like, the least I can do really" he murmurs as you let go, his own smile spreading across his face when you look up at him.

Right. Your relationship with Hansol was rooted in the fact that you both loved food. Cooking food in your case, and eating it for him. It was a match made in heaven, really. In the beginning stages of your friendship, you always noticed how he would always ask for bites of other peoples' food, the way he would eye a bag of snacks if anyone dared to bring them out, the "you gonna finish that..?" that would inevitably follow the conclusion of every meal. The guy was a human trash can with a black hole in place of his stomach. So really, was anyone surprised when Hansol practically attached himself to you that day you brought in those homemade baked goods for the friend group?

After that day, the rest was history. His insatiable hunger and the lack of his own cooking skills (poor dude would be consuming toast everyday if he didn't eat out) made him worship the ground you walked on whenever you fed him. In turn, his enthusiasm for your cooking and willingness to give honest feedback on your experimental recipes made him a regular guest at your apartment, much like today.

Hansol would be lying if he said he didn't feel like he was taking advantage of you sometimes, no matter how much you insisted that it wasn't the case. He always tried his best to chip in for your groceries or pick up ingredients when you didn't have time. He didn't even mind the way his friends teased him for being at your place more often than his own or the fact that you gained your own nickname among the guys as his personal chef. He was happy with your little arrangement, and it also helped that you were so easy to be around.

"Hey, can you help me set the table?" you say as you push a stack of plates and tableware toward him. Your attention is quickly pulled away again as you go to plate the food you've been laboring over the past hour.

The routine is a familiar one: sitting down across from each other with a wide array of dishes and sides in between. You always make him take the first bites; "I already taste tested everything as I was cooking, silly!" you would say, eyes focused and hands tucked under your chin eagerly awaiting his reactions and thoughts.

Today's meal was a hit, as it usually is. Hansol could count less than a handful of times that he didn't love your food, and even then he still ate everything despite you telling him that it was okay if he didn't finish it.

The next part of the routine, however, rivals even the food in his eyes. Both of you are glued to the chairs chatting away, even when all the food is long gone and empty plates remain on the table. Between you two, there was always something to talk about. Tangents turn to into more tangents turn into "remember when we…" turn into "we should totally do…" Hours can pass by before one of you even remembers that there was dessert in the fridge, and even more hours before either of you get up again to go wash the dishes. When that happens, you simply carry the conversation to the kitchen except this time with the gentle running of sink as background noise.

You were like a breath of fresh air from the chaos of his main friend group and someone he felt entirely comfortable with. Except lately he's been wanting to see you more and more. He would catch himself staring at his phone hoping a text from you would pop up, asking him to come over again.

He's embarrassed to admit that you have never hung out one-on-one outside of the walls of your apartment. It was an unspoken boundary that you two saw each other under the pretense of food, a boundary that he increasingly would like to cross.

You're not even looking at him, attention focused on scrubbing away at the pot in your hand, still talking about that awkward encounter with your neighbor yesterday. But the longer he stares at you, Hansol thinks to himself — have you always been this pretty? He traces every part of your form, from the micro expressions you make with your eyebrows as you talk, to noticing the little strands of hair by your face that escaped the ponytail you put it in, and the way your left sleeve is slowly slipping down your arm and in danger of getting soaked.

"...so screw me if I thought that it was none of his busine— Sol...?"

Before he even knew what he was doing he found himself abandoning his plate drying duty and sliding behind you at the sink, your back pressed against his chest as he grabbed your sleeve and gingerly rolled it up your arm once again. Just as he thinks you can't get any more gorgeous, his world stops when you turn your head around and he finds your face inches from his. The way your eyes glisten into his own makes the split second feel like an eternity before pulling away.

"S-sorry if I scared you, just didn't want your sleeve to get wet." adding a nervous chuckle to the end as he returns to the stack of tableware he has yet to dry.

"N-no! It's okay! Thank you for that!" you stammer back, trying not to look him in the eyes to hide the very obvious blush that spread on your cheeks. "Ahaha... yeah so anyways, what was I saying again?" Without missing a beat, he replies "you were talking about how your nosy neighbor thinks we're dating because I come over so often."

"Oh, haha, right..." your voice is barely above a whisper, a chuckle dies in your throat as you realize you've been scrubbing an already clean pot for 5 minutes now. You sigh as you turn off the water and start drying off your hands to put the dishes back in their places.

"I don't mind," he says after a thoughtful pause. It takes a second for you to register the words. "Sorry, what?"

"I don't mind if he thinks we're dating."

You feel like the hearing comprehension part of your brain just reset. "Wait, wha-"

"I think it would be kinda nice actually... if we dated."

After a second too long of silence from you, he was the one with panic with his eyes this time. "B-but only if you want to! Shit, uh, sorry I really didn't mean to make you uncomfortable or anything. Just forget I said anyth-"

He's interrupted by your arms snaking around his neck. "You're hopeless, Sol", you say as you press a light kiss to his lips. "I think it would be nice if we dated, too."

#seventeen x reader #seventeen imagines #seventeen fluff #vernon x reader #seventeen #seventeen fanfic #vernon chwe x reader

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rainypebble07 · 1 year

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A Thank You to Tumblr <3

Okay, this doesn't have to do with anything but I just wanted to express how much I love tumblr. Like, everything on this site, even their marketing emails make me so happy. I'll get random ones about stuff I don't even care about but they're so fun to read anyway.

And when it prompts you to leave a comment on someone's post and it's like "say something nice!". That's so sweet and there are other ones too, I just can't think of them but they all make me smile.

And someone followed me recently and I got an email about it that said "blahblah is following you! Win!" Like, win? It saying this specific person following me is a win because this one person is so important and they don't even know they're receiving such validation but they are! Because tumblr said it was a win! And it's just so sweet and kudos to this site's marketing team and developers and everything because I've only been here for a month or so but I've never had such a fun and welcoming social media experience.

That's all- just thought I'd say something because I really am impressed by this site. I like to find little things in life that can be enjoyed, and everything here has just really pulled through.

#thank you #tumblr #sweet #it's a site #but it just seems so nice #like if tumblr was a person i'd be their friend #no questions asked #not to mention most of the people are so cool too #it's just amazing #idk

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bibiana112 · 1 year

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The woes of being a ze blogger and tagging these two's names

#also this is worse now that relevant tags are brightly colored cause #I can't show innocuous fanart to friends who haven't played yet without having to block the name from view somehow #before like it at least didn't call enough attention y'know #zero escape #vlr spoilers #zero escape spoilers #hehe spoiler tagging the post about tagging spoilers #junpei tenmyouji #aoi kurashiki #I'd like to personally apologize to anyone spoiled through my tumblr tags specifically if that's ever happened 😔🙏#also eh technically Aoi's first name's a spoiler too but I've alipped on it before and it's not as big of a deal #slipped #as in called him that by accident whrn someone else was playing it

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tripably · 2 months

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my one complaint about the booping day is that now that it's over, all the notifications regarding it are gone too, and though I would finally have time to go through all the random blogs I interacted with massively but didn't immediately think to follow are now gone from recorded history )-:

#my second complaint which has more to do with myself than the booping day itself #is that i didn't wake up early enough to pay back all the boops that i received during my few hours of sleep D-:#like I'M SORRY FRIEND I WOULD HAVE BOOPED YOU SO ARDENTLY IF I'D ONLY THOUGHT TO SET AN ALARM #also i'd like a statistics feature of the booping day boops #global statistics and personal statistics #i'd love to know how the booping frienzy affected user activity on the global level #which percentage of active users activated the booping feature #what were the most popular booping times of day #how popular was spam booping #how popular were super boops and evil boops #did an average user give or receive more boops #how many self boops per user #i'd obviously love to know top 10 global boopers and boop receivers but that's not in accordance with tumblr way of life #personal top 10 would be nice though #who did you boop the most and how much #who booped you the most and how much #sending this out into the void in the hopes that this actually exists somewhere and i've just become too boomerized to realize #boop

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dollopheadsandclotpoles · 1 year

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Legit can't believe it's been 10 years!?!? 10 motherfucking years!?!? I remember being so worried about the finale that in the week leading up to the airing I was having dreams about what was going to happen

#bbc merlin #merlin #actually I didn't even watch it on the day itself i was meant to watch it with the person who was then my best friend #and she kept delaying it till my sister was like FUCK IT we need to know what happens!!#and I was avoiding tumblr like the PLAGUE like I logged out of it because I had this exact blog #and I knew I'd be spoiled it if I came online #and a friend kinda spoiled arthur dying for me but I thought he was trolling because i did not believe they would actually kill him off #it's so weird to think how different my life was back then also like... fuck me!!!#i can't believe this show is such a big part of my life still!

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kowabungadoodles · 6 months

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drinking and doing ad-hoc repair surgery on a book from 1994, but pretending I'm a grizzled detective removing a bullet

#i had a weird gender day #considering writing a requiem for an old name #or playing a solo rpg where you're a lab assistant in some kind of cthulu lab #Anything to distract me from reading The Sad Gender Book and texting old trans friends demanding answers like some kind of crazy ex #how do you stop the underbands of sports bras from folding into two or rolling up and becoming a cutting line of pain #why does nothing fit even when its supposed to #is David still out there somewhere #on the internet #did he make it without me #it's totally normal to have a boysona who you think of a seperate person right? It's a pity I cut him loose at 16 an he never got to grow u #The tumblr tags system is the last true format for the drunken ramble #I'd say delete this later but we all know i'll forget

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01tsubomi · 9 days

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i made super delicious curry with pork, potatoes, carrots, eggplant, green pepper, mushrooms, and pumpkin and because of how big a pot i made it's only like $2 per portion. adult success

#was excited abt the curry and this also seemed like the kind of thing you put on tumblr #on the bus back from work today i wrote a reply letter to my friend #and getting off the bus in front of the post office i ran into one of my closest friends here #all fancy seeing you here #she was like eh fuck it i'll join you on the side quest so we went to the post office then picked up bread at the bakery #said bye at the park and i stayed and read in the grass for a while #another friend tried reading honey girl and said it was ass which surprised me bc i'd been so close to buying it #at bookstores so many times #or like vaguely aware of it w it established in my head as good sapphic lit #found a pdf and read it in my downtime at work + at the park + used text to speech to listen to it while cooking #now sitting on couch eating the fruits of my easy labor #filled w veggies!!#an abnormally nice day in a lot of normal ways #personal

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not-poignant · 1 year

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This is the anon the said 'safe'. Your tags hit me hard, since I'm actually starting a transition but am avoiding hrt. I've been getting pushback on it, and been told I'm not really trans without it. I know what I want to change to feel like myself. Also what I don't want to change. That's probably why 'safe' was my choice. It sucks when you think you should belong, but still feel like you aren't good enough. It helped to hear you have felt the same. I just want to give you a big virtual hug.

Ahhh I have a similar story, anon <333 I'm so sorry you went through it too.

Under a read more because it contains transphobia towards a nonbinary person from a binary trans person. My experiences are from a nonbinary lens, anon, so take the bits that are useful to you and ignore the rest, depending on where you sit on the trans spectrum <333

When I started realising I was transmasc (I'd known I was non-binary for a while) I remember that I talked to a trans man about it, he'd been going through the process for a couple of years at that point and we'd talked about that too at different points.

And I remember mentioning that I'd thought about hormones, but I was still on the fence because I'm nonbinary, not like 'binary trans' (i.e. I'm not going from point A to point B, where you move from AFAB to man or AMAB to woman), and I was talking about wanting they/them pronouns and maybe he/him pronouns at that point.

And he said: 'Oh cool, yeah, hopefully that helps until you decide for sure with testosterone and surgery.' I had this moment of like ??? and he was like 'when you realise and can be brave enough to commit to being a guy, I hope that goes really well for you.'

It was one of the most transphobic things I'd ever heard, not because it was said from a hateful place (it really wasn't, I'm still friends with this guy), but because it came from a friend, I was being very vulnerable during the conversation and it left me feeling like I didn't have a right to consider myself trans at all for about two years after that. It pushed me into this space where I'd been defined by a fellow trans person as a 'coward until I decided to be officially a man.' And then for two years I kept looking for that inside of myself, denying my non-binary-ness in favour of looking for a very clear and decisive 'I'm a man!' moment. It was a horrible period of time, gender-wise. Because being identified exclusively only as a man or a woman is dysphoric to me, so trying to do it to myself was like cutting at myself with an axe.

It's also very much like when gay and lesbian folk would say to me - back when I identified as bisexual - 'get back to me when you pick a side / become a real queer.' There's a real phobic bent among folks who are 'one or the other' (sighs) towards people who are in the liminal with this stuff and that's where they belong. And it hadn't occurred to me that I'd hear a version of that from a fellow trans person. You'd think I'd have learned, right?

He and I are still friends, but I stopped talking to him about all of my experiences as a trans and nonbinary person. It was clear to me, in that moment, he saw me as a much lesser version of an identity he'd embraced and was living. You know, how so many people think of nonbinary transmascs. (It's also frustrating, because trans men also don't need to have hormones or surgery to be trans men, and it makes me furious when people take this attitude with binary trans folk too, but I'm mostly focusing on my own experience here, of the myriad ways we encounter transphobia in the trans community).

I never heard anything quite like that again, but I've had one other trans guy be like 'when you're ready for testosterone, I'll support you' like he was waiting in the wings for me to 'fully make a decision to be 100% a man' which isn't a decision I can make, because I'm not 100% a man, lmao, I'm like 80% of one, and 20% something else, and 0% woman, lmao, which is why I call myself nonbinary transmasc.

I was lucky that through research and listening to voices in nonbinary transmasc spaces and more open-minded trans spaces that I realised that I'd encountered transphobia, and that this specific kind of transphobia is particularly common in the trans community, especially in cases where a trans man or woman has a period of being nonbinary as an experiment to see what transitioning feels like before they fully commit to the surgery and/or hormones and name etc. that they often wanted all along. So they often project this onto other people, because for them being nonbinary was a midway point, or the middle of an evolution. But being nonbinary isn't an experiment for most nonbinary people, it's literally our identity and it always will be. (And any binary trans person reading this, don't ever use this rhetoric with your nonbinary friends, or your fellow binary trans friends who have elected not to use hormones or surgery - it's transphobic.)

These days, I'm proudly trans and proudly part of the trans community, but I'm also aware that there are a lot of binary trans people who will treat me and other trans folk as 'other' because I haven't suffered through the same surgeries or adjustments that they have. That's...their transphobia, and it's not me expressing my identity wrongly, or being 'lesser', it's just straight up transphobia. It belongs to them, not to me. I don't believe we have a unique word for nonbinary transphobia, it all comes under the same umbrella, but that's definitely what it is.

When you start to feel like you don't belong, anon, remind yourself that this is internalised transphobia, not to punish yourself, but to remind yourself that it's not true. Those feelings belong to the people who gave them to you, but they're not innately or inherently true, they actually have nothing to do with how valid you are at every stage of your transition.

You're fully a trans man if you don't take hormones, and you're fully nonbinary if you do. Whatever you need (or don't need) to affirm or express your gender for you, is what you need, and that deserves to be respected and fully validated no matter what, at any time. Whether it's binding or not binding, hormones or not hormones, hormones and then 'not for the next few years' and then hormones again, surgery or not surgery, etc. Whether you're a trans man, woman, nonbinary, agender etc.

People have this idea of what it is to be a 'proper' trans, bi, gay, lesbian person (like the 'gold star lesbian' which is horrendously disgusting as a term and concept), but all you need - literally all you need - re: these things, is to just... know you're these things. That's it. That's how a gay person can know they're gay without having sex. That's how a bi person can know they're bi without sleeping with someone of the same sex. And it's how a trans person knows they're trans without looking perfectly androgynous or perfectly binary trans (depending on what they desire) on the outside. (Don't get me started on fatphobia in androgynous and nonbinary spaces, and the equation of true 'nonbinary androgyny' with thinness, because that's a whole other rant for another day, lol).

I'm sorry you've experienced that pressure to be 'more' of something from society / particular people. I can specifically relate on the hormones front because I actually went quite far into looking into taking T, to the point where my doctor was ready to sign off with an endocrinologist, before I realised that it wasn't the right decision for me. It might be one day, but right now I know I'm transmasc without it, and I'm concerned about some of the side effects with my neuroendocrine tumours. There are other ways I affirm my gender that work great for me. But I did have a moment of knowing that would impact how other people see me, and it's one thing when it comes from all the cis people, but it's another thing when it comes from the trans community as well. :( Thankfully most people are really validating now, use the right pronouns, and I just don't confide nonbinary vulnerabilities with folks who saw being nonbinary as a midpoint of their own evolution/journey, just to be safe, lmao.

Wishing you fortune and strength and much validation, anon <3 You are amazing as you are, whatever you decide to do or not do in the future. :) *hugs*

#asks and answers #personal #queer culture #i'll never forget that experience #i had the chat right here on tumblr actually #and i remember sort of sitting back in my chair and feeling like something had broken in me #because i'd been supportive to this friend through their transition #and sort of expected the same #and instead got a sort of 'well see you when you get here' conversation #that made it clear that he thought my gender as it is now #was just a weak little scaffold #for the 'end point'#it still makes me emotional thinking about it #i really hope folks who are trans men or women #think about how they talk to nonbinary people #and fellow trans men or women #who are electing not to have one or all of the surgeries or take hormones for many valid reasons #our transness is not defined by how much #we do to our bodies on the way to gender affirmation #we are trans before we ever experience a scalpel or take another hormone #or change our names or birth certificates #all these things can help #and they can hinder #everyone's experience in this is unique #administrator Gwyn wants this in the queue

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violetmenace62 · 1 month

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Red pill this, blue pill that. Bullshit. Riddle me this Batman:

#tumblr polls #I asked my friends and it is a shocking 50/50 #like personally I am lying so fast to save my ass #maybe it's because I come from a collectivist culture #but also like if everyone else except me said that they see the clothes only trustworthy people could see.. I'd shut my damn mouth #like I don't want to be beheaded personally #maybe because negative speech towards government officials is punishable in my country idk #like my white friends are like I'd tell the truth and I'm like HUH??#anyway yeah pls lmk

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throwaway-yandere · 6 months

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Everyday I feel like an idiot cuz I'd look up the yandere dimitri tag to see if there are new fics and become a sad puddle when there's nothing when I can just. Write. It. Myself? I can. I can write. Somewhat decently. The frick is stopping me.

And then I remember I have real world responsibilities and the cycle repeats for the next day hAHAHAHHAHA. Aight, going to sleep. It's time for that new samsara.

#the super secret other reason for not actually writing a yan!dimi fic is cuz I know #i can't exactly share it to my friends cuz they haven't played the game 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭#and I'm mostly a genshin blog— i feel absolutely sad abt how when I do non-genshin ones it doesn't perform well #when will i find a fire emblem three houses moot shbfjajdisjisjsks where is this soulmate #if i ever find that person I fricking guarantee you I will absolutely reset my whole tumblr lore.#dain? who??? there's only ever been dimitri. ayato? HAHHAAHA who?—#my lore would be just an officer's academy alumni who writes in their spare time and I'd go on pretending #genshin is like the fricking Iliad and Homer— “heard they're written by the author Hoyo but I'm pretttyyy sure that's a collection of #authors and not just one person”#and then I'll be like one of the dante alighieris of “Genshin Impact”. boom. mic drop. war starts. /j #lord knows id be a very different person if i had a yan!fe:th content creator moot. lord knows it takes one “bad day” for me to #become the joker /jjjjjjj #ansy-stalks #yknow what.#i bet 500 mora that if i look up the ansy-stalks tag 90% of them has longer tags than the post itself hAHAHAHHAHAHAHA

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katyspersonal · 7 months

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I start to think internet is honestly not such a bad place to make friends at. It is just really treacherous. In real life, you can disagree with the person on even important topics several times for months, years even, and you will still have contact. But online, all it takes is like, ONE negative interaction or bad post for person that kept cherishing and supporting you and sharing their life with you to disown you, and all previous feelings and experiences get retroactively ruined.

Not just that, but also there are plenty of terminally online idiots that can't to save their lives grasp the concept of how not everyone will get along. Some people just WILL have a conflict, some people just WILL make you angry or YOU will make them angry. I legit heard the "it doesn't matter if she was nice to you, she was rude to like 4 people in the span of 5-6 years so if you ignore that you are selfish and don't care about the community uwu" cultish nonsense about myself (only real ones remember xd). This shit just doesn't happen in reality, you can have straight up enemy in your class/workplace and people will try to fix the situation. And sure if one person snapped at another, people try to resolve this.

I honestly think that the whole "b-but internet friendships are not real!!!!1! uwu" bunch aside, people are generally lazy about bonds and relationships. That the only way they will ever put effort into preserving bonds and communicating despite issues is if they are forced to by sharing a physical space. In real life they can't just block a person out of their life and be done, they will have to see them in family, in the class, at work, just accidentally meet them in the city etc. So they have to talk it out. But how having to do it can be a real choice? Like... internet is a good place to make friends at because if a person that had a CHOICE to never see you again, that was not FORCED to endure you still sticks with you regardless of negative interactions - it means that they are real one. You can only know whether someone actually needs you or not when they have full freedom of choice without any consequences, but only internet can reveal this much. It just takes a while to find right people, but it is worth it. Basically, internet doesn't "ruin" people, it just reveals their true nature because only not having consequences can do that. But it also reveals who actually wants to accept you, flaws or not, when irl you can't know if that's real or they are forced to to not make their lives harder 🤔

#personal #internets #people #again: this post isnt about people that can't have online friends at all #though I'd say Tumblr is free of that kind?#like Twitter is full of 'if I cant see the person they arent real :)))))' bunch but not here #I just.. I guess I start to realize that being stuck in the internet is sort of a blessing #the fact that online friends can cut you off any second over even the dumbest reason is-#-good because you are left only with people that GENUINELY accept you #like.. don't tell me that in workplace someone will forever stop talking with you over one negative talk #they won't because passive aggression will be straining and they have to work together and SEE each other #but who will still work on fixing shit even if they have no pressure to? right real ones #internet reveals more than it hides ffs

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