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girl help they are making me do my job at work

#ME

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"Who's a good girl "? Not me... I'm a cunt

#iris tag

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the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.

#that's exactly it

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people who try to get more attention on their fandom posts by separately tagging all the main characters regardless of each character's presence in the post are my worst enemies. if i want general series posts i will go to the series tag so if you specifically promise me images of my specialest little guy and you are lying to me i will be very upset

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#omg

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Adults: Following rules is good, not following rules is bad

Little me: Okay :] *follows a rule*

Adults: Oh my god look at this loser. He doesn't know that this rule is Secretly Okay To Not Follow. Dumbass. Let's all laugh at him

#LITERALLY

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*me talking to a guy with a penis* listen here, penis boy.

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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

#this is so important

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less “therapy is for everyone!” more advice on how to recognize when therapy is helping you and when it is harming you, more educating people on their rights and what they can do when their rights have been violated, more advice on navigating finding a therapist that isn’t only applicable to private practice situations

less “don’t forget to take your meds!” more sharing of studies on the effects of psychiatric medication (wanted and unwanted/positive and negative), more discussion of how to document your experiences on medications so you can understand how they are effecting you, more support for people struggling to navigate getting prescribed/using/going off of psychiatric medication

less “always reblog the suicide hotline!“ more sharing information on what happens if you do actually call one of these lines (i.e. will they send the cops to your house), more teaching individuals and communities how to help someone in crisis without involving police or hospitalization, more open discussions of how to share what we feel and make others feel seen, understood, and supported when it comes to extremely difficult feelings and situations

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PSA (4/24/24): if anyone else has an hp laptop and just started getting an annoying notification that says caps lock on/off when you press the caps lock button, it's because of some stupid update that they just did. find the app "HP System Event Utility" in your settings and uninstall it!

#win rambles #just letting y'all know bc apparently this just happened TODAY? #i didn't even update my laptop and they just fucking installed it on it ugh #it was very very annoying so i'm glad that it's gone and i found the solution on a random reddit thread so i thought it might save some #of y'all the headache

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More background and lighting practice

Commission me if you’d like

#i think i might have reblogged this one before but it's SO GOOD #the LIGHTING #hazbin hotel

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Girl help I chose solace in lies over truth by accident now some library nerds are trying to kill me .

#laugh rule #the locked tomb

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I may have fallen a bit too deep BUT.

The Houses.

#the locked tomb #THESE ARE SO FUCKING GOOD WTFFFFFF

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please accept this meme drawing as my admission into the TLT fandom

#just started my reread of nona #i adore this #the locked tomb #nona the ninth

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figuring out my camilla interpretations :3

#cam: he would not fucking say that #the locked tomb

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love when emails start off with “DO NOT REPLY”. like oh yeah way ahead of you brother

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Forgot to share this on tumblr but I drew @sureuncertainty ‘s oc Kat for their birthday (which was even earlier than when I finished this lol)

Kat’s always fun to draw !

#YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE #my GIRL #she's so fucking cool i'm obsessed with how you draw her #friend art #my characters #the silence agenda