#lets normalize men

[brokoala-soup]

let's normalize soft male friendships let's normalize men lying down on another's lap let's normalize men hugging eo as a greeting let's normalize men holding hands let's normalize men being touchy let's normalize men crying let's normalize men away from compulsive masculinity let's normalize men being human let's normalize men

Men; please become normal

#lets normalize men #let's make it normal #men #normalize #masculine #toxic masculinity #idk what else to tag

[faggy--butch]

Trans men and women tend to get viewed as either disgusting male freaks or perfect feminine female goddesses based entirely on identity and vibes alone, forcing trans men to either detranstion to talk about the issues faced, or shut up and hate themselves and grovel at the feet of their "betters", and trans women are forced to preform the highest standards of femininity or be shunned and live in fear of being cast out and not being "woman enough" facing the constant need to prove themselves to avoid being seen as interlopers. these things are similar, these problems overlap, and yet people go on to pretend that one is the most victimized victim and the other is the "subjector and oppressor" (Interchangeable) and neither can truly understand the other. these ideas being perpetuated by others within and outside of these groups. It drives me up the wall that there are people pretending this helps anyone, that either benefits from the others oppression in anyway. Personally, from what I've seen a lot of it comes out as like gender insecurity, from the inside groups, which is pretty sad, but also extremely frustrating to be lashed out at for being unwilling to accept this gender essentialist false binary

#transandrophobia #transmisogny #ftm #mtf #queer #I'm seriously done hearing trans men say they feel like creeps and monsters and oppressors for just being men #and then act like its normal and okay and not fucked up to think about ones self that way? #a trans man yesterday was trying to convince me that trans men need to shut up and let women say things like kill all men #because actually all men ARE trash #like bro literally speak for yourself

[omensofatimelord]

The thing about testosterone being a controlled substance means that acess to it for hrt is restricted. While it makes access a significant issue for many people and an easy and effective way to prevent trans men and mascs from transitioning (as we've seen terfs campaign for and succeed at doing in Britain) it also means that is very easy for health care professionals to be able to take it away from trans men/mascs arbitrarily. This is most aborant in cases where trans men/mascs are forced to detransition to gain access to abortions after being raped. However, the first sign of an issues tangentially related to hormones a gp, without any training in trans people or hormones, can and will stop a person's testosterone. Apart from how stressful it is to know that for the rest of your life you'll be dependent on the goodwill of a random person, this has measurable negative consequences for a trans person subjected too it.

Going off t fucking sucks at the best of time, but being forced off t will most likely result in depression and worsening mental health for a trans man/masc, who are already one of the most likely groups to attempt suicide. It can also put a trans person at risk if they suddenly start being visibly trans again, especially if they're closeted in, say, a work place environment. Trans people, including trans men, are already one of the most targeted groups of harassment and violence and sexual assalt and forcibly reducing or stopping t can out people and risk their safety. And a gp won't see this or care about this, or attempt to treat a trans man/masc first or ask for their opinion or situation.

Ultimately, testosterone is seen as entirely optional and so the first resort when something goes wrong it to take it away, when it should be considered the last resort, and is considered the last resort for cis men. And as long as testosterone continues to be a controlled substance it will remain like this.

(edit for clarification: I am a kiwi, this post was intended as a general critique of accessing t through health care systems - based in my lived experience in NZ and what ive heard from international trans ppl; including but not limited to the USA)

#Transandrophobia #This rant brought to you by my gp threatening my health and safety by stopping t for a couple conditions that would be treated if I were ci #Excess hemoglobin is documented but not well understood in trans men but there are option available that aren't no t #And high blood pressure runs in the family but no one's making my dad take t suppressants even though no medication is particularly effecti #If she asked me I would rather have gout and t than neither #But I don't get an option #And if I shout to loudly I'm scared they'll not let me ever take it again #She won't even put me back on the weekly injections I'm supposed to be on now that the shortage is over #Despite the fact she's worried my t levels are too high after the injection #(Which given they're normal after a week and how much I dislike the roller coster effect should be the first thing) #But if I start on the limited options and how t is seen as so optional shortages don't matter and different options don't matter

[fixfoxnox]

This is why I'm not the biggest fan of the Price is the dad of the 141 headcanons, because what people fail to understand is that the person on the leash is actually Price

#john “let me set off a nuke to help the war effort” Price #john “lets kidnap his wife and son” price #john “yeah i can sneak into this base alone” price #you don't understand Laswell still smokes because of him! #soap doesn't really do anything chaotic in the games #meanwhile Price every two seconds is doing something else insane and dragging gaz into it with him #ghost and soap: normal military mission #price and gaz: fighting for their fucking lives because Price decided they could take on a whole base of men by themselves #thoughts with luke #captain john price #call of duty #john price #simon ghost riley #john soap mactavish #kyle gaz garrick #task force 141

[munchboxart]

New background OC for my Salmon guys + Mui drinking

#i dont normally post sketches but i will make an exception for this #because i was talking w some friends and they were all telling me gilbert is hot and i do not see it #if u find gilbert hot let me know so i can remember this #literally oomf was like “how abt middle aged men yaoi with ur ocs (mui)” and i was like “mui and who??” and theyre like “his friends!” #and i was like “MUI HAS FRIENDS?” I LITERALLY FORGOT ABOUT GILBERT IDGAFFFF DHASJKFNSJKDGNDJN MY STANDARDS FOR MUI IS SO LOW #maybe theyre just not my type BUT I DONT SEE IT #then again. im sick in the head and mui is my favorite. literally the most middest guy ever. all he does is drink and kill salmon #tw alcohol #alcohol #splatoon #my ocs #mui #gilbert #im adding more white ass names into my collection of OCs bc im lacking. i also got a guy named paul fishtopher #i do have a sketch account on twitter but you will have to find it (you will never find it)

[ponchizs]

I’m in love with how they are giving so many subtle hints about Alhaitham and Kaveh’s relationship and how important it is to Alhaitham, despite the way they always seem to be bickering.

Throughout the 3.2 archon quest Alhaitham tells us that the reason why he is so interested in helping Sumeru is because he doesn’t want his daily life to change. After that Kaveh starts being mentioned very frequently by him or we hear other people in the akademiya complain about how they daily argue.

Then, of course, we meet them both arguing with each other in the House of Daena, which was quite the argument. We also know many of their casual interactions and how they go to the café/bar frequently together. Furthermore, Alhaitham pays all of Kaveh’s bills (something no one would do for someone they don't care for).

And now, during Alhaitham’s quest, their tones were so soft (At least in JP and CN) and also domestic. Kaveh seems to worry a lot about Alhaitham and exchanges glances with him, which made me melt inside. I also love how Alhaitham is constantly smiling while bickering with kaveh. Remember, we dont see him smiling like this that often. Which means he really enjoys it. I really liked how after the second time Kaveh asked him if he is okay, he replied with a tease about the painting Kaveh had mentioned before. Also smiling.

But most importantly, something I see no one talking about: the moment when Alhaitham was explaining why he resigned from being the Grand Sage to being the scribe again and he tells us that “It’s important to keep your priorities straight”, the camera points at Kaveh.

I know this game will probably never have any canon ship because they need to make everyone happy, but we do get hints like this from time to time and I think this was one of them.

After all, why would they bother to add all of those scenes with Kaveh when the quests had already concluded, if not for showing us how is what is Alhaitham’s daily life he wants to protect that much? We saw how happy he is, how eager he was to get home and go have dinner with Kaveh. We also see how Kaveh had been waiting for him as well.

I’d like to know more about their relationship, even if it ends up not being romantic (though how do you explain that face Kaveh made when paimon asked if they are friends).

#genshin impact #haikaveh #kavetham #but anyways yes I write this and yes its 11pm and yes im obsessing over them #im so happy ngl Its like a fever dream #its so happy to know all of what I predicted from the message boards being true #I hope we see more of them #and yeah really sorry this is really long #i never do meta posts and probably there are some mistakes there im no expert i just ship two very gay men #anto’s rambling #i have to scream everything here because Im probably driving crazy everyone around me with these two #imagine me writing all of this to them #I needed to let this all out because omfg #LIKE LISTEN THIS IS WHERE WE SEE HOW NORMAL PERSON ALHAITHAM AND KAVEH REALLY ARE #LIKE just see how worried kaveh is over a messed up investigation from somebody at the akademiya who has already been arrested #no wonders Alhaitham avoided telling Kaveh the details from the archon quest and no wonder Kaveh didnt believe the little he knew #because they are just normal persons trying to get on with their lives #i understand alhaitham so much I would also want to keep that life

[lunarharp]

scribbles... pre-relationship onsen trip

#witch hat tag #orufrey #partial nudity / #cause i miss the onsen. it feels silly to say 'pre-relationship' bc you just know their anniversary is going to be the date oru moved in #ignore my weak attempt at painting qifrey's face. i want to get better at that style lol..better at everything..oh god i am trying #might be getting the hang of it at least #i feel like zozah has european mores in that being uhh naked around ppl is probably a bit like. Whats all this then #but sensei purposefully puts in japanese flair - sake bowls - sitting on the floor - they are japanese men. To me. Get in the bath :) #but to oru it would feel more normal and to qifrey it would NOT - they do have those public baths at the assembly #but he was surely in the corner wanting to die and splashing himself once and then running away hating everyone #beldaruit will have a private bathtub with claw feet that his carers help him into - good god let that kid use it too

[itsgoldleaf]

they’re together on tatooine. obi-wan’s old commander and cody’s old jedi.

they’re greyer, grumpier, middle aged on an outer rim rock together. the thread of their last argument is so easy to find and pick up from where it lay in the dust for so many lost years. they carry it between them and speak words into each other’s ears close and trembling and it’s too good to be true and the galaxy is kind at last because it lets it be true

(moonshine on the roof of the house, backs to the walled edge, the bruised sky purpling into night overhead)

waiting and not worrying on market days alone in the house. keeping occupied with sand that will not stay swept and the household minutiae, dishes, folding the same two shirts. not glancing at the window or the time. an approaching silhouette surrounded by dunes, and the way the stomach settles at the sight

(one day there’s two silhouettes. kote tells ben to stop bringing home strays and later ben catches kote tucking the tooka into its bed. it’s cold at night, ben. i’m not a monster any more)

the old patterns are easy and the old patterns are hard and they sit with rotgut (or tea, which in kote’s opinion is rotgut) that makes them wheeze while the pockmarked sky sings to them a story of a galaxy they once knew and maybe loved and definitely lost. arms slung around shoulders because it is cold, and they don’t need to say it because it’s been years now

they know what they mean to each other

they’ve been a long time coming

#codywan #commander cody #obi wan kenobi #clone wars #Star Wars #tcw #Star Wars tcw #tatooine codywan #desert husbands #hi I’m not normal about these two and their life o n tatooine which is 100% canon george lucas told me #just let these gay old men live on their worm farm goddamnit

[berserkerzodd]

I need more of this feral cat

Please X-Men 97, give me Sabes in all his glory 😭

Side note: I actually love that Morph did this for Logan

#sabretooth #my beloved #logan #victor creed #wolverine #x men 97 #xmen #moprh #feral cat man #i know its not actually sabretooth but this is all xmen 97 is giving me #when you can't find the screenshots you want so you have to get them yourself #doing me a self-service #i love this feral cat #please I need more than just these breadcrumbs of him I NEED THE WHOLE DAMN LOAF #husbando #Sabretooth my beloved #saberine #technically its morpherine but shhh let me have this spec of hope #his freaking calf muscles #he looks ao derpy when he runing to the other side #i love him 😭 #is it normal to obsess over a character this much?

[twasbrillig71]

i know this is a jervis account but i just watched the long halloween movie and

he is my babygirl

and he's such a passenger princess

#ALSO THE WAY HE WAS INSTANTLY TOSSED LIKE A RAGDOLL WHENEVER SQUARING UP WITH BRUCE #then JERVIS knocks him out #LIKE. BOY U NEEDED TO BE SAVED BY THE 4 FOOT MAN??? #HE IS SO UNBELIEVABLY USELESS IN A FIGHT ITS SO HOT #men who whimper and cry and scream when dosed with fear toxin #“poor little thing; such a tiny little thing” my sentiments exactly jerbo #i am now a salecrow truther alright yall converted me #the hattercrow content was good too #hes tetchs wife like the way he just lets him quote alice in wonderland verbatim as if its a normal conversation #v supportive of his autistic bfs hyperfixation #jonathan crane #hattercrow #brillrambles

[citree]

Could you draw five having a siamese (I just see him with a Siamese cat-)

Totally :D

Here’s five and the cat he Didn’t Want (but the cat he ended up with anyway🤭)

#you know that trope of dads/old men refusing to get more pets because they don’t need them #and then end up the closest buddies like 2 months later #that’s five and this cat #they would spend all their time together and he’d also name it something ridiculously normal #the same spirit of Mr pennycrumb. this cat has a more legitimate paperwork sounding name than five does #let’s call him. Sir Mortcombe #myart #fanart #artists on tumblr #the umbrella academy #tua #number five #five hargreeves #tua art #I’m drawing at the speed of one thing every few weeks lol. I’m trying tho!

[biggest12fan]

i am not a simp i am not a simp i am not a simp i am not a simp i am not a simp i am not a simp i am not a simp i am not a- *sees a man way too old for me with fluffy curly white hair, a nice voice, and amazing style* well fuck

#guys i think i have a type #also daddy issues but lets put that aside #i am so normal about those old men #3rd doctor #12th doctor #twelfth doctor #third doctor #third eye #classic who #doctor who #dw

[s0fter-sin]

sometimes i think about how wild a mw2 movie would be if they just dropped soapghost right in the middle with no warning or marketing. like imagine it being beat for beat the exact same, it’s your typical military action movie, promoted as just another military action movie then after they get to the safe house, ghost has to patch up soap and he’s still out of it, overwhelmed by the betrayal and everything he’s seen and ghost needs to ground him and keep him in the present, to remind him that he’s alive and safe so he kisses him and they have sex. the tantrums and the rants and the “ReAl sOLdiErS aRen’t liKe ThAt”, god i can taste it and it’s delicious

#theres never any talk of a relationship or sexuality crisis its just this moment of humanity and comfort to bring soap back to himself #real any time you need me by thirteenbullets vibes #theyre not the type of men to have something as normal as a relationship #theyre just everything to each other they know that and its enough #ghost can be such a complex character if you let him #this guy whos rejected his humanity has buried himself and become a ghost #willingly digging himself out of the grave to stop soap from digging his own #like how are there not more explicitly homoerotic military movies that actually pull the trigger (heh) on the homo part of the eroticism #you know how if movies have even a hint of queerness they wring it out for every drop of respresentation they can get #theres a hundred articles and its mentioned in every interview and it all journalists ask those actors #imagine it being a complete secret and everyone expects just a typical action movie #then boom battle buddy gay sex #like if it were a male and fenale character you would see that scene coming a mile away so why cant it happen with two guys #just doing it is the only way of normalising it #i still see men saying they act like brothers which is denial so strong even egypt is impressed #but imagine the general public expecting this manly man military movie then getting hit with the alone mission flirting and denying it #then getting smacked in the face with tender wound care and grounding love making initiated by the edgelord they were using as a self inser #coming out of my cage and ive been doing just fine.txt #soapghost #ghostsoap #ghoap #john soap mactavish #soap cod #simon ghost riley #ghost cod #cod mw2 #we’re a team. ghost team

[xysidhequeen]

So- for the Red Knight AU I was thinking

What if Danny has in the past accidentally popped into the Lazarus pit in the League Of Assassins? Like what if they're not quite portals but more leaks in the GZ to the human realm and Danny, exploring because he's bored, slips through using a portal he made.

And when he does he sees this small child, probably nothing more than a toddler and he just ends up visiting sporadically to meet this kid.

Later when he and Jason go back to Gotham Danny runs into a very familiar face one day in the manor.

#Danny: Little Star! #Damian: Phantom? #Dick: No! Danny you already stole Jason Tim AND Connor you cant take another! #Danny: Technically i claimed him years ago so i have dibs advantage #Jason: Its like the second coming of Bruce #Tim is probably still going to get stabbed because now Damian has 2 men hes trying to prove hes better to #maybe ill toss it in #i just think its a cute idea that like a 15 yr old Danny found a child in a pit of assassins and decided to become his fun ghostly uncle #Danny was really sad when Damian stopped coming to their little meetings #but then found him in Gotham and this is so much better! #Danny didnt steal baby Damian because lets be real he saw no problem with a chuld being raised around deadly weapons #like look at his childhood his perception of normal is heavily skewed #also Damian said he didnt want to go and Danny isnt a kidnapper #the king and his red knight #The King and His Red Knight AU #TKAHRK #TKAHRK AU #danny phantom #dc x dp #dp x dc #dp x dc crossover #danny phantom au #dpxdc #danny phantom fic

[macrobiology]

the nightcrawler-fication has begun and it cannot be stopped

#xmen #nightcrawler #kurt wagner #I am so very normal about him #I can be trusted to have internet access #If there are any non-roleplay xmen centric discord servers please let me in #I just wanna know what comics to read next #x men #x men 97

[andreal831]

This fandom needs to back off of Matt Donovan and Zach Roerig

Starting with the ridiculous: Zach Roerig and Julie Plec never dated. It's ridiculous that I have to say this. There is a blurry picture of him leaning in to Julie Plec at some point. I even tried to do the work for you all and could not find one shred of evidence of an actual kiss. Y'all are just wild for this rumor. If anything, my search revealed that Ian and Zach were in a relationship. I mean look at that affection.

Also, with just a tiny bit of research, we can find out that Zach was in a relationship when he started the show and, due to issues at home, he ends up fighting for full custody of his two year old daughter while on the show. The only romantic connection there is any reports on is with Candice King and that was relatively short lived. Otherwise Zach was just a single father, trying to raise and support his daughter.

Now people will try to say Zach is racist as well. I've heard he was racist because of dating Plec. See earlier paragraph. Or that he made racist comments to Kat. Again, there is zero evidence of this. People keep pointing to this interview saying that he either does the Nazi salute or a black power fist and it is such a reach it's ridiculous. He is looking at Kat because the question asked related to Bonnie and Matt and he reaches forward as a hand gesture and then raises his fist in a fairly generic way.

I can't tell if people get Matt Davis and Zach confused because he plays Matt or if people just love to hate on Zach because he plays Matt. Either way, it is disgusting to spread rumors about someone being racist when there is no evidence as far as I can tell. It's also terrible to distract from the actual racism that Kat had to deal with on the show.

From every interview I've seen he seems like such a sweet person. He even said working on the show was a "healing process" and yet the fandom treats him like this. Zach goes to the panels and none of his coworkers seem uncomfortable and avoid him. Not that them liking someone means that person is good, most of them still interact with Matt Davis and yet unfollowed Michael Malarkey.

Now onto Matt Donovan.

First of all, the fact that y'all pretend this man isn't attractive tells me all I need to know. Objectively, Zach Roerig is attractive. You can not like his character but you all just sound goofy.

The biggest complaint with Matt is that he is "useless," but this to me just shows you are watching the show for either the romance or attractive people and not for storytelling.

The role of the "human" in fantasy is so important. We, as an audience, are humans and we need to have a threshold character. A character that reminds of that even though we are rooting for the supernatural creatures, they are still not the good guys. It's why supernatural stories often revolve around humans. It gives the show the humanity that it would be in danger of losing if it just focused on the predatory species. Matt reminds us of the humanity that is at stake in the show.

Matt is particularly important in this show because he not only the sole human in a pack of supernatural creatures, but he is the only one without financial privilege in TVD. Matt not only comes from a family that is struggling financially, but his parents are gone and his sister is struggling with addiction. Matt is working it appears full time while in high school full time. All of his friends are going to parties and given cars and clothes, planning for college; while Matt is having to figure out how to afford his mom's mortgage/rent. Season 1 opens up focusing on how much Elena is struggling with the death of her parents but dismissed Matt's struggles as some lovesick teenager. When in reality Elena at least had a support system. Sure Jeremy was spiraling like Vicki, but Elena and Jeremy had Jenna. Matt was struggling with the purposeful abandonment of his parents and his sister's drug addiction with zero support system. He even loses his childhood friends when Elena and he break up. He only really has Tyler, who, let's be honest is not the best friend in Season 1.

He is also the first person in the show to lose someone due to the supernatural. His sister ends up attacked and in the hospital and he then has to figure out how to pay for that while taking care of Vicki who is clearly struggling even more than normal. When Vicki does end up dead, he knows there is more too it and the entire town, including his friends, gaslight him. Matt has every right to hate vampires. They murdered his sister in cold blood.

Matt is so devastated by Vicki's death that is haunts him throughout the show. He even risks his life just to talk to her ghost for a few moments.

People say Matt hates the supernatural, and he did, but he had reasons. And despite that, he was always there for his friends. Even when he was terrified, and in much more of a risk than his vampire friends, he was always there for them.

Yes, Matt is the one driving the truck when Elena dies and Stefan saves Matt over Elena, but none of that is Matt's fault. He was attempting to save his friend's life with Jeremey's help. How is that any different than Elena having Stefan compel Jeremy to leave town? Let's also not forget who helps Elena feed in her early days. But the fandom never wants to give him credit for that.

Matt is constantly used, berated, manipulated, and compelled by the supernatural around him. Mystic Falls needed someone like Matt to stand up for them since they were unaware of the supernatural world. Even the "good vampires" killed humans. Matt was trying to protect his town.

The last complaint ties it all in, that Matt only survived so long on the show because he was dating Julie Plec. Again, that's a lie. He never dated Julie, and it especially had nothing to do with the show writing. I would also like to point out that the character Matt is based on, Matt Honeycutt, in the book never dies. So why are we surprised he doesn't die in the show? Matt had a lot of close calls and even had a Gilbert ring for protection. No one ever asks why Steven McQeen (Jeremy) doesn't die or assumes it's because he was "sleeping his way to the top." These assumptions are immature and baseless.

All Matt wants to do is live a normal life, something he had to fight much harder than the rest of them for. He is the most consistent friend out of all of them. People love to say "how did Matt get so many girls?" Because he's nice. Because he respected them and fought for them, even if they didn't deserve it. They would all have been better off ending up with Matt.

Honestly, Matt and Cami's purpose are similar to me and both of the actors deserve such a huge apology from this fandom. Some of y'all need to learn to separate a show from reality.

#some of you all need to chill #making up lies about real life people is wild #it's okay that you're mad he pulled more than your favs #he was just a kid trying to survive #why are you all so mad that he made it #most of your favs got to live for hundreds/thousands of years #let Matt have his normal 80 something human years #this fandom acts like being human is a crime #and men having emotions is worse than being literal serial killers #the vampire diaries #the originals #tvd #tvdu