#it's exhausting

[ex-foster]

#pro choice #Pro life #Can I please search the foster care tag without being littered with arguments on why I should be dead? #It's exhausting

[loosiusgoosius]

Tired of these movies who's lesson is "the world sucks everything is bad consumerism is killing us media is rotting our brains and killing our empathy"

Maybe everyone is doing the best they can with what they have. Maybe the average person can't just change the world. Maybe we're allows to acknowledge those issues and still find joy in things like video games and pop tarts. Maybe it's not about the horrible person saying X group of people is terrible in some way shape or form. Maybe it's about the lady who gives you a dollar you're short at the gas station. Maybe it's about treating yourself to chocolate after a long day. Maybe it's about the guy helping you load your groceries when you're struggling. Maybe it's about the coworker sending you a tiktok and saying "I thought of you".

Maybe we don't have to always see life as this horrible slog to get through and that we're constantly burdened by the choices made by other people, constantly atoning for sins that weren't even our originally. Maybe, just maybe, we can stop making every single piece of media and topic about how we as a human race are fucked and don't care about each other.

It's not true. It can't be true. The day it becomes true is same day I will decide that life is not worth living.

Fuck negativity.

You are doing the best with what you have.

#honks from the goose #hopepunk #I watched leave the world behind and as good of a movie as it is and a good message #As someone who struggles with depression I am so so tired of seeing a constant influx of #Everything is bad and you're not doing enough to fix it #it's exhausting

[celaenaeiln]

Okay, so I've been scouring your blog these past few days, and ughh, it feels so good to find someone who actually seems to understand who Dick is! His eldest daughter complex is something I relate to so much, and was the thing that really drew me in. A lot of people look at the mediation and emotional weight lifting, (and those are huge parts of it, don't get me wrong,) but something else I find very eldest child is the way his own relationship with Bruce has continued to take hits all so Bruce can have better relationships with the others. Like when you're the oldest your parents make so many more mistakes with you. I also can't help but feel like it's got to be so hard as Dick to look at the way Bruce is with Tim/Dami/Cass, and wish that he could have that kind of relationship with his Dad. They want to be jealous of the trust, think he's the golden child, and yet at the same time, he's wishing he had something more resembling the true parent/child relationship the others got. (Idk maybe I'm projecting, but oh lord I go absolutely feral for eldest daughter Dick, it just hurts so good)

og post in reference

Yes! I'm so glad you brought that up!!

In terms of parenting, and why I don't really write about Bruce being a parent to Dick, is because Dick is kinda a guinea pig, as my engineering teacher put it once.

He was the Bruce's first for everything. First friend, first partner, first son - he just took responsibility for all roles. It makes things even worse because Bruce at the time he took in Dick, he had only been Batman for three years. Three. And he was literally drowning under the weight of the mask until he found Dick. There's a reason why Dick is Bruce's is right hand man and that's because Dick's been with him through everything. When Bruce was struggling and almost giving into his obsession, Dick was there to pull him out of it.

He quite literally mothered Bruce through his feelings, asking if everything was okay, what's wrong, watching him constantly and guaging his mood. This is exhausting work because Dick's mind was always on Bruce's mental state, much like a mother worried constantly about her teenage daughter or a father about his son.

That adoption scene where Dick asks Bruce, "why didn't you adopt me?" That's the realization of eldest daughter syndrome brought up.

Up until then, Dick was completely fine with being the caretaker for Bruce and lifting him up. He parented Bruce for so long and so smoothly, neither fully realized how much Dick was doing for him until he left. When Bruce adopts Jason, that's when Dick realizes there's something wrong with their dynamic.

I don't know if at that time Dick really wanted to be adopted or if he felt neglected because that he's wasn't while another was. But one thing he feels isn't jealousy, he's very clear on that, but Dick feels hurt.

Was there something he did wrong that caused Bruce to do that? What he do differently? What could he have done better? These types of questions constantly cloud his brain because he's gotten so used to taken care of his guardian for two decades now that he must feel hurt on some level even if he never expresses. He wouldn't begrudge his siblings because he feels happy Bruce isn't making the same mistakes to them that he did with Dick but at the same time, it's just exhausting for him.

Bruce might have improved but he isn't the best, so now he's busy taking care of both his brothers and sisters and his father. He also has to take care of his friends too.

He has the weight of the world on his shoulders but the worst part for him isn't the actual the weight - it's the realization that he's holding the weight. Because before he could live on in ignorance and bliss that Bruce was always going to be this way, and taking care of him would naturally just be Dick's job. He's so used to it, he's been doing it since he was eight.

But now, he knows what he's doing, he knows he's not supposed to, but he must. Because they rely on him, but also because that's what Bruce made him into. And I think that hurts the most for him.

He'll feel conflicted about it because on one hand, he loves Bruce. He loves him so much, he'll do anything for him. But also what about all those missed opportunities? Could he have been something different? Maybe he could've hung out with the Titans more if he didn't have to deal with bruce constantly demanding his presence. Maybe he could've joined a new class he never thought he would try.

Dick doesn't regret what he did and if he could go back in time, he would do it all over again but...he probably feels melancholic again. To love a parent so much you sacrifice your happiness over and over again so they can be happy while you're forced to grow up early. Dick's personality itself just lends itself to helping others but constantly taking care of your parent?

He's happy but he feels helpless and sad so he stays silent about it all.

It's said that Eldest Daughter Syndrome can make women feel overburdened, stressed out, and constantly responsible for others.

More signs include having a strong sense of responsibility (leading the batfam and hero teams), feeling a need for control (him fighting for his independence against Bruce and fighting to take care of his own teams), carrying the heavy weight of parents' expectations (his entire monologue in Nightwing 1996 about his feelings towards Bruce), perfectionism (Roy grouching about Dick's perfectionist tendencies to Kori in Outsiders and Roy yelling at Batman for it in Batman Plus), struggling with same-age relationships (dating older), and feeling resentment towards family (his outsiders era was him just resenting Bruce in the beginning).

He's been parenting Bruce for so long he was forced to grow up prematurely. I mentioned in my compartmentalization post when Dick's parents have literally just died. And he's forcing himself to act happy because he doesn't want Bruce to feel guilty and upset about not catching their murderer yet. That's not a responsibility a child should have - pretending everything is fine so as not to worry their family. That's the role of a parent. He's taking parenting his own parent because his actual one is incapable of doing so.

But Bruce's greatest fear is that by taking in Dick, he deprived Dick of opportunities to shine. To live in the limelight. And Dick knows everything about Bruce, so he knows Bruce's worst fears. And for this reason, out of the love that he has in his heart, Dick will never tell Bruce if he's hurt him because this is directly connected to his worst fear.

And that hurts. Because vocally releasing anger and sorrow is cathartic but to have it build up silently inside and letting it sink beneath the waves each time is painful.

#dick grayson #nightwing #bruce wayne #batman #eldest daughter syndrome #anon I can't begin to tell you how much I understand #it's exhausting #cl anon asks #thanks for the ask! #anon you inspired me to make a post about this that I'll upload later

[technicoloryuri]

the worst part of my day is when I have to do things™️

#it's exhausting #can i just stay on sleep mode #I don't want to do my silly little tasks #anyways im hungry and have to do stuff

[redysetdare]

every time i see a post that is like "ughh why cant we have aspec characters who aren't aroace for once" I have to do a double take like "is the aroace rep in the room with us right now?" because genuinely....where is all this aroace rep y'all are complaining about? Why cant i find it yet it's apparently the only aspec rep we get?? You admit that TV never says the word aromantic so where is the aroace rep. So far I've pretty much only seen canonically asexual characters and not much else buddy.

#text #half the time i think these ppl see other aspec ppl saying that x character feels aroace and then they take it as canon rep #instead of an interpretation of the character which likely was never meant to be written as aspec at all #because majority of people don't even know what that is #this isn't me saying that we shouldn't have aroallo or alloace rep btw #this is me complaining about people throwing aroace ppl under the bus because apparently we are 'hogging' all the representation in media #and it just reads as people being aphobic towards aroace people specifically and it drives me insane #you can ask for more aroallo and alloace characters without complaining and shitting on aroace characters???? #like bro we are all on the same fucking team. we are all trying to get seen and understood. we all want to see ourselves in media #stop fighting like one of us is somehow way more privileged than the other because 'you have x rep' #we all have crumbs my guy. just because someone else is getting crumbs doesn't mean that its your crumbs being taken. #idk i see so many posts like this and it makes me feel so unwelcome in the aro and ace communities #im tired of aroace people being used as a scapegoat that you can target to pretend like you're punching up #when in reality you're just committing friendly fire against people who are on your team #i miss when the aro and ace communities used to like... work together as a big aspec community #now ppl r way too focused on separating them and acting like they have nothing in common and don't have the same goals #and both communities now tend to put a lot of blame onto aroace people because of stereotypes we never had control over in the first place #it's exhausting #like the aphobia is coming from inside the house #i didn't go through the ace discourse on tumblr to deal with this shit.

[anavie-12]

im so tired

#no amount of sleep can help me #im tired #it's exhausting #mentally tired #i cant do it anymore #mental illness #mental health #su1c1dal #violet harmon #cassie ainsworth #4n0r3xia #th1n$po #i hate my family #girlblog #girlblogging #lana del rey aesthetic

[captainjonnitkessler]

Atheists can talk about their atheism in the blandest, most matter-of-fact way possible and will still get accused of being “angry” and “bitter” and “pushy”. I just saw a post where a pushy Christian tried to preach to a room of non-Christians and verbally got their ass handed to them (and then everybody clapped, I’m sure), and one comment said they liked it because “the snooty atheist AND the pushy Christian both got their comeuppance!” The only thing the atheist said was “I don’t believe in God”, after everybody else had listed all the gods THEY believed in. There was a post on AITA where an atheist got badgered about their beliefs - at work, and after their coworkers had a twenty-minute discussion on THEIR beliefs - and after several minutes of trying to deflect the conversation, admitted that they don’t believe in an afterlife. They got voted the asshole because someone in the room was grieving and they “should have been more tactful” - even though they tried multiple times to deflect out of tact and were essentially harassed for it. I once reblogged a post that said calling victims of Christian abuse “cultural Christians” was cruel and someone I thought was a friend publicly announced that I was a bigoted asshole who was just angry because I knew that what they were saying was true.

And once again I cannot stress enough that that’s exactly what the fundamentalist party line is on atheism. Atheists are angry because deep down they know that fundamentalists are right and just don’t want to admit it. Atheists are pushy because they’re miserable and they want everyone else to be just as miserable. Atheists are bitter because they know they can never truly be happy. Atheists are joyless because you can’t know joy without God. There’s a whole fundamentalist movie genre about those snooty, elitist, angry atheists getting taken down a peg by good faithful Christians and some of those plots are identical to posts on this website.

Atheists are allowed to be angry. But I know so many who walk on absolute eggshells around religious people and still get these accusations thrown in their face the second they try talking about any atheist issue. And if your “progressive” space is using the exact same language about atheists as your average evangelical then maybe that’s a good reason to be angry actually.

#atheism #i mean yeah i AM still pretty bitter about that friend actually!! it was super shitty and fucked me up for a bit! #and just the way people will warp any narrative to make the atheist the bad guy #and the way religious people can talk about their beliefs all day long but if an atheist dares to vocalize theirs #they're automatically 'as bad as an evangelical' #it's exhausting #i've got a dozen more examples i could've put in this post

[introvertedlass]

Pondering...

Are there online spaces that don't cater to a mob mentality or get sucked into negativity over and over again. Asking for a friend.

I am that friend.

#need change #it's exhausting #same shit over and over again #they don't see it

[workingonit-currently]

#classic who #doctor who #classic doctor who #fifth doctor #the fifth doctor #5th doctor #doctor who text post #i should really stop bulk making these #it's exhausting

[loonaawoona]

Sometimes being trans is such a chore. Like, ugh, am I going to be radiant today? Will I be attractive to others? Will I look at myself in the mirror in awe? Yes. Of course I will, and that's an incredible amount of work for one day.

#trans #nonbinary #transgender #queer #text #enby #trans shitposting #It's exhausting #Are you one of the ones that find me attractive?

[honesty-my-policy]

Saving ridiculous posts I see in my drafts to give a proper rebuttal when I have the time vs just calling everyone stupid

#israel #palestine #politics #hamas #jews #gaza #palestine vs israel #antisemitism #jewish #about myself #it's exhausting

[goinbhaalistic]

'Gortash's letters were changed to better suit his tone'

Yeah okay

#larian critical #bg3 critical #yeah I'm not buying this #also I'm getting real sick and tired of them just changing things like this #Add things - don't take them out and scrub them down like this lmfao? #It's exhausting #also stop making the game less queer :) #very cute of you larian #I don't like this idea floating around from this that him being attracted to men needs to be 'neater' so they toned it waayyyyyyy down- #-to the point it's not even there anymore #I doubly don't like that the letter changes were not ever put into patch notes and were sneakily put in

[f1-birb]

we're not even 20 laps in lads

#f1 #dutch gp 2023 #lando norris #oscar piastri #it's EXHAUSTING

[pessimistic-gh0st]

My brain is so confusing. Like one moment I want to tell someone everything about me and just actually say what I'm thinking, but then most of the time I don't want anyone to know me and I just want to stay invisible and never speak again

#it's exhausting #how are extroverts so talkative about themselves?? #it baffles me #i need them to teach me their ways #i guess my trust issues don't help tbh #it's funny because it's true #tori spring

[faeofdusk]

i don't think you would get it

#vent art #abrosexual #bisexual #asexual #aroace #pansexual #lesbian #happy pride i guess? #wish it was easier to explain and to keep up #it's exhausting

[holyshit]

.

#some of you really take it beyond normal criticism and into just complete nasty heckling #obviously there can be criticism about his image and his image isn't all he is #and there's going to be a distinction there where you can get annoyed by certain things while still liking him as a person #but there's a point that if you're THIS annoyed by literally anything he ever says. maybe you just don't like him as a person #if you're finding something to nitpick about in every single interview print or in-person and insulting him every which way you can... #maybe you don't actually like him and you might have to stop trying to pretend you are only talking about his image #i'm even seeing the author's own writing choices being held against louis like cmon #it's exhausting #*