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jasminsstories · 3 months

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How finals week with Zayne by your side would be…probably:

gn!reader x zayne / fluff; just for fun, don’t take this seriously pls

will try to support you as much as he can, since he knows best how hard studying is

“I told you to start earlier than to cram the material in the last minute. It won’t stick in your long-term memory this way” “Zayne, I don’t care if it sticks in my long-term memory as long as I pass this exam”

“Come here and eat this before continuing”

Basically drags you daily to the kitchen table where he prepared healthy meals

“But why do only I have carrots in my salad?” “Because you need Vitamin B to stay fit for your exams” “Just say you gave all of your carrots to me, because you don’t like them!”

“If you continue to drink so much coffee, I am afraid I will see you in the ER soon because of arrhythmia… and I don’t want that” “Zayne, you can’t just hide my coffee machine!!”

opens the windows regularly to help you concentrate and makes sure you stay hydrated

definitely will try to lure you out for walks to get some steps in

“Didn’t you say you wanted to see the sunset?” “I do, I really want… but I have to get this done today” “Let’s go, you need some Vitamin D” *suddenly lifts you up bridal style* “Hey, let me down!!” *acts like he doesn’t hear you*

the more time passes and the deeper the night gets with every passing minute, you can’t stop yawning and rubbing your heavy eyelids; still you try to focus them on your bright notebook screen

“Go to sleep. You have to get enough sleep to function tomorrow as well” “I can’t afford to sleep now. Sleep can wait, the deadline for my essay won’t”

tries to get you to bed through various methods

first tries to make it less obvious and wants to make you jealous through your plushies

“Then Mr. Snowman will have to cuddle with me today..” “Mhmmm”

But quickly realizes that it doesn’t work and you don’t react to it

for his second try he sneaks up to you from behind and puts his hands on your waist, pressing a lingering kiss on the shell of your ear, whispering a tempting “Come to bed with me”

you try to stay strong though and ignore his attempt with the last endurance you have

the next time he comes up to your desk for his third attempt, he finds you asleep already, your face planted on the surface of your desk

he can’t hold back a chuckle and a fond glow is in his orbs as he gazes at your face; just looks at you for some minutes

carefully picks you up and carries you to bed, trying his hardest not to wake you up; whispers a “Good night, my angel” and gives your forehead a small kiss

tucks you to bed and will lay down beside you to watch you sleep

when you wake up the next morning you begin to panic because you weren’t able to pull the all-nighter you desperately needed to finish on time

“Breathe, Love. Don’t worry. You can do it, I know it”

“I look kinda like a Panda now with my dark circles, don’t I?” “Yeah…kinda. Maybe more like a raccoon”

when you are finally done with all of your exams and your essays, he will pat your head and smile proudly; “Good job, I knew you can do it”

with a relieved sigh you press a loving kiss on his lips

and now you can finally get revenge for the times he teased you

just the brain rot i have in my finals week. i am quite literally losing my marbles right now, so i needed some zayne fluff. did i write this instead of studying…maybe. i need this man so bad. actually working on a smut atm but since its been so long since i wrote one, it’s hard for me to get into the flow right now.

#zayne love and deepspace #love and deepspace #zayne x reader #zayne fluff #zayne fanfic #zayne x you

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theladyofdeath · 11 months

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Sooo currently it's exam period in my country at my uni. Which means I need a lot of motivation, something I lack atm. I use my time wisely catching up on fics instead of studying. So I kindly ask you for some motivation, preferably in the form of Elorcan. Preferably them also needing motivation or stress release. I mean I don't really have a preference as long you like writing a little Elorcan. With maybe Elide still studying for her last exam and Lorcan coming home from work and helping her out or something? Idk? I'm bad at prompts? I know it's not summerish but it's sunny outside and hot and I have to study? So that also summerish? Anyways enjoy your free time and have a wonderful day!!

I am always here for fluffy Elorcan! Good luck on exams! x

Everything on Elide's screen had gone blurry. She'd been staring at it for so long that nothing made sense and letters officially were beginning to look like ancient symbols that had yet to be discovered. She knew that she needed a break, but her last exam of the semester was in fifteen hours and if she wanted to get any sleep tonight, there was no room for breaks.

Even if she desperately wanted one.

Just as she threw her head back with a groan, the front door opened and Lorcan trudged inside. With one look at his fiance, he lifted a brow. "How long has it been since you last moved?"

Elide didn't even know. "An hour...maybe five."

He snorted as he kicked off his shoes and walked across the living room to where she sat on the couch, her laptop on her blanket-covered lap. He leaned down and kissed her, slowly. At the touch of his lips, the tension faded from Elide's body.

"Hi."

"Hi," she whispered, and kissed him again. "How was your day?"

"Better than yours, it seems," he mumbled, plopping down on the couch beside her. "You look stressed."

"I am." She had been stressed all week, it was nothing new. Tomorrow was her last final, the final final she would ever take as a student. After tomorrow, she would be finished, and in the matter of a couple of weeks, she would be a graduate of the University of Perranth with a degree in psychology.

"Why don't you take a break?"

"There's no time for a break."

He blinked, surely thinking that answer was ridiculous but Elide didn't care. This was important to her. "Okay, well, can I do anything for you? Help you study? Bring you wine? Strip tease?"

"You were a horrible student, so I can't say that your help in studying is very tempting," Elide chuckled. "The wine and your nudity, however, are pretty tempting, but both are too distracting for my current state of mind."

Lorcan clicked his tongue and sighed. "How about I go pick up dinner and feed you while you cram, then?"

Elide swore she had never been more in love with him than in that moment. There was a little bistro across the street that had soup made by the gods, and in half an hour, Lorcan was back with a giant container of chicken barley soup that had Elide's mouth watering, and a couple of paninis.

She couldn't help but be distracted by Lorcan as he made his way into the kitchen and took out a couple of bowls and plates to fill them with food. He didn't even notice her watching him - he never seemed to - and Elide had always found that charming.

Five minutes later, the coffee table that Elide had been lovingly using as a footstool was covered in food and drinks - wine included, and even though Lorcan claimed both glasses of wine were for him, she knew better.

"You're trying to get me too tipsy to study," Elide muttered, keeping her laptop up and running while she ate.

"No, I'm not," Lorcan said, mouth full. "I'm just trying to give you enough to take the edge off. You're obviously stressed as hell, and if you won't take my cock for twenty minutes, I'm pouring you wine."

Elide lifted a brow. "Twenty minutes?"

Lorcan just narrowed his eyes and took another massive bite of his sandwich. After he swallowed, he said, "Fine. Fifteen."

Elide continued to stare at him.

Lorcan pursed his lips and took a sip of wine. "No need to be rude, damn."

Despite herself, Elide laughed, and out of the corner of her eye she saw Lorcan's lips twitched. He was always trying to make her smile, even when it didn't seem like it.

It was one of the many reasons that she so desperately wanted to marry him. He always made her smile, always made her laugh. It was a side of him that only she saw - well, she and his closest friends. Lorcan wasn't the warmest of men. In fact, he was rather broody, but for her...he made her whole world a hell of a light brighter.

While they ate, Lorcan kept quiet, but when he was done, he pulled Elide's feet onto his lap and rubbed them through her fluffy socks while she scrolled and read and reviewed her notes...and tried her best not to doze off.

She had no idea how much time had passed before his fingers grew weaker, then slowed, then stopped altogether. She glanced over at him and chuckled.

Her future husband had his head thrown back against the couch cushion and his mouth hanging open. His eyes were closed and he was snoring softly.

"Lor."

Nothing, not even a twitch.

"Lor." She nudged his lap with her toes.

He shot up, his fingers resuming their rubbing. Elide laughed, quietly. "Go to bed. I'll be there soon."

"No, you won't," he said, running his hands up her shins. "You'll be here all night. Which isn't healthy, by the way. In fact, you should take breaks while studying or else the information won't fully stick in your brain. Trust me. Your brain needs time to process."

Elide rolled her eyes.

"Hey, I got my degree. I passed my exams. I know what I'm talking about," he defended. "At least take a few minutes. Take a shower. Or a bubble bath. Pee, for the gods' sake."

Elide groaned, closing her eyes, just now realizing how much they ached. "Alright. Fine. Ten minutes and not a second more."

She wanted to finish out her senior year strong and allowing herself to become distracted wouldn't help her do it. Even if she had been studying all day.

All fucking day.

The second Elide shut her laptop, she felt guilty. But, Lorcan was there, taking her hands into his and pulling her onto his lap.

She nuzzled into his shoulder and took a deep breath as he wrapped his arms around her.

"You know that I'm so proud of you, right?"

His voice was quiet, hardly more than a whisper. Elide leaned back. There was nothing but pure adoration and support in his eyes.

"I know," she said, and kissed him, softly. "Thank you."

He nodded and twisted a strand of her long, dark hair around his finger. "I know it hasn't been easy for you to get here, but you..." he shook his head and huffed a laugh. The genuine affection in his gaze had her tearing up. "You made it, El. No matter how tomorrow goes - and it's going to go great, because you've been studying your ass off - but, no matter how it goes, I hope you're proud of yourself. You're going to be a college graduate. Have a degree from one of the best universities in the country. That's amazing."

Elide nodded because she didn't trust herself to speak. She would be the first in her family to get a college education as far as she knew. Her parents died young, but her uncle, who she had lived with after their deaths, hadn't gone to college. No, he had just been a lazy, drunk asshole that Elide tried to ignore as much as possible until she turned eighteen and got the hell out of there.

"I love you," he said, once it was clear that she was getting nothing out. He kissed her forehead. "Pee. Take a quick shower." When she raised a brow, he held his hands up in surrender. "I promise to stay out and not try to steal your innocence."

There was no point in saying that he had "stolen" her innocence at least a million times.

Elide snorted.

"When you come back out, I'll have all this shit cleaned up and I'll let you study the night away."

There was no point in denying his wishes. She did have to pee horribly and knew that her hair needed a good washing. She did it quickly, though, and fifteen minutes later, she was walking back towards her spot on the couch.

Lorcan was in the kitchen, washing dishes, and although the coffee table had been cleared of their dinner, there was a newly filled glass of wine and a full glass of ice water sitting on the glass. She suppressed a smile, checked out Lorcan's ass while he dried a plate and put it in the cabinet, then snuggled back up on the couch to boot up her laptop, yet again.

Once Lorcan was done, he plopped back down on the couch. Elide's eyes left her screen and found his. "Not going to bed?"

Lorcan shook his head as he fought a yawn. "I'm here to keep you company and support you until your beautiful brain can't hold anymore information." He pulled her feet back onto his lap. "Study away. Let me know when you're ready for me to quiz you."

The fact that he was obviously exhausted and was too stubborn to leave her to study alone made her love him all the more. She was truly lucky to have found someone so...so....right. He was different from anyone she had ever known.

He was everything.

Soon, she would be a graduate of the University of Perranth.

Then, she would be Lorcan Salvaterre's wife.

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thedeal-if · 9 months

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It took me way too long to figure dropout is yours too 😅🫶🏻 love it! Tell me, what‘s the main motivation behind those two IFs? What do you wish to experience and achieve with each one separately? Did I mention I am a huge fan of both already?? 😍😍😍

I have „Dereliction“ and also opened up „Paved in Ashes“ for the only reason of wanting to have a fantasy and slice-of-life one. But atm my friend is posting all the PiA content for me as I am busy studying. Can‘t wait to be back once my exams are through and finally throw myself into both!

Wishing you lots of joy with both of your babies 💕

Dropout was a kinda out of the blue thing I don't blame you 😭

What do you wish to experience and achieve with each one separately?

Honestly I agree I wanted to write both fantasy and slice-of-life!!

I really really like any media with demons lol that is The Deal's main reason of being. But the more years have passed the more I've used it as a means to explore responsibility and grief.

For a month or so now The Deal has been really hard for me to write (grief in general is something I'm struggling with atm though it's getting better!) so Dropout kind of just gained a little more priority.

As for Dropout... School makes me so anxious lol It's been a really alienating experience which I'm glad to say goodbye to next year hahaha I wanted to explore that feeling + the whole everything changes and I sometimes wish to go back to high school but everyone's an adult now and that sucks.

Did I mention I am a huge fan of both?

This means a lot fr 😭💕 thank you!! Mwah

I have „Dereliction“ and also opened up „Paved in Ashes“ for the only reason of wanting to have a fantasy and slice-of-life one.

Omg I didn't know paved in ashes was yours either 😭 Tumblr recommended it to me so it's doing something right!! It looks like it's going to be amazing, best wishes with both ifs💕

But atm my friend is posting all the PiA content for me as I am busy studying. Can‘t wait to be back once my exams are through and finally throw myself into both!

Hope your exams go wonderfully! Lots of luck!🫂

#the deal if #the deal #dropout if #dropout

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klara-rosa · 14 days

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I have a really big exam on Wednesday that I've been studying for for about 5 weeks now (really more like 7 or 8) and I am so exhausted, my mind and body just feel tired. I feel so out of touch with myself, like I'm aware of how poor my mental health is atm but I'm too tired and hyperfocused on studying to deal with it. I've cried a lot the last weeks and had a huuuge breakdown last week during which I behaved absolutely DISGUSTING and I just feel like I have so many deeply personal issues which I truly don't have any idea how to solve. I don't know how to be better. If I pass this exam, my work contract will become permanent and I will receive full salary. I feel like I've been holding my breath for the last 2,5 years to get to this point. But if I pass this now, I don't know what to do, what comes next. Until now I got uo every day to get to work, always knowing that I have to make it to this point where I have to take this exam and until then I was just holding on. But...I have no life outside of work. I have no hobbies, nothing interests me and my need for perfectionism also prevents me from just trying a lot of things. I have, really, one true friend who is a colleague and we both kind of don't really want to hang out in our free time. I'm so wary and scared of people, I don't want to get close to anyone but at the same time I CRAVE closeness and friendships and just a hug every now and then.

I feel like I'm at a point where I have to decide between life and death. It sounds so stupid because this is triggered by an EXAM for my stupid, meaningless work but I feel like I have to make a decision whether I want to start living, making friends, becoming active, seeking hobbies, seeing the pretty parts of life or whether I want to give up. Finally give up. God knows I've been holding on for a long time and this way of living is just no longer sustainable. I'm tired.

I just don't know who I am and what I want and why I am like this. My family tells me I need to speak to my therapist urgently, I need to get new meds. But I could never make them understand why I'm wary because I don't dare tell them my honest, true thoughts. I don't knwo if taking these steps is worth it. Because my honest, true thoughts are that I'm not sure I want to stay alive. I don't know if I want to keep pushing. I don't know if I want to make it to 30. I never thought I'd make it to 20! Then to 25...this year I'm already turning 28. I've far exceeded my personal expectations.

I just don't know. I don't know.

#I will have a talk with my therapist and ask for her advice #I need someone to tell me what to do HOW TO BECOME BETTER #it's not like I WANT to be sick like this but I just don't know who I am without my mental illness #I don't know how to live and I need someone to tell me how to start living #pretty much I just am having a major crisis #personal #mental health #social anxiety #depression

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bunny584 · 23 days

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Bunnnyyyy:(( I am so stressed atm I’m studying for my final exams and history is so much and I’m not even done with bio and still have to start geography and English and German and ughhhh :(( I’m also getting sick and my mental health has been at an all time low for various reasons and I wanna cry. How do I memorize like two years worth of information for 5 different classes in idk 2 weeks left :,(( I’m sitting at my desk for like 7-9 hours a day and ugh

I’m sorry for the sudden rant I’m just so exhausted and would really love some encouragement of our fav bunny :(( you’re always so sweet so maybe you have some nice words for me left :(

Anon, hi Angel 🥹💖

Breathe.

I can empathize with you feeling so overwhelmed. Our brains like to trick us into thinking we know absolutely nothing, and we have no framework.

That is not true.

You are intelligent. Beyond capable. And have more than enough of knowledge to do well on ALL of your exams.

My own personal tricks/tips (for entrance exams, all three parts of my licensing exam, and for oral and written boards):

1. They can only ask you so many questions

2. The answer is in front of you, immediately cross out anything that doesn’t fit the story

3. Study in spurts (40 minutes on, 10 minutes off) it’s a proven method for retention

4. Talk out loud to yourself! About concepts, etc. also a proven method for retention

5. GO SEE THE SUN. SLEEP SLEEP SLEEP. The synapses in our brains make cute little connections that solidify new and old knowledge

You can always vent to me, anytime. I’m sorry you’re feeling overwhelmed but I have so much faith in you baby 🩷 i’m on long call this weekend and will be sending ALL the brain waves your way.

#bunnyblabs

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doesntseeyourbeauty · 7 months

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Helloooo 👻

It's so good to know that!!! OMG that's so exciting!!! I love making bracelets. I've been reusing some beads from old necklaces that I don't use anymore and some others that I got recently and it's so fun! I'm also going to maybe try making a mix of crochet and bead bracelets for my eras show next year. Sadly, my town won't get the eras movie, but I don't think I want to see it before the actual concert. But, I'm so excited for you all going and sharing these moments again!!!! 🤍🤍🤍

It's definitely the key to a successful future!!! Open communication and willingness to have empathy and walk a mile in someone else's shoes. I think we'll achieve great things when we care about eachother truly more.

Yes, it was a cool experience! I just felt like I could trust her and this time I wasn't wrong. 😂 I might sell some stuff I don't really use anymore. And give some others to my friends that I think fit the aesthetic perfectly. Definitely!!! I'm not exactly from a rural area, but it pretty much as gigantic in the middle of nowhere vibes. Hehehe

I kinda did back then!!!! It was a great time!!! And then speak now was out and that made everything even worse. I was so in love with it!!! I was drawing a 13 on my hand everyday in my senior year in highschool, during my study time for the final exams. Like a good luck charm. 🥰🤍 you're so right about that!!!! Her music is definitely different from eachother, but there's like this thread throughout that just makes it so Taylor! I'm glad you're also having the best time with the rerecordings, because I definitely am!!! I think it's something so incredible! Awww that's so sweet!!! How is it having brothers? I only have two younger sisters.

Hahaha what's your dog's name? I also had a dog and a cat before and it was amazing! They got along so well. 🤍🤍🤍

I haven't watched any of those do I'll add them to my list! Thank you 🤍

Oh, that's understandable! I used to listen to them too! We have a lot of similar favs!!!! ☺️🥰 what's your favourite non Taylor song atm?

🤍🤍🤍

hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!!!! I hope that you've had a lovely week so far <3

oh 100%, I am a bracelet making fiend! I do pretty basic ones to be fair, but I also work full-time so it's not as easy for me to do more intricate ones; although I LOVE seeing how creative people are with their bracelets (shoutout to my favs @hollyfhumberstone and @dancingwiththecoven bc they make GORGEOUS bracelets and I am forever in awe of coco's and jens talent!!!). OMG PLEASE MAKE CROCHET AND BEAD BRACELETS THAT'S SO CUTE!! I'm sorry that the movie isn't coming to your town, that's no fun, but I'm glad you get to go to the actual show next year (that's so exciting!)! I'm super excited especially because I'm taking the day off tomorrow to go spend it with my friends before the showing we're going to and we're all huge swifties so it's always a party with us!

EXACTLY! You hit the nail on the head!!! <333

Omg yessssssss, I love getting to support small businesses and especially small swiftie businesses, it's always my fav thing to do! Oh I feel that! I live in a big-ish city, but it's in the middle of nowhere and it takes almost 2 hours to get to the closest big city with things like target or even most chain restaurants like Panda Express or sit down ones like Olive Garden.

The OG Speak Now era was something else! I remember when it came out and being absolutely obsessed with haunted bc I was in a twilight phase and I firmly believed that haunted should've been on the soundtrack somewhere! Long Live is my fav from Speak Now (og and tv) but a lot of that has to do with the memories I have associated with it! Okay but I love that you drew the 13 on your hand for good luck, that's so precious!!

It's 100% Taylor's songwriting that makes it so clearly Taylor. Really and truly, it's amazing to see how she's consistent with her writing from debut to midnights considering how much she's grown as a songwriter and musician over the years. I firmly believe that her music holds up throughout the years and will continue to do so, especially with the re-recordings! Oh I am, I love getting to relive those eras again, especially because they were so important to me during the OG eras. I'm very lucky to have my brothers! We're all very close and I wouldn't trade them for the world (I'm the middle child lol)!!

Her name is Kayla! She's an 11 year old Labrador Retriver mix that I adopted last year and I love her so so much! Winnie is my baby but Kayla is my sweet old lady. They get along for the most part except Kayla is a garbage disposal and will eat anything, including Winnie's food (which makes Winnie angry because she's particular about her food lol).

I recommend them a lot! I'm always looking for new things to watch or listen to, I love broadening my tastes!

I love that!!! I think my favorite non-Taylor song atm is He Gets Me So High by beabadoobee or get him back! by Olivia Rodrigo. They're both songs I have constantly going in my head.

<33333

#swiftie halloween

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watercolor-hearts · 9 months

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Tagged by @rednyx-sf, thank you so much, I really enjoyed answering these. 😊❤

Name: V or Virág (it means flower)

Sign: Leo

Time: 11:21

Favourite band/artist: I don't really have favorite artists anymore but I do like the songs of these bands: The Amazing Devil, Coldplay, Linkin Park, Imagine Dragons, Our Last Night and Bagossy Brothers Company. I also like a lot of artists because there are a lot of good songs on TikTok and in the radio but I can't really name any exact artists. I don't really care about the artist(s), I more interested in their songs.

Last movie: Sorstalanság/Fateless(ness) (A Hungarian film based on the only Hungarian, Literature Noble prize-winning book, Fateless(ness), which is about the Holocaust through a young boy's eyes. I needed to watch it because of my literature final exam. It was... Really sad and deep.) (I don't know whether Fateless or Fatelessness is the official English title because google shows both but if I translate the Hungarian title literally, it's the second one.)

Last show: Either Young Royals (s2) or Heartstopper (s1), I'm not sure.

When I created this blog: A few years ago so if you deep dive (please don't) you'll find The Witcher post and other stuff I don't even remember anymore.

Other blogs: Only a Hungarian one but I don't like to use it because the Hungarian side of Tumblr is really depressing.

Do I get asks: Usually only prompts/story ideas but I love them so please keep them coming. ❤ (You can send normal asks about anything, too. 😊)

Followers: 106 people, about five of them are the ones I usually see interacting with my posts. 😃 (I joined this fandom with about 10-20 followers so the majority of this 106 are here because of F1.)

Average hours of sleep: When I was in school it was 5-7 but now it's summer so it's 8-10, depends on how late I go to sleep and how tired I am in the morning.

Instruments: I used to play the piano but I didn't like my teacher's personality and teaching method so I stopped. I miss it sometimes, especially when I see Charles or other drivers playing it. (I wanted to learn playing the violin but as I heard it's really difficult and expensive, so it still is only a dream. As well as wanting to learn to play the guitar. Fun fact: I am right handed but if I were to learn to play the guitar I would want to play it with my left hand because for some reason it feels more natural to hold the guitar that way, on my left thigh. Kinda strange, I know. 😃)

What I am wearing: Black knee-length shorts and a burgundy Ric Rodeo t-shirt.

Dream job: I'm lucky enough to study what my dream job is (graphic design) but there was a phase when I wanted to be a clothes designer, but I let the idea go because I only like drawing the clothes but not making them.

Dream trip: I wanna go to a beach because I have never been to one. And I also want to visit Italy because I really like it and I also am interested in art history so I would love to visit museums and statues and everything related to it. Also, I wanna go to the Van Gogh museum in the Netherlands because I follow them on Instagram and I really like their posts.

Favorite song atm: At the moment, it's Tattoo by Loreen but it changes a lot nowadays because of TikTok. 😃

Tagging: @charlosgoggles and @russellius (No pressure to do it if you don't want to. 😊)

#about myself #my useless posts

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full-on-sam · 10 months

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Nine People Tag

Thank you for tagging me here @squarebracket-trick ! Finally I got around to do it.

LAST SONG: Message Man by Twenty Øne Pilots

LAST MOVIE: I don't really like watching movies that much tbh. I think the last one I watched was probably something from Ghibli. I think it was My Neighbor Totoro

CYRRENTLY WATCHING: To be honest I am not watching much, I have exams incoming and I prefer to focus on studying. When I take a break I play videogames (Genshin Impact atm). I think last series I watched was Carmen Sandiego on Netflix. And I am currently waiting for Good Omens season 2 to come out.

CURRENTLY READING: Yesterday I found used and on sale a book I was missing from a series I read in my childhood, so now I'm reading it for something light. Other than that... my exam books. I don't really have much time to read at all to be honest.

CURRENTLY CRAVING: Some sleep. I stayed up way too late to study. As for food, maybe a cupcake?

LAST RHING YOU SEARCHED FOR WRITING PURPOSES: Arab and Arab sounding names for my latest WIP.

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Tagging very gently @sm-writes-chaos, @bluberimufim, @kyofsonder, @on-noon, @wip-nook, @flock-from-the-void, @vsnotresponding, @another-white-hole and @whogavemeapen!

Let me know if you would like to be added or removed from my tag list!

#nine people tag

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loveyourlovelysoul · 1 year

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hey..how do I deal with exam failure (not school exams but university exam failure)? I'm so hurt rn. I dont want to fall back into the spiral of self sabotaging. I am already holding myself back fro doing anything crazy

Hey... Despite your mind wants you to think you are unworthy and unable to do anything, that's not so. Try to see things from another perspective: failing an exam is only a stumble in your path. You know, sometimes it happens: we're not prepared enough so we need to revise it all once more to finally pass it (maybe with a better grade too). In fact, you can take it again, right? Then focus on the next time. It's okay to fall here and there sometimes, we cannot always run smoothly in our life. Try to be kinder with yourself: one mistake doesn't mean you're a complete failure. At all. And it's okay to not always be "perfect" and pass exams on the first take. It's like any other bump you will encounter in your life: you fall, and then you get up. Maybe hurt and bruised, but you get up again and move forward with more knowledge. In fact, you already took this exam: now you know how it works and you can prepare more accurately for it. You have a second chance to grab with your hands, so do that.

Now, Idk why you put so much stress on University (maybe in your country is more important or you fear not being able to find a job at the end of it -honestly, finding a job atm is pretty hard in general- or Idk), but I have personally always seen Uni exams and school exams the same way: tests on my preparation. And it was okay to not be prepared enough sometimes, to not have studied enough to pass them (this comes from someone who always wanted to get the best degree btw). Not to mention some exams are made quite tougher by professors on purpose: my friends in Medicine had to take Biochemistry 3-5 times (and it was blocking other exams too, so they couldn't move from there) and I had to take the Physics one like... 3 times each maybe? Yeah, kinda. But we all made it, in the end. And we're all graduated. Idk how University works in your country, but I think in general, the moment you need to retake the exam, nobody will care about the one you failed, and probably nobody will remember either. But despite how it works in your country, one exam failed is not a stain on your worth, again it doesn't mean you're a failure. Focus on your next occasion: you can make it, I'm sure you can and you will get an amazing degree on this exam and also your graduation degree will be fantastic. :)

And maybe... instead of saying "failing" use "falling"? Like in "I falled an exam, but I can get up again and pass it." If it works for you... Or anything that can help you and your mind seeing things not so negatively. Cause they aren't so: it's your mind trying to play with you through this trigger. But you can make it.

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camdenspice · 2 years

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Hellooo pal can you do 🌡 🎒 and 🎥 ?

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🎒— are you in college, major area of study

right so i graduated secondary school in may and did my final exams in june and in my country we basically have to wait until september to get our exam results and then those results determine what college we get into if we get in at all so am in a weird in-between stage atm but i do hope i get accepted to my course and get to study english fingers crossed

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WOO so i am a little Filmé Nerd if you will and my fave film of all time is dead poets society<33 typical gay answer sorry but it really changed my life. my other four faves are portrait of a lady on fire, billy elliot, carrie and parasite

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jalebi-weds-bluetooth · 2 years

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Hi AJ, Tumblr won't let me send the entire thing by itself so I'll try and divide it.

Also sorry this is strange and you probably don't want to spend your time giving advice to random strangers but I don't want to bother my other friends with this, because it just feels like an ongoing thing, something I constantly complain about and while they're all really kind and understanding, and probably will not get annoyed I don't want to take the chance to irritate them.

I was always the ugly duckling growing up, and despite really wanting to be extroverted, I pushed myself to be a secluded person since it felt like each time I talked to people the popular girls would make fun of shit that I said or did or wore. I did eventually make good friends in freshman year of high school (I think that's what 9th grade is, India doesn't follow that system of naming so I'm not sure) but I always wanted to have a guy best friend, because a lot of my other friends did and it seemed like the cool thing atm. So when I became friends with some guys (let's call them A, B and C) I was super grateful and happy. While I lost contact with C, me and A kept in touch and B actually lived nearby so we even hung out often, studied together and everything.

He ended up moving once the exams were over, after chastising B for breaking the surprise, tbh I am not very thrilled at the prospect of any surprises but I stayed quiet because he seemed excited. I thought he'd also just want to hand out once in a while (which preferably to me is like once three months lol) but once he came over he wanted to meet everyday, I was going through teb rough time because my parents suddenly decided to split and I was living with my mom and sister alone. Once he'd come over he would not leave till it was night time and frankly I wasn't comfortable with that, he was also very touchy, constantly wanting to cuddle and hold hands and go for walks and whatnot. I've had other guy friends over time and none do that unless they ask first. He wasn't per say making me physically uncomfortable but I felt scared around him that if mom walked into the room she'd think we were together, and I don't want that, also like I said I just wasn't comfortable with the actions, not threatened just not okay with them ykwim? Even B looked at us weird when A insisted on holding hands and asking me to put my head on his lap and go to sleep or smth when we were watching a movie and I grew sleepy. I'll be honest, if this was a girl friend of mine, I'd be more than happy lol but with guys I'm not, ig I've never been, not to this extent, me and my other guy friends also hug, B brings me chocolates when I'm on my periods and he even often came to pick me from my tuitions when it got dark outside but I felt incredibly safe with their actions, like I could put my head on B's shoulder on the bike ride w/o fearing what anyone else would think because I know it was entirely platonic, with A idk, on my birthday he insisted he pick me up from home to the place we all had decided to hang out at, even though I told him I'd ask B since he lived closer A seemed mad at me so I gave in. On the ride, he kept trying to loop my hand around his waist, finally I ended up sort of hitting him over the playfully but the entire interaction made me uncomfortable. Ever since I was trying to avoid him, plus I have exams and stuff going on and am rarely free because of college and my premed exam, but he keeps insisting we hang. Once I ended up getting exhausted and told another friend (a girl from the boarding school) what I had been feeling and she validated my emotions except ig she told him exactly what I felt and he sent me a text apologising for making me feel uncomfortable and that he was having a hard time in life then and meant no harm, I felt guilty because again I feel like I had no proper experience with guy friends (even though I do now) and I apologised too. He didn't ask me to hang out since then and didn't even wish me on my birthday this year which I was actually happy with because I thought it officially meant out friendship had ended, but yesterday he texted me again and asked if I was planning on avoiding him forever. Idk what to do, I feel like a bad friend but I am also highly uncomfortable talking to him again lest he wants to hang out. He was a really popular guy in school, and I had always figured he does things like this and then patting me on the head to get girls hearts to flutter (he used to watch a lot of kdramas) but he never outright says anything wrong or even close to derogatory, I think he just likes being liked but I am not interested in him at all. In fact I don't want to hang out even if he is not close to me. 2.

Sorry AJ part of that ask may have been repeated, I can't remember where I last left off

Dear Anon,

I read over your ask a couple of times so I could give the best advice possible. First of all, I sincerely hope you’re doing better now, considering your parents splitting and all. Sending you the warmest hugs.

Now, onto your ask. There are two things I’d like to address - self esteem and RED flags.

There are various reasons why our self-esteem takes a blow. Sometimes it’s the world’s screwed up standard of beauty. Sometimes it’s the toxic environment around us. Even though I don’t know you, what I can definitely say is that your high school peers were terrible and I’m so sorry they bullied you. That’s not ok and they are a piece of shit for pulling off things like that. And FYI, no part of you is responsible for it.

I see you call yourself an ugly duckling - hey, that whole story is about how a swan didn’t realize it was beautiful only because it compared itself to the ducks around. The swan wasn’t even a duck - of course it would look different! You might want to read up on this report on Dove which (a) shows pictures of real women and beauty and, (b) gives a statistical insight on the screwed up beauty standard. https://www.dove.com/us/en/stories/campaigns/real-cost-of-beauty.html?utm_source=VanityURL&utm_medium=VanityURL&utm_campaign=RealCostofBeauty&utm_id=RCOB%3f&gclid=CjwKCAjwzNOaBhAcEiwAD7Tb6JioHeC7EqkZTMM2J1Ma5ISY1QPWjQpXuChQ1AZFx9dpKOnaQ9EZsBoCHf4QAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Now, to red flags.

Your friend, A, shows MULTIPLE red flags.

He does not respect your boundaries nor does he ask for consent - unlike your other male friends

Your friends HAVE noticed and agreed that he crosses the line multiple times in physical contact

You are at a constant unease with A - you don’t feel safe with him

You would rather be in a physically close space with your other friends than A

A gets mad when you prefer another friend

He constantly tries to get physically close to you

You were happy when he wasn’t around

A could be having a hard time in his life, it does not justify the consistent need to get physically close to you. He could literally talk to you about his difficulties rather than… wanting your head on his lap? Looping your arms across his waist?

Gender has little role in influencing boundaries in friendship. How intimate you are with a friend depends on the allowances you have mutually given each other. With one friend you can share a bed, with the other you could hug once in four years!

Ok, he apologised - good for him - but there’s no need for you to be guilty. You were uncomfortable. Listen, you’d be a bad friend if you hung out with him when you actually didn’t want to.

I don’t think I have the rest of your message - I think Tumblr ate them up. So based on whatever I have read, I would tell you to be honest.

You are not comfortable with him - and that’s absolutely valid. It is difficult for a friendship to exist when your first reaction to spending time with him is discomfort. There’s no way a good friendship can sustain.

I give him the benefit of doubt that he’s under 25 - and forming his personality at this age which can be very much influenced by the media he surrounds himself with. Also, he needs to be putting in some effort. If he wants a friendship to exist then he needs to make you feel comfortable and perhaps really acknowledge his mistake without providing justification. Just staying away for some time and then asking you when you would stop avoiding him isn’t the solution.

And the main point is you don’t want to hang out with him. The worst you can do as a friend is remain as one out of obligation instead of true friendship. So being honest with him is the best that you can do.

I would advise you to state something on the lines that ‘given how everything went and you made me feel, I don’t think we could be friends because comfort, boundaries and consent are the most important things for me in friendship and unfortunately that simply does not exist between us. However, I truly do wish the best for you.’

Even if he was the best person on the planet, there’s no obligation necessary to be his friend when he cannot respect your boundaries.

If he can understand and learn to give respect to your boundaries - excellent. If he gets pissed - you’re better off without such a friend.

Best,

Jalebi

P.S: I’d also recommend speaking to some of the friends you trust. Even better if that trusted person is aware of A.

P.P.S: You're uncomfortable - that's enough to not continue any friendship.

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psychelis-new · 2 months

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Hey I have an urgent question. I'm stressing about it.

I have my upcoming finals for science maths and social science.

Ik I'll do good but the problem is that maths is stressing the hell out of me.

Science too. But I'm doing my best.

Can you help me through astrology about the result or anything related to this prblm about my exams ??

Will be a big help if you do

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Hello! I'm sorry but I don't know anything about astrology that could help you, please refer to astrologers for this. And I am not going to use tarots or anything else either -if that's what you meant- cause atm I'm not doing personal readings (and I don't do them like this).

The only thing I can suggest you, despite it's not what you asked for, is to try to focus on the voice that is telling you that you are doing your best and will do good, and not on the one that is causing you stress (and its reasons): try asking yourself why do you find math and science particularly stressful: it's because you don't understand them well, or you feel like you're still not good enough no matter the effort you put into them? You know, that's not strange: those aren't easy subjects for everyone. And you may simply not be "programmed" for them or to get them well maybe compared to another classmate of yours. You probably do better in other subjects, maybe one in which that same classmate of yours struggles more. It's okay, we're all different, we cannot all be mathematicians: it'd be useless anyway. And we can learn a lot outside of school but that's another story.

I know probably you are worried about getting certain grades cause having good grades could mean being praised, feeling good enough and "included", having more chances for further studies and maybe not having a subject down (and risk your academic year? Idk how your school/school system works tbh, I'm just guessing your reasons and stress-triggers). What I mean is that whatever is this stress about for you, maybe, if you try to do your best and to stay focused on what you can do now to prepare as you can (without letting stress take away precious time and energy/clarity from your mind), and you keep studying with an hopeful and open mind, you will do good. Even if you won't get the top grade, it will still be very good.

Don't give in to stress, ever. That's the top self sabotaging habit we have as human beings and what consumes us the most and takes us away from our goals. I know it's REALLY hard to not listen to it, but we need to try everytime, as much as we can, to focus on the present moment and do our best, without getting anxious about the future: we're creating it now in the present, it still does not exist, so why worry about how it could be? We can make it good as we want. So really, focus on trying your best (you won't have regrets even if you'd fail once you know you've given your all and you learned your lesson about what you missed for the next time) and not worry about how it will be: use your time wisely.

Take care of you, all the best<3 And remember to stay hydrated, and to give yourself breaks while studying: it's fundamental to be well rested and grounded when we need to give and pass important exams (not just in school).

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