#hypocritical ableism

[heartshapedcreaturefromcriptoon]

I'm only watching this shitty bad faith shit take video to make sure I'm not in it and these are my notes thus far. (Open new tab to enlarge print, yes I'm aware I spelled "psychopath" wrong).

Also, I just want you all to know that I am currently working on putting together a goddamn fucking Tumblr Sexyman Bechal Test of all things in my drafts right now because it's just like ...

#Hazbin Hotel #hazbin hypocritical #Alastor #alastor hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel alastor #the radio demon #alastor hazbin #hazbin alastor #radio demon #ace discourse #undescribed #ableism #For my commentary on the way people talk in general and the video ... #And again the person who made this doesn't even seem to like Viv and her crew like get a grip!!! #I was just trying to read up on that One Big Monster High Announcement and I'm being accosted!!! Just let Al have his Bitches and let #Bitches have fun having him!!! <3 It's not hurting anyone!!! <3 I'm not sorry!!! <3

[xxlovelynovaxx]

I don't know how to tell you that feeling violent towards your friends when they don't drop everything for you is in fact a symptom of several personality disorders, including BPD.

(To be clear, in context this person is clearly being sarcastic)

"Imagine calling becoming emotionally dysregulated to an extreme beyond what is typical for a given situation neurodivergence lol" uhhhh yeah. That's one of many textbook neurodivergent experiences.

Now, ACTING violent towards a friend is not in fact a neurodivergent trait. That's just being a toxic and likely abusive piece of shit. Plenty of people who aren't neurodivergent do this, and plenty of people who are, don't.

But speaking as someone who has split on my friends and become extremely angry to the point of having violent fantasies about them (which then turned into violent fantasies about myself to 'punish' myself for the guilt I felt over those perceived thoughtcrimes)... thoughts and feelings are morally neutral. You can have a disorder which sometimes causes you to loathe the people you care about over the smallest thing and you can go be alone about it or distract yourself about it or simply not act on it and it's fine.

Minutes since Tumblr was ableist towards people with PDs: 0

#ableism #personality disorders #neurodivergence #if you take issue with the way people FEEL about you and not how they talk and act towards you I don't trust you #(and note I said 'talk to' bc sometimes even later calmly EXPRESSING those feelings is not okay and can hurt) #but like #if you'd judge someone for having mean thoughts when they got super mad at you bc you don't think the thing was worth getting mad about #not only are you refusing to bother to try and understand why something not upsetting to you might be upsetting to them #and probably being a hypocrite bc when you get mad and have mean thoughts and even act on them you probably *justify* it #(bc obviously the stuff YOU get mad at is worth getting mad over and therefore worth acting out over) #(or at least just 'worth' being mad at which still makes you a hypocrite) #but you're refusing to have compassion for someone you claim to care about even if you don't understand

[danzafila]

genuinely tho, i hate the whole moralizing about fandom tastes (including one's taste in ships) period

the whole acting like queer ships are better than het ships is just one example of it (and honestly m/f shippers insisting their ship IS queer too bc they read the characters as/the characters are bi is just as bad/part of the problem tbh). but i can't figure out how to explain why it bothers me bc it's certainly not 'waah you guys are being so mean/unfair to the poor m/f fans!! :(' it's more... making taste a fucking moral standing/one preference inherently morally superior to another is fucking whack. stop it

#idk i'm still not explaining it well but whatever #hopefully u guys get me #sto parlando #this probably needs the: #general fe blogging tag #since this was all spurred my annoyance with the way fe fans try and moralize about their taste vs. anyone they disagree with's #and constantly use that moral superiority to shout down anyone calling out sexism/homophobia/racism/ableism/etc in the fandom #i was being hypocritical for reblogging that post. i think i was just still annoyed from another shitty reddit thread i saw last night #where i saw someone get downvoted and mocked for suggesting dimitri's dedue or felix interactions could be read romantically #(in a thread *about* queer rep in the games! i almost posted about it bc i was so annoyed when i saw that shit YET AGAIN)

[kakujis]

okay, this is gonna be my only post on the discourse because i’ve mulled over it and if you’d like to know my stance you can dm me. this post is not about that. genuinely, i have never seen so much hate sent to my mutuals, people who are open to hearing other stances, and people just caught in the crossfire.

frankly, it is fucking weird to see so many people okay with sending death threats and hate messages. it is also weird to frame people as apologists and it is highly hypocritical to see. everyone has a personal line, it’s easy to block them. further, it feels borderline invasive to see the lengths people are going to defend themselves from baseless accusations. people do not need to bring up their own trauma for defense, it is not your goddamn business.

are we not adults? can we not have conversations even if that makes us uncomfortable? we love the phrase ‘block if it makes you uncomfy,’ but it seems we rarely use it. you can understand and even explain someone’s behavior without accepting it. it doesn’t make you an apologist, it means you’re aware of the nuances and how complicated these things (especially if it’s trauma related) can get. understanding is not being okay with something and you are not complicit. just because someone liked a post, does not mean they are suddenly what you are accusing them of.

as dark content writers, we have to be aware that everything taboo falls under it. we don’t have to like it, we can be disgusted by it, think they’re a freak for it even. but please do not send death threats, call people life ruining terms because it doesn’t fit the “good little bubble” of dark content we’ve seemingly normalized on here. it’s depressing that we’ve reached this point. from here on out, it’ll be posts queued or i’ll be on my priv.

pinned.

#like can we talk about the racism and ableism bit ? the stuff we can definitely say is true ? #pibby rants #anons are off btw :3 if you have something to say say it to my face thanks #tw discourse #cw discourse #i can tell when ive been hypocritical btw . i did reblog the post im not hidingn anything #but i can aslo change my mind and be aware when im a hypocrite #no hard feelings if im blocked or anytbing after btw u do u #btw its insane to send death threats over anything lol jsyk

[slugass]

whump writer: “i’m not ableist, the character i’m WRITING is ableist!”

whump writer: *CALLS THE SHITTY ABUSIVE ABLEIST PERSON A FUCKING “PSY CHO” BECAUSE THEY ARE ABUSIVE*

#ableism #sanism #ableism in fandom #whump writers please stop #please fucking stop #vent #hypocrisy #please consider the language you’re using #so you don’t sound like a fucking hypocrite #swearing cw #ableist language cw #whump #writeblr #p slur

[veritasrose]

It’s kind of wild that the same people who said companies had the right to fire me for being disabled, are the very same ones who also cry that places shouldn’t be allowed to ban them “because freedom of speech!”

#its almost like its not actually a principle belief so much as selfishness #hmm #ableism #double standards #hypocritical relatives

[astro-b-o-y-d]

One of those ‘non-x fans; pick something that happens in the show’ but it’s about Color Show and the options are 'pick which of these writing choices pissed you off the most’

#Hayley Speaks #The poor racism allegory with the White Fang and making the white cat girl the mouthpiece for it? #(Yes I know Monty is a man of color who was trying to write about his own experiences. But he still dropped the ball on it.) #Could it be the ableism surrounding the man who's half-prosthetics and the implications they tried to push about him becoming- #-less human as a result of losing another limb? #Could it be the ableism about the previous pushed further by making the robotic girl human and pushing this as a good thing- #-because now she's no longer robotic and burdened by...I don't know; not being flesh? #I didn't watch that season I just fucking hated what they did with Penny? #Could it be that they killed her once; brought her back and then did all that; and THEN KILLED HER AGAIN??? #Could it be the hypocritical lessons on trust and how apparently the main characters are allowed to keep secrets- #-but it's BAD when everyone else does? #Even if that secret is literally 'hey the big bad cannot be killed' which would be VERY IMPORTANT to tell the guy they're working alongside- #-because his WHOLE PLAN hinges on the knowledge that she CAN BE KILLED??? #Could it be everything with Pyrrha?? #Could it be that in the recent season they had the main character kill herself from depression and the narrative frames this as a good thing #Like 'Oh you've been grieving about the choices you've been making and are extremely depressed-' #'But actually you're perfect the way you are and don't need to change anything about yourself?' #...Oh yeah the whole 'the main characters never learn anything because the narrative frames ALL their choices as the right ones.' thing. #That's annoying too #Could it be the mistreatment of the LGBTQ+ staff on the show that came to light; only for the remaining staff to canonize- #-a wlw ship they'd been teasing for TEN YEARS #And then started pushing merch for them less than an hour after the episode dropped?? #Could it be that I can't even say the name of the show here because the fans are rabid to even the most MILD of criticism about it?? #Dear God I hate this show

[catcatb0y]

Man I just wanted to watch a silly video and draw a little bit before I had to wake up at ten am, but people can't stop being Weird (deragatory) On The Internet. I'm gonna get less than five hours of sleep on a day where I'll get yelled at if I put in my headphones.

#I've been trying so hard to grind in this Sekai Event too #but I keep losing a shit ton of hours I need to be working on my placing #like it sounds silly in retrospect #no more than someone getting weirdly upset at me for having a personal distaste to a contradicting trans character headcanon #certainly moreso than a six year old being the perpetrator of a shooting #as well as the generalized stigmatizm around mental illness as well as the hypocritical ableism even in the community #but it's so goddamned draining #when nothing has any 'reward' #watching a comfort YouTuber and they casually drop ableist language/the comments using the same language #playing a game that feels helpless and hindering #drawing an art piece that's been such a goddamned struggle and it hardly even looks good #a half joking headcanon post on Tumblr being met with seething passive-aggression #the emptiness of posting quite literally anywhere else #trying to be good enough and trying to be happy and trying to just forget about the goddamned pain for an hour and it doesn't even work #I'm so fucking exhausted

[mothheart]

There's this awful woman on tik tok who's entire personality and internet presence consists of demonizing her autistic daughter and doubling down regardless of the sheer volume of autistic people (rightfully) calling her out on her bullshit and I just

#you might know her as the woman who posted the video sayin #'when my autistic daughter ripped all the leaves off my plants that i had gotten to help with my depression' #with her mimicking getting her heart stabbed #because why do anything to accommodate your autistic daughter when you can publicly humilate her #i see comments saying 'youre doing so good mama' i hate you all i hope you burn #also! she makes craaaazy assumptions by calling autistic ppl who call her out 'low needs' while calling THEM ableist #girl could you be any more hypocritical. imagine using ableist terms used to excuse our needs while calling us ableist #anyway. i just feel horrible for her daughter. i hope she makes it out some day and finds a real support system. #tw ableism #ask to tag #miles rambles

[starberrywander]

I hate that if you critique something its automatically assumed that you support the opposite. Like, sometimes someone says something really shitty and someone else responds to them holding the general opinion that I do but in a really shitty way. And I want to be able to say “hey, that’s shitty of you. You’re not helping. Please approach this in a different way before you make it worse.” but if I do that people will assume I support the original speaker even though I very much do not. 

Like, why can we not critique our own people? The people who we generally agree with? Why does a critique have to mean opposition? Its holding us back more than anything, because we can’t effectively hold each other accountable for shitty behavior. 

Like yeah, I’m all for protecting trans rights and fighting ableism and stopping racism and all that. 100% extremely important goals that we need to be working on and taking very seriously. I agree with y’all on the positions you take there. I want us to succeed in those goals.

However, treating those who disagree or oppose that as if they aren’t human? Pretending that insults are an acceptable substitute for activism? Using personal attacks to make your argument seem more potent instead of actually doing the work to improve the argument? Stop it. All of you. 

And quit acting like people telling you not to make your application of basic human decency conditional are telling you to just give up everything and let people harass you with not consequences. Treating your opponents like literal piles of dogshit is not “activism.” It’s called being an asshole. 

People aren’t just people when they agree with you. People aren’t just complex when they agree with you. Groups aren’t just diverse when they agree with you. Groups don’t only have nuance when they agree with you. And pretending like prejudiced folks are all simple minded members of simple un-nuanced groups helps nobody. In fact, when you refuse to acknowledge the complexity of “enemy” groups, you damage your own effectiveness.

Like, do people win wars and battles by assuming things about their opponents and refusing to accept contradictory information? No. That’s how they lose them. There is a reason spies are so valuable; if you want to plan an effective attack you need as much information as you can get about the enemy. What they’re doing, what their motives are, what they’re planning, etc.

Same goes for activism. You need to understand why people are doing what they are doing (in other words, have the empathy to put yourself in their shoes) if you want to effectively stop them. If you just assume that they’re all stupid, delusional, simple minded monsters then you miss all that. You’re setting yourself up for failure because you’re attacking an enemy that is not there. You need espionage. Gather information. Make sure you actually know what’s going on and plan around your observations, not your intuition and assumptions.

Do you get what I’m saying? Like, I obviously oppose things like sexism, racism, anti-LGBT prejudice, etc. But at least half of the arguments I see against those who spout those prejudices just fall on deaf ears. Because people don’t bother to empathize and connect with these people’s actual position and instead attack and insult them based on what they assume they believe. It’s a waste of time and it can often make the prejudiced person just double down on their position and come away with an even stronger conviction. It. Does. Not. Help. Anyone. 

But for some reason people can’t seem to separate disagreement from bullying and harassment so when I say “you should stop bullying people” they think I’m saying “you should stop disagreeing with them” and it’s so fucking annoying because no I’m not telling you to stop standing up for yourself, I’m telling you to stop being a petty fucking bully. Learn some damn patience and check yourself from time to time. They aren’t less than human and you aren’t superior, so quit acting like it. This isn’t a “fight fire with fire” situation. Dehumanization isn’t solved by more dehumanization. Get a fucking grip.

(sorry, I’m pissed. A lot of pent up frustration from not being able to say any of this shit to the actual people who do it. I hope my point was clear.)

#rant #lgbt #feminism #blacklivesmatter #leftist #liberal #progressive #reproductive rights #anti ableism #activism #Im so tired of it #this isn't a ''lets all get along!'' thing #its a ''stop being a hypocritical piece of shit'' thing #and obviously its not everyone #but god damn its so common #i hate it #it does nothing #it achieves nothing #it makes things worse more than it makes them better #istg im so tired

[asingingpenguin]

My boss apparently admitted she was worried about accepting me as an intern because I'm trans and the only intern she's ever had to dismiss was a trans man. Feels great.

#Penguin goes to college #All trans people are the same #And I think I'm floored cause I mentioned ableism in my schooling #And she said I need to just keep asking for help when I need it cause I'm paying for this education #And I need to go into sitsutations not holding on to past conversations #I know no one is perfect and we all have shit that seems hypocritical #But this has sure been two days

[seasaltmemories]

Anyway love finding a “cool liberal” booktube person complain about a dystopia novel centered on valuing disabled ppl then find them casually drop the r-slur on Twitter

#ableism #seasalt talks #r slur mention #like wow first you were annoying and pedantic and then you went and proved yourself to be a terrible hypocrite

[transmorolians]

tfw when people respond to other people being ableist with more ableism /nbh

#ask to tag #negative #ableism is not the way to getting people to listen to you... especially when you're calling out ableism? #it's hypocritical.

[gotshadowbanned-feralfungii]

Remembering that time an autistic content creator joked around with his autistic friend on twitter about being autistic and people tried to cancel him as ableist for it

#not to say he was Unproblematic #or shouldnt have been criticized for other things #but that specific event was so fucking ironic #bc most of the people accusing him of ableism #were being ableist themselves #by assuming he was neurotypical bc as far as they could see #he didnt fit their preconceived notions of what autism is #im not sticking up for he who shall not be named #i just think this singular event was unfortunately hilarious #and very succinctly illustrates how ridiculous and hypocritical cancel culture can be

[musical-chick-13]

Someone please explain to me why my mother is dying-on-this-hill against me being on a tiny (read: chlidren’s) dose of a prescribed mood booster, but is not only considering but actively encouraging me to take part in a newly experimental drug study involving PSYCHEDELICS.

#no to actually studied and doctor-approved meds but yes to HALLUCINOGENIC DRUGS????? #maybe it's helpful but I'm not gonna find out #ocd already gives you these things called 'quasi-hallucinations' which are like...mirages kind of but for sensations? #(and sometimes for things you can see too) #I DON'T NEED MORE OF THAT??????!!? #WHY DO YOU THINK I'VE NEVER DONE DRUGS. INCLUDING LEGAL WEED. WHY DO YOU THINK I'VE ONLY GOTTEN DRUNK ONCE #IT'S BECAUSE ME + LOSS OF CONTROL IS A /VERY BAD TIME/ AND ALSO MY /WORST/ FEAR #if this study can help people I genuinely wish it the best but I do not have enough words in all languages combined to explain why this #would be a bad idea for me personally I DO NOT UNDERSTAND #my mother: but you've tried everything and you're not Cured™ :( #also my mother: *tries to strong-arm me into things that have proven to actively make my mental illness worse and cuts off my financial #access to different medications I haven't tried yet because 'iT's dAnGErOuS'* #like. gee lady I wonder why an illness that has a near-universal lack of complete permanent remission is still a problem in this environment #oh but the Physical Illness™ she's willing to try ANYTHING and EVERYTHING my well-vetted doctors suggest and to be on any meds they #prescribe because. you know. of course she is. of course she has to be a hypocrite in this way just like she always is *rme* #tw: ableism

[novascotiaducktoller]

fascinated by the genre of 18-25yo cishet men who will lose their shit over a teenager self dxing as autistic and then hop on 4chan to call themselves schizophrenic for hating women and minorities

#like babes. youre a hypocrite #ableism #misogyny #4chan #charlie.txt