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ANYWAY, because apparently there is a disconnect somewhere:

When we say that misogyny is a real form of oppression, that the patriarchy affects all women, and that women are oppressed by men, the point is not to say that every single man (no matter what marginalizations he experiences) is in The Most Absolute Super Unconditional Privileged Position Ever over every single woman (no matter how much privilege she might have in other ways).

The point is that for every single woman who exists, a man in a comparable position will have more power, social standing, opportunities, and rights than she does because he is a man. For every shitty kind of disenfranchisement black men experience, black women experience all of that and misogyny. A lower-class, gay, disabled woman will still be in overall lower "standing" (politically, socially, personally, etc.) than a lower-class, gay, disabled man, simply because she is a woman. And even if a woman has every available privilege (white, cishet, rich, abled, thin, and so forth), if a man also has those privileges, she is still "below" him (again: socially, politically, materially, you know the drill).

The outcry of a need for genuine feminism isn't done to say that no men experience disenfranchisement or that women cannot ever be privileged in some way. It is done because it does not matter what a woman does or who she is, she cannot ever escape misogynistic double-standards, nor the prejudice and subjugation that results from them.

#feminism #also: trans women are women. feminism includes them. they are victims of misogyny because they are women. hope this helps #putting this post in the actual tag and I know the kinds of people who sometimes show up there :) #and those particular people. are not my friends or allies. (they can't even claim to 'speak for all cis women' because #they do not speak for me :) again hope this helps)

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I’m really not a fan of #NotAllMen 2.0

In the last month or so I have seen multiple self-identified “feminists” equate any acknowledgement of (or heaven forbid, criticism of) patriarchy with gender essentialism.

Gender essentialism means essentializing gendered traits - treating them as inborn, inherent, biological. For instance, “Men’s brains just aren’t built to handle tasks like cooking and daily cleaning” is gender essentialism. It locates the cause of social forces within the body and treats them as inherent and unchangeable. 

It does not mean generalizing about gender - “Men do not do their fair share of housework” is not gender essentialism. It is acknowledgement of a real phenomenon in which men statistically do way, way less housework than women regardless of employment status.

Do some men do their share, or more, of housework? Yes! There are always exceptions to broad patterns within society. But we’re generalizing, because to talk about societal issues it’s important to zoom out and look at a culture as a whole, not just individuals but the broad patterns of what is statistically common.

If you derail every conversation about patriarchy, and the statistically common behaviors of men as a class, with “not all men!” you are actively inhibiting feminist discussion.

Gender essentialism is bullshit. Gender is imposed on the body by social forces, a human being does not inherently have gender or gendered behaviors. Generalizing about gender and how it functions and is enforced, on the other hand, is absolutely essential for any kind of understanding of patriarchy.

Also, venting about a social class that oppresses you isn’t bioessentialist either. If I say “fuck straight people” – or even structure my life to limit exposure to homophobia, that’s not me thinking straight people are inherently (or all!) assholes, that’s me acknowledging that they have social power over me and I’m fucking tired of it being used against me.

A woman saying “I hate men” is not automatically some fucking gender essentialist idiot who thinks men are biologically wired to be misogynist. She might just be venting about an oppressor class and you’re a fucking asshole if you tell her it’s like, unprogressive of her to generalize.

Reverse oppression isn’t real and neither is misandry.

#reblogging this again because people simply do not get it #feminism

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HI, FEMINISM IS NEEDED AND WOMEN EXPERIENCE OPPRESSION FOR BEING WOMEN, MISOGYNY IS NOT OVER.

AND I WILL NOT LET THE FUCKING T/RFS AND R/DFEMS GET A MONOPOLY ON THIS DISCUSSION

#tried to look for some stuff in an innocuous tag and my fucking GOD it's dire in there. this canNOT be the state of feminism #that the people being consistently loud about it are these fucking people #(who like. very often just circle around to misogyny again! but it's pRoGrEsSiVe now) #we live in hell!!

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Having recently been spending so much time thinking/writing about River...yeah, I am. Very much starting to remember why I Imprinted™ on this character when I was 18 and why I felt so Seen™ by her psychological issues.

#I wish everyone else loved her as much as I do 😭😭 #(I mean plenty of people DO love this character. but consider that IT'S NOT ENOUGH. AND IT NEVER WILL BE.)

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Very unfortunate thing about me is that I will cry over music that isn't even supposed to be sad or particularly emotional or even well-written if things like the singer's tone quality or use of vibrato or vowel placement happen to be well-done.

#me: *sobbing* #girl this is a happy song??? #me: YEAH BUT THE /MIX VOICE/ IT'S SO /GOOD/ #it's the Musician Brain™ I'm afraid. and it is unfortunately. incurable. <3

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must i pursue a career? is it not enough to be passionate about tv shows and snack foods?

#god I wish #if I could career-ify analyzing got and dw and cxgf characters I would

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Yoooooo!!!!

#!!!!! #SAVE

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#I'm too scared :( #someone could probably convince me but it's hard enough putting non-comedic songs out here for people to listen to #and I always felt Even More Weird about people perceiving me through acting than I did about them perceiving me through singing

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I GOT 2/3 OF MY HAIR CHOPPED OFF 💜💜

#thank GOD it was almost pre-walk-of-atonement cersei length #QUALITY OF LIFE IMPROVEMENT FOR /REAL/

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#absolutely DERANGED tags but: series 10 missy trying to be 'polite' and severely misunderstanding what the concept means #(sorry.) #(me making everything about one [1] weird little space show WILL continue to happen)

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Darling, you're the one I want In paper rings, in picture frames, in dirty dreams Oh, you're the one I want

#once again: we really could have had it all 😭😭 #dair #gossip girl #SHIP: a real connection #queue your courage to the sticking place

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Made myself too emotional by imagining two characters holding hands.

#I NEED HELP #this was followed on the heels of making myself too gay by imagining the woman in the equation killing people #so. you know. normal day I guess. #okay for REAL I am logging off now.

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EVERYBODY CLAP, I FINALLY FIGURED OUT HOW TO BRIDGE THESE TWO SCENES

#me (after doing one [1] story thing): I Am A Genius

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Under-discussed fandom tragedy: a song you think is perfect for a character has become generally associated with a DIFFERENT character.

#NO ONE SEES MY VISION

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OH SHIT, DEAD BOY DETECTIVES IS OUT

#I don't have time to drop everything to watch 8 straight episodes of tv but. it's a neil g property...it calls me......... #okay this is. OFFICIALLY. my sign to get my shit together and do Tasks slash do final edits of this chapter

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Girl get off the fucking table

#PLEASE I LOVE HER SO MUCH ;-; #maomao #the apothecary diaries #queue your courage to the sticking place

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My guy friend, who is talking to me about a musical I recommended (where there is a love triangle involving a kind of shitty man, and two women): Also, if I can take a break from discussing the music and humor for a second, [female character who is a nice, if occasionally naive, ingenue] is really the only choice.

Me: I mean. I get it. That's very fair. But the thing is, that I like horrible women.

Friend: *thinks about it for a second before giving me a nod in acknowledgement to basically say "Yeah that's fair"*

#love it when people Understand™ #even if they don't get it personally. they Understand™ #okay I need to stop saying things on this website I'm gonna go. idk. do something. that I need to do. many such things.