i don’t know what it says about me as a person that a motivating factor in me wanting to pursue a PhD is that “Dr.” is a gender neutral honorific that people just accept without question
So today I presented some of the results from my research in my university's congress (y'all can see I was REALLY nervous lmao but it served as a training for the defense of my final thesis)
me out loud: yeah im a radical queer descriptivist. words and labels are just tools we use to understand ourselves, man, holding them as "rules" is against the ethos of queerness.
me in my brain: i am literally the only transfem enby in the history of ever who doesn't id as a trans woman or feel comfortable with she/her, it's just a phase for every single other one, nobody understands me and I am going to Die
I've been trying to think of the words to explain how even though I'm nonbinary, I still identify as "a woman in STEM" without implying the feminization of nonbinary people. And this woman's video explains it perfectly.
This story. This story is why even though I'm genderfluid nonbinary, I consider myself a "woman in STEM". Even though "woman" is not a word I identify with and causes dysphoria and major ick most days.
Because regardless of my gender identity, pronouns, and even outward appearance. I'm still identified and treated as a "woman" with all of the sexism and misogyny that it entails. And for the STEM. That's HARD. Being so in love with science and technology and every step of the way guys are putting you down.
The infantilization when you are just trying to enjoy a topic and career that you're so in love with is the worst. They'll literally rip you away from the work you love because they don't think that you can do it on your own.
My gender as a nonbinary is valid. But my experiences of sexism and misogyny as a "woman in STEM" is also valid. And my identity in this field is directly related to the sexism that I had to overcome to get where I am today. (The very sexism that my mother as a fellow woman in STEM taught me to overcome)
If anyone knows a real person named Atom please tell me. I love the idea of someone introducing themself and people think their name is Adam but its not because its Atom.
I go to college in a red state. I am nonbinary (AFAB since it’s relevant to the story), but use she/her pronouns.
My engineering department decided to use he/him for me today after I won an award. I would not have minded if they used they/them. I don’t mind if regular people use he/him for me (they never do).
What I do mind is an engineering department deciding to erase the ONLY woman (adjacent) in STEM award winner. Every other person was a cis man.
I almost want to email them claiming to be a cis woman and ask them why they decided I’m a guy. Is it because I’m a stem award winner?
i think i will make ema skye transmasc he/they, because i'm also a brunette transmasc definitely neurodivergent kid/adult who is rude to klavier born in the unfortunate year of 2001
I really love how you infuse folk songs into your art! It’s always cool to learn things about different cultures and if we get to see some gay squids then that’s a perfect bonus <3
Thank you! But I haven't drawn an art with desi folk songs yet. I'm working on it, tho, with the blue and yellow sapphalopods.
Drawing fanarts of these particular sapphalopods is the most fun I had in the past fifteen years because I can share some of my cultures. I wanted to express them SO badly, but I hadn't found the right encouragement until Frye came along.
If Frye weren't a sea creature of color and or desi-inspired, I wouldn't be drawing splatoon fanart this often. Once in a while, pearlina fanart, maybe occasionally the cousins (NO INCEST), despite my love of this Nintendo IP from day one.
Ngl, deep cut is also a blessing in disguise to someone who enjoys folk music a whole lot. That is the reason why I love listening to Bottom Feeders the most. Folk metal when??? Gimme gimme. Metal when??? Gimme Diss-Pair gimme.
Anyway, Frye is the complete package of what I yearn for in the media I consume as a queer/gay desi who loves this IP—a representation.
I'm picking up extra weekend hours at work (for the foreseeable future) and honestly I'm sort of excited to go in the weekends... I like doing the science but I hate dealing with a busy lab full of people. Working in the empty labs should be lovely.