#but it’s mostly social mores

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Lan Wangji Goes To Lotus Pier AU: Part 1: Dread on Arrival

(Part 2)

#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #lan wangji #jiang fengmian #jiang cheng #wei wuxian #Yungmeng Jiang Training Arc AU #MDZS AU #The AU name for this idea is something I am 100% willing to change if someone has a better one. #There will be at least 2-3 more comics so *please*. Ideas and feedback welcome. #The core idea behind this AU is that LWJ goes to study with the Yunmeng Jiang sect instead of JC and WWX going to Cloud Recess #But why? Well I imagine Lan Xichen set it up to give LWJ a challenge (more social than skill based) and LWJ rose to it (begrudgingly) #Sort of a 'You've mastered so many Lan techniques but Other Sects have styles that are worth learning.' set up. #Lan Qiren agrees mostly on the basis that...well it's LWJ. Yunmeng Jiang is unruly but LWJ is beyond that riff-raff. He'll rise above it. #This is the story of a boy who thrives on routine and rules spending time in a place that is his apparent antithesis. #Also it is so warm there. He is used to it being cold and what do you MEAN just take off some of my layers? #I just want to see him struggle and flail in many situations. And get him in Jiang Purple. Is that so wrong of me? #(Soaking wet JC is part of my 'JC was born to swim; forced to hold a sword' agenda. Do not remove him from the water) #((Politeness notes: JFM would *not* call LWJ 'lan wangji' nor would LWJ be vocally impolite to a sect leader.))

[ash-and-starlight]

modern au and esen’s honkers are haunting the instagram feed

#id in alt text #yea this was inspired by That watermelon smashing vid #if u don’t know what i’m talking about you’re living a more peaceful life than i am #at first I was like hm maybe this is a bit too ooc for ouyang #then I remembered the 'doEs GeNerAL Xu pLAY thE FLuTE???' and I was like nah ok it checks out #no filter & accidentally revealing how much of a gayass he is is how he rolls #also rip Ma she's just trying to hang out with her boygf and that hideous Pest that Wretched Thang that useless twink #just manifests wherever zhu is and ruins the mood #she deserves to hatecrime him as much as possible #also I don't think esen is 100% aware he's posting blatant thirst traps. his insta is mostly pics of his horses and his beautiful eagle #then one vid of him doing mounted archery that breaks the internet for 3 weeks #rinse and repeat #also yeah wang's special skill is starting shit in the comments section #he would absolutely thrive in the toxic waste that is social media fights #ty for reading this far. more unhinged takes at 5 #esen-temur #zhu yuanzhang #ma xiuying #general ouyang #the radiant emperor #she who became the sun #he who drowned the world #my art

[mybuginette]

i have more of this

#i'm having fun doing this JHKSDAHK #also i have ideas for more- i cant stop me sorry #my headcanon is that Marinette can understand most things in english but has trouble speaking #mostly bc thats what happens to me SKJFHSK #i can understand and i can write but my mouth doesn't work #miraculous ladybug #ml fanart #adrien agreste #marinette dupain cheng #chat noir #ladybug #ladynoir #miraculous paris #ml in universe memes #social media mlb #ml social media #ml paris

[writeitinsharpie]

ever think about the great sect madams of the generation before?

about madam yu, the violet spider, one of few in her generation to earn a title (even her husband was only ever sect leader. even wen ruohan was never regarded by a title other than sect leader wen). about yu ziyuan, about what she was like before years of jealousy and envy twisted her to only her most bitter parts? about the girl who was the third daughter of a sect leader, and then the wife of another, and yet all of her immense martial power meant nothing to the society around her.

about madam jin, known only by her title and never given a name or a natal sect, who was still somehow the closest friend to yu ziyuan. the mother of the sect heir and yet a wife who can do nothing but stand by as her husband dishonors their marriage over and over again.

about madam lan, the murderess locked up for her crimes, never seeing a trial and dying alone, only allowed to see her children once a month. who was she before she was the wife of the lan sect leader? was there a reason she killed the lan elder? did she want that marriage to qingheng-jun? did she even want the children she was kept from?

about the madams nie and wen, who only exist by implication, by the knowledge that their children exist and therefore so must they. about how so little is even implied about them?

#sharpie says shit #ma dao zu shi #mdzs #cql #madam yu #yu ziyuan #madam lan #madam jin #madam nie #madam wen #idk i just find the women of the generation before Very Interesting #mostly because we get barely anything about them compared to their husbands #madam lan is the exception but only kinda because there are still SO MANY QUESTIONS #this isn't madam yu apology btw i just think looking at her character is Neat #she is obviously a woman of great physical power #but due to the state of Being Female all of her social power is basically dependent on jfm #and i think years of being powerless while Wanting More takes their psychological toll #also how did she and madam jin even become friends? were they sisters? sect sisters? sworn sisters? #we're never told

[rusty-courage]

Out of sheer curiosity, are you planning on making a design for yourself on Woven Life? Like a specific design for it- yknow

[and would it be ok if I make one for shits and giggles despite knowing nothing-]

My Woven Life design is just this character, but the flowers, scarf, and eyes change color depending on the life amounts, and on red the scarf will be tattered and torn.

#we did session 2 recently and i didn't say much about it bc it was mostly just a chill building session for me #but some people have uploaded episodes of session 1 on youtube if you're interested! #i am in none of them bc i am socially awkward and spent most of my time either on my own or with marbles #(except one snippet in warren's video around 23:24 when i tried to test if i was soulmates with chrisrin) #maybe some day i'll get brave enough to venture out and talk to more people

[fjordfolk]

I know you said awhile back that Luna was a little bit different after surgery. She’s always been my favorite of the gang (maybe because I started following you way back in 2016, when she was a puppy), do you still think it’s affected her? Your post about her coat brought it to mind

2020 was a really rough year for Luna. Between the initial slip that uncovered her PL issues and the 2nd surgery being pushed back due to covid, she spent most of the year under some form of pain management and rehab. I really can't find a better word for it than traumatization. Habits she picked up during this will reappear from time to time, she refuses and panics on a lot of types of flooring. I don't think she'll ever be completely rid of that. And it aged her - she went from being an active and cheerful youngster to a wary couch potato in just a few months.

You know what's really helped, though? This thing:

Since Melis came along, Luna has been doing much better. She communicates clearer, she's less hesitant, she's more active and runs (!) like she hasn't in years. I don't think she'll fully get over the floor issues, but between the Great Slip and Melis coming home, Luna had to be carried through the hallway to the bedroom - she wouldn't even set foot there. Now she puts herself to bed every night and walks out on her own every morning.

She's not 100% back to exactly how she was before, but she's a lot closer now to the dog she would've been if the knees hadn't caused problems. And although little sisters can be real pests sometimes, she's a very happy dog.

#the social aspect is important but mostly #i think melis just keeps her on her toes #keeps her busy. and stimulated #lunert has spent a lot of time building up the shadows in her own head and growing more and more afraid of things that could hurt her #and hasnt been particularly interested in the mental stimulation we've tried to engage her in to curb that #but melis keeps things moving. gives her something else to think about. #and having melis approach new things with gusto and not bothering with floors or doors or thresholds or anything else #i think makes luna feel safer as well #ofc they also feed into some of each others bad sides (bark bark bark) but overall #we're on the profit side of things

[maskyartist]

OKAY EVERYONE ELSE GOT TO PLAY WITH FERAL CLIVA NOW I GET FERAL CLIVA ITS MY TURN WITH THE TOYS >:(

might do more with this, might not, either way have these :)

(sidenote if i started drawing clay's hair like this who would get mad >3> cause im tempted its cute its got a fluffy vibe here)

#masky says #doodles #trolls dreamworks #trolls band together #trolls clay #trolls viva #cliva #trolls cliva #viva's still queen of the putt putts and clay's kinda her right hand man #tho i will admit this vibe does involve some putt putt ocs i have specifically one who was a royal guard before the escape #his name is captain zany and hes very stubborn and does his best for the tribe #clay's memory is super fuzzy so while he remembers bruce its mostly on feeling. his body remembers bruce more tthen his brain #so branch is lost to time because clay's mind has been in survival mode for so long #clay DOES remember he doesnt like JD >3> lots of growling #he does join em and help em escape with a similar 'they're mine...cant lose them too' to viva #but the drama like with eat or be eaten happens mostly POST movie #where its trying to get these two more socialized and back to themselves

[starrysharks]

velvets

+ a salome

#zeno's art #sketches #ocs #velvet kuragari #gloomy nurse kuragari #salome ishikawa #magical girl ward #more like magical HURL ward! bleugh! #i've gotta rewrite becz i've got new ideas for it #mostly focusing around social media and how it influences mental health..... ive got some papers and studies to read now

[canisalbus]

Role-reversal AU where Machete opens a library on Florence and slowly becomes a very influencial local political figure, while Vasco's parents become fed-up with his "lifestyle" and send him away to the clergy (he probably has a brother in this AU, to make their decision more believable)

They reconnect in a similar way to the original, but their relationship is much more tragic as Vasco became self-hating and thinks he corrupted/doomed Machete in their youth and meanwhile, this Machete is trying to protect him from the corrupted side of the Church and possible assassination plot, that he's too indoctrinated to see happening around him

A interesting ending for this AU should be that Machete still dies, but results in Vasco finally running away from the clergy/inquisition (not sure if Vasco joins the inquisition or not, you can decide) and hiding in the country-side. Where he grows old dedicating various paintings and poems to Machete and possibly taking care of some noble's horses for a living

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#that's interesting #Machete could potentially really shine in politics I can see that being a thing #but Vasco would most likely have miserable time in the clergy #the pressure and guilt and expectations would break his spirit #even if he doesn't always get along with his parents his family relatives and social bonds mean a lot to him #he wouldn't take it well if he felt like he had failed his parents #and was subsequently pushed into a profession that forbids personal relationships #Machete would have hard time watching him and comparing the young jovial Vasco he used to know to his current dejected state #but in this situation it might be more possible for them to escape together #Machete can't leave the church because he's been indoctrinated from early childhood and has never had any life outside of it #Vasco's relationship with religion is a lot less intense he might be able to detach mostly in one piece #and look after horses for the rest of his days #answered #anonymous #Vaschete scenarios #Machete the librarian #he'd love that

[spocks-kaathyra]

Cardassian conlang (part 1?)

Finally started making my Cardassian conlang and I'm having so much fun already. Get this:

There's a distinction between alienable and inalienable possession, something that occurs in many natural languages. An example is, like, "my nose" vs "my hat". My nose is inalienable because it will always be mine, while my hat is alienable because it can stop being mine. So in languages with this distinction, you'd use different words for "my" in those two situations.

In my Cardassian language, possession is indicated with suffixes attached to nouns and people's names. People are "possessed" in the sense that, y'know, they're your mom or your friend or your orthodontist or whatever. Generally, you'd use the alienable form for people. Your orthodontist might not always be your orthodontist, your friend might not always be your friend. The exception is that you always use the inalienable form(s) for family. Your mom will always be your mom.

So, to use the inalienable possessive for a friend would be to say that they are as close to you as family, that you trust that they will always be your friend. This is often, like, a milestone in dating. To start saying "my girlfriend (inalienable)" marks that your relationship is serious. (Traditionalists will say that you shouldn't use the inalienable form until you're properly betrothed, but kids these days have their own ideas.) In this way, it becomes a pretty straightforward term of endearment (or, rather, grammatical particle of endearment).

Since there's no equivalent in Federation Standard, the translator often renders it as "my dear."

Here's a table of the 10 different words for "my"

So, presuming that the speaker is a man, and the person they're referring to is also a man who they don't have to use the honorific form with...

/alʊk/ - "friend"

/alʊkɬei/ - "my friend"

/alʊkxa/ - "my dear friend"

/ilɨm̥xa/ - "my dear Elim"

#no I don't know what I'm doing but I'm having so much fun hehehe #disclaimer: so much respect to the awesome cardassian conlangs that already exist and the ppl who made them!! #not trying to step on any toes I just thought it'd be fun to make my own :)) #these r the first words I've come up with after settling on a phonemic inventory. which was fun in and of itself #THERE R EJECTIVES !!! ISNT THAT COOL !!!!! also no voicing distinction and nasals r usually voiceless #anyways. honorifics r mostly abt age I think. but also social class and rank probably #I like how the casual forms don't distinguish the speaker's gender. reflects that gender differences r more pronounced in formal situations #cardassians #ds9 #asit #star trek #elim garak #narcissus's echoes #q's cardassian conlang

[doberbutts]

#stolen from fb #in light of the kanye controversy #actually I'll go one further #kanye's been anti-black for years and the acceptance of his anti-blackness has a direct correlation #with the 'sudden' interest in antisemitism #it's not sudden #he has been trending this way for a long long time #this should surprise no one #because these philosophies often go hand-in-hand #if one was accepted you can almost guarantee the other will be close to follow #I have two whole kanye songs both very old #and you can literally hear the difference #one is talking about the plight of being black in america #the other is complaining about his ex and really is the beginning of his antiblack leanings #where he was mostly just antiblack to black women and thus everyone accepted it #his music has shown him worsening for years and years and years #so while his behavior on social media and in the news has certainly reached a new low #it's not at all surprising to me that he's doing this #he's been #it's just that now more people care because it's more public and the targets' got a wider net #it also doesn't help that kanye is a black isrealite #which is an antisemetic group of black people stating that *they* are the *true jews* and *they* should be given isreal #they're basically a cult and they're VERY annoying and their stupid shit is so fucking widespread #big sigh

[sesamenom]

Reverse Gondolin AU family portrait

#silm #silmarillion #idril #tuor #earendil #reverse gondolin au #is this baby earendil's first appearance in the au? #so I decided Idril & Tuor still get married in this au #mostly bc I want Earendil to exist. #i haven't figured out what I want to do with Lomion #but maybe he can be obsessed with tyelpe instead of idril bc they're friends in this au and idril showed up a lot later? #also c&c + celebrimbor moved to gondolin instead of nargothrond since Aredhel lives there #you may notice that tuor has a diff hairstyle & outfit in the au! #this is bc fashion trends in reverse gondolin are more influenced by aredhel's choices than turgons for obvious reasons #hence the white cloaks and shorter (but equally fancy) sleeves #also idril is lord of the mole in the au #my headcanon is that 'lord' as of the lords of gondolin is just the title regardless of gender for the specific role #'lady' is a different role with much less administrative stuff and more social/public-appearance type stuff #aredhel is the white lady of gondolin bc she does Not want to be a lord #so she does the occasional royalty-waves-and-smiles-from-a-tower type event when necessary #but other than that she doesnt have political duties #idril is the administrative/political leader of the Mole in the au hence she is a lord #shes also the lady of the wing bc she married tuor and is part of the house of the wing's nobility but doesn't do their political stuff #and tuor is the lady of the mole #reverse turgon after arrival has less of a interest in politics than canon turgon (the whole eol deal was rather traumatizing and he needs #time to recover) #so he's not one of the Lords but he is colloquially ar-feinion #his official title is some sort of prince #after he reaches a more stable emotional state he helps a lot w the political stuff when aredhel is out #so maeglin doesn't have todo everything himself

[thepoisonroom]

that post that's like "learning social skills helps with social anxiety" applies to dating also btw

#i guess they have a circular relationship because also going on lots of first dates was really trial by fire for me in learning lots lf #new social skills #meeting new people was never my strong suit and i was very afraid of it and would avoid it but like! #when i first tried going on first dates i learned a lot about how to meet people and met types of queer people i'd never met before #and actually it was good for me even though it was often weird and stressful #and it was a lower-stakes way to practice social skills that i otherwise would've just avoided using until they atrophied #anyway whenever i see a dating profile that's like 'i'm afraid of talking to women lol' i'm like ok relatable but what's your plan to learn #i think also just like it doesn't have to be through dating but it is good for you to meet other gay and trans people offline if possible #when i moved to wisconsin i only knew my coworkers who were mostly also twentysomethings who'd been hired straight from college #and it was good for me to meet and make friends with other local gay and trans people who were involved in different stuff #idk i just don't know how many more 'i'm obsessed with romance but scoff at the idea that i should do anything about that' posts i can read #like if i said i wanted to run a marathon but i never practiced running people would fairly be like okay that's prob not gonna happen #idk i know it's no skin off my nose i'm just like. if you never take any steps towards expressing your desires #how do you think they're going to just happen to you #personal nonsense

[nulltune]

——  hakuno jumpscare !  

( staring ominously at ur muse. )

#&&. dash comm #idk what to tag this ackshually 🤔 BUT I WANTED TO POST SMTH BC HENLOO HENLOOOOO 💕💞💓 #MY ACTIVITY WAS ABYSSMAL IN JANUARY I THINK 😭 AND HOW IS IT FEBRUARY ALR WAT DA HECK?? #BUT YE i've been mostly working these past few weeks.... 😷 BUT FEBRUARY IS MORE FREEDOM 4 ME AND IM HYPE TO BE HERE AAAA #TYSM FOR ALL YOUR PATIENCE ALWAYS !! 🥹💗💓 #I STILL HAVE MORE STUFF 2 DO BUT *VIBRATES IN EXCITEMENT* #HOPE U'VE ALL BEEN WELL BTWW <333 #my social battery is still so ded and i'm going out in a bit too _(´ཀ`」 ∠) _ #BUT NYES I JUST WANTED TO BE LIKE- THOSE SILLY CATS HOPPIN UP AND DOWN @ UU #hope everyone's been well !! 💕💕

[fakeoutbf]

five stages of grief but it’s five stages of social anxiety

#walk with me #this morning i got a bouquet delivered to me at work randomly out of nowhere #the note basically said that i could count of the person even if for just some words of advice or a gesture that could make me laugh or mad #count on the person** #i immediately knew it’s from one of my coworkers and ngl i have a very charged?? relationship with them #in the sense that it’s very intense and we can be laughing joking and teasing or we can be really angry and pissed with each other #it can have very extreme emotions even if we just chill most of the time #idk why i think this whole year i’ve been leaning on them more?? and we started texting more often too #so we’ve been more properly friends lately #and for one i was SO EMBARRASSED for getting flowers bc my coworkers tease the shit out of everyone myself included and i’m not used to #gestures like that so obviously they were on my ass all day about it #and everyone asked about them and it’s EMBARRASSING to get that much attention #(me: i wanna be a singer / also me: can’t stand to be the center of attention) #anyway the person that sent them avoided me yesterday out of nowhere??? idk if they thought i was mad bc i didn’t reply to their texts all #weekend but i literally never reply to anyone and pms was a bitch and i just wanted to be alone #so they didn’t talk to me on monday i was mostly just working listening to music bc i was still emotional whatever #and today i did talk to my other coworkers bc it’s the day when my favorite coworker comes in and i talk to them a lot so i engaged more #and they were still ignoring me and then the flowers came in and we didn’t say a single word to each other today we just texted #they told me they sent them and that ‘they forgot’ what they sent and that it was just meant to be a nice gesture #and that bc they wanted to ‘surprise’ me and make me feel better bc i said i was sad at one point?? idek #i literally just want to tell them I HAD PMS ITS FINE I FEEL SUICIDAL ALL THE TIME and move on #bc now i’m second guessing everything they’re saying bc i thought we were friends and there’s no reason why friends can’t send each other #flowers or whatever but they’ve been avoiding me and then they keep answering my texts really weirdly and i always misinterpret flirting bc #i’m never outright romantic with anyone?? plus we’re FRIENDS i should have no reason to think that’s changed #but they’re being so weird and why get me FLOWERS??? idk get me a chocolate or a coffee i don’t NEED flowers #and then i said it was random to give me flowers out of nowhere and they’re like no it’s serious bro what’s serious?????? #your feelings towards me?? or just your will to cheer me up??? #if they don’t reply straight up in their next texts i’m gonna flat out say but it was a platonic gesture right??? #so yeah i’m overthink getting flowers bc what’s the social code for that and what is one supposed to do when they get flowers from a friend #delivered to their joint workplace where everyone can see them and think they’re from a partner or something

[grison-in-space]

Since the dental Tribble has been on a strict no kibble, no crunchy, no chewing diet. (In a week or so she'll be allowed to use her teeth again a bit more, but no one wants to see a dog get dry socket.) Spouse feels that canned dog food (perpetually on hand to make into pupsickles) is not experienced as filling enough, and we do know that Tribble has done better on grain inclusive foods for the past decade, so... the rice cooker has been simmering with chicken stock rice too bulk out the canned food all week, and Matilda and Benton have both gotten a fair bit of overflow rice as a treat.

Unconnectedly, tonight happens to be my first night alone as the sole human all evening in quite a few months. Matilda has been doing her job of enforcing bed, of course, but I can also rely on other humans to help make routine happen if she's too tired to be on it.

If I was worried that Tilly hadn't worked out her evening routine enforcement functions before now, I shouldn't have been. I don't think I've ever seen a dog so excited to move the evening along towards the part where dinner and the good cookies are.

#Matilda #australian cattle dog #1 year #the things I'm trying to achieve feel so embarrassing sometimes #like the complex and flexible but not too flexible pressure to do things that are good for me at intervals in the evenings #and yes yes yes it's just that old insecurity again #I grew up literally being told that the audhd was just my special burden to overcome in secrecy: the internalized stuff is not surprising #but it also means I'm watching her cues fairly carefully #and she's now completely reliable to alarmed tasks and mostly reliable to totally uncued pesterbot reminders #it's probably time to work on other grounding behaviors and really practice DPT more but I'm just really admiring my dog's progress so far #she had her first dog reactivity 2: building basic social skills class Tuesday and barely reacted to the five other dogs in class at all #by which I mean that she stared and leaned once #answered her leave it #and relaxed enough into counterconditioning to be rolling all over the floor and grinning delighted at me by the end of class #I'm beginning to see the shape of her grown self coming out #and I think I see why people are willing to go back and keep raising puppies from this breed of incredibly awful adolescences #it's a good shape. strong. very prone to getting distorted over a few generations if a breeder isn't keeping an eye on it #I can see what she's going to be like when she's put on some more emotional development #and I'm really beginning to look forward to it