#biphobic gay people

[hellomynameisbisexual]

Bisexual erasure. “When bisexuality is ignored, discriminated against, demonized, or rendered invisible by both the heterosexual world and the lesbian and gay communities. Often, the entire sexual orientation is branded as invalid, immoral, or irrelevant.”

what does it Look like?

- Assuming that two women together are lesbians, two men together are gay, or a man and a woman together are straight

- In most scientific studies, bisexuality is lumped in under “gay” or “lesbian” identities

- Many LGBTQ+ organizations don’t offer programming for bisexuals

- Questioning someone’s bisexuality if they haven’t had sex with both men and women.

what does it sound like?

- “I’m not interested in dating you because you’ve only dated men.” (Implying that I’m actually straight)

- “Bi women are more likely to leave you for a straight relationship.”

- “He’s only ever dated men, so he’s obviously gay.”

- “There’s no point in coming out as Bi if you never plan to leave your current relationship. You just want attention.”

what are the consequences?

- Bi erasure leads to bi phobia (discrimination, anger, blame, and hypersexualization).

- Bi people have *significantly* higher health risks than any other sexual identity group, including alarmingly high rates of depression and suicide.

- Bi women experience much higher rates of domestic violence.

- In the ‘80s and ‘90s bi people were blamed for spreading HIV. and we are still blamed for the spread of other STI’s.

what can I do?

- If you want to help, here’s what you can do:

- Check your own biases When someone says something shitty about bisexuality, correct them—even if a bisexual person isn’t present

- Ask your local LGBTQ+ orgs to offer bi/Pan programs

- Donate time or money to bi-specific organizations.

- Resources: Bisexual Resource Center (BiResource.org) Bi Plus Organizing US (@BiPlusOrgUS) Bi Pride UK (BiPrideUK.org) BiPhoria! (biphoria.org.uk) American Institute of Bisexuality (bisexuality.org) “Greedy: Notes from a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much” by Jen Winston “Look Both Ways: Bisexual Politics” by Jennifer Baumgardner “Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body” by Roxane Gay

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[piosplayhouse]

the fact that people are still out there aggressively arguing over whether or not wwx is bi or gay using the most outdated pseudoscience reasoning possible is proof that hell is real and mdzs fandom lives in it

#sorry i have to complain because yesterday i saw a tweet saying. #'ive been called biphobic by my mutuals but idc if wwx is canonically bi HES MY GAY TWINK!!!' #I WAS SO FLABBERGASTED #I THINK IF EVEN YOUR MUTUALS ARE CALLING YOU BIPHOBIC . THERES PROBABLY SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU #and this is less egregious but why do people feel the need to simultaneously shit on bi people while claiming theyre not biphobic in the #same breath whenever they talk about headcanoning wwx as gay. Like no one with good intentions and more than 2 braincells would call you #biphobic for saying you personally headcanon him as gay. thats just you saying that. why are you obsessed with other people thinking he #might be bi #i promise bi wwx headcanoners arent obsessing over you. weirdos #and then when theyre also acephobic too like oh i see what you believe gay people are. mask off huh #sorry i glimpsed a horrific scene yesterday and i cannot leave my thoughts unreleased

[dorianpavus]

people will be like thinking about shadowheart with a man makes me violently ill. i hate going into the astarion tag because there are people who don't seem gay enough for me in there romancing him and enjoying his character and i have to see their headcanons. the characters are all actually playersexual because they can always be romanced by the main character (conveniently making it impossible for me to have to regard any bisexual love interest as such), so it's okay to say they're whatever sexuality i want and it's actually fucked up of YOU to deny me this (so i will ignore blatant mechanical and narrative evidence of their bisexuality, while also demanding that you care about my desire for representation while i deny you yours).

and if you ever call them on it, they play the victim. whether the biphobia was obvious or subtle, they will always either pretend like they're being attacked, or play the "oh no the [insert insult here] people have found this" card, because... what. they think biphobia is just when people say "i hate bisexual people," and not the myriad ways in which people scorn, condemn, deny, and express their discomfort at bisexuality?

#i laugh with my friends at headcanons too but i don't have to be like 'well unfortunately cause they are bi :(' about it lol #'if they were gay people would definitely always have headcanons i agree with' said no one ever #let people have stupid ooc headcanons in peace lmao bitch to your friends on discord like a normal person #and stop acting like the biphobic comment you made exists in a vacuum #and is not a drop in the fucking ocean for bi people wading through fandom all the time. we're tired cause we hear it 24/7! #personal spam #biphobia / #people making jokes is not that serious. i get it lol. but if the root of your joke is biphobia... make a better joke lol?

[carlyraejepsans]

hey. you probably won't see this, but i just wanted to say thank you for not being a jerk about bi lesbians. it's really disheartening how much hate we still get, and it's nice to see someone just. not doing that.

it's nice to know someone with a (probably?) big blog/account is in our corner.

not sure why i shouldn't be able to see this ask, i am not as big of a blog as some people think HAHAHAHA. but hey you're welcome. I'll always stand behind anyone who defines a label through their personal experience. as long as you're not trying to define other people's experiences for them, it's literally nobody's business but yours.

#to me it always felt like the bi/pan debate. if you try to define those words as something ontologically different you're gonna be biphobic #bi can mean whatever the hell a bi person wants it to mean. attraction to two genders and/or more/all genders equally #all genders but more some and less other. bi + other label (asexual/lesbian/gay/etc) like that's literally nobody's business but yours #and if someone prefers to use pan because they REALLY want to emphasize the ''all' part. or they don't like the prefix. then hell. go ahead #it's kinda like how some people prefer the term transGENDER because transSEXUAL feels connected to sex/sexuality #and that doesn't reflect their experience. yknow some people call themselves transexual because they physically transitioned. that's alright #but saying someone can't call themself that because they haven't. or can't cal themselves that at all because it's outdated... #that's when you become the asshole #mind ya bizz baby #answered asks

[anunfortunatekinlist]

note to marauders fandom: just cause you add a bunch of queer characters and poc xcharacters to your fanfics, it doesn’t mean your inclusive and understanding

#writing queerness and not understanding the nuance of queerness is not inclusivity #thinking that queer people can fit into your little boxes is not inclusivity #saying a character is fat then their only trait being that they eat is just mean #making a black woman’s only personality mean and brooding is not okay #writing women into fics with the only plot point being she is in the way of your gay ship is misogynistic #making a bi characters attraction the the opposite sex a negative is biphobic #not listening to the groups to write about when they state that you are doing something that makes them uncomfortable is wrong #not taking feedback from these groups when they say something is offensive is wrong #we are not your plot points we are human #marauders era #sirius black #james potter #remus john lupin #wolfstar #peter pettigrew #marlene mckinnon #dorcas meadowes #lily potter #mary macdonald #harry potter #jily #dorlene #blackinnon #lily evans #jegulus #prongsfoot #character breakdown

[jewishbarbies]

do a majority of bi women end up with men or do you just see two women together and label them lesbians?

#g talks #sick of the biphobia on the goddamn gen z app (tiktok) #someone made a joke that brittany broski laughed at #so now we all have to find it funny #basically saying all bi women date are men #and it’s one thing to make a joke about it if you’re bi #but it was a gay man playing with a biphobic stereotype and it just wasn’t funny #because sure bi people found it funny #but so did homophobes and biphobes #so it wasn’t funny to me #biphobia #mine #/mobile #/okay to reblog

[ickypuppi3]

#billy hargrove #damn right i am #this has to be the funniest phrase i’ve heard #me when im heterophobic because i hc billy as a gay man #‘billy would be offended over people calling him gay’ #he isn’t going to fuck you chill out !! #also like #it’s giving ‘i don’t like gay people’ #🫣 #like you can’t be using the word biphobic to help your case and then say he can’t be anything but straight be serious

[mishtershpock]

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#not to sound like a broken record #i know this has already been talked about a lot in current fandom discourse #but all the tommy love also comes from a place of #misogyny (buck’s m/f relationships failed bc the women weren’t good enough. but his first m/m is perfect and destined and tommy is god) #(even though we know next to nothing about them as a couple. cough 1 kiss and 1 failed date cough cough) #and biphobic concepts (buck’s only relationship/partner that is worth shipping and love and fandom time is the m/m one) #(if he’s with a woman he’s not worth our time? the relationship/partner isn’t worth our time. right?) #some people kinda sounding like the conservative haters right now #oliver stark’s voice shouting from afar: he isn’t gay! he is bisexual! he still likes women! #some people like to celebrate bi buck (as we should) but then erase his previous gfs #in favour of this 1 man he’s shared literally 4 scenes with. okay #<- <- <- i drafted this like 6 hours before that interview came out. ollie came to back me up with the ‘he still likes women’ lmao #him dating a guy now does not erase or dismiss his previous m/f relationships or that he’s still into women #one final comment. any time buck got with a girl it was ‘they need to break up immediately’ #‘she’s not right for him’ #he’s with his first guy and it’s ’they should be endgame’ #‘they’re perfect together’ #huh?? one. we barely know tommy/them together #two. what exactly makes them endgame material? bc they’re both men? cough biphobic misogyny fetishization cough #three. it would be objectively hilarious if he realises his sexuality and within 2 weeks is dating a guy for the first time #and then that guy ends up being his endgame forever partner. lmaoooo that would be so dumb sawry #not to mention it would kinda lean into the biphobia and misogyny mentioned above #in that it would suggest that his problem with finding love previously was… women #and this problem is now magically fixed because… man #four. not to be a buddie endgame truther but if all the vocal support means this is what we get instead #instead of Them. i’m out see ya bye bye #i am sooooo reading way too much into this but oh well

[mikesbasementbeets]

“if mike is gay and never actually loved el romantically it would diminish their whole relationship :(” ok but like what do you think they’ve been doing this whole time then? do you think the current dynamic of their relationship is good? the relationship we’ve been shown this whole time is supposed to have some sort of positive romantic meaning?? like what do you think would be diminished if mike is gay? he is already unable to genuinely (ie not under dire external pressure) tell el he loves her. he is unable to be genuinely romantic with her (see Every Single Time they kiss (or almost kiss) and mike looks like he wants to crawl out of his own skin). he can’t even put his arm around her waist to support her!!! like. what would be lost if we were to learn that the feelings between them are actually platonic????

#this is about my last rb like. YEAH. they’ve BEEN devaluing their romantic relationship ALREADY. the Whole Time you might even say #it’s like…. their entire thing #also the idea that mike’s being gay would diminish the value of elmike’s relationship as a whole is 1. a miIeven take and 2. homophobic #said it before but. if you think a gay person ending a het relationship and coming out as gay devalues the meaning/importance of that #relationship? that’s homophobic. ask yourself why you think that. examine your thought process. reconsider. #imo mike being gay would EXPLAIN the intricacies of their dynamic in a way that would DEEPEN the meaning of it #but hey some people [cough] will continue to claim gay mike theory is biphobic while providing no evidence for that claim #and at the same time refuse to even acknowledge their own homophobic bias (which has been plainly laid out for them over and over) #hot tip if you don’t want people to think you’re a miIeven shipper then re-examine the opinions you cling to that fully align #with a homophobic miIeven's. quite simple. #beets posts

[hellomynameisbisexual]

#bisexuality #lgbtq community #lgbtq #bi #support bisexuality #pride #bi tumblr #bisexuality is valid #lgbtq pride #bi pride #end biphobia #biphobic gay people #biphobic #biphobia #internalized biphobia #bi erasure #bisexual erasure #bisexual stereotypes #bi stereotypes #bi men #bisexual nation #bisexual men #bisexual women #bi women #bi people #bisexual people

[agrebel18]

ok I’ve gotten A LOT of comments in which people are confused whenever I’ve said that Hunter is probably bisexual, so here it is!!! (for the people who didn’t know) 

First of all, the most OBVIOUS example is THIS scene from “Thanks To Them” where he holds up a sweater he made, in which there’s a rainbow with the colors of the bisexual flag. 

[ID: a screenshot of Hunter from The Owl House. He has short hair and is wearing his casual outfit from season 3. He is smiling while holding up his homemade sweater that is dark blue with several patches sewn on it. The more noticeable ones are a Dino Land patch, the mountains, wolfs, and a rainbow that is pink, purple and blue. END ID]  

BUT if he wanted to show support for Luz coming out, then he would’ve used the rainbow patch/pride pin like Camila does. PLUS, in Willow’s scrapbook, she put the bisexual and lesbian pride pins next to a picture of Luz and Amity on a date, therefore the kids know about how pride pins look like and what they mean, and WE KNOW this is Hunter’s sweater because there’s a sewn patch of wolves, which are important to him, therefore the bi rainbow is there because he knows its meaning and it most likely matches him!!

And this isn’t THE ONLY TIME we see him with the colors of the bisexual flag!! Look at THIS from “Any Sport in a Storm.” 

[ID: a screenshot of Hunter from The Owl House. He is wearing his Golden Guard outfit minus the cape, and Flapjack is on his shoulder. He is slightly blushing. Behind him, there is the Boiling Sea and the sky, which is colored pink, purple and blue. END ID] 

This show is known for using LGBTQ pride flags as inspiration for their backgrounds, so the fact that this has happened TWICE around him is most likely intentional, so good for him!!! 

ANOTHER piece of evidence I like to use for him being bisexual BESIDES THE OBVIOUS PRIDE FLAGS is that someone asked Hunter’s voice actor who he would take to Grom, and he mentioned female characters like Skara and Emira BUT ALSO male characters like Edric. (I don’t have the screenshot of the tweet sadly.) Of course, voice actors don’t always dictate what’s canon or not, but I feel like this is a nice hint, regardless of whether he was joking or not. 

I have ALSO heard that Dana did art of Hunter on National Bisexual day, but I don’t have it with me :/ 

Anyways, the boy is bi!!! Deal with it!! 

#ALSO just because he's dating Willow doesn't make him any less bisexual just like Luz dating Amity doesn't make her less bi either!! #ONE LAST THING: idc what people's hcs are but at this point it feels biphobic when people PURPOSELY IGNORE all of this #and he can still be aspec while being bi but get out of here if you ignore his heavily implied sexuality!! #*cough* people that still see him as gay *cough* #biphobes die!! #hunter toh #hunter is bisexual #bi hunter #bi people aren't 'less than' other sexualities!! #bi!hunter #hunter deamonne noceda #hunter noceda deamonne #toh #the owl house #aggie posts

[fiona-fififi]

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#really fucking wish people in this fandom would stop throwing around whatever fucking buzzword is their favorite at the moment #in order to shame every goddamn person who has a slightly different interpretation of a character #love how in the past two and half seasons of this show i (as a bisexual woman by the way) have been accused of #being homophobic for reading eddie as bi or demi instead of gay #being misogynistic for not fawning all over lucy constantly (and i don't even dislike her i was just slightly critical of her introduction) #and now biphobic for both thinking buck could have behaved better on their date AND for being slightly critical of tommy #while actively expressing love for both characters #this fandom is so fucking exhausting honestly #911 discourse #911 negativity #i guess #except it's not about the show it's about the fandom

[philcollinsenjoyer]

btw i'm going to keep calling archie gay no matter what happens i'm not biphobic i'm bisexual unfortunately sometimes people are gay

#i remember when i got called biphobic for gay jiang cheng truthing seriously sometimes people are not bisexual

[torosdottir]

ppl will sometimes act like bi ppl are more universally hated than gay ppl. bc its well understood that many straight people are homophobic but they'll be like "straight people hate us AND gay people hate us!!" well you could very well say the same of gay people. lots of straight people hate us AND lots of bi people hate us.

#like there seems to be this assumed idea that gay people are capable of being biphobic but bisexuals arent capable of being homophobic. #yes they can and they often are. #(yes this is technically a vaguepost but i wasnt gonna get into it in tags of some random post)

[saltfishfemale]

soooooo fucking sick of non bisexuals. hell even bisexuals will call themselves pan or some shit. anyone who isnt me should shut up and die forever.

#personal #biphobia never sleeps 😔 #nah but fr if u make ‘jokes’ that are just thinly veiled seething hatred of bi people #and usually bi WOMEN #u should kill urself bc i am so sick to death of seeing it #every bisexual is sick to death of the larpers enough without being blamed for them by other gay people. #9/10 times the gay people in question hate bi women for being female lmfao #anyways yawn dont care didnt ask #biphobes if u are readinh this dont care i already jerked off and fell asleep about it and u are mad asf

[sparatus]

leans into the mic so close im almost swallowing it.

saying a character with canonical interest in m/f relationships is actually just gay is still biphobia.

i can't believe im still seeing these takes in 2024 but here we are. biphobia isn't just saying a canon bi character is gay or straight it's also saying a canon straight is 100% gay actually and that canon fling was just a beard or they were confused or compulsory het, bi people exist, we are here, we are not any less queer, you're still being biphobic, go fuck yourselves

#this is specifically about a post claiming garrus is '2009 era metrosexual who comes out as gay after meeting the one guy' #that's biphobia babes. yes people who don't realize they're gay until after a few relationships exist but here you're just being biphobic