#arthritic life

[pigeonflavouredcake]

Things I've done to accommodate my autism and dyslexia

No raw wood. Every wood surface is either coated chipboard, covered or varnished so it's smooth. I can not touch raw or rough wood without feeling like it's going through my fingernails. The same texture issues apply to my feet. Carpet and sock all the time.

No big light, only little or natural light and blackout curtains in my room to block any light from street lamps at night and the sun when I get a migraines.

No analogue clocks, the ticking noise will make me go insane.

Minimal music all the time and a lighter and scented candles when I smell something nasty.

Invest in an e-reader tablet to read books. Even thought I still read physical books regularly for research and for fun this helps when I'm having a bad day but still want to read and takes up less space. also e-books are cheaper.

Clean regularly and go through my stuff every season to get rid of clutter. dirt and mess make me itch and clutter make me feel like I'm suffocating.

Keep my earrings in a clear container, make up in clear organisers and my necklaces hung on a bookshelf with thumbtacks so I can see everything and remember it exists.

Make mental notes of how things are spelt phonetically vs on paper so even if I know how it's pronounced I read the written word literally so I spell it correctly. For example if I'm writing down one of my meals for the week I would say "bol-og-nee-see" instead of "bol-oh-nais" so I can correctly write Bolognese. I sound dumb as hell but if it helps it helps.

Things I've done to accommodate my arthritis

Knee covers when my knees ache, grip gloves when I can't tense my hands and a cane in case I need to walk while I'm hurting.

Almost exclusively wear ankle socks so I have free movement of my ankles and have socks that are easy to put on and take off.

Got rid of lace up shoes in favour of slip-ons for regular day-to-day stuff.

Regular muscle training to help maintain strength around my more problematic joints and yoga once a week to stretch out and relax whilst remaining active.

I essentially have a desk job right now so daily stretch routines are a must. I also keep my art tools at arms reach or at eye level when I'm sitting down.

Put my bed next to the radiator and sleep on a firm pillow and mattress so I don't wake up frozen stiff and with back/neck pain.

Don't leave anything on the floor.

Keep an eye on the temperature and humidity.

Don't force myself to work like normal if I'm tired. Part of being arthritic is regular fatigue so I need to look out for what energy I have and be gentle to myself in those moments.

It sucks knowing that I'm arthritic at my age (early 20's) but I've been dealing with it since I was 17 so i'm experienced enough to cope and it's hereditary so I'm lucky to have support from my parent who's arthritis also manifested at the same age and in the future I can laugh at support my siblings when theirs eventually catches up to them.

#accommodating yourself is the most anarchist thing you can do #but it's hurts knowing that in order to get these accommodations I had to buy a lot of them #self accommodation #self care #self love #selfcare #autistic/dyslexic #autistic #asd #dyslexia #arthritis #arthritic life #autistic witch #dyslexic witch #be gentle to yourself #be kind to yourself #neurodivergent #neurodiversity

[midnight-moth]

I’m sorry for what I said in the tags of the ocean post. I’ll throw myself in the garbage. You can dm me your therapy bills.

But come on. That song.

Won't you fall for me, from reality? To the rhythm of eternity. But then the I am yours to the end, so won't you fall for me?

But then! The oh god I wish you were here. It’s like his timeline is all messed up and he’s thinking of the before and the during and the after all at once.

#cw grief and loss #sometimes I am personally attacked by my own thoughts #but imagine elderly Dew and Rain #quietly existing side by side #Rain reading another true crime novel while Dew noodles away on the guitar #but he can’t for too long because his joints are swollen and arthritic #Rain hears his breath change and knows he’s in pain #gently pries the guitar from him and then rubs the soreness away with his cool fingers #fingers that are now spindly the backs of his hands are like translucent paper with pretty blue age spots #and Dew still thinks they’re the must beautiful thing he’s ever seen #almost as beautiful as his face #and he tells him so and he smiles and all the lines in his face that come from laughter grief joy frustration all crease at ones #the both fall asleep watching some terrible tv show hand in hand on the hideous reclining sofa that Dew insisted they buy #because it’s comfortable and rain thinks it’s so tacky but he secretly agrees that the lumbar support is heavenly #Dew walks faster now that Rain but Rain would never know because Dew will always match his pace and never leave him behind #until he really does have to leave him behind one last time #fuck my entire life

[attapullman]

wish i could send y’all voice memos on here. mini podcasts between friends is the highlight of my day ✨

#my 13 min memo to my group chat while i was in target choosing an olive oil #what a journey #voice memos are everything to me and my arthritic thumbs #the personal life of mo

[crimeronan]

got my Official lung test results back (analyzed by a pulmonologist rather than just the initial respiratory therapist impressions) and they're actually BETTER than expected for someone of my age/weight/ethnicity. everyone say THANK U jock swimmer-singer lifestyle god what a relief.

#really outta shape now but being a competitive swimmer & musical theater kid as a teen almost certainly helped #96% for volume and 101% to 107% for airflow/exhaling/function/etc #autoimmune tag #especially a relief given how vital both swimming and singing are 4 my quality of life. like arthritic pianists getting mobility splints

[lavampira]

okay the wireless controller I got for christmas is such a life changer tbh

#nobody @ me bc i’m still kb/m for my mmos and i’m only using it for other games #BUT it’s made aiming sm easier in shooters and less hell on my arthritic hands <: #and it’s so pink and green and cute!!! reminds me of sherbert LOL #the life and times

[meateater-lamb]

#vent #ahhh my best friend has once again told me to move out and look at shelters hahahahahahaha #like fuck man there ISNT A SHELTER HERE. #the only one we have is only open a couple months in winter #and also a shelter is THE WORST OPTION #esp in utah #like if i move out i need 2 have like help i cant just do it on my own yknow #he did have a good idea abt a mental health professional being able 2 help me tho.. #but then im 2 scared my mom will find out im going to therapy!!! #but i am going to look into it #bc like. i just cant do this anymore yknow #this place is killing me #like literally #both my mental and physical health are. very poor rn. #idk what 2 do idk. i am fuckin scared abt everything yknow #dissociation has gotten worse #i keep seeing things #heart is acting up #cant eat #keep having nightmares #mom wants me 2 give her $1.5k #my dog is super arthritic n im the only one who will do anything with her #which is making MY joints and body pain way worse #i am always sick n i always have the smell of mold stuck in my nose now #i cant even function man #i just lay on the couch all day sick and out of my mind n then i get screamed at for it #bc im the only one who cleans so if im not cleaning the house is fucked and so the house is fucked #i cant see a way out idk #nothing makes me happy and i feel like im dying again #my entire life is fucked

[imaginarycircus]

The Wooster cat is getting a bit senile and hard of hearing. Sometimes he leans over his little water fountain and with his face almost touching the water and screams and screams.

#he yowls for no reason #we think he doesn't know where we are sometimes because he can't hear well anymore #it's a little heartbreaking #he'll be 17 in August #in other news I need a new hip #it's cool that they can remove my arthritic bone spurred joint and replace it with ceramic and metal #it's only takes an hour or two! #thank you ehlers-danlos syndrome #I did have a cortisone injection #and guess what? #it made the pain worse #lolololololol #life is an adventure #I actually did laugh while also swearing and crying and laughing #David has to drive me places and also tell me to stop doing things #he's very bossy and I love him #here we are in the tags like I am drunkenly whispering shit to you at a party

[anotherpapercut]

when I was a little kid people used to always say I was "4 going on 40". now I feel more like I'm 24 going on 84

#im literally such an old man like on all levels except physical i am an 84 year old man #my most used phrase in daily life is 'not to be a boomer but...' usually followed by smth boomery. im👌this close to getting a flip phone #i prefer to go to bars where mostly people over 35 hang out bc i just. i cant be around people in their 20s #i have literally always gotten along best with people who are significantly older than me #so many of my friends are 10+ years older than me. even when i was a kid my best friends were adults #i literally want to be old so fucking bad #i want to be 50 immediately #also i already have arthritic degeneration in my spine and knees so u know #half way there basically

[arsenic-io]

I am so sick of the whole "immortal beings who are scared to love humans because they all die eventually" thing. Living things die. We do not love them less because of this, you do not avoid getting hamsters and geckos and dogs and cats because you will not die before them, you get them and you love them and you cherish every moment with them. And you cry, when they die, yes. But your life was better having loved them and they died warm and safe in your hands. As a kid, my friends and I would name beetles and flies and butterflies, things which live for fractions of fractions of our lives, and we would laugh and cheer and love them and we would feel sad when they were gone. Love is not a finite thing, you will not suffer from sharing it.

#let immortals feel love #not romantic even #the same love you feel for an old dog nearing the end of its life #where it cannot see or hear bery well but somehow still knlws when youre nearby and loves you with all of the waggs in its arthritic tail #i just #love #it is not something i will ever run out of #even if i see everyone i love die #i will simply find more to love

[an-organized-confusion]

I had another silly thought.

So like. Gymrat!Roceit is a sexual/no-romo/qpp type of relationship.

And like they have this weird domestic sort of arrangement together - part of it being from a place of Janus just giving a shit about Roman on a human level than colored by romanticism. They have a pretty good time together which helps sweeten the arrangement up... if you know what I mean..

Also, Roman has a history of neglecting or not fully appreciating his health.

I just imagine Janus has either thought or said, “Gdi, I’m not losing the cutest disaster of a fucktoy I’ve ever had to himself. ISTG.“

This only got worse after Ro fucked up his kidneys (over-training + heat stroke + rhabdo + delayed treatment = Stage 3 CKD, in his case).

#sanders sides #roman sanders #janus sanders #roceit #(been a hot minute since i last talked abt roceit... but gdi everyone in the au are some flavor of disaster human) #(jan's very tsundere abt shit man) #(ro appreciates them in his life tho) #(like jan helped ro figure out he was actually aro - for one) #(also like esp post-ckd... ro understands jan more and jan helps him work through his feelings of internalized ableism) #(the whole 'life can still be fulfilling when you deal w/ chronic illness and/or disability' thing) #(and cutting yourself some slack an knowing your limits/needs w/o denial/shame) #(jan has psoriasis and psoriatic arthritic flares btw) #(underneath all the self-esteem probs... ro's still a gd himbo)

[hippopotatoe]

some days tindra just wakes up and decides i'm only Hers and will absolutely try to beat up the other cats if she can't have me for herself

#she's a teeny tiny 3kg arthritic 15yo cat who today bichslapped 5+kg young and spry pixie #bc pixie happened to sit close to my feet and tindra could see her from where she was laying on my stomach #i love her more than life itself but sometimes i want to cuddle with my other children without her throwing a tantrum

[ittakesrain]

Everything is inconvenient when you’re:

• bipolar

• arthritic

• everything else that I’m not bothering to list bc those are my main fuckers right now

#bipolar #actuallybipolar #actually bipolar #bipolar disorder #mental illness #mental health #recovery #mentalhealth #depression #personal post #anxiety #life #mood disorder #adhd #executive dysfunction #rheumatoid arthritis #arthritic #psoriasis #psoriatic arthritis #help lol

[trendfag]

i cant get over when we went to a chinese restaurant for my brothers birthday and my dads gf was there but wasnt eating because “oh you know i can only eat panda express because everything else has msg in it!” and the owner heard her saying that and came over and was like we dont use msg here and my dads gf looked at the owner of the restaurant in the face and told her that she was wrong about the food at her own restaurant. and this was the same day she told the story about the time she only tipped ten cents to a visibly anxious and stressed waitress on her first day on the job because 1) the restaurant was busy and 2) the food that she and her friend had picked out from the restaurants website like months before wasnt available and wasnt even on the menu. and laughed like it was a cute little anecdote as we all stared at her like what the fuck is your problem

#when she started telling the story my dad was like i dont think you want to tell this story babe. and then she did anyway LMAO #she has this ~14 year old pitbull who is only still alive because shes dragging her away from the brink of death by the dogs arthritic legs #and she brought her to my house for the 4th lunch my dad made because ‘she just hates fireworks’ well idk whos setting off fireworks between #12 and 5 oclock in july #kind of seems like a waste of fireworks to me. but whatever. so she got this giant geriatric dog who can barely even go on walks into her #tiny car for the thirty minute drive to our house so that i have to keep my cat in my room. fine whatever. my aunt is talking to her about #the dog. shes like. shes like oh she looks…not good…and dads gf just talks and like oh yeah well shes blablabla my aunt says ‘ok well #you see her every day but im just saying its been a minute since ive seen her and to me it looks like shes deteriorated a lot.’ and dads gf #went ‘oh shes usually much worse than this! haha!’ like girl do you actually genuinely think that dog is enjoying life right now. like be so #fucking honest right now do you really think that this ancient dog who has almost died like 5 times already enjoys getting pulled up into #your cramped ass car for thirty minutes at a time just to sit alone in a living room while you watch a movie in a different room. be real.

[fluffmonster31513]

my partner’s guide on how to get out of piano lessons!

step 1: develop arthritis in your finger.

#so they’re doing great #might have to tape the offending finger for the rest of their life #but it’s fiiiiiine #at least there’s no more piano lessons! #the funny part is i’m the one constantly cracking every joint in my body #but i am physically fine #my partner does actual sailing and exercises way more #but they get arthritis #it’s worth noting my partner is left handed and the arthritic finger is on their right hand #how does that even happen

[here-there-were-dragons]

there’s something deeply wrong with the fact that if i just simply decided to walk around everywhere on all fours all day, and did absolutely nothing else differently, i would be guaranteed to have the cops called on me and be put back in a psych ward with at least 5 new diagnosis by the end of the day.

walking around on all fours isn’t even something i do or would want to do. it would destroy my arthritic-ass spine. but there’s something deeply, rage-inducingly fucked up about the fact that even something that small is enough for this society to deem it morally acceptable and necessary to dissapear you into fucking conversion therapy torture jail indefinitely and saddle you with life-ruining legal tags forever “for your and everyone’s safety”!

just commenting on this as being fucked up could very easily be enough to get me the same treatment if someone decided they wanted to! it’s not like anyone’s going to stop some psych person from deciding that this is totally real undeniable freudian slip 100% true we promise you guys evidence that i’m some kind of feral mentally degenerate personimal mindlessly beholden to some illogical instinct to crawl around and bite good normal god-fearing real people because CLEARLY you’d have to be crazy yourself and/or want to DO the thing yourself to defend this UNCOMFORTABLE THING, right? nobody could just think it’s fucked up how we treat doing (abnormal thing) without being a Secret Monster themselves, REAL people obviously know unquestioningly why it’s bad, you just want to be allowed to give in to your corrupted malformed wrong EVIL base instincts that you definitely have (INSTEAD of a conscious mind with any valid logical thoughts or worthwhile human experiences in it) because i said so and i’m The Expert so everything i say is true and right!

i can’t even figure out where to fit in the bit about how fucked it is that if you did anything “abnormal” like that literally everyone automatically assumes you’re going to be dangerous and violent about it. that if someone decides to go around on all fours then CLEARLY they’re going to randomly bite GOOD HEALTHY NORMAL REAL people for no reason. it’s like people can’t comprehend the idea of any even slightly deviant behavior that isn’t violence and just assume if anything even slightly weird’s going on it’s moving in the direction of mindless bloodshed-of good normal people’s blood, especially, personally, obviously. human-shaped things come in “actual person” and “mindless rabid horrordemon that desires only real human’s blood and pain” and as far as they’re concerned everything that even slightly inhabits, leans towards, or vaguely reminds them of the second category is functionally identical and will inevitably attack real humans the same way-for literally no reason beyond a cosmic ontological sort of Wrongness and Emptiness Of Real Thought And Soul-if allowed to exist in their field of view longer than thirty seconds.

#depression-induced showerthoughts #misanthropic doomerposting hours

[champawattigress]

I have personally witnessed so many instances of pet owners forcing beloved animals to continue living far beyond the point of their quality of life hitting zero that the whole "Deux Face" situation was absolutely nothing new to me, except for the wave of genuine nausea I experienced at the social media reaction to her existence.

I can honestly say that I feel a palpable sense of relief, knowing that that calf is no longer being forced to live in that condition, and there's no amount of "well, she had vet care!" or "it doesn't seem like she's in pain!" that would have mollified me. I have been in hundreds of QoL consults with clients who parrot the exact same sentiments while their animal lies, completely recumbent and unresponsive, on the examination table. It's the exact same thing, except compounded by the ghoulish addition of the calf's value as a sideshow act.

Any normal presenting newborn calf that failed to thrive as she did would have been euthanized on welfare grounds long before the 26 day mark. A dairy calf is literally supposed to be able to walk away from its birthing site, a calf whose only developmental milestone was that it "can kinda lift its head" is a calf that has something inherently wrong with it. If Deux Face wasn't deformed in a way that makes well-meaning assholes spout that stupid poem, then she probably would have been put out of her misery ages ago. I keep thinking of the grotesque congenital deformities that domestic cattle can present with, twisted spines and fused joints and extreme hydrocephalus and cleft palates, and how, if Deux Face had presented with QoL reducing examples of any of those conditions, people wouldn't have even batted an eye at her euthanasia. She was literally forced to keep on living, just so people could keep "consuming" her continued existence. She was forced to live, not because it was to her benefit, but for the benefit of the farm, who romanticised and profited from her, and the benefit of idiots who think a goddamn newborn calf should be a source of inspiration in their own lives.

The people on this site who mourned that we didn't get to gawk at this animal a little longer disgust me. The only difference between you and the woman who keeps her 19 year old constant DKA, cushingoid, and severely arthritic Shih Tzu alive is that she, at least, has the excuse that this is an animal she has loved and cared for for decades. She's blinded by love, and needs to be counselled towards the realisation that the dog's existence is now more for her benefit than his. You're just upset that there are no more juicy pics of a recumbent, half-dead calf that you can caption with "TWice aS MaNY STArs As UsuaL!!!!!" in goofy ass fonts.

The only sad thing about Deux Face's death is that it took so long. Fight me on it, I don't care. Your gross parasocial relationship with a dying farm animal you've never met was not worth that animal's enforced suffering.

#vet stuff #i guess #dunno if i should tag this as deux face #bc im pretty sure if the people in complaining about find this post #theyll take my skin