#be gentle to yourself

[dre4mzandvisi0nz]

#habit change #journey #positive thinking #sad to savage #emotional health #girls supporting girls #healthy lifestyle #journal #lets change our thinking #mental health #be kind #be gentle #love yourself #selflove #be gentle to yourself #be kind to yourself #positive #change your habits #toxic environment #toxic relationship #toxic family #toxic people #good intentions #positive mindset #not my work #not my post

[lettersbycandlelight]

#taylorashleypoetry #poetry #be kind to yourself #be gentle to yourself #reminder #self kindness #self love journey #gentle reminder #poetry quotes #chronic illness #chronic pain #mental health #soft reminders #literature #light academia #dark academia

[softtopxpressions]

The Soft Girl Era thing is niiiice….like I go to; spas (when feasible 😬), massage & therapy sessions, choosing rest over everything, knocking out (y’all know I added 5 after crossing one off) my anime & reading list…like…it’s giving self healing and self care. This gentle shit is where it’s at y’all. Get In To It! 💖💅🏾

#soft life #soft girl era #self healing #self care #softtopxpressions #loving me harder #blkgirldaily #black girls of tumblr #blktumblr #black girls frolic #blackgirlmagic #black culture #be gentle to yourself #softest life #black is gold

[sigynsilica]

Thinking about how babies don't have a concept of things being broken.

The whole world is very new to them, and they're going through life figuring out What Things Do. And because of that, every time something happens, the baby assumes that's because that's just what that thing does.

If a baby is playing with a book, and rips a page out of the book, he isn't going to think "oh no! I broke the book!"

He's going to think "aha! If I pull very hard on this part of the book, it will come off in my hand! How interesting. I'm going to do it again to see if that always happens!" This is because babies have no concept of designated purpose. Without a designated purpose, things cannot be broken. They only change form.

If a baby has several hundred shreds of a book instead of a complete, intact book, he doesn't care. He can't read, so it doesn't matter to him. He's learned that paper can be torn into different sections if you pull on it, and he can flap the pages around and crumple them up better now that they aren't attached to the binding.

We as adults appreciate the book better when it's intact, because we understand that a book's designated purpose is to be read, and tearing the book hampers the designated purpose.

That's why we have a concept of things being broken. When an object only has one purpose, it holds less value when that purpose is rendered impossible. But a baby has no idea what a book's purpose is, so he can assume there's infinite different purposes.

A book could be for any possible number of things, so why does it matter if the book isn't the same shape now that he's torn it?

Many young humans, as they grow, make the mistake of assuming that everything has a designated purpose, and to render that purpose impossible will "break" whatever was the original thing.

Some humans have a specific difficulty in that they consider themselves to be broken.

But here's the catch. Humans don't have a designated purpose. We don't exist for any singular reason. There are infinite possibilities for what we can do and accomplish.

And because of this, we cannot be broken. We can only change form.

Look at yourself like a baby would look at you. You still have the capacity for so much, no matter what has become of you. If you have a few pages missing, that's because that's just what humans do. They tear when you pull on them too hard. It doesn't make you less of a human, and it cannot make your purpose obsolete, since you never had a single designated purpose in the beginning.

Maybe you cannot do what you wish you could, or you have become incapable of fulfilling what you thought you were supposed to, or you have suddenly realized something has happened to you that has taken away what you thought was your purpose.

This is alright. It is hard and painful for a human being to change shape in this way. It is okay to grieve what you thought you were. But it doesn't have to be the end of you.

When a book has a page torn out, you can make a paper airplane out of the torn page, if you know how. A baby can't do that, because he doesn't have the skills necessary. But you've grown, and you understand more than a baby. It will take some learning, and it will be a long process, but you can make something new out of the thousand pieces you've been torn into. You can find a new purpose for yourself.

Things will be okay. It won't be what you expected or wanted, but that doesn't make it any less valuable.

#depression recovery #anxiety #ptsd #complex ptsd #trauma #long post #I won't wish that you will be whole again #I will wish that you find peace in your shattered pieces #be gentle to yourself

[pigeonflavouredcake]

Things I've done to accommodate my autism and dyslexia

No raw wood. Every wood surface is either coated chipboard, covered or varnished so it's smooth. I can not touch raw or rough wood without feeling like it's going through my fingernails. The same texture issues apply to my feet. Carpet and sock all the time.

No big light, only little or natural light and blackout curtains in my room to block any light from street lamps at night and the sun when I get a migraines.

No analogue clocks, the ticking noise will make me go insane.

Minimal music all the time and a lighter and scented candles when I smell something nasty.

Invest in an e-reader tablet to read books. Even thought I still read physical books regularly for research and for fun this helps when I'm having a bad day but still want to read and takes up less space. also e-books are cheaper.

Clean regularly and go through my stuff every season to get rid of clutter. dirt and mess make me itch and clutter make me feel like I'm suffocating.

Keep my earrings in a clear container, make up in clear organisers and my necklaces hung on a bookshelf with thumbtacks so I can see everything and remember it exists.

Make mental notes of how things are spelt phonetically vs on paper so even if I know how it's pronounced I read the written word literally so I spell it correctly. For example if I'm writing down one of my meals for the week I would say "bol-og-nee-see" instead of "bol-oh-nais" so I can correctly write Bolognese. I sound dumb as hell but if it helps it helps.

Things I've done to accommodate my arthritis

Knee covers when my knees ache, grip gloves when I can't tense my hands and a cane in case I need to walk while I'm hurting.

Almost exclusively wear ankle socks so I have free movement of my ankles and have socks that are easy to put on and take off.

Got rid of lace up shoes in favour of slip-ons for regular day-to-day stuff.

Regular muscle training to help maintain strength around my more problematic joints and yoga once a week to stretch out and relax whilst remaining active.

I essentially have a desk job right now so daily stretch routines are a must. I also keep my art tools at arms reach or at eye level when I'm sitting down.

Put my bed next to the radiator and sleep on a firm pillow and mattress so I don't wake up frozen stiff and with back/neck pain.

Don't leave anything on the floor.

Keep an eye on the temperature and humidity.

Don't force myself to work like normal if I'm tired. Part of being arthritic is regular fatigue so I need to look out for what energy I have and be gentle to myself in those moments.

It sucks knowing that I'm arthritic at my age (early 20's) but I've been dealing with it since I was 17 so i'm experienced enough to cope and it's hereditary so I'm lucky to have support from my parent who's arthritis also manifested at the same age and in the future I can laugh at support my siblings when theirs eventually catches up to them.

#accommodating yourself is the most anarchist thing you can do #but it's hurts knowing that in order to get these accommodations I had to buy a lot of them #self accommodation #self care #self love #selfcare #autistic/dyslexic #autistic #asd #dyslexia #arthritis #arthritic life #autistic witch #dyslexic witch #be gentle to yourself #be kind to yourself #neurodivergent #neurodiversity

[shari-ya]

may we all find new wonders within ourselves. may we never truly figure ourselves out. may there remain always a part of you that is unknown. and may you always feel the pleasure of figuring a new thing about you all along. (a new taste ! a new accessory that you like ! a way of writing or maybe a hobby that existed but you never knew if you'd like !) do treat yourself like a stranger who you are trying to get to know more about; pay attention to what's upsetting you, and a lot more to what's not. welcome them new discoveries with a comforting and understanding smile. coddle yourself while your try to get through with it all. and while you do, be gentle, be kind. i hope you give your deserving self some of your time.

#self love #self discovery #be gentle to yourself #be kind #:) #words #a reminder #to myself #and to u #<3

[thyme-in-a-bubble]

lea i can feel the immediate regret from when i woke up coursing through my veins it’s so ridiculously early n it’s my day off too🧍‍♀️(it’s 6 45 i am dramatic)

i vote to get up now so that your rhythm isn't totally fucked and then grabbing a nap or two trough out the day. oh, and getting to bed early.

#sometimes getting through a day as a zombie is what you need to sleep properly at night #at least its your day off #take it easy #be gentle to yourself #do stuff that feels good #lea answers #ivy🪐 #(also love the teen definition of early. it's good for me to balance out my 4:00 in the morning) #(yes that is often when I wake up) #(especially if I'm stressed or it's winter) #(also your sleep problems these days make total sense) #(they probably always make sense but this time I just have a tiny bit more context so I can say with certainty that it does make sense) #(🫂)

[pretending-is-believing]

#pain #sadness #my own thoughts #dark place #unfortunately #broken #depression #mental health #ohtumblr #quotes #reblog it #feelings #black and white #be kind #sayings #find peace #be gentle to yourself #find the light #be the light #forgiving #recovering #i’ll be okay #finding myself #i relapsed again #strength #tumblrquotes #tumblr world #😥

[ranboo5]

so the past few days have been a blur to everyone then. that’s comforting to know ig

Maybe not to everyone, but I am almost certain this would be quite common. U are not alone anon iirc it's a pretty normal reaction when distraught or generally fried (+ I am generally extremely timeblind so for me this just aggravated existing tendency to blank on weekends, which is also pretty common)

#If you like I am hugging you comrade if not I am bowing my head to you from a preferable distance #Be gentle to yourself

[classycookiexo]

#be kind to yourself #honestly #gentle

[distantrambles]

No one should make you feel guilty for liking something harmless.

It's your thing, it's okay if it isn't anyone else's.

#positivity #be gentle to yourself #you deserve better

[shyranno]

"Some day this quest shall cease; Some day, for aye, This heart shall rest in peace."

#star wars #darth maul #maul #tcw #sw prequels #fan art #this is a gift for CrimsonZabrak on Twitter!!! #A reminder to all to please be gentle on yourself and to rest if you need to

[softtopxpressions]

I didn’t realize it before, but I really am being way more gentle with myself. This softer version of me is so beautiful.  She’s kind-er. She’s calm. She’s weird & good vibes. She knows she can tame a horse. Not because she’s tough and rearing to go but because her internal ocean is still waters. I am she and this is my Soft Girl Era. My masculinity is oozing.

#self healing #softest life #soft black girls #black lesbian #lesbian pride #softtopxpressions #breaking down my walls #loving me harder #be gentle to yourself #be gentle with yourself #working on me

[neutralparent]

why cant i come up with ideas. i cant think of where to take a trip to next summer. hell i cant even come up with cool things to go do in my area.

#im a boring motherfucker #nah i just get planning anxiety #be gentle to yourself

[winewithdann]

A gentle reminder.

#gentle reminder #healing #friend #confidant #mental health #mental wellness #life #hope #be kind to yourself #mental heath support #friends

[spiritualseeker777]

#self care #be gentle #self esteem #self empowerment #wisdom #guidance #good advice #be gentle with yourself #emotional healing #spiritual healing