#anti behaviour

[be-side-my-self]

Geez, just bc someone doesn't share the same view as you on a character dynamic, doesn't mean they're automatically a bad person. What the hell does "I hope you'll understand emotions one day" even has to do with that person not being a fan of your favourite ship? That was so uncalled for. Way to make people hate your ship even more.

Very well...

First of all "someone" and I came to an understanding. We talked about it and everything is fine. I am thankful for her reaching out to me! And I'm sorry that her posting will be used as an example. But this is not about her which is why I'll use they/them to talk about this random "hater" I'll use in this post as well as a general "you" for them.

Let's get started.

So, should I have reacted to the post at all? Maybe not (but something positive came out of it so I'm even a bit glad). Did I let my emotions show? Of course (I was in a very bad mood that does not excuse it though). Could I have said all I wanted to say better? Oh certainly.

Because now I have to explain what I meant.

But first let‘s pull out the complete quote instead of just what you decided to focus on, anon.

Hate is a strong word for a fictional ship… I hope you’ll understand emotions one day and then understand the different nuisance that can be read between Travis and Laura beside them being enemies or maybe partner in crime.

"I hope you’ll understand emotions one day" has nothing to do with a person not being a fan of "my ship". But it has all to do with the fact that they mentioned to hate one of "my ships" but then in the comments when people agree with them suddenly turns around and try to soften the blow. Which is understandable!

But that is what happened on that post. And it's okay to not like a ship. I agree with that. I have ships that I dispise. I steer away from them because there is no sense in attacking them. I would especially not compare them to "my ship" and tag it with the tag that is only for the enemy ship so the fans will see "the hate". Even if I didn't mean it. Even if it was just a joke. Humor is different for everyone as is taste. But not everyone is aware of that, not everyone understands how tumblr and fandom work so maybe pointing it out is a way to learn?

But certainly in a calmer way than I chose.

Now the reason why I said HATE is a strong word is very simple. I used to use it a lot, feel it a lot until I read Maskerade by Terry Pratchett and did some more growing up.

“But that was just it - hate was exactly the right word. Hate is a force of attraction. Hate is just love with its back turned.”

If you really hate something you'll return to it and you'll obsess about it. You'll go through everything about it just to make fun of it. It's also part jealousy and it will certainly burn up your energy and time. Let me quote Bender.

"Bender knows love, and love doesn't share itself with the world. Love is suspicious, love is needy, love is fearful, love is greedy."

I don't think that this quote is true for love. And the first part is not true for hate either because hate does share itself with the world. But the second sentence? That is hate. Suspicious, needy, fearful, greedy.

Anyway, all I know is my life got better after I started to understand this pattern. I tried to stop myself from hating. I still indulge in things I dislike but more out of curiosity and because I want to understand. Also I'm only human (and I guess a masochist). Emotions are a part of me and spite belongs there.

What is even worse about hating is that, you'll invite other people to hate along your side even if that is not your intention.

Because that too happened on the post.

You say you hate something and people will flock to it and agree with you in your hate. It happened on the post too.

"I love Ship A/B but I hate Ship C/D"

All comments and reactions (mine included) were about the hate of ship C/D.

And that is fucking scary! But as you make your bed, you must lie on it.

Wouldn't it be so much better if people joined together in their love for ship A/B?

And this is what I meant! You have to understand emotions, your own and those of others, to become a better person! To enjoy your fandom!

And that is not only true for fandom! It is true for every aspects of life!

Leave out the hate!

And this is not some new wave bullshit or some neurotypical love-life-laugh philosophy. This is a pattern you can see again and again and it will always be true.

I won't say no matter how *positive uwu* you are you won't not have to fight battles! But you can avoid them if you don't focus on stuff you hate! If you don't focus on stuff that makes you suffer!

Avoid! Block! Ignore! Not always your battle!

I know it's fucking hard to change your ways! But so worth it!

Like this fucking comment? What does it give you, anon?

While you, anon, was annoyed about me being annoyed about the post the whole thing already was solved in the background.

All you, anon, get now is a philosophical rant about focusing your energy on things you love and that trying not to hate on things is more healthy for your mind, dear anon.

Your battlecry ask has been uncalled for, anon!

As for people hating even more on "MY SHIP" because of this comment that I made on a post with a total of 44 notes, not one coming from my blog... I don't think that my reaction will add to the antis miserable hate any more.

They made up their mind. The two characters of "my ship" hate(1) each other and that is the only correct way to see it and everyone who sees it different is a sick fuck who deserves to fucking die or get jailed away for their thought crimes of shipping two adult fictive people.

I still hope for them that they manage to leave the hate behind themselves and learn an important aspect that now comes as another lesson.

Any interaction between two characters (or real people) can be seen as either romantic or platonic (or anything in between) depending on the own preference.

And that is even more true with games where you can make a decision as the player!

It's like with ink pictures. Everyone might see something different depending on your experiences, emotional state and hopes for the future.

I hope you have a great day, anon and that you learned something.

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(1) which is one of the reasons why the fuck. Because hate has a very special pull close to love as established before.

#hackearney #the quarry #fandom #fandom hate #anti behaviour #fanfiction #fanart #be better

[duckytree]

somehow i ended up on horrid henry twitter after years of forgetting it existed and i remembered how messed up his home life is. true british suburban horror

#horrid henry #art #fanart #rude ralph #duckytree #it’s like anti caillou #when i was a kid i thought he was the worst cause everyone in his life said so #and then i rewatch it as an adult and im like #oh #that kid has behavioural conditions and is gaslit into thinking he’s the worst #of course he’s going to lash out

[hobgobknowsbest]

aren't we all

New Year's resolution: finally give up the whole human act

#voidpunk #creaturecore #goblin community #goblincore #goblin #cryptidcore #eldritchcore #goblin behaviour #goblin brain #goblin culture #monstercore #anti human #goblin vibes #goblin things #local cryptid

[chewiiez]

can toxic swifties actually gtfo the xenophobia is insaaaane.. i wld expect this from conservatives not someone who proclaims to be a “feminist”

#anti swifties #anti taylor swift #chewy chews #you know all ur air will go away if she dumps shit on the amazon right?? #hope she dumps shit on u #and miss taylor not even condemning this behaviour… sighs

[alicentes]

The minute V*serys told Otto that he knew Alicent only came to spend time with him after Aemma died was because Otto sent her there for his own interests and yet he continued with their private visits knowing the 15 year old girl was only spending time with him because of her father i was like 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

#also the fact that he told her not to tell rhaenyra about their tims together because she wouldnt understand? top groomer behaviour #it runs in the family i guess *coughs* daemon #alicent hightower #anti viserys targaryen #hotd

[sluttypatrickstar]

#anti booktok #booktok critical #cough cough haunting adeline ... #im not in any way against dark romance or books that tackle the themes listed but #from everything i've seen a lot of booktok “romances” really romanticise these things in a way that does not sit right with me #you can write dark romance w/o making bad behaviour seem like it's Good or Romantic yaknow

[lovl3igh]

i will never buy your "ofc alicent lost her sht and wanted luke's eye, after what happened to her son?? and viserys did nothing to punish luke and he should have yada yada yada" remind me, when did alicent punished aegon for rping? i guess y'all support "justice" and punishing no matter for nepotism only if it fits you and rather see taking an eye from 8yo than grown ass adult taking consequences of his barbaric actions cause i have never seen one person from tg who demanded aegon to be sent to the wall but you love yapping about how he deserved throne more than rhaenyra

when was criston punished for mudering joffrey, hitting laenor, killing lord beesburry? when was alicent punished for slicing rhaenyra's arm? when was aemond punished for injuring velaryon boys and dragon twins? when was otto punished for openly speaking about treason to alicent for years? when was larys punished for mudering harwin and lyonel?

alicent protects those who serve her cause, who help to install her son on the throne bc that what she believes is her duty. she sees rhaenyra's sons as less important bc they're rumoured bastards and therefore them being involved in the fight and getting hurt doesn't matter that much, unlike aemond's losing an eye, it's not just bc how big injury is, otherwise you have to think about broken nose, head injuries, words of treason who can cost velaryon boys their lives, the actual attempts of killing luke and jace by aemond. she says herself when she snaps... it was not about aemond's eye, it's about duty and sacrifice that rhaenyra (from alicent's perspective) didn't experienced. it was not an eye for an eye, it was sacrifice for sacrifice. alicent's lost her sht bc rhaenyra's actions and her family's were once again ignored and she missed that her own sons actions were also not punished, that her wrong doings are ignored, she apologizes to viserys later... bc she believes that her behaviour on driftmark go against her duties, not bc she wanted to seek her "justice"

and the "he's your son viserys, your blood" sensless, and luke is what? or jace, rhaenyra, baela, rhaena? if she expectes luke to punished then aemond should be too. why would aemond be only one protected bc of being viserys' kin? he asked her, what she wants to do about it, the eye can't be restored. anyone who says "well luke should have been punished somehow, grounded or sth", i saw propositions that lucerys should have been sent to the wall (c'mon). she says she wants his eye. eye from 8 YEARS OLD BOY. she got her chance and that's what she demanded, expecting what? "yes alicent, that's a great idea"?? please

"rhaenyra wanted aemond to be tortured" WHEN?? she said sharply questioned, if that meant torture, there would be reactions, wouldn't be? you see people whispers when alicent demands eye of luke but there is silence now. even alicent says "for an insult my son lost an eye". she didn't said anything like "you want to torture my son bc of an insult?". your accusations against rhaenyra comes from your asses

#if as a queen you lose your shit to the point that you attack 8yo boy then clearly you should sit down and think about it #like wtf #people talk for years about bastardy #or rhaenyra's doings #but alicent's behaviour or cole killing joffrey seems like nothing #if you are on alicent's side here then it's clearly sth wrong with you #you can try to understand her #and ofc you don't need to support rhaenyra here #but supporting the idea of hurting little boy that way is disgusting #house of the dragon #hotd #rhaenyra targaryen #fire and blood #luke velaryon #anti alicent hightower #anti alicent stans #anti team green #anti aemond targaryen #anti viserys targaryen #anti criston cole

[spop-romanticizes-abuse]

yes and no. adora also knew this catra:

i think we have to remember that people don't just "turn evil" after one incident. catra was always toxic towards adora, she just turned it up a notch when adora deflected.

#ofc she wasn't born that way #it's definitely learned behaviour from shadow weaver #but yeah catra wasn't exactly nice to adora when they were friends #spop #spop critical #spop salt #spop discourse #spop criticism #anti catradora #she ra #anti catra

[shitswiftiessay]

god i would HATE to have fans like this

now there are many VALID reasons to criticise taylor swift, but this is so fucking stupid. imagine having YOUR OWN FANS shaming you for your partying with your friends on your birthday in new york city (where you LIVE) because they think you should be catering to your man at every living moment.

also, asking when she’s going to have a baby with travis when they’ve only known each other for 3-4 months??

ever since she started dating that football player there’s been a SIGNIFICANT portion of her fanbase that wants taylor to get married and have travis’s babies as soon as possible. and they even talk about her retiring or taking a LONG break from music + touring just so she can pop out travis’s babies.

i would honestly want to KMS if i was a celebrity and my fans wanted me to leave my career to be a NFL housewife + baby maker.

#shit swifties say #parasocial relationships #parasocial behaviour #i would not wish fans like this on my worst enemy #anti taylor swift #anti swifties #anti travis kelce

[rebellum]

I feel like... Perhaps... Arguing that transphobia is defined by murder and that anything other than murder doesn't even matter... May NOT be conducive to fighting for trans rights.

Like... people want the right to exist as they are. They want to have access to hrt and surgeries and prosthetics. People want access to clothes that fit them and reflect how they want to be seen. People want access to medical care (eg. Getting screened and treated for sex-based forms of cancer can be impossible if you have the "wrong" sex listed to receive those tests). People want to be respected and treated well. People want to not be sexually assaulted and beaten and abused. People want to have access to housing and jobs, and the protection to not lose those things for being trans. People want access to shelters for homeless people or survivors of domestic abuse. People want name changes.

Acting like all of those things don't matter because at least they weren't murderered by an individual (and instead die of suicide or state violence, or survive and suffer) isn't okay.

#'hey people are forcibly detransitioning you and raping and beating you and you lost your job and are going to be homeless and #probably die of infection from being stabbed for trying to go to the bathroom. but at least you arent part of a demographic that has a #higher murder victim rate! shhh just ignore that we dont actually have data on the murder rate of your group.' #do ppl like. forget state based violence exists. and that thats most violence minorities face. #idk man im just. mad about people on here acting like youre only oppressed if youre a perisex trans woman who was AMAB. #cause i exist at the intersection of multiple minorities and being told hey u experience violence but at least you wont be murdered by an #individual feels like a slap in the face. #like it doesnt matter if i have to mask my neurodivergent behaviour bc if people see they could assume im on drugs and call the police and #i could potentially be really hurt but not die but hey at least i wont die just be horrifically traumatized by police brutality! #there are millions of people with mental illnesses similar to my own around the world who are institutionalized and forcibly medicated or #living on the streets or dependant on horrifically abusive caregivers #but hey at least they arent being murdered! #like. the way the transphobia discussion on tumblr rn discusses (and doesnt discuss) race and ability and class and health makes me #feel very invisible. #like if people had to choose who to believe about my experiences between listening to me a black/mixed mentally ill maybe disabled (used to #be disabled) hella nd trans nonbinary person #or listen to a white middle class trans woman's take on my experiences that theyd choose her. its such a weird weird microcosm. #its like a monkeys paw like people are finally listening to trans fems and finally recognising the violence they experience and finally #actually caring about them but for some reason decide that in order to do that its necessary to throw every other minority under the bus #like fuck man have you seen how 'anti transandrophobia truthers' discuss race? its NOT okay #we all matter we all are so similar and are part of the same groups and same communities we need to stick together #stop using trans fems as a battering ram to hurt other minorities challenge #cause like. yes its some trans fems. but its mostly NOT? #like its non trans fems telling other non trans fems that they arent oppressed #and even when many trans fems are like what the fuck dude of course other trans ppl matter whats wrong with you #the group of like 80% non trans fems 20% trans fems are like 'hmm if you are defending other trans people you must not really be trans fem' #like. denying trans fems their identity bc they disagree with them?? dude someone doesnt stop being a trans fem cause they recognise #people other than trans fems matter and exist #its just all so WEIRD its a weird little tumblr microcosm #i wanna stress. for those of you who dont have access to other lgbtq+ communities. how much it seems to be primarily a tumblr thing. to

[wisefoxluminary]

I don't feel comfortable speaking out about things like this but I am deeply disappointed in Noah Schnapp. To have the audacity to wave around stickers that support and glorify literal genocide as "sexy" is just so disgusting. Palestinian people are being bombed and dying and here he is making jokes and having a laugh about it. I will continue to be a Stranger Things fan and will not boycott season five but Noah needs to grow up and take a good fucking look at his life.

#noah schnapp #stranger things #this is disgusting behaviour #i am sorry #he should know better #will byers #free palestine #free gaza #anti genocide #it's so fucking awful what's happening over there #my heart sinks for everyone lost to this conflict #i don't feel comfortable talking about news stories because I'm scared of saying the wrong thing #but I can't remain silent anymore

[lizareads]

"Meet cute" but it's him (being well over 500 yrs) preying on a twenty something woman's trauma and feelings the moment he meets her— continuously antagonizes her— and wonders why she is rejecting his advances. Like my brother in arms... why don't you try to do it in a more mundane way???

#ffs cassian #everytime i see someone supporting cassian's behaviour towards nesta #i see something flash behond my eyes #which reminds me why i hate this #sorry excuse of a man #let nesta be free #nesta archeron #acotar #anti cassian #anti ic #anti sjm #pro nesta archeron #acosf #anti acotar

[hobgobknowsbest]

I'm not sure I've felt a post quite as much as this one before now

#goblincore #goblin culture #goblin vibes #goblin community #goblin things #cryptidcore #eldritchcore #local cryptid #goblin behaviour #anti capitalism #goblin shit #goblin energy #adhd

[lainalit]

link to the tea and consent video since some of you don't understand the concept of it and the website consentiseverything for more information

#morally grey is not an excuse to sa someone #a character can't be morally grey but also be CONSTANTLY be praised and rewarded by the narrative and characters around them #Also again you cannot be pro feyre and pro rhysand if you at the very least don't condemn rhysands behaviour towards feyre in utm #acotar critical #sjm critical #anti sjm #anti acotar #anti rhysand #pro feyre #rhysand #feysand #anti feysand

[area51-narutorun]

taylor swift is a climate criminal.

taylor swift is a climate criminal.

taylor swift is a climate criminal.

taylor swift is a climate criminal.

a new album doesn’t change that.

#i just find it funny #how so many people #will (rightfully) criticise a celebrity for theo reprehensible behaviour #but then instantly forget about it when they announce a new album #the ordinary people will never be free #until we can overcome our deadly obsession with celebrities #your fave will kill you for money #your fave does not see you as a person #your fave sees you as a commodity to be exploited #taylor swift #taylor swift private jet #anti taylor swift #environment #carbon emissions #taylor swift carbon polluter

[imconfused-444]

im only 4lbs to my ugw !!!!

#light as a feather #pro a4a #pro for me not for thee #anarex14 #thinspø #444 #im confused #ana angels🪽 #th1nsp1ration #anorexcya #anti capitalism #crowcore #ed behaviour tw #manic pixie dream girl