#and nonbinary both

[murderonthedullexpress]

“Trapped”

Stone Butch Blues - Leslie Feinberg

@/lilboyblueish on Instagram

Poem by Keaton St. James (@boykeats)

I/Me/Myself - Will Wood

We Both Laughed In Pleasure by Lou Sullivan

cis people asking cis questions by Silas Denver Melvin (@sweatermuppet)

Tomboy Survival Guide by Ivan Coyote

#we are trapped in what other people see #trans #transgender #transsexual #nonbinary #butch #femme #stone butch blues #leslie feinberg #boykeats #poetry #trans poetry #will wood #lou sullivan #we both laughed in pleasure #silas denver melvin #sweatermuppet #ivan coyote #queer #gay #lgbt #lgbtq #web weaving #parallels

[nothorses]

after having an entire hour long conversation with my coworkers about what "degendering" is, and the importance of using trans people's pronouns when you know them- rather than always defaulting to "they/them" no matter what- and still getting "they/them"ed by people I trusted not to fucking do that to me, I have decided that the name and pronouns circle of introductions for new additions to the group will now include the very clearly stated boundary that they do not use "they/them" pronouns for me.

your move, cowards!

#the positive end of this is that i happened to be the first non-cis person to introduce myself in the circle #and two nonbinary(?) people after me both followed suit & elaborated on like #which pronouns were okay AND which pronouns they actually preferred people use for them/how they use them #which was really cool!! #usually they've just given the list of which ones were okay #so it was nice to have the detailed insight and also nice to see them asset boundaries

[starkitten101]

Made this in like a minute out of frustration over a couple memories. Is this anything

#Mixed race #aromantic #asexual #split attraction #nonbinary #multigender #trying to cover all groups who’ll relate but can’t list all of them from the top of my head #I’m both btw #It’s even worse when I can only select “mixed/multiracial” on a survey but can’t specify WHICH RACES I AM #JUST LET ME SELECT BOTH SOUTH ASIAN AND WHITE DAMMIT #Edit: hold on let me add a few more to the tags #Bigender #queer #genderfluid #multiracial #biracial

[emotinalsupportturtle]

neil gaiman and RTD are absolute legends for being the showrunners of 2 mainstream shows funded by large production companies in the year 2023, and proceeding to make the most queer positive episodes ever seen by man

meanwhile david tennant is just vibrating with joy because he gets more opportunities to wear his one-thousand-and-twenty-four pride pins

#neil gaiman #rtd #good omens #doctor who #rtd looking over at the loki showrunners and calling them cowards #i mean that actually did happen #i'm just imagining rtd taking disney money and neil taking amazon money and chucking it in at a queer generator #oh we got more money? great let's throw in another lesbian #while all those execs look on in horror #David tennant frantically signing the contracts #nobody doing allyship like dt being the common denominator for both these #good omens eason 2 #doctor who 60th anniversary #the star beast #david tennant #lgbtq+ #queer representation #trans rights #nonbinary rights #anthony j crowley #aziraphale #there are too many queer characters in GO to tag #the doctor #14th doctor #rose noble #beep the meep #yes lol im tagging beep here too #meme? #our flag means death #not in this but it's also queer positive media released this year

[savagegood]

"I'm not a people. I'm many things. I'm! Nimona!" "I see you, Nimona." | NIMONA (2023)

#every single time nimona went “ i'm. NIMONA!!!” i felt that #also bal going from “who are you? what are you?” to “you wanna who the kid is? show 'em”. i love that for both of them #nimona #nimona movie #nimonaedit #riz ahmed #chloe grace moretz #ballister blackheart #lgbt #transgender #nonbinary #genderfluid #*op

[gingermutineer]

not barbie and not ken, but a secret third thing (allan)

#barbie #ken #barbie movie #thinking about the ways in which both barbie and ken are performances of gender and allan fits in with neither <3 #nonbinary allen agenda #allan

[everythingisliminal]

I did it. I called my parents, told them they need to use they/them for me for us to have a healthy relationship, and it worked.

My dad said his love for me is unconditional and he's invested in getting this right. My mom asked in a strained tone how this affects my relationship with my husband, how she's supposed to refer to me with people in her life, etc. (best case scenario given how abysmal this convo went with her a year ago). And we ended it all with our life updates and "I love you"s.

Since it took a lot of research to find articles more suited to adult children coming out as trans/nonbinary, here's the list of (primarily non-aggressive) resources on terms and mindset I texted them in case they can help anyone else:

Itchy sweaters: An ally’s guide to understanding late-in-life pronoun and gender changes (new pronouns = softer sweater metaphor)

Your adult child just came out as non-binary. Now what? (terminology)

The Wonderful World of Gender: What It Means to Be Nonbinary (terminology)

What Does It Mean to Misgender Someone? (terminology)

8 Things I’ve Learned Parenting a Non-Binary Kid That Might Help You (acknowledges parent's emotional response)

Edit:

OMG Y'ALL MY MOM JUST TEXTED THIS

"I know I was quiet in today's conversation but you are my child and I love you and support you. I want nothing but happiness and a healthy life for you!!!😉😀"

#trans #coming out #nonbinary #agender #genderqueer #I'm singing from the rooftops y'all #while also feeling very tired #celebrated by getting an outfit from both& bc I love their sleeveless T #sweeping victory #now everyone in my daily life respects that I use they (or fey) #happy pride 🌈

[lvnesart]

genshin genderbends except I changed almost nothing lmao

#is it genderbend if hkvh are both still nonbinary #kaveh took after my hc of her mom so she gets to be taller this time #genshin impact #haikaveh #kaeya alberich #jean gunnhildr #xinyan #yanfei #knavillette #neuvili #dehya

[betrixxxed]

Healing (killing) my inner middle schooler rn

#DIE BITCH (blasts them with actual nonbinary designs) #i make chara more femme mostly to separate them from kris #frisk is so fun to draw lmao #they're both hearing some bullshit rn #pov the dudes are judging you #undertale #undertale fanart #frisk undertale #chara undertale

[hel1anthus-annuus]

Love this bitch for having multiple gender filters on. He’s transmasc, he’s a woman who’s a man, she’s nothing at all

#i love the idea of writing mizu as effectively nonbinary because of the constant isolation and alienation she feels #identifying with womanhood in a sort of secondary manner— a samurai first and a woman second #explores womanhood through mizu lol #no matter what. shes trans in some way #though i hesitate applying that label #if only because i dont think mizu would identify as trans in any instance; i’m sure mizu thinks he just IS #stuck between womanhood (something she doesn’t really care about) and manhood (a mask for her to put on to fulfill his goals) #and yet transmasc interpretations of mizu UTTERLY FASCINATE ME #AUGH! woman who is a man (this is both a transmasc and nonbinary filter) #thinking back to mizu binding. i wonder how he felt #that scene can have so many gender filters #pain— applicable to both a woman binding to avoid misogyny and a trans man binding to avoid misogyny and dysphoria #i think no matter how you see mizu; he’s dysphoric in that scene #i could go on #blue eye samurai

[spiraling-trap]

there is something so transgender about these two. not sure exactly what it is but it’s so transgender

#i see them both as nonbinary #their transness could go either way #but transmasc L and transfem light does something to me #light is misogynistic because it’s internalized #death note #light yagami #l lawliet #lawlight #the pink/blue color coding is ironic

[mealbits]

#sth #blaze the cat #transfem tails #nonbinary tails #<again its whichever. or both. #i was muling over how 2 post these / if i should post more art with them unil i just gave up lawl

[junotter]

All the jokes about Ken and horses are good but I just wanna say it's such a good parallel to how actual young men get swept into misogyny and the patriarchy.

Like they're told to believe it means men get to be cool and manly and have this power but with that comes extremely rigid commands of what they can be as a man and a cycle of self hatred for never matching those gender roles perfectly. Patriarchy tells men that if they just do exactly what is expected of them, then they get all the "cool stuff" that comes with. That doesn't work though when there's only a small group that actually gets that power, but men will keep trying to fit into those roles in hopes that they can.

In the end there are no horses or the myth men are told, it's just endless cycles of self hatred and ingroup fighting.

#barbie #barbie movie #barbie spoilers #ig #ive got a lot more on how barbie looks at feminism and the patriarchy cause god they did it #not to say there isnt faults such as very little conversation about intersectionality #but i can also understand the impossible task of talking about EVERYTHING in one movie #not everyone will be happy and thats fine #anyway i think something barbie did really well is fight this battle of both wanting so deeply to love (romantically or not) men but also #not dismissing the fact its mens job to solve their problems themselves #that even if women need to be the front runners of breaking the patriarchy men cannot rely on them to solve their own problems completely #also just god im so glad this wasnt a girl boss slay movie #women deserve respect and love and life regardless of accomplishment #we should not have to be ceos and presidents and world problem solvers to gain equality #i can also understand if nonbinary people feel left out/disconnected from the movie #but as always gender abolition and acknowledging the gender binary (ie the one societially impossed) go hand and hand 👍 #just incase cause idfk terfs dni the barbie movie is not for you #barbie literally states constantly that her gender has nothing to do with (non existent) genitals so f off

[this-is-exorsexism]

acting like nonbinary passing is a thing forprivileged nonbinary people.

this is exorsexism.

nonbinary passing does not exist, for anyone. even if nonbinary is your only marginalised identity, no one is going to correctly assume that you are nonbinary in a society that doesn't recognise nonbinary people the same way it does men and women.

as a visibly disabled and fat enby, i've been excluded from gender and overly gendered by different people, and conventional androgyny doesn't represent me.

however, the nonbinary people who do have access to conventional androgyny, i.e. abled, thin, white nonbinary people, still don't have access to nonbinary passing - because no one does.

having your gender expression recognised isn't the same as having your gender recognised. like, at all. it's why feminine men aren't magically recognised as women and masculine women aren't magically recognised as men. the most androgynous nonbinary people only have the option to be seen as androgynous men or women, not as nonbinary. gender and gender expression are two different things and being able to express your gender how you want does not equal passing, especially when there is no such thing as passing for nonbinary people. most people don't even know nonbinary people exist. we cannot be seen as something that people don't know even exists, even if we starve ourselves and cure all our disabilities.

"the more privilege you have, the easier it is to pass as your gender" is only true for binary genders, i.e. genders that society actually recognises. no amount of privilege can undo the deep-seated nonbinary erasure that leads to our consistent misgendering.

multiply marginalised nonbinary people will experience exorsexism very differently from privileged nonbinary people, but no amount of privilege can make nonbinary passing a thing that exists. we need to talk about how marginalisations affect nonbinary experience without completely erasing a core part of exorsexist oppression that is universal to all of us.

acting as if nonbinary passing could be a thing for any nonbinary person in our current society is exorsexist in itself by dismissing the fact that nonbinarity itself is not recognised as a valid category by mainstream society.

#nonbinary #exorsexism #this is exorsexism #as much as i like to shit talk abled thin people #there's not a single case of an abled thin nonbinary person actually passing as nonbinary in every day life in any sort of consistent way #and being equally misgendered both ways also isn't passing #i hate people acting like access to androgyny/ambiguity equals nonbinary passing because even when i was smaller there was no way anyone #assumed me to be nonbinary

[thebroadwaybi]

J. HARRISON GHEE A N D ALEX NEWELL WON IN THEIR CATEGORIES AT THE TONY'S TONIGHT

I REPEAT

Both BLACK NON BINARY ACTORS NOMINATED IN THEIR CATEGORIES

WON THE TONY AWARDS IN THE SAME NIGHT

#IM SCREAMING IM SO SO SO SO HAPPY #THEY BOTH ABSOLUTELY DESERVED THIS #NATASHA YVETTE WILLIAMS AND CHRISTIAN BORLE WERE GETTING EMOTIONAL TOO #THEY WERE SO HAPPY FOR THEM IM SCREAMING #j harrison ghee #alex newell #some like it hot musical #shucked musical #tony awards #tony awards 2023 #non binary #non binary actors #black nonbinary #black nonbinary actors #pride month #pride #pride 2023 #queer representation #nb representation #non binary representation

[tampire]

Sasha Velour and Sasha Colby winning their Drag Race Seasons

#RPDR Spoilers #Sasha Velour #Sasha Colby #rpdredit #RuPaul's Drag Race #Nightgowns #Miss Continental #Drag #Drag Queen #Trans #NonBinary #dragedit #dragsource #My Gif #userstream #userbbelcher #chewieblog #Glad they won I love them both so much