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aceatbeingace · 7 months

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Made an ace flag but the way of saying no gets progressively chilled as it goes down the colours of the flag

Image description: Ace Flag (In colour order downwards: black, grey, white, purple. All as rectangles). Each rectangle containing a word. In order the words being: "no", "nope", "Nah", "Nuh uh".

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#asexual #asexuality #ace #ace pride #acespec #lgbtqia #acespec pride #asexual pride #ace flag #asexual spectrum #aceatbeingace #i am asexual #asexual flag #agressive pride flags #alternative pride flags #aceness #image described #ace people are valid

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arcadialedger · 11 months

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Porn bots love to find my blog and just… it’s giving aphobia.

#really? during pride month?#sex repulsed #asexual #sex repulsed asexual #ace #aspec #asexuality #aspec pride #ace pride #ace people are valid #ace problems #aspec positivity #the arcadia ledger

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unknownfacelessfanfictions · 8 months

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My greatest wish is for a story about a very healthy romantic relationship between a sex-repulsed asexual (Person A) and a non-ace person (Person B)

A realtionship that isn't about " Person A realises that they like sex after all" and not "Person B loves Person A despite them being ace" but rather a relationship that is "Person A does not like sex or overly sexual stuff and Person B is totally fine with it and respectful and Netflix and chill really is just Netflix and chill" and "Person B loves Person A because of them being ace because it's a part of their identity and Person B loves everything about Person A"

Because nowadays people forget that sex does not equal romance and love.

A lot of asexual people just want a soft and nice romantic relationship without constantly getting the feeling of being broken.

We need more ace positivity!!

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( Disclaimer: I do not mean to exclude aroace people. You are valid, you are seen. However this is at the moment just about ace people, because they exist too and it's important to show, that asexual does not equal aromantic. It often goes hand in hand, but not always)

#romance #romantic relationships #books #romance novels #romance stories #lgbtq #lgbtq community #lgbtqia #asexuality #asexual #asexual pride #acespec #ace people are valid #ace people can love too

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yagikidd57 · 3 months

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#asexual #asexuality #twitter #aroace #ace people are valid #ace spec #acespec #lgbtqia+#asexuality is valid #ace community #lgbtqia community #ace space #lgbtqia+ community #queer community

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petallmei · 15 days

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Things that make me angry as an ace person

"men have needs" - needs for control and oppression

"no man will ever be with you without sex" - yeah wouldn't want to be with a selfish prick anyway

"sex = intimacy" - heck it doesn't, idk google it up or ask a therapist who understands the issue

Just know that your feelings and needs are always valid, never let others tell you otherwise

🖤🤍💜

#asexual #asexuality awareness #demisexual #graysexual #asexual pride #ace #ace pride #ace people are valid

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textk4kira · 3 months

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Csigender, straight aces exist and can date, have sex, get married, be homophobic, be transphobic. They are cisheteronormative. Bisexuals can't ever be straight and experience homophobia even when passing as straight. Cisgender, straight aces are literally straight and comparing bisexuals to straight people is BIPHOBIC.

HSSD has an exception for asexuals. HSSD is the SUDDEN loss of sexual attraction that CAUSES DISTRESS and is used primarily to diagnose men with erectile dysfunction. It is not conversion therapy to be prescribed viagra. Secondly, cisgender straight aces have not alwaysbeen included iin the LGBT community. In AVEN, people were exrperssing disgust at David Jay lumping aces in the community back in the early 2000s. So

No, excluding people is not a form of marginalization. Are women marginalized BY LGBT PEOPLE for excluding them from LGBT resourcse? No. Cisgender, straight aces are not marginalized by LGBT peopel for being excluded. Religious trauma is not an LGBT specific issue. You ahve still yet to list a single LGBT specific resource cisgender, straight people need.

LGBT support is not an LGBT resource. Feminists are allied wth the LGBT community but are not inherently a part of it. Cisgender,straight women still aren't queer just because theyre allied. You have yet to name a SINGLE tangible resource cisgender, straight aces need from Lesbian Gay Bi Trans people that they do not get from the ace community or aro community

No, address it. Do you think cisgender straight women who are not ace deserve LGBT resources if they are raped for not being sexually attracted to their rapist?

I'm literally trans. Comparing the exclusion of CISGENDER straight peple to that of trans poeple is transphobic.

Hello anon,

I have already addressed the points you made previously, and I will not waste time addressing you further. I will be turning off anonymous asks, for the time being.

If you would like to perpetuate ace/arophobia, you should have enough courage to do so off anon.

I am only posting this to highlight the ace/arophobia that exists within the lgbtqia+ community.

Sincerely,

A disabled, trans gray-aroace person.

#acephobia #aphobia #arophobia #ace discourse #intracommunity oppression #marginalization #queer #lgbtq #asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #ace people are valid

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peppertrax · 3 months

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In light of all the aro drama (is that a correct thing to call it?) have something i think is good to hear.

Love has many forms. QPRs are whatever you want them to be. Take care of yourself. Love others in a way they makes you and them happy. You are valid. Others are valid. Do not dictate who or what someone else can be.

And to cis aro men. I’m sorry. You are valid. You do not deserve to be treated how you are being treated.

#aro people are valid #aro #aro pride #aroace #aromantic #ace #ace people are valid #asexual #asexual pride #qpr #qpr positivity #love is love

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aro-archers · 2 years

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the amount of people that don't differentiate attraction and the concept of sex, romance, etc. is baffling to me

"why are you thirsting over that lady aren't you aroace" hate to break it to ya but aspec ≠ hating what your lack of attraction is. sex/romance/friendships/etc favorability and ambivalence very much exist. plus, having a bond with a tall vampire milf would be heaven on earth so why not

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aceatbeingace · 8 months

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Idk what it is about it but I like it more all the time :)

(Not putting any no options since this is just an appreciation post so it's more of a fun addition to the post and its nice to see which way of saying yes wins 😁)

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aphobiaisreal98 · 9 months

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Well, Amin Sharaf, it seems like you excel at jumping to conclusions, don't you? Let me enlighten you since it appears you could use some education: asexuality is about one's lack of sexual attraction, not about how they dress.

#ace people are valid #acephobes fuck off #ace pride #aphobia #acespec #asexual

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thetreetopinn · 4 months

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It occurs to me that there are certain things that I post that a variety of people enjoy.

More specifically, while this is not exclusively a kink/fetish blog, I do post a lot about kink/fetish material that I like.

The interesting thing about these subjects is that depending on the content of a particular piece of material, it can be enjoyed from both sexual and non-sexual perspectives.

Take vore as an example.

I really like it. I don't like hard vore. I don't like graphic digestion. I don't like unwilling (except certain circumstances--like the prey is just cranky because it's an inconvenient moment and the pred just wants to be close and give extreme cuddles, like they're being very possessive).

I don't like a LOT of various aspects that get associated with vore.

That's no shade to those who DO enjoy those aspects, but they're not for me. I just don't care for them.

The thing is, that scenario I posited earlier, where the pred is being possessive and just wants to be cuddly regardless of the prey's mood, that can be enjoyed through a non-sexual lens. It wasn't really that long ago--only a few years I think--that I learned that a lot of ace people really like vore because of that extreme closeness and intimacy without it needing to be overtly sexual.

And just today, I saw a recent vore post get a like from someone, and their username made me curious, so I checked out their blog. Turns out, they're on the younger side (still of legal age to interact without worrying about legal trouble) and they referred to themselves as asexual. They went on to list the sorts of accounts/blogs/people in their 'do not interact' list--which included NSFW accounts.

Now, I consider my account to be NSFW, but it's nowhere near as bad as the porn bots. I only sprinkle in some NSFW stuff here and there, but it's still there so I try to label myself as such for the benefit of others. It puzzled me a little why an exclusively non-NSFW account would like something from my account.

Of course, because of how this site works, likely they just found it through the tags. Bless the tags on this site. It actually helps you find the things you WANT to find. I do wish it was SLIGHTLY more robust, like being able to run a search where you cross reference and/or exclude tags in one go, to get really granular with what you're looking for. E621 does this pretty well. I do wish that kind of system was more widely used.

Still, when I read over their pinned post, it gave me pause. I wanted to reach out and say hello, introduce myself, maybe make a new friend, but that 'no NSFW' part suggested that it might not be entirely welcome. Especially given the rather pronounced age gap.

Just because someone is 18 or older doesn't mean it isn't creepy for you to approach when you're double their age.

Of course, context matters. If you're looking to do the horny dance at them, yeah... kinda creepy. If you're just looking to make connection with other cool people, maybe introduce yourself as a queer elder in case they have questions or are looking for advice... okay sure, that's good. It's important for there to be healthy interaction across different ages/generations.

I don't fault this person for wanting to limit contact with elements they're not interested in or find unsafe (not that they view NSFW as inherently unsafe... it was just one item in a long list of things, many of which WERE unsafe, like MAPs, queerphobes, things like that). I hope that their experience on this site is a good one and they continue to find material they enjoy while being able to filter out the material they don't want to see.

It's just interesting to me.

And it makes me think maybe I should try a little harder to properly label and tag things so that no matter what lens you prefer to enjoy things through, you can find what you like and filter out what you don't.

Anyway, all you folks out there who are ace and enjoy safe vore, you are extremely valid and I appreciate you.

#Random thoughts #writing about kink #writing about fetishes #Not everyone is into the sexy times #Ace people are valid #Extreme cuddles is a great description #Learning how to tag for people to filter and search #I want to be accommodating #I'm an innkeeper after all #Hospitality is my jam #Hospitality vore is a thing I need to write about

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yagikidd57 · 3 months

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