#This is definitely a rant for my personal account lmao

[becca-e-barnes]

becca!! i had a thot that’s keeping me awake okay so dbf!bucky really fucking the reader for the first time and he gets carried away and completely overstimulates reader until she just can’t stop coming even if it’s the slightest touch and he taunts her about it the whole time

he’s just like “filthy girl, you just can’t. stop. cumming. huh?” and he punctuates each word with a hard thrust while reader just whimpers because she can’t even talk anymore 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

Ooooooh that's really interesting actually! Because maybe all you've managed up until that point is needy, frantic hookups. Quickies that are so damn satisfying but don't allow for much passionate exploration.

So maybe when he actually gets a chance to take his time, it's so different to what you're used to with him. You're familiar with the kind of desperate euphoria that he can give but that's nothing compared to the kind that he's determined to give you now that he has all the time in the world.

The way he could spend hours kissing and nipping at your skin truly takes you apart. The way he seems to get just as much pleasure as you do from the soft touches, your body entirely surrendering to his talented tongue until your thighs are trembling over his shoulder.

By the time he's actually slipping inside you, you're so overstimulated that every inch feels like too much. Your body is fluttering around his, overworked but still somehow desperate for more. "Oh, that's it. Take it, sweetheart." He's lost in the feeling of the slow glide, holding back from letting himself give in entirely.

You're so consumed by the overwhelming feeling as he settles inside you, letting you whimper and sob against his neck. You don't know whether to move your hips or not. It's a strange feeling, being torn between needing more, needing less and needing exactly what you're currently getting.

He pulls back a little, his movements are so slight but they still leave you gasping. "Bucky, please." You beg, your nails digging into his back as he presses back inside you once more.

"So pretty like this. Take it so fucking well." There are tears welling in your eyes, his steady rhythm of shallow trusts driving you wild. The tiny movements are almost worse than the pace you're used to from him because this is totally unrelenting. There's no escape at all from the overstimulation.

"Bucky, I'm gonna cum again. Oh my God, I can't. I can't, please." You whimper, nipping at his earlobe with your teeth.

"You think I'm gonna stop after I hear that? Baby, that's exactly what I'm aiming for here." His voice is low, strained from holding himself back but there's still that lighthearted, sarcastic edge to his tone.

And God, he doesn't stop. He keeps offering that same shallow grind until your eyes are rolling back in your head and your body is tightening around him. "Fuck that's it. Silly little thing like you just can't help yourself. Can't stop cummin' for me, no matter how hard you try." You hardly even register what he's saying but you do register that the thrusts don't falter, even after you're spent.

#asks answered <3 #anon #becca writes spice #dbf!bucky #I went for a late night run last night for the first time in so long and I forgot how good it feels #I was so motivated last night #I had a long day at work when I was supposed to be off #went and got myself a new dress that matches my hair #then went to my other job for a few hours #and usually going to both jobs in the same day knocks me out #but I can feel all the motivation that I'd lost coming back #I'm feeling like myself again #for the first time in MONTHS #and fuck it feels incredible #I'm so far past feeling like shit? #This is definitely a rant for my personal account lmao #but before that #I think I'll take my makeup off and go for a run

[aiura-stan]

I love the idea that Teruhashi might be thinking this. (I know she isn’t Teruhashi, but still.) It’s so outright aggressive and mean, instead of her more low key “Saiki should be obsessed with me!” thoughts as in canon proper, lol.

Also notable that the first mention of Saiki being markedly different from other people is here: “If a normal person heard them he would undoubtedly have a mental breakdown after three seconds.” Maybe it’s true, probably an exaggeration on Saiki’s part, but it definitely highlights that what he deals with, mentally, is on another level, and he is able to deal with it.

LMAO. this one made me laugh… it’s like yikyak but worse!! like yikyak but including things people wouldn’t even say on there, read out loud… phewww.

Saiki says his powers are “in the wrong” rather than peoples’ thoughts. However, the way he words the second part about how you can’t dress up what’s on the inside strikes me as odd. I was trying to think of the reasoning behind this sort of sentiment that Saiki expresses here, because it repeats later in the manga proper. And I think, it boils down to this incorrect assumption he has, that people’s thoughts are their true feelings. My guess on where comes from is probably either Kuniharu or Kuusuke, who both express a lot of resentment for him. In each of their cases, that really is how they feel, and they make no effort to change it, and there’s not a lot of positive emotion thrown in there either. At least as a child, Kuusuke spent a lot of time actively trying to hurt his brother. And Kuniharu probably did too, if we take all of the examples of him trying to get “revenge” on Kusuo into account.

So it never occurs to him at first that people might have intrusive thoughts, or have thoughts they don’t necessarily believe pass through their heads, or thoughts they ultimately challenge and thoughts that directly contradict their behavior.

Okay angsty rant over lol

‘nother thing that strikes me as funny, not in a good way this time… really now. I have never met a girl who was that jealous of another girl’s boobs. If anything, I’ve met girls who got them too young and wished they hadn’t because of teasing.

Maybe it’s a cultural difference, maybe it’s the fact that a male author wrote this who doesn’t really know (or care) about accurately depicting teenage girls’ concerns in a comedy… anyways.

I beg to differ Saiki… that IS an incredible tattoo and I want to see it… I want that tattoo.. haha. And who cares if some people are bald?? and trans people exist?? Saiki likes to complain about things that do not matter at all. I guess he probably feels like it’s a burden to keep other people’s secrets, or something. He is just a teenager after all.

tbh I kind of wish that Asou had kept this if only for dramatic effect

come on… look at this…

Sigh. I love examples of Saiki interfering with fate just to help someone.

Okay, that’ll do it for part one of this post. Part two in a bit. 💕

#anyways I really need to get back to studying lol #read-saiki #I hope you don’t mind me joining in nopsi #I have been meaning to reread Saiki k for a while and this is a great excuse to #meta #read-saiki 0-0

[geekwiththeglasses]

Would love to hear you rant about Fourth Wing. That book makes me so mad lmao

I literally dashed to my desktop when I saw this because this deserves a desktop response (out of character for a millenial/genz cusper I actually type much faster with a keyboard).

Now to note, I am only 50% done with the book so far so this is limited to that (though I have watched spoiler reviews so I feel justified in my thoughts because I know it's not getting better).

By the way, I learned that this entire series was a publisher request, not like a passion project of Yarros and while I ain't judging (I would do it in a heartbeat if it meant I could pay rent for the next year), to me, you can kinda feel it, like there's a distinct lack of creative verve. You can especially feel it in how shallow everything (and everyone) feels.

A read more because this became obnoxiously long (it's almost 2000 words) and I respect people's dashboards.

Except for this article about toxic perseverance which I think everyone should have to read if they've read Fourth Wing.

There are, first of all, some major issues with this book. The biggest one is, of course, the toxic perseverance, which is covered quite well in the article, but if you're not going to read it, to pull a quote from it:

Creating a narrative in which a character with a disability overcomes all of their pain and other symptoms through force of will alone sets unrealistic expectations—unrealistic expectations which are, as I mentioned previously, a very real issue for very real disabled people in our very real world.  I believe we should have seen some impact of that lifestyle if the author was trying to engage with this intentionally. Because fiction is not created in a vacuum and this narrative goes unproblematised in-text, it’s unclear whether Yarros actively endorses this mindset, or is accidentally endorsing it, neither of which is good.

Just to elaborate a little on something I didn't see in the article, but this book hates the idea of accommodations. Like it's a horrible, horrible thing and how dare you ever suggest Violet might need something as disgusting as a saddle to stay on the equivalent of an airplane. It's not like accommodations are something that actually can end up helping non-disabled people as well. There wasn't potential for a scene where she actually acknowledged she needed help and suddenly everyone's like "hey, that's actually really smart, we should totally do this too, this makes life much easier/safer and will improve everyone's quality of life". Or even just a scene where it only helps her but damn it helps her a lot because it takes in to account her needs and specific body. Because that would require acknowledging that Violet has limitations and not allow her to power through the pain. And also get thrown from her dragon repeatedly, which definitely doesn't fuck up her joints.

Rhiannon gets so shafted. She gets the double whammy of two stereotypes: the black best friend and the promiscuous bisexual. She's seen with multiple partners, none of which seem like long-term or serious partners. And while some bisexual people have more sex with more people than others, if you're going to do that, include more than one bisexual person in your story. She has very little to do with the story unless she is there for the white, straight main character. We've gotten her helping Violet, but so far there's zero dedicated scenes of that tutoring help that was offered in the beginning and as far as I know we never get it (I may be wrong). I hear we get her family later, but that they're also glossed over for More Important Things. It doesn't feel like Rhiannon (or honestly any other character) exists except for when they're around Violet. They all kinda blend together, which at the 50% mark is fucking unacceptable. What is special about them, distinguishes them from the others other than Liam (is it Liam? whoever her bodyguard is) who whittles? There is so little to distinguish any background characters except for Dain. Even Xaden feels lackluster and a bit hazy around the edges, like he never finished rendering.

Let's not forget that Yarros is 100% a military wife and a US military bootlicker and from what I've heard she's had some unsavory and unsupportable opinions on Palestine. We do not like.

She also took Gaelic names and just decided the pronunciation doesn't matter??? Insulting.

Onto the less serious issues:

Firstly, as to my previous complaint, the entirety of Dain's storyline is the most impressive speedrun in character assassination I have ever seen. I described it to a friend as Yarros lovingly caressing a 2x4 before repeatedly beating you over the head with it. He gets like... a scene to be besties and then immediately he must be the worst thing to ever exist, specifically to prop up Xaden. Dain is the asshole holding her back, unlike Xaden who pushes her to be her best (entirely ignoring that her body literally has physical limitations and accommodations are not a dirty word)! He's such a rule follower, but Xaden understands when to bend or break them (pay no attention to him breaking all the rules to try to get her into the scribe's quadrant)! He doesn't believe her immediately when she accuses someone of murder, but Xaden absolutely believes her with no proof (let's forget that Amber is a good friend of Dain and that it would honestly be natural to want to believe that your friend isn't capable of cold-blooded murder with zero proof especially since that would lead to her execution which Violet somehow forgot would be a consequence of her accusation). Dain is overprotective and condescending to Violet (I mean he wasn't the one to force her to have a bodyguard, but he just doesn't believe in her). I bet he doesn't even wash his ass. Xaden definitely washes his ass.

Murder college makes zero sense, especially since she definitely based the military off the US (which makes sense since it's the one she has the most exposure to). Most militaries that I am aware of have rather high requirements for physical fitness, especially an academy for officers (which, in Yarros' face, I actually have experience with, as my father went to the Naval Academy so I know for a fact they're strict as hell with requirements). The US military won't even let you be slightly overweight, even if you can fulfill the physical requirements. It was hard to find any info on whether EDS would out and out disqualify you, but the fact that it wasn't even brought up as a barrier for entry that she had to overcome does not make sense to me.

Ah, I hear someone hypothetically argue, but the college is supposed to (theoretically) weed out the weak so they'll let anyone in who wants to join! Ok, then why is Violet the only physically disabled person in the entire college? I have been to rodeos with bull riders who were amputees, but there ain't one person missing an arm or a leg in that college. The only other disabled person we get so far is a scribe, but you're telling me not one deaf person wants to be a rider? Why is Violet the only one that gets to be "exceptional"?

Back to the murder part of murder college, the fact that this is a murder college gets technically lampshaded, but never really justified in why people keep coming. Like it's not some greater commentary on the lengths people will go for power or greatness or the insidious nature of military propaganda. It just felt like we needed to up the stakes that our protagonist was in danger at every turn, but honestly I never feel like the stakes are that high, because, well, she keeps emphasizing how much danger her life is in, how screwed and dead she is. And if her life is always in danger, it's never in danger.

Speaking of murder, the story doesn't challenge the idea that "weed out the weak through murder" doesn't actually work but just kills people and probably gives the survivors like the worst anxiety (because if everything can kill you your mental health will probably deteriorate). It's like that meme:

Basgiath War College: I have made the perfect rider Me: you fucked up a perfectly good person is what you did. Look at him. He's got anxiety.

Why is Violet so enlightened and above having any prejudice? If anything she should have way more animosity towards the rebel kids than she does. It's literally stated in text that she was not immune to the propaganda and misinformation she's read, but you want me to believe that between (what she believes is) losing a brother to the rebellion and a mother who was kinda involved, not to mention growing up in a group that would be full of anti-rebel propaganda she somehow didn't end up believing anything beyond "yeah some of them will definitely want you dead" which is true??? Instead she's fine with them and will definitely sit with rebel kids because unlike people who grew up with probably less or about the same propaganda than her, she knows not to judge people for the sins of their parents. Those other kids are just so much more prejudiced than she is, isn't she wonderful and has zero biases to unlearn. Oh, you may say, but she thought Xaden was going to kill her! He literally does confirm that the only reason initially he doesn't kill her is to keep a hold of his humanity which does actually confirm that he wants her dead! So the narrative even confirms that this bias was, in fact, the correct opinion to have.

I do not understand why Violet and Xaden are drawn to each other beyond Xaden hot. I am asexual and somewhere on the aromantic spectrum so perhaps it is just not in my nature to understand the ways of the heterosexuals, but I don't get it. Why does she like him? The only reason given is he's hot. Maybe a reason is given later down the line but this is a romantasy. You live and die by building up that damn romance and I am not convinced! I haven't even been given like a "oh I see him with his dragon and it's heart meltingly cute how he interacts with her". Is this why Dain had to be assassinated (we are holding his burial next week by the way, there will be funeral potatoes)? So that Xaden had something to be compared to because he has all the substance of one of those inflatable dancing men?

(Dance, Xaden, dance.)

Yarros cannot do exposition, it's so jarring. She tells us so much, shows little, and bores me the entire time. You seriously decide to make exposition a character quirk for when she needs to calm down? Seriously???? The parapet scene was hard to listen to because you were jerked around like a rag doll between quick action and exposition. Who thought that was a good idea? Exposition is always a difficult thing to include and make it work and sound natural, but this is not how you do it.

A minor complaint, but once you learn Yarros is Mormon you cannot unsee the fingerprints of Mormonism throughout this book. People do not cuss like people, they cuss like you put fuck into a fresh AI and asked it to try it out. I cuss like a sailor and I was wondering why it felt so jarring until I realized that it's not how people talk. I mean Holy. Fucking. Hot. I'm well the fuck aware. You tried ma'am, you tried. Here's a gold star. Also, I'm 99% sure there is zero alcohol. You seriously want me to believe that none of these kids are sneaking in alcohol? That no one is using booze to cope with being in a murder college? As if, we all know these kids are making midnight dragon runs to the liquor store.

Also, the fact that I had to hear an audiobook narrator try to make this dialogue and prose sound like something that would actually come out of a human mouth was truly something to behold. The fact that "for the win" was not left in the 2010s where it belonged is an outrage. If I had a better memory I would put in more quotes cause there have been other doozies.

But really, the greatest crime this book commits, is that it has the audacity to be boring. You give me dragons and you have the sheer, unmitigated gall to bore me. I will accept a lot from a book. I will accept plot holes. I will ignore shallow world building. I will tolerate character assassinations. Do all that if you must, but at the very least make it interesting. This book is not interesting. I listen to a few chapters at a time and I am not having a good time. I only continue out of sheer stubbornness and feeling an obligation that for once I should actually read a book that I have seen negative reviews about to see if perhaps it is not so bad.

I just happened to pick a book where it is, in fact, that bad.

#anti fourth wing #if I misspell names forgive me I am an audiobook person #when I say the greatest crime I am ignoring the actual real world problems like the ableism racism biphobia etc #Everything under the read more is 2050 words i apologize #there would probably be more if I finished the book but that will be at least a week

[itsaspectrumcomic]

man ok idk if youll be able to advise on this or something but like. do you know anything regarding dealing with like internalised ableism?

i live in a rural part of ireland, right? and idk what it is about rural ireland but some of the people are heinous. my school is in a small miserable-ass town and like. God, man. not everyone sucks, of course but like. jesus lol additionally i have a ~mildly ableist~ mother (a "we're all a little bit autistic" and "erm. youre not disabled because youre not in a wheelchair or blind/deaf" etc etc type stuff. + "npd = bad person" which isnt particularly good for me specifically because i have npd (that i both Cant get an official diagnosis for, for various reasons, and im not really Looking for one either because i know what i am and its not like you get support for it because ~ooh scary narcissist~.)

and like. idk if this is Obvious but that can kinda cause a weird-ass relationship with You (being Me in this case, yk how it is with the second person perspective when. ranting) and The Concept Of Being Disabled. like, objectively. im disabled. im autistic, ive definitely got adhd (that im hopefully going to get examined for at some point cause college stuff requires it for the disability forums and stuff. gotta love that. fuckin 80% comorbidity right?), ive got a laughable number of repetative strain injuries, i have a sensory processing disorder, an endocrine disease that effects my Entire cardiovascular system, a spine that felt a lil quirky and bent in too much. so on a so forth

but also like. it feels wrong to call myself disabled. yk, like im doing a disservice to all the other ~actually~ disabled people (being Anyone but me lol) (none of this is At All helped by the fact that my mother refuses to listen to me regarding Jack Shit about my health in Any way. "oh you nearly passed out on top of a hill because of your cardiovascular condition? erm youre just not exercising enough actually" "you dont have depression [said while i was filling out an assigned mood diary after being forcefully brought to camhs for Reasons" like. shut the fuck up and Listen to me please. at least Entertain the idea that i could be right about something for fucking once lmao. cause ive been right about EVERYTHING regarding my mental health so fucking far so. fuck off /nay ofc) (also man. like, even if you ignored the physical issues ive got im still disabled on account of being autistic. like, motor function is fine, despite being a lil clumsy and/or unsteady sometimes but like. my emotional needs are Fucked. think of the response youd get if you asked a. fuckin. 8 year old or something to do algebra. but with a very emotionally stunted and traumatised 17 year old lol. lmao, even /lh)

so like. if youve got. any advice or whatever on any of this thatd be Super cool + no pressure obvs. sorry this is a whole. like. fucking essay's worth of Random Guy Complaining To You On The Internet lol

-🐢 <- just so i can find this again if you respond. i Like Turtles. i am Normal about the tmnt and also turtles The Creatures. i wont talk at length about turtle mutant anatomy (i am deceiving you)

Internalised ableism is a really hard thing to deal with, especially when you're surrounded by people who constantly re-enforce it. I've also spent a lot of time worrying that I'm not disabled 'enough' to deserve certain accommodations, that I'm making an unnecessary fuss. But the truth is, autism IS a disability and if there are accommodations that can help support you, you deserve access to them. You're not taking away from others with disabilities by advocating for yourself.

It's taken me a long time to understand this and I still worry sometimes. What has helped is talking about my experiences with people I know understand, like my therapist or best friend, and learning about the experiences of other autistic people through books, social media, YouTube and even real life.

I'm sorry your mother and others aren't being understanding - remember that's a them problem, not you, and try to spend your time with people who do understand.

🐢🐢🐢 <- the turtles wish you luck

#🐢 #ask #anon ask #autism #actually autistic #advice #autistic #autism is a disability #its a spectrum #long post

[lindszeppelin]

I've been attempting to like K but there isn't much to her. She doesn't engage with her audience despite having a book club and actively telling ppl to join. Speaking of that book club, it doesn't read(no pun intended) as genuine. There are posts on the official book club account that are about her modeling rather than books. Obviously, she's also a model but that's not her main account, I don't even think she runs the book club account. I've come to the conclusion that the book club is nothing more than a way to make her look like she has any sense of personality and like she's relatable/down to earth(even though buying a shit on of books and having the time to read most of them is privileged af if you really think about). It's all about image and exposure with her. No work, no lessons, no earning it. I think a while back I remember watching some cast interviews from "Bottoms" bc I'm Bi and love comedy, anyway, they were individual quick interviews(looked like they were onset in the gym) and I get to her interview. *deep sigh* She mostly talked about how funny Rachel and Ayo are and how much they improvised but something that stuck out to me was that she said she was excited hearing about the movie being made that she sent in a video of herself for the role without ever waiting for auditions to come around and do it the proper way. Which disappointed me back then and pisses me off now that I've seen "Bottoms". The movie itself was kinda boring and every time she opened her mouth I was unimpressed with her attempt. Her character is meant to be flat and monotone, I think? But I'm pretty sure the character comes off like that bc they had to mold it to her lack of acting abilities. Which could have been avoided if they had auditioned for the role. Anyway, the rant is long but I had to get it out! I wish I could just tolerate her at least, but nepobabies make me want to rip my hair out. "Kaia Gerber swears she's a small town girl at heart"...well if she stepped foot in my town she'd run back to the hills out of sheer boredom and to get away from the bigoted folks, lmao. Ah well, I'm done bitching; Have a great day, Lindsay! ^_^

You are not wrong about the bookclub stuff, and everything else you said. It is very common for a lot of actresses to have bookclubs. Literally everywhere you look you see another book club made by a celebrity. And my understanding is that the reason why some of these bookclubs exist is that the rights to the books mentioned in the club are in part shared with the celeb hosting the book club...and therefore if a book featured on the club gets made into a movie that they can either star in the movie or just have the rights to it. it's not always as simple as an author talks about their book. most of the celeb book clubs are the ones where the rights to said book are shared with the celebrity. they basically get dibs on starring in the adaptation. and library science is definitely run by somebody else, not by her.

and yes, she takes up so much space in the industry. other actresses that need their break or need a job could have taken her place and actually helped a lot of these projects. having kaia on cheapens them.

#lindsay's anon asks

[la-squadra1234]

Hello! I enjoy what you write, I also like the concept of the child reaction ^^ (but I don't put a "like" on all your post not to spam you. Also I didnt read everything because I saw your account yesterday so I hope this question hasn't been asked before qwq)

Well I have a little question/request. "How the hxh characters would react seeing their kid looks more like their mother than them ?" 🤔 (some person could be more happy and others a little annoyed)

I also want to thank you because when I read your little oneshot I imediatelly had an idea for my own kiddo in it X)

Oh my God it’s no problem at all and you can spam me all you want I don’t even get annoyed because people are supporting me❤️

This is such a great request so of course I will do it!

Full credit to la-squadra1234

Feitan-

He would honestly have mixed feelings about it. He would be happy that his child resembles his s/o but at the same time he would be a bit jealous because that’s his kid as well and he wants his kid to look like him or at least have some kind of resemblance but he would always just keep his mouth shut about it because he doesn’t want to seem like an asshole and a jealous one at that (kind of feel bad for him lmao)

Phinks-

He would definitely be relieved that his kid would probably end up having eyebrows (OK I’m so sorry, but I had to say that I couldn’t resist😭) but he definitely would feel a little bad about himself even though it has nothing to do with him and it’s not his fault and it’s out of his control but eventually he would come around and just accept it because there’s nothing that he can do about it and even if there was he definitely would not want to change his own kid

Chrollo-

There would be no ounce of jealousy in this man he would be super happy, and the fact that he even has a child is just amazing to him, and he just loves every part of being a father to the point where he doesn’t even care whether his child resembles his mother or him (as long as his child doesn’t resembles somebody else…)

Hisoka-

We all know how this man is, is very laid-back as a parent, but at the same time he would have the audacity to be salty about the fact that his child does not resemble him as much as he would like his child to But he wouldn’t say anything about it at least not to his s/o but nothing is stopping him from going in ranting to illumi even though we all know very well illumi won’t care

Uvogin-

if his child does not look like him, he at least wants his child to have the same nen type as him he wants to at least have some thing in common with his child, but he would not be moody or jealous about the situation or anything in general. He would be pretty neutral about it surprisingly enough.

Franklin-

Honestly, he is just hoping that his child isn’t scared of him😭 he wouldn’t really mind how his child looks. Anyways, I mean he can’t really say anything…. And he definitely would not want his child to resemble him unless it’s eye colour or hair color.

Nobunaga-

He would definitely be salty about it and he would make sure everybody knows that he is salty about it. He would definitely go and tell his s/o knowing damn well it’s out of their control and of course he would go rent about it to the phantom, troupe and especially uvogin but their advice to him was just to suck it up and shut up about it

Shalnark-

He wouldn’t really care much as long as his child was respectful to him and his s/o he wouldn’t really care about the looks as long as he knows that it’s his child 

That’s it for today everybody I hope everybody enjoyed this post!

I just ended up doing the spiders for some reason lol because I have been doing them a lot recently and I have just gotten used to doing them

I will see everybody in the next Post bye now!

#anime #hunter x hunter #hxh #phinks #feitan portor #nobunaga hazama #nobunaga #chrollo lucilfer #hisoka morow #chrollo #hisoka #phinks magcub #feitan #uvogin #hxh uvogin #shalnark #hxh shalnark #Franklin #hxh franklin #hxh the phantom troupe #the phantom troupe #hxh as dads #The phantom troupe as dads #requested #Request #hxh hcs #hxh headcanons

[cvntboyneedsfixed]

this is actually a rant bc tumblr is now reccomending me stuff from the landfill of the internet & i read it bc im a dumb bitch but like

terf rhetoric is literally so funny esp when they collab w/ cis gay edgelords on the internet making shit up about the scary trans mascs (including binary trans men) trying to rape gay men by deviously tricking them into having sex with a ✨ straight woman ✨

but reality (when you like, actually interact with people in real life & are part of yk, irl communities) looks more like:

straight trans mascs existing

t4t trans mascs fucking other trans mascs being the vast majority (counting myself among their number)

not to mention the absolute adoration every trans masc i know irl has for trans women & trans femmes

trans mascs being extremely cautious with cis gay men for obvious reasons

trans mascs on grindr very clearly declaring this on their account & still getting bombarded by chasers, bi men, & yes gay men too lol

tons of bi and pansexual trans people?? these ppl wanna call me a straight woman but then explain how i'm buried in both cock and pussy of all genders?? explain!!

my cis gay friends reading the nasty smut i write to help me nail all the dick on dick details i need (fun fact if you gotta improvise lube shampoo will make all your dick skin peel off <3 my bud apparently learned this the hard way lmao)

meeting my singular gay coworker for the first time and hitting up one of the local gay kink bars & comparing grindr profiles lol he is lovely

listen phallo is amazing and sexy but like not very common for obvious reasons (major surgery and healthcare is a fucking farce and etc etc)... how exactly are these mythical cis gays getting raped by deception?? did they come in eyes squeezed shut and fuck some trans mascs ass then afterwards get jumpscared by pussy?? or did they have to talk to someone they weren't attracted to for a minute or something lol...

Yes, all the men messaging me on grindr are definitely straight or pretending to be bi that's why they keep sending me videos of them sucking cock lol that tracks (like yeah I get chasers but I'm not fucking stupid it's easy to tell them apart)

"trans men are delusional thinking gay men will be attracted to them" actually we've all seen countless examples of the disgusting ways cis gay men treat women's bodies so we are very aware that that reaction is both probably & that the possibility of cis male violence is present like bruh

Also personal pet peeve is when they go on defending how gay men act disgusted by pussy & other afab body parts like yeah. You don't have to be attracted to it oooobviously, but having VISCERAL DISGUST AND HATRED towards the bodies of half the planet's population is actually not part of your sexual orientation it's still mysogyny <3

& it's ridiculous to lean into that ANYWAY because the huge majority of cis gay men i've met have been wonderful & many have been my closest friends in different periods of my life like pleaaaaase stop making them look bad it's slander at this point

anyway trans men i love you trans women i love you & we all deserve to find supportive community & love bc most people out there aren't fringe edgelords who can only generate dopamine by being cruel on the internet

[zeglythofficial]

same twitter newsboy anon again! you brought up so many great points, forgive me for ranting but i've been feeling insane over there.

"What does calling out J have to do with T?" is so funny because they brought up T themselves. Yes, the account that posted the tweet going "y'all pander to your faves' boyfriends just to get attention" does post zeglyth, but T wasn't mentioned at all. It's funny that he's living rent free in their heads, because why are you shooting yourself in the foot and bringing him up, knowing that its a case of hydrogen bomb vs coughing baby? When just a few hours ago the screenshots of him defending her went viral AGAIN.

Calling her “my best friend” she’s not your best friend. Oh my god you finally said it! Not saying names but the person who posts that under every single R related post was sort of surprising/cute(??) when I first saw it, but weirder the more I think about it. It's not a once in a while joke, it's every single post. And of course R picked up on it (how could she not) and she acknowledged it by joking "you're not that person" to the other people who began copying it, so now they're all going to do it more!

(Side note but that person who started this was under J's congrats post back in 2021, so they've obviously been part of this for a long time. And their most recent post is "if you are not me and you've said rachel zegler my best friend i have your address and i'm serious" which just shows that it isn't about expressing love towards R, it's about getting her attention. Some strange concept of exclusivity.)

And there was a hilarious interaction between an R+ J defender and a confused commenter. The defender said "some of you are really weird about zegvera and you're disrespecting R". The commenter went "wait who are we talking about? josh hutcherson? rivera? OH HER CURRENT BOYFRIEND?" and the defender replied all excited "YES" but then the commenter went "isn't he in trouble with everyone because he's way older than her" and the defender just stopped replying LMAO.

I don't want to end this on a bad note but this wave of drama is getting more interactions than past iterations (at least from what i've seen), so I'm legitimately considering this affecting whatever R might or might not have done for T's birthday. It will probably depend on her mood that day (whether she fought with J recently or not lmao) but I definitely feel like she might hold back/not post. I am also pissed at the thought of that.

They’re very intimidated by T / Zeglyth. And they use T’s age to justify liking R and J. The age gap between R and J isn’t the problem lol, it’s the age when they met. It doesn’t click in their brains.

The crazy part of “my best friend R” is a lot of those people hated her last year. They were apart of the hate train and now are begging for attention from her.

R being so actively online has made people think she’s actually their friend. It’s quite sad how possessive and obsessed they are to get her attention.

LOL not a confused commenter knowing what’s wrong immediately

I don’t think it will affect her Zeglyth post on his bday! If it does, I will be pissed! But I’m sure R will still post and forget about this stupid drama (hopefully). But people have been more rabid than usually. The hot tub pic changed everything lol

#my answers #zeglyth #off topic

[dumplingsjinson]

sooooo, i know i said i wasn't going to post anything personal, at least in regards to my dating life, on here but lo and behold! i'm a liar, but the person who found out about this account might never go onto my blog again (if you're here for some reason then hi? idk why you'd come back here but okay. i hope you're okay. and if you're not, i hope you will be okay. and also, this is NOT about the long distant guy that maybe one or two of you are familiar with). so, here goes: we broke off whatever it was that was going on. i don't like them back that way, and i don't see myself liking them back that way in the foreseeable future.

so we broke it off on good terms.

we're not going to talk anymore, and it definitely will take time getting used to since we did text back and forth everyday for the past two months, up until today. it will take time to get used to not seeing their name on my phone constantly, or waking up to their messages, but it'll eventually go back to how it used to be, when we never spoke before.

i admittedly do feel a little empty as of right now, which is a me issue entirely. maybe i'm dealing with the sadness of losing a connection i've made with someone? maybe i don't deserve to feel this sadness. i don't know. there was definitely a bit of a connection there, though ephemeral, even if it wasn't a romantic one. i think (i know) i'll be okay, and i really, really hope they'll be okay, too (because rejection doesn't feel good. it's never an easy pill to swallow, knowing you're not the one for that someone. it doesn't feel good to reject someone, either).

i think it'll be good for the both of us in the long run.

i'm still processing this whole thing, but i think it'll be okay soon. :) and i hope they find someone who will like them back, just as much, and if not, more, because they're someone who truly deserves that.

goodbyes aren't easy, and they hurt even when it comes to short-term bonds that were formed. that's all i can say.

(also that whole unmatch thing rant in which i've deleted by now is because i got my feelings hurt for like a day, and then i got over it really quick lmfao. i was talking to some other guy i matched with, and we vibed for a few days, and then he unmatched while we were setting up the date and that hurt translated into frustration and anger and a bruised ego, but i'm okay now, and to whoever said it was a bad break up or something - it wasn't lmao, i was just being a little wuss and had to vent. but i will die on the hill on how you're an asshole if you unmatch without any explanation, especially when you're in the middle of setting up a date. you're just bad at communication and it really, really shows. please work on that if that's what you do to other people, because it's never fun being on the receiving end of being basically ghosted.)

anyway, i'll try to post another prompt list tonight. these babies are pre-written, so my mood right now's not gonna affect them aha.

i will probably post more of my love life (read: online hoe life) again to the one person who bothers reading this shit, simply because nothing's stopping me, and i ALSO am NEVER going to be so dumb to accidentally give too many hints and reveal my tumblr like that to someone ever again lmfaooo. my mask stays ON, bitches!!

(and on an entirely different note that's not so fucking depressing and also very non-serious, i'm going on a date this sunday, and we're going to have oysters lmfao - i might end up calling him oyster dude - but i also don't have much expectations lmfao. they did ask me if we're still on for sunday just earlier today, and i said yes, but i'm prepped for getting unmatched outta no where because some of you men are Cowards. aNYWAY.)

this was a rollercoaster and a very undelightful mess, i'm tired, i have to wake up at 5:30 am tomorrow for work, two of my brackets came fucking loose so i have to go to the ortho on monday to get that fixed, and i lowkey wanna die because of that, goodBYEEE.

#long post #i probably won't delete this but yeah #personal #putting my clown ass on display rn

[minniepetals]

HELLO MA'AM I HAVE FINALLY CAIGHT UP TO READING CMAR PROPERLY!!!

I love that I hate some aspects of everyone's personalities and reactions. Personally I don't really like mafia AUs because I feel like it's too romanticized and sugar-coated but I absolutely love how you've brought out the reality of what mafia is in this story. Even if namjoon is a good and kind person most of the time, his upbringing has influenced his behavior way too much to now just change on account of one person and as hard as it was to accept (because I love our MC too much) it makes A LOT of sense 😭😭

I'm really glad that you're realistically portraying the main characters journey to heal from her past. It's not some dramatic and easy journey, it's a slow process full of hatred as well as sadness and she's confused aswell as angry (all of which is valid) and most importantly she doesn't know HOW to heal. I feel like this is the hardest aswell as the most important step to healing. Most films and fics show quick recovery from past trauma (ones I've watched and read) but you're really highlighting this and I could not be MORE grateful for it.

And I love the choice of words and phrases and ofc THE AWESOME TITLES TO ALL THE CHAPTERS. Your titles are underappreciated FR FR.

SORRY FOR RANTING😭 BUT IM SO EXCITED AND ALSO GREATFUL (writing this at 2am on a sugar rush please forgive any excessive ranting)

AS ALWAYS I LOVE YOUR FICS AND YOUR WORK TYSM FOR POSTING 👹👹🤩💕😭💕💜💜

don't ever apologize for ranting about my fics because reading long paragraphs of my works due to appreciation makes me so much more excited and happy than seeing a short "i loved it" sentence.

when we're in the fic world, we tend to romanticize a lot of things, and i admit i do that as well just because we just like fantasizing living in a different world and my guilty pleasure is having overprotective villains loving me and only me lmao.

cmar's route is definitely different from any other fics i've done so it's definitely on a different scale. i feel like a lot of readers just either want namjoon and the boys to apologize already or they're just hating on them because of what they've done to y/n, and obviously the story will have a lot of biases but i tried to make the characters as real and as authentic as possible because obviously no one is perfect and even the people with the right intentions will still hurt others whether on accident or on purpose. it's the human part of us and i wanted to show the rawer side of things in relationships rather than always going the fluffy sunshine and rainbows route.

as for the healing, i know that it'll definitely be difficult once i get to the point when y/n will have to heal. obviously i don't wanna rush through it, hence i'm estimating the story will be 30+ chapters long. once y/n's done with her revenge and the healing arc comes, she's obviously not gonna just go "ai, we're done with the enemies, im all good and okay now"

i mean we see it with the death of her father. he's dead but his legacy still lives on. she hears him, still influences her to this day, and haunts her every thought.

i just hope i can execute everything well and have a good finish and be able to call it complete once we get to that stage 😌💞

#chrolloesz #fics 🤍 #cmar asks #cmar: 17 #luna asks

[skinniryan]

hello! i'm ryan/ry

please block, don't report!

not new to edblr, just a new account. i used to have a blog on here early 2020 but it got termed after like 4 months lmao. after that i reached my lowest weight on halloween (not gonna share stats cause i'm uncomfy as of right now (edit: stats are now in my bio lmfao)) but then couldn't stop binging so i gained everything back and more.

i am definitely pro recovery, i just needed a space to talk about ed relapse since the only person in my life i can talk to about it is my girlfriend (but she's going through similar stuff so i don't want to trigger her with talking about it).

just a few things about me: i'm 19, nonbinary (they/them), not in school and don't got a job (i'm the family disappointment lol), been struggling with weight and body image since 12 years old (or younger lol idrk), but my ed got significantly worse in early 2020.

i mainly created this just so i have a place to rant, and i'm also looking for buddies and friends who i can talk to about stuff like this because like i said earlier, i have pretty much nobody. dms or asks are always open! all i ask is that whatever you send is not suuuper super triggering. i'm going to try and not use many tags on future posts because i want to decrease the risk of this getting taken down again.

please dni if you don't have an ed, are in recovery, or under the age of 17. ty <3

#edbllr #ed but not sheeran #tw ed #tw ed relapse #ed intro #tw ana shit

[throwaway-yandere]

Hi! Very late but i just wanted to congratulate you on your follower milestone!

Feels a bit weird when I'm not a follower myself but haha. Your type of yanderes aren't what I'm really into, but I still periodically check on your blog like some ghost stuck to a place bc your writing is really really good and i absolutely adore how creative your ideas are. Speaking of which, i really love how you handled the matchups! They're still made for a certain person but so open that they're also accessible to everyone else, which isn't something I've ever seen before but definitely seems the best way to go about it.

I'm super curious to see how your series will progress and all the other unique ideas you'll come up with in the future (and sometimes just reading the anon interactions, as a Frequent Visitor and really socially awkward person I'm like the physical manifestation of the word "lurker", but it's really a bit like watching a friend group interact and have fun which really warms my heart. It's just super good vibes!)

Please remember to look after yourself, get enough nutrition and rest. And hope you don't mind me haunting this blog a little longer :p

Hey don't feel scared to interact even if you're not following!!! I adore asks lololololol, it makes writing worth it. Feel free to stick around!!! But like how I start most my fics, if you're not in a mentally well state it's best to avoid these!

I'll be honest, I would NEVER hang out with any of the yanderes I've written except for SPK!Childe & Thoma and HysHum!Dainsleif. I think the only "soft" yanderes I wrote are those three.

Childe just wanna fish & Thoma just wants to listen whenever the reader rants about their problems. Then there's Dainsleif, who's sane but is one chip away from losing his marbles because his reader is about to turn Teyvat upside down lmao.

The rest? They're all insufferable meow meows <333 Other than the three I mentioned whenever I write about these yanderes I keep slandering them in my head <333 it's so much fun <333 okay i lied dain's not an exception I still insulted him in my hyshum drafts <3333–

I'm not sure if it's incredibly obvious in my writing but I'm asexual and quite possibly aro, so I think I "excel" more on the "yan" side than the "dere" since romance isn't my forte. I mainly write for the horror so I don't expect people to come to me because they're into the yanderes I've written but more on the story (... I'd be a bit concerned but won't question if you're into stuff like cannibal!cat!ayato and horse feeder!diluc). That's why everytime I post I don't expect anything AND IT'S VERY MUCH THE REASON WHY I'M CONFUSED THAT THIS BLOG IS STILL ALIVE. THIS WAS MEANT TO BE A THROWAWAY ACCOUNT–

I'm not sure if I'm making sense lol but that's pretty much my two cents on that so I wholeheartedly understand if my yans aren't your cup of tea! They're not mine too– I want to bury them all with my hatchet!!! <333 I want them to go to therapy!!! Eat lasagna!!! Play farming games!!! Literally just don't bother (y/n) anymore 😭!!!

About the event: I was genuinely hoping for match-ups set up like this because there's some sort of "togetherness" in it?? Hold on I just woke up cuz I accidentally slept while reviewing for Algebra when writing this so I'll probably rewrite this draft or something if I'm not lazy lol. It's just that I like it when readers are characters I can add some quirks and details to (of course, cept for things like physical descriptions and what not) since it makes pairing them with a yandere more natural. And you know what? I'm super glad the anons are all very nice and interesting huhu. They truly make the event more alive!!!

I adore otome games and trust me, almost everyone in r/otome_games prefer an MC who has a personality rather than an eyeless self-insert too lol. Much like there's no such thing as "absolute justice", I believe you can't have a "perfect self-insert" fic either because not everyone shares the same mold. It's just not as entertaining to me when the reader is silent so I guess that reflects on my writing too ;;--;;. It's just too much fun pulling up an mbti and going "ah yes, I'm using this type."

Anyways, yeah!!! Is it bad if I'm satisfied about how I set it up as well haha it feels like my 1 braincell was actually put to use ;;----;;;

Oh sht i ended up rambling my bad umm tHANK YOU!!! Haha it feels strange celebrating this milestone and I appreciate your kind words!!!

(out of curiosity, is there something I can call you? Like "lurker anon" or something haha)

#ansytea-talks #i will never forget how my friend earnestly told me she does not want to be a character written by me because i make everyone miserable lol #my best friend of 6 years. she. she doesn't want me to wrote her because she knows dang well I'd make her LI messed up 😭–

[spookberry]

i also enjoyed voltron a lot despite its flaws!! but i definitely agree that i find the keith/shiro ship a little uncomfortable.. i enjoyed it before they were revealed to view eachother as siblings, but after that i could not see them as anything other than just. siblings!

like. in the flashbacks and backstory and whatnot, its clearly shown that keith really looks up to shiro in a familial way (it reminds me of how i used to look up to my own older sibling)!!

honestly, i see a lot of the voltron cast as found family? i mean imagine spending so long on a spaceship together, going through life and death situations.. plus, i feel like the dynamic between pidge and everyone else screams siblings!!

((sorry for my rant on voltron, its still very dear to me))

AGREE!!! On all accounts!!! I mean i personally was a klancer from the start 😔 KICK lmao. so i wasnt super keen on sheith but it didnt like Bother me or anything. and then i saw someone suggest them as adopted siblings and it was like :O! It reminded me so much of me and my siblings!! I too would become a crazy desert hermit if any of my siblings were kidnapped by aliens. So i was out here Celebrating when they became canon brothers cuz it made me So Happy!!!

One of my favorite aspects of Voltron(the one in my heart/head) is the found family of it all. I wish theyd done a lot of things different of course, but one of the Number One things is I wish they'd followed thru with the set up of the team being close, they almost did it but it fell flat So Often. Very MCU of them to found family bait me like that.

#ask #voltron #voltron is one of my special interests still im literally always down to talk about it

[dazzlerazz]

ancient being fallout guy anon here. sorry to assume you are not vampiric age, as myself-- if you are as ancient as the sea- perhaps we have a friendship building!

that is to say im in my mid twenties lmao

anyway.. Im a newer follower i think- to your account. Tell me about your favourite fire emblem characters (Ashe) ((not clickbait))

FALLOUT ANON IS BACK!!!

I'm not too far off from you lol, I'm definitely not older than you but I'm not a kid

So I'm a new fire emblem fan I'll admit, I've only ever played three houses and three hopes, so I can't speak for characters of the older games :C but I am steadily learning

Out of the rosters of three houses and three hopes, I have to say that I have a deep love for every character and their story! Of course I'm an Ashe fan, head over heels, it's obvious if anybody looks at my account for like two seconds lol

I'm in absolute love with Mercedes, just to name drop another

I have a particular fondness for the Blue Lions, as they were the first route I did and my introduction to the series as a whole

I love basically everyone, maybe the only non-villain character I dislike is F!Byleth

As someone who identifies with he/him pronouns, I played as M!Byleth, so I really love him and I'm biased. Something about playing as F!Byleth for even one route made me uncomfortable, I could make out an entire list as to how I don't like her. Not as in like a "I hate her and you should too!", just as to why I personally wouldn't play as her again

I can love Mercedes for her soft and motherly nature, I love Ferdinand for his ambitiousness, I can love Linhardt for his perceived laziness but he's so much more. I can love Marianne for her story, I can love Sylvain for his skirt chaser self, I can love Caspar for his himbo ways, I can love Dorothea and empathize with what she went through

I'm in love with all the moving parts of this world, it's one of my favorites of all time, aside from Tes 5 (which is a whole other story lol)

Apologies for the rant lmao

#askbox #fallout anon #fire emblem three houses #fe3h #fe16 #razz rambles

[someoneimsure]

Hello.. I dunno where to start with this but I need some advice if you’re willing to give it. When I just joined the site around a year ago, I had nooo clue about internet safety or warning signs or even what an anti or a pro shipper was. I barely knew how tumblr worked basically. I had always identified as asexual after hearing its definition from a friend a few years ago, so I didn’t know that would be a problem on the internet, either (spoiler alert: it was) basically when I was very new to both tumblr and the whole fandom experience I kind of accidentally fell into a really, reallyyyy bad, toxic subsection of fans because those were the blogs recommended to me by tumblr 😭 none of them identified them as antis (didn’t know what that was) but said if you were proship not to follow them, which I also didn’t know what that was, so I just followed them anyway. When I had like ~35 followers some biggish account follows me back and starts acting veryyyy buddy-buddy. Sliding into messages, trying to pressure me for personal information like my name, age, and selfie. I said a fake name and my real age but refused a selfie because of internet safety and made me feel guilty for it.. they also reblogged a bunch of reblog bait CONSTANTLY like ‘what color are your eyes?’ ‘What hair texture are you?’ ‘What’s your skin color?’ And tagged me in it. I was dumb and participated in it but now I feel sick that they were manipulatively trying to figure out what I looked like. They also tagged me in several little ask games where you also tag your other mutuals at the end of it, that will be important later. Basically, they literally OUT OF THE BLUE went on several long, longggg, vitriolic rants about how much they absolutely despised asexual people, how we are single handedly oppressing gay people and trying to ban gay sex, how we want to be oppressed so badly, how straight we ‘basically’ are, how much asexual headcanons annoyed and disgusted them in fandom, etc. mind you, I had my sexuality in my bio at the time. I was very meek and naive (this was only a year ago lmao how times change) and decided to respond to the rants in the morning about how they made me feel. Went to bed, woke up, found out I had been softblocked on the false assumption that I was a dirty hidden proshipper because I had reblogged from someone with a username like antis solve nothing or something idk, again didn’t know what that was but actually was following them for their niche fandom meta, I learned later what the whole fandom shipping stuff was and don’t feel one way or another about it but am starting to think it was just an excuse to softblock me since she knew I was asexual lmao. Also how do I know she softblocked me for this? She made a post about it and called me a cockroach which… wow, where have I heard that one before… (I’m Jewish btw so if I’ve become accustomed to being compared to a bug) But this is all just backdrop. I blocked them and moved on with my life because tbh I don’t really give a fuck one way or another, but I started to receive death threats periodically from makeshift side blogs, occasionally from anonymous as well. They always say the same thing and I only get them once in a great while, so just going off that, there’s no way I’d be able to find out who actually sent them… except that the death threats also targeted my mutuals. Specifically, the mutuals who I tagged in the little ask games I was asked to participate in by the toxic mutual. So that’s why I think it’s them, and it’s honestly scary how far they’ve gone to circumvent my various blocks (I must’ve blocked them like 11 different times now) and ig. I dunno what to do. Or even if it is actually them. But I have a strong suspicion it is. What do you think?

I am so sorry you experienced that anon! I agree with your suspicion. This is very typical anti behavior. You’ve accidentally become their hyperfixation, and now they are stalking you.

There are ways to solve this problem without deleting your blog, but your friends might have to change their urls so they are no long being linked back to the ask game. (I assume the stalker in this scenario has reblogged the ask game already. Unfortunately, your solution is going to be complicated because changing your url will not prevent them from finding you.)

For all of your friends, I recommend blocking the stalker, changing your urls, and then all of you doing this:

Turn off anon. You can do this from the app and from the web browser. In the latter, it’s located under Edit Appearance.

Turn on invisibility. This is located in the web browser version under Edit Appearance at the way bottom.

Wait a month before switching back.

This is the bare minimum measure to prevent and avoid being harassed on tumblr. It is not foolproof, but it will force the cowards to think twice before harassing you. If they continue to harass you, they won’t be on anon when they do it and it will give you more credibility when you report them to tumblr for spam and harassment. (Though I don't believe I have ever seen the staff do anything about it... hellsite <3.)

There is a more complicated way to solve this problem, but it’s a headache. It involves deleting your blog.

If the above doesn't stop them from harassing you, or worse they come back to harassing you after a month, you may have to delete your blog. I would need to do a little more research before I can say how to do so without losing your url. Some sources say you can't use your url after 24 hours of changing or deleting a blog, but that has not been my experience with switching accounts. As far as I know, you will have to be very vigilant and fast to grab your url again. I am hoping to find some way to avoid that though.

Fortunately, tumblr has an export/import ability on the web browser so at least your posts can be saved and recovered. The same cannot be said for followers, following, and liked posts, so if you must take this option you will need to at least save the names of all your mutuals so you can follow them when your blog is up again.

#asks #anon #i am avoiding certain tags because i know the kind of people who lurk in them #i will also be disabling reblogs for this post for the same reason #if you need this information in the future please save a link or take a screenshot #thank you for the ask! and stay safe!

[kero-verdade]

ohhh about cyber security, do you have any tips? something recently happened that someone hacked my freaking soundcloud that i didnt even remember existed. it was like 10 yrs old.. and i was so freaked out someone hacked it. i just ended up deleting it. i still have the same email and im not sure if i should make a new one. i honestly dont remember what my pw was but my email was in a few data breaches (myfitnesspal, some math app, chegg) like i had really bad luck but i just changed my pw and moved on but idk if i should be doing more? things like that creep me out cus im very private but i also dont use a password manager cus somehow i feel like i would be even more vulnerable :/ its so weird the idea of giving an application the job to store passwords for you idk if u could educate me

For sure! Big ol rant under the cut. And if you have any questions or if I missed anything, pls let me know :D

With your email, you don't necessarily need to make a new one! Depending on what email domain you're using, you have lots of security options.

For starters, definitely change your email password whenever you're notified that it's been in a breach. And in general, it's a good practice to not repeat the same password between different websites - that way if one of your accounts ever gets hacked, the same hacker can't use that username/password to hack into all your other accounts on other websites too. TBH this is something I'm bad about because having the same password across websites is so much easier to remember, but ultimately it's the safer thing to do!

Most websites use single sign-on now where you only need your existing Google/Facebook/etc account to log in, so in that case having different passwords across websites wouldn't apply. But if you do remember any websites where you needed to create a new account, try resetting their passwords just to see if you can! I recently dug up my 14-year-old Roblox account for just this reason lmao. And if you have time, also try to delete accounts on websites that you're no longer using. But I wouldn't stress over it too much, since that's a lot of ground to cover. I don't know if SoundCloud notified you of the hack or if you found out on your own, but the important part is you were made aware of it and were able to deal with it.

Next, check if you can turn on two-factor authentication for your email account (and any other important account - bank accounts, etc). The most common kind is when you get a code sent to your phone that you have to verify before you log in, but there's lots of different kinds. That way, even if someone gets hold of your email credentials, they won't necessarily be able to log in. Gmail in particular is VERY good about this, and Outlook has good options too.

This is optional, but if you want to take an EXTRA security step, you could even try having multiple emails. For me, I have a primary email that I use for work/school/professional stuff, and another old email that I only use to sign up for websites/mailing lists/spammy stuff. So even if my second email got hacked or leaked, it would suck a LOT, but it wouldn't be the end of the world since all of my important stuff is in a different place. But ofc checking multiple inboxes can get annoying too, so it's really whatever you prefer.

As for password managers, that's really your own preference as well. I personally don't use one because I prefer to write down my passwords in a safe place, and that works out fine for me. I also have friends who swear by password managers, reputable password managers are very secure if you use them properly. I personally DON'T recommend using password managers on phones/tablets/any device that can be easily lost or stolen, but they can definitely come in handy on a PC or similar. There's no wrong answer, so just do whatever makes you more comfortable!

If you read all of that congratulations, I hope this was at least a bit helpful!

And since we're on the topic, one more thing I gotta ramble about rq:

Be careful with your biometric data! Things like FaceID and fingerprint are SUPER convenient for unlocking your devices without needing to remember a bunch of passwords, but the laws around them are still developing. Depending on what country/state you're in, existing privacy laws usually haven't caught up with technology, and that information about you may not have the same legal protections as regular passwords. This really only matters if your phone gets seized by police or something super crazy like that, but I think it's good to be aware of since biometric logins are becoming so much more common.

#ask #protect your data homies