#Mother's Day is the same way

[icedteaandoldlace]

Hot take, but Mother's Day is for mothers and mother figures. It's not for single dads, 'cause they already get their own day (the same goes for single mothers on Father's Day). It's not for pet owners, 'cause taking care of a pet isn't the same thing as raising a child. It's not for deadbeat or abusive mothers, because they suck. It's not for women who want to be mothers, but are not yet/have never acted as a mother figure to anyone. And it's not for women who have no desire or plans to become a mother, but want to be recognized because they feel left out. Mother's Day is for women who did the work to fill the role of a mother in someone's life, whether they are their biological mother or not. And a person's inclusion in being celebrated today should be determined by the person/people for whom they acted as a mother, and not by random strangers trying to make sure everyone feels included on a day that isn't for everyone. Not everyone wants to celebrate Mother's Day, and that's okay. They can just not celebrate. You don't have to contort the meaning of the day to make sure everyone gets a reason to participate. If your mother sucks and there's no one else in your life who stepped up and acted as a mom for you, you don't have to wish anyone a happy Mother's Day. You can just order Chinese food.

#my friend got her masters last night and we didn't go out and celebrate all our own accomplishments or what we WANTED to accomplish #we went out and celebrated HER and her masters #Mother's Day is the same way #idk why people are so uncomfortable with the concept #on the flip side #my grandma had to drop out of school when she was young to help her parents on the farm #and later in life my mom helped her continue her education with a home schooling curriculum #due to her dementia she wasn't able to finish but my mom wrote the Texas Board of Education about her and got her a diploma #she didn't get to complete her education all the way but her work and dedication earned her the piece of paper #and we celebrated that and had a ceremony where she got to wear a cap and gown #and that memory lasted her several weeks at a time in her life when she would forget conversations as she was having them #it was 100000% a worthwhile thing to celebrate #that doesn't mean everyone who feels left out for not getting a masters should get to be celebrated alongside my bestie ya feel? #your time to be celebrated will come #and if it doesn't? well then you should've accomplished something #at least you have your birthday

[sammy8d257]

"What do you get when you mix blue and pink together?"

"A mess."

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Aka the horrors of realizing, for better or for worse, you are your parents

#Sammy8D art #alan becker #ava purple #avm purple #animation vs minecraft #avm shorts #avm #Context: “You are your parents” is a phrase used to describe how the way your parents act will influence how you act as an adult #often in a similar manner #And by golly did Reg Blue and Orchid influence Purple #Reg Blue for obvious reasons #But I will stand by the fact that although not intentional #Orchid absolutely left Purple with some less than healthy mentalities #Let Orchid be a loving mother and an incredibly flawed individual #Both can and should exist at the same time #askdgljsgs these past few days have been a lot #I just needed to draw something that wasn't related to anything I'm currently working on #Sammy8D Stick Stuff

[seamayweed]

I find this is a way to be with my mother. // I want my mother. (in/sp.)

[ID in ALT]

#house of the dragon #houseofthedragonedit #hotd #hotdedit #gameofthronesdaily #welighttheway #alicenthightowerdaily #alicenthightoweredit #usergif #alicent hightower #aegon ii targaryen #alicent and aegon #alicent and her children #seamayweed gifs #seamayweed stuff #flashing tw #is this too late for mother's day? #the way she emptied and mythologized herself and then turns around and does the same to aegon....................... #these two make me so feral and insane

[oatbugs]

procrastination is starting to have its consequences finally

#on my friends living room floor they love together but one of them has been london for weeks or maybe months #to be with her love. im on a foam mattress from one of their beds next to a glass bottle of water opened by one of them #in a mug given to me by another. the weather felt like my childhood today and it also felt like 2 years ago. #(put space in the heavens Einstein's idea and hes your friend too so nothing to fear) around the table they drank and laughed and i thought #i hope you keep growing so full with the love you receive . i hope your appetite becomes insatiable from how used to it you are #and i know youre all leaving soon but i hope one day you miss this and that youll be happy you miss it #its worth missing i think #i thought he didnt care but he said after exams hes going walk around this area over and over #(this is near where he lived and where we visited almost daily for a year) #(hed come across the bridge on a lake) #we went where she used to live and at the entrance a fox sat calmly. it just yawned and stared. #it felt important somehow. i think maybe their impressions of me will never be close to how i feel inside but i think #i love them enough for that not to matter. i dont think theyll ever know this. i dont think if they did it would change much. #and seeing them smile makes my heart glow anyway. today i tried their malaysian tea the ginger burned my throat #they warmed my heart. hes going to canada soon and hes going to the US soon and shes going everywhere soon ill never understand #how were supposed to live with memories and with seperation and with the past but we do it anyway so i think it doesnt matter much #i wanted to write a poem for the lab rats with the fibre optic wires lit with blue forcing them to turn around and around #something about how im sorry that the two photon arrays burned the inside of your brain. im sorry about the sharp points of multielectrode #arrayes. im sorry about everything we do to you. she asked to see me tomorrow. im trying to have self control but i miss her so awfully #last night my friend talked to me and i updated on everything that happened with love and the lack of it and she just started laughing #and she told me about the same thing from her side. and she told me about how she loved london because she would walk the streets #and she felt like the people were her. and her eyes would go over the people and the bag of bagels and the construction men they probably #have a kid at home maybe shes a daughter. this kid is crying for her mother and the building you just walked past caused #blisters and pain and people died in it and very likely people were born in it. we talked for hours and i felt like #i was holding her hand just like that time she held mine watching a horror film. i love her so much #my friend is a genius and i remember her picking up the charms of my phone and staring at the leaf hanging from them. shes side stepping to #music drinking dangerous cider and cocktails from a movie and chit chatting with billionaires and undergrads #i love her dearly. his head covered in electrodes. she tells me about a syrian guy shes in love with and she says #what you feel and what i feel is like cocaine. ive tried a lot of fucking cocaine. #she says ive reminded her of what living actually feels like and to never put energy into someone who doesnt see me this way.

[thelambthatkilledthewolf]

Headcanon that Gertrude redid all of Gerry's piercings and tattoos for him

He did that shit with an untwisted paperclip and pen ink, the tattoos were faded and every piercing got infected

Gertrude caught him trying to give himself snakebites and she was like "goddammit child let me go get a needle"

She cleaned all his infections, let them heal, and then redid them

Gerry got one too many comments on his shitty hair dye job so she redid that for him too

She does his makeup and nails for him because he has super shaky hands

Just. Gertrude helping Gerry be goth without it hurting him

#listen i know in all likelihood their relationship wasn't actually as affectionate as i want it to be #and i could just make tmagp headcanons about it instead #but goddammit let my sadboy have a mother figure #also same way we hc jon as being punk in uni #gertrude was def goth in her younger days and knows what she's doing #does that line up with the time period? #probably not #but shhh #tma #the magnus archives #gerard keay #Gerry delano #gertrude robinson #shut up mori

[ef-1]

girlhood

#i have to fly out to capetown to see mother and im literally debating if i could land in the morning and leave at night on the same day #like. anything longer than that is going to ruin my year. #when she called and did her “katherine. you have to be here on the 10th” i literally sobbed in my bed for the rest of the day 😍😍😍 #not dyeing my hair black for a year and its getting lighter and lighter everyday and i look like her again #and my therapist telling me “you need to do things for yourself.” but like can i? sorry that woman traumatised me and i actually cant :) #like everything i do is informed by her #I'm going to go and just like everytime the only way to keep my sanity is to mirror her. talk and sit and speak and read and eat like her #and its such a terrifying experience bc i remember that im capable of emulating her viciousness and maybe i am my mother's daugher 🤢🤢🤢 #and im going to come back and its going to take fucking months for me to feel like myself again #“oh you look so beautiful just like your mother” i hope you DIE lol !!! the fact that my conception of beauty was shaped by her #growing up with this cruel beautiful detached woman and realising that at the intersection of beauty and wickness is a lifetime of pain #and still being so desperate for her approval- for any metaphysical proximity to her that i felt elated when #people would tell me i look like her. that it meant i was also beautiful like her and maybe she'll love me a little for it #but now i know for a fact that i do look like her and it makes saliva swell under my tongue - that moment right before you throw up- #when people mention it 😍 #last time i was in capetown my optic neuritis flared up (and i know for a fact it was that it was ms-stress related from having to see her) #and i thought i hid it so well even though i had near constant headaches & lethargy until she said “katherine give me the red notebook” #and i knew that she knew all along. it was so acutely humiliating standing there and knowing she knows i cant see which one is the red one #and she tilted her head and said “whats the matter? do you not know what red looks like?” #im never going to have kids. my mother and i read eachother so well it can only mean im never too far removed from becoming her #lol!!!!!!!!!

[longagoitwastuesday]

I was tagged by @wearileigh to make myself in these picrews: x x x

Thank you for tagging me!

I tag @onedivinemisfit, @theimpossiblescheme, @13eyond13, @faintingheroine, @eroshiyda, @blackwoodbanshee and @elegyofthemoon if they want to do it.

#My mother saw the first one and she said it was uncanny‚ even creepy‚ how much it actually looked like me #I did wear that very same outfit a few days ago‚ but she said it was more the way the hair falls and the eye colour‚ #and that I even had the plush #It's true that one was the picrew most fun to play with because it had a lot of options‚ #but it still has the peachlike anime face typical of picrews. Mine looks nothing like that #Anyway yes that picrew was fun. The last one I found the most boring #I talk too much #I should probably delete this later #Tag game #? #I don't recall #I have to go back and check because I think I had some I forgot to delete #I've added people who I think to recall did these things #Of course you can not do it #But there are the links if you want #I found one where you could make knights. That was nice

[justmwahstruly]

humans your molly

silly option don’t look teehee

/nf

oh you thought it was fun silly huh

conned. scammed. b a m b o o z l e d . /ref

#molly melancholy #welcome home oc #welcome home #welcome home human #puppet girl no longer #it’s the same day i am given specific instructions on smth to draw… #party planning! #very excited for it! #the mother calls it a ‘sensory party’ #but i know its REALLY just a stim party #i mean. come on. #little layer bottles of glitter and sequins and alike! #it simply gives stimboard to me! #IM GOING TO HAVE THE ULTIMATE EXCUSE TO BE AUTISTIC. #if only it wasn’t all the way in february… #yea my moms insane like that #but! better than doing everything super fucking last minute like i do! #cries #at least break is here… one more day of just reading and doing simple work #LES FUGGIN GOOOOO #a #a a #yey #hrrrmmnnnn dies in i have to draw

[glittergroovy]

#angry sea #mother mother #mother mother lyrics #i don't want the same disease that everybody's got these days #i don't want to live that way #i do not want to live in pain #glitter text #gif warning #lyrics #bloggif.com #red #arial font #50px #album: touch up

[carefulfears]

omg rm9 was kinda fun To Me. i enjoyed mulder and scully going on a sushi date, scully being SOOOOO embarrassingly down bad for a man she’s known over 20 years, and of course the restaurant attacking them because mulder is a bad tipper. it’s also just nice to see them living life, you know??

i had a blast with rm9 tbh, a classic s11 well! have no idea what happened there! but i enjoyed myself! episode. just talked about it a bit but yes!! just seeing them living life!! literally the majority of s11 isn't even them going on cases they're just like. existing. and falling into Situations. in rm9 all they wanted to do was go to this sushi place. scully is of course always embarrassing as hell but what i loved loved loved loved about her in rm9 (and consequently throughout s11) is that last moment at the diner when they're both on their phones, and she puts hers away and just kinda leans over to his shoulder and takes his hand, and he puts his phone down.

i was so floored to see her do that, to ask for his attention like that. so much of the original series is scully...almost quietly suffocating, sometimes? being on the edge of his myopia and focus? wanting him to see her so bad, and then lashing out (READ: fucking serial killers) to either rebel, or get him to notice? but it's been a long time and he has been many more things to her since and now she just grabs his hand and makes him turn to her. in forehead sweat when she whines that he needs to feed her or she's leaving!! and then she does leave!!! in plus one when they aren't even "back together" yet, and she sneaks into his motel room and asks him to hold her.

scully in the revival has left him. she has struck out on her own, had her own career, lived on her own, been a doctor. and she's back and they're back because there's work to be done, and because, as james wong says: "She’s in love with him that way. She had a different career as a doctor, but she came back, because this is so important to him—she’s coming back to be there for him."

she's back, and they're back, because they're always choosing each other, and they've proven it, and they've done the work. she complains about his stakeouts. she cracks jokes about being sure he's on his meds!! she knows that their son is "guiding" them both, somehow. she doesn't question it.

she's embarrassingly down bad even after 25 years because she's never anything but adored him, but there's so much more availability now. she can openly check him out and invite him back into her room and giggle at him and sleep on his jacket in bars. she used to cry, every single time that he was present with her. she used to be so overwhelmed that she couldn't speak, when he was focused on her. this is the inverse reaction of the stability and peace that mulder has found, there's a steady foundation for scully to grow on.

#i know i have an ask from one of you somewhere to do a post on revival scully. thinking it over i promise #but this is like The Main Thing to me by far #kisses #asks #rm9sbg93zxjz #tbh there's this shift in them after the baby was born that kind of gutpunches me...something is very different and solid #'what are you thinking about?' 'about my son. about his mother.' #she will forever be his son's mother. he will forever be her son's father. #and it's not that this binds them because they've always been bound to each other but it shifts them into a new familiarity and dynamic #something very dependent and primal and solid #but for so fucking long that new dynamic was so drowned in grief and loss that they didn't get to have each other any other way #what do you do when someone is your child's mother but you only got 3 days #when someone is your child's father but you spent your one and ONLY year of parenthood alone #hmph! many epiphanies. #anyway the point is that by the revival they're eating jello and watching twilight zone (or whatever it was) in the same house where #for a decade they could barely speak to each other. they were just haunted. #they're healing and it's bringing them closer to each other in orbits and it's lovely!

[skrunksthatwunk]

why the fuck did i write about birds this fucking sucks. i just found out birds only sleep for a few minutes at a time, hundreds of times a day. do you know what this is going to do to my structure? the logistics of their road trip? this is already like three days late and i've been fighting for my life to get A Plot Like Any Plot That Makes Sense out and now the birds fucking sleep for 5 minutes at a time.

#i should've just bailed and written another story when i had the chance #i'm not joking i've never fought a fiction piece this hard before. usually because i'm not writing for specific deadlines #and not a piece so big. and not one that's gonna be workshopped. i wanna blow them away but if things keep going the way they are everyone' #gonna tell me the pacing sucks and it feels pointless and the characters feel really confused. I KNOW. I KNOW THAT. FUCKK #i'm the type to do about 15 passes before i let someone see my 'first draft' and i'm just not gonna be able to do that if i want to get it #in time for a workshop. every day i delay is making things harder for my classmates y'know?? but i've been writing like 1k words a day #and it's still not done. GUHH #I DON'T LIKE WRITING THESE CHARACTERS THAT MUCH THEY'RE NOT FUNNY OR ENDEARING AND THAT'S MY LIKE. #MAIN SKILL AND VIBE WITH SHORT STORY DUOS. BUT NOOOO I HAD TO MAKE THEM DIFFERENT CUZ I WAS SICK OF DOING #THE SAME DYNAMIC OVER AND OVER. BITCH THIS IS YOUR FINAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TRIED AND TRUE GETS THE BLUE (RIBBON)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #head in my hands head in my hands head in my hands head in my hands head #going to work on it some more. fuckk #the voices aren't consistent and i'm trying to make it clear that this is toxic bird yuri and not a mother/daughter thing but the maternal #themes are kind of fucking with that but they're important and i don't wanna get rid of them but it feels forced cuz im forcing it #sigh. i'm gonna have to cut the yuri. these two don't work romantically at all. what a waste of time. #i watched the entirety of mnthly girls' nozaki-kun in the past two days while avoiding writing. did you know that? the lengths to which i'l #go? anyway it was fun i appreciate fellow creative agony and i uh never knew how they did screen tones and wasn't expecting that somehow #so i learned something new (hooray). anyway back to. fucking. bird story stuff #i'm so mad i hate these two (<- lying. just pissy) i hate this story (<- mostly exaggerating. throwing a tantrum) #eughhhhhh i just wanna lie on the floor and cryyyyyyyyyy (<- completely deadpan irl. not That upset just kind of sick of shit) #i'm so burnt out and it's only gonna get worse. ughh #why can't someone just come in and write it for meeeeeeeeeeheheuhhh (<- would hate that)

[mellotronmkll]

cannot put into words how much finding out that women with autism being misdiagnosed with bpd is like a super common thing shook my entire understanding of everything I had experienced my whole life that was the real final nail in the coffin but it's crazy I somehow didn't know that until recently

#And like It Just So Happens #Anyway at this point...and now that my mother has started literally just sending me lists of all the traits that are obvious in hindsight a #things she missed and now is kicking herself I'm just like...well it's just like I'm documenting things and I really think once I just #have insurance you know . I've just been like What if I'm wrong for like a year now but to be honest #I think at this point after all the research I've done and discussions I've had it's like. There's no way bro #Like you have a multi page google doc of evidence #And like it's funny cos my mom will be sending me random texts out of the blue too like did I mention already the fact that you would #sit and study maps for hours as a kid and if anyone interrupted you you had a meltdown and I'm like well #But its like these texts constantly all day #And im like tbh you're going through the same realization process I went through but now you're also telling me things I forgot or didn't #even know that are just blasting any. Doubt of the water #But I think she feels guilty also that she never noticed and im just like shrug I don't know like #there's just many many many such cases so like #But its very helpful I was so scared to tell her about it for so long but apparently she'd been already wondering for ages too so like #And now she's also just like This makes so much sense it just makes everything make sense and I'm like see. That's what I'm thinking too

[tenebrius-excellium]

Thinking about Httyd...hot and perhaps too personal take: To me, Httyd was more than anything else a movie about emotional starvation. And Forbidden Friendship was the sweetest, briefest celebration of relief from that.

Afterwards, everybody basically told Hiccup to man up “because that’s just life” and I will never forgive Httyd2 and Httyd3 for that.

#httyd #wherethekiteflies #y'all keep forgetting that Hiccup grew up without a Mom. #In the same day he finds his mother; he loses his Dad. #and the third movie has nothing better to do than to make Hiccup let go of his friend because it's clingy or whatever #to keep the only stable; emotionally available being around that he has ever known. #he's painted as selfish and immature for wanting that. #Neither Astrid; nor Valka; nor Gobber understand Hiccup in the way Toothless did. #Hiccup is simply expected to go without emotional validation or the praise and intimacy he desires for his entire life #because taking responsibility is more important than feeling understood. or whatever. #this boy was granted Forbidden Friendship as the only real hug he ever received... from a dragon who chose him; who stayed with him; #who loved him; who didn't leave or bully or disappoint him. this dragon was the healthiest relationship Hiccup ever had. #and it was judged to be weak. to weaken him as a Chief. when his passion and compassion for Toothless and others were in fact #Hiccup's greatest strengths as Chief. it were those qualities; this sensitivity that made him amazing. #but the plot decided that he needed to become just like Stoick and Astrid and like the Valka who abandoned her dreams & hopes for "reality #how is desiring and needing emotional backup in life void of reality; weak; delusional and too idealistic? #shame on you httyd sequels for never granting this boy what he desired most. and that was honest; unconditional support. #analysis #httyd analysis #rant #hiccup

[hyumjim]

This woman was talking really loudly directly behind me about how she loves dogs and hates cats and I was like Woah there thems fighting words brother! and she’s like Well I just don’t think cats feel love. And she just expects me to not be disgusted by her every second of every day

#good way to eliminate potential friends right off the bat I suppose #I said well every day my cat sits on my chest and stares into my eyes and purrs and she’s like #WHEN I WAS A KID MY GRANDMA SAID CATS SIT ON YOU TO STEAL YOUR SOUL AND I JUST CANT GET OVER IT IM SORRY!!1 #and I was like well you know actually kneading is a behavior from kittenhood and they do it when they’re little to get mothers milk so #it means they think of you as Mommy it’s very sweet #and she’s like OKAY :/ THATS GREAT FOR YOU I GUESS #bitch I will kill myself in front of you #same woman I was bitching abt being unfunny in other post lmaooo

[maxellminidisc]

Sometimes my mom is sooo self flagellating over easily remedied issues of communication or like genuine criticism of her behavior, that instead of feeling bad it genuinely pisses me the fuck off so bad I wanna walk out the house

#like all i said is its very rude to call my interests annoying #instead of just directly say 'hey im not interested in talking about that topic' like boom done deal #and nooow here comes the OOOH SORRY YOU HAVE TO HAVE A MOM LIKE ME THAT U HAVE TO LIVE WITH SOMEONE LIKE ME #mam what the entire fuck are you ON.... #all i said was be direct and I'll understand instead doing the same passive agressive hurtful shit you always do #when you need something like im sorry that's the only way youve been able to get by with your shitty family #but like im not them i respect what someone has to say and when they want me to shut up #HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY AOSKDKLDKDKFKKD

[oscill4te]

i genuinely love my mom so much but its also like you are the most confusing person ever

#i dnt wanna overshare cuz i always do that lol but mothers day is coming upp... uh. soon #so i guess im just thinking about her. i genuinely love her so much. as alwayz its hard tho #she is also the funniest woman in the world to me. most people would say shes a horrible person #shes just rough around the edges. idk #one time she pointed at a couple outside and wz like “those two are so ugly; its like they were made for each other!!” #is it bad that i find humor in her meanness? shes just like. so funny to me #her negativity makes me laugh i guess xD #and if shes nice to you she genuinely means it. I think i love my mom a lot bc i see a lot of myself in her #shes very “split up” like me her opinions change all the time and im like. me too!!! #yes she can be fake but i think she genuinely does “flip/switch” a lot the way i do #and i never met anyone else other than my mom who so openly did that yknow #she can love and hate you at the same time. she simutaneously will love animals and hate them. gay ppl. ect #she seems to idk. be really inconsistent and fragmented like me and only now do I see it #i love my mom. i cant help it even with everything thats happened its like how can i not love someone who held me in her jacket #as it snowed outside before school? i cling so hard to that memory #i will be seeing family 2 times this month but i feel quite at peace with it right now #in april i was not thrilled at all but today im feeling some peace