#on the flip side

[setnet]

thinking about.... mark vorkosigan and cordelia. it's always struck me, after the travesty of 'therapy' cordelia was subject to in shards of honor, that she still wholeheartedly recommends beta colony and therapy to mark. and i was rereading shards of honor at 4am and was struck suddenly by the parallels between her escape from mehta and mark's escape from ryoval in mirror dance - trapped, but able in the end to choose action and commit utterly to the actions they need to take in order to escape. all the way down to wearing slippers as they make their final getaway.

#on the flip side #the reflection that in some ways aral vorkosigan is far more radical than miles. #miles - and ekaterin and vorberg - who care enough to make vor real #compare to aral suggesting reopening the vor caste or declaring everyone vor and being done with it #vorkosigan saga

[ingravinoveritas]

heyyy girliepop, i rlly love ur blog. highlight of ma days. u remind me so much of an amazing, brilliant, clever crazy bitch i used to follow on twitter 6 years ago its great i missed her. keep slaying bby. love ya xxo

Hi there! Aww, thank you so much for this. I really do appreciate it! I was going to wait to respond to you until I'd gotten through at least some of the other Asks/Anons in my inbox, but your message came in just when I received this comment on my blog (on this post):

I'm sure this person was just doing a drive-by and has never actually read anything else I've written, but I genuinely felt and feel a bit upset by this comment, so I'd like to address it.

One thing I have mentioned many times on my blog is that I more than welcome people to disagree with me. I've gotten Anons of every stripe and color, and I've never felt the desire to not publish or not engage with people who do not share my opinions. So I am actually sad for this person, that they decided not to do that. I'm perplexed that they saw a post they did not agree with, and rather than engaging in a civilized way--or just scrolling on by and saying nothing, which they absolutely could have done--decided to leave that comment instead.

As an autistic adult (diagnosed as a child), I have spent the majority of my life feeling like I need to "fix" myself, like I could never be accepted or have friends--or simply exist as a person in the world--because of who I am. This feeling that something is so inherently lacking from the very core of me that it automatically makes me "the other"--different. Not human. Not the kind of human that counts, anyway.

So to the person who left the comment above: I could easily repeat your words back to you. That there must be something deeply wrong with you as a person to think it is acceptable to say something like that to a complete stranger. But what I will say instead is that I hope you never know what it's like to feel that broken. I hope no one ever throws the concept of therapy at you as an insult, a weapon to tear you down disguised as benevolence. And I hope you know that I realize your ultimate purpose is to shut me up, because you don't want to hear what I have to say. I'm just sorry to disappoint you, because I'm not going anywhere.

To go back to your Ask, @dropsandcandiez: Thank you. Truly, madly, deeply (please tell me someone got that reference), thank you. Your encouragement and that of my other followers means the world to me, and so I will keep slaying as best I can. Thanks for writing in! xx

#dropsandcandiez #crazyintheeast #reply post #didn't mean for this to turn into a slightly personal post but here we are #i can't even with this nonsense #please have several seats #i'd rather look like a 'bad' fan and talk about the reality of the situation #than look like a 'good' fan by ignoring it #on the flip side #this was such a nice surprise #i am just glad people are enjoying my ridiculous posts #thank you all you lovely people for being here #fandom woes #personal post #discourse

[dngrcpckwithmurdericing]

I am trapped in a waiting room with people who aren't masked, and the TV is playing a terrible morning show with segments like "is oat milk horchata good for weight loss?" And "if we gather all the mentally ill people in New York and put them in hospitals, subways will be safer!!!"

The boops are all I have right now. The last thing I can use to grasp onto a world that makes sense.

#offline life #getting the car inspected every year is a special hell #i don't talk in the theater! why is this happening to me!! #also it's raining #on the flip side #my car is taking so long that the nail salons might be open by the time it's done #then i can get a manicure and face wax #maybe even a tiny cake #but until then #it's the boops for me

[chichiichiii347]

Lunatic Fes 2018 interview day 1

(Toshiya talking about DEG wanting to release an album within this year)

Joe: it’s important to keep your words

Toshiya: we will certainly release the album!

Interview with Kaoru on day 2:

Joe: yesterday Toshiya san said you guys will release an album within this year!

Kaoru: fufufu 😅 well I’m not the one to ask...

(a few moments later)

Joe: you guys will have a live tour this year, and after that... an album?!

Kaoru: Yes! (confidently)

And they really released an album that year 🤩 Leader san kept his words

#dir en grey #kaoru #leader sama #toshiya #totchi #shinya #on the flip side #he had to keep Toshiya’s promise #responsible leader #welcome to adulthood

[residenthughes]

i’m…so close to finishing this dewey fic - my labour of love - but it will have to wait until another night to be posted. i’m tired 😭

#on the flip side #i have finished writing all important parts of the fic #including the confession (!!!) eeeeep! 🤭 #connor dewar #residenthughes’ yap fest!

[ao3screenshotss]

#(marry nezuko) #title: #on the flip side #author: #tuntunaa #ao3 #ao3 funny #demon slayer #tsuyuri kanao #agatsuma zenitsu #kamado tanjirou #kamado nezuko

[galamerapple]

there are a lot of baz lines in carry on that make me cry but when he visit's his mom's tomb in the epilogue,,

#'i know i usually come down here to tell you i'm sorry' #GRAB THE TISSUES BABES #baz pitch #character of all time #the fact that he genuinely believes his mother would kill him for being a vampire #and fiona's pov kinda supports that #goddddd #on the flip side #when a character who hates themselves chooses to live #it's just so beautiful and powerful:') #carry on #simon snow trilogy

[cbk1000]

My favourite work story is still the time a woman got mad at my sister for not being clairvoyant.

So, this was several years ago when we both still worked in medical records at a doctor's office. A patient calls, upset that we haven't sent their medical records to the office of the provider they're transferring to.

Ok; sis puts them on hold, we check the folder where we keep pending requests that we haven't got to yet. Nothing there. Check the system, where we always scan in the records request with a signed and dated note stating it was faxed or mailed once it's completed: nothing there.

Sis gets back on the phone, asks if the patient filled out a records request at the other clinic, thinking maybe they just hadn't sent it to us yet, or they had and we didn't get it because the fax didn't go through or they had the wrong contact info, etc. It happens.

No, they did not fill out a request at the other clinic.

Sis asks if they filled out a request at OUR clinic; sometimes patients would call us angry that we hadn't sent their records, and we'd find out that their appointment was twenty minutes ago, and the nurse hadn't even sent down the paperwork with the records request in it yet.

No, they did not fill out a request.

Kay.

Did you tell the nurse you needed records sent? Sometimes they forget to convey that to us.

No.

Mmkay.

Did you, at any medical institution, fill out a records request indicating you needed us to send records; did you call us and ask for your records to be sent; did you email us asking for your records to be sent; did you ask the nurse and/or doctor for records to be sent? In short, did you indicate in any way whatsoever that you needed your records sent to that clinic?

No.

Hoo boo. Ok, well, look, sorry you're upset, but as you can see, there is literally no way we could have known that you needed records sent to that clinic.

Pause for patient to realise they've made a bit of an ass of themselves and set out on their Redemption Arc where we all laugh about how silly humans and their brain farts are.

Nope.

Patient then snaps at my sister, "Well, you should have just known!!!"

Right, well, why don't you go complain to our boss that we didn't read your mind and let me know how that goes.

#personal #on the flip side #i had a similar situation #where a patient called me and wasn't outright rude #but was definitely Not Happy that her records had not been sent #so i'm checking into it and in the process of doing so she suddenly goes oh my god #i just realised i called the wrong clinic #but she profusely apologised and was obviously really embarrassed #because she could admit when she was wrong #a novel concept

[cock-holliday]

Gender and race are not wholly comparable situations. People (fellow white people most often) love to shut down concerns of bioessentialism by comparing it to white people complaining about white privilege. First, would love for people to learn what “white privilege” and “male privilege” even mean. What a “privilege” is, so everyone can stop using words like “inherent” with it.

Second, racism exists on a slightly different axis than gender. Pretending they are the same is how you get shit from bigots like “I’m transracial” “I identify as Black now.” Additionally, people who love to make the comparison to shut down conversations that go beyond ra/d/fem perspectives ALSO refuse to engage with how racism impacts gender! “The female experience” “conditioned male” WHAT female experience? Conditioned in what way? If you think Black girls and white girls were raised by society the same way, or Black boys and white boys are raised the same way, you have neither a grasp of racism NOR the ways gender are policed.

#this doesn’t even get in to how all forms of racism aren’t wholly comparable #antiblackness has different connotations to other forms of racism #which have different layers to one another #then you have an even more microlens with things like colorism #on the flip side #gender talks cannot be meaningful without discussions of intersexism #even within one race gender discussions are complicated #when you combine class and ethnicity and get into gender nonconformity

[illmoraineakoi]

I don't like trying to fight the Radiance for the true ending, because I have no idea how to actually fight her so I die constantly and I have to fight the Hollow Knight again.

Like I'm so sorry dude, I really don't want to be beating the shit out of you over and over again. I feel so bad about it :(

#illmoraine babbles #hollow knight #On the flip side #I very much enjoyed beating the Pale King's corpse off the throne #He deserved so much worse for those fucking saws #I have horrible reflexes so White Palace was Hell

[peppermintspider]

I hate baby talk so much!!!!! Children don’t even talk wike dis. Yeah some of them can slur words a bit, or have a lisp, but mostly they just veer off into random tangents or onto different topics from another topic without bridging them first. Like that’s literally how they talk it’s not "Iwe am swo swo swad iwe cawnt pway wis my twoys wite noww:(((((" it’s "I really really really liked all those sharks I really wanted to get that shark why can we just play with the sharks why do they have to be all locked up. Jellyfish’s!!! I love jellyfish. I wonder if they smell bad" *stuffs cheerio in face hole and proceeds to wander off completely unconcerned with the one sided conversation* (read mumbled, change the speed that you’re reading in various increments, and the k’s soft).

If you shits really want to write small child characters then you need to show their age through their actions and words, not how they speak you annoying ass lazy ass motherfucker. Fucking hate baby talk. Makes me violently mad. Fuck.

Read the tags.

#read the tags #ao3 #cringe #archive of our own #common mistakes in media that make me wanna scream #please take advice from me #my only personality trait is that I do nothing except read and write and I promise you showing things about #your characters through their actions words and how they perceive themselves and are perceived by others is the way to go #when making a nice round character #tawking wike dis is not a personality trait and does nothing except deminish the quality of your writing #I know it’s intimidating to write child characters #I get it really I do #but once you’ve done it once it’ll never be hard again #I promise #children are actually really fun to write #they can say the wildest things and it’ll body your writing so much as long as you’re writing from the lense of a small child #it also doesn’t have to make sense (but you do need to be able to write well enough that it doesn’t cause your readers to pause and be like #what is going on here #you know? #on the flip side #children can say the most harrowing disheartening things if you’re more into that #children are blunt and are perceptive #if a situation you’ve written is hopeless (seemingly or not) then a child character putting their perspective of their situation into words #with their limited vocabulary and without the awareness to #avoid topics or reality for fear of damnation #so 'We’re not going home.' or 'I won’t see her again.' or 'Why did we work so hard.' #can be perfect to set the mood for the next part #anyways that’s my Ted Talk

[colorisbyshe]

i love you music with repetitive lyrics. i love you songs with no lyrics depth. i love you songs that just go untz untz untz. i love you music that turns my brain off. to all the pussy popping songs with zero nutritional value-- i would die for you.

#on the flip side #one of my untz untz songs has lyrics that are just #'wow i miss you so much it makes me tired' #and that is an untz untz sasunaru song

[rottenlittlefink]

I’m probably zooted but this part and the way he zones out and says “… Spank…?” I’m cackling 😭

#beforel orel #clay puppington #on the flip side #Orel voice: I’m really stupid and made edibles out of my carts #long story short I’m about to see God #it’s Friday night so whatever

[icedteaandoldlace]

Hot take, but Mother's Day is for mothers and mother figures. It's not for single dads, 'cause they already get their own day (the same goes for single mothers on Father's Day). It's not for pet owners, 'cause taking care of a pet isn't the same thing as raising a child. It's not for deadbeat or abusive mothers, because they suck. It's not for women who want to be mothers, but are not yet/have never acted as a mother figure to anyone. And it's not for women who have no desire or plans to become a mother, but want to be recognized because they feel left out. Mother's Day is for women who did the work to fill the role of a mother in someone's life, whether they are their biological mother or not. And a person's inclusion in being celebrated today should be determined by the person/people for whom they acted as a mother, and not by random strangers trying to make sure everyone feels included on a day that isn't for everyone. Not everyone wants to celebrate Mother's Day, and that's okay. They can just not celebrate. You don't have to contort the meaning of the day to make sure everyone gets a reason to participate. If your mother sucks and there's no one else in your life who stepped up and acted as a mom for you, you don't have to wish anyone a happy Mother's Day. You can just order Chinese food.

#my friend got her masters last night and we didn't go out and celebrate all our own accomplishments or what we WANTED to accomplish #we went out and celebrated HER and her masters #Mother's Day is the same way #idk why people are so uncomfortable with the concept #on the flip side #my grandma had to drop out of school when she was young to help her parents on the farm #and later in life my mom helped her continue her education with a home schooling curriculum #due to her dementia she wasn't able to finish but my mom wrote the Texas Board of Education about her and got her a diploma #she didn't get to complete her education all the way but her work and dedication earned her the piece of paper #and we celebrated that and had a ceremony where she got to wear a cap and gown #and that memory lasted her several weeks at a time in her life when she would forget conversations as she was having them #it was 100000% a worthwhile thing to celebrate #that doesn't mean everyone who feels left out for not getting a masters should get to be celebrated alongside my bestie ya feel? #your time to be celebrated will come #and if it doesn't? well then you should've accomplished something #at least you have your birthday

[ao3screenshotss]

#title: #on the flip side #author: #tuntunaa #ao3 #ao3 funny #demon slayer #kochou shinobu #tomioka giyuu #kamado nezuko #kamado shigeru #kamado takeo #kamado kie

[unrequitedloveletter]

one thing about me is that I will write nearly everyday of the week and yet not pick up a book for weeks at a time

#cal talks #I'm rereading six of crows right now and I haven't picked it up for almost a week now #to be fair #I've been sick so I kind of get a pass #but also when I'm done soc and ck I probably wont pick something up til june #I read one or two books and then go into a slump #on the flip side #in the 5-6 years I've been writing I've only gotten writers block once #I am a writing machine #not a reading machine