#I mean they call everyone queer

[sapphicdessi]

Are the bisexual women in that video calling gay/lesbian people queer?

i'm more concerned they're saying "bi lesbians" are real and telling every lesbian who says to stop that "sexuality is fluid" and that lesbians can like men. they have larped and support larpers. acting like lesbian is someone who hates men but is attracted to them is fucking absurd. shit take after another. it's basically a homophobic lesbian shit talking sesh where they speak over an for lesbians and act like incels too

#I can't stand to watch it all but surely there's more crap homophobic #they act and pm admit lesbians are just sex toys they will never be serious about but get mad when they get rejected :)) #I mean they call everyone queer #and their labels and terms queer #they larped as lesbians and call themselves queer #"are bisexuals queer enough?' aka am I gay enough no bc ur not fucking gay and its so pathetic bc they're so homophobic and only see men as #real partners and many even see het sex as only real or better sex purely for being het or involving a penis #so leave us alone they show how much they hate lesbians prefer men then spend their time shit talking and being homophobic toxic clowns #and how many actually prefer women and see them as first choice and doesn't base their opinion or choice on men or male behaviour? #is it appealing that you're with a woman because men suck? and then they go off to a bare minimum man bc he sucks less than most shit men #low standards for men and high standards for women #always putting men on pedestals or preferring the most privileged life and fitting in with other homophobes #will bi women ever just date bi women or hook up w them and shut the fuck up? then they can both happily go marry a man like they always #planned to! instead of harassing/demonizing lesbians for saying no oppressing us then go heterophobia is real dykes are mean

[lazylittledragon]

i'm going to scream i got accused of being a transmisogynist by someone on twitter because of this specific part of my t4t steddie art

#ramble #the thing is 99.9% of people thought it was VERY funny #i've had 1 person genuinely have a problem with it and it was because i kept eddie transmasc #basically they were upset because i didn't make them both transfemme bc i just. didn't want to #twitter hasn't learned that not everything is for you and if you don't like something you don't have to interact with it #and just because you don't like something that doesn't mean it's Bad #and also sometimes queer things aren't made to be understood by everyone #it was specifically because they thought it made them into 'just another straight couple' #as if that isn't a MASSIVE erasure of trans people's queerness #trans people in m/f relationships doesn't make them any less queer or somehow inferior to gay relationships #it boiled down to 'but you could've made them lesbians :((' YEAH BUT I DIDN'T #idk it was just absolutely infuriating trying to defend myself without saying 'idk what the fuck you want from me at this point' #anyway transfemme stevie is very big on twt but i didn't know whether to post it here or not #but i might if people want to see it because i love it a lot #twitter would die if they saw the olden days when we called them genderbends and there wasn't any trans content at all

[gnometa233]

"Trans men and lesbians can date!!" "Trans men and straight men can date!!" "Lesbian includes attraction to men!!!" "Labels mean nothing just use what you want!!!" what if I threw a rock at you.

#lgbt discourse #queer discourse #queer #yes ive seen all of those things being said unironically #y'all wanna include men in lesbianism so bad #y'all wanna invalidate trans men so bad #just say you're a mysoginist and go #just say you don't see trans men as real men and go #and for people who think it doesn't invalidate their label? #why even bother? why do y'all refuse to identify as bisexual? #why do you continue to disrespect lesbians and trans men #we can be different communities and still respect and uplift each other #identify as you want but one day you'll learn that actions have consequences #and get called a transphobe #and i will LAUGH #lgbt+ #anti bi lesbians #also labels mean things and if you don't agree with it don't participate in society! #because everything and everyone has labels whether you like it or not

[sevendutchies]

People in this fandom will really look at The Fool, Patience, Lacey, Carson, Sedric, Hest, Davvie, Lecter, Kennit, Ash/Spark, and yes, even Fitz himself, and still have the gall to call it queer bait.

These characters are explicitly queer, their actions impact the narrative, they are well written, and their identities are treated with respect. That is the best possible queer representation you could ask for in any story.

I've seen people on tumblr basing the likelihood of if they read this series on whether or not it's "actually gay" and I'm here to tell you that it is. There are queer characters. There are queer protagonists. And no matter what you see people in the fandom say, Robin Hobb wrote some amazing queer representation in a genre that rarely sees it at all.

EDIT: and I think it's pertinent to note that, no, characters who are questioning or struggling with their feelings about sexuality instead of knowing 100% does not make something queer bait or "less gay"

TLDR;

Queer bait = disrespectful marketing ploy that exploits queer audiences

Queer bait ≠ "my two favorite characters never have sex"

#Fitzchivalry ''i wondered if I lied so that I need not be ashamed of myself'' farseer thank you everyone #quite frankly the disrespect to Robin Hobb in this fandom is in EXTREMELY poor taste #the interview from 2008 before half the series was written where she explains why Fitz would not suddenly be head over heels for a person h #perceives as a man because all of his life he has only had heterosexual experiences apparently means that no queer characters exist #whatsoever in the whole series and Robin Hobb is an irredeemable backwards old lady who can't get with the times. right. #Fitzchivalry ''what were we? Beloved'' farseer #this is actually not supposed to be a debate over whether Fitz is canonically queer or not. he is. ope. #also...I do read Kennit as queer. just cause he is traumatized and his queerness comes out in predatory ways doesn't mean he's not queer. #that's called writing a compelling villain baybee #Hest!?!? thank you Robin Hobb for the evil gays god bless <3 #modern reader: the author didn't describe these characters dicks touching in detail therefore she is homophobic #rote #realm of the elderlings #fitzchivalry farseer #the fool #I really had to get this out of my system guys. thanks <3 #as if Robin Hobb didn't give us the FOOL. nonbinary/gender fluid character OF ALL TIME.

[natjennie]

like seriously whatever you do dont think about the captain and that story about someone calling into gay bars and not saying anything, just listening to queer people living and laughing and having fun. definitely don't think about the captain doing that. haha.

#both during his life and in death #i just looked it up and the 1930s british queer scene was beautiful like jazz age stuff #the idea of the captain just discretely privately calling into places he's heard rumored to be queer #just to listen to the saxophone over the static of the telephone and know that there were gay people living and loving somewhere #and then to think about him missing that EVEN MORE in death because now he cant LEAVE #he cant hear rumors from people he cant call in #imagine the favors he'd have to owe julian to dial a number and let cap listen to the receiver without knowing what it is #like of course julian wants to know and he pesters him. but when cap is Deadly Serious and scared and sad. #a face julian's never seen. he winds his jokes down and agrees to do it #making cap think it was his idea- 'a bit of charity for the old walrus then'- instead of a deep understanding and love #and since its been decades of course the number he calls isnt a gay club anymore. maybe it doesnt even connect #and it breaks his heart and it takes him another decade to gather intel and the nerve to ask julian again #but when he does he finally gets a place and the phone quality is INCREDIBLE he can hear so much #he can hear people and their upbeat music and their laughter and their love #and he cries #and if julian sees it and pretends not to then its so that he can have the blackmail later thank you for asking #anyway im making myself emotional #bbc ghosts #EDIT Becuase then when julian overhears he tries subtly to make the captain feel more comfortable #bc julian is an asshole but he's not homophobic i mean he fucks everyone #so he tries to pepper in more stories about men but that just makes cap uncomfortable #and hes frustrated bc he cant think of anything else to do other than flirt with him but thats a bad idea #but then he remembers that he went to bars and places and maybe he'll like that #so he 'accidentally' dials some clubs he knows were cool and leaves the phone off the receiver for cap to find #and cap just gives him a curt nod and a clearing of his throat and they Dont Talk about it but they Know

[handsomegentlebutch]

My 3 little cousins were baptized today. "Triggered" is kind of a strong word but being in a catholic church again... I'm a little fragile rn ngl.

#butch speaks #it was hard not to shake as i held J over the basin to have the water poured on his head #when he was cleansed of sin. as if a little kid could ever knowly or intentionally offend a so-called loving god #the words came naturally to me #but they meant nothing #i remember when they used to mean something. when i begged gods forgiveness for my sin (being a lesbian) and tried to pray the gay away #i remember how much i wanted to die bc i could never truly embrace the sacred #i STILL deal with the complex of catholic guilt. its a very real thing. its hard to shake #i cant help but wonder if the catholicism ingrained in my brain is why i have a hard time with casual dating n sex #fun fact: there was a point when i was a teen that i got REALLY catholic #i prayed everyday. i talked to my patrin saint (st agnes) every day. i wantsd to become a nun #the thought of marrying a man mad me more sad than feeling like an alien did. so id marry the church as a nun. #not the way to hide being a dyke when ur fam is catholic btw LMAO #the first priest i knew was father joe. i loved that guy. he was so kind. friendly. briming with love. #he was one of my biggest references for what a good person was like #he talked about gods love a lot. how its for everyone. no one is exluded. ever. #he used to look right at me when he said stuff like that. a few other kids too. all of whom grew up to be queer #then father joe passed away. our church merged with another church. father jeff was the priest there. #he was kind but not as kind. he talked about hell and sin more. he looked at the same kids father joe did. #but the kindness in his eyes wasnt there. #that wasnt for us. #my family wasnt even THAT catholic #i went to church every sunday i did vacation bible school and catechism classes and youth group #i was an altar servant and in the choir #i even used to speak/understand a little latin #imagine how much worse id have been if my mom could have afforded catholic school lmao #grateful to have grown up poor in that regard #hm. actually... reading my own tags. mayne we were pretty catholic actually. #fucking hell. #i need to have lesbian sex in a church before god and everyone. mayeb that would fix me.

[dykeinthedark]

venting in tags about gender n shit (long as hell) (u can comment and talk 2 me as always :3)

#okay so i got a really masc haircut about a month ago and i know it's just a haircut but holy shit has it changed EVERYTHING for me #like.... i've always leaned masc except 1) before i came out 2) when i was actively in love with someone who i knew liked femmes #and they always described me as a fem. because that's what i showed her. because i wanted to be with her. #but lowkey whenever i'm in a not-impressing-anyone raw-dogging-life-no-crush era i always resort to a very masc style #like masc being my default and i'd only lean fem to impress people whether it's for love or peer pressure in a specific setting #like ''dressing up'' has always been a form of drag to me. like something i HAD to do to fit in or impress my parents (scott favor core) #but ever since this haircut i've realized... i could just BE masc innately like i really don't have to be womanly if i don't want to #which i usually don't. again i have only ever dressed fem for other people. but it's not even being masc that attracts me on its own #it's like. being masc in a distinctly lesbian way. as in whenever i look in the mirror i don't wanna be like a Guy i wanna be a dyke. #like lesbian as a gender identity too sort of thing honestly. okay i've been waffling but basically i sort of want to call myself butch #but i don't know if i like... can?? if i'm allowed to??? #everyone always says it's MORE than just wearing boy clothes and not wearing makeup and having short hair (which i already do all those) #i mean i've always id'd as genderqueer because it literally just means gender weird and i experience gender in a queer way #what's probably the most telling is that my friends (all queer) CALL me a butch lesbian #like every time they do i feel really internally validated. it's not just my clothes but my personality too ig is what people tell me #i have a higher pitched voice relatively speaking but apparently the way i talk is quote ''very clockably into women'' #which?? gender euphoria asf. my best friend specifically he (gay trans guy) always uses butch to describe me very intuitively #people have also noticed that i ''transitioned'' in all aspects except hormonally. like ppl have commented and noticed my masculinzation #but at the same time i always feel rly haunted by my ex relationships because one wanted me to be more masc #(she's the one who came out as straight and would treat me like a man) which i didn't like and i didn't like playing up being fem either #bc now it feels like she (butch) won't believe me if i called myself butch too bc she remembers me being femme #idk i feel like there's her voice in my head all the time that sees everything i do through her eyes (i'm lowkey still in love) #i feel like even though this comes so naturally to me i must be putting on a performance #even though i've actually read stone butch blues and done research into the history and i truly love and id with the culture like i rly do #that im still just a sad imitation of a butch lesbian and can never really be a part of it because i used to enjoy dressing up sometimes #like it's so stupid but can i still be butch if i wore a dress to prom and i think i looked good in it?? #even though i was envious of my friends who wore suits?? that i used to try goth makeup?? that i liked long dresses?? #that i enjoyed stacked necklaces and rings on every finger??? #and tbh ALL OF THAT CAME FROM A CONCIOUS EFFORT TO FEMINIZE MYSELF IN JUNIOR YEAR OF HIGHSCHOOL WHEN I WAS 16 #because omfg it was 2 months before junior prom and i was worried that i was too masc and wanted to get comfortable with being fem

[gentil-minou]

Hi! Please vote for wangxian in the @ao3topshipsbracket we are losing for a small percentage and it is gonna close in 6 hours

i have!!! but maybe a kind follower will aid us in our time of need!

#i never care about polls until they're close and then im awful #plus people are being very rude in the comments calling us mysoginists #not knowing that mxtx is just guy yuri and like 75% of mdzs demographic is queer women like bruh #danmei and BL have such a rich history in being outlets for queer women especially those closeted and struggling with their own sexuality #i hate that folks deny us that and put us into a category of whatever they put us #especially considered CW never even made supercorp canon it's just more queerbaiting #how can they be better than a canon queer couple that defy gender boundaries and embrace their kinky lifestyle with wonderful communication #like its genuinely kinda sad #im remembering why i dont like fandom polls they just make everyone into assholes and im sure the mdzs fans are also being mean #which is just NOT COOL ugh #mdzs #wangxian #Anonymous #asked and answered

[magicdyke]

dude is just not smart

#i mean if you have a blog entirely dedicated to “discourse” then what can you expect #love that he can just decide that using queer is never ever a slur no matter what and say that being tme doesnt affect you #while also having several different instances of transmisogyny on his blog or thinking he has the right to joke abt certain things #its like ok so you just like the word fag because it makes you sound special #or edgy or whatever #with zero real care for the actual lgbt community at large #like maybe there are people that dont like to be called queer because it is still used as a slur in Most Spaces #also btw hes like “I literally talk abt [transmisogyny] on this blog” but i like did not see a single post referencing trans women #aside from a post where he was getting mad at ppl for being mad that he made some shitty transmisogynisyic joke that he took back later #maybe being obsessed with “transandrophobia” is an insanely moronic thing to do and maybe you have to accept #that you are white and not hypervisible to humanity and have similar problems and experiences to the people similar to you #but still have the ability to exclude transfems from spaces #and are actively doing so by talking the way you do on your stupid ass blog #god. white trans men thinking that they're exactly the only people that have ever experienced oppression that gets ignored by society #drives me fucking crazy #im sorry but you are not special. #the toothpaste flag icon on top of all of this just to really remind everyone that hes a lesbophobe whenever hes talking ever

[variousqueerthings]

the fun of having put out the "bj's moustache is gay culture" post while also headcanoning first and foremost that whatever bj is, it's not actually gay but something way funnier and more fucked up

#what im saying is that hawkeye is sometimes bj's wife but not in a gay way #it's the opposite in a way of how frank burns desires hawkeye carnally and is so mad about it being really gay #and that hawkeye is queer in a gender and a sexuality way that means he can slide into whatever mold someone else desires #and margaret is a transmasc who will give herself that crew cut when she's in her 60s #and everyone will mistake her for a lesbian but actually she's gay for men #but hawkeye can be a girl for her if he wants #bj and frank both represent the lie of the american dream but in different ways #(that is they both went to war on a promise about smthinsmthin american duty masculinity etc) #but while I'm absolutely on the frank is gay choo choo train #idk with bj it just seems a bit boring as a read to end it there imo #especially as it's generally agreed upon that his character was so broadly written #i prefer to play in that broadness personally but hey if u wanna tag that post as gay bj i get where that comes from #ilke yeah for sure the moustache is gay culture - 70s gay culture #also tbh to get serious for a sec it was very weird getting into the mash fandom while this whole thing was going on #and i think it kept me from getting totally into it from the first jump - lot of judgement on headcanons #lot of *this is all of fandoms opinion on xy thing and if you say something different you're wrong* #lot of treating headcanons and meta as serious discussion pieces rather than just... engaging with a piece of fiction #(this not about analysing outdated elements of the show am talking the character and not-so-serious meta) #all of this to say: pls dont be weird on this post they're called headcanons for a reason #it's 2pm and i am pulling an all-nighter to hit a deadline #we're feeling fragile gents

[weedle-testaburger]

there was a pretty good comment in a strange aeons video i watched the other day where she said 'how much of 2000s humour was just bullying?' and it made me realise something interesting. in the 2000s that bullying was masked as humour, in the 2010s that bullying was masked as activism

#personal crap #and i don't just mean that in a 'people find a Woke (tm) justification to bully people' way #i also mean that in a 'people find a reactionary justification to bully people' way #shit like gamergate and the harassment of women creators queer creators and creators of colour was always presented #as 'getting rid of their agenda' (by pushing your agenda of excluding everyone not like you you chodes) #idk which is more noxious: having serious complaints laughed off by insensitive dickheads #or having them combatted by dickheads elaborately trying to explain they're right actually #i mean the latter really seems to have continued into the 2020s so maybe it's that by default #on a lighter note she also had an excellent take: badger badger badger badger mushroom mushroom is good actually #ik it's just called badgers but at school my friends and i always called it badger badger badger badger mushroom mushroom so i still do

[infiniteorangethethird]

tempted to start a series wherein I analyze the romantic subplots of (non-romance) movies and rate them based on whether or not I, an aromantic, find them plausible

#aromantic #aro #i mean it'd mostly just be cartoons bc that's all i watch but still #this has been on my mind a lot lately #it is. so fcking annoying whenever a romance is clearly just shoved in #and then later everyone praises the movie for it?? what #probably won't actually go through with it but it'd be a fun experiment #and i could finally rant about this bs called romance #queer stuff

[unproduciblesmackdown]

ppl will be explaining how a difference is a difference & not a Deviation from a Superior state, & people who are the ones considered Default Normal (superior) will be like "okay....to be polite....i Might say i consider Some aspects of Some people's existence mere 'difference' & not being less than me...." as like hey i'm a Benevolent god. i still actually get to consider you worse & don't have to "humor" anything that challenges my superiority. if you only want everything to fit into the norm then it will all come back to upholding the norm. thinking of people's analysis of their own realities as equally legimate as being like Obscure, Irrelevant, Superficial & then using that reasoning to justify dismissing them. same as worrying that the [Different Lessers (Others(tm))] as Everywhere = a manifestation of the awareness that, yeah, respecting them as equals Does threaten your norm which is smothering everything everywhere. ppl who need to lock in the idea of Borders around personhood like um Yes they're all delineated separate Identities outside any hierarchy & so i think it's relevant to for some reason push back against "ohh so now Everyone's queer" like why not. why couldn't they be. what if they were. what if queerness was everywhere b/c it's ideological not a cordoned off Alternative Identity that is accommodated by focusing on Love(tm) as the new border around whose existence we might begrudgingly accept at arm's length (i.e. being otherwise "normal"! just imagine swapping out the binary gender (or, deep breath, presumed Private Parts) of one partner in an exclusive romantic lifelong nuclear family marriage, & that is Gay / Trans Rights. still gross but maybe we can do it, as long as they don't talk about it or shove it in our faces or even exist for more than one encounter w/us in our lives b/c what are the odds). evergreen laughing at someone suggesting ableist logic might be embedded in language of past & present b/c it's just So little to ask for that it's irrelevant but it's also So much to ask for that of course i'm not gonna do anything more than pass it along like "this is why i don't take ableism seriously" like yeah it's the disabled randos like it's the individual cringe teens(tm) ruining [the cishets would take Gender seriously otherwise!!!] & that's why you won't think about it or do anything about it & continue being comfortable with the norm & resent that actually their Difference is Less & disability is something worse that ppl "excuse" & all these ways that people are & all these things that they do are funny & weird & inexplicable & etc & one can't possibly be cruising along perpetuating a hierarchy with a sense that you're reasonable, well meaning, kind, etc etc & thus Justified, systemic oppression definitely wants to maximize how uncomfortable & arduous it feels to everyone rather than push to make it more streamlined & rewarding to embrace, or at least accept, whatever superiority over others you're afforded

#circled around to lovelessness as a lens there. so long as one was loving. so long as one wasn't consciously malicious #really just mask off about keeping the same perspective of Superiority when conflating disability & ppl ''making excuses'' #same as like e.g. that ppl consider everything an autistic person does as being Bad / Wrong / Worse. (this includes ''unskilled''!!!) #(crushing the Social Skills(tm) framework in talking abt allistic difference in my fist) #such that they think sm1 saying Autistic!! is then something they might be unfairly Beholden to to Put Up With their Wrongness #at special times in special scenarios....rather than like in some contexts you are no more ''right'' than the other party #different groups & cultures whose Norms Standards & Expectations could render You presumed rude thoughtless pushy etc #obvious overlaps to consider re: the Norms of like english speaking as ''universal'' someone noticeably speaking it as nth language? #time to Presume their ideas & contributions are Less. if they had the good brain like you their fluency would render their linguistic #Wrongness in having a diff 1st language invisible thus irrelevant. like the ''ideal'' for disability! as the ''ideal'' for anyone Passing #in any way! queer ppl surely all want to be as proximate to cishet ideals (just as cishet ppl should!) nonwhite ppl to Ideal White #women's rights = Proving they're As Good As men. ladies you're using too many exclamation points!! be Confident be Pushier!! #but ofc nobody actually wants the Others(tm) to be Equal. they're just saying ''it's your innate Wrongness that means you Aren't'' #the ableism logic in everything. men just Are better at xyz. oh we Can abuse autists...into being as proximate to allistic as possible!! #just actually means ''oh we Can abuse autists.'' the ''correctness'' is your Difference ''intruding'' less into allistic existence #force you to be harmed & diminished all day then save your meltdowns for when you're alone & out of the way #ppl's tweets like ''when ppl say 'omg too sensitive ofc i wasn't talking abt disabled ppl!' like yeah no shit b/c you never think of #disabled ppl'' like yeah most people idk aren't making their life's agenda to stop everyone from saying Stupid #but like believe me people organically sense the Vintage R words when you get called Idiot in exactly the same spirit & purpose #i mean that's so rworded as in that's so gay!! cmon!! & it's fine if you don't say either to gay ppl or. or. [insert the office quote] #oh i don't call um 20th c disabled ppl morons it's bad taste!! but b/c i use it Figuratively in the present it's fine it's so Different #fr i can't remember like. an article w/1 matter of fact sentence from a doctor using a [now Just a childish insult!!] as Diagnostic Label #for someone's disability & it still registered like ice water in the face. presumably no ''especial'' Malice just matter of fact! #it wasn't ''idiot'' it may have been ''moron'' fr. the vintage ''factual'' r word is There plain as day #like yeah ofc the ableism gets channeled into alternate language. & then complaints abt that is like UGH CMON!!! #like idk shouldn't you be fine using the R word then too? not really sweating this issue thee most all thee time either but like #it's not sooo funny even if someone seems pressed extensively abt it. not that hard to in fact just not use all these words all the time #ppl will be throwing out their ableism w/o Any labels talking about how Weird Offputting Etc someone acts so you can Tell they're bad.... #and yeah you should think abt that. anytime. the [difference used to categorize ''other'' is Just difference] Is Everywhere All The Time #the idea it can & should be ''contained'' for especial limited specific occasions (when you're feeling Nice!) = upholding the status quo

[valleynix]

yknow what i’m highkey tired of?

you see/make a post on tiktok (or other platforms) about how the Dimitrescus are gay, or how it’s “kinda” canon that Alcina is a lesbian. the post is funny, you like it/share it, you go to the comments…

most of them are agreeing with the creator! it’s great, it’s utter bliss, the world knows peace for a few minutes.

and if you scroll down far enough, you see it. the men who think anything and everything is for them. they fight tooth and nail to say that the Dimitrescus are not, in fact, gay, and they have to be straight because it “makes the most sense”. “there’s no way the daughters can be fruity in any way, they flirt with ethan! listen to their voice lines!”

can y’all shut up for once. can you let someone just make a haha funny post about characters they personally see as queer without somehow making it about you.

i know i’ve said it before, but i’m just tired of it. someone has an opinion on a character you don’t agree with? move on. the post clearly wasn’t made for you, and it really shows what kind of person you are, if you try to fight with strangers on the internet about a fictional character’s sexuality.

#lady dimitrescu #alcina dimitrescu #bela dimitrescu #cassandra dimitrescu #daniela dimitrescu #resident evil village #also i hate that when i call the girls fruity #everyone just assumes i mean lesbian #y’all can be fruity and not be a lesbian??? #the only daughter i actually think is a lesbian is cassandra #bela is probably bi and dani is just queer in some way #and i’ve pointed that out #but men in my comments get SO mad when i joke that a FICTIONAL CHARACTER wouldn’t fuck them #like hello?? #the homophobia is really showing #AND during pride month? #blasphemous #like i’ve said before #you’re obviously allowed to have different opinions on these characters #like i’ve never once said otherwise #but it does really show what kind of person they are #if they have to come onto a queer person’s post and FIGHT with them about how the daughters are ‘so obviously straight’ #who’s to say they aren’t just playing with their food when they ‘flirt’ with him? #they obviously think it’s funny to get a reaction out of him #anyways #men annoy me and their existence makes me tired #truthfully i’ve really only had this issue with cis men #hm

[kingofmyborrowedheart]

Its literally a fact Taylor is STRAIGHT

You’d be surprised how it’s not to some people.

#asks #anons #got something to say to you* #for Taylor she has only stated to be an ally and heterosexual #but I’d say for other people in general just because they don’t publicly date/been seen with someone that’s the same sex doesn’t mean…. #…that they’re not queer or however they identify let people tell you who they are #I know my friends have dealt with being called not bi/pan/queer because they had only dated the opposite sex #in general I don’t like to speculate on people’s sexuality just since that’s everyone’s own life and usually comes with aggressive claims

[badscienceman]

forever annoyed by the inability to have constructive conversations involving media criticism anymore. I feel bonkers because it's like everything immediately dissolves into reactionary, all-or-nothing arguments that leave me baffled and usually uncomfortable

#personal #thinking about the person who joined the book club I'm in then got mad at the queer and/or poc members #because we were reading a book by a poc author that involved queerphobia #and when this person reached the queerphobic part she just could not engage with it at all #which obviously it's fine #you don't have to read those things #but to accuse everyone reading of excusing queerphobia because we were trying to discuss the context of when and where the book was written #despite the fact we had for like weeks been having very nuanced discussions about this author and his work #honestly mostly calling him a misogynist and queerphobe lmao #despite the fact that a woman from the same area the author was from was there discussing her experiences etc #and then the other side of this is like #you're an sjw if you discuss the implications of how poc/disabled/etc characters are treated in fiction or whatever lmaooo #obviously people don't generally say “sjw” but it's basically what they mean let's be honest #thinking about the person who got mad that I had a rule not to send certain content in a discord server #because obviously that meant I was engaging in (insert shipping discourse) #obviously it meant I disapproved and was being an sjw type #but really it was just that someone helping to mod had trauma surrounding this one specific thing #so when the mad person decided to show me who's boss by sending that content anyway they were literally doing nothing to me #but they were hurting someone else #all or nothing you're not allowed to have boundaries because if you have boundaries it's actually commentary on your stance or whatever #so annoying