#.: Negative :.

[phleb0tomist]

people love telling me not to isolate myself when I’m having a crisis- reach out, don’t hide, etc- and while that’s a lovely sentiment, a lot of people don’t seem to understand what it entails in practice? like they truly don’t seem to have considered that me being open during my mental health crisis will mean them actually Seeing and Hearing small parts of that crisis.

“don’t hide yourself” seems to come with a secret caveat of “but don’t be unpalatable either”. often my openness leads not to support but to an ethics debate about whether it was condemnable of me to let my struggle be slightly visible. interesting. when i wear short sleeves or make casual mention of the long-term aftermath of my self injury, it’s somehow perceived as me saying “self injury is awesome! i think the whole world should do it!” instead of being perceived as me living exactly as i always have, just hiding a little less, bringing you into my world a tiny bit, like you asked. healed scars are the only ones i allow to be seen, i cover up healing injuries and i don’t talk about methods or anything overly specific or sensational. i openly discuss harm reduction measures & therapeutic strategies. but somehow ppl still disapprove of the snippets they see when i reach out.

if you want people to reach out during crisis you have to accept that theres no way for a person to make themselves palatable while theyre showing you their severe mental illness lmao. they’re not going to provide you constant caveats while sharing their feelings like “ive been having trouble coping so i fell back on self injury. but i don’t condone it! YOU shouldn’t do it and I condemn myself for having done it btw! I will never forgive myself for this expression of mental illness, i’m so sorry I revealed it to you.”

this post might be a vent I can’t rly tell. open to conversation if anyone has any similar experiences 👍

#ok to rb #this double bind has been driving me nuts since I was like 14 when I first encountered it #i had this friend who was constantly telling me to reach out and that i can vent to them and I don’t have to censor myself etc #and then when i stopped trying to hide how much self harm is a part of my reality they told me i was ‘promoting mental illness’ #and that i was a monster #this wasn’t even online this was an irl friendship 😭 #txt #mental illness #self harm mention #self harm tw #actually mentally ill #negative #idk if this needs better content warnings

[arceespinkgun]

TF fans on Tumblr when Earthspark season 2 has slightly less impressive animation: This is so terrible ;_; Why did they have to make it so much cheaper and rush it, it looks so BAD I can tell because a character's tires went missing for like ten frames in one shot!!!

TF fans on Tumblr when MTMTE/LL recycled series of multiple pages, panel-for-panel and word-for-word, including in back-to-back issues one time, and every character had the same face:

#transformers earthspark #earthspark spoilers #transformers idw #memes #Yep I'm putting this one in the main tag I can do that as a treat #negative

[dire-vulture]

Honestly it is sad when like. You start actively noticing skinny character design is the default for everything and flight rising is no exception

#skinny characters being the default/standard is just literally everywhere fjskfk #and when there is a fat character its just. THE fat character.. #pheel talk #text post #negative

[rexscanonwife]

Good morning. I fucking hate irresponsible dog owners, if you make your local BARISTA pick up your dog's SHIT then I hope you explode a million times

#jane journals #negative #HELLO. NICE DAY WE'RE HAVING HUH #ok in real life my day isnt RUINED 😂😂 #i used to work at a pet store and it was bad enough there cause we were EXPECTED to do it #even tho it technically was still the pet owner's responsibility #BUT THIS IS A COFFEE SHOP #YOU'RE LUCKY YOUR DOG IS ALLOWED IN AT ALL #I SWEAR DOG OWNERS ARE WAY TOO FUCKING COMFORTABLE THESE DAYS #dont get me started on this one guy who would always bring like FIVE off-leash golden retrievers in #and just let them wander behind the counter as they pleased

[lastoneout]

It's caused me a lot of trauma that I have to unpack but sometimes I find it incredibly funny that my grandma has hated me my entire life for no reason. Like yeah it was fucked up and gave me issues but ma'am you were in your 50s beefing with an entire 5 year old. What the hell could a baby do to make you hate them. Have you considered getting a life rather than insisting that the vibes of a small child are so rancid you want to destroy her with your mind.

I may not be a perfect person but at least I have never irrationally loathed a tiny human for simply existing. It's a low bar to clear but I sure did clear it. Honestly pathetic and hilarious that I'm not even 30 and I have managed to become a decent human and she reached 50 not being able to do the same. Skill issue.

#just journaling in public dwabi #personal #negative #vent

[heretherebedork]

The problem with Mut is that he is a MAME seme and that means he is both absolutely perfect (when he is not with his love interest before they get together) and then an absolute ass with his love interest (before they get together). Which creates an unpleasant dichotomy that makes me uncomfortable because it is basically 'people who are good to others but awful to you are just in love with you and will only get better if you trust them!' and like... I hate it.

#no tags here #negative #criticism #mame criticism #seriously it makes no sense #his dichotomy is so pointless #and appears to already be going away #and it's stupid #the whole southern dialect thing just really got to me okay #i am so frustrated by the idea of not speaking to him and knowing he didn't understand #and just using it to try and annoy him #auuugh

[headspace-hotel]

Oh my god I'm sooooo mad right now

So. I have no business telling people not to collect wild plants/materials.

I do it all the time.

However.

The words "wildcrafted," and "foraged," even "sustainably harvested," are terrifying to see in an ad on Etsy or Instagram

There is a such thing as the honorable harvest where you ASK the plant if it is okay to take, with the intention of listening if the answer is NO. Robin Wall Kimmerer talked about this, She did not make it up, it is an ancient and basic guideline of treating the plants with respect.

Basically it is not wrong to use plants and other living things, even if this means taking their life. But you are not the main character. You have to reflect on your knowledge of the organism's life cycle and its role in the ecosystem, so you can know you are not damaging the ecosystem. You have to only take what you need and avoid depleting the population.

Mary Siisip Geniusz also talked about it in an enlightening way in her book Plants Have So Much to Give Us, All We Have To Do is Ask. She gave an example of a woman who was on an island and needed to use a medicinal herb to heal her injured leg or she would not survive the winter. In that situation she had to use up all of the plant that was on the island. This was permissible, even though it eliminated the local population, because she had to do it to save her life. But in return the woman had the responsibility to later return to the island and plant seeds of that plant.

And what makes me absolutely furious, is that there are a bunch of people online who have vaguely copied this philosophy of sustainability in a false and insulting way, saying "wildcrafted" or "foraged" materials to be all trendy and cool and in touch with nature, when it is actually just poaching.

If you are from a capitalistic culture the honorable harvest is very hard and unintuitive to learn to practice. I am not very good at it still. This is why it is suspicious if someone is confident that they can ethically and respectfully harvest wild materials with money involved.

So there's this lichen that is often called "reindeer moss." It looks like this:

It grows only a few millimeters a year.

This is "preserved" reindeer moss.

It is from Etsy, similar is also sold in many other online shops, many of which have the audacity to describe it as a "plant" for decorations and terrariums that needs no maintenance.

It is not maintenance-free, it is dead. It has been spray-painted a horrible shade of green. The people buying it clearly don't even know what it is. It is a popular crafting material for "fairy houses," whatever the hell those are. So is moss, also dead, spray-painted, and wild-harvested. Supposedly reindeer moss is harvested sustainably in Finland, where it is abundant, for the craft industry. However poaching of lichens and mosses is absolutely rampant.

It's even more upsetting because there's hardly any articles drawing attention to the problem. This one is from 1999. And the poaching is still going on.

There is a "moss" section on Etsy, and it is so upsetting

These mosses and lichens were collected from the wild. Most of the shops are in the Pacific Northwest or Appalachia, which are the major locations of moss and lichen poaching. There are some shops based in Appalachia selling "foraged" reindeer moss.

Reindeer moss may be abundant in Finland, but in Appalachia it should NOT be harvested to be sold on Etsy as craft supplies! Moss doesn't grow quickly. Big, healthy colonies like this took years to grow. Some of these shops have thousands of sales, all of bags and bags of moss and lichen, and thinking of how much moss and lichen that must be, I am filled with horror.

Clubmosses do not transplant well, and these ones have no roots. The buyers do not realize they have bought a dead plant because clubmoss stays green and pliable after it is dead.

This is especially awful because in Mary Siisip Geniusz's book she talked about clubmosses being poached so much for Christmas wreaths that they had almost disappeared from a lot of forests.

I don't even know if this is illegal if it's not a formally endangered species so I don't know if I can report them I'm just. really sad and angry

#moss #lichen #poaching #environment #sustainability #negative

[genderkiller]

hey this isn't like me at all but is anyone paying attention to the fact that they just banned all gender affirming care for under 19s in alabama? is anyone paying attention to us at all?

#serious #negative #trans

[happyherringbonkpickle]

#actually boderline #borderline problems #being borderline #actually cluster b #depressing shit #cluster b #actually bpd #boderline personality disorder #bpd #parenting #mummy issues #mentally unwell #daddy issues #borderline personality traits #trauma #childhood #neglect #negative #mental health #heartbreak

[basi1isks]

in the club straight up squandering it. and by it i mean. my potentioal

#text #mine #negative

[phleb0tomist]

i keep seeing this idea that Real wheelchair users all have custom active chairs, and that transport/standard chairs are just an embarrassing stereotype. “no one really uses those!” “stop drawing disabled characters in standard chairs!!”

well, plenty of us are a stereotype. sorry. custom chairs require MONEY and good medical support. meanwhile active chairs are unusable for some people. i used an uncomfy transport chair (the kind with tiny wheels and no way to self propel) for a year, and a standard chair for 7yrs. until i got my powerchair i was only ever pushed by a carer. a lot of disabled people will never use an active or custom chair. don’t pretend we don’t exist just because we don’t fit some cool independent ideal.

shoutout to people who use transport chairs and adaptive strollers and other chairs that need to be pushed by a carer

shoutout to people who use standard chairs that don’t fit their body

shoutout to people who use secondhand or makeshift wheelchairs

in my teens i literally felt invalid as a disabled person because i didnt have the ‘real actual’ type of wheelchair everyone talks about online. just my garbage transport chair that my mom had to push. ​but people with shitty wheelchairs exist and are extremely common actually

#very specific rant here lol im sorry #it’s not that deep but still bugs me #disabled #wheelchairs #txt #negative #1000

[goondah]

Being aromantic isn't like being colourblind because you "have a narrower human experience 😢" or "you see the world in black and white 💔" or whatever but being aromantic is exactly like being colourblind because most people don't even know what it is and most people who think they do have the complete wrong idea. Because our society is not designed for people like us but no "allies" take our issues seriously. Because I'm still not even sure if people want us in their communities. Because whenever you tell someone you know you're going to be asked the same stupid questions. Because people in fandom love to use you as a cool quirk to add to characters without respecting what it actually means. Because my life would be marginally better if everyone spent just 5 minutes reading about it on google. But hey it's not all negative you also get a unique outlook on life and an appreciation for beauty outside the norm.

Signed, a colourblind aro

#aromantic #aro #colourblindness #colourblind #vent #rant #negative

[ratmans-notebooks]

It has become blatantly fucking obvious that yall are just FROTHING at the mouths for any chance to make fun of transmascs. transmasc music bad because sad ukelele. forcemasc bad because "masculinity isnt as degrading" (fucking hello?? i could go on about this one). blue-green gay man flag bad because Cringe. theyfab cuntboy tboy zippertits. and if we complain we're "men talking over women." i hate it here i hate it so bad. Can everyone get a fucking grip

#squeaking #transandrophobia #anti transmasculinity #trans #ftm #transmasc #negative #ask to tag

[lastoneout]

Ya know when people told me "when you're finally safe enough that you can leave survival mode and start to let go of and process your c-ptsd/trauma things are probably going to get really, really bad before they slowly start to get better" I thought that was reasonable. I did not understand that by "things are going to get bad" they meant "you're going to find yourself in the worst mental state of your entire life, but dw, that means it's working" and tbh I simply wish someone had been more clear.

Edit: If everyone could please take a minute and think about what it must feel like to be struggling and then have multiple strangers say to your face that they find the prospect of going through what you're going through so horrifying that they'd rather kill themselves and then stop leaving comments like that I would greatly appreciate it.

#hply fuck y'all I haven't felt like this?? ever??? #tryinf to be gentle with myself #but I truly feel like I'm made of glass #personal #negative #vent #cw suicide mention #ask to tag

[lumberjackloverboy-moved]

you know when you’re in america when your training modules for being an assistant preschool teacher have how to clean toys on one page and how to respond to a school shooting on the next

#school shooting tw #emil.txt #negative

[steven-myself]

Dandelion Moon - Wilfred Wong by Baldovino Barani x FACTORY Fanzine

#negative #baldovino barani #wilfred wong #wilfred huang #dandelion moon #factory fanzine #beauty #muscle #vintage #long hair men #feather #gender #looks #fashion #thatwilfred #cabinet card #daguerreotype