#(but that's a separate issue)

[statementlou]

i’m sorry to bring this up again, but i wanted to ask how are you making sense of harry having his former girlfriend’s name tattooed on his thigh if you don’t think they were really together? i’m not a larrie and i follow you for your louis content, but i respect your opinions, so i guess i’m coming more from a place of curiosity rather than seeking reassurance. do you not even entertain for one second the idea that you might’ve been wrong about things? that harry was really in a relationship with olivia? that he might actually be attracted to women? that he might’ve been with louis once upon a time but not anymore? have you ever challenged your confirmation bias? again, i’m not trying to attack you, i really just want to understand where you stand. i hope u don’t take this the wrong way.

well first of all you bring up the very good point that there are actually multiple Qs at play and not just one, despite the fandom's (and my) attempts to simplify things. I personally am open to the possibility that Harry and Louis are no longer together- we don't have enough info to say for sure either way about that, and I am constantly recalibrating and considering and I'm going to be totally honest, getting flat out ANNOYED at how often I find myself being like oh damn they ARE still (or again) together ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? Because it seems so improbable and illogical! You think I don't KNOW I sound fucking crazy?! Absolutely infuriating, and yet there are just all these little Things all the time. Plus ofc the fact that they both constantly wink wink larrie stuff to the fandom which could just be playing to the crowd... except then they both continually take it that little extra way that makes me go oh but... you really didn't NEED to go THERE that seems VERY pointed?? But also sometimes I go well. Okay, maybe not. Since they both seem super happy at this point, it doesn't stress me out to think they might have split, the way it would if they seemed miserable and were still churning out heartbreak songs, but it's schrodingers relationship and with all the savvy they've acquired around this stuff and all the balls they're keeping in the air wrt to fandom etc that's unlikely to change in favor of us knowing anything for sure for a very long time, if ever. But I do not doubt that they WERE together, it's simply not realistic. The evidence of it is overwhelming and imo undeniable when taken all together. And the thing is that knowing one thing with certainty (that they were together back when), having really looked at the things that happened during that time, does actually have a lot of bearing on the rest of it even if they aren't together anymore. Because knowing that and having seen the way fake relationships to make them seem straight were managed back then means that when I see the EXACT SAME things being done in the current day, like they are working from a fucking blueprint, no, I don't look at that and think it might be real. I know that Louis and Eleanor wasn't real in... whenever they allegedly got together lol, that story still isn't even quite straight, so why would I believe they were together in 2020? And if I know Louis has a tattoo for a fake girlfriend why would it change my mind about a million things I can see with my own eyes if Harry did the same (if indeed he even has who tf knows)? So despite what I said at the beginning, in the end it kind of does just come down to the one question people are always asking, are you a larrie? Because when you've actually been down the rabbit hole of details that ends up with you saying yes to that question, it's like acquiring a rosetta stone that unlocks the ability to read everything else, like putting on xray glasses, and I look at what is so obviously a publicity relationship (holivia) and whether H and L are still together has nothing to do with why I don't think it's real. Like could a celeb relationship be both used in typical ways for publicity and be or become real on some level (looking at you Liam, heyyy), sure, but for this question the fact that I have never seen Harry show the slightest sign of attraction to a woman in his whole life and he so clearly embraces and identifies so strongly with gay male culture in every possible way and never shuts up about how much he loves cock does play into my thinking; I simply do not think he is attracted to women, no, and I have yet to see him do anything that doesn't seem consistent with things a closeted pop star might chose to do. So in conclusion yes I have challenged my bias and decided I'm right lol! But for real- all the time I consider that they perhaps aren't together but that isn't really the point when it comes to believing they are gay.

#I feel like the follow up anons to this will logically be SO WHY NOT BRAD so lemme just jump on that cause I don't really want to #have a whole thing about that #honestly for me it's WHY BRAD. It makes perfect sense for him to be with harry all the time (and therefore for them to borrow each others #jumpers yes) so why would I think they were dating any more than I think H is dating his security guard or luis. the fandom just latches #onto the idea that people around them who they think would look hot with are a thing but other than that literally NOTHING about this guy's #association with H is actually different than many other employee/pals imo and I see literally nothing that suggests anything going on ther #so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ #I mean I DO think Harry has weirdly fluid boundaries around considering his employees friends in a way that seems like he doesn't #really GET the power differential possibly (because how could he he's been on that side of it his whole adult life) but I'm not there #behind the scenes with them; hopefully that's not the case #but that's a separate issue #blah blah blah #long post #I TRIED to keep it short and tidy but NO people gonna ask the long form questions #which btw I appreciate I do enjoy a good thoughtful anon thx

[thebreakfastgenie]

That post that's like "What was Sherlock doing in Superwholock? I know the answer is queerbait but," is annoying!! Doctor Who did not have a queerbait ship! The biggest ships were Ten/Rose, Eleven/River, and Amy/Rory which were both het and varying degrees of canon! Jack Harkness kissed the Doctor onscreen!!! Doctor/Master is a great ship but it wasn't the big one in the Superwholock era and it only got even arguably queerbaity when Moffat made it canon while the Master was in a female regeneration and the Doctor was in a male one which happened well after the Superwholock era.

#also sherlock and supernatural weren't queerbaiting you either you did that to yourselves #but that's a separate issue

[maddiemuu]

this is not an issue where anyone is in the wrong but man i wish it was easier for me to find posts abt being aromantic on here that weren't from ppl who were also asexual or like. very young teenagers lol. i just cannot rly relate to a lot of them :,)

#maddie meows #i do sometimes see ppl kind of. conceptualizing aromanticism as inherently tied to asexuality. which bugs me #but that's a separate issue #anyways aroace ppl i love you dearly. and i'm very glad all these teenagers are so proud of being themselves. big thumbs up from me #but it can feel a bit lonely to scroll through that tag and see like. nothing that i feel personally applies to me lol #these r not like. serious issues or things that profoundly affect me i just love to complain <3

[burningfestivalpersona]

Probably the best part about Digimon translations being... remarkably inconsistent... is that you can use whatever mix of English and Japanese names you want and nobody will dare call you out on it so long as you stick with whatever names you’ve chosen throughout the whole thing. If the franchise itself can’t bother to keep Omegamon/Omnimon consistent, then why should you?

If your mix is particularly strong, you might want to remove the term ‘Ultimate’ from your lexicon, because whatever level you use it for is bound to confuse somebody, but enough context should honestly be enough to straighten that out.

#digimon #translation #some minor characters couldn't even keep the same name between seasons of adventure #and then there's the games #which are even worse #because apparently #at no point did the translators sit down together #and hammer out 'we are using these pronouns for this character' #but that's a separate issue

[elementalladymallorie]

I am having a conundrum about my current chapter for my One Piece fic Small Moments and Small Gestures that Make a Home, which is Jinbei's chapter too.

I have two options to go with for it.

One has the potential for comedy, but I'm not sure if it makes the most sense character wise.

The other has more emotional impact, maybe a little bit shaky on the in character aspect, and I'm worried about the way to write it a little too.

I keep going between them, because both would fit the vibes of the fic. And I have ideas how to write both options out. I was considering making a poll to help me decide but I'm not sure.

#saph rambles #I'm still debating on making the potential 11th chapter too for sunny #but that's a separate issue #one piece

[thundersnowstorm]

age gap discourse is so funny. i told my friend about a crush i have on some guy who's four years older than me and they were like hmm, bit of a problematic age gap. yes tis i, the 24 year old minor.

#the actually problematic part is that the crush is my boss #but that's a separate issue #personal

[astraltrickster]

This post is your reminder that you are not obligated to blog about current events.

Things are bad. Really bad. Do not let people guilt trip you into tormenting yourself even further over the fact that things are bad. Doomscrolling is not activism.

If you're just on tumblr to blorbopost or reblog pretty pictures, you are not harming people by inaction.

You are not a bad person for not dedicating every aspect of your life and leisure space to whatever disgusting mask-off attack on human life and dignity some government has decided to enact.

Take action where you can, but don't confuse doomscrolling and digital self harm for action.

If you need to lose yourself in blorboposting, go for it.

If you need to log off for the day, whether it's to take irl action or to protect what little sanity any of us have left over the past 7 years, then by all means, do.

Morale is important. Hope is important. Small joys keep us from burning out completely in times like this. Do not let any "if you don't reblog this I'm judging you" guilt trip convince you otherwise.

#serious tag #current events #im gonna be offline for the day working on making doll clothes #this is why i keep my blogging and my activism as separate as i can #and only talk about the dynamics of big irl issues as they apply to hobby spaces most of the time - #because i know myself well enough to know that i WILL fall victim to the doomscrolling cycle #it's happened before and im not going there again

[thehardkandy]

find a job today that makes me go "oh, awesome! im perfectly qualified for this" only to see the posting closed several days ago without being taken down. foolish.

#dear employers: take down your posts #also dear employers: hire me #but that's a separate issue

[demigods-posts]

call me crazy if you want. but i would love to see percy and sally go to therapy together. because these two have so much to unpack. the trauma. the codependency. the separation anxiety. the unspoken, pre-determined grief sally refuses to talk about. the unspoken, blood-coiling anger percy refuses to address. the potential is there. and i need it so badly.

#they were all each other had for years #and there is so much love there don't get me wrong #but it also had the potential to become an issue #their codependency comes to a halt after the titan war #then the separation anxiety immediately replaces once percy returns home after the second war #an interesting dynamic is at play #percy jackon and the olympians #pjo text post #pjo #pjo headcanon #percy jackson #sally jackson #percy and sally’s relationship is actually everything #percy and sally #percy and sally is an anazing mother-son duo

[uncanny-tranny]

Social transition being seen (by some) as this super easy thing that isn't as hard as real transitioning (medical) is bullshit. Be critical of the idea that there are some trans people who just "have it easy" because they are trans or because they are trans in ways you may not be.

Social transition is just as difficult, hard, and rewarding as medical transition. Maybe it is not as hard for some, sure, but that is not the same as thinking that social transition is inherently easier or lesser. If you're socially transitioning, your voice still matters.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #not to mention that so many people DO want to medically transition but *can't* #so it can be even harder for some when they feel social transition is their only option when they don't want it to be #but social transition carries its own risks and challenges and again rewards #and i've seen this idea plenty where it's like 'oh you don't GET my struggles because you're SOCIALLY transitioning' #and while yes i am different than some trans people to say i'm struggling *more* if i'm the only one medically transitioning is??? huh???? #i don't buy into this idea that social transition is never scary because you don't have the boot of the medical system on your back #(though non-med or pre-med transitioning people still face issues in medical settings so even THEN we aren't seperate) #like there's very few ways you can separate my issues as a medically-transitioning person and the issues of somebody who isn't... #...and by that i mean there's few ways you can separate our issues so that mine trumps theirs or that i'm seen as like... trans but More #does that make sense? #medical transitioning is important but that doesn't mean it is *more* important or that only *it* is important #you can support us who are medically transitioning without erasing the experiences and struggles of other trans people #and plus... so many of us who are medically transitioning NOW are the people who socially transitioned THEN #and dare i say i despised social transition more because of how hard it was? medical transition has been (more or less) easier... #...in that i can just *be* now

[thepuffingice]

I don't see posts all that often about it though I'm sure they exist and are worded much better than this, but an integral part of destigmatizing disability is destigmatizing disability you find personally gross.

People with full bowel incontinence. People that drool. People that stim by picking their nose or eating their hair and skin. People that can't shower or bathe without help, if they shower or bathe at all. And while I hate to put them on this list, I've seen how they've been talked about, obese people are included.

These people are just as deserving of respect and accomodations as any other disabled person.

As this post leaves my tumblr bubble please, if you live in the United States, sign this petition to update the ADA's accessibility guidelines to include mandatory companion restrooms with adult changing tables.

#chill out ice #disability #this is a whole separate point but someday I'd love to just outright say that i have occasional incontinency issues #without having to skirt around it by saying 'i also have other more embarrassing impairments' because thats just a dumb thing to say #addendum in tags since this is already leaving my main sphere: #if YOU think incontinency and such is embarrassing can you imagine how anyone EXPERIENCING it feels? you think we *enjoy* it?

[keferon]

OKAY I FOUND IT. PROWL WITH HIS PET FLYT He called her Green…..because she’s green….I gotta tell I feel his naming skills on every level

Bonus: the table flipping scene I found along the way haha👍

#ref #maccadam #prowl #Green #ehehehe #Reminder for the future me - this isn’t the same canon as mtmte this is separate timeline called A Bold New Era #issues 5 #20 and 30

[midnight-roses-candy]

Actually very tired of how much femme4butch erotic material depicts all the butches having dicks and all the femmes having pussies. For one, as a top-leaning femme who has a dick I’d like to feel represented once in a while; but for two, the idea that masculine = has a dick/is a top and feminine = has a pussy/is a bottom really isn’t as progressive as you think it is.

#also forever tired of the conflation of dom and top/sub and bottom #but that’s sort of a separate issue #lesbian nsft #vent #femme4butch

[zaruba-needslove]

Due to recent issue with some people arguing about how ‘AO3 should have algorithm’ and such... I feel like these tweets need to be shared out more. Saw this tweets thread by chance and I had to admit it's a great advice esp on fic writing or fanworks in general.

[Edit] Also since I noticed this post blowing up, if anyone ever tell you that AO3 doesn’t have a function to RECCOMMEND fics you like to others or read other people’s fic recs on the site point them to this post.

[Edit 2] Check source for the original tweet.

[Edit 3] Not OP, but usually when ppl talk about ‘rude or demanding comments’ it usually refers to those that tend to message fanwriters to write according to what they want to be either on the flow of the plot, shipping, etc to the point of harrassment/toxicity. And that would make writing not be fun anymore for some. 

#fandom #twitter #i mean #it's not that i can't relate cos I was young once too #and used to obsess about getting kudos and comments #but new kids need to understand that there's a reason why fic archives shouldn't work like socmed #ao3 #psa #self reminder when I get concerned abt kudos and comments again #also if you really want ppl to notice your fics... you can actually... promote it? #also in response to 'rude comments' it's more on situations where strangers demand writers to write according to what the readers want and n #or demands asking writers to create something when they didn't want to #which can be excessive #that aside I don't understand why ppl are relating this with published books etc #cos then that'll be a separate issue

[klaxustarah]

While I'm glad that I have a hobby that isn't screen based(namely Yugioh), it is way too expensive

#personal warks #granted i have no impulse control #but that's a separate issue

[spitblaze]

I will say this once because I'm tired of seeing stupid discourse: anti-transmasculinity is not about being treated bad because we clock as men, it's about being treated as stupid little girls because transphobes think we've been tricked into this.

It's kind of the opposite of transmisogyny- instead of fear and revulsion, it's constant condescension, the implications that we've been whisked away from femininity by scary bad guys, that we're going to cause 'irreparable damage' because we don't know what's best for ourselves, somehow. People fearmonger a lot about the "ugliness" of transfem people, but for transmasc people that 'ugliness' is used as a warning- you'll look like THIS! You'll go BALD! Your top surgery scars will leave you MUTILATED! A lot of aesthetic concerns. Worry about our 'beauty'. Because it comes from that same stupid reactionary 'we gotta SAVE the WOMEN' shit, but this time they have to save them from getting 'stolen away', as if we're being seduced or pressured into this. As if we can't make our own decisions.

For TERFS specifically, they're losing one of their own. We're 'gender traitors', willingly aligning ourselves with the half of the population they consider unilaterally dangerous and evil.

We aren't REALLY trans, we just want the benefits that men get. You don't actually want to transition, you're just trying to avoid misogyny.

You aren't actually a man, you're just a self-loathing lesbian.

Why can't you just be a butch girl? Why can't you just be a tomboy?

Why can't you just be something that I don't think is icky?

Anyway. Like all things, it boils down to misogyny. Women stupid and gentle, dont know what best for them, evil men trick into taking man juice, must save because lady stupid and dont know what best for them (having babies and being Feminine).

Theres like. Obviously more to this but I'm just a Transmasc Rando explaining this from my perspective, and I'm not the best with words. Anyone is free to hop in and add on to this

#long post #transphobia #spitblaze says things #anti-transmasculinity #several disclaimers #i do not think misandry is real. #i think stigmatization of masculinity is real with a lot of women and terfs specifically #i think a lot of people whether they know it or not consider men to be inherently 'bad' #i think men are very often treated as emotionless and 'tough' by default which causes a lot of issues #but thats not anywhere near the level of misogyny. its a separate issue and not related #im not trying to say that trans men somehow have it 'worse' than trans women?? what would thay even accomplish. this isnt a pissing contest #and even if it was I'd lose #and my wording isnt the best bc this is a Midnight Rant and not a scholarly article #if you want to pick a fight about semantics consider that theres a good chance that i genuinely didnt realize what i said #anyway uh. yeah. this discourse is dumb i cant belive its happening #and i especially cant belive how bad people are at articulating the actual point of the matter #(not that im one to talk lmao) #doin numbers