#'neglect' my ass

[hippo-pot]

just learned how cochlear implants work. even more disgusted now with the contingent of people who insist that *not* giving a deaf child a cochlear implant is somehow neglect

“i’m fine with - actually, insistent upon - making permanent medical alterations to children as long as it benefits *me*, not the children themselves” - asshole proverb

#a) you're signing up for at least one CI-related doctor appointment per year for the rest of your life #and constant maintenance (changing batteries etc) #not to mention the huge initial investment of like learning how to interpret the sounds which takes months #b) up until now getting a CI was guaranteed to destroy any residual hearing in one ear #so if you don't like how the CI processes sound uh too bad you already gave up some of the ability to process sound the way you're used to #(i guess there are new surgery techniques now where this isn't necessarily the case) #c) it's surgery! surgery is invasive! period! #imo this is absolutely something where you can wait for the kid to be old enough to decide for themselves #'but it works better on little kids -' literally don't care #adults get them all the time #it's fine #d) being Deaf is not akin to neglect jesus fucking christ #as long as they have consistent access to communication (other people who sign) they're not being neglected #cochlear implants also have really varied results #so it's likely that you'd just be signing the kid up for working really hard reading lips the rest of their life #and doing speech therapy for years #when easy communication via sign is Right There #like why not let your child take it easy????? like let them have a nice easy childhood? #'neglect' my ass #i actually do think it's fine for a parent to decide they want their kid to have a cochlear implant #i mean idk. i'm no expert. just seems fine to me #as long as they also provide an environment of signing so the kid doesn't have to constantly struggle or lack communication #i'm just saying that parents who opt out of CI for their kids should not be demonized

[t1koy-roll]

Petey's Spider Experience

#tumblr im so sorry i have neglected you i just discovered mutual interacting on twitter #the image quality of my posts suck ass there though #like. my stuff looks legitimately bad on twitter. fuck u muskrat forever and ever </33 #atsv #across the spiderverse #spiderman #spiderman across the spiderverse #spiderverse #peter parker #peter b parker #miles morales #spider gwen #gwen stacy #ghost spider #spiderman 2099 #miguel o'hara #my art #willy's chocolate experience #glasgow willy wonka experience

[ineed-to-sleep]

Commission for @kywrendrawsthings of their tzimisce Lenore(and her little rat Rosa :'] ) 💕✌🏻

#tzimisce #vtm #commissions #vampire the masquerade #sleepyscribble #q #MAN have I been neglecting posting on here #I miss posting and interacting here sm :c it's just that stuff irl has been kicking my ass lately #so many new problems and emotions dklhghd I'm still getting my bearings on how to handle everything #but I miss posting on here 😔 I really do #anyway I loved working on this commission!! always love it when I get the opportunity to draw someone w their pet 🥲

[batrachised]

I actually managed to finish rainbow valley this week, and my hot take is that Mr Meredith is not seeing heaven 😭

#saintly my ass #the level of neglect is not winsome

[epickiya722]

You know what's messed up about people hating on characters who cry? When the character actually has legit reasons to cry! Some of them be put in life or death situations! AND BE KIDS!

I don't know about the rest of you, but I would cry every single second if I was Midoriya. Like, folks be calling him a "crybaby" in a derogatory fashion but think about all he has gone through.

You really think you wouldn't be crying, too? Be honest, be honest. Even if you don't do it right in front of people, you would cry behind closed doors.

#bro had no quirk got bullied over it had even adults treat him like crap #gets a quirk and OOP! afo wants to take it he has to train for the quirk to adjust to his body #bro has witnessed death fought villains had an assassin after him #hell the villains tried to kill him during the training camp arc... well he was on the hit list #neglected his health and wanted to protect those he held dear #but yeah midoriya is so annoying because he's crying 🙄 #MY GUY I WOULD BE CRYING TOO IF I HAD TO GO THROUGH ALL THAT AS A TEENAGER #I'M SURPRISED WE DON'T HAVE A LOT MORE TEEN PROTAGONISTS CRYING THEIR ASSES OFF #just kiya's thoughts #bnha #mha #boku no hero academia #my hero academia #midoriya izuku #izuku midoriya #deku #it's appreciate midoriya hours folks!! #💚🐇👊

[therooknook]

Typical Parisian behavior

#twisted wonderland #twst spoilers #rollo flamm #twst rollo #glorious masquerade #twisted wonderland spoilers #twst masquerade #my art #I really like how the flats and line art came out so posting them too :)) #If someone had told me a month ago I’d be drawing a full colored piece of twink frollo id have said they were insane #…sighs #poor Rook my beloved I’ve neglected him so much but inspo strikes where it strikes #It’s so funny looking at the difference between Rollo when I first drew him and now #in any case if someone wants to unfollow or block me because of the Rollo content that’s okay #I understand if some people are just uncomfortable with him as a concept #but his presence is gonna be pretty neutral/positive on my blog because I really enjoy his character so this is a heads up #with that said why is it always the weird ass French boys for me #I can’t escape #I’m having so much brain rot for this event it’s unreal #I really hope the tension carries all the way through and there isn’t some light hearted cop out that happens near the end #honestly a Rollo overblot would be very cool but I wonder if that’s too many assets for one event #although… they did give Rollo a bunch of sprites and even a VA so who’s to say 👀👀👀

[starjunkyard]

Cannot stop thinking about how charlie dalton is a rich boy ohhhhhhhmygod hes an old money boy of COURSE he is. OF COURSE HES A RICH BOY OHHHHHHH. FUCK YOU

#charlie dalton #dps #johan's mindpalace #I will. Writeabout this #ONE DAY #Oh my god his cocky ass demeanor his mannerisms the way he acts out his pawkish wit #Im so crazy about it and i. dont even kniow why #Oh my god it makes his caharcter nmake so much more sense DUDE #Something something neglectful family is why charlie acts out #blabla materialistic values running in the family but charlie treasuring his friends and love and community more than anything SHUT UP #EVERYONE GET OUT #johan being crazy about dps #dead poets society

[hussyknee]

I've been having a severe PTSD episode for over five hours and it never registered because spending half the day in helpless fits of obsessive, murderous, paralysing rage is the nothing out of the ordinary for me. "Oh, I'm just an angry person like that" yes because I'm constantly triggered, retriggered and retraumatized by living disabled and dependent on Satan, who happens to be my egg donor.

It doesn't seem like I'll ever really internalise that these rages are PTSD episodes, especially since I'm a woman and therefore socially conditioned not to harm anyone except myself (that's a privilege reserved for six foot cis het men in charge of families who do the traumatizing). But in case it does anyone else good to hear: you aren't an "angry person". You have Complex PTSD. The rage outs are the exact equivalent of panic attacks and disassociation that Hollywood likes to show. The need to FIGHT is as a visceral, animal, instinctive and uncontrollable as the need for flight, to fawn, or to freeze. You aren't angry. You're fucking terrified and trapped and very, very ill.

#it's really apparent rn because instead of my usual suicidal ideation at this point #I'm fighting irrational fears of mum hurting or poisoning my cats #to be clear: altho i no longer put anything past her #it's the thought of the woman getting off her ass enough to arrange a poisoning or feeding an animal of her own bat is whats laughable here #also whatever she does it can't be something that would make her face up to the fact that she's foul #poison is too merciful and straightforward. she prefers criminal neglect and emotional vampirism #you wouldn't think a disabled old woman living downstairs could possibly be this much of a festering black rot on so many people's existenc #when she dies they're going to promote her to a head torturer on arrival #abuse #complex ptsd #complex post traumatic stress disorder #anger issues #gaslighting #emotional abuse #child abuse #parental abuse #actually cptsd #knee of huss

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

I'm at a point in my life and where I feel the way I feel about my parents and I refuse to let anyone guilt trip me or shame me for it.

#abusive parents #venting #my parents had NO business being fucking parents #legit wish i was raised by my grandparents #they were always better parents me and my siblings than our actual parents #yeah I'm ungrateful #i don't give a fuck what my parents did for me and my siblings #They're disgusting horrible people who irresponsibly had three children and then abused and neglected them all their life #you people who blindly defend parents can kiss my ass

[jinxed-ninjago]

I love it when I say "Harumi was never evil but her actions were" then get people accusing me of saying Harumi's actions are excusable because it reminds me of this twitter meme

"I don't think Harumi is evil but I'm also not gonna defend her actions because her actions are absolutely evil" "So you think Harumi's actions are excusable?" no i think she's a deeply traumatized person who lashed out violently because her adopted parents neglected her and she basically blamed lloyd for having ever been neglected in the first place which made her lash out violently even more

#lego ninjago #ninjago #ninjago harumi #harumi jade #tw child neglect #i say she blamed lloyd for the emperor and empress neglecting her because she blamed lloyd for her bio parents' deaths #which comes off to me like shes also indirectly blaming him for the neglect she suffered #anyway good vs evil is a nuanced topic and harumi is a fascinating character in that regard #youd think ninjago fans would know that good vs evil is a nuanced topic considering its 90% of what ninjago is lmfao #like yall theres a difference between 'excusing someones actions' and 'i used this scene to explain why harumi turned out how she did' #WAIT do i get accused of excusing harumis actions because people hate crystalized??? is that whats going on???? #because the scene i use to explain myself is from the second to last episode of crystalized??????? DID I JUST CRACK THE CODE????? #anyway. evil actions dont make an evil person. thank you for coming to my ted talk #and yes this is a hill i am willing to die on before anyone asks #ALSO ALSO something being justified doesnt inherently make it excusable. even then im just covering my ass. i dont think she was justified

[stealingpotatoes]

Idk if Ur with the AC fandom anymore, but if you were to make a game what era would it be in and who would the protagonist be? An existing character or an oc?

EASY! MY NUMBER ONE WOULD BE EARLY AUGUSTAN ROME/ AUGUSTUS' RISE TO POWER!!!!! bc that's a DIRECT sequel to origins but is the hidden ones' first real defeat n stuff and also i love augustan rome so much. with either aya or my (slightly neglected) oc sabinia who's aya's protege as protagonist!!!!!!

#also this is rlly funny timing cause tomorrow's queued Art is asscreed LOL #u knew... we braincelled... #i dont have any other ideas cause asscreed's already covered the rest of my fave historical eras LOL #thanks for the ask! #sorry sabinia i have neglected u. i vaguely remember her story but it sucked ass so im choosing not to try remember it better #but i <3 origins sm and i <3 aya sm and i <3 rome sm

[aquilamage]

I haven’t been insane about Vi enough lately so time to pour out some random thoughts. free association thinking time:

been thinking about her “It's my savings. I wanna be rich, okay? So I can travel, eat well, buy cool stuff… So no one can say I can't do something!” And none of the following will really be insightful or revelatory because it’s just what she says here but. yeah! that’s vi! the main reason she’s so big on money is because she has to be to get what she wants out of life! it’s what lets her say no to people telling her what to do, and that’s important to her because she has no choice but to be independent and support herself. because no one else will. No one at the Hive had anything positive or supportive to say about her being an explorer until she went out and did it (to a ridiculously successful degree, too. I have to wonder if/how it might’ve differed if she was on a regular accomplishment level team. not the one leading them all to the mission to the Hive). she never had a choice not to be. I could also see that being a little part of why she starts out not really being a teamwork person. past experiences have taught her she can’t rely on anyone else for support. (does make me wonder about what if she’d met Chubee before leaving the Hive. obviously she still would’ve left, but how might even a bit of support have changed other things?)

I feel like we don’t talk about the fact that The Beemerang Is Also Knives enough

ok so at one point there was this post talking about people with money and how it affects their life like. if you can afford to get a nanny then you can only do the fun parts of childcare and when you stop feeling like taking care of the kid you can just hand them to someone else to take them away. and again likely not especially revelatory but I would guess that’s the kind of way queen bianca handled the bees as her daughters (she does care about them. absolutely. but not in the same hands-on attached way as we usually associate with parents) and thinking about how that kind of treatment would then apply to vi....hm

in universes where discussions of Gender and Pronouns etc happen I think she has moments where she gets frustrated with the everything of Being Referred To and Having Complicated Identity She Hasn’t Quite Figured Yet and is like. gender is cancelled how dare you refer to me. but especially anyone else calls me a girl ever i will be stabbing them

also I think a lot about what circumstances she finds out about gayness/Gender being things. and whether she’s thought about it in herself before and whether she’d been dismissed on it/told it wasn’t a thing etc. most circumstances she ends up angry about the finding out times because of (un)consicious internal conflict stuff

underground tavern stuff implies she was definitely doing quests and stuff for money with them precanon. would kill to know what specifically it was. but also the first talk with utter implies that she was doing stuff off that questboard as well which is even more intriguing. utter’s spy also implies you don’t have to be an explorer to do them but otherwise you would think you did I feel. so again very curious what was up there

#inspired by that girl blorbos post and also me trying to think about where in the game they drop facts and such about precanon stuff w her #the urge to try and fic about the stuff between her leaving the hive and showing up at the association....strong again #'the hive didn't do anything' my ass. vi might have also been a jerk but it's just that she was the more obvious #easily labeled incident version of it. she was active while her treatment was the subtle passive neglect type of bad treatment #complex situation and also. yeah #an aquila original #vi bug fables #bug fables #also featuring funky gender lesbian stuff because thats not even headcanon. to me #hopefully the reasoning out stuff doesn't just come out like a load of nonsense #vi's one of those characters where I definitely feel comfortable in writing her on a basic level but some parts I'm super insecure about #and the part with her is in really capturing the complexities of her backstory and family issues #and the thing is it's like. I have to remind myself that some parts of how canon did her on that are actually decent #and I should pay attention to those complexities. but then also canon definitely did some of their 'this hasn't really been earned' #resolution stuff on her. mostly thinking about the postcanon dialogue with Bianca. it's jsut too much of a jump for that for me #and it's not even that I necessarily think bianca's dialogue is out of character. it's that I'm contemplating whether it would've #made more sense for vi to get angry about it. like. #ok so. sometimes i think about what coming out to my family might be like. and I've come to the conclusion that if they were just accepting #despite the fact that it would be best case scenario I'd be angry about it. because they've said some shitty stuff in the past. in general #they've made me feel unsafe about myself. so no actually you don't get to just suddenly be chill about it now fuck you. #it doesn't change the past hurts #and I could see Vi being like that too. even if part of her is happy about getting what she wanted to start with she's pissed about #only getting it now. with a side helping of also wondering if the approval /now/ is only because she's been so successful about it #what if she hadn't been so specially favored by elizant? what if she hadn't been on the team that saved the world? why did she (maybe) have #to earn the approval she should've had from the start? #also not gonna get into this one right now but tweaking her story with jaune to acknowledge that theyre both at fault in different ways #(again). would be nice #but now I'm definitely veering into repeating myself type rambling territory so

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#tomorrow is the WEEKEND WOOHOO!!! #that means ill have more time and energy to devote to making texts ahshshshs #i dont mean to neglect y'all works just been kicking my whole ass this week smh #but its ok bc imma make up for it! mwah mwah!!! #puffy posting! (⁠ ⁠˘⁠ ⁠³⁠˘⁠)/*⁠♡ #also im not giving a timeframe on these so no one gets disappointed abshdhsh

[motherhenna]

wanted to share an almost full-body pic for the first time in probably almost a decade because for once I'm actually proud of how I'm progressing and think that the changes I'm making will end up being permanent bc I'm genuinely enjoying them. Plus, the few selfies I have shared over the last five years have been very photoshopped and at flattering angles, so I feel like most of y'all don't know what I actually look like. So this is me in my children's theater teacher fit last monday!

I'm 17 lbs down from my highest ever weight, but my trainer thinks I'm probably up at least ten to fifteen lbs in muscle. I'm cooking my own food, eating more reasonable portions, and going to the gym at least five times a week because I want to, not because I feel shame or guilt. And now that I'm working as hard as I am, I'm a lot less triggered by looking at new pictures of myself because I know I'm doing my best. I'm still obese, and probably will be for awhile more, but I'm starting to appreciate what I look like and feel like. And hopefully it'll just get better from here!

#weight loss cw #sorry if this sounds super corny lmao #I probably sound so neurotypical rn but I swear I'm being totally honest #I'm obviously not turning this into a weight loss blog or anything but expect a lot more documentation of my journey going forward! #and if you don't like seeing this stuff I recommend blocking my 'personal' tag because I'm going to be talking about this a lot #I've struggled with my weight since premature puberty hit me like a truck in 4th grade so this is a big deal for me #I just wish my pediatrician hadn't treated me like shit for it because maybe if she'd approached me with compassion #I wouldn't have spun off the rails as much as I did #but either way I'm a grown ass adult and I did this to myself #so I'm the only one who can get me out of it #if you're also fat or fatter than I am please dont take it personally #but for me fatness is a physical manifestation of my long term neglect for my health and struggle w mental illness #and I want to get better #personal

[oak23]

Randomly just remembered how one of my ex housemates acted like I was the crazy one for not wanting to leave the back door fully open when no one was at home because she thought it would make her dog sad being locked up inside or outside for hours at a time when we had lived on a busy highway in a populated area.

#the dangers of anthropomorphising your pets to the point of endangering other people lmao #that and the fact the back door was left open to the point rats were running in and eating out of the dog bowl #the fact I wasn't fucking told about this i just came home and thought we were robbed #then was told that they had been doing this behind my back because it was easier than consistently walking their neglected ass dog

[masquenoire]

That feel when your muse is capable of committing the nastiest, most horrific deeds but simultaneously can be wholesome af. Roman would absolutely be the type of parent who'd stop in the middle of torturing somebody just because his child woke up crying due to a nightmare, clean himself up and go comfort them until they fall back to sleep again before heading back to the torture chamber and picking up the scalpel while being all "Sorry about that, remind me again where we left off?" as though nothing happened. 🥲

#💀 || musings #!shitposting #Just a silly thought that popped into my head while at work this evening #I am absolutely blaming optimisticrobin for this btw #And honestly because it's something Roman actually would do #His parents abandoned him constantly leaving him to be a very emotionally neglected child #Pretty much everything they did was how NOT to parent #So Roman would actually be there for his kid even if it's something as stupid as a nightmare #tfw I crave the cursed content but also wholesome #Roman is so fucked up it's not even funny but at least he'd be a decent dad to his kid #torture tw #torture cw #ANYWAYS I HAVE 2 DAYS OFF #And I plan to spend them productively #If I don't do at least a couple of responses tomorrow pls kick my ass somebody #There is so much to do and I can't just keep saying I will do it when I don't #Feeling better in all areas though! #Should be semi active at least tomorrow #Housekeeping is paid for snacks are bought