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universalitgirlsblog2 · 26 days

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💗🍰BECOMING SELFISH IS THE BEST THING I DID💗🍰

This post is my notes of thewizardliz video of the same topic as this post . I always tend to lose the notes I make 😑, so I thought that I should make a post on this ( lol )

💗STOP ARGUING WITH PEOPLE WHO AREN'T WILLING TO LISTEN

If the boundaries were crossed, the conversation is over . They aren't worth your time or energy.

🍰START PRIORITIZING YOUR OWN NEEDS & WANTS

" Whatever I want , goes first ". Fill your own cup first, Are you whole ? Are you okay ?

💗STOP BEING ALWAYS AVAILABLE & TRYING TO SAVE EVERYONE

You cannot save everyone. To be honest , you cannot same anyone . If a person does not want to change , if a person doesn't want to be saved,you will not save anyone & just end up losing your energy.

🍰SOMETIMES YOU HELPING IS ACTUALLY SABOTAGING GOD'S PLAN

People get certain problems / situations in their life because God gives them , it's for them to go through. So they can become wiser & fulfill their life purpose. If someone is stepping in & trying to be their savior , they are sabotaging God's plan & blocking their own blessings.

💗START BEING OKAY WITH PEOPLE MISUNDERSTANDING YOU

They don't have to understand you. It's very reasonable they don't understand you , people have come from different countries , culture, environment. They don't have the same mindset or heart as you. You cannot make them understand you because they aren't you. If you constantly go through life thinking everybody has the same heart as you , you will be hurt . People are different. Let them be.

🍰REALISE THAT YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOURSELF

Humans love comfort. In order to change, it requires alot of courage , strength & discomfort. If you are constantly putting your energy trying to change people , to become their best version. You are wasting your energy that you can use to become your best version. Lead by example .

💗STOP NEEDING PEOPLE TO VALIDATE YOUR SELF WORTH

You don't need anyone to tell you how good , smart or beautiful you are , if you already see those qualities in yourself. If you only feel that you are a good person when someone else tells you that you are a good person, if you need validation from other people , then you are just a slave of other people because their opinion can change your reality.When you are the one who always creates their own reality. You have to be strong in your own self , tell yourself how amazing you are.

🍰TALK TO YOURSELF , TAKE YOURSELF ON A DATE , HUG YOURSELF , COMPLIMENT YOURSELF

Say in the mirror how amazing you are to yourself.

💗LESS CHASING MORE ATTRACTING

Tune in with your feminine energy . Be relaxed, just do what is good for you & your body. Become open to receiving to your blessings & manifestations. If you aren't desperately chasing after things , then you are really whole.

🍰ONLY ADDING GREAT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE

Allow people who add value in your life. Do they make you happy ? Is it a both way thing ?.

💗STOP SEEKING PEOPLE'S PERMISSION TO DO WHAT YOU WANT.

You don't need anyone's permission to do what is good for yourself. You know yourself well enough. " I know I can do it & I will do it " . Others opinions should be irrelevant to you , how cocky people can be to think that they know you better than you know yourself. They haven't gone through anything you have gone through. They haven't lived your life so who are they to decide what is good for you ? " Mmmm..none of your buisness ,goodbye "

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sukunasweetheart · 7 months

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the urge to throw trueform sukuna into the shoujo manga genre....

(fem!reader, sexual undertones towards the end)

it would be so funny yet so beautiful...i also think he would look so great in that flowery, feminine kind of artstyle <3-

in terms of cliche shoujo love interest, he's a lonely immortal god who is against everything that supports the notion of love... until he experiences what true love is like, for himself. you're his little servant toy that he mingles with for some time, until he realises something's wrong with his heart...

i love him for what he is, but wouldnt it also be lovely to see him in a softhearted story?? the almighty and powerful, but grows weak in the knees all because of one woman!

one day, imagine if he, the most renowned selfish man, with complete disregard for others, who had always valued himself vastly more than anyone else, comes to a point where he sees you in the way of an unstoppable attack from the wrath of an enemy, and rushes in to tank the would-have-been-fatal strike in your stead...

it happened in an instant. he didnt even realise he was moving until he had already been hit. he's bleeding for the first time in a thousand years. he's hit, and it should hurt, it should feel unpleasant, because he certainly wasnt planning to be hit, nor did he engage in this fight for his own pleasure, but for your protection.

yet, he feels relieved. you're tucked behind him safely, looking up at him with worried eyes, and he feels relieved, all because a weakling like you is alive.

after he sends you away to uraume (who gives you the stink eye), he promptly kills the opponent but becomes a little weakened temporarily afterwards as a result of the powerful attack

he's absolutely grumpy about having to be bedridden for a few days for recovery, often stares down at you with unreadable eyes, like he's in deep contemplation about his own feelings

oh fuck me, he thinks, when he finds himself wanting to comfort you as you're in tears over him, even though he's the one that's hurt.

its a confusing sensation, feeling like shit but also not hating everything about being in the centre of your concerns. look at you, feeling so guilty, so worried sick, fussing over him. as you should. he mulls over the incident where he uncharacteristically jumped in to protect you... but he's not one to over complicate things for too long. he'll just continue to do as he pleases, just like before. and if that involves showing you some affection, kissing you, holding your hand, shielding you from his woes... then so be it. if he's the strongest, if he's a god, shouldn't he also be able to save such a frail thing as you?

he orders for your presence in his bed to keep him entertained, but he doesn't even say a word when you're there laying next to him, he's only just staring at you and giving curt touches, like your body is a plaything to him. maybe palms your thighs and breasts, but it doesn't feel sexual at all.

"it's not so bad, having you in my debt," he suddenly says, as sukuna plays around with a lock of your hair. these new feelings he harbors, intrigues him just as much as they irritate him.

"i do owe you my life..." you tell him in response.

"so you're aware. and? what will you do about it?" he asks you.

"i'm not sure, my lord... what would you like me to do?"

"how sly of you, turning the question back onto me."

he thinks about it for a moment.

"well, i suppose there's nothing you could offer me but yourself," he says as he slowly undoes your robe, the other free hand grabbing your face.

"...and your everlasting devotion, to me."

as he's about to sit up to continue, your tiny hand pushes against his chest in resistance.

"you mustn't exert yourself, your wounds are still healing, my lord," you protest, much to his annoyance.

"cease your fretting. movement of this degree isn't enough to hurt me," sukuna sighs, grabbing your wrist and pinning it down against the sheets.

"i... i can do the moving," you tell him with determination, which earns you can amused smile.

"...oh? now that's certainly worth considering," he says, slowly letting go of you.

you carefully get up to straddle the larger man, sitting yourself down on his hips.

"alright then, my brave little devotee. entrance me."

and you do just that for him, all throughout the night. (it wasn't the first time, and it certainly wont be the last)

sukuna learns all about how some fragile things are worth keeping around.

at first, the relationship revolves solely around his own pleasure and satisfaction. but as the ice begins to melt, he sinks into a trap in which he's seeking more and more to keep your own happiness and your beautiful smile in place. he begins to hurt when you're hurting. it was exactly as he feared - his life becoming molded around one singular person who's somehow crawled their way into his heart-- his heart that should've been sealed tight.

at times, when his teasing goes too far, and your bright expressions dissolve into sorrow, his own mood drops considerably and there comes seeping in a crushing feeling in his chest.

he lifts your face up by the chin and says; "i'm only joking. don't make such a pitiful face."

but when he realises that you were merely feigning your hurt, giving him a little cheeky grin, he flies into a quick, but playful anger.

"you little minx. i've spoiled you a little too much haven't i? you're getting ahead of yourself."

he proceeds to lift you up into his arms, an extra hand keeping your wrists together, as he aims to litter his bite marks down your neck and shoulder.

"aah! forgive me, my lord!" you exclaim, writhing around in his tight grip.

but there's an audible giggle in your voice.

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punkpandapatrixk · 2 months

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💝Valentine & White Day Love Transmission ♦︎ Timeless Pick A Card

In Japan and Korea, Valentine's is when femmes give gifts to hommes; and exactly a month after that, on March 14th, the hommes return that Love with white (preferably) gifts that are expected to be at least three times the value/price of whatever gifts they’d received from the femmes😏

Traditionally it’s kinda like that. Hmmm… isn’t it obvious the celebration has never had quite any meaning in a country such as Japan and that the festivity is nothing more than a heavily-commercialised youth-tradition focused on the pursuit of shallow material desires?🤮

But…I guess it’s OK; because it’s cute anyway🥴

Within the context of this reading, the Valentine and White Day Love Transmission imparts the perfect synchrony of the Love shared by the Divines Feminine and Masculine. It is when affection is given and returned in Love and everything becomes beautiful and worth living for~💝

SONG: Space Orphans by Aoba Ichiko

MOVIE: Peter Pan (2003)

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Pile 1 – Don’t give up just yet; I’m on my way!

8 of Cups Rx, 4 of Pentacles Rx, Knight of Cups Rx

Darling, are you on the precipice of giving up on me?! Do NOT settle for someone—ANYONE—who’s NOT me! OMG, babe! I’m coming! Divine Timing is just being a bitch but I’m on my way to you!🦎Well, the thing is…we both have this annoying thing called a spiritual transformation… Until that’s happened—and nearly completely—we can’t be together just yet. But wait, I promise you it’s all worth it in the end🎁

I mean, why wouldn’t you wait for someone like me? I’m romantic; kind and sweet; I AM RICH; and I will always be there to protect you—I intend to always be your confidant and best friend🥰I will never betray you in any way. I’m your best friend who will skip right next to you on our way to beat up a bitch; figuratively, babe—I’m not really the type of person who gets violent LOL

What I do mean is, I want to give you a Life in which you cease to worry about small things. I want it to be that when you’re with me you no longer worry about a lack of means, a lack of warmth, or a lack of security. You’re somebody who deserves to be loved and to be very happy; and I want to give it all to you. And that’s why it’s important for me to become the best version of myself first😝

I’ve got to admit I’ve not always been the nicest, goodest person to have walked on Earth. I’m changing my ways, you know. I’m growing up; I’m developing; I’ve now been awakened and I’m still working on me, so that when I finally meet you, I will not disappoint you. Because I will never want to be a reason you stopped believing in the good of people😤I intend to be the complete opposite of that.

Fall in love with me, my dear. Fall in love with Life again when you meet me. Life is an adventure and finding me has got to be the greatest story ever told. I’ll tell you all of my crazyass stories when we meet. And I’m longing to hear you talk of your losses and triumphs. We’ll both gaze at the stars and wonder how they aligned to have us meet in this lifetime. I will be so grateful.

You know, generally speaking, I’m somewhat of an extrovert and I socialise well and I think quite positively about people. Maybe you will worry that I’m a playa of sort but right now, let me promise you this one thing: I’M NOT! I’m friendly, my love, but it doesn’t mean I wanna fuck somebody who’s not you. I dunno, I kinda have the handsome face of a smooth operator but on the inside, I’m really NOT!😩I’m really quite romantic and I believe in true love.

And honestly, at this point in my Life, I know you’re out there being all destined for me. You’re all I want. I’m on my way. So don’t you settle for any low-quality slob. Get ready, baby~ KNOCK KNOCK~🪄🚪

A LIFE WITH YOU, MY LOVE🔻❤️

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Pile 2 – Everybody finds Love in the end; you included~

Ace of Cups Rx, 7 of Cups Rx, 4 of Wands

My Dear, I know Life has not treated you too kindly and your heart’s been broken too many times. It’s been pretty much like that for me, too! I’ve lived a very lonesome existence, wondering where my people are. Wondering if I’ll ever find Love in this lifetime. I know now that those whose hearts are tender find it harder to truly connect with someone. We’re not BROKEN! No, we’re not! The ‘problem’ with us is that we crave soul-deep connections~ And damn, that’s rare, indeed🍀

You know what I’m doing right now? I’m single as a pringle. I’m not opening my heart to anybody. My colleagues all think I’m crazy, offbeat, and even difficult, just because I ain’t settling. Tch, I’m the only one noticing all of their subpar relationships, and some of them are not even the slightest bit happy with the partnership they’ve got. I don’t want that. For fuck’s sake I DON’T want that, ever! I’ve always had this strange, inexplicable feeling, that people are supposed to marry whom they love.

I want LOVE. I crave that shit so bad I dunno what I’m gonna do with myself🙈

One thing I know for sure though: if I’m not with you, you who are just like me, everything in the world is pointless. There is only calm in my world when I’m thinking of you. I don’t even know who you are; but I get optimistic every time I indulge in thoughts of finding you. I… fantasise a lot…?🌈Do you ever think about me? Does your heart bloom with a peculiar kind of softness when you touch upon my consciousness?💫

I am out here in this Star System. Dream of me. Want me more. And believe that we can manifest each other through resonance. We are so much closer than you fear us to be, my Dear. You have to believe in me. The Stars have begun to align and Earth’s temperature is nearing just right🍵Our time is here :D When dreams become Reality and all that’s ever been sad turn to glory, what would you do?

I know what you’re gonna do: you’re going to be married to me😝We’re going to start a new chapter of our lives together and be very happy and abundant. I’m gonna help you prove everybody who’s ever hurt you, gaslit you into believing that you’re hard to love very, very wrong😒All of that gas, when I light the match, is gonna burn their entire house down!🔥

OK, I’m a bit crazy, but anyway—

You do know that good people always find Love in the end, right? That’s just how it always is in fairy tales. You know fairy tales are more real than any of Hollywood’s propaganda, right?🐵Right??🙊I love you. I have loved you for what feels like an eternity. Return to me now. Come home to me, my Love. I am You; you are Me. We’re going to turn everything back to balance; we’re gonna create Heaven on Earth; a harmonious Life of you and me; so have faith in us~🎎

A LIFE WITH YOU, MY LOVE🔻💙

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Pile 3 – You are someone’s Dream Come True; you ever thought about that??

9 of Cups, 2 of Cups, King of Cups

You, are someone’s Wish Fulfilment; you ever thought about that? No, of course not; you only thought about yourself and how lacking you are as a person blablabla😡Don’t you know there’s a little someone walking this Earth who’d be SO glad to have you in their Life? Yup, that someone is ME😏You are a treasure of a gal/boy and if you’ve been surrounded by fools who can’t see that, it’s because you’re meant to travel the world and meet me~!

Have a change of scenery; you aren’t meant to thrive and live and die on the land you were born. When you cross borders and seas and realms, you’ll meet people of other cultures and points of view who are going to be more appreciative of the good you’ve been mocked(?) for🥰I promise you, babe~ You are where you are (or were) only because it was part of your Soul’s contract to learn about contrasts.

When all’s said and done, you’re going to be THE most interesting person anybody could listen to!🍿I, for one, could listen to you aaalll week long if you ever want to HAHAHA

My heart right now is like half-full, babe; I’m still waiting for you to appear in my Life. You probably won’t like hearing this because you’re independent, and you’re strong, and rebellious, but… I want you to be mine!🌹I don’t mean that I wish to suffocate you, no, it’s not like that at all… What I mean is, I wish to be the only one who could make you happy, for that would make me feel special🌞

I know I’m silly, I’m sorry~🥰I want to bring stability and certainty into your Life; that much I can say with clarity, for surely, you and I, we’re going to be pouring into each other’s Cups. We’re gonna be the kind of couple who can read each other’s minds and burst out laughing when we see something only we find funny without even exchanging words😂All of that, because of shared empathy~

Honestly, I couldn't care less for all the treasures in the world; I only want you around. Maybe that makes me a romanticist? Hm, that word doesn’t quite encompass all the feelings I have for you. All the things I wish to share with you. All that I’d do for you. What I know is that this is no mere romance; I LOVE you, you know? It goes so much deeper than that🌊

I’m mature, nurturing and caring. Find me, my Love. I’ll nurse you back to health—spiritually and everythingally; I’ll be the reason your faith in Humanity is restored. Actually, it doesn’t even matter; I just want you to trust in me, see yourself through my eyes, see how wonderful of a being you are. I want you to trust in yourself. You’re so fucking special. You’re MY very special kind of Wish Fulfilment☃️

A LIFE WITH YOU, MY LOVE🔻💗

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xxlovelynovaxx · 4 months

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The whole point is you don't know if they're fem cis men. You don't know if they're trans men. You don't know if they're trans women deeply closeted for their safety. You don't know if they're trans women whom misgendering will drive them further AWAY from their egg cracking and harm them. You. Don't. Know.

Misgendering is bad. "Clocking" someone is bad. Making assumptions about someone's identity and then turning it into a "joke" is bad. What's funny about misgendering someone?

Also, this discourse is literally in the context of the queer community. It's literally in the context of the queer community having an antimasculinity and gender essentialism problem. It's also in the context of gender stereotypes and the fact that smelling like flowers or painting your nails making you a girl doesn't become less of a harmless stereotype because it's a trans woman saying it. Like oh wow we went full circle from "girls play with dolls and like pink" to "trans girls play with dolls and like pink". Congrats on alienating every non-femme trans woman and femme trans non-woman.

It's not fucking transmisogyny to tell you not to misgender people or assume liking frilly things makes someone a girl. It's not fucking transmisogyny to tell you that the QUEER and especially TRANS communities have an issue with valorizing femininity while demonizing masculinity. It's not fucking transmisogyny to acknowledge this while acknowledging that actual transmisogyny demonizes transfemininity while infantilizing and erasing transmasculinity.

I'm putting the word transmisogyny on a high shelf until the rest of y'all learn what it actually fucking means. Transmisogyny isn't when an entitled white trans woman gets called out for doing actual harm. Like "joking" about misgendering someone. Or "joking" about being racist and going through a "nazi phase". Or "joking" about "raping cuntboys". It might be affirming that some queer people take your white woman's tears at face value, but here's the thing:

You're lovely women who deserve to have every access to transition, to resources, to be treated equally to cis people. You're just really fucking shitty people. You're bigots, you're cruel, you're cliquey, and you're like every boring high school mean girl who never grew out of pettily bullying other vulnerable people to get over the pathetic inadequacies of your own life circumstances.

People like that deserve community and kindness too. They also deserve not to have their behavior tolerated and to have to deal with compassionate rehabilitative justice. Those things can both be true, especially when the people they are hurting explain until our throats are raw how they're hurting us and they just keep doing it. Because the thing is, it's not actually about any "societal pressure to transition", and the fact you think it is shows you haven't listened to a single actual criticism anyone has had of the whole "egg discourse".

Other people have already explained more patiently and eloquently than me what exactly the problem with calling someone an egg is. I'd think you'd be concerned minimally with how it hurts actual transfem eggs more than anything, even if you don't care about how it very much does hurt transmascs and GNC cis men and the movement of transfeminism as a damn whole to insist "haha liking fem things=woman".

Explain what's funny about that. I'll wait.

Anyway, this was reblogged from someone I long ago considered a friend, someone I thought was better than this. I really thought most trans people were better than this when I first entered the community. I still hope some are. You deserve to be told that this is wrong, because you deserve to be reminded that you're better people than this kind of bullshit.

-your utterly over it neighborhood intersex transneufemmasc

#I AM a fucking trans woman and you'll never fucking convince me that joking about misgendering people is okay #regardless of their actual identity #or that joking about clocking people is okay #or the harm this does to actual eggs is okay #or the harm this does to transmascs and GNC folks is okay #or the ways this sets both cisfeminism and transfeminism back to the fucking 90s at least is okay #y'all are as bad as bigoted comedians clinging to the same unfunny jokes and crying bigotry just bc people tell you it's bigoted #like seriously y'all fucking get over yourselves #discourse cw

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taurusreads · 11 months

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what do they want you to know?

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messages from spirit, a significant other,

passed loved one, etc.

pile one

overall energy: king of swords

im sending masculine energy straight off the bat here. that doesn’t mean that the person is male per say, just that they give off more masculine energy than feminine. i think this could be someone that you used to talk to, and are possibly talking to again, or someone that you’ve just been having more contact with as of late. this person could have heavy air placements.

i think that there could have been a falling out at some point, and the blame is more so coming from their part. they feel guilty, and want you to let them back into your life. i think they could want a second chance if they get close enough, whether this be platonic or romantic. i think at some point during your separation you had a leveling up, and they definitely noticed that.

i think this is more of a message to say call back your power. if there was a choice that your gut has been forcing you to make, or an idea that won’t leave your head, then go for it. trust the voice in the back of your head when it tells you something. the only opinion about you that should be important to you is your own. the only person who you should need to be happy for you and routing for you is yourself. your own thoughts and opinions will make you feel more than anything anyone else says.

channeled messages: purple, black, self help, self sabotage, relationships, 555, masculine, karmic, meditate, reading, educate, progress, air signs, air placements, family, reliance, love, hugs,

pile two

overall energy: the tower

i think that you might have just come out of a hard period of your life. whether that be coming of age, heartbreak, grieving, etc. you’ve been through it for a while now, but you’ve finally come out of the worst end of it. i feel light, like a weight was taken off of my shoulders finally.

i think you should take some time to take care of yourself right now. stay in this unbothered phase for as long as you can. take note of how you feel, how your body feels, your emotions, etc. how do you feel day to day when you feel this good? enjoy it because i feel like there was a period when you wanted something so bad that you couldn’t let go of it. not being able to let go is going to be your worst enemy. the outcome you want will come so long as you affirm it. if you believe it will happen, then it will happen. don’t cry over spilled milk, there’s better things in store. step into you masculine energy. we all have it in us, there should be an equal amount of masculine and feminine. you have to balance out yours now. you may have gotten what you wanted, but thankfully, the work doesn’t stop here. start figuring out what it is you want out of life next.

you’re starting to take the time to figure out what it is that you want out of life exactly. you’re leveling up in a new way because you’re starting to learn what it is that life means to you. this beautiful energy needs to be accompanied by hard work though. it’s time to put in the extra work to get the things you really want.

channeled messages: yellow, release, 999, “leave the past in the past and start anew”, empath, meditation, manifestations, “you ask and you shall receive”, friends, self love

pile three

overall energy: the hierophant

i think you’re a very patient person. your someone who values their work and education heavily, you may even be interested in teaching as a profession. i feel like you’ve been in a beautiful time of your life for a while now, and you’re happier than you’ve ever been. there’s a certain relationship that could use some work possibly, as far as communication goes. im getting masculine energy from this but of course, that does not mean they are a male.

i think you’re protective over your energy in a very healthy way. it’s very hard to get into your inner circle but that’s because your energy is so special that you can’t afford to give it away that easily. i think someone around you really admires that. they love the way that you can stay unbothered and keep pushing forward towards your goals. you just seem to keep going up up up and they’re soooo proud of you. i honestly think you’re a little surprised by yourself as well. but soak in this feeling. enjoy the fruits of your labor. treat yourself, have fun. you DESERVE IT.

you don’t have to be so humble. you did something that many aspire to do, and many don’t have the courage to. you faced your demons and used the newfound strength to build yourself up into a new person. you didn’t change who you were, you just became assured in who you were. but i’ve never said that it was wrong to be a little vain sometimes. we all get to have our moments, you included. it doesn’t make you mean, it doesn’t make you stuck up, it just makes you confident. now im not saying flaunt it all the time, but do things out of the ordinary that are tailored to YOU and what YOU need. have a whole day dedicated to the things you want to do and how you want to take care of yourself. you deserve to enjoy the rewards you reaped from working so hard.

>>:((((( SPOIL YOURSELF!!!!!

channeled messages: green, 111, princess, lighting, mother yourself, follow your heart, you’ve made it, believe it, spoiled, im seeing the pinterest core with the sparkly dresses and designer handbags but it’s blurry and shit, solo dates, find inspiration, we’re all routing for you :(

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helianthus-tarot · 1 year

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LOVE: How to make them fall in love with you

This can be applied to any romantic interest, but it's mainly for crush. People deserve to be loved for who they are, however this reading is for those of you who want extra ideas about how to attract your person. Keep in mind, just because you follow the advice it doesn't mean they will definitely fall for you (people have free will and can ultimately decide), and this reading does not say anything about whether the relationship can last or not. Don't use the information to harm anyone, because someone else will do the same thing to you.

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Think about your person and focus on the topic. Take your time. Choose a number/picture that you feel the most drawn to or that you can’t stop looking at. Trust your intuition. May the message resonate. Let me know which pile you choose!

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Qualities that you have: Queen of Pentacles (2 of Pentacles)

You are sensible; you probably show your love through acts of service. Practical. Many of you also have some kind of pride in yourself, you know your worth and you don’t have issues acting like it. You don’t necessarily show off your value (what you bring to the table, what you have, what you can do, etc), but I don’t think you would hide it either if someone asked about it.

Qualities that they like in a person: 2 of Cups (The High Priestess)

They like a deep, deep emotional connection. The type of connection where two people are almost telepathically linked, intuitive to each other's needs. Very intimate and almost otherworldly. This person probably likes the idea of having a soulmate. To compare this with the qualities that you have, while you do have that nurturing quality, your brand of femininity is a lot more grounded and less emotionally expressive. Like water and earth are both feminine signs, but earth influence is more practical, strict and direct than water influence.

What you can do: The Empress Rx, Knight of Wands Rx (The Star)

Don’t come into their life acting like a boss bitch; you know that stereotype of an empowered person who knows they are the shit and act like it? There’s nothing wrong with this per se, but this person is more receptive to the idea of a fateful connection; something that is being orchestrated by the Universe, that “accidentally making eye contact through the gap in a bookshelf and being struck by a sense of familiarity and intrigue” kind of thing. So don’t pursue them boldly. Don’t make your interest very clear. Don’t try to appeal to them by showing off what you have, don’t try to prove yourself, even if it is true that you are a great catch (I’m telling this especially to Leos out there). Don’t act like it. Be humble.

What you should do instead, is plan your encounters like they are destined. "I like this person so I strategically place myself in their life"; showing up at the right place, interacting with them with the right balance between attention and distance, making things look accidental. This is like being friends with your crush’s friend and attending the friend’s soccer game (fully knowing your crush will be there too) and wearing an indie band shirt (the band which your crush likes). And wait, you don’t start the conversation, your crush does. Obviously they won’t be able to stop themselves from pointing it out, because nobody knows that band! And then the crush tells you that the band is set to perform on the weekend in your city? Wow what a coincidence, sounds like a perfect ‘let’s go there together’ idea. I hope you got the picture.

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Qualities that you have: 7 of Cups (Judgment)

Do you have Scorpio/Pluto influence? I'm feeling more Scorpio/Pluto but this could also simply be water influence. You have layers to you; depth of experience and feelings. You have probably been through difficult experiences that almost felt like death and rebirth. Your life may be full of stages like this; where something starts and ends with you having to change yourself to survive it. So you may also have multiple sides to you. For example, you have softness to you and yet your words can sting. This is like someone who does charity at an orphanage in the morning and kills criminals at night lol. That polarity, you seem like you have opposite qualities in you but if a person goes deeper, they will be able to see how every side of you connects to one another.

Qualities that they like in a person: 10 of Swords (Page of Wands)

The person you are thinking about probably has Scorpio/Pluto influence too, because this person is attracted to people who have been through hell and back and survived that. Imagine someone being pushed into a well and having to climb back up with dirt and blood under their nails and on their fingers; your person likes that kind of rawness in a person. But they also like it when that persistence / tenacity are accompanied by optimism. The optimism that they like feels more determined, it’s like someone who has rotten luck in life says “this good thing will happen for me” or “I am determined to be happy and no one can change that”. They like people who don’t give up, who continuously move forward no matter what life throws at them.

What you can do: The Hermit Rx, 3 of Swords (3 of Cups)

If you have those qualities, which I think you do, show those qualities to them. I know people who have been through that kind of experience tend to prefer being alone or being a lone wolf. But if you want this person to fall for you, share those parts of you. Show how much pain you have been through. Don’t trauma dump all at once of course, share your story when it is not awkward or sudden to do so. Stand solid in your truth. Share your hope too, the positive things that you still believe in despite those difficult things. Share your deep insights and opinions about life, these things can allude to the pain/challenges you have been through, which is the point.

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Qualities that you have: 7 of Cups, Ace of Pentacles (The Chariot)

You have the guts and the persistence to make your dream a reality. You are resourceful; you have the ability to find a way to achieve/build what you want in your life. You also follow your ideal/vision, some people may see it as you following a pipe dream, but to you, what you can imagine/visualize is something that can be real. So you generally behave that way. You are hella persistent with what you want. There are two groups here, some of you are the type to overdo it. And some of you may be a bit sporadic with it and dreamier, since you have a lot of things you want to experience/try, a lot of dreams here. It is giving that “I want to be an artist, I also want to volunteer at an animal sanctuary, I also want to write a book sharing things that can emotionally move people, I want to teach, I want to become this and that” and so on.

Qualities that they like in a person: 2 of Wands (The Lovers)

They like people who really seek to live life; people with a life purpose/vision, people who seek more from this life (more than the material things), people who walk on the path of self-actualization, people who are future-oriented. They like people who seek to better themselves, people who follow their own hearts and have their own opinions about the world. Those people who talk about the meanings of life.

What you can do: Justice, 4 of Pentacles (10 of Cups)

If the first part of this reading resonates with you, keep doing that. But when you approach this person or seek to form a connection with them, keep in mind several things. The first thing is have moral/principle and stick to it, be honorable and treat them fairly. It is something they can respect, it shows that you are intentional in the way you live your life which is what they like. Also when building this connection with them; be reliable, clear and purposeful. Take things step by step, build layer upon layer; be friends first, have a simple interaction first before a deep one, but always be clear with your intention and your end goal. Remember that they like people who are future-oriented, people who think ahead.

Don’t be all over the place, be careful with starting things and not finishing them since this shows that you don’t think things through before you commit yourself. Be unmovable, but don’t be too stubborn to the point that you refuse to see reason. You can show those qualities that they like first (remember to be authentic), and after a while, it may be good if you just straight up confess to them and state your intention (but without pressuring them); eg. "hey, I just want to let you know that I really like spending time with you and I've been interested in you for quite some time now, would you like to go out with me?" something straightforward like that. Have good intention.

PILE 4

Qualities that you have: 9 of Pentacles Rx, 9 of Swords (King of Wands)

You have big desires, and you have the potential to achieve what you want. But at the moment, either you feel like you are not enough, or you have not quite established yourself yet– you have not made your vision a reality. Mostly because you are being held back by your own insecurity and self-doubt. Some of you probably have a low self-esteem, which makes you overthink your abilities sometimes. Imposter syndrome. You are very in your head instead of focusing on the things that matter. You probably have a habit of overthinking about whether you can achieve your goal or not (or whether you deserve to pursue it or not) while not actually doing anything that can practically help you achieve your goal. So as a result, it takes time for you to actually bring your desire/vision to fruition and experience the abundance that you have the ability to create.

Qualities that they like in a person: King of Pentacles (Knight of Wands Rx)

They like stable people. Someone who is reliable in every way, sensible, level-headed. Someone who seeks things that last instead of brief entertainment or things with no future. Someone who can build and bring abundance into their own life. They like people who are not impulsive, people who are capable, measured and composed. People who take life seriously and don’t waste time on things that don’t matter.

What you can do: The Tower (5 of Cups)

If you find the first part resonates, then the advice for you here is you have to change. You have the potential and the ability, I mean, you got 9 of Pentacles and King of Wands despite the reversal. You may want to try getting rid of the things that are holding you back. The 5 of Cups in this deck really reminds me of the "is the glass half empty or half full?" proverb. Is the glass half empty or half full? It depends on how you look at it. So things that may need to be changed here are your mindset, how you interpret a situation/challenge and how you see yourself. After you get over your self-doubt, imposter syndrome, lack of self-worth and so on, you will be able to step into your ability to manifest and make things happen for yourself, which will bring you the abundance that you are very much capable of.

Do this for yourself, really. If this person falls in love with you after your transformation, then good. If not, then you won’t be losing anything much, you will be a better person. I feel like this change that you are advised to undertake has a bigger meaning in your life journey as an individual.

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astroismypassion · 2 years

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Astrology observations 🫂🫂🫂

Credit goes to @astroismypassion

Mentions of s*x

🫂 Sagittarius Mars is truly the definition of catching flights and not feelings. If you have this placement, you care more about adventures, having genuine fun and being content than a long-term partner. You might leave a partner just because you are not content and happy with them since you value happiness so much.

🫂 With Libra Chiron or Chiron in the 7th house you might not have unhealthy marriage per se, but you might fall into pattern of parent-child dynamic with your partner.

🫂 So we all heard the narrative that your crush, fling, short-term partner is shown by 5th house, long-term/committed partner by 7th house and your marriage spouse by 8th house. But we don’t always connect with Sun sign that fall in one of these three houses. It could be just traits or personality of that person. But when it comes to 8th house and future spouse, I disagree. I noticed the most people marry their Saturn sign or the sign of the house Saturn is in. So if you have Saturn in the 2nd house, you might most likely marry a Libra or Taurus Sun. If you have Saturn in the 4th house, your partner can be Cancer Sun. I think this is due to how stable and consistent your relationship with them is and you also have the willingness to work through challenges.

🫂 Man, my sympathy goes for Scorpio Venus women. You might have often not felt like “a real woman” or how you think women are perceived in the society, is not something you can engage with. Like Scorpio Venus might feel insecure or even have lack of self-esteem due to not having “enough feminine” traits, like small chest for example. Or “my legs are too chunky”, “my arms are too masculine”. You might tell them that it’s alright, but they are usually so self-conscious about it that they end up bullying themselves because of it. 🙁

🫂 If not that, Scorpio Venus women might reject the idea that worth of a woman is largely attached to her looks and beauty and always staying youthful or not show signs of ageing (like grey hair or having wrinkles, experience hair loss).

🫂 Venus in the 6th house can be a tricky house position, even when in the sign of Taurus or Libra. You might only be intimate and vulnerable with a partner for shorter period of time. I noticed an average person with this house position usually can be in a partnership for 2-3 years and hardly more, because they lack patience for it due to how unstable they are.

🫂 When you are studying your natal chart, look at aspects to your Sun sign. So if you are Taurus Sun, study closely aspects to your Sun, which planets you have over your 2nd house and the sign that is over the 2nd house. For example if you are Cancer Sun, but you have Taurus Moon in the 2nd house at 12 (Pisces) degree, you feel more like Taurus and Pisces Sun almost. Or you could resonate with those traits better.

🫂 I dare to say that Venus in the 11th house, Libra or Taurus over the 11th house, Aquarius Venus and Venus at 11 (Aquarius) degrees etc. are somewhat similar. In the fact that they like to shock or surprise those around them with their choice of lover. They might choose the odd one, to prove that what they value the most is INCLUSIVITY. They often felt rejected by the community or friends when they are younger, so when dating they pick someone to prove that they can accept anyone in their circle.

🫂 This might be controversial, but I think the real Capricorn Venus with the typical traits you might think of, is in reality a Cancer Venus. Those people will have a crush on their childhood crush for 15 years and after that time STILL say they are in love. They cling to the love of god to that childhood crush partner even years later and it’s hard for them to let go.

🫂 Capricorn Venus or Venus aspect Saturn, Venus at 22 degree women can often step in the “traditional” male role in the relationship (bringing flowers, paying for meals, providing for partner) sometimes almost unknowingly and it might become more apparent with years.

🫂 However, Capricorn Venus men can sometimes use women (Venus) or even their friends to get what they desire. However, this is mostly with young Capricorns.

🫂 Pisces Venus women always seem to attract people, especially men when dating, that they need to pay for them on dates. 👀 This may or may not apply for Venus Neptune aspects too.

🫂 People with major Libra or Cancer placements might orgasm in the post sex cuddling since that is the time the hormone for bonding releases for them. They really value bonding time more than actual physical act no matter how good it is.

🫂 Capricorn Venus people similarly to Libra Venus look for the “upgrade”. They will leave you if they see something that they deem is better. They are secure that the other person will accept them. Or even people that make them look good “by association”. Capricorn Venus man often loves a career-oriented woman and Capricorn Venus woman loves being the career woman herself. Also, these people will go for someone that SOCIETY respects. Pretty looks might be just fine for a while, but they want that lawyer, that professional in their field that the society respects in the long run. Because for them it’s all about what makes them look respectable in the eyes of society. There Capricorn Venus can often be found in relationships where both people are lawyers or lawyer doctor relationship.

🫂 So you know how Libra and Taurus Sun get a reputation for being good at partnerships and romantic relationships? Um, I beg to differ. Their Sun literally “burns” their romantic partnerships, that’s why they might have a hard time keeping one without losing themselves, end up in toxic dynamic. To me this is definitely not a good sign. Because Sun shines so bright it “burns” everything it touches (Taurus/Libra rules by Venus so it “burns” your relationships). So you might actually struggle to maintain your romantic partnerships or have less long-lasting ones or change them often. And I would dare to say that Leo Venuses can experience the same.

🫂 I’m gonna say it once again, if you are Aries Moon you might work really well emotionally with the person that has the same Sun sign as you. For example: if you are Cancer Sun, Aries Moon you might click well with another Cancer Sun. If you are Taurus Sun, Aries Moon, you would choose Taurus Sun person. Basically you need someone that has the same personality traits, identity and ego as you, so another Sun sign like yours.

🫂 Those with Pisces Ceres really give A LOT in the early stages of a relationship they keep nurturing and nurturing their partner. You might even take pride in it. You guys really need to figure it out that you require, not actually NEED that same nurturing BACK. Don’t let it get one-side with you always nurturing, healing and helping others. Really learn that EARLY, otherwise you might attract more abusive types.

🫂 You might lose virginity to the person that has Vesta in the same sign as you. Or there will be a conjunction of the house or even you two share a very close degree.

🫂 The same goes for the sign your Vesta is in. If your Vesta is Cancer, you might lose your virginity with a Cancer Sun. Vesta, an asteroid, in astrology represents the “sacred fire” so those might also be people that hold a special value for you in one way or another. But Vesta was also considered “a sacred “wh**e”, the one that used sexual practices for healing, transformational and spiritual purposes.

🫂 With that being said if you have Sun or Rising aspects to Vesta, you might have a lot of firsts😂. Like you would be more prone to be someone’s “first time” person. People might often lose their virginity with you. 👀

🫂 With Ascendant Ceres aspects (especially square and opposition) you might very firmly believe that there is not such thing as unconditional love. You will have troubles feeling unconditional love and have even more difficulties expressing it.

🫂 Libra Sun men are quite something in a way that they might use instant gratification (read: sexual gratification) and focusing on giving you pleasure to feed their own ego. They only do it “for you”, because it makes them feel like they are the absolute best. It’s Sun combined with Venus here. Their ego lies in pleasurable, sexual activities. I would argue the same goes for Libra Mars men. 😅

🫂 Ceres conjunct Ascendant or Ceres in the 1st house women are look mother-like. Like with a lot of feminine curves.

🫂 With that being said, if you have both Ceres and LILITH aspecting Ascendant or 1st house, others will see you as a MILF/DILF if you decide to have children (which with Lilith in the 1st house is not always the case).

🫂 Venus Pluto aspects attract powerful people with lots of money, however you will learn to separate treasure from trash since this aspect on the other side can also mean this person can leave you penniless. You will need to navigate through that in life.

🫂 I find interesting that Beyonce has Venus Pluto conjunction in LIBRA, so it’s like we can’t even imagine her without Jay-Z too. Libra theme they represent a team.

🫂 I noticed one odd thing with Pluto in the 4th house. If you have this placement there is a small chance, that you attract a flirty partner that would hit on your sibling. Or they might have even tried to date your sibling before you.

🫂 If you’re a Cancer Sun, you father was really concerned with his own insecurities that he created yours in the process.

🫂 If you have Aries over your 5th house or Mars in the 5th house you aggressively pursue pleasure and entertainment. You really need to balance the fun with hard work too to make it work for you. Balance is really important for these placements.

🫂 If you have Mars in the 4th house, Aries IC you might believe family is EARNED. Also with this you don’t see your father often, but when you do it might always be a bit stressful or resulting in you being on edge. You might also work from home often.

🫂 If you have Pisces Mars you might have suffered from anemia at some point.

🫂 If you have Mars in the 7th house or Leo Mars you might often have the upper hand in your relationship or you are the one that “wears the pants”.

Credit goes to @astroismypassion

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multidimensionalguidance · 7 months

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🌟🩺 Chiron Observations #2 🩻🌟

Here’s a continuation to my previous post of Chiron in strong (conjunction, square, opposition) or soft (sextile and trines) aspects to planetary bodies.

🧠 Mercury 🧠: there is a pain that stems from your communication skills. During early life you might have been silenced and misunderstood. You were not allowed to express freely or felt like you were inadequate at it. There could literally be a difficulty or impediment in speech or thought process. A mental wound that only you understand. Since words were probably used as daggers to hurt you, there might be a tendency of you doing the same when triggered. Any time someone makes you feel inadequate, words will seek to cause the pain you’ve previously experienced. This might hurt you and your relationships a lot until you become aware of this tendency. There could also be wounds formed by siblings or painful interactions with them throughout your lives. This can make interactions with people younger or the same age as you feel like a tedious task. There could be a fear of not being mentally agile enough or as if you aren’t clever enough, which paradoxically could make you focus on it so much that you develop a very sharp mind. If you know several languages, there might be embarrassment associated with how you sound in one of them, and probably because it doesn’t allow you to express yourself as well as you know you could. You might feel like a brother or sister to those around you. You are not behind anyone on a mental level. Your mind is here to heal itself and allow others to do the same just by hearing you speak. Your power is in your voice, and once you’re comfortable with discussing topics related to mental health those that need healing or help will be very thankful for your insights. They will see you as someone who can guide them on a mental level to get rid of any blocks that might not be allowing them to be their best version.

💌 Venus 💌: relationships of all kinds, but specifically romantic ones create many wounds. You might have grown up feeling uncomfortable in your own feminine energy (regardless of gender), values, creativity, and mannerisms. As if nothing seems to be fit for you, and nothing felt right. Dealing with love and feminine relationships was very difficult for you growing up. You never felt fully loved by others nor felt girly or womanly enough when next to your feminine friends. You might have decided to reject these themes all together. Maybe even avoiding all Venusian things, as simple as not wearing the color pink or disliking anything that seemed hyper feminine. You are here to understand that feminine and masculine energy exists within all of us, and it is our gift to express them as freely as we want without feeling stuck or shackled by one or the other. Work on your Venus traits (including those associated to your sign) by trying out bright colors, enjoying self care nights, playing with your style, and indulging into everything that makes you feel empowered in your own feminine energy. As for relationships, this might be a bit more difficult to navigate until you are 25+ and your Venus matures. Love does not have to be a source of pain. Chasing or seeking for someone to love you will only bring more pain, for you are telling yourself that you do not inherently deserve love just by existing, and can only receive it once you seek it outwardly. The more you focus on empowering your Venus, the more relationships will heal. Romance is important, but the love you feel for yourself is far more relevant, and it will dictate the love you’re willing to accept from others. Once you integrate these lessons, being loved by you will heal others. Your love will feel unforgettable to others. They will seek to be close to you just to experience how strong your feminine energy has become, and sit down to wonder how they can learn from you. It will be like going from “I have no idea what makeup is..” to “Everyone keeps on asking me to do their makeup and style them all the time”. That’s Venus and Chirons gift to you on a very superficial level.

🧨 Mars 💥: the painful lessons come from understanding the weight and importance of your action and physical drive. You might be harsh when it comes to these aspects with others, and most likely because its a harshness you’ve experienced from others. Masculine energy in general is difficult to embody due to possible traumatic wounds that have been associated with it. Interacting with individuals who had a lot of it wounded you at some point in your life, either physically, mentally or spiritually. Perhaps in all ways previously mentioned. Learning to heal this energy within you will be a source of strong healing and power. Once you empower yourself in the ways that you use your drive, motivation, and more harsh aspects to achieve your goals, it will motivate and help others heal this within themselves. Life will keep on testing the way you channel this energy to aid you on your evolution, and awake the forces that will let you harbor your spiritual gifts. There might be a likelihood in getting burned and experiencing physical wounds. If you’re someone who embodies a lot of feminine energy, be extra careful when dealing with toxic masculinity. This is something to be mindful in all situations outside of astrology, but I’ve noticed a probability of it being a tad more dangerous for these natives. There is powerful physical healing that comes natural and can be developed, such as Reiki or anything that works towards aiding physical wounds, etc. Might even be really good Doctors if they ever choose to do so, or might be naturally attract or be attracted to being healers.

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Being in your feminine does not mean you can’t be rich.

I might be in my feminine but I still want to make more money than any man I know.

There are plenty men who make a lot more than them anyway.

The difference is I don’t care to compete or advertise or prove myself to other guys- where as when I was in my masculine. I absolutely did. But that was not the way. There’s no happiness in that either and me having been in both energies, can and will say that.

Being in your feminine not only makes you so much more confident- but makes life so much easier when you’re in a male dominated niche. And that’s really the absolute difference. Let’s look at femininity a different way, since there are a million views on the internet about what femininity is.

Being educated, elegant, soft, strategic, in control, and un-apologetically you. Being a presence when you walk into any room. Having boundaries, setting standards. Having everyone’s respect. Never action out of character. Doing what you love. Being unbothered. That’s so sexy.

You don’t have to be a career woman. You can also be a stay at home mom/wife. The difference is you are living your truth. The life YOU want to live that fulfills YOU. A lot of people, men and women, lie to themselves about what they want and how they feel. They ignore the negative feelings instead of addressing them. And those feelings make ALL the difference. They tell you that something is NOT right.

Femininity is being your best most aligned version of yourself. Being completely in tune with your body, emotions, thoughts. That’s it. Sounds easy but the truth is that a lot of women aren’t in their most natural state. Other women have the look down but don’t carry themselves this way cause they haven’t done the inner work.

Most women try to compete with men and have a chip on their shoulders to prove themselves. When the smart thing to do is to take the dynamic at face value and make smarter moves. You, as a woman, are not meant to struggle. In fact nothing in life should be forced, period. For anyone. We have to do plenty of hard things to voluntarily impose more unnecessary ones.

There’s a huge misconception that being feminine is weakness, or not being smart etc and that’s such a false narrative. I’ve never felt more powerful. Imagine if instead of arguing and complaining and fighting to get your way, all you need to do is bask in your feminine energy. Say very little. Never get out of character etc and get things done. This is the way.

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Claudia, Viren & The Very Real Parent-Child Dynamics of The Dragon Prince

Sometimes I wonder if I come across like I try to defend Claudia too much. That's not my intent at all. I just think she deserves more and better critique.

The Point I guess

Personally, I really connect with Claudia's brand of messy, unflattering and even pathetic rage and grief much more than the dignified and mature ways Callum and Ezran handle things (More on that later). Maybe this sounds unflattering but Claudia being also kind of an asshole really speaks to me. Like that's the kind of teenage girl I'm the most familiar with and we don't have enough media that has nuanced takes on this sort of troubled character. Exploring negative or even anti-social traits and impulses in fiction, especially in women, is kind of undervalued in my opinion. Those are part of humanity and therefore part of us and this impulse to completely reject them doesn't benefit anyone really.

Finally, some wholesome father-daughter relationship rep in media!

My way to view fantasy media is about how it can artistically portray something true to real life. That's why I'm the most invested in this kind of reading of the text. Fantasy media is often dismissed as mere escapism even by the fantasy fans themselves (*side eyes the dude bro Witcher fandom*) which ignores the emotional depths it can reach by approaching difficult subject matter more metaphorically.

Inject Viren & Claudia's Father-Daughter Dynamic Straight into My Veins

There is something viscerally real about Claudia and Viren's relationship. I've seen this kind of father-daughter dynamic play out in real life many times where the child gives and gives and gives yet the parent takes it all for granted until it's too late and the parent-child relationship is just a mangled corpse of its former self, way too damaged to ever be truly repaired.

Like if you've had a difficult relationship with your parents it can feel similar to how s4-5 Claudia struggles to keep Viren alive while Viren hesitates. The child is the one who tries to fix things in the relationship while the parent is in denial or completely oblivious. Viren doesn't really try to connect with Claudia further in s4-5. It almost seems like he's completely emotionally unprepared to have that conversation and oh boy if you know any boomer parents that's pretty damn realistic. He just sort of gives up and acts completely passive because he's so out of touch with his emotions.

There is also this aspect of your parent aging and then one day you realise that you, the child, are the one who has more power in the relationship. It's a universal experience. These are just some of the ways I can see Viren and Claudia's relationship in seasons 4 and 5 metaphorically portray real life parent-child dynamics. There is a lot of emotional truth to how TDP approaches these relationships even when the story itself is an over the top fantasy romp.

How much Viren relies on Claudia is revealed little by little: She got the unicorn horn for the spell that killed Avizandum, she got the dragon horn that helped them cross the lava to Xadia in s3. It's set up really subtly how there is almost this parentification of Claudia like she's the one who took her mother's place as the emotional center and caregiver of the family after Viren and Lissa divorced. It's a lot of pressure to put one a child to say the least. This extends to Soren and how he is treated as the scapegoat of the family when Claudia is the Golden Child. This sort of treatment of Claudia and Soren by Viren is probably the most common analysis of their family dynamic as far as I can tell.

You ever heard of the thing called "eldest daughter syndrome"?

Eventually Claudia's most admirable and positive traits get corrupted (insert here an analysis of the corruptive nature of the dark magic as a plot device). It's like this perversion of feminine nurturing instinct society values and enforces in girls. Claudia's love is not domesticated but something that's so all consuming it destroys everything in its way. In s 4 she insists Viren has to live. She does everything in her power to keep her family together even against the wishes of her loved ones; first it was healing Soren in and then it was bringing Viren back to life in s3. Claudia has fully internalised her role as the caregiver to the point of self-imposed victimhood.

All The Characters Have a Part to Play

Since TDP is meant for an all-age audience (And later for teens and up since they hiked up the age rating) all the younger characters Callum, Ezran, Rayla, Claudia and Soren collectively represent the kind of different and difficult feelings parental abandonment and neglect can cause. A real person most likely feels all of these emotions at some point of their life but in fiction they need to be spread out among different characters or the story wouldn't work as, well, a story.

"she was a mage girl committing warcrimes, he was an elf boy vibing in the woods, can I make it anymore obvious"

I'd gladly read some more critical takes on Claudia's character. There is something very interesting there about Claudia and Terry's relationship for example. Terry is clearly very enamored with Claudia whom he perceives as someone very vulnerable and in need of help. Terry isn't wrong exactly but it does get problematic when he goes to great lengths to protect Claudia to the detriment of his own wellbeing. While TDP itself doesn't draw attention to it there are also the racial and gendered elements, both implicit and explicit, because of Claudia's fantasy racism and because of Terry being a non-white trans boy character as well. Claudia is the most powerful dark mage in Xadia when Terry is just a normal guy. Given the context of the show there is a power imbalance there.

tHÖ END

Why I'm laying this all out is that I think the Internet would be a better place if people didn't try to constantly find an objective "right" way to view a piece of media but instead were somewhat transparent about what they personally got out of it. I think this Viravos meta is the most popular thing I've written so far and I tried to explain my approach in detail because I don't want people to go "look this person says Viravos is canon!". Jokes are fine of course but taking it too objectively ignores the fact that analysing subtext is valuable on its own.

Idk how to end this. Here, have this meme.

#help! I've gotten stuck in the hermeneutic circle and can't get out!#Viren & Claudia have the most interesting relationship in this show and it just keeps getting better and better #I think this is literally all that I've got to say about Claudia so far #the dragon prince meta #tdp meta #sarasade text

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benegesseritofficial · 3 months

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Pushing Daisies has immediately struck me as extraordinarily queer coded. Enjoy my rant.

This show came out in 2007 and yet Ned is an extremely gentle man in every aspect of his characterization. He was emotionally wounded as a child, a fact we linger on and explore at length. He drives people away but in an incredibly passive way. He isn't interested at all in the hot woman throwing herself at him. The only person he's interested in was his childhood best friend. The man is passive, sweet, and a romantic; not someone who would chase you but a prize to be won.

Chuck is literally named Chuck. Sure her name is Charlotte but when we first meet her she's in a dinosaur costume and her name is Chuck. No one's called her Chuck since Ned, and when he does again she only wants him to call her Chuck. Almost immediately everyone calls her Chuck. Also... Charolette Charles? Charolette is the feminine form of Charles. Gender fuckery is afoot from square one. And she's assertive. She has no trouble talking over Ned, or any other man for that matter. She cares deeply about feelings and emotions and her perceptions of right and wrong, and she will steamroll anyone who tries to contradict her. She kisses Ned first. She figures out how she can safely kiss Ned. They both wanted it but she's the one who starts problem solving. Now, her actress Anna Friel is slender, her hair is long, and she is dressed exclusively like a 1950s fashion model. She's 5'5", but dwarfed by Lee Pace's 6'5". But what if she wasn't? What if she was opposite a man who wasn't a fucking tree? What if these lines and actions were given to a woman who wasn't a size 2? What if Anna Friel wore jeans for even one scene while Chuck interrupts and problem solves and takes action? Well, the audience might start to notice that the character isn't very feminine at all. Chuck is all character and very little gender. She could really be played by anyone.

And finally, Olive. Dear, sweet, Olive, longing after a man who shuts down one half her advances and doesn't seem to notice the other half. Olive, who is bold and brash and catty and fun and (apparently, by the costuming department's choices) obsessed with '70s fashion. It's 2007. A gay writer cannot express his struggles longing after a straight man who will never care for him. Not in so many words. But he could write most of that character. He could just swap a few little details and pronouns. By the time a minuscule, high voiced actress is reading Olive's lines, the average straight viewer would never even guess. But there Olive is; a readymade gay icon, over the top and feminine and unapologetically attracted to men. Everything a more feminine gay man wishes he could be out in the open. Olive can tell gay men's stories when they couldn't use their own voices. Relatedly, once you see her and Chuck's aunts as drag queens, you just can't unsee it. When Olive first meets those two, they take her under their wing as a kindred spirit. In the course of telling a story, it's not a trope or action that makes much sense for straight women. Younger women don't seek out and value the advice of old women. Not on TV, not in the cultural wisdom of 2007 or today. Gay men on the other hand. Drag queens on the other hand. If you were in the culture, you understood to value your elders when they bestowed wisdom.

And none of that addressing the situation. Ned absolutely cannot touch the person he's in love with. He and Chuck kiss in (I think) the third episode. Chuck isn't a love interest, she is arguably his girlfriend for most of the series. And yet, a forced wall must remain between them. Chuck has to remain in disguise when they're in public. They are together, but still feel they have to restrain themselves. There is no clear future for their relationship, no matter how in love they are. Much like a gay couple might feel, years before widespread societal acceptance and legal recognition of their relationship. It isn't safe, and only a few close friends can know.

#pushing daisies #I want Ned to be trans #I don't think the text supports it I just want it #Chuck totally is trans though

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jasminedragonart · 8 months

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Thoughts about the impact jK Rowling has had on the female character:

I think it's fair to say that we have a long way to go in media and literature to achieve a steady basis of good female characters. That's not to say there's none, but the bad does outweigh the good. The thing is, it is getting better. These days when we look at media we can find a lot of well written female characters. Tina, Louise and Linda Belcher. Star Butterfly and Mabel Pines. Nadja of Antipaxos. These are just a few characters I thoroughly enjoy watching on screen and the reason for this is because they're relatable to me. I sometimes sing to myself like Linda, I've found myself writing fan fiction like Tina. I've had that moment like Louise where I stood there as a child and wondered why others around me don't like the things I do. I'm flawed like Mabel and I like cute things like Star.

All of these women above are women. They're feminine. They allow themselves to embrace everything that makes them who they are and yes there are struggles but they're not standing there telling me they're modernising what it means to be a woman. They're women and I like them.

Characters like these have been hard won. We've legitimately struggled to get them here and every year it's getting harder and harder to keep women like these on screen. The reason behind this, I kind of blame a lot on the impact Harry Potter had not just on media but what it means to be a woman.

Has anyone else heard the phrase 'Be a hermione in a world full of princesses?' Does anyone see how toxic this is? Does anyone else not see the problem JK has created by her series getting popular? A problem she hasn't and doesn't want to address because she doesn't realise the problems in her own books.

Hermione was a breakthrough character in children's media. By that, I mean that people finally saw the bookish girl as holding value in a narrative beyond what she had been before (maybe annoying. Maybe just a side character. Never a main character or love interest.- except no, that's wrong. we had lisa Simpson way before Hermione...

Lisa is more nuanced though. I enjoy Lisa because she's very self aware and does try and improve herself even if she's doomed to love in a sitcom she can't escape her role from.

Back to Hermione. Hermione was new to children at least. She showed kids there was value in reading and learning. But, in all honesty, how much is Hermione's popularity down to Emma Watson's portrayal of her and how much is it down to the character of Hermione.

Movie Hermione is very watered down. In fact she's given a lot of Ron's lines which makes her more impactful and Ron further into the shadow of the comedic best friend. Emma Watson is very pretty too. Even as a child she looked a lot like how a lot of prettier girls in my class looked. Her hair was the only thing that made her an outcast. But even then, this was the early 2,000s. Do you know how many kids my age came to school with Hermione's hair? They brushed those curls out until they were dead. No one knew about the curly girl method in primary. The point is, Hermione is different on screen than in the books. she's pretty, she's emotional, shes more nuanced than she is in the books and I applaud the movies for doing this to Hermione because it did make her more likeable.

That's the thing though. More likeable. In the books Hermione is not a likeable character to a lot of people. She would have been the know it all in class that reminded the teacher they had homework. Yes, she did some good things, she spoke up about the house elves, she saved Harry's life a few times but her character, in my opinion, got worse as the books went on. She remained very consistent. there wasn't a lot of change to her character. She didn't seem to grow because she didn't have to.

Worse. she was elevated.

I don't know if anyone else caught the horrific misogyny in these books but I did and it infuriates me.

JK makes a point of elevating Hermione. Hermione is always right. Hermione will always win. Hermione is the standard we should hold other females to, and I know for a fact it's because her popularity increased as the movies were brought out.

If we look at the other female characters in comparison to Hermione I honestly hate it. Mainly because Hermione is elevated to a point where she isnt feminine. If you show any femininity in those books you're villainised.

Don't believe me?

What colour does Umbridge wear? Pink. What is her favourite animal? A cat. She likes sweet things and lace. Shes everything we've come to know about women but she's twisted inside so we can't like these things. we turn against these things because Hermione doesn't wear pink. she wears blue like at the yule ball. she's almost masculine in her appearance so we don't associate her with natural beauty.

Lavender. Girly girl. Just wants a boyfriend because all girls at that age are boy crazy. She's a very supportive girl. Its turned to clinginess. Something hermione is not. In fact she keeps ron at such a distance I didn't even know they would end up together until the last book. the movies made it more obvious, they did their best with it. But the books didn't.

Cho Chang. Cries a lot. Emotional. Doesn't matter that she's grieving and was forced to give up the location due to a potion. No, she's villainised so Ginny can have a sudden romance with harry that again came out of nowhere.

Luna escapes this thankfully. Only because she's too weird for us to consider her having romantic notions. she doesn't have to be put down or twisted to make way for someone else.

Jk made a whole generation of girls hate anything girly. They turned away from pink. They would rather pick up a book than do their make up. Their interest in Hermione and rejecting femininity is the reason we have so many bad female heroines these days.

My question to jk is why? Why couldn't a girl like make up and reading? Why is it one or the other? Why must we reject the pleasures of being dainty and liking cute and fun things in order to be a good woman? Why couldn't we have a character like Louise? Louise is very much a tom boy. But you know what? Louise wears a dress and bunny ears, pink bunny ears, every day of her life because the writers of that show understood a female character. Louise loves smashing mirrors. She also loves Boo Boo. She doesn't like pixies but she still likes wearing a dress.

For years the girly girls of this world had to put up with characters like Hermione being paraded in front of them and told that they themselves were being bad women because they liked pink. Because they liked cats and boys. It wasn't right. And we really need to ask the question on why JK thought to put women down like this in her books when she herself is- apparently- such a protector on what it means to be a woman.

I spy some internal misogyny. I spy a lot of things and theres probably more i could say but it's late, I'm tired and my phone keeps smashing my words together so I need to stop typing.

This is just my opinion. You don't have to agree. This is just the experience I've had growing up in a world where these books shaped a lot of my childhood. I probably would have explored dresses and brighter colours faster if I wasn't told by a fictional character and the grip she had on me and my femininity that pink is bad. That being a girl is bad.

#hermione granger #harry potter

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lilliththeghost · 4 months

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The influx of young girls buying anti-aging products really does just feed into the idea that a woman's natural state is ugly. We're expected to shave the hair off our bodies, never look older than 25, dye our hair, put on makeup, get cosmetic surgery. The beauty industry's goal is to make money off our insecurity, and the younger they reel you in, the more they make and the more likely you are to believe you will need those products to just be allowed to exist.

You can exist in your natural state. In fact, doing so is a rebellion. It's telling the men around you that you are more than a rating on a scale from 1 to 10, you have an inherent value that is unaffected by what you put on your body. You are not made for their enjoyment or approval. You're not playing this game they invented to sell us on the lie that we need to alter ourselves to be accepted and loved.

Free yourself by existing as yourself unapologetically. You don't owe it to anyone to look young or beautiful or feminine. You certainly don't owe it to yourself.

#radical feminism #radblr #radfems please interact #terfblr #radfems do interact

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I’d like to request a Sodo fanfic where the reader gives him a tarot reading (also ur writing is amazing !! Keep up the good work ily!)

The sun is slowly starting to set when Sodo notices you sitting by his beloved fire pit. You’re shuffling cards, black and gold shining brightly in the fire’s glow. He watches you silently, his tail swaying behind him as you finally stop shuffling and pull the card from the top of the deck, brows raising as you studied the picture.

“You having fun?” he calls out, smiling when you jump.

“Man, you scared me,” you sigh, but you shoot him a smile. “I guess? Just decided to pull a card for tonight. Been having this like… weird feeling all day.”

“Weird feeling, huh?” He takes a seat next to you on the old log, looking at the card. The Empress. “Does this answer your question?”

“In a way…” You shrug, slipping it back into the deck. “It gives me an idea but… you know how it is. Life isn’t exactly set in stone. This card could say one thing, but then something else could happen and it could turn everything on its head.”

“Hm…” He stares down at the deck, eyes admiring the art on the back of the cards. “You mind pulling one for me?”

“You want a reading?”

“Sure. Just… pull somethin’ and we’ll see what we get.” He gives you a smile. He has a rough idea about how these readings work. “Already know what I want it to answer.”

“If you say so.” You start shuffling the cards again and he notices how you occasionally pause, only to start back up again.

“Why do you stop?” he finally asks when you do it again. “It’s like… you’re thinking?”

“Yeah, kinda.” You smile at him. “I normally shuffle until I feel like it’s the right, you know? I dunno. It’s kinda hard to explain.”

“No, I think I get it. Like you’re waiting to see which card is the one?”

“In a way, yeah.” You finally stop shuffling and his heart feels like it stops when you pull the card from the top of the deck. Two of Cups.

“Oh!” You give him a smile. “Well this is a good card. Do you have anyone in mind?”

“I… might…” He shuffles in his seat, trying to get comfortable as he faces you. “What’s the card mean?”

“Well, it’s like… you’re deepening a connection with someone,” you start. “This card represents the flow of love within, and the flow of love between two people. It’s like you’re creating something deeper with someone, normally on shared values, empathy and sometimes unconditional love.

“Really, this card focuses on you creating a new relationship with someone, whether it’s a lover, business partner or even a new friend. Basically you’re finding someone that you see “eye to eye” with.”

“Well, ain’t that something.” He smiles at you as his tail flicks behind him. A deeper connection? A new relationship? Sign him up.

He’s not sure if you knew, but he had been admiring you for the past few months, though he tried to be discreet about it. He couldn’t have every ghoul and sibling know about his love for you. With how no one commented on it, he was sure he was doing a good job at hiding it.

“What did your card mean?” he asks. “The Empress.”

“It basically means to connect to my more feminine side,” you tell him, a smile tugging at your lips. “Take time to grow, look at everything I have around me. Maybe even have an opportunity pop up.”

“That so?” He shuffles closer, just a little bit so his knee bumps yours. “Well, what opportunity are you hoping for?”

“It’s stupid.”

“It’s not if it’s something you want.”

“What connection are you hoping to deepen?”

He splutters a bit. “I asked you first!”

“Well… I’m not answering until you tell me!” you fire back. You’re both staring at each other, waiting anxiously for the other to answer, but neither of you do. He can smell it now. Underneath the scent of the fire and his own burning musk, he can smell your nervousness.

“How about we tell each other?” he suggests slowly. “On three.”

“You’re really gonna tell me?” you ask him, though there’s a smile on your face. “Or are you gonna just let me say whatever I’m gonna say and then laugh at me?”

“Well, you’ll have to find out on three!” he laughs. You look around, and he looks with you. No one else is around. You’re both alone.

“Yeah… yeah, alright. I’ll do it.” His heart races.

“One…”

“Two…”

“Three.” He doesn’t give you a chance to answer. He doesn’t even answer himself. He knew he would’ve made a fool out of himself had he tried to verbally tell you. So instead, he leans forward and presses his lips against yours, tensing when he hears that soft squeak of yours. But you don’t pull away. Instead, he feels you lean into him, tentative hands slowly finding their way past his horns and through his hair. He lets out a soft sigh as he cups your face with one hand, using the other to pull you closer to him. His tail wraps around your legs and he pushes his luck, running his forked tongue along the bottom of your mouth. His heart flutters when you open up for him.

And the taste of you… Lucifer, if this was a dream, he never wanted to wake up. He maps out your mouth, pushing against your tongue so you eventually fight back against him. Your scent is intoxicating, joy and relief making him dizzy because it’s the exact same thing he’s feeling right now.

Your arms eventually snake around his neck, pulling him closer. But it makes his mind run a mile a minute, his tail tapping wildly at the end. You finally pull back with a gasp, jumping away from him.

“You’re really hot!” you tell him, trying to uncurl his tail from his legs. “Are you okay? Did I upset you?”

“What? No!” Now he feels like an idiot. “I’m sorry. Fire ghouls heat up sometimes when there’s a lot going on.”

“I thought it was just when you were angry?”

“That’s commonly what it is, but sometimes it’s like… extreme excitement, too.”

You give him a smile. “You saying I made you extremely excited?”

“I guess I am.” He matches your smile. “About the whole… deepening connection thing… I may or may not want that to be with you.”

“Funny you should say that because I was kinda hoping I’d get the opportunity to spend more time with you.”

“That can be arranged if you really want it.” He brings his hand up, gently stroking your cheek. “Maybe we could do something together? Try going on a date?”

“And what kind of date do you have in mind?”

“Nothing too much. Maybe just go out so it’s just the two of us?” He pecks your lips. “And maybe some more kissing?”

“Hmm… I think I like the sound of that.”

#request #sodo #sodo ghoul #dewdrop ghoul #gn!reader #sodo x reader #ghost #ghost band

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androdetective · 8 months

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since someone already asked for au poli (THANK YOU), can i ask for ur thoughts on og poli? :o]

also as a bonus, any thoughts on the official playlists for the characters?

I think I'll start off with my thoughts on the official playlists for the characters as my thoughts are more shorter. I like them! You can tell the characters are older with their tastes lmaoo. Theyre still pretty good though. My personal favorites are Juan Carlos' and Juanín's as they're more my tastes lol. I feel like the playlists say something about the characters. Off the top of my head, Juanín's playlist is filled with sad love songs with themes of longing for something good. And his character just so happens to deal with shitty friendships. I feel like we can assume he values friendship a lot because he tolerates so much of his friends' bullshit and still sticks around and cares for them a lot. And ofc he wouldn't like that so I can assume he just wants better. At least, that's what I get from it. I just care about Juanín a lot 😭

As for og Poli, I have several thoughts. First off, he's very funny 💀 I love how mean he can be like you go girl. Policarpo is honestly, just a superficial person. He's fake and a snake and he has pride. He gets friends and family he knows for the top rankings. He'll take bribes for who'll be the top ranking. (as seen in that one season finale) He's one of the several mean, superficial, and insecure characters on the show (ie tulio, bodoque) He has gossip on everyone and is willing to reveal things to humiliate others or just for entertainment. He is willing to screw others over for whatever reasons. And of course, when you're in an already mean environment, you're gonna get mean. I feel like bc of all the puppets' insecurities and their proneness to being mean, it ends up making the others even meaner in a bad cycle. Policarpo cares about his image. A lot. He is very careful to keep a tidy image. When it got revealed that he was bald, this caused an international scandal (💀). And it genuinely hurt Policarpo a lot. He had to rely on his friends to reassure him (and even then they still initially laughed at him. Assholes 💀) He cares about not only his public image but even his image amongst his friends. None of his friends even knew he was bald (and tbf, I wouldn't tell them that either they fucking suck) The first time he presented feminine, everyone was surprised. While it seems like they know Policarpo, they also don't at all. And Poli probably does that on purpose. Maybe bc his friends are shit. Maybe bc he just doesn't trust anyone with personal information like that. He doesn't trust them to present femininely more often around them. He doesn't like to admit that he's dressing femininely whenever he dresses very femininely. Even when his friends already know. It's sad to think about honestly. He's one of the several characters with low confidence in being their genuine selves and would rather cover it up with a (near) perfect image, superficiality, and meanness. They try to be in control of their image as much as they can but that's just impossible. To get over this unhealthy way of coping, they'll have to realize it's alright to be imperfect. But in an environment where everyone laughs at each other for the smallest things + general mistreatment, that's near impossible.

Idk how to explain it but this series feels so latino bc of the way the characters cope like actual traumatized/mistreated latinos do. Idk man 💀

#31 minutos #policarpo avendaño

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